Improvement Yourself By Reading Articles http://www.self-improvement-article.com Self improvement effectiveness from useful articles. Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:07:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 en hourly 1 selfimprovementarticlehttp://feedburner.google.com Chasing Our Tails http://www.self-improvement-article.com/chasing-our-tails.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/chasing-our-tails.html#comments Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14739
Ever feel like you’re doing a whole lot of nothing in particular?

Very busy achieving not much at all?

Going around in circles (professionally, emotionally, socially, financially, physically)?

Make a decision, don’t follow through on it?
Lose weight, put it back on?
Save a bit of money, spend more?
Stand up for yourself, compromise yourself?
Two steps forward, three back?
Get motivated, get unmotivated?

One day you wake up, you’re five years older, doing the same dumb things, making the same mistakes, still got the same issues (and a few more), got $9.70 in the bank, you’re busier than ever and you’re still unfulfilled, directionless and frustrated.
Still chasing your tail.

Other than that… things are great.

They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.

That’s what many of us do.
We know it’s dumb.
But we do it anyway.

And while we intellectually understand the ‘if we want to be different, we need to do different’ concept, too many of us seem to be trapped in this perpetual cycle of frustration.

Tail chasing 101.

Yesterday morning I spoke with a bloke whose life is chaotic to say the least.
Chaotic and unfulfilling.

He works three jobs (two part-time), spends at least two hours a day travelling to and from those jobs, studies part time, has a girlfriend he hardly sees, is overweight, is perpetually starting and stopping weight-loss endeavours and fitness campaigns, constantly beats himself up because of his lack of will-power, doesn’t eat… then eats too much, is frustrated, has got no money in the bank despite his three jobs, is still paying off a debt for a failed business venture and generally…. is one miserable, frustrated puppy.

He’s got fifteen balls in the air… and he can’t even juggle!

As I was chatting with him I began to see how hard he was doing life.
He was driven to get ahead.
But not in a productive, clever, this-is-fun-and-rewarding-kind of way, more in a… ‘kill-yerself-by-the-time-yer-thirty-five’ … kind of way.
More in a… ‘go-like-crazy-until-you- fall-down-from-exhaustion’…. kind of way.

If you looked up the word disorganised, you’d see a picture of him.
He had no (smart) plan.
He had chaos.

It got me to thinking about the amazing ability we all have to chase our tails.

I have gone through moments in my personal journey and with the evolution of my business where I have felt like I was constantly chasing my tail; investing way too much time and energy, for way too little return on my investment.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

(1) We can’t do ten things (well) at the same time (we think we can, we can’t).
When we spread ourselves too thin (time, energy, resources) we tend to do ten things badly rather than a few things well. One of the biggest lessons I have learned in business is the importance of surrounding myself with great people who have the skills, abilities, time and knowledge that I don’t…. and then letting them do what I can’t.
If you don’t have the luxury of helpers (as I haven’t for most of my life) then it is crucial that you prioritise, do some things well and put other things on hold.
Don’t do ten things badly.

(2) It is crucial that we get space, clarity, perspective and distance from our daily grind. It’s impossible to be objective about it… when we’re in it. Sometimes when we’re away from our typical situation is when we’re in the best head-space and make the best (big picture) decisions. Ever noticed how much clarity and perspective you get about your life / career / relationships when you’re on holidays or away from your ‘normal’ situation.

(3) Be still.

And quiet.
Stop the rushing.
Stop the tail chasing.
For a moment… or several moments.
Step out of the chaos and the repetition, even for an hour.
Regularly.
Pray, read, meditate… explore the spiritual you.
Turn off the phone, the TV, the computer (you’ll be okay), the noise and listen.
Listen to that still, small voice.
Stop drowning out the real you with mayhem.
Stop stunting your own growth and development with unproductive, un-rewarding busy-ness.
Find a place where you can turn the switch to ‘off’ and just be.

When I am quiet and still is when I really hear from…. me.

(4) Use a mentor, friend, coach to help you gain perspective amongst the chaos.
And find someone who won’t tell you what you want to hear. Find someone like me who cares.. but is blunt, periodically offensive(!) and honest. Short term pain… for some long term gain. Too many people surround themselves with ‘fans’ who constantly tell them what they want they want to hear.
When you ask for feedback, don’t ask with your fingers in your ears.
In a staff meeting a few years ago I asked my staff how I needed to change to become a better boss.
They told me.
Mmm, there’s a reality check for you.

(5) An oldie but a goodie: work smarter not (necessarily) harder. Some of us have this dumb belief that we need to sweat, grind and suffer our way to the top. Some discomfort is necessary (as we’ve discussed) but hey, making it harder than it needs to be is just silly! For a long time I made my life harder than it needed to be because I didn’t make the best use of my time or skills.
I created additional, unnecessary work and hardship for myself.
Ask yourself these three questions:

a) Am I doing this (whatever this is) the most effective way?
b) What can I do right now to change my situation (or at least start the wheels turning)?
c) How does my attitude (beliefs, perspective) contribute to the cycle of frustration?

(6) As boring and obvious as this piece of advice is… many of us still don’t do it ( I hate sounding like a typical Personal Development type, so forgive me):

Set goals, have to-do lists, create plans, work to a schedule… be structured and organised.. so that your productivity is up and your frustration is down. Most people don’t goal set, plan or manage time effectively (if at all).
Don’t get up tomorrow and do what you did today… just because that’s what you’ve always done.

If you always do what you’ve always done… you’ll always get what you’ve always got!

If you have been a habitual tail-chaser, perhaps today (now even) might be the time to stop.

Craig Harper (B.Ex.Sci.) is an Australian motivational speaker, qualified exercise scientist, author, columnist, radio presenter, and owner of one of the largest personal training centres in the world.

He can be heard weekly on Australian Radio SEN 1116 and GOLD FM and appears on Australian television on Network Ten’s 9AM.

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/chasing-our-tails.html/feed Throw Your Stars Wisely http://www.self-improvement-article.com/throw-your-stars-wisely.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/throw-your-stars-wisely.html#comments Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14737 There is a story I would like to share with you because this story has been a great inspiration to me for a number of years. I urge you to remember that everything we do, everything we think, everything we say has an effect on both us and the world around us. Every little thing matters, no matter how small or insignificant we may think it to be. Every little thing matters, and those little things make all the difference in the world. Just as every single bite of a meal changes your body and feeds you, every little step we take in the world and every little act of goodness we do makes a difference. So here is the story.

Once upon a time there was a man who walked along the beach every morning because of how much the ocean and that sand inspired him and lifted his spirits. One day as he was walking along he noticed someone in the distance dancing by the shore. As he drew closer, he realized that the person wasn’t dancing at all, but instead was bending down and picking something up and throwing it into the ocean.

He drew closer and called out, “Good morning to you! What are you doing?”

The young man paused for a moment and replied, “Throwing starfish in the ocean. The sun is up, and the tide is going out, and if I don’t throw them in they’ll die.”

“But surely young man, you must realize that there is miles of beach here and literally thousands of starfish. You can’t hope to make a difference.”

The young man listened politely, then bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the ocean past the breaking waves. “I made a difference to that one,” he said.

It’s easy to get caught up in the thinking that this won’t matter or that won’t matter, or that some of the words we use won’t do any harm. It’s easy to not do something because we think it is to small or insignificant to make a difference. You may even find yourself asking “what’s the use,” to many different things. But we need to remember to find our stars, and throw them with everything we have inside of us, no matter how small or unimportant they may seem. Every little thing matters and makes all the difference in the world, and if we remember to throw our stars wisely and well, the world will be truly blessed by the lives that we live. So will all the people we touch along the journey.

Dwayne Gilbert is the founder of wealthylifesecrets.com wealthylifesecrets.com and has been helping people in the area of self-protection
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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/throw-your-stars-wisely.html/feed Want To Control Your Thoughts? http://www.self-improvement-article.com/want-to-control-your-thoughts.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/want-to-control-your-thoughts.html#comments Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14735 Do you think that your thoughts can rule you? If your answer is YES then you are in the right path. Thoughts play an important role in our life. Our thoughts can be so influencing that we can even heal ailments with just only thoughts. Most of us know this. Also we can make things happen in the way you want them with your thoughts. With your thoughts you can do both good and bad. You may wonder how, just keep reading further.

Thoughts are broadly classified as Positive and Negative thoughts. As the name conveys, positive thoughts are the ones that we will have to give more importance as they do more good than the negative thoughts. There is never a moment a person is not thinking. Most of the time, we are carried away by our thoughts. And most of our thoughts are influenced by people around us.

First of all we must watch our thoughts. Just observe them cautiously. Of course it is difficult the first time. But, you know practice makes a man perfect! You will be able to master this art in no time, if you practice it regularly. Now, after watching them, the next step is to identify them. You can easily find out if it is a Positive or a negative thought. A negative thought is not only those which are bad for us but also the thoughts which will affect others are considered to be negative thoughts. After categorising, our major step will be to control the negative and replace them with the positive thoughts. This is not as easy as we say.

We have to replace the negative thoughts with our positive ones immediately whenever we find them taking control. Longer intervals for this replacement will weaken the positive thoughts and hence the effect will be less. When a negative thought comes and controls? Its origin is from the external forces. Majority of them is from the place and the people. They influence our thoughts and thus affect us. But we need not worry for this because; our thoughts will get influenced only to the extent we allow them. So it’s very easy for us now. We must be strong and must not allow our thoughts to get influenced. For this we need to practice.

For example, if you have failed in any of your attempts to complete an activity and you thoughts are in such a way which makes you feel more depressed then they are negative thoughts. Say if you think ‘Oh I failed! I could not do it! How impotent I am’ all these will add on to your failure and will never allow you to try again and succeed. Instead if you start thinking ‘these are my new experience and learning that will help me in succeeding in the next attempt. I can do it!’ then you will be a winner always!

When we keep reinforcing positive thoughts over the negative ones, we will soon realise that our negative thoughts are gradually getting vanished and we are in control of our thoughts, in turn our emotions. This will surely lead to a happy and peaceful life.

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/want-to-control-your-thoughts.html/feed White Sun - The Silence of the Wise http://www.self-improvement-article.com/white-sun-the-silence-of-the-wise.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/white-sun-the-silence-of-the-wise.html#comments Wed, 10 Mar 2010 07:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14733 Although the truth cannot be seen, heard or touched, yet it is the origin of all things and it is beyond time, space and religion. The great ancients who lived in accordance to the truth were men of subtle wisdom and penetrating intelligence. They were so profound that others did not understand them and such people are the founders of the Five Great Religions like Lao Tze, Confucius, Sakyamuni Buddha, Jesus Christ and Prophet Mohammad.

Everything under Heaven has a beginning which can be said as the origin of things. If we know the origin, we can then say there is a mother of all under Heaven and everything is its offspring. By observing with a quiet and still mind, one can perceive the origin of things and in Tao, we say, “Tao is great, Heaven is great, Earth is great, Humanity is great and within the universe are all things and humans are one with the universe and God. There is going and there is coming. Everything returns to nothingness. Man is in harmony with Earth, Earth harmonises with Heaven, Heaven harmonises with Tao and Tao harmonises with what is natural.”

The truth is not something rare and strange. It is not like he can turn into a beauty today and turn into a devil-like creature tomorrow. Then all of a sudden he turns into a ninety-nine year old man. All these are not the truth because the truth is we grow and mature naturally through learning and studying. Don’t expect to become a great person overnight because we need wisdom and it takes time to absorb and get experience through learning. Collect our wisdom slowly then our virtuous nature will be the same as the Light Beings.

How can we save this despairing world? asked my Heavenly Master JiGong. Start with oneself. Then change the most beloved people, our own family members. Correct oneself well; enlighten and transform others. The statement said, “In order to govern the state well, it is necessary to regulate the family first. It is not possible for a man to discipline others when he is not able to discipline himself and his own family.”

It is advised, “As a member of the family, we must treat the other family members with a sincere heart. Sincerity is Tao. We must treat everybody this way. Sincerity between husband and wife; there must be mutual understanding for each other. Between father and son (parents and children), when it calls for strictness, the father should be strict. When it calls for loving-kindness, the father must advise the son with kindly words. Then only, people would not find themselves living in a battlefield and dwelling in hell. Hence, when it’s time to be strict, the father must guide the son with truth. He should give the son a true, correct and sensible way to follow. And in showing his loving-kindness, he must use the Principle of Oneness to untie the knot in the son’s heart, so that both hearts can link together.”

Live a peaceful life. When there is friction at home, it depends on what type of heart you would use to transform the friction into peace. Likewise if there is friction outside the home, the same applies. Everyone wants to live in peace and when everyone gathers in harmony, wisdom will be generated and the world will be at peace.

Author: T.A Chew

T.A Chew, prays leaders of the world will follow the teachings of the ancient Saints and Sages. The Silence of the Wise told us the Way and the Principle of Heaven and Earth. To save this despairing world, start with oneself. Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. Website: white-sun.com white-sun.com

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/white-sun-the-silence-of-the-wise.html/feed Empathy or Tough Love - Make the Right Choice http://www.self-improvement-article.com/empathy-or-tough-love-make-the-right-choice.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/empathy-or-tough-love-make-the-right-choice.html#comments Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14731 If you are too cold with someone when giving them constructive criticism then one might call you non-empathetic. But you most likely think this is hogwash because you believe in shooting straight and tough love. No sugar coating for you right? Well, great but there is only one problem with this and that is the politically correct crowd may target you for it.

With regards to empathy - My view is that empathy is a human trait and probably a darn good one for the species, as it helps bond families, tribes, societies and civilizations. And we all know and love that old Christian saying; “don’t give a man a fish, teach him how to fisheth.”

That indeed does seem appropriate, and thus empathy can be used correctly to give a helping hand or it can be used incorrectly and then it becomes a poison to the population. If empathy is done wrong, it makes people weak, weakness you see is not a human trait, if it were, we would not be here today.

Now mind you I am not a light weight when it comes to helping others, but when they start taking it for granted you really are not helping them anymore. Is this too hard core for you? Well, you can handle it, you are tough, winning many battles of your own I see and you did not get that way from handouts. See my point? So, perhaps it might be wise to use this empathy motif with a grain of salt and be careful not to make those around us weak.

L. Winslow is an Economic Advisor to the Online Think Tank, a Futurist and retired entreprenuer. Currently he is planning a bicycle ride across the US to raise money for charity and is sponsored by Calling-Plans.com Calling-Plans.com and all the proceeds will go to various charities who sign up.

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/empathy-or-tough-love-make-the-right-choice.html/feed Finding Joy In The Pursuit Of Success http://www.self-improvement-article.com/finding-joy-in-the-pursuit-of-success.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/finding-joy-in-the-pursuit-of-success.html#comments Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14729 The ability to set goals and make plans for their accomplishment is, in reality, the “master skill” of success. It is the single most important skill that you can learn and perfect. Goal setting will do more to help you achieve the things you want in life than anything else you can ever learn to do.

If you want to have a successful and fulfilling life you will have to set and pursue goals for the rest of your life. As you learn to set and achieve goals you’ll find that that the pleasure you experience when you achieve a goal, no matter how great, only lasts a short while: a week, maybe a month. The rest of the time, the great bulk of your lifetime, will be spent in pursuit of more goals.

When you set a goal and make a plan to achieve it, you will be happy as long as you don’t feel that you need to achieve it. When you feel you have to achieve your goal, the pursuit loses its joy. It becomes a teeth-gritting, stress-inducing, and frustration-producing endeavor. This is why the pursuit of any goal must be enjoyable if you are going to have any chance of achieving it.

Random goals are hard to achieve, because they don’t create a desire inside you to really have them. To achieve a goal it must mean something to you. It must be something you really want with your whole heart and sole.

When you set a goal you should always ask yourself why you want to achieve it. How will achieving this goal improve your life? Will it bring you more wealth? Will it bring you more happiness or better health? There has to be a reason why you want to achieve the goal you’re setting. Earl Nightingale called it a “worthy ideal.”

This is one of the main reasons why people who have learned to set goals at a young age achieve so much more in life than most people. Parents who teach their children how to set goals on a regular basis are giving them one of the most important future success tools possible.

When parents reward their children for achieving a goal such as a higher grade in school or for some other achievement they making the pursuit of goals fun and their children want to set goals for more and more things. Goal setting then becomes a habit that a child continues to do into and through his or her entire adult life.

If you randomly set a goal you need to revise the status of your goal. Change it from a need to desire. It’s a simple decision. When you feel pressured and unhappy about working toward your goal, the feeling is your warning light reminding you that a goal is a preference. Remember, the starting point of all achievement is not need, it is desire.

If reminding yourself of this fact doesn’t change how you feel, consider giving up on your goal because chances are you will never achieve it. Most likely you will discover that you don’t want to give up, because the act of thinking about it will help put your goal in perspective.

The goals you set are your own. It’s your life. You don’t have to set them, and you don’t have to achieve them. As long as you are aware of this fact, the process of setting goals will be enjoyable, and it will make it much easier to maintain a positive attitude. When you forget it and start thinking you need to accomplish your goal, you loose the pleasure of the pursuit. Without pleasure what’s the point of setting goals at all.

You may be thinking: “The point of my goal is not pleasure. I’m trying to send my child to college,” or “I’ve got to pay my mortgage.” If you are thinking this way, you may be in the trap right and not know it. You don’t have to do any of these things.

When you recognize that these are games you have set up for yourself, your mental and physical health will improve, your personality will be more pleasing and your mind will calmer. All of these things will help you think more accurately.

Most important, recognizing that your goals are desires and not needs will make success more likely for you. There is also an added bonus: it will make the pursuit more fun.

Copyright©2006 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.

Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many businesses around the world, on the subjects of leadership, achievement, goals, strategic business planning, and marketing. Joe is the author of three books, Starting Your Own Business, Finding Your Purpose In Life, and The Guerrilla Marketing Workbook.

Reach Joe at: mailto:joe@jlmandassociates.com joe@jlmandassociates.com

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/finding-joy-in-the-pursuit-of-success.html/feed Island of Dreams http://www.self-improvement-article.com/island-of-dreams.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/island-of-dreams.html#comments Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14727 I’m going to give you a trivial example to illustrate something huge.

Apply this tip and you’ll step into a transformation.

I’m promising you this because it happened to me.

For years now, I’ve had, as my desktop, a picture of a white colonial mansion set in a verdant green garden.

This symbolized prosperity for me. Tradition, security, and spacious and gracious living.

One day, however, I got impatient with it, sifted through what other images I had on my hard-drive and discovered a breathtaking island scene…sparkling waters, a painted swatch of cerulean blue sprinkled with sapphire, a golden, sun-drenched island with languid palm trees rustling in the wind, and a massive white sailing ship cutting through the water, heading straight for the island.

Now whenever I sit in front of my computer, I feel the pull of my dreams even stronger—a life of beauty and elegance, achievement, contribution, and even joy.

This is the trivial example…but, there is a powerful metaphor behind it.

You are the pictures in your mind.

Let that sink in for a moment.

Everything that you see, feel, experience, and acknowledge around you is due to a singular fact: it is an out-picturing of your inner vision.

If you’re surrounded by beauty, truth, and goodness, magnanimous friends, a loyal and devoted family, a business that lays golden eggs every morning so that you can enjoy the best breakfast possible—then my advice to you is to stop tuning in…you have much better things to do with your time.

If, however, everything is distressingly short of your ideal, then you may want to listen in.

Your thoughts, moment by moment, create your reality. They force you to make this choice over that one. You see only through the filter of your mental pictures. Opportunity or the lack of it only appears before you based on how your internal map of reality is set. You navigate your whole life based on your conditioned experiences.

Now if it’s not what you want—you need to change the picture, redraw the map, reconfigure your internal boundaries, and polish up the tarnished silver of your dreams

Instead of focusing on what is before you, you have to focus in on what resonates with your heart. It’s the belief in the evidence of things not seen that will shift your reality.

Seeking counsel is a fine thing, doing the best you can is a noble one, but the sage that you seek and the path that is your own can only be found within.

If you don’t make this move, you’ll continue living out your life unconsciously, accepting what is and going with it. While this is the fate of the bulk of humanity, the depression inherited by centuries of helplessness, is it really the best way for you?

You have a vast internal power, my friend.

Imagine what would happen if you used it?

You turn on the power by changing the pictures in your head. You have to run a different internal movie.

Little by little, things will change for you. Instead of living as a drone, part of the conditioned masses, you’ll become a visionary. Instead of accepting limitation, you’ll start embracing possibility. And instead of being like everyone else, you’ll become the person that you really believe yourself to be inside, the one who wakes up in the morning with a smile and a heart overflowing with joy.

Your stodgy white colonial mansion may make you feel safe, but you’ll be missing out on the thrill of riding an 18 meter Catamaran straight to the island of your dreams, where the sun is always warm and inviting, the sand beneath your feet is soft and yielding, and the song of the ocean is a lullaby that caresses every cell of your body with an echoing peace.

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/island-of-dreams.html/feed Respect http://www.self-improvement-article.com/respect.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/respect.html#comments Tue, 09 Mar 2010 07:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14725 Recently I attended a memorial service for an elderly man for whom I was caregiver. In the six months I was his caregiver, I grew to love him and care about him very much. His death was very hard for me, and I was pleased that, despite his wishes of being laid to rest in another state, we had a service for him in our town as well.

Everything was beautiful that night. There were beautiful flowers, singers, two preachers, an excellent message by one preacher on forgiveness and second chances; it was perfect… except for one thing. Rather, three things, in the form of immature women.

My children, ages ten and eleven, attended with me. I gave them the choice to stay home or accompany me, and they chose to accompany me. They even allowed me to choose their clothes, and my son wore a shirt he would never wear otherwise. During the entire service, they behaved perfectly. They never fidgeted, whispered, or even made their presence known. My children acted more like adults than these 40 and 50 something women.

This gentleman’s ex-wife and son sat in the first pew, my mom and my kids in the third, and in the second were four of my moms friends- directly in front of me. I get along with them all and they are very funny women. I have a good time when I’m around them. However, there is a time and a place for everything, and that night was not the time nor the place for laughter- at least not during the service.

I am a big believer in respect to all living beings and all property. I believe every human is entitled to respect from birth until their choices and actions warrant otherwise. I also believe death should be respected to the utmost- no matter how the person lived. That night, respect was left at the door.

For the first twenty minutes, three of the women hit each other, joked, albeit softly and played around, much like very young children during a Church service. Directly in front of them, the ex-wife is upset and crying. Directly behind them, I am upset and crying. Finally after twenty minutes, I was at my boiling point and, after catching the eye of the first one who happened to turn around, asked her was this fun for them. I had to ask her three times before she heard me, so low was my voice. She said no, and from then on, didn’t acknowledge me, nor did she joke with the other women. I felt like if they didn’t want to be there, they never should have showed up. We would have understood that they’d rather be elsewhere.

As soon as the service was over, my children and I left. In keeping with my demand for respect for such situations, it was best I left immediately and deal with it all later, and when we were away from the Church.

I think it’s fine in such a situation to laugh and joke and have a good time, but do so before and/or after the service, unless a service specifically dictates otherwise. It’s great to remember the good times as it helps with our grieving process, but there is a time and place for everything.

We have little regard or respect anymore in this world for any form of life and I believe it’s a bad sign of even worse times to come. If we cannot exercise self control and have respect for a life passed for less than an hour during a memorial service, what does that say about us as a people in general?

A little goes a long way, and that night, their few minutes of disrespect for this gentleman went a long way in the wrong direction.

On the other hand, a little bit of respect goes a long way in determining one’s character. If we all would exercise a little respect every day for all living beings, might not the world begin to become a better place for all?

LifeWriter is an author on Writing.Com/ Writing.Com/
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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/respect.html/feed Success Belongs To You http://www.self-improvement-article.com/success-belongs-to-you.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/success-belongs-to-you.html#comments Tue, 09 Mar 2010 01:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14723 You’ve cheated yourself out of a successful lifestyle for years by saying all manner of things block you. And all along you were doing all the blocking. Today is your day for a turnaround as you give yourself permission to make a success of your life.

Motivate yourself to get a hold of this truth now by being open minded and open hearted. As you read on you will learn the secret of how others have begun to turn their lives around. They went from a life of lack and limitation to one of abundance. You can turn your back on lack forever.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Be a Success

Just start to be the successful person you want to be. Listen to CD’s and DVD’s of those whose lifestyle you want to enjoy. Be like them in your feelings. Be like them in your thoughts. Be like them in conversation. Mirror all that they are.

Read their books to get the details of their lifetyle and become like them in every detail. Keep a tight rein on your thoughts to make sure you’re thinking like them.

2. Give Yourself Permission to Do The Things The Successful Do

Begin in small ways to give yourself permission to do the things they do. Go visit the places they go.

Associate with the people they associate with. Use all the available information about them on the TV to hang out in their areas. Bathe yourself in their habits as displayed in videos. As you watch them remember the story of the well know motivational speaker who began with only one video of his role
model.

He lived miles away from him but he had the video. He watched it and watched it. After watching it more than 120 times his audiences said they couldn’t tell the difference between him and his mentor. He sounded the same. He acted the same.

He got the lifestyle of his mentor.

3. Give Yourself Permission to Have Things The Successful Have

As you enter the lifestyle of abundance of your mentor - having first decided that you will do everything legal and ethical needed to get the lifestyle - allow yourself to enjoy your new assets. Don’t be greedy and remember that it is more blessed to give than to receive.

Especially make sure you give back to God the first ten percent of all you earn. In this way you acknowledge that He has given you all you’ve got.

Expect to share what you have with others. Give and you will be given even greater levels of success.

Reach down and help others to discover the truth that they too can give themselves permission to have a successful lifestyle.

As you work your new found success plan, keep at Giving Yourself Permission to Be a Success, Giving Yourself Permission to Do The Things The Successful Do, and Giving Yourself Permission to Have Things The Successful Have. Rejoice that your day for a turn-around has arrived as you give yourself
permission to make a success of your life and continue to give success away to others.

Kenneth Little is a writer, teacher, public speaker and the publisher of a re-released classic - in a revealing ebook- that will show you how to get the best of health and wealth out of all your future years.

True success will be yours no matter what your age.
Amazing “How I Became Young at Sixty” brings renewed strength to your body, hope to your mind and increased prosperity to your lifestyle.==>

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]]> http://www.self-improvement-article.com/success-belongs-to-you.html/feed Save Time Using These Ten Tips http://www.self-improvement-article.com/save-time-using-these-ten-tips.html http://www.self-improvement-article.com/save-time-using-these-ten-tips.html#comments Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:07:30 +0000 Jack Wellte http://localhost/wpready/?p=14721 Trying to saving time seems to be a national pastime. For whatever reasons, we let time slip through our fingers, and it seems that we can all use a little more time, “Can’t there be more then 24 hours in a day” we groan. With so many things scheduled each day, how do I create more time? Ok, we can’t create more time, 24 hours is 24 hours. The best way to “create time” is to save time doing mundane things. This way you could have more time for the important things in life.

I surveyed some of the busiest people I know; I knew that they would come up with a host of ways to save time. They didn’t disappoint me; I received many different and inventive ways to save time! The following list is a compilation of what they came up with as 10 ways to save time! Starting at number ten and working down to the top time saver.

10. Whenever possible run your car through the car wash when you fill it, & keep a small accessible trash bag in your car for any trash you may collect during a drive.

9. Whenever possible find a doctor, dentist, hairdresser, chiropractor, etc, within walking distance of your work, that way you can make appointments during your lunch break or directly before or after work and not spend the extra time driving.

8. Lay out your clothing and/or the kids clothes ahead of time for the day/week.

7. Hire someone to do the ugly elbow grease house cleaning as often as you need/can afford.

6. Prepare food (like roasting a chicken, preparing a casserole, etc) on Sunday, when it’s not so hectic for the upcoming week. Now when you get home you can just heat it up and dinner is ready! In addition, when putting food away after dinner, make up a container for your lunch. Then in the morning, all you have to do is grab it and go.

5. Go to: https://www.donotcall.gov/default.aspx to opt out of telemarketing calls.

4. When you receive an email and you know that there is something that you need to do with that e-mail, do it right then and there, don’t open, read, close, and plan to go back to it when you have time. If you know you will not have time for that email do not open it until you do have time.

3.Put your finances online, set up auto bill pay, either with your bank online or direct debit with the company. This may take you a little bit of time at first to set it up, but you will save time in the long run and have the peace of mind knowing that your bills are being paid on time.

2.When you are doing errands make sure to list all items that you know need to get done during the day, try to combine things when you can. In addition, make sure that you make a driving circle when writing up your list, beginning of the circle is the start of your house, the end of the circle is returning to your house.

And the number one timesaver is:

USE A CALENDAR!

By having a “daytimer”, a calendar of some sort, when you are asked to be somewhere, volunteer, an appointment or even a social gathering, you can check your calendar to ensure you are not over booked. In addition, you can always use the calendar to decline a request, as you may something “previously” scheduled.

“All our dreams can come true - if we have the courage to pursue them.”
Walt Disney

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Susan Feder is a certified Life Coach, who specializes in business and success coaching. She is the owner of AMN (Achieve More Now) Enterprises. She currently is offering individual and group coaching, Mastermind Groups and personalized workshops and retreats.

For assistance in the start up or expansion of a small business go to amnenterprises.com amnenterprises.com She is also to creator of “This Months Challenge”, check out the blog at this-months-challenge.blogspot.com/ this-months-challenge.blogspot.com/

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