37. Lovingkindness

September 16, 2018

open journal on September page on white paper background with green candle and branch

Photo: @_papercreations

This week, I took Monday off and took the Metro North for the first time (not *totally* intuitive but also incredibly chill and super pleasant once I was on it?) and headed up to The Mariandale Center for a lovingkindness workshop. Mariandale — which I first came across via this essay — is run by progressive nuns and the workshop (which was actually run by Buddhist priests) was really really lovely. We learned, we had thoughtful discussion, we meditated, they read us poems (like this one)…it was all so wholesome and healing and genuinely inspiring. I left thinking, Oh, is…*that* what church is supposed to be like? Because I could do THAT every week. Anyway, if you live around NYC or Brooklyn and want to be around chill people and a lot of nature and to remember what grass looks and feels like, I highly recommend their programming! I’m excited to go to back for more of their programs (and for some really good river views).

Here’s what else I was up to…

Reading

This weekend I read The Mind of the Leader: How to Lead Yourself, Your People, and Your Organization for Extraordinary Results, which I really liked — it actually had a ton of overlap with the workshop I attended. (You can listen to/read an interview with the authors here.) And I’m halfway through Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything, which I’m also very much enjoying.

Also:

You Owe Me an Apology, ELLE. “On that day, I learned with abundant clarity that black girls don’t demand apologies. As a Black woman, speaking up about the needs of others would win me applause; speaking up for myself would earn me punishment. I’d be vilified for even thinking I deserve dignity, and as I try to pursue justice for the rest of the world, I simply don’t have that kind of time. For black girls, demanding the apologies we deserve is usually just wasted energy in a world where we can’t afford to waste anything.”

What I Know About Jian Ghomeshi, The Cut.

Our System Is Too Broken to Assess the Sexual Assault Claim Against Kavanaugh, Slate. “Had I been asked to advise this woman, who, according to the New Yorker, is already in trauma, and according to CNN has sought medical help for it, I would have told her to stand down. I would have told her that neither politics nor journalism are institutions that can evaluate and adjudicate facts about systems in which powerful men use their power to harm women. I would have told her that she would be risking considerable peril to her personal reputation, even as she would be lauded as a hero. I would have also told her that powerful men have about a three-month rehabilitation period through which they must live, after which they can be swept up once again in the slipstream of their own fame and success. The women of #MeToo, though, are never quite welcome in the slipstream again. And if you closely observe how one of the most intimate and frightening moments of this anonymous woman’s life is currently being tossed around for political gain, I suspect you might come to agree with me.”

Several Women Say Airlines Don’t Take Their Complaints About Men Masturbating Next To Them Seriously, BuzzFeed News.

Here’s Why You Have No Idea Who the Judges Are on Your New York Primary Ballot, Jezebel. Welp.

The Math of Jeff Bezos’ Astounding Greed, Splinter.

There’s So Much to Worry About I Forgot to Worry About Plastic Poisoning, The Cut.

How Maya Rudolph Became the Master of Impressions, The New York Times Magazine.

The 80-20 Rule for a Healthy Life, Minimal Wellness. (And it’s not “be healthy 80% of the time” BTW.)

Missy Elliott Meets Her ‘Funky White Sister’ On Ellen and I’m Yelling, Jezebel. This filled me with so much mirth.

I Took My Shirt Off and So Should You, New York Times. This is a delight. And +1 to everything she says about how it feels to go shirtless, and the fact that high-waisted leggings are both super cute and a great place to start.

And, finally, RIP Racked.

Best life

I made these lemon thyme chicken thighs and they came out perfectly. I also made this double kale salad for lunches this week and loved it. I added perfect chicken and used store-bought kale chips as the topping, and it was great. The dressing alone is worth making.

The week ahead…

Literally who do I have to fuck to get bona fide sweater weather to happen????

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36. Care & keeping

September 9, 2018

top down photo of coffee in coffee mug on tan background

Photo: Jakub Dziubak

Hey there! Here’s what I had going on this week.

Writing

7 Life-Changing Things To Try In September

ICYMI: How a blog post gets made

Editing

How To Take Yourself Out On A Proper Date

Happy 20th Birthday To “The Care And Keeping Of You”, The Best Puberty Book In The Biz

Reading

Was She J.D. Salinger’s Predator or His Prey?, New York Times. The way Joyce Maynard was treated is so fucking outrageous.

Beyond Goop and Evil, The Baffler. “Before the Goop faithful, Gwyneth Paltrow spoke the words that function as the company’s mission statement: ‘Why do we all not feel well? And what can we do about it?’ I have a pretty empirically sound reply to the first query: we live under patriarchy.”

Redemption for Rapists: A How-to for Guide for Predators, Abusers, and Churches, Samantha Field.

At U.S. Open, power of Serena Williams and Naomi Osaka is overshadowed by an umpire’s power play, The Washington Post.

The defenders of slavery taught us how to Bible, Patheos.

The American Nightmare: Some Families Still Struggle, 10 Years After Housing Crisis, The Penny Hoarder.

I Stopped Dyeing My Gray Hair as an Act of Resistance, Catapult. “A woman’s body is made of eyes. We receive signals, gather feedback, scan reality for our reflections. We collect, like currency, the gazes, touches, and remarks that brush against us. Some of us have built our whole lives on it, can’t imagine what we’ll do when the well of male attention runs dry. Some of us resent the fuck out of the fact that it’s something we need to expend energy on tallying at all, conclude that those who value it are shallow and sad, while secretly hoarding our own small stash, relieved that it’s enough to get us by.”

7 Things That Inevitably Happen to Your Personal Life When You Get Sober, Self.

Inside the Big Business of Getting Your Girlfriend Back, MEL.

‘How Can I Believe in Anything, After So Many Shitty Things Have Happened?’, Ask Polly / The Cut.

The Angel Who Keeps Citi Bike Working for New York, Outside.

Turn Off Your Push Notifications. All of Them, Wired. I’m…sort of always amazed by how many push notifications people have on, because I curate mine so aggressively.

In Defense of Our College’s Mascot, Sir Racist Von Genocide, McSweeney’s.

Watching and listening to

The oceans episode of Ologies, the straw episode of 99% Invisible, Season 2 of Slate’s Slow Burn, and Time: The History & Future of Everything on YouTube. Also continuing on with The National Parks. (I’m on Episode 5 and I’m pretty sure the series does not ever end.)

Best life

After talking about it forever but just somehow never getting around to it (IDK), I finally got rid of the trash can that I hate and replaced it with a rose gold Simple Human trash can ($99 on Amazon) that is truly, deeply filling my heart with joy. I was cooking all day today, and every time I turned to throw something away and then stepped on its beautiful pedal (instead of knocking in a disgusting lid), I was so happy. It’s just so sleek and so clean.

In other beautiful kitchen item news, I received a copper Espro French press ($59.95 on Amazon) at a press event in 2016, and just got around to using it for the first time a few weeks ago. (I’ve had a Keurig since like 2012 and just didn’t want to keep buying K cups. I also don’t drink coffee at home enough these days to make using my toddy cold brew system worth it.) I’d never used a French press before but I love it. It pairs perfectly with my electric kettle, it’s just the right size for me, and the coffee tastes good* and doesn’t ever end up with grounds in it. I’m super impressed.

*I have pretty garbage taste in coffee so I don’t know if it’s good by a coffee snob’s standards but my coffee snob friends seem to like their French presses a lot!

And, finally, some good news: at long last, I finally finished up Invisalign! My mouth is my own again!!!

The week ahead…

May we all approach this week with the attitude of this “baby.”

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35. Sweat

September 2, 2018

close-up of a brown fox in brown grass

Photo: Nathan Anderson

September is a scam. Brands are trying to convince us that it’s fall — that sweater weather is finally here and that it’s a reasonable time to drink a PSL or go to a football game — but it’s not. It’s going to be terribly hot for a good three more weeks, and probably even longer. There are no SWEATERS happening this month; we’ll be lucky if we can fuck with jeans!!! As much as I appreciate that everyone has returned from their summer vacations and that there’s a collective sense of motivation and starting anew in the air, I still think September is bullshit.

Anyway. Enough grousing; here’s what I had going on this week…

Writing

A video producer on my team adapted an old post I wrote about weight loss into this video, and I love how it turned out! 

Reading

We Saw Nuns Kill Children: The Ghosts of St. Joseph’s Catholic Orphanage, BuzzFeed News. This was somehow more awful than I imagined.

The Lost Children of Tuam, The New York Times.

This Is How a Black Woman Unravels, VSB.

The Myth of John McCain, Splinter.

Too Much, Too Soon, The Cut. “Yes, the world can live without the comedic stylings of Louis C.K. Forever? Oh, Christ, I don’t know, but maybe for more than eight months, right? Not many of these guys are such unique talents that we cannot live without them; we will not be bereft and aimless without their entertainments and leadership. (And whatever the hell people think they need Matt Lauer for, I truly have no clue.)”

I Got Kicked Out Of A YMCA Locker Room — Twice — Because I’m Trans, BuzzFeed News.

“Fake milk”: why the dairy industry is boiling over plant-based milks, Vox. It’s the cauliflower rice mess all over again!

Why Married Women Are Using Two Last Names on Facebook, The Atlantic. “The unhyphenated double surname some women have adopted online to prevent that confusion is a naming custom heretofore more often seen in textbooks and foreign countries. And, it’s popularizing another option for women’s last names when they marry men, beyond just ‘keep,’ ‘change,’ or ‘hyphenate.'” I thought this was going to be dumb because the answer seemed so obvious, but I actually liked it.

How Shelton Johnson became the Buffalo Soldiers’ champion, High Country News.

Son, Placed for Adoption, Leads Birth Parents to Altar 36 Years Later, The New York Times. Oh…my god???

My Happiness Manifesto, Rev. Lydia Sohn. I love this idea and want to start working on my own.

A vacation re-entry survival guide: Return to your regular life filled with new energy, not dread, Quartzy.

Trader Joe’s Giant Cold Brew Bags, and More New Summer Stuff, Reviewed, Bon Appétit. This is a goddamn delight.

“Straight women need to unionize and demand better conditions.”

Watching and listening to

I finished Ken Burns’ Prohibition and have now moved onto Ken Burns’ The National Parks — America’s Best Idea (on Amazon), which I’m loving.

Also loved this episode on hiring from HBR IdeaCast.

Best life

Inspired by camp, I made a bunch of friendship bracelets this weekend using this tutorial along with one I downloaded from Purl Soho. It’s such a nice soothing activity!

I’m obsessed with this idea for a minimalist home screen from Courtney Carver of Be More With Less. I have buried a lot of apps in folders to break the habit of opening them so much — it’s sort of shocking how well this actually works — but it hadn’t occurred to me that one could just put all the apps in a folder. I haven’t done it yet but I took a bunch more apps off my home screen and I’m definitely thinking about going all the way.

The week ahead…

Just deeply enjoying this long, lazy weekend!

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34. Babes in the woods

August 26, 2018

group photo of women at summer camp, all wearing matching "babes in the woods" tshirts

Photo: the WONDERFUL Madison Short

I’m back from camp! It was so great. I’m actually slightly annoyed by just how relaxed I felt while there, and still feel. Like, oh is THAT all it takes, huh? A legitimate “VACATION”???? 😐 Thanks to the realization that vacation is, in fact, good and helpful and refreshing, and the way everyone at dinner one night, like, gasped at the amount of unused PTO I have, I’ve already booked a little trip upstate and scheduled a bunch of random days off.

I’m going to write more about camp once I’ve had more time to process everything (and once we get all the photos) but it was truly so lovely. It was wonderful to go off the grid for three days. I got to reunite with some old faves and make friends with a bunch of kind, smart, thoughtful feminist women. The weather was perfect. We made friendship bracelets (a seriously underrated soothing hobby that I highly recommend), we had a fabulous pool party, we played bingo, we talked about structural racism and sexism, we sang songs around the campfire. It was great.

Here’s what else I’ve been up to:

Reading

I read The Big Burn: Teddy Roosevelt and the Fire that Saved America last week on the plane and it was really good.

Mujey’s Accused Rapist Was Set Free. Then She Was Killed., BuzzFeed News.

There Is a Kind of Feminist Revolution Happening Right Now in Appalachia, The Cut.

Alanna Vagianos on running alone as a woman.

Where even Walmart won’t go: how Dollar General took over rural America, The Guardian.

Tesla says its factory is safer. But it left injuries off the books, Reveal.

100 Ways to Show Up For People with Chronic Illness, Broadly.

My Relationship With My Personal Style is Changing, Man Repeller. “Instead of leaning toward dressing under- or over-, my preference is always to feel ‘appropriate,’ a comfortable nestling space that allows me to harmonize with my surroundings and those around around me. It’s why, though I like to feel special, I’ve historically fallen in-step with my friends where pants versus skirts at night are concerned. It’s why I will hound you for deliberate instructions on your holiday party’s dress code — so I can make sure that, once my personal taste is accounted for and satiated, I’m not stepping on anyone’s toes. It’s always been less about standing out or fitting in for me as it’s been about centering my equilibrium in the world at that moment. Where you may get anxious in a messy room (though I do too), part of what helps to anchor me is just the right combination of jeans and blouse. Or the right T-shirt at Disneyland.”

We Are Wired To Be Outside, National Geographic.

When You Have Crohn’s Disease, Public Bathrooms Can Be A Nightmare, BuzzFeed News.

The Tyranny and the Comfort of Government Cheese, Taste.

Flour, Yeast, Water, and Salt: How Breadmaking Helped Me Get Through My Divorce, Catapult.

Self-Deprecation, Apologizing and The Pressure on Women to Look Good, Man Repeller.

A Dreamy 1962 Airstream Trailer Wallpapered with Florals, Design*Sponge.

Is Everything OK at the Trump National Hudson Valley Golf Club??, Jezebel.

I Am the One Woman Who Has It All, The New Yorker.

And thoughts from a couple of cool dudes: Millennial Hooters guy and “how should I ask out my therapist?” guy.

Watching & listening to

The linguistics episode of Ologies (seriously SO GOOD), and the beauty standards episode.

The Sweetgreen episode of the MindBodyGreen podcast.

And Ken Burns’ Prohibition (on Netflix), which is very good so far!

Best life

I made these salted lavender honey nuts earlier today! Meanwhile, this tomato sandwich looks incred and these roasted Caprese peppers look legit.

Selection is a bit limited, but I can’t recommend Gap’s girlfriend shorts enough! I realized a few weeks ago that I needed shorts for camp so I stocked up on these and really love them. They are the perfect length and just look really cute on. Practical shorts for grown-ass women who semi care about looking nice: imagine that!

The week ahead…

Short week + long weekend!

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33. I’ll be in my bunk

August 19, 2018

Photo: Paul Volkmer

Hi, friends! I’m actually writing to you on Wednesday night — because for the rest of this week, I’ll be at camp in California. I’ll be completely off the grid (like, simply no cell phone reception or wifi) for three days, something that I can’t recall having experienced since…study abroad in 2006? A whole-ass DECADE! It’s going to be strange but great.

The Compact Camp is put on by my pals at A Practical Wedding, who I have known for years and worked with a bunch. (Here’s the itinerary.) I loved camp as a kid, so I’m really excited (and, of course, a little anxious). And given my recent interest in connecting more with nature, especially after reading The Nature Fix, this trip is coming at a perfect time. I’m so excited for the night sky and for the trees. 

Anyway! Given the trip, I don’t have my typical link round-up for you this week…but what I do have is some old content that may be new to you.

First, since I’m reuniting with APW, I thought it might be fun to share some of my favorite stuff that I wrote for them in my former life. Despite *gestures around sadly* everything, it still remains some of the work I’m proudest of.

My Fantasy Football Wedding
The People Want Options
On Nude Wedding Shoes
I Don’t Care If You Like My Wedding
A Practical Guide To Breaking Up With Friends
A Practical Guide To Making Friends

Read my full APW archive here.

And if that’s not enough, here are a couple other rabbit holes to go down:

The best things I read in 2017
The best things I read in 2016

See you next week!

32. Thirty-three

August 12, 2018

Illustration of Leo goddess in white gown on pink background surrounded by lion, Leo constellation, and flowers

Illustration: Alida Barden / BuzzFeed

I turned 33 this week! It was perfectly nice but…pretty uneventful, as I’m not much of a birthday person. (I actually wrote in my journal on that it was my 34th birthday and then had to cross it out.) I had a nice day at work on Tuesday with lots of sweet cards and little gifts from coworkers, and a fun and chill birthday lunch on Friday, but that was the extent of it.

I may not care about celebrating my birthday but I do love my natal chart, which is as follows:

Leo
Leo rising
Moon in Taurus
Taurus on the Midheaven
Mercury in Leo
Venus in Cancer
Mars in Leo
Jupiter in the Sixth House
Saturn in the Fourth House
Uranus in the Fourth House
Neptune in the Fifth House
Pluto in the Third House

Anyway! Here’s what else I had going on this week…

Writing

10 Life-Changing Things To Try In August

Editing

8 Practical Things You Can Do To Help Save The Bees

Reading

Spike Lee Wants BlacKkKlansman to Wake America Up, Time.

Why Co-Ed Sports Leagues Are Never Really Co-Ed, Deadspin.

Here’s Why “Insatiable” Is Actually Incredibly Offensive And Fatphobic, BuzzFeed.

I Shouldn’t Have To Lose Weight For My Wedding. So Why Do I Feel Like A Failure?, BuzzFeed News.

A Dish for When You Lose Someone You Love, The Cut.

Nine Women Talk About Their Divorces, A Cup of Jo. A lovely, real, true post with even more lovely, real, true comments.

Angry boss writing angry memos – the next installment, Ask a Manager. I don’t know why this is SO FUNNY to me.

Best life

Here’s a little dinner tip, from Dallas to me to you: cut up some pre-cooked sausage and put it on top of a frozen cheese pizza. Last night, I put some Aidell’s Italian-style sausage on top of an Amy’s four-cheese pizza and it was SO good? Like, stupid good.

I’m also currently very inspired by this post on summer pastas and this summer squash and basil pasta recipe. I’m going to make a pasta using the first guide tonight, using broccoli and the leftover sausage from last night’s pizza.

Oh, and I mentioned this on Instagram recently, but my mom has been raving about these pans ($30 on Amazon) for like a year so I finally bought them on Prime Day and can confirm they are very good! They are also very pretty.

The week ahead…

I’m heading to summer camp!

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31. Retrograde

August 5, 2018

Good & You? text

Image: Daren Thomas Magee

This week was pretty challenging at work, which meant it was pretty challenging overall. (It’s cool that all the planets are in retrograde right now!!!)

Here’s what I was up to when I wasn’t screaming into the void…

Reading

This week I read the novel Circe. I went into it knowing nothing about the mythology that inspired it, but I liked it! (I sort of want to read it again.)

Also:

The tender, terrifying truth about what happened inside the Trader Joe’s hostage siege, LA Times.

How to Spend Your Privilege, The Cut.

A Sociologist Examines the “White Fragility” That Prevents White Americans from Confronting Racism, The New Yorker. “DiAngelo sets aside a whole chapter for the self-indulgent tears of white women, so distraught at the country’s legacy of racist terrorism that they force people of color to drink from the firehose of their feelings about it.”

We’re Here. You Just Don’t See Us., Outside.

Worshiping the False Idols of Wellness, The New York Times.

The Midlife Unraveling, Brené Brown.

I tried to show my kids how tough I was. I almost died., The Lily.

This Instagram Star’s Cookbook Is Being Savaged Online For Recipes That Use Potentially Toxic Mushrooms, BuzzFeed News.

50 Tweets You’re Gonna Love If You Have A Kid Or Know A Kid, BuzzFeed.

I Tried $808 Worth Of Drunk Elephant Products — & This Is My Honest Opinion, Refinery29. “The fact that this bar is $28 and does NOT come with a soap dish is perverse. Drunk Elephant sells a nobbed dish that perfectly fits a single bar for $24 (which, hahahaha I cry). But if you have both bars, you’d need to get two. That just the dishes alone would cost $48 is already cringeworthy, but the more embarrassing scam here is that you’d be forced to become that person with two soap dishes by the sink that hold two cleansing bars, neither of which are for your hands, and that’s something you’d have to explain to every guest who uses your bathroom.”

Housekeeping

I’m finally making a newsletter!

And here’s your semi-regular reminder that if you like my link round-ups, you can Venmo me for a coffee/beer/cup of tea at rachel-w-miller.

Best life

I’ve been making this lavender honey sesame toast all week and it’s SO GOOD!

Also, on Friday morning I woke up at 5 am and was WIDE AWAKE and DID NOT WANT TO BE. I decided to try the Headspace “Falling Back to Sleep” meditation for the first time and it worked like a charm. (The secret is counting backward from 1,000 — it’s just difficult enough to get your mind to focus/stop spinning.)

The week ahead…

Turning 33!

I’m making you a newsletter!

August 5, 2018

laptop with marble surface decal and white mug on light wood desk in front of gray wall

Photo by Rachel Moenning

At long last, a newsletter is on the horizon! I have been toying with this idea for approximately four years, but initially, I was like, Well, you should probably prove that you can deliver on a regular blog post each week before you go taking on fun new things. I actually stuck with my goal of posting once a week for three years, but then I just…never got around to making the newsletter happen!

Anyway, it’ll be the exact same content you see here; you’ll just get it all in your inbox. (At some point, I may start putting ~premium~ content in it or doing some kind of extra newsletter-only content once a month, but for now…ehhh.) V1 isn’t going to be particularly fancy/pretty (which, uh, *looks at blog formatting* should not come as a surprise to you), but all the important shit will be there.

I’m going to start sending it out in a few weeks! In the meantime, you can sign up here.

30. Nature / Nurture

July 29, 2018

blue waves crashing into white rocks

Image: Quentin Lagache

HI! Here’s what I had going on this week…

Writing

The A To Z Guide To Self-Care

How To Make An Emergency Self-Care Kit

Reading

This week I read The Nature Fix (free for Kindle if you have a Prime membership) and I liked it a lot! It’s very much in line with things I’ve been thinking about recently as I attempt to have a better summer…basically, nature is good and makes us feel better. 

Also:

How an Ex-Cop Rigged McDonald’s Monopoly Game and Stole Millions, The Daily Beast. This story is wild

How the Suffrage Movement Betrayed Black Women, The New York Times. 

Les Moonves and CBS Face Allegations of Sexual Misconduct, The New Yorker. This fuckin’ guy. All these fuckin’ guys.

How Goop’s Haters Made Gwyneth Paltrow’s Company Worth $250 Million, New York Times Magazine.

Nanette Isn’t a Comedy Show. It’s a Sledgehammer., ELLE. Nanette on Netflix is so, so good. If you haven’t watched it yet, I recommend doing so, and going into it knowing very little about it. Then come back and read these pieces after you finish it.

Nanette Rewrites the History of Art, New Republic.

The Comedy-Destroying, Soul-Affirming Art of Hannah Gadsby, The New York Times.

The Adventure Therapy Cure for Survivors, Outside. (Written by the author of The Nature Fix.)

A Realization That Changed My Dating Life, A Cup of Jo.

What a Group of Progressive Nuns Taught Me About Mindful Eating, Healthyish. This is so lovely, and pairs super well with the recent Michael Pollan / Oprah’s Supersoul Conversations podcast episode that I liked so much, I listened to it twice.

Marine Biologist Melissa Cristina Márquez Was Bitten and Dragged by a Crocodile…and Lived to Tell Her Story, Jezebel.

Best life

I spent the last few months putting my energy into cooking and meditation, but the time has come…for me to start working out again. *deep side eye* Doing fun workouts (and working out at all, TBH) has been pretty difficult for me for the past three years because I have a 45-60 minute commute each way and I have to get home relatively early for Chuck. And, like, that two hours of draining commute time is very much what would be my fancy-workout-studio time. But my plan for August is to do high-intensity cardio/training three times a week at home and then — once my body is presumably a bit less weak/mushy — start occasionally going to Shadowbox, which is exactly my flavor of cult-ish bougie workout. (LOOK AT THIS. THIS IS A DIRECT ATTACK!!!)

In other news, I bought this pair of Swedish Hasbeens during their (still going on!) summer sale. I’ve never really worn clogs before because they aren’t *totally* my style but this pair makes sense on me. Also, they feel so different from flats/wedges?! But, so far, so good. I also really like that they aren’t super loud on the concrete floors at my office, which is often the case with booties and clogs.

The week ahead…

I know everyone says this every month, but I truly cannot believe it’s almost August!

29. Saugatuck

July 22, 2018

I spent the past week at home in Michigan with my family, with three days of that spent in Saugatuck with my mom and brother (who just turned FOURTEEN YEARS OLD). It was my first trip home in two years and our first-ever vacation like this. And even though the vacation was bookended by some totally unexpected and pretty shitty family drama, the trip was still so lovely. Summer in Michigan is so special, and we had truly perfect weather. I didn’t think about work or politics or much of anything except the people I was with and the way the sunlight sparkled on Lake Michigan. Ugh, I’m just so happy about all of it.

Sandals on sandy beach

Welcome to Saugatuck sign

Here are some other notes from this week…

Saugatuck things

We stayed in this Airbnb, which was great. It was a 2-minute drive from downtown Saugatuck and a 10-minute drive from Oval Beach, but the real selling point is the enclosed porch. We spent every morning and evening out there and it was just marvelous. 

We took out a boat from Retro Boat Rentals, which was great. (We saw an eagle! CATCHING A FISH! And also the kind of houses that make you deeply envious but also kind of like you want to eat the rich.)

We ordered pizza from Mitten Brewing Co. twice because it was so good. 

We did this 500-piece puzzle, which is an excellent family vacation puzzle.

And I read Mary Oliver’s Devotions, which is a beautiful book (it would make a great gift) and a surprisingly good beach read (though I’ll admit I felt like kind of a nerd reading THAT THICK of a hardcover book with a pencil on the beach). Also I guess I like birds now???? 

Here’s what else I was up to…

Reading

More Recycling Won’t Solve Plastic Pollution, Scientific American.

The Last Straw, Eater. “Plastic is seen as cheap, ‘anti-luxury,’ wasteful, and harmful to the environment. All true. Plastic is also an essential part of my health and wellness.”

Our homes don’t need formal spaces, Curbed.

Brett Kavanaugh Is Nice. That Doesn’t Mean He’s Not Sexist., Sady Doyle on Medium.

The News From the World of Beauty, VQR.

“It might not look like it, but the Resistance is winning”: An excerpt from Inspired, Rachel Held Evans.

When You Over-Exercise, the Habit Can Be Hard to Shake, Man Repeller.

A Guide for Dealing With Flaky Friends, Rookie.

The forgotten feminist history of the French fairy tale., The Local France.

Can Andy Byford Save the Subways?, The New Yorker.

In Praise of Drunk Cleaning, Apartment Therapy.

Getting to the Bottom of ‘Thrift Store Smell’, The New York Times.

The week ahead…

Just trying to adjust back to normal life! 

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