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2020-11-06T10:28:00.001+05:30

Who is Listening?

2020-07-03T13:25:00.001+05:30

Who is Listening?

Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany.

His little book, "Man’s Search for Meaning", is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.

Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide.

Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living.

Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.

When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?

"None of them", she told him.

"What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?

Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s 'willingness to listen' to her in the middle of the night.

A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another's pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.

Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference.

Sometimes the small act of 'listening' is the greatest gift we can give

Baat karne se Baat Banti Hai.. Talking it out Helps..!

Let go your Ego, Anger & Pride

2018-08-01T12:06:00.001+05:30

Croatia came to this World Cup with only two natural strikers. Mario Mandzukic, the guy who scored the winner goal in the match against England.

The other was Nikola Kalinic. He was on the bench for Croatia's first game against Nigeria. With five minutes to end that game, the coach instructed him to dress up and replace another player.

Kalinic angrily refused to play, in protest of being left on the bench.

He saw himself a top player, and wouldn't come on for just five minutes. The coach turned to another player Pjaca for the substitution.

After the match, Kalinic refused to apologize, despite appeals from other coaching staff.

The coach then sacked him from the team, and sent him home from Russia. Kalinic flew for holidays, and even posted pictures of himself enjoying elsewhere.

After all, he seemed to imagine, Croatia won't go anywhere in the tournament. But without him, the team managed to win their matches.

Croatia has achieved their greatest football achievement in history, reaching the World Cup final.

The remaining 22 players are national heroes. Their names would forever be inscribed in the hearts of generations.

Kalinic should have been part of this glory but is now a butt of ridicule all because of minutes of anger, minutes of pride and bloated ego.

He may have regretted now. He may have realized his tomfoolery. But it is too late. These stories about life are quite familiar to us, but do we really learn lessons from them? Are they profoundly applied to all spheres of life?

Learn to CUT PRIDE. Learn to control anger and DEFLATE EGO and ultimately, learn to say SORRY.

Years of SWEAT and DEDICATION can all be shattered by moments of ANGER and PRIDE.

DON'T BE A KALINIC !!!

The Triple Filter Test

2017-09-13T10:56:00.000+05:30

One day a known person approached Buddha and enthusiastically started saying, “Do you know, just a while ago, I heard few things from your friend about you?”

Buddha said to his known person, “Before I listen to what you have to say, I would like to test it through my three step testing.”

“What is this three step test?” the person asked.
Buddha made him understand, “Before you tell me about what my friend has said, let us test it. I call this testing – a three step test. The first test is of truthfulness. Is it sure that whatever you are going to say is a truth?”
“No”, the person dais, “I have heard it from somewhere.”

“Okay”, Chankaya analyzed. “If you don’t know whether this is truth or not, we will do another test. The second test is for goodness. Are you going to tell me some good thing about my friend?”
“No, it’s opposite to it…..”

“Then”, Buddha asked further. “Whatever you are going to say, is not the truth, is not positive about my friend then lets do the third test. The third test is of usefulness. Whatever you are going to tell me, is that useful to me?”
“No, it’s not like that.”

Buddha then said the last thing.
“Whatever you are suppose to tell me, it is not true, its not positive and its not useful also, then why you want to tell me?”

Morale:
Any information must be checked on these three dimensions of -Truthfulness, Goodness and Usefulness.

The Wise Teacher - Potatoes Experiment

2017-09-13T10:49:00.002+05:30

A School teacher asked her students to bring some potatoes in a plastic bag to school.

Each potato will be given a name of the person whom that child hates. Like this the number of potatoes will be equal to the number of persons they hate.

On a decided day the children brought their potatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had even five potatoes.

The teacher said they have to carry these potatoes with them everywhere they go for a week.

As the days passed the children started to complain about the spoiled smell that started coming from these potatoes. Also some students who had many potatoes complained that it was very heavy to carry them all around. The children got rid of this assignment after a week when it got over.

The teacher asked, “How did you felt in this one week?”

The children discussed their problems about the smell and weight.

Then the teacher said, “This situation is very similar to what you carry in your heart when you don’t like some people.

This hatred makes your heart unhealthy and you carry that hatred in your heart everywhere you go.

If you can not bear the smell of spoiled potatoes for a week, imagine the impact of this hatred that you carry through out your life, on your heart?”

Morale:

Forgive and Forget, Let Go the Ego

Proactive Positive Parenting Tips

2016-05-28T10:33:00.001+05:30

Don’t find fault in children, instead catch them doing the right things.
Don’t hesitate to appreciate when they do good.
No one knows what a child can become in the Future.
Keep encouraging the child.
Edison was considered dumb and thrown out of school.
Louis Pastor was an average student in school.
Einstein was considered an idiot in school.
Talk to children daily about their goodness.
Don’t compare a child with another.
Talk about successful people to them.
Instead of telling the how not to be tell them about how to be.
Don’t curb them in the house, let them explore.
Give them good examples and independence.
If you talk to them about a bed of flower they’ll understand the path of thorns.
Tell them about hard work. They will get to know about laziness.
When you tell them about successful people they will understand the reasons for failure

Study: Receiving a Compliment has Same Positive Effect as Receiving Cash

2016-05-28T09:44:00.000+05:30

Compliments may not pay the rent, but according to new research, they help improve performance in a similar way to receiving a cash reward.

Researchers recruited 48 adults for the study who were asked to learn and perform a specific finger pattern (pushing keys on a keyboard in a particular sequence as fast as possible in 30 seconds). Once participants had learned the finger exercise, they were separated into three groups.

One group included an evaluator who would compliment participants individually; another group involved individuals who would watch another participant receive a compliment; and the third group involved individuals who evaluated their own performance on a graph.

When the participants were asked to repeat the finger exercise the next day, the group of participants who received direct compliments from an evaluator performed significantly better than participants from the other groups. The result indicates that receiving a compliment after exercising stimulated the individuals to perform better even a full day afterward.

According to Professor Norihiro Sadato, the study lead and professor at the National Institute for Physiological Sciences in Japan, ”To the brain, receiving a compliment is as much a social reward as being rewarded money. We’ve been able to find scientific proof that a person performs better when they receive a social reward after completing an exercise. Complimenting someone could become an easy and effective strategy to use in the classroom and during rehabilitation.”

The researchers had previously discovered that the same area of the brain affected in this study, the striatum, is activated when a person is rewarded a compliment or cash.

Why might this happen? Odd as it may sound, the answer is probably closely related to the function of sleep. Researchers theorize that complimenting someone’s efforts acts as a catalyst for better “skill consolidation” during sleep. To account for the sleep variable, researchers in this study kept close tabs on the duration and quality of sleep of the participants. From this and previous studies, it seems as though praise provides the right memory boost for the brain to more efficiently consolidate learning while we’re snoozing. Receiving a cash incentive appears to trigger the same effect.

The practical takeaway: if you’re in a position of authority (manager, teacher, etc), be sure to use compliments (and/or spot bonuses) as a means to encourage learning new skills. You may find that your underlings come back the next day with surprising improvements.

The Biology of Belief

2016-05-27T10:45:00.000+05:30

How our beliefs transform our genes and lives..!

You might remember an interesting scene from the movie, TAARE ZAMEEN PAR. The art teacher (Aamir Khan) tells the rude and cursing father of the dyslexic kid (Darsheel) about Solomon Islands. In those islands, the tribal don’t cut down a tree. They surround the tree and curse it for hours every day. Within a few weeks, the tree dries up and becomes dead.

Many of us might find that example too difficult to believe. How can intangible and invisible thoughts and words kill a tree! Well, if you get to read Bruce H. Lipton’s THE BIOLOGY OF BELIEF, you won’t only believe in the Solomon Islands story, but would also think a dozen times before saying something demoralizing to yourself and the people you love.

In this book, Mr. Lipton tells in detail about the power of conscious and subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is millions of times more powerful than the conscious mind, and decides most of the things in our lives according to the beliefs it has. Many times we fail to change an unpleasant habit despite our will-power and consistent efforts. It’s because the habit has been so strongly programmed in our subconscious mind that the efforts made by our conscious mind hardly make any effect.

Take the example of your laptop. Suppose it’s playing the songs you don’t want to hear. If you ask and kick the laptop to play your desired songs, it would hardly be able to do so. You will have to work on its music software and change the song from there to get the result. In the same way, if you want to change your life in a far more effective way, you will have to get rid of the negative beliefs installed in our subconscious mind and reprogram it by installing new beliefs.

These beliefs are so strong that they affect our cells and transform our genes as well. Mr. Lipton has devoted a full chapter on how it happens, and if you don’t have time to read the book, you can watch a YouTube video which explains it pretty well.

So, when the tribals of Solomon Islands curse a tree, they are actually installing negative and harmful beliefs in the tree’s mind (yes, trees do have minds too). Within a few days, those negative beliefs change the molecular architecture of the tree and kill it from inside.

2500 years ago, when the Buddha said that ‘you are what you think’, he was not articulating a random philosophical theory. Actually he was telling a scientific fact which is now proved correct by Quantum Physics and Molecular Biology. This is the part of mind where all our beliefs and experiences are stored; and they dictate our life from there.

The book has a special chapter on Conscious Parenting where it talks about the beneficial and harmful effects of what parents say to their children. If you are a parent and you keep cursing your child in the name of constructive criticism, you are installing beliefs in his mind which will keep harming him forever. But if you keep appreciating him in a sincere way, you are installing beliefs in his mind which will help him for his entire life.

And be careful of what you keep saying to yourself. Repetition of words and thoughts is the best way to install a belief in your subconscious mind. If you keep saying you are a loser, don’t be surprised if you become one within a few months or years. And if you have friends who keep saying such things to you, there is no harm in saying a quick goodbye to them. Maybe you value the friendship a lot. But you must value yourself a little more.

To sum up this small write-up on beliefs, I would like to share what Charlie Chaplin said to his grandson, "Even when I was in orphanage, when I was roaming the streets trying to find enough to eat to keep alive, even then I thought of myself as the greatest actor in the world. I had to feel that exuberance that comes from utter confidence in yourself. Without that you go down to defeat".

Amazing story of Marvan Attapattu Srilankan Cricketer

2016-05-27T10:00:00.000+05:30

It’s a story that Harsha Bhogle, India’s most loved cricket commentator,loves to tell, over and over again.

Making his debut in Test cricket for Sri Lanka, Marvan scored a duck in his first innings. And again, in his second innings.

They dropped him. So he went back to the nets for more practice. More first-class cricket. More runs. Waiting for that elusive call.

And after twenty-one months, he got a second chance. This time, he tried harder. His scores: 0 in the first innings, 1 in the second Dropped again, he went back to the grind. And scored tonnes of runs in first-class cricket. Runs that seemed inadequate to erase the painful memories of the Test failures.

Well, seventeen months later, opportunity knocked yet again. Marvan got to bat in both innings of the Test. His scores: 0 and 0. Phew!

Back to the grind. Would the selectors ever give him another chance? They said he lacked big-match temperament.

His technique wasn’t good enough at the highest level. Undaunted, Marvan kept trying.

Three years later, he got another chance. This time, he made runs. He came good. And in an illustrious career thereafter, Marvan went on to score over 5000 runs for Sri Lanka. That included sixteen centuries and six double hundreds. And he went on to captain his country. All this despite taking over six years to score his second run in Test cricket. Wow! What a guy!

How many of us can handle failure as well as he did? Six years of trying, and failing. He must have been tempted to pursue another career. Change his sport perhaps. Play county cricket. Or, oh well, just give up. But he didn’t. And that made the difference.

The next time you are staring at possible failure or rejection, think of Marvan.

And remember this: If you don’t give up, if you believe in yourself, if you stay the course, the run will eventually come. What more you could even become captain some day.

One more thing, Marvan is a qualified Srilankan Chartered Accountant.Smiling face with smiling eyes

Story of Carpenter and Cobra Snake

2016-05-25T18:52:00.002+05:30

As the carpenter went home after shutting down his workshop, a black poisonous cobra entered his workshop.

The cobra was hungry & hoped to find its supper lurking somewhere within. It slithered from one end to another & finally bumped into an axe & got very slightly injured.

In anger & revenge, the snake bit the axe with full force. What could a bite do to a metallic axe? Instead the cobra 's mouth started bleeding.

Out of fury & arrogance, the cobra tried it's best to strangle & kill the object that was causing it pain by wrapping itself around the axe.

The next day when the carpenter opened the workshop, he found a dead cobra wrapped around the axe blades. The cobra didn't die because of someone else's fault but faced these consequences merely because of it's own anger & wrath.

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- Sometimes when angry, we try to cause harm to others but as the time passes by, we realise that we have caused more harm to ourselves.

- For a happy life, it's best we should ignore & overlook things, people, incidents, affairs & matters.

It is not necessary that we show a reaction to everything. Step back & ask urself if the matter is really worth responding to .

People that show no inclination to change, are best handled with silence & prayers.

Business: 10 Simple Steps to Conflict Resolutions

2016-05-25T07:59:00.000+05:30

Business: 10 Simple Steps to Conflict Resolutions

One of the most common and frustrating impediments to worker productivity is conflict between employees. Unresolved conflict can strain relationships, create tension and negativity, and dampen morale. Whether engaged in a heated debate, a disagreement, or an outright feud, take a strategic approach to resolving the problem. You'll be most effective if you avoid making these common mistakes.

1. Don't make assumptions about the situation or the other person's perceptions, motivations, or reactions. You'll get a much clearer and more accurate picture by asking the other person directly.

2. Don't take it personally - it rarely is!

3. Don't look for blame. Instead, try to identify cause.

4. Don't avoid the problem. It'll only get worse, breed resentment, and resurface at a later date. You've simply got to deal directly with the issue at hand.

5. Don't attack the other person's character. That's just playing dirty. It will not help you work things out and it will almost certainly have a lasting, negative impact.

6. Don't gossip about the problem or about the other person involved. It's unprofessional and will only make matters worse.

7. Don't bring it up in public. This is a private matter to be resolved between you and the other party.

8. Don't bring it up when there's not enough time to address it. Instead, leave adequate time for a thorough discussion - or introduce the issue and schedule a time to resume talks in the immediate future.

9. Don't bring it up when you're angry, stressed, or feeling ill.That's a disservice to you and the other person involved. Wait until you're calm.

10. Don't address the situation in an email. Email leaves far too much room for misinterpretation. While we're on the subject, don't copy others on a personal matter. This will almost certainly make the other party feel defensive, angry, or humiliated. It won't, however, help resolve the problem.

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

100 Affirmations for Health, Wealth and Happiness

2016-05-21T09:22:00.000+05:30

1 I’m the master of my life.

2 Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.

3 I can gracefully handle any situations in my life.

4 I’m a unique person, I love and appreciate myself just as the way I am.

5 I feel safe and protected.

6 I have unbreakable confidence in myself.

7 I value and cherish my thoughts, feelings and actions.

8 I have the power to act correctly in each moment.

9 I’m brave and confident.

10 I trust myself.

11 I’m appreciated and respected.

12 I’m prosperous and successful in my life.

13 I know what is best for me.

14 I feel happy, healthy and fortunate.

15 I have everything that’s needed to fulfill my dreams.

16 I can stand up for my own opinions.

17 My financial abundance overflows today.

18 I’m always present in the moment.

19 The presence of joy in my heart releases an abundance of good in my life.

20 I’m open to receive an abundance of health, wealth and happiness.

21 I’m destined to be prosperous.

22 I’ve abundance to share and spare.

23 I’m surrounded by abundance.

24 My life is full of Joy.

25 I always get what I need, when I need it.

26 My world is filled with happiness.

27 I make many worthy contributions to the society.

28 My life is mine to create the way I wanted.

29 I allow myself to have more than I ever dreamed possible.

30 I’m known for my positive energy and abundant life style.

31 Money flows freely and abundantly into my life.

32 I love having a prosperous career.

33 I picture abundance for myself and others.

34 I’m surrounded by positive and happy people.

35 I appreciate what I already have.

36 I connect with my source and abundance comes to me effortlessly.

37 Miracles and positive experiences surrounds me wherever I go.

38 With gods guidance my life is filled with joy, success and abundance.

39 I’ve a large and a steady permanent financial income now.

40 I share my gifts generously with others.

41 I accept others gift with appreciation.

42 Wonderful things happens to me, for I live with an attitude of gratitude.

43 I’m worthy of all that my heart desires.

44 I invite and allow good to come into my life.

45 I passionately live a life of abundance and success.

46 I joyfully accept blessing and enjoy abundance.

47 I’m producing financial abundance doing what I love.

48 I’m grateful for every single moment in my life.

49 I’m consistently presented with new opportunity and success.

50 I deserve abundance and prosperity.

51 I always have more money coming in than going out.

52 I feel good about the money that I spent.

53 I know my value, my honor and worth.

54 I share all wealth and happiness that I receive.

55 My money is a source of good for myself and for others.

56 I contribute a positive and influential gift to this planet.

57 I always attracts success and abundance like a magnet.

58 I listen to others with patience, compassion and understanding.

59 I celebrate life, love and abundance everyday. It comes to me right here and right now.

60 I’ve faith that I am being guided in ways that brings amazing results.

61 I can and will have more than I ever dreamed possible.

62 I feel good about money and deserve it in my life.

63 Great wealth is flowing to me now.

64 I now create my wonderful, ideal life.

65 I am thankful for the comfort and joy that money provides me.

66 I know I am abundant.

67 I always have enough money for myself.

68 Every day in every way I am becoming more and more prosperous.

69 I see myself as wealthy, and that’s who I am.

70 I choose wealth and abundance.

71 My wealth derives from honesty in everything I do.

72 I am worthy of great success.

73 My greatest good is coming to me now.

74 I love abundance in all its beautiful forms.

75 I am wide awake to my abundance.

76 I release all my negative beliefs about money and invite wealth into my life.

77 I am prosperous, healthy, happy and live in abundance.

78 Wealth is my birth-right, my natural state of being.

79 Making money is good for me and for everyone in my life.

80 My income is growing higher and higher now.

81 Money is an important part of my life and is never away from me.

82 All my issues with wealth have disappeared.

83 I clearly see opportunities to effortlessly make money.

84 I am radiating with powerful energy and vitality.

85 Whatever I do, it always ends in amassing health, wealth and joy.

86 I attract prosperity.

87 Excitement flows freely and abundantly into my life.

88 I will be productive and prosperous today.

89 My prosperity is unlimited, my success is unlimited now.

90 I know there is ample prosperity for all.

91 Perfect abundance is my chosen reality.

92 Everything I need comes to me easily and effortlessly.

93 Every day in every way, my health is increasing.

94 I am destined to find prosperity in everything I do.

95 I am gracious for the blessings I have in my life.

96 I am free to do whatever I wish to do.

97 Today is filled with opportunity, and I will seize it.

98 Being wealthy gives me joy, happiness and peace of mind.

99 Life doesn’t happens TO me, but it happens FOR me.

100 Where ever I go, I spread happiness, compassion and inspiration.

Parenting Tips: Parents & Child Attention & Concentration

2016-05-20T11:27:00.000+05:30

Psychologists found the first direct connection between how long a parent pays attention and the impact this has on their child's concentration.

Parents who look at their phones or get distracted when playing with their children may raise youngsters with short attention spans, research suggests.

Psychologists said they have found the first direct connection between how long a parent pays attention to a toy and the impact this has on their child's concentration.

The study, published in the journal Current Biology, has implications for how a child goes on to perform at school, they added.

"When you've got someone who isn't responsive to a child's behaviour, it could be a real red flag for future problems"

Dr Chen Yu - The experts tracked the eye movements of 36 parents and their one-year-old children by using head-mounted cameras.

They did not tell parents what they were looking for in order to ensure they were as natural as possible with their children.

The study, from experts at Indiana University, showed that the longer a parent, and therefore their baby, paid attention to an object while playing, the longer the baby kept paying attention to it, even after a parent stopped.

The shortest attention spans in babies were among those whose parents got distracted and looked elsewhere, or sat back and did not play along.

The researchers also found that parents who tried to direct play - such as by holding out toys and naming them - had children with lower attention spans than those who let their children take the lead with playing.

The study found the longer a parent paid attention to an object while playing, the longer the baby kept paying attention to it.

Dr Chen Yu, who led the study, said: "The ability of children to sustain attention is known as a strong indicator for later success in areas such as language acquisition, problem-solving and other key cognitive development milestones.

"Caregivers who appear distracted or whose eyes wander a lot while their children play appear to negatively impact infants' burgeoning attention spans during a key stage of development.

"When you've got someone who isn't responsive to a child's behaviour, it could be a real red flag for future problems."

He said parents could "support and train" children to sustain attention through showing an interest in what their child is playing with.

"Because sustained attention matters to school success, this influence provides a way to understand individual differences in sustained attention and to potentially influence its development."

Dr Linda Smith, co-author of the study, said: "Our study is one of the first to consider attention as impacted by social interaction. It really appears to be an activity performed by two social partners since our study shows one individual's attention significantly influences another's." How to Build Trust to empower relations

Dr Yu said a lot of parents in the study who did play with their children were "trying too hard" and directing play.

"They were trying to show off their parenting skills, holding out toys for their kids and naming the objects. But when you watch the camera footage, you can actually see the children's eyes wandering to the ceilings or over their parents' shoulders -- they're not paying attention at all."

Parents who had more success were those who let their children take the lead.

"These caregivers waited until they saw the children express interest in a toy and then jumped in to expand that interest by naming the object and encouraging play," he said. Why Children Misbehave And How To Deal With Them" The responsive parents were sensitive to their children's interests and then supported their attention."

When both parents and babies paid attention to a toy for more than 3.6 seconds, babies then continued looking at the object for 2.6 more seconds on average. This is four times longer than those whose parents lost interest in the toy. 18 Ways to Make Your Parents Feel Great Dr Yu said that when these extra seconds are magnified over a play session - and those play sessions occur daily for months during a critical stage in mental development - the effect is significant.

Dr Smith added: "This effect, day in and day out in an infant's life, may be the source of strong skills in sustained attention and concentration."

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

Business Tip: How to Influence you People / Staff

2016-05-20T11:04:00.000+05:30

The story is quite applicable even in current corporate / business settings.

Ms. Mazzone, a marketing specialist for a food packer, was given her first major assignment – the test-marketing of a new product.

In her words: "when the results of the test came in, I was devastated. I had made a serious error in my planning, and the entire test had to be done all over again. To make this worse, I had no time to discuss it with my boss before the meeting in which I was to make my report on the project.

When I was called on to give the report, I was shaking with fright. I had all I could do to keep from breaking down, but I resolved I would not cry... I made my report briefly and stated that due to an error I would repeat the study before the next meeting. I sat down, expecting my boss to blow up.

Instead, he thanked me for my work and remarked that it was not unusual for a person to make an error on a new project and that he had confidence that the repeat survey would be accurate and meaningful to the company. He assured me, in front of all my colleagues, that he had faith in me and knew I had done my best, and that my lack of experience, not my lack of ability, was the reason for the failure.

I left that meeting with my head up in the air and with the determination that I would never let that boss of mine down again."

When a person makes a mistake we have a choice between pointing at the mistake or the person. I feel that the way we handle someone's mistake can define the quality of our relationship with them.

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

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2016-03-01T22:07:00.000+05:30

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"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

100 Days 100 Wishes

2015-12-31T20:20:00.005+05:30

100 Days 100 Wishes:

If you had 100 wishes, what would they be?
Write down your 100 wishes to get whatever you want for your life and they will come true.
Explore yourself.
Explore your wishes
Explore your purpose, your role written by your destiny.

I have tried to answer all Frequently Asked Questions for 100 Days 100 Wishes Process as follows:

Q: Is it necessary to write 100 Wishes?
Ans: 100
wishes i.e. the number 100 describes the big picture of your mind, how
far you can move with your emotions for every- 1. small desire,
2. big desire,
3. dream desire,
4. possible desire,
5. impossible desire,
6. funny desire,
7. weird desire (weird things you wanna do),
8. naughty desire,
9. prank desire,
10. adventure desire,
11. to live your childhood (do what you miss from your childhood),
12. charity desire (good deeds you want to do),
13. to find/realize your reasons of happiness (as good as it gets),
14. your greatest discovery/ invention/ innovation/ creativity,
15. things you love to have with you,
16. explore the interests of heart,
17. think of luxuries in your wildest imagination (let nature connect/ gift you those things as its way),
18. places you want to visit (selective places),
19. travel around the world (whole world trip),
20. moments you want to see and feel,
21. to feel the virtual reality/ 4D/5D/7D movie,
22. events/occasions/meetings you wanna create/attend,
23. competitions/contests you wanna win,
24. lead the moment/ to be a leader/ inspire/ motivate/ teach/ being the answer,
25. food/dishes you wanna eat,
26. clothes/fashion/designs you wanna wear,
27. to get my favorite apps/softwares/gadgets/camera/hardware,
28. to design my own app/softwares/gadgets/camera/hardware (for specific technicians),
29. to get my own home automated system,
30. to get/design my own official website,
31. choose people you love to be around yourself,
32. choose people you like to ignore for your feel good (everybody is good in the eyes of God),
33. develop the habit of optimism (seeing the bright side of everything and everyone),
34. people/personality you want to meet,
35. to update/increase the connections or networking (as in sales),
36. get-together/ re-union/ re-connecting childhood buddies or teachers or college-mates,
37. religious desire/ specific prayer/ temple trip/ connecting angels/ grateful to dead grandparents,
38. develop your own mastermind group/ like-minded group/ sharing happiness group/ positive people altogether,
39. money sources you want to have for your income and investment,
40. to get the financial freedom,
41. properties you wanna own,
42. arts you wanna learn,
43. hobbies you wanna learn,
44. talents you like to have,
45. habits you wanna change,
46. habits you want to recondition with your mind-body-soul,
47. to find the answers of unsolved questions/mysteries/secrets,
48. movies you wanna see,
49. books you wanna read,
50. to do what I love (all the things by heart),
51. job/profession you wanna do,
52. business you wanna do,
53. your own office/company/organization,
54. amount of money you want to see in your account,
55. the book/article/journal/blog you wanna write,
56. status/recognition/fame you wanna feel for yourself,
57. imagine the song/music you wanna listen for your life,
58. sing/speech/debate/dance/perform in front of thousands of audiences,
59. to feature once on television/radio/internet/newspaper/magazine,
60. to be a celebrity,
61. physical desires,
62. emotional desires,
63. intellectual desires,
64. hidden desires,
65. spiritual desires/surrender/meditation,
66. perfect holiday vacation,
67. to shoot home video/ picnic video/ short film/ documentary/ commercial/ feature,
68. your perfect home,
69. your own study/library/shoe-room/laundry-room/cabinet,
70. sports or games you wanna play,
71. gifts for your loved ones,
72. pets,
73. car/bike/vehicles,
74. making a difference,
75. making the record,
76. love/relationship/marriage (the list of soulmate attributes),
77. your fantasy/ ideal/ imagined moments with your soulmate/ loved ones/ close ones/ buddies,
78. your perfect health (your ideal body image),
79. exercise/ aerobics/ bodybuilding/ martial-arts (re-condition your body ie new body habits),
80. to lose weight/ to gain weight (ideal weight),
81. being beautiful, confident and lovable (realize your true self as you are),
82. to develop an attitude of gratitude (Walk as if you are kissing the Earth with your feet. - Thich Nhat Hanh),
83. to help 3 people,
84. healing (cure/heal your body),
85. forgiving the past to be free in present,
86. being free from fear/doubt/disbelief/myth/limitation/perception (live like flying bird),
87. to recollect all of your personal life-lessons (know your potential),
88. finding your passion/ follow your bliss,
89. to develop an unshakable faith/ winner self image/ being unstoppable/ connecting to power of intuition,
90. to share the love/care/happiness beyond the feeling of you and me,
91. to see, feel and share miracles/coincidences/providences/signs/omens/synchonicity/ manifesting my dreams,
92. to re-connect with nature/ feeling senses/ look within the higher spirit,
93. to become one with your passion (as Tansen and Music/ as Sachin Tendulkar and Cricket),
94. desires for friends and buddies,
95. desires for relatives and family relationships,
96. desires for society,
97. desires for country,
98. desires for world,
99. desire of godhood/enlightenment/peace,
100.
to face death/ facing wild beast/ bungee-jumping/ see-diving/
parachute-gliding (to live with courage/ being the lion/lioness),
101. to live beyond death,
102.
to write a new story of your life with everything you love the most,and
many more.............Its like painting the whole life on a canvas as
big as whole world.
(As you can see, I have given various ideas to explore yourself at your deepest level with various options and alternatives.)
NOTE: You can go for more than 100 wishes if required. Explore and Know yourself to the best.

Q: Do all 100 wishes get manifest in 100 Days?
Ans: Forget
how many will be manifest in 100 days, just imagine you are committed
to be in happiness for 100 days. Manifestation is effortless creation of
nature from seed to fruits. Just sow your 100 seeds, water them with
your excitement and happiness to see what universe can do beyond your
mindset. Just enjoy.

Q: How to write a wish?
Ans: This answer is Explained by BOB PROCTOR.
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Ask Yourself What do you really want? Sit down and write it out on
apiece of paper. Write it in the present tense. You might begin by
writing, "I am so happy and grateful now that..................."
And then explain how you want your life to be, in every area.

Q: Why should we write wishes in present tense?
Ans: Write
your wishes in the present tense as if you have it right now. We always
live in present tense and we want to fulfill in present, the moment in
now. Present is gift. Only your memories and experiences are your past.
Nobody has seen future, we create our future by the thoughts, words and
actions i.e. mansa wacha karmana. We all are co-creating our future. Our
present shifts to the future. Life is all about choices. We have the
choice. Choose your target and do baby steps daily on it, one day you
will shift.

Q: What is Shift?Ans: The fact is that our Past,
Present and Future happens at one time and we are just shifting our
realities from one world to another world without knowing about
that.Life always prepares you for better future.The moment you decide
the future, you have shifted.
We all are living in multiple realities
at one time but we are not aware of that phenomenon. In short you can
understand, there are multiple consequences of every action we do. And
we choose our future by our actions or intentions. We have the choice.
Just choose what you want. While choosing you will experience yourself
at many places with many possibilities all at once.
We are shifting
everytime, just now also. We are results of our past and our present is
shifting to future by our thoughts words actions i.e. mansa wacha
karmana.

Q: I am stuck with 10 wishes, what should I do now, is it necessary to reach at 100? Please help.
Ans: Relax,
nothing is necessary. 100 wishes in 100 days i.e., the creation takes
time to be in balance with nature. Also, the universe wants to give you
your deepest desire. If you are stuck with 10 desires, then you can give
10 subdivisions to each desire. 10 x 10 = 100,
for example:
- desire for home with 10 subdivisions of features such as designs, rooms, furniture, etc.
- desire of soulmate with 10 subdivision of attributes of soulmate such as loving, caring etc.
- desire of career/job with 10 subdivisions of parameters such as type of office, location, colleagues etc.
Make it simple. Enjoy.

Q: What should I do to manifest my 100 wishes?
Ans: There
are many practices to manifest multiple wishes in one go. I am writing
all of them. Choose what resonates you and act on it.
Although they all works and they all are inter-connected.
1. Imagination
and Living in end : In your imagination, go to that phase of your
future life where all those 100+ wishes are fulfilled, now see that
scene . See all details of that future life scene. That scene can be
anything that signifies the fulfillment of all wishes. That scene can be
such as playing with kids in king size bungalow, partying at biggest
hotel of city, launching your second next company, etc. Now feel that
scene and live like that because all your desires are already fulfilled
and they have lead you to that scene. Live like that scene is done.

2. Thank
You Letter practice before sleeping : Thank You Letter for all your
Fulfilled Wishes.Write your all list of wishes and desires with the
gratitude as they are fulfilled on your mobile notepad, laptop journal
or on your diary. Read that list and feel the energy and gratitude as
they all are fulfilled before sleeping.
When you wake up, give THANKS to God for this new Day and review your Wishes Fulfilled List with that gratitude.
Do it Daily.

3. Affirmation :Keep Affirming yourself: "I am ready to receive all of my fulfilled wishes in miraculous ways."
or
"I am ecstatic."
or
"Isn't it wonderful!"
or
"Something wonderful is happening to me now!"
or
Use your own affirmation coming from your intuition. Follow your Bliss.

4. Happiness
and Living in Bliss : You have already written all your wishes with
gratitude, NOW Ask yourself, What if your 100 wishes are fulfilled. What
will you do? Just Imagine the Date of your 100th date and Imagine you
are extremely happy and grateful for the fulfillment of your desires.
Feel that Happiness and Do all that now. Be in that excitement. Thank
God and everyone. No need of treat and party now, it will be stupid. But
all you have to feel and carry that crazy momentum.
You may be
wondering why should I do that, its science, its nature, its Law of
Reversibility, every cause can be effect and every effect can be cause,
what goes around comes around, the world is like mirror, world reflects
us, world has a habit to make room for those whose ideas are bigger.
Every action can be reaction and every reaction can be action. Its
reversible. Just enjoy every second of your life and let God do his
role.

5. Believe in Yourself : You can be and have whatever you want.
“Once
you believe in yourself and see your soul as divine and
precious, you'll automatically be converted to a being who can create
miracles.” ― Wayne W. Dyer.
“You have to believe in yourself, that's
the secret. Even when I was in the orphanage, when I was roaming the
street trying to find enough to eat, even then I thought of myself as
the greatest actor in the world.” - Charlie Chaplin.
Feel the divine presence in yourself. You can do anything.
You are that you seek.
You are that you are aware/conscious of.
You are that you claim yourself to be.

6. ACTION-REACTION : Just do your best and God will take care of rest.

7.
DETACHMENT: Surrender to Almighty and Keep Patience. As Sai Baba had
said Shraddha (Faith) and Saburi (Patience) is all we need to progress
spiritually and materially. (Ex: If I tell about myself, I believe so
hard that all my wishes are already being fulfilled somewhere and I know
they will come and coming to me.)
Once you have written all your
wishes, they are already fulfilled somewhere and they will come/coming
to you. All you have to do is to live in that state of wishes fulfilled.
Feel that happiness. That happiness works as bliss that can create
anything. Feel That Bliss inside you. It will guide you. Whatever comes
from inside, never goes wrong. Follow That Bliss.

8. Hats Off to Neville Goddard :
Part 1: This is the answer-suggestion of Neville Goddard to manifest multiple wishes:
Question: Is it possible to imagine several things at the same time, or should I confine my imagining to one desire?
Answer:
Personally I like to confine my imaginal act to a single thought, but
that does not mean I will stop there. During the course of a day I may
imagine many things, but instead of imagining lots of small things, I
would suggest that you imagine something so big it includes all the
little things. Instead of imagining wealth, health and friends, imagine
being ecstatic. You could not be ecstatic and be in pain. You could not
be ecstatic and be threatened with a dispossession notice. You could not
be ecstatic if you were not enjoying a full measure of friendship and
love.What would the feeling be like were you ecstatic without knowing
what had happened to produce your ecstasy? Reduce the idea of ecstasy to
the single sensation, "Isn't it wonderful!" Do not allow the conscious,
reasoning mind to ask why, because if it does it will start to look for
visible causes, and then the sensation will be lost. Rather, repeat
over and over again, "Isn't it wonderful!" Suspend judgment as to what
is wonderful. Catch the one sensation of the wonder of it all and things
will happen to bear witness to the truth of this sensation. And I
promise you, it will include all the little things.
Part 2: Moods: Story of Neville Goddard's book The Law and The Promise:
The
lady in the following story so successfully felt the feeling of her
wish fulfilled, she made her mood the character of the night — frozen in
a delightful dream.
“Most of us read and love fairy stories, but we
all know that stories of improbable riches and good fortune are for the
delight of the very young. But are they? I want to tell you of something
unbelievably wonderful that happened to me through the power of my
imagination — and I am not ‘young’ in years.We live in an age which
believes in neither fable nor magic, and yet everything I could possibly
want in my wildest day-dreams was given to me by the simple use of what
you teach — that ‘imagining creates reality’ and that ‘feeling’ is the
secret of imagining.
“At the time this wonderful thing happened to me
I was out of a job and had no family to fall back upon for support. I
needed just about everything. To find a decent job I needed a car to
look for it, and though I had a car, it was so worn out it was ready to
fall apart. I was behind in my rent; I had no proper clothes to seek a
job; and today it’s no fun for a woman of fifty-five to apply for a job
of any kind. My bank account was almost depleted and there was no friend
to whom I could turn.
“But I had been attending your lectures for
almost a year and my desperation forced me to put my imagination to the
test. Indeed, I had nothing to lose. It was natural for me, I suppose,
to begin by imagining myself having everything I needed. But I needed so
many things and in such short order that I found myself exhausted when I
finally got through the list, and by that time I was so nervous I could
not sleep. One lecture night I heard you tell of an artist who captured
the ‘feeling’, or ‘word’, as you called it, of ‘isn’t it wonderful!’ in
his personal experience.
“I began to apply this idea to my case.
Instead of thinking of and imagining every article I needed, I tried to
capture the ‘feeling’ that something wonderful was happening to me — not
tomorrow, not next week — but right now.
I would say over and over
to myself as I fell asleep, ‘Isn’t it wonderful! Something marvelous is
happening to me now!’ And as I fell asleep I would feel the way I would
expect to feel under such circumstances.
“I repeated that imaginary
action and feeling for two months, night after night, and one day in
early October I met a casual friend I hadn’t seen for months who
informed me he was about to leave on a trip to New York. I had lived in
New York many years ago and we talked of the city a few moments and then
parted. I completely forgot the incident.

One month later, to
the day, this man called at my apartment and simply handed me a
Certified Check in my name for twenty-five hundred dollars. After I got
over the initial shock of seeing my name on a check for so much money,
the story that unfolded seemed to me like a dream. It concerned a friend
I had not seen nor heard from in more than twenty-five years.
This
friend of my past, I now learned, had become extremely wealthy in those
twenty-five years. Our mutual acquaintance who had brought the check to
me had met him quite by accident during the trip to New York last month.

During
their conversation they spoke of me, and for reasons I was not to know
(for to this day I have not heard from him personally and have never
attempted to contact him) this old friend decided to share a portion of
his great wealth with me.
“For the next two years, from the office of
his attorney, I received monthly checks so generous in amount they not
only covered every necessary requirement of daily living, but left much
over for all the lovely things of life: a car, clothes, a spacious
apartment — and best of all, no need to earn my daily bread.
“This
past month I received a letter and some legal papers to be signed which
provide the continuation of this monthly income for the rest of my
natural life!” …T.K.

Q: Do I need to check my 100 wishes everyday?
Ans: Checking
your 100 wishes list is a good habit. It will be helpful to keep that
momentum. See the key is to be in that alignment of happiness ie
creation. But if you skip, then leave the worries, its okay, not a big
deal, You can check when you are free.

Q: Can I go for more than 100 wishes or 100 days?
Ans: Yeah you can update your list anytime as you are creating, its you who matter for your life.

Q: How some people manifest their stuff so quickly?
Ans: Because they love and believe in their creation.
As you believe, it will manifest. As you doubt, it will be paused.
Simple.
Love as you have them.
Believing is seeing.
For many of us we believe after seeing, i.e. for them seeing is believing.
But if we believe it so hard, then according to the Law of Reversibility it become Believing is seeing.
Your belief moves through your blood and to each cell of your body which make your actions leading you to your stuff.

Q: What is Detachment and how does it work?
Ans: Detachment
is when you are no longer wishing your desire would manifest and
instead living in the reality that it has been manifested!
Detachment is Surrender to Almighty.
In Detachment you allow the universe to manifest your desires with ease.
Let God do its role and you do your role.
Detach yourself from how your desire will come to you.
Detach By Being An Observer.
In
detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty, freedom from our past,
willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities.
If
you can feel your desire in your mind with closed eye imagination, its
not longer a desire, your desire has been manifested somewhere as
Reality and it is coming to you, So its better to DROP YOUR DESIRE. Have
Faith and Enjoy.
Just do your best and let God do its role.

Q: You have described everything, but still these 100 Days are seemed complicated to me. Can you help me?

The Awakening

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The Awakening

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out… ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you… and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are… and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself… and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself… and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties… and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that ‘alone’ does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels the soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people… and you lean not to always take it personally.

You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

~ Author Unknown

If this story resonates with you then you are one of the awakened! And slowly you are realising the power of your own thoughts….

Just as you create your own reality, we are also co-creating our realities together. We are a collective! As a community, a city, a country, and a species, we decide where we want to go and how we want to flow. It is up to us to decide what happens next in the epic tale that is the human race, but change has to start from an individual level. Rememebr – You can have, DO, or BE, ANYTHING you want!

20 Limiting Beliefs I should stop Believing

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I don't know what to do
I tried it before and it didn't work.
I'll do it later.
I don't have the resources.
I'll get in trouble
I'm not in charge.
I'm not qualified.
I don't have the knowledge.
I don't have the skills.
I've always done it this way.
I don't have the power.
I'm doing my best.
I don't even know where to start.
I can always do it later.
I don't have the tools.
I'm going to wait for guidance.
I'm waiting for answers.
I need permission.
I am afraid.
I failed at this before.

Small Thought in your Mind

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The Bungalow is not as big as the Plot,

The Door is not as big as the Bungalow,

The Lock is not as big as the Door,

The Key is not as big as the Lock,

but the whole Bungalow is dependent on that small Key.

Similarly,

The Mind is not as big as your Body,

but the whole Life is dependent on that small thought in your Mind..!

I am Money

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I Am Energy. I Am Infinite. I Am Money..... By Greg Habstritt

Most people think they know me.

They don't.

I am not what most people think I am. I am not the paper in your wallet, or the coins that jingle in your purse. I am not quietly sitting in your bank account, hoping to be used one day.

You cannot see me, feel me or touch me.

I am an idea. I am energy.

I'm neither good nor evil. I am only what you decide that I am, and I fulfill the role that you create for me.

I don't care how smart you are, where you live, what you do, or where you come from.

All I care about is your energy.

Your energy decides what thoughts you have, and therefore your thoughts will determine the relationship you have with me.

I have very simple needs, and simple rules.

I am infinite.

I have no limits, except for those you place on me with your mind. There is no limit to the energy in the world, and because I am simply energy, I cannot be restricted or controlled.

I crave abundance.

I am attracted to those who think without restrictions, who like to think big. When you believe there is enough of me to go around, I am naturally magnetized by that thinking.

I despise scarcity.

Because there is no limit to me, I avoid those who think from a win/lose or scarcity perspective. Those who believe I am in short supply, or difficult to receive, will find that very reality, because I choose to avoid those who think small.

I love value.

What magnetizes me most is the creation of value in the universe. I move to places where value is created, because creation is energy. If you wish to attract me into your life, focus on creating value for others, and I will appear.

I avoid entitlement and complacency.

No one 'deserves' to have me, and I am always moving to the place I am most respected and where value is created. It has nothing to do with 'fair'. Those who take me for granted or become complacent with my energy will find me gone.

I only have one job, and that is to serve you.

It is a matter of energy and value creation. My purpose is simply to move to where I am attracted most, and where I can grow.

My one goal is to replicate myself.

Because there is no limit to energy, my purpose is to reproduce and grow, in order
to bring more energy to the universe. I am created and replicated through value creation. I am an energy of evolution.

The message for you should be clear. Those who create value for others in the world will find me in their lives.

I am whatever you believe me to be.

So what you believe about me can make you miserable, or what you believe can
enable you to perform miracles.

I'm neither positive, nor negative.

Total Money Magnetism, I am what you decide I am.

If you fear me in any way, I can crush your ability to survive. If you get to know me, I can make your life flourish and your dreams come alive.

I can be your master, or I can be your servant.

I am only what you make me.

So, the relationship we have together will be determined by you.

Isn't it time we got to know each other better?

5 Time Wasting Habits of Entrepreneur

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The amount of time we have available every day is limited. Not every entrepreneur can put in 18-hour days -- personal obligations and family life take up time, making it important that we maximize the time we do have allocated for business.

Here are five time-wasting habits that many entrepreneurs are guilty of. Eliminate these and watch your productivity increase.

1. Trying to do everything yourself.

You have to learn to delegate if you are ever going to be productive. All entrepreneurs are guilty of this at some point, especially in the beginning. You think you can handle everything -- but as tasks and responsibilities stack up the weight on your shoulders becomes unbearable and everything collapses.

One of the best things I did for my company was admitting to myself that there were some things I wasn't the best at. Delegating those tasks to other people that handled them more efficiently made a significant impact. You can't do everything yourself, and the sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.

2. Saying 'Yes' to everything.

One of the hardest things to do is say no. Personally, it took me a while to learn that it was physically impossible to try to accommodate every request that was presented to me. This circles around to point number one above -- I thought I could do it all. I didn't want to disappoint anyone. If I received a request for a quick 15-minute chat, I would squeeze it in.

Looking back, all those little requests were time sucks. Instead of worrying about someone saying, "I can't believe he said no -- what a dick," I learned to deny opportunities and requests that weren't going to benefit my company and brand. Learning to value my time has lead to increased productivity, and while it might feel uncomfortable the first couple of times, I promise it becomes much easier after you experience first hand how eliminating time-sucking requests improve your productivity.

3. Waiting for perfection.

Perfection doesn't exist, and if you sit around waiting for it you're going to miss the boat. When people are hung up on a task they will often say they are trying to perfect it before moving on to the next one. They are simply procrastinating.

It's important that you understand perfection is a unicorn you most likely aren't going to encounter. Imagine if companies such as Uber and Airbnb waited to expand into new markets until they perfected all of the working components of the business. They would still be sitting there wasting time, scratching their heads, waiting for something that wasn't ever going to happen. Look how fast both companies have grown because they were extremely productive.

4. Allowing distractions to constantly interrupt your day.

Distractions will only interrupt your day if you let them. You have to create a work environment that provides you with some distraction-free time, allowing you to stay 100 percent focused. Every entrepreneur is going to have different distractions to deal with. Here are a few of things I do to eliminate some distractions:

No personal text replies: When I'm working I don't reply to personal texts. It's a time suck, but it also tells the other person that your work time isn't valuable. Just because someone is bored at his or her desk or on a day off, it doesn't mean you have to entertain them. When you ignore work-time texts and begin to reply to them in the evening when you are done, you will notice your mid-day interruptions will decrease significantly.

Airplane mode: If I'm working on something extremely important that requires complete focus I'll switch my phone to airplane mode. When I simply silence my phone I still see the notification icons and I'm apt to pick it up and check emails and messages. Airplane mode prevents this and allows me to fully focus.

Block off calendar time: I have specific time blocked off on my calendar every day. When you get into this habit, you know without a doubt that you have a period of time without meetings, conference calls or distractions. This time will quickly become your most productive daily block of time.

5. Constantly refreshing your email inbox.

If you are constantly refreshing your email inbox, you are pissing away valuable time. It can become quite addictive. I suffered from this myself, and had to create a system to check and respond to emails that wouldn't dig into my productivity.

I check my emails at set times every day and I also have someone screen them. The screening eliminates a lot of wasted time deleting junk, unsolicited requests and spam. When I do jump into my inbox it's in and out, as I know everything waiting for me requires my attention and I fire back replies and address each one without having to waste time identifying the emails that are important. It's a habit that isn't easy to break, but once you do develop a system that works for you, the time saved will be very noticeable.

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

The Favourite Poem of APJ Abdul Kalam

2015-07-28T08:29:00.000+05:30

The Skill every one needs to be Successful

2015-07-24T08:40:00.000+05:30

Article Courtesy: https:/ /www. linkedin.com/pulse/only-skill-every-professional-needs-jeff-haden

I asked about twenty business owners and CEOs to name the one skill they feel contributes the most to their success.

What did every one of them say?

Sales skills. Each and every one felt success is almost impossible -- in any field -- without solid sales skills. Here's why.

To many people, the word selling implies manipulating, pressuring, cajoling -- all the used car salesman stereotypes.

But if you think of selling as explaining the logic and benefits of a decision, then everyone needs sales skills: to convince others that an idea makes sense, to show bosses or investors how a project or business will generate a return, to help employees understand the benefits of a new process, etc.

In essence, sales skills are communication skills. Communication skills are critical in any business or career -- and you'll learn more about communication by working in sales than you will anywhere else. Gaining sales skills will help you lead teams, line up distribution deals, land customers, build important connections... in every stage of building a career, most of what you do involves sales.

Understanding the sales process, and how to build long-term customer relationships, is incredibly important regardless of the industry or career you choose. Spending time in a direct sales role is an investment that will pay dividends forever.

Here are a few of the benefits:

You'll learn to negotiate.

Every job involves negotiating: with customers, with vendors and suppliers, even with employees. Salespeople learn to listen, evaluate variables, identify key drivers, overcome objections, and find ways to reach agreement -- without burning bridges.

You'll learn to close.

Asking for what you want is difficult for a lot of people. Closing a sale is part art, part science. Getting others to agree with you and follow your direction is also part art and part science. If you want to lead people, you must be able to close. Great salespeople know how to close. Great bosses do, too.

You'll learn persistence.

Salespeople hear the word no all the time. Over time you'll start to see no as a challenge, not a rejection. And you'll figure out what to do next.

You'll learn self-discipline.

When you work for a big company, you can sometimes sleepwalk your way through a day and still get paid. When you work on commission, your credo is, "If it is to be, it's up to me." Working in sales is a great way to permanently connect the mental dots between performance and reward.

You'll gain self-confidence.

Working in sales is the perfect cure for shyness. You'll learn to step forward with confidence, especially under duress or in a crisis.

Still not convinced? Think of it this way: The more intimidating or scary a position in sales sounds, the more you need to take one. You'll gain confidence and self-assurance, and the skills you gain will serve you well for the rest of your business--and personal -- life.

So if you're a would-be entrepreneur, set aside your business plan and work in sales for a year or two. If you're struggling in your profession, take a part-time sales job. Part of the reason you're struggling is probably because of poor sales skills.

Successful people spend much of their time "selling."

Go learn how to sell.

It's the best investment you will ever make.

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"

Business: How Adobe keeps Employees from Quitting

2015-07-23T21:32:00.001+05:30

How Adobe keeps key employees from quitting

Anne Fisher

Ditching annual performance reviews has paid unexpected dividends.

If there's one thing almost everyone in corporate America can agree on, it's that traditional once-a-year evaluations are a waste of time. Managers and employees dread the discussions, and plenty of evidence shows they don't produce anything but a pile of extra paperwork.

"I looked at this whole process, back in 2011, and thought, 'Is this really doing anything useful for us? Why are we doing it?'" recalls Donna Morris, Adobe's global senior vice president of people and places.

Especially troublesome was that the company's "rank and yank" system, which forced managers to identify and fire their least productive team members, caused so much infighting and resentment that, each year, it was making some of the software maker's best people flee to competitors.

So, based in part on ideas crowdsourced from employees, Morris and her team scrapped annual evaluations and replaced them with a system called Check In. At the start of each fiscal year, employees and managers set specific goals. Then, at least every eight weeks but usually much more often, people "check in" with their bosses for a real-time discussion of how things are going. At an annual "rewards check-in," managers give out raises and bonuses according to how well each employee has met or exceeded his or her targets. "Managers are empowered to make those decisions," says Morris. "There is no 'matrix.' HR isn't involved."

The new approach has required extra training for managers, who have had to adjust their schedules to "allow for setting expectations and giving feedback in real time," Morris notes. Getting used to the new system has taken longer in some countries than in others, she adds. Adobe's employees in India, for instance, "were anxious at first about not having the old written 'report card' every year, until they realized that, by having these conversations much more often, they would always know exactly where they stand."

Morris says that transparency has paid unexpected dividends. For one thing, fewer valued staffers are leaving, despite the ferociously competitive Silicon Valley market for tech talent. "People who have turned down other offers tell us it's partly because Check In makes them feel like we're helping them succeed," says Morris.

Not only that, but more frequent talks between managers and underperforming staffers have led to a marked increase in what Morris calls "involuntary, non-regrettable attrition, because team leaders are no longer putting off having tough conversations with people who aren't cutting it," she says. "It's not just about retaining talent. It's about retaining the right talent."

It's also about boosting Adobe's ADBE 0.65% stock price. Getting feedback in real time, so everyone stays on track and is pulling in the same direction, has helped make Adobe's 13,000 employees far more productive, Morris says. Adobe's stock price has increased from about $30 to over $80 since Check In began.

http://fortune.com/2015/06/16/adobe-employee-retention/

Shabbar Suterwala

"Bridging the Gap between what you are and what you can be"

Soft Skills Trainer, Business Coach,NLP Practitioner

Personal, Psychological & Martial Counsellor & Coach

Whatsapp / IMO: +91-9892225864

http://www.shabbarsuterwala.com

"The More you Share the More you Get, the More you Grow"