A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading, forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as well.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

Jaime Licauco

Inquirer

MANILA, Philippines―This story was told to me by the wife of the man involved.

Jose was a lowly clerk in a government agency in Quezon City. His salary was barely enough to support his wife, but Jose was consumed by a desire to own a Canon SLR 35mm still camera with a zoom.

Its cost was way beyond his meager income. Digital cameras were not yet in vogue at that time.

So he contented himself by looking at the Canon camera in a store near his office. Every day, after office hours, he would go to that shop and just stare at the camera displayed there.

He imagined owning the camera and using it with delight. Every day he never failed to stop by the shop just to look at the camera of his dream. He would just stand in front of the glass display case for a few minutes and leave quietly.

I cannot recall how many weeks he did that routine.

A surprise

Then, one evening, a cousin who had just arrived from Saudi Arabia where he was an overseas Filipino worker telephoned.

“Pinsan!” the cousin exclaimed. “I bought you something from Saudi. I hope you like it.”

“What is it?” Jose eagerly asked.

“Well, I bought a camera for you.”

“What kind of camera?”

“It’s a Canon SLR 35mm camera with a zoom!”

Jose almost fainted. He never told his cousin he had been dreaming of such a camera for a long time but could not afford it. His strong desire, affirmation, visualization and intention to own that camera became a reality in no time at all!

Professional gamblers, as well as successful businessmen, are very much aware of the power of positive affirmation or suggestion. When betting on a number or launching a new project they do not let a negative thought enter their minds. They believe it is bad luck to think of negative things.

We Filipinos have an intuitive knowledge of the power of thought. If somebody during a trip says, “Be careful or we may have an accident,” another is likely to exclaim, “Don’t say that. It might come true!”

Scientific studies conducted in the west proved the power of intention or positive affirmation. It has been scientifically shown for example that intention can retard the hatching of a fruit fly’s larvae and affect the alkalinity of water.

He cursed a container of water and froze it. Under a microscope, he saw the water crystals scattered and in disarray. When he expressed loving thoughts before the water, the molecular structure became harmonious and beautiful.

The experiment was repeated over a long period of time using different emotions. Sometimes, a piece of paper with words written on it was left on the water. The results were similar. It seems there is an innate intelligence in water and in nature in general.

In my Inner Mind Development Institute, I have the following motto:

This is another way of stating the Law of Affirmation or Intention. We are the ones that put limits to what we can do or accomplish. Remove the mental limitations and we can accomplish anything we want.

“This world,” as Buddhist masters have been telling us, “is largely our own mental creation.” We create our own reality. We are, in a very real and literal sense, co-creators with God.

Ancient mystics of the East have been saying this for thousands of years. And now modern western particle physicists are saying the same thing.

It is because of the tremendous power of the human mind that the Bible forbids us to curse anyone, because a curse can result in real physical injury or harm to others.

A curse is similar to a spell inflicted on a victim. It brings serious karmic consequences to the perpetrator. That is why we are forbidden to curse anyone. If we do this, we suffer somehow a karmic debt for which we have to pay later in life.

I have received letters from readers telling me that whenever they wished for something, they always got it. They wondered why that was so. That is due to the operation of the Law of Affirmation or Suggestion, one of the secret laws of nature.

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Isn’t this article interesting and meaningful? I remember the saying “Whenever you dream of something, don’t aim for the roof, just aim for the sky.” Because if you did not reach the sky, you still got something from the roof and it’s not just bird shit. J