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The Good Stuff: May 5 thru May 11, 2013

2013-05-13T14:20:00.000-05:00

I'm a little late posting this because, well, yesterday was Mother's Day. So, I hope all of you moms had a lovely day and all of you kids made sure you reminded your mom how much she means to you.

Abercrombie & Fitch CEO Mike Jeffries

By now many of you have read, or at least heard about, the recent backlash regarding remarks made by Abercrombie & Fitch CEO, Mike Jeffries, in a 2006 interview with the online magazine, Salon.com. In the interview, Jeffries attributes part of his company's success to the decision to market clothing only to thin, cool, popular kids. Personally, I have experienced my own battle with this company regarding its lack of customer service skills and have not bought – or walked into – an A&F store in over five years. I know it’s not much, but it is my personal boycott, and I have always felt eventually karma will dictate that this company will suffer from its unwillingness to treat paying customers appreciatively. Hahaha, turns out I was right. People all over the country are now up in arms about this man and his ridiculous statements regarding how the brand chooses to merchandise its clothing. And, yes, they have the right to do whatever they want. But, let’s get real here, Abercrombie & Fitch does not sell things we NEED. They sell things we WANT – and so do a lot of other retail outlets. Customers also have the right to spend their money wherever they want and, thankfully, more and more people are choosing to spend their money with companies that exhibit a positive corporate conscience. Unfortunately, I imagine our complaining about A&F’s openly discriminatory and inflammatory remarks won’t change their successful corporate image, but maybe, just maybe, enough customers – and investors because, let’s face it, money talks and A&F is part of the publicly traded Limited Brand – will refuse to place their money with such an openly irresponsible and discriminatory company. Based on what I’ve read and seen about A&F, it’s been a long time coming, anyway.

Now, on to this week’s good stuff!

Here in Joplin a fourth grade student was one of three students nationally recognized in this year’s Scholastic Read 180 All StarAwards. Karen Alvaredo moved to the U.S. two years ago and spoke no English. Now she attends West Central Elementary in Joplin and reads at a grade level above her peers. I think that’s a pretty awesome achievement for such a young kid!

I don’t know if any of you read this piece in Huffington Post about Joshua Williams, who graduates this year from Bethune-Cookman University in Florida and was homeless for his first three years of college. Williams is also the first Bethune-Cookman student at the university to start his own scholarship. Of all the stories I read this week, I think this is my favorite and the most inspirational.

Also in Joplin, Mr. Obert, a social studies teacher at South Middle School, was named Missouri's Patricia Behring Teacher of the Year, which qualifies him to represent Missouri in the National Patricia Behring Teacher of the Year competition. Congratulations on a well-deserved recognition, Mr. Obert, and good luck in the national competition!

Finally, my friends over at The God Article shared this beautiful video endorsing random acts of kindness. I love it – and not just because they used Matisyahu’s song, “One Day” (although, it didn’t hurt….)

Stuff My Mom Taught Me

2013-05-11T16:47:00.002-05:00

My mom is a no-nonsense kind of person who speaks the truth, always providing an honest answer when you ask for her advice and opinion. I know that if I need a level-headed, objective viewpoint on an issue, my mom is the one to go to. Additionally, if my mom tells me I’m good at something, I know it must be true because she doesn’t want to see my brother or me wasting our time pursuing something for which we possess little to no aptitude when we could be utilizing our talents elsewhere in a more productive manner. She has always been my biggest cheerleader – and I know that her support is always sincere. She is not overly sentimental, but she did write a beautiful, heart-felt essay last year for my “In Celebration of Mothers” series. While the subject of her praise was none other than her daughter (that would be me!), it is only fair to point out that all the traits my mom recognized in me are the same mothering characteristics that she possesses and I came to take for granted – and then later appreciate. My mom is adventurous, kind, loving, accepting, curious, intelligent, well-spoken, and fun. In short, she is all the things I have always wanted to be as an adult.

Because of her strength, honesty, and integrity, I learned from an early age to heed her advice. Here are just a few of the gems she taught me, things that I have passed on to my own kids and I hope you, too, will find useful in your own parenting journey.

“Treat others the way you want them to treat you.” (I know, duh, right? But, seriously, how many of us remind our kids about the Golden Rule these days? My mom drilled it into our heads while we were growing up and I’m glad she did.)

“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” (Hello, all you Facebookers who like to post nasty political commentary. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt that you don’t know any better because Terry Thornton wasn’t your mom. But now you know, so stop it.)

“Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” (These words guide my actions almost daily. Except when debating on whether or not to make a Starbucks run. Whenever you can go to Starbucks, you should. Sorry, Mom.)

“Show up for work early and ready to do your job. I don’t care how bad you feel. There are at least ten other people out there who need your job more than you do, be thankful someone gave you such a wonderful opportunity.” (She told me this when I took my first job as a cashier at the local Winn-Dixie. My work ethic still reflects this advice today.)

“Nothing is more important than your education.”

“Money can’t buy you happiness – but it does make it easier to pay the bills. Get an education so you can get a good job.”

“Your brother is just trying to aggravate you. Ignore him, he’ll outgrow it.” (OK, she may have been a little too lenient on this one. He always knew he could get away with driving me crazy. Just ask him.)

“Always remember to save for a rainy day. You never know what life will throw at you.”

“Do it right the first time. It will save you so much energy in the long run.” (Especially when you are the one assigned to hand wash the dishes every night. Trust me, getting caught putting a dirty dish in the cabinet and then told to wash every dish, pot, and pan in the kitchen all over again is a very lengthy and tedious job. Yes, I speak from experience here.)

“Do yourself a favor and always tell the truth. A lie is just too hard to keep going.”

And, lastly, my personal favorite, “Pick that up. We do not have a maid in this house.”

Thank you, Mom, for teaching me how to be a responsible, compassionate, caring, thoughtful, and grateful human being. Truly, all my good qualities came from you. (Of course, on Father’s Day I’ll find some to attribute to Dad, just to be fair.)

Happy Mother’s Day!

Foodie Fridays: Quinoa With Creamy Vodka Sauce

2013-05-10T00:00:00.000-05:00

I love cooking. I know, I know, sometimes it’s more a chore than an opportunity for artistic expression, but from time to time I do get to experiment in the kitchen and create something healthy, gourmet, and delicious. Last week I experienced such a moment.

Found this in the pantry....

The rainy, cold weather kept us from venturing out to either the grocery store or a restaurant for dinner one evening so I decided to make something from ingredients I found in my fridge and cabinets. Sounds easy, peasy, right? You betcha….

I looked around and found a box of quinoa macaroni, some canned tomatoes, a couple cloves of fresh garlic, milk, and artichoke hearts (yes, actually, I do always have jars of artichoke hearts on hand. I buy them at Sam’s and they add an extra-special touch to anything from dips to pizzas to, of course, pasta dishes).

Everyone should have one of these in the fridge.
And an extra one in the pantry.

You know what sounded good to me that night? Pasta with creamy vodka sauce. Unfortunately I didn’t have any jars of pasta sauce on hand so I did what most home cooks these days do: I searched the Internet for recipe ideas. And I found this yummy, easy-to-follow recipe from The Pioneer Woman. Except of course I had to improvise a bit because, as I mentioned before, I could only use the ingredients I had on hand. And it was absolutely delicious. We’re talking no-leftovers-amazing here, people. Instead of canned tomato puree, I tossed a can of diced tomatoes into the Magic Bullet and pureed away. Also, no heavy cream in the fridge so, yes, I used whole milk (but, please, don’t tell The Pioneer Woman. I don’t want her to ban me from her site for future ~~stalking~~ recipe searches. I just added some extra butter at the end and, voila! Delicious!) I also didn't have any vodka, but I found one of those little airplane bottles hiding out in the liquor cabinet (no, I have no idea why it was there or how it got there but, hey, whatever....) So, go ahead, give it a try. The quinoa, as I’ve mentioned before, is a satisfying, gluten-free, vegetarian-friendly substitute for traditional pasta. Lastly, I added some dried basil to the sauce while it simmered. Awesome!

Surprise!

For point of reference, on the left is a Magic Bullet cup.
On the right is the stowaway vodka bottle....

Try it for yourself one night - and then let me know how you liked it!

Cooper Vocelka

2013-05-08T00:00:00.000-05:00

Today we say goodbye to a truly inspiring young man, Cooper Vocelka. Our local paper, The Joplin Globe, printed two beautiful tributes to Cooper, here and here. Cooper taught us the importance of utilizing our time here on earth to step outside our own egos and use our talents, no matter how big or small, to help others. I believe Cooper's desire to make a positive impact on others' lives, in spite of his own illness, will be his legacy.

One of Cooper's passions was advocating for support for brain cancer research, particularly through the CERN Foundation. Back in March I wrote a piece about Cooper's fund raiser, a chili cook-off for cancer research. If you are so moved, please consider making a contribution to the CERN Foundation in Cooper's memory. Thank you.

Chili Cook-Off for Cancer Research

"Not long ago I received a Facebook invite to attend a chili cook-off in Joplin. Since I love chili and never met a cook-off I didn’t like, I visited the event’s page to learn more about the details surrounding the upcoming culinary competition. This particular fundraiser hopes to raise awareness (and money, every fundraiser hopes to raise money) for the CERN (Collaborative Ependymoma Research Network) Foundation, whose mission is to “develop new treatments for ependymoma (a rare type of brain cancer), thereby improving the outcomes and care of patients, ultimately leading to a cure.” But what really caught my eye about this particular fundraiser was the fact that it is being hosted by high school students and not, as I initially thought, by a church or other adult-led organization...." To continue reading this article, please go here.

Music Mondays: L. Ron Hubbard’s "Twenty Fathoms Down"

2013-05-06T00:00:00.000-05:00

I know, I know. You read the title to this post and thought to yourself, “What on earth does L. Ron Hubbard have to do with music? Is this a new band? Did Tom Cruise make a CD? Is Dawn going to highlight some Sonny & Cher music here today? Or, perhaps Lisa Marie Presley?”

No, that’s not what today’s post is about (although it would be fun to write about Lisa Marie. Maybe in a later Music Mondays post….)

Today I want to talk to you about L. Ron Hubbard, the writer, NOT the founder of The Church of Scientology. I don’t know much about Scientology, and, frankly, am uninterested in exploring its philosophy (although, I AM still a fan of Tom Cruise – Top Gun Tom Cruise, to be specific).

Not long ago I was contacted by the folks at Galaxy Press, a company that specializes in promoting the pulp fiction works of L. Ron Hubbard both in print and on CD. Galaxy Press aims to reintroduce readers to the “timeless short fiction stories from one of the most prolific writers of the pulp fiction era, L. Ron Hubbard”.

While I am an avid reader (more or less), I have never listened to an audio book, so I opted for the CD version of Twenty Fathoms Down. And, yes, listening to an audio book meant sacrificing some music listening time in the car, but since I have some friends who swear by audio books, I figured I’d see for myself if audio books are the way to go. Plus, this provided me with the excuse to write about my experience during "Music Mondays" (see how that worked?)

It was great fun. Even my boys enjoyed listening to the adventures of Hawk Ridley, Caribbean fortune hunter protagonist extraordinaire. Here is a sample description of Hawk’s adventure, via Galaxy Press’s marketing copy:

“As daring and defiant as Kirk Douglas journeying 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea, there’s no stopping diver Hawk Ridley as he takes the plunge into a briny world of untold riches and danger.
The Caribbean is a fortune hunter’s dream, salted with the gold of galleons long ago claimed by the deep. Now Hawk’s headed for the Windward Passage of Haiti to stake his claim. But a rival team has also picked up the scent, and they’re willing to turn the sea red with blood to get to the gold first. Fighting off ruthless competitors is nothing new to Hawk…but fighting off a beautiful woman is a different story. Is she an innocent stowaway or a seductive saboteur? Between the cool millions lying on the bottom of the ocean, and the boiling-hot race to grab it, Hawk’s about to find the answer and make a discovery Twenty Fathoms Down that will blow you out of the water.”

Seriously, how could I resist such a promise for excitement and entertainment, especially during my daily excursions around town? While some of the story’s content is obviously dated (such as the diving apparatus Hawk dons when performing his underwater explorations), the basic themes of good guys vs. bad guys, romance, and adventure remain timeless. And, I have to tell you, the audio cinematic rendition really contributed to the overall experience. The narrator’s reading enhances the feeling of enjoying a “golden age” story, offering dramatic interpretations at just the right moment. And the sound effects actually made me feel like I was right there, in the middle of all the action.

While I enjoyed the audio book experience, there was a downside: I became a bit distracted from my driving while I was engrossed in the story. So, I think, for me, an audio book might best be enjoyed while I am traveling as a passenger instead of the driver. Or, as I plan to do with the next audio book, listen over the computer while at home or in Starbucks. It’s a great way to enjoy such an action packed story!

Check out this YouTube video for even more info on these new audio cinematic experiences....

How about you - have you ever read an L. Ron Hubbard book? Do you like audio books? Do you have a preference between audio books vs. traditional books? C'mon, let me know, since I asked and all....

Mother's Day 2013

2013-05-01T00:00:00.000-05:00

Makes me smile every time....

In case you haven’t noticed those emails in your inboxes with the subject, “What to get Mom this year,” I’m here to remind you that Mother’s Day is just around the corner. This year it falls on Sunday, May 12, as a matter of fact.

So, what are you going to do for Mom this year? Flowers? Candy? Jewelry? Dinner? A card? All these ideas provide the opportunity to show your appreciation for a mom who loves you unconditionally (even when you talk back to her or make stupid choices. Stop doing those things, by the way). However, what if you took a little more time and gave Mom a gift from the heart this year? You know, something that makes her think of you and smile every time she sees it? And, wouldn’t it be great if such a gift didn’t send you to the poor house? (I know Mom would appreciate that aspect of the gift, too.)

What if you could find a perfect gift for Mom for $25 or less?

It can be done, you know. There are lots of fun ideas out there. Wine glass koozies, decorative flip flops, chocolate covered strawberries, or even a sentimental book like Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul are all brilliant, inexpensive ideas for gifts that will keep Mom smiling long past May 12^th (except for the strawberries, of course. Those things will be lucky to make it past dinnertime.)

Personally, one of my all-time favorite Mother's Day gifts is a picture of my oldest daughter and me taken the night of her junior prom. My daughter simply took a picture of the two of us from that evening, had it enlarged, and put it in a gorgeous, ornate frame purchased from Hobby Lobby (at half price, no less). Since my daughter and I designed her dress ourselves, this picture serves as a reminder of the fun we had picking out fabric, combining designs from red carpet celebrity gowns, and then adding our own unique style elements to create the perfect prom dress. The result was a one-of-a-kind gown that perfectly fit both her physique and personality, and I will forever be thankful that she allowed me to be such a vital part of a significant moment in her high school experience. What could be better than knowing your kid enjoys your company almost as much as you enjoy hers?

So, this year step outside of the box and give Mom something that reminds her of an experience that brought joy and happiness to both of you. I promise she’ll be delighted by the gesture. Of course, I also wouldn't be offended if my kids decided to get me my own pair of Beats by Dr. Dre....

This post is entered in the Mother's Day Your Way contest on NerdWallet. Please be sure you visit their site and browse though some of the other entries and perhaps consider writing your own post about the best Mother's Day gift for under $25!

National Poetry Month: We All Fall for Ashes

2013-04-30T00:00:00.000-05:00

Photo by Jessica Kory

Back in February, when I first learned about National Poetry Month, I sought out some bloggers who use their platform to focus on poetry. One of the blogs I found was, “Not the Rockefellers”. I immediately fell in love with Rene’s blog because she writes “painless poetry for short attention spans” (Dyanne, you might want to go check out her site.) As a matter of fact, I highly encourage all of you to pop over and pay her a visit. I promise you won’t be disappointed – check out these reviews found on her “About” page if you don’t believe me:

“The childish scrawling of a Mariah Carey/Jewell wannabee.” – Anonymous

“I loved the last stanza because it was almost over.” – Hinkey Bleck

I mean, with such rave reviews, who can resist, right?

Thankfully, Rene liked my idea about celebrating National Poetry Month here on “Since You Asked…” and agreed to share one of her pieces with us. I hope you enjoy Rene’s wordsmithery (hey, it’s a word because I said so) and then be sure to ~~stalk~~ frequent her place from time to time for a little bit of what I like to refer to as “poetry for the poetically-challenged”.

We All Fall for Ashes

white smoke
collection plate
chalk dust rubbed
from heaven’s slate
lace mantilla
frames your face
kiss me
with the passion
of a suffering
saint

grace amazing
december eight
the night is dark
and the hour’s
late
your sights
above me
yet here i wait
lighting up
another courage
break

chasing haloes
my breath
you take
my soul you burn
down
to the stake

watch them all line up
see them all fall down
for the sake of ashes

Lord the way you
roll me
holy smokes

let me
into you
a sacred,
secret work
of art and
i will love you
and all that
you ponder
in your
heart

Rene ~ December 30, 2012
Magpie Tales

National Poetry Month: Needles by Ellen Goodrich

2013-04-25T00:00:00.000-05:00

As we near the end of April, I wish to share with you a few more poems sent to me in honor of National Poetry Month. Today's poem is another ecopoetic piece written by Ellen Goodrich. I hope you enjoy!

Needles by Ellen Goodrich

The sun stinging

late a.m. early p.m.

eyes, squinting to see

a bird fly in from the left

and land next to me

on black concrete

where I and those before me

tossed cigarette butts

(and once I had even seen

a bum piecing through,

trying to salvage one

that was nothing but

filter)

but the bird was not

interested in why

we do the things that

we do.

He picked up a

Hypodermic needle

in his tiny beak

and flew to repair his nest

situated in the neon

shop sign above.

Tell me what you think about poetry and this year's National Poetry Month: What have you learned about poetry that you didn't know before? Did you find any poems you enjoyed? If so, which one(s) and why? Were you inspired to write your own poetry? Would you like to share with us here at "Since You Asked...."?

A Dead Gull and a Map of the World - National Poetry Month, 2013

2013-04-18T00:00:00.000-05:00

Perhaps my favorite poems are those that take everyday events and turn them into something magical. Sarah Fox is a poet who possesses a great sense of intuitiveness in regard to making the most of life’s small moments. Of course, it doesn’t hurt that her everyday life consists of a magnificent historical home not far from the Pacific coast outside of Seattle. Oh, and her idyllic surroundings also consist of a husband intent on helping make the world more just, a son who “swears in context”, and two adorable dog children. Also, her mission statement is awesome: “We believe in social justice, equity, and wind power.” Don’t you all want to be her friend, too?

As Sarah says over on her blog, Overeducated Waitress, “…while the future cannot be anticipated, I am glad to say that these are the most satisfying days of my life.” Her poetry clearly illustrates this sentiment in her ability to make us stop and reflect on even the smallest of life’s details.

Today Sarah shares one of her beautiful pieces with us. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do!

A Dead Gull and a Map of the World by Sarah Fox

Driving home from Violet’s 2nd birthday party,
which was sweet in every way imaginable,
Callum and I discussed the colors of the things we passed,
orange backhoes and green trees, yellow cars and blue signs.
I passed a seagull in the right hand lane,
its wings were outstretched,
and it had been run over several times.
And I thought about the colors of the scene,
and about flying
and how sometimes life is wrought
with unpredictable happenings.
Callum chattered in the backseat, showing me his party favors in the rearview
Ahead, I saw a crumpled piece of trash dancing along the shoulder of the highway
I reached one hand into the backseat to receive
the item my son needed help with
and in that moment
the trash lifted up into the winter sky
and was unfurled
by the wind
revealing before me a perfectly unfolded
map of the world
i exited the highway
and drove up the hill to our house
demonstrating
how to blow into a paper whistle party favor
which was yellow
and unfurled with a tweet
at the end of the curl of paper,
much to my two-year old son’s delight.

Don't forget, if you would like to learn more about poetry - and how to read it - visit the poetry foundation's website for some wonderful, interesting, and helpful suggestions on how poetry provides an opportunity to view the world from a different perspective.

Conversations With a 12-Year Old

2013-04-16T00:00:00.000-05:00

Today, strictly for entertainment purposes, I’d like to share some electronic conversations I have had with my youngest child. Last year, for his eleventh birthday, his father and I decided to buy him an iPhone (don’t get all judgmental on me here, people. It cost us a penny.) Naturally he was ecstatic and immediately launched into text messages with us and all those who inhabit his world (you know, people like his siblings, his best friend, his grandparents, his teachers, his golf coach. You get the picture.) Because I like all of you so much, I believe you deserve the opportunity to catch a small glimpse at the exciting events that occur in my life on a daily basis. Misery likes company, you know.

Here, for your edification and, I’m sure, sheer delight, are a few conversations I’ve had with The Kid since he acquired a smart phone.

Sent to me while I was downstairs when he stayed home, "sick", and was up in his room.

Part 1 of 2 (see below). A charming attempt to get some extra cash out of me.

Part 2. As you can see, it didn't work, and I kept my promise.

What I received when I requested some ideas for Christmas gifts. For the record he did NOT get a new iPhone. Or any candy.

As you can see, he is quite the character. What funny/interesting/unexpected notes or texts have you received from your offspring? Are they worth repeating? Are they G-rated - or am I the only one who has to worry about censuring correspondence I receive from my boys? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments section below!

National Poetry Month - Styrofoam Home

2013-04-12T00:00:00.000-05:00

Photo courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

My daughter’s dear childhood friend, Ellen Goodrich, attends the University of Kansas and has found her literary and artistic niche in poetry. Currently finishing her second year at KU, Ellen is the head literary editor of Kiosk, the university’s student-run art and literature journal.

Recently Ellen introduced me to “ecopoetics”, a budding genre that looks at humanity in relation to nature, rather than separate from nature. A blend of poetics, science, and theory, ecopoetics places an emphasis on drawing conclusions between human activity and how it is influenced by the surrounding environment. Personally, I enjoy the way that Ellen looks at ordinary objects and uses them to tell us her personal story in a relatable manner. What do you think?

Styrofoam Home by Ellen Goodrich

I once snuffed

cigarettes on fallen leaves

just to smell something familiar

in a town where

I felt I was other.

Back then I knew only that

the ground was always below me

(a mixture of dirt and broken rock

and particles of snipes

from countless smokers before)

and the ash tray was always

several steps

too far away.

I haven’t smoked in weeks but

since then I’ve smelled

burning leaves

and I’ve learned that

most cities are the same

clump of buildings with

different bodies

navigating the interiors.

Some nights I have

found myself walking

on streets, smelling

food rotting in dumpsters

in alleyways running

parallel to strips of shops

and restaurants,

populated by parents and

children and people on first dates

who donated five bucks to

an eco-conscious charity

worker on the corner of

8th and Massachusetts

to give a good impression

and they will take home

their leftovers

in sectioned-off

Styrofoam boxes.

Poetry can be challenging to read, but it is well worth the effort. If you are curious about poetry (and I certainly hope you are) check out this link over on the Poetry Foundation's website. Here you will find some strategies meant to assist you in your budding interest in this wonderful literary genre.

The Good Stuff: March 31, 2013 thru April 6, 2013

2013-04-07T00:00:00.000-05:00

April is Starbucks’ Global Month of Service. My favorite coffee corporation is encouraging its customers to get involved in service projects around their local communities.

“The fact is, due to its worldwide popularity, coffee is probably the greatest source of antioxidants in the global diet.”

And, speaking of coffee…. In an article on HuffPost this week, nutritionist Kristen Kirkpatrick discusses nine ways that drinking coffee enhances our health and well-being. Excuse me while I go drink another cup of java, sans guilt!

Do you, like me, possess a black thumb in the home gardening arena? Since my horticulture skills are extremely limited, I am always on the look-out for easy-care, low maintenance houseplants (and yes, they usually belong to the plant group fakeus plasticus). MSN created a nice list – complete with pictures – of some of the most resilient houseplants on the market today. Check them out and challenge yourself to try caring for one of these plants in your home.

“We’ve lost our civility, the ability to have public discussion that isn’t harsh or dismissive but respectful and genuinely open to dialogue and disagreement. We’ve also lost our ability to really listen to one another. We’ve lost our capacity for political compromise, for actually finding solutions instead of just continually blaming each other for problems.”

This is a quote from the new book, On God’s Side: What Religion Forgets and Politics Hasn’t Learned About Serving the Common Good, by Jim Wallis. In his new book, Wallis discusses the current state of American politics and what he deems as its distraction from working toward the common good. On Friday, April 5, Arianna Huffington participated in a conversation with Wallis, moderated by HuffPost Religion editor, Paul Raushenbush. During the conversation Huffington not only asked about Wallis’s new book and his sabbatical that led to its writing, but also discussed various ways today’s technology can help businesses and the private sector work toward the common good during a time when our government’s leadership appears distracted by the game of politics. Head over to HuffPost to learn more about Wallis’s book and Huffington’s synopsis of its relevance in today’s world.

Also, remember that April is National Poetry Month. I will continue highlighting poetry throughout the month by both published and non-published writers. If you would like to explore poetry more deeply, head over to Poets.org, where you can learn about ways to celebrate poetry in your community, read works from classic and contemporary poets, and even sign up to have daily poetry delivered to your inbox.

Hope all of you have a lovely Spring Week!

National Poetry Month: Daffodils

2013-04-02T00:00:00.000-05:00

Image courtesy of Arvind Balaraman, FreeDigitalPhotos.net

April is National Poetry Month, and to celebrate this literary form for which I fear I possess no talent, here on “Since You Asked….” I will be posting poems written by both published and non-published poets.

Poetry touches each of us in many different ways. The talented poet takes both the mundane and exhilarating moments in life and uses words to describe these experiences in ways that evoke our emotions and imaginations. When we read poetry, we breathe in the deep aroma of roses, feel the sea spray on our cheeks and ache for a lost love. Our hearts and minds undulate with the rhythm and flow of the words we read while every syllable draws us into the poet’s mind and heart and touches our souls in ways never before imagined.

Truly, poetry is one of the most beautiful and efficient forms of literature.

To kick off National Poetry Month, I would like to share with you one of my favorite childhood poems, William Wordsworth’s Daffodils. Hope you enjoy!

I wandered lonely as a cloud

That floats on high o'er vales and hills,

When all at once I saw a crowd,

A host, of golden daffodils;

Beside the lake, beneath the trees,

Fluttering and dancing in the breeze.

Continuous as the stars that shine

And twinkle on the milky way,

They stretched in never-ending line

Along the margin of a bay:

Ten thousand saw I at a glance,

Tossing their heads in sprightly dance.

The waves beside them danced; but they

Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:

A poet could not but be gay,

In such a jocund company:

I gazed--and gazed--but little thought

What wealth the show to me had brought:

For oft, when on my couch I lie

In vacant or in pensive mood,

They flash upon that inward eye

Which is the bliss of solitude;

And then my heart with pleasure fills,

And dances with the daffodils.

How about you? Do you like poetry? What is your favorite poem? Do you have any poems you'd like to share? If so, feel free to send them to me at dhsticklen@gmail.com.

Inopportune Traffic Lights and Tardiness

2013-03-19T00:00:00.000-05:00

Image courtesy of domdeen of FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Ever have one of those days? You know, the kind where NOTHING goes the way you planned? Yep, one of those. Today was my day for borderline epic motherhood failure. OK, maybe not THAT bad. I mean, no one was hurt and no animals were sacrificed in an effort to get the stars aligned properly (although, if a stray ram crossed my path and threw itself in front of my car in order to please the traffic light gods, I probably would have taken him up on his offer).

You see, it all went down like this….

“Mom! Don’t forget that I need to take that science test after school today so I can opt out of basic science next year.”

“OK, what time is the test, and where do you need to go?” I asked. This is a school-sponsored event, how inconvenient could it be, right?

“I need to be over at the high school by 4:00,” she answered in between bites of Chocolate Chex cereal.

“No problem,” I told her. Piece of cake, I thought to myself.

Off to work I went, with nary a care in the world. As usual, my day passed uneventfully. I paid bills, answered phones, wrote essays, and conversed with my co-workers. Unfortunately, that whole “conversing with the co-workers” business managed to contribute to my ultimate downfall later in the day.

Hey, I have stories to tell. And they are good ones – stuff my fellow working stiffs need to hear about.

With about ten minutes to spare, I wrapped up my last tall tale of the day and raced out to my car to go pick up the kid. As I ~~screeched~~ pulled my car into the school’s circular driveway I realized the buses in front of me were at a standstill. A suburban was shut down in the middle of the drive, its owner inside the building, completely oblivious to the resulting traffic jam. I waited ten minutes until the driver came running out, visibly flustered by her negligence. I whipped my car into an empty parking space and briskly walked into the front office to retrieve the kiddo.

Only slightly fazed by this disruption to my schedule, I decided to go ahead and fill my car up with gas before making my way over to the high school campus. Hey, I still had twenty minutes before start time, and my fuel range read, “get gas NOW”.

After I fed the beast with fossil fuel, I climbed back into the driver’s seat and proceeded to head toward the high school.

OK, here’s where things got a little hairy. As a result of the tornado that completely destroyed our city’s high school two years ago, the current, temporary high school is divided into a 9/10 campus and an 11/12 campus. When I asked my daughter where the test was being offered, I thought she told me the 9/10 campus, which is on my side of town, a mere five minute drive from the gas station I was currently sitting at. Unfortunately, as I pulled the car onto the street that leads to that campus, my daughter said, “You do know it’s at the 11/12 campus, right?”

No, actually, I did NOT know the test was on the other side of town – a fifteen minute drive if all the stars line up properly.

“Okay,” I told her, “we can still make this work. Text your friend and tell her to let the test administrator know we are on our way.”

A brief minute passed and my daughter yelled out, “She says they’ve already started!”

“WHAT?” I looked over at the clock on my dash. It read, 3:42. “No, they can’t start now. Didn’t they tell you 4:00?”

“Oh, wait. She says she’s just kidding.” Not funny.

We kept on driving and approached our first traffic light just as it changed from yellow to red. No big deal. Unless, of course, the remaining seven traffic signals on our route also turned red as we approached. Which they did.

As we neared the high school campus, we sat through one last red light and finally turned onto the street that led to the finish line when what do we pull behind but a school bus. With its stop signs out. What are the odds?

Somehow we managed to pull into the school parking lot at precisely 3:59, just in time for my kid to take the test (we weren’t even the last ones there – the light gods were working overtime all over the city, I guess). In the end, she took the test, no sweat. Well, except for that brief time period when I pulled behind a driver who was so absorbed in his cell phone conversation that he was driving 30 mph in a 40 mph speed zone. I was sweating quite profusely then, not to mention swearing (in my head, of course)….

How about you? Have you ever been inadvertently late for something? Have you ever made your kid late for something important? How on earth do you get the traffic signals to operate in your favor?

Things That Make Me Smile

2013-03-15T10:55:00.002-05:00

Spring Break in Joplin, MO

Today is the unofficial start of Spring Break for my kids’ school (they actually have the day off due to parent/teacher conferences, but, hey, a day off is a day off.) For many years our family took advantage of this break and booked trips to exciting destinations such as Disney, Puerto Rico, Hawaii (never again, I might add), San Diego, Los Angeles, and Las Vegas (because the family that gambles together stays together. Okay, just kidding). However, recently we have opted to simply stay home and, you know what? I kind of like taking a week off and just hanging out around the house with the family. Also, this next week in Joplin offers a lot of options for fun stuff to do while we enjoy our “staycation”.

This morning, while my kids slept in to celebrate their upcoming week of carefree living, I quietly completed my morning routine and readied myself for a day at the office. On the drive across town to purchase my morning Starbucks I contemplated the things that brought a smile to my face so early in the day. I decided to share these little pieces of happiness today, so I hope you enjoy!

Things That Brought a Smile to my Face Today:

My dogs wishing me a good morning when I hopped out of bed.
Bright sunshine and mild temperatures in Missouri, in the middle of March.
Realizing that I still like the clothes I picked out last night to wear today.
The peacefulness of getting showered and dressed while the rest of the house slept quietly.
The feel of the morning’s fresh air that blew in through the open windows as I drove my car.
Hearing one of my favorite songs from my freshman year in college on the radio (thank goodness for satellite radio!)
Thinking about playing the guitar for the season opener of Joplin’s Third Thursday next week.
Checking the rear-view mirror and seeing a large dog sticking his head out of the window of the car behind me.
Knowing that, even in Joplin, there is a Starbucks just up the street from just about anywhere in town.
Having my favorite barista at said Starbucks hand me my order at the drive-thru (no, he’s not my favorite because he’s hot (he’s not. In fact, he’s probably the oldest barista there – even older than I am). He’s my favorite because he is the friendliest barista in town. Plus, we’ve known him for several years, well before he worked for Starbucks).
Knowing that the eldest child will be home in four days for her spring break from college.

Have a great weekend!

What things made you smile today? Are you experiencing good weather in your neck of the woods? Do you have plans for Spring Break? Let me know in the comments section below!

Kevin Bowman, a 2013 PhotoSpiva Selected Photographer

2013-03-06T15:22:00.000-06:00

"Intensity"
model Emily Paullus photographed by Kevin Bowman

In my recent blog post about the upcoming annual PhotoSpiva exhibit, I told you about how much I love photographic images. Oftentimes a single image conveys a more compelling story than the most finely crafted novel. Kevin Bowman’s photo, “Intensity”, one of eighty images selected for the 2013 exhibit, is no exception. One glance at this image and I, too, experienced the determination and focus displayed on this athlete’s face. The fierceness of the darkened sky mirrors the concentration on the hurdler’s face while the physical definition of her body underscores her extraordinary dedication to her sport. Clearly, this is an athlete who has spent countless hours in the pursuit of excellence. In an instant I understood an integral part of this young woman’s life just by looking at her picture.

That is what makes photography an exciting art form.

Kevin Bowman inadvertently discovered photography as a creative outlet ten years ago when he bought his wife, Tania, her first 35mm camera for a Mother’s Day gift. While Tania finessed her craft by taking pictures and then sending them to a traditional developing studio for prints, Kevin discovered digital photography and the control it offered in creating artistic images through editing programs such as Adobe Lightroom and Photoshop CS6. According to Kevin, “Digital has taken the guesswork out of photography. Digital photography allows the photographer more creative freedom and control of the finished product.”

For example, with his image, “Intensity”, Kevin explored several different editing choices before finally deciding to print the picture in black and white. As a black and white photo, the viewer is drawn to the subject’s “architecture” – the muscular contours of her body – as well as her form and her facial expression. The darkening clouds in the foreground also enhance the appearance of concentration and effort – or “Intensity”. Conversely, if this picture were printed in color the viewer’s eye might instead focus on the brightness of the sky or the colors of the trees peeking out from behind the stadium, or even the color of her shoes or singlet, anything but the photographer’s intended subject.

Kevin’s portfolio includes many different types of photography – portraiture, nature, art, and even glamour – but he considers sports photography his favorite because of its ability to demonstrate the magnificence of a finely tuned human body properly executing an athletic feat. A former tennis player himself, Kevin honed his skills by capturing images of tennis players around the Joplin area. His proficiency at perfecting his shots while working around the restrictive parameters of a sporting event earned him a photographer’s pass with Springfield’s prestigious World Tennis Team where each year he and other photographers attend matches throughout the month of July and photograph local and international tennis players.

"Jump" by Kevin Bowman

Although Kevin remains an amateur photographer and considers his work a hobby, his resume’ includes accolades envied by seasoned professionals. He earned his first magazine cover publication four years ago in the September/October issue of Photo Techniques. Two of his other pieces were also accepted for publication in that same magazine issue. Another sports piece, “Tipoff”, was selected as winner in the black & white category in the annual Crowder Quill literary-art magazine publication.

"Hot Dog" by Kevin Bowman

Kevin’s greatest photography challenges lie in his ability to find time in his schedule to shoot and the need to work around the changing seasons here in Joplin. Since he prefers to shoot pictures outdoors instead of inside a studio, the Joplin climate provides a limited opportunity to get desired backdrops for his photographs. However, he continues to pursue his interest in the art of photography because, quite simply, it is fun. When asked about his future plans for his photography, Kevin answered, “I want to continue to have fun with it, shoot what I want to, and keep it as a hobby.”

"Reach" by Kevin Bowman

"Tip Off" By Kevin Bowman

To view Kevin’s piece, as well as the 79 other PhotoSpiva selections, visit Spiva Center for the Arts in downtown Joplin during the exhibit’s run between March 9 and May 5, 2013. Also be sure to visit Kevin's Facebook page, "Show-Me Images" for more examples of his work.

PhotoSpiva 2013

2013-03-04T23:30:00.000-06:00

Joplin's Spiva Center for the Arts

I love photography. Whether a picture shows individuals awkwardly posed in an effort to record a moment in a family’s history or artfully illustrates nature’s beauty, I enjoy ruminating over the story the photographer is attempting to relay to the viewer. Photographs spark my imagination and pull me into exotic and unfamiliar worlds that I might otherwise never experience. As a young girl I would spend hours perusing the library’s outdated National Geographic collection, lingering over the pictures that graced the pages of the publication that introduced me to foreign cultures and history. No matter how successfully the authors described an article’s topic, it was the glorious photos that made me feel like I was on an underwater adventure, an African safari, deep in the Outback, or discussing ancient tribal rituals with indigenous peoples. Perhaps no other medium portrays humanity and nature as expressively as photography.

Fortunately for me, Joplin’s Spiva Center for the Arts hosts PhotoSpiva, the nation’s longest running photography competition of its kind. This year’s exhibit, which opens March 9 and runs through May 5, showcases 80 images chosen from the 1,041 pieces submitted by 199 amateur and professional photographers from across the U.S. and marks the competition’s 37^th year.

PhotoSpiva began in 1977 when Jim Mueller, a photography instructor at Missouri Southern State College (now Missouri Southern State University), was approached by Spiva board member Sara Fisher and asked to create a competition similar to other national photography contests conducted at the time. Mueller, who specialized in nature and fine art photography, formerly worked as a workshop assistant at the Ansel Adams workshops in Yosemite. He and co-founder Suzanne Wilson designed a national competition with the objective to, “present an exhibition of excellence in photography, celebrating the scope and vigorous activity of today’s contemporary photographers.”

From the very beginning, PhotoSpiva set out to welcome both amateur and professional photographers with the intent of providing them an opportunity to display their work with other photographers from across the United States. As Jim Mueller stated, “We have intentionally avoided any categorization of either photographers or their work in setting forth the criteria for this competitive.” As such, the competition has attracted both emerging amateurs and seasoned professionals, allowing their art to be exhibited in a unique, equitable platform.

2012 PhotoSpiva selection, "Little Red" by Jessica Kory

PhotoSpiva provides artists the opportunity for constructive feedback from a myriad of internationally celebrated photographers. Past jurors include John Sexton, Jim Alinder, Connie Imboden, and Elizabeth Opalenik, to name a few. This year’s juror, Natasha Egan, is the director of the Museum of Contemporary Photography at Columbia College in Chicago, IL. Ms. Egan has organized and juried numerous national exhibitions and has also taught in the humanities and photography departments at Columbia College. Additionally, she has contributed essays to publications such as The History of Another, Photography Plugged and Unplugged, and Placing Memory: A Photographic Exploration of Japanese American Internment.

Not only does PhotoSpiva give artists the opportunity to fine-tune their craft and present their work in a gallery setting, but it also offers area residents the chance to view the creative efforts of some of the most talented amateur and professional photographers in the country.

On March 15, 2013, Ms. Egan will also conduct portfolio reviews (space is still available; the cost is $15 for students and Spiva members, $25 for non-members). Later that evening there will be a juror’s lecture and awards ceremony, where $2,000 total in prize money will be given to 1^st, 2^nd, and 3^rd place winners and also to Honorable Mention and Merit Award recipients. Several other events surround the exhibit including PhotoSpiva Kids and “1000 Words”, poetry and music inspired by PhotoSpiva.

For more information about the exhibit, or to learn about participating in next year’s competition, please e-mail the gallery at Spiva@SpivaArts.org, where you will be included in future e-mails about upcoming events.

The Good Stuff: February 24 thru March 2, 2013

2013-03-03T11:34:00.000-06:00

The big news all around the world this past week was Pope Benedict’s last day in office. On February 28, Benedict became the first pope in 600 years to step down from the papacy, marking a significant historical moment in modern Catholicism. On March 4 the College of Cardinals – a group of 115 cardinals under the age of 80 who are eligible to vote for the new pope – will convene daily to determine who will fill this vacancy. Since no one knows how long it will take the College to choose the Church's new leader, NPR’s Morning Edition decided to have a little fun with the selection process by creating a March Madness Bracket, Vatican Style. Feel free to print out your own version and play along J

Who do you think will emerge as the winner?

This week I decided to do something a little different for my “Good Stuff” post. Cindy Dwyer, a blogger I follow and who also contributed a guest post here for the “In Celebration of Mothers” series, wrote this past week about her participation in the #26Acts of Kindness campaign. Basically, the purpose of this campaign was to honor the 26 victims of the Newtown, CT shooting by performing random acts of kindness for 26 days. Participants then tweeted their actions, using the hashtag, “#26Acts”. When I read her post I immediately thought it would be a great fit for this series as a way of sharing some simple, everyday ideas for making a difference in the world around us. I am re-blogging a portion of her post here, and I hope you will pop over and finish reading the remainder of her list. I think you will find some great ideas to bring to your own little corner of the world.

26 Acts of Kindness

When I heard about the 26 Acts of Kindness that some people decided to do as a way of honoring the victims of the school shooting here in Newtown, CT, I immediately knew I would join them.

I tweeted each one along the way, but here they are altogether, for those of you who are smart enough not to waste time on Twitter:

1. I let a stranger in front of me at the register #26Acts

2. I drove out of my way because my kids wanted to see more Christmas lights before we got home #26Acts

3. I took the time to truly listen to a co-worker who was having a bad day, even though I faced a deadline #26Acts

4. I crawled out of bed to retrieve my husband’s forgotten cell phone for him, so he wouldn’t oversleep #26Acts

5. I baked cookies to show my appreciation for my co-workers #26Acts

6. I brought in a toy for the toy drive at work #26Acts

7. I gave a stranger my parking spot #26Acts

Read more of Cindy's post here....

Now it’s your turn. What ideas from Cindy’s post appeal most to you? What Random Acts of Kindness have you performed recently? Do you have any ideas that you’d like to add? Also, did you know that the pope has a Twitter account?? Seriously, you can follow him at @pontifex, but his account, which has over 3 MILLION users in 9 languages, has been frozen until a new pope is elected. And I thought my 800 followers was pretty impressive….

Ode to My OB/GYN Physician

2013-02-26T13:32:00.003-06:00

Of all the medical relationships we may encounter over the years, I think the bond we women establish with our OB/GYN physician is the most profound. Yesterday, during my annual "well woman" check-up, I found myself reflecting on all the many life changes and situations my doctor has shared with our family over the years. Then I came home and wrote about them.

Read about my thoughts here on BlogHer.

The Good Stuff February 17 thru February 23

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Ahhh, the Good Stuff. Each week I try to bring you the stories that made me laugh, smile, think, or maintain hope for the human spirit and our ability to help one another in our times of need. Every day we are bombarded with stories of doom and gloom. I don’t know about you, but I need a good story on a regular basis to combat the deluge of despair that dominates the national media. So, sit back and enjoy this week’s compilation of the Good Stuff….

First of all, I want to remind you of the local group of high school students who are organizing a chili cook-off to raise awareness and funds that will benefit brain cancer research. If you missed this post, please take a minute and read about how three Joplin teenagers are working to make their friend’s grand vision a reality.

Did you know that every day 19,000 children under the age of five die from preventable causes? Countless others will be abused, neglected, denied an education, forced into labor and/or prostitution, and excluded or ignored due to discrimination or poverty. Take a stand for children and help make the world a better, safer place for them by taking the UNICEF pledge. Visit their website to learn more about the efforts UNICEF is sponsoring to help children throughout the world realize their fullest potential without fear of harm.

Back in the 1970’s, when I was in middle school, I remember reading stories about people who lived in cardboard boxes outside of Mexico City. The images of families living in such squalor, without access to clean water or adequate shelter, still haunt me today. Even though my family never lived in a large mansion or even a two-story home, I felt guilty that I lived in a building with fresh water and indoor plumbing while others struggled to find a water source not tainted with feces or other trash. And, truthfully, most other U.S. families were at least as fortunate as I. This is why I am always shocked when I read about the plight of the homeless in our country today. Homelessness is an issue that pretty much every city must contend with, even Joplin. While it is difficult to determine the exact number of people who are homeless (for obvious reasons), estimates range from 1.3 million to around 3 million. In 2012 the U.S. Department of Education, based on reports from public schools across the nation, determined that there were over 1 million homeless students enrolled in schools. I don’t know about you, but I find these figures staggering, which is why I am thankful whenever I read about organizations that are successfully helping families and individuals find affordable, permanent housing. Recently TOMS shoes entered into the fight to end homelessness in the United States. The shoe company known for its “one for one” initiative – for every pair of shoes purchased it provides a pair of shoes for a child in need - teamed up with Shabby Chic to create a new line of shoes for the spring. Proceeds from this new line will benefit Shabby Chic’s partner, Upward Bound House. Upward Bound House is an organization that provides temporary housing and assistance to homeless families with children and very low-income seniors in the Los Angeles area. Check out the cute spring styles that TOMS has created for this very worthwhile cause. Not only will you help continue the successful efforts of Upward Bound House, but you will also provide a much needed pair of shoes for a child in need.

Finally, I want to leave you this week with a little something to chuckle about. One of the bestselling books this past year – for reasons still unfathomable to me – is Fifty Shades of Grey. Not surprisingly, many literary parodies of this poorly written (albeit highly erotic, so I’m told) series have emerged in response to the trilogy’s popularity. One of these books, Fifty Shades of Bacon, available on Amazon, claims to be a ‘tongue-in-cheek delivery of some great bacon recipes.” If your diet calls for more chicken than pork, check out Fifty Shades of Chicken: A Parody in a Cookbook. Or, if tea is your thing, pick up your copy of Fifty Shames of Earl Grey: a Parody. I’m willing to bet that any of these publications will prove more entertaining and worthwhile than the original!

Now it’s your turn. What Good Stuff did you find this past week? Do you have any stories you’d like to share? Tell the truth: did you read Fifty Shades of Grey? How did you like it? Don’t leave without telling me your thoughts in the comments section below!

Foodie Fridays: Valentine's Day, Sticklen Style

2013-02-22T10:43:00.000-06:00

OK, what could be more romantic than sunset on the beach?

Here’s a confession: I’m not a big romantic. I love my husband and kids, and I love hanging out with them, but I’m typically a very practical thinker and not overly-demonstrative when it comes to public displays of affection. So it always strikes me as a bit odd that my oldest child’s favorite holiday is Valentine’s Day. I have tried and tried to figure out what consistent Valentine’s family tradition provides her with a hint of nostalgia every time February 14 rolls around, but I just can’t think of anything special that we did. Was it the tedious task of filling out all those valentine cards? Maybe it was the way we taped a Dove chocolate to each card before placing them in the bag to head for school the next day (one for you, two for me)? Or perhaps it was the year that I was Room Mother and the class played Bingo using Red Hots as markers? I believe one year I even tried to make my mom’s famous Valentine cake. Basically you bake a yellow cake in two round cake pans. After the layers cool, you carve out a matching “V” from each layer then use icing to stick the “V” to the bottom end of the layers, creating a big heart. (Let’s just say we enjoyed a little cake with our icing that year, shall we?) Try as I might, the only thing I can think of that we consistently do for Valentine’s Day is give the kids a card and maybe a little memento telling them we love them. This year was no different: I visited The Candy House, a local candy manufacturer that makes the BEST candy, and created a little care package to send Sarah at school. She loved it, of course.

This holiday that asks us to stop and remind our loved ones about our affection toward them perplexes me. I love my family every day of the year, not just on February 14. And, believe it or not, I shower them with affection all the time (sarcasm is a form of affection, right?) I think that is one reason why it is hard to think of a special, unique activity that symbolizes what I feel every day for those around me. Don’t get me wrong, I understand the point behind setting aside a special day for love. And I’d like to think that on Valentine’s Day our family focuses on how much we love and enjoy each other as opposed to emphasizing the need for the approval of others to validate one’s worth.

Sometimes, though, I come up with some good ideas. When Charlie and I were dating, I collaborated with a friend who dated one of Charlie’s fraternity brothers to do something fun with the guys. We devised a scavenger hunt with clever clues that led them from one famous campus landmark to another until they eventually wound up over by the football stadium where we waited with a car to whisk them away to a fancy college-town restaurant for dinner. Unfortunately you can only do so many of those “surprise” events before they are no longer, well, a surprise.

This year, however, I knew what I wanted to do – attend a beer tasting. Nah, I don’t like beer very much (in fact, I’m not even sure if we currently have any in the house), but when I found out that one of my favorite downtown restaurants, Instant Karma, was hosting a special Valentine’s dinner and beer tasting, I knew I had to go. So, I contacted some other couples and off we went to Karma for dinner.

Duck soup & cherry chocolate ale. Yum!

Instant Karma, a local restaurant known for its gourmet hot dogs, expanded its menu last fall to include dinner specials beyond their usual daily fare. The restaurant’s owner, Jason Miller, is not only a savvy restaurateur but also a creative genius when it comes to food. Every few months Karma pairs up with a local micro-brewery, Piney River Brewing Co., and offers a seven-course meal, with each course accompanied by a different beer or ale. The food is artistic and eclectic. Take a look at the Valentine's dinner menu:

Appetizer 1: Caviar and crème fraiche tacos in blini shells
Appetizer 2: Potato with goat cheese tart
Salad: Frisee salad with wild boar lardons
Soup: Duck soup
Fish Course: Pan-seared halibut with fried artichokes and white bean
Main Course: Venison filet parsnip pu
Dessert: Blueberry puree soup with roasted pears, mint, and fresh whipped cream

Are you salivating yet? You should be. It was exquisite. The beer and food pairings complemented each other beautifully, but my favorite combination was the chocolate cherry ale with the duck soup. Oh, yes, it was amazing. Additionally, beer lovers will probably appreciate the fact that two of the beers were kegged the morning of the tasting. Apparently fresh beer is a big deal.

So, another Valentine’s Day goes down in the books as a successful celebration. How am I ever going to top this one?

What did you do for Valentine’s Day this year? What is your favorite Valentine’s Day memory? Do you have a family tradition? And, most importantly, do you like beer?

Chili Cookoff for Cancer Research

2013-02-21T00:00:00.000-06:00

Not long ago I received a Facebook invite to attend a chili cook-off in Joplin. Since I love chili and never met a cook-off I didn’t like, I visited the event’s page to learn more about the details surrounding the upcoming culinary competition. This particular fundraiser hopes to raise awareness (and money, every fundraiser hopes to raise money) for the CERN (Collaborative Ependymoma Research Network) Foundation, whose mission is to “develop new treatments for ependymoma (a rare type of brain cancer), thereby improving the outcomes and care of patients, ultimately leading to a cure.” But what really caught my eye about this particular fundraiser was the fact that it is being hosted by high school students and not, as I initially thought, by a church or other adult-led organization.

Many of my contemporaries spend a lot of time criticizing today’s youth. “What’s wrong with kids today?” “Why are teens so self-absorbed?” “Why don’t kids today respect their elders and treat others with respect?” These questions that I hear from other adults and parents are not unlike comments made by my parents’ peers during my own coming-of-age years (and their parents before them, and so on and so on.) Thus, when I saw that a massive fundraiser was initiated by a couple of teenagers, I knew I needed to delve a little deeper and find out what these kids hoped to achieve from this very worthwhile endeavor.

What motivated the event’s three main organizers – Elaina Warren, Emily Watson, and Michael Gonzalez, all seniors at Joplin High School – to step outside of their comfort zone and plan such an ambitious project? Their admiration for their friend and classmate, Cooper Vocelka.

In 2008, when he was thirteen years old, Cooper began his fight against brain cancer. After three months of vomiting and headaches from what doctors initially thought was stress or a gastrointestinal complication, Cooper’s mom, Sherry, requested an MRI. A scan in December revealed a 5 centimeter mass in Cooper’s brain and he was immediately sent to Children’s Mercy Hospital in Kansas City. Six months later, Cooper successfully completed his treatment which included two brain surgeries, chemotherapy, and 33 rounds of Intensity-Modulated Radiation Therapy.

Cooper’s periodic scans remained clear until 2011 when a scan in March revealed three spots on his brain. After six weeks the spots decreased in size and in July they were deemed stable and non-indicative of a tumor. However, in September Cooper exhibited signs of a relapse and was sent back to Children’s Mercy for removal of a recurrent tumor. Doctors successfully removed this latest tumor and Cooper received five rounds of Stereotactic Radiation Therapy following the surgery, but in April of 2012 more tumor growth was discovered. Cooper began a clinical trial chemotherapy drug in the hopes of stabilizing the tumor. In July 2012, an MRI revealed increased tumor growth and fluid buildup, inducing the need for yet another surgery. Unfortunately, the doctors were unable to remove the entire tumor. Cooper began treatment with another clinical trial drug but he experienced adverse effects and has now been taken off of the chemotherapy.

Last summer Cooper’s youth group at the First United Methodist Church in Joplin hosted a neighborhood block party and invited all residents in the church’s surrounding community to join them for a barbecue. When he observed the successful turnout for the block party, Cooper decided a chili cook-off would be a great fundraiser idea for the colder winter months. He told his friends his idea, and they immediately volunteered to help, meeting once a week for the past few months in order to plan the event.

When asked what prompted him to choose the CERN Foundation and brain cancer research as the focus of his fundraiser, Cooper told me, “I feel one of my callings is to be a humanitarian and activist for cancer research. Brain cancer is more rare than other types of cancer and so they need the most research.”

While Cooper took some time off to recuperate from his many chemotherapy treatments, his friends worked diligently to plan the cook-off and hash out the details necessary for its success. However, Cooper’s influence is obvious in everything about the event, particularly the prizes: The winner of the cook-off will receive a special Chili Pot Crown and Ladle Scepter, crowning him or her “King” or “Queen” and earning her (or him – I suppose it’s possible a guy might make better chili than I do - but I doubt it…) exclusive bragging rights for the best chili.

Elaina, Emily, and Michael are all eager to share their thoughts about Cooper and the indelible mark he has made on their lives. Says Elaina, “Cooper is always positive and never says negative things. He is always happy for himself and others, in spite of his illness. I look up to him for that.”

Emily adds that she is drawn to Cooper by his “perseverance through God. He is a role model in our youth group.”

While not a member of Cooper’s youth group, Michael finds Cooper inspiring through his attitude and actions at school and among his peers. He also appreciates Cooper’s willingness to use his talents to give back to his community.

As these kids told me about their plans for the fundraiser – which they hope to turn into an annual event – I realized that despite adults’ complaints that today’s youth are “disrespectful, unmotivated, inconsiderate, impolite, self-absorbed, lazy, etc. etc.”, many teens are actually out there doing things to try and make the world a better place. They understand that sometimes life isn’t fair, and that, while we don’t always know or understand why things happen the way they do, we still have the power – and the responsibility – to do what we can to help others around us.

Their willingness to work hard and make life a little better for others makes me admire and respect them. As Emily said, “If the three of us can make an impact, what else can kids our age do?”

The chili cook-off, which is open to the public, will be held on Sunday, March 10, 2013 from 12:15 to 2 p.m. in the Family Life Center at First United Methodist Church in Joplin. A $5 donation entry fee provides participants the opportunity to taste the various chili entries and vote for their favorites. The winner will be the chili that receives the most “votes” through monetary donations (so bring your check book!) The Joplin High School Jazz Band will perform and there will also be a silent auction and bake sale (donations are currently being accepted). Donations to the CERN Foundation may also be mailed to FUMC, 501 West 4^th St., Joplin, MO 64801. For more information, please visit the event’s Facebook page.

Lent 2013

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"Lent reminds us of all the riches of life that good things can smother if we don’t empty out the cluttered cupboards of our hearts and give the meaning of life special attention through good reading, deep prayer, a consciousness of the soul.” – Sr. Joan Chittester

Today is Ash Wednesday, which marks the first day of Lent, a Christian ritual that represents a time of reflection and spiritual rejuvenation. The Muslims have Ramadan, The Hindus have Holi, and we Christians have Lent.

Personally, I love the religious tradition and symbolism of Lent. I like the way rituals provide opportunities to take time out of my regular schedule and find ways to connect with my spirituality and the world around me. And, I don’t know about you, but from time to time I need some friendly reminders that the world does NOT revolve around me.

Last year I posted some ideas for things we can pursue during the Lenten season that will make the world around us a better place. After re-reading them, I kind of think they still have merit, so I’m going to post them again – and maybe add some stuff, too. This year, don’t just give up soda or desserts. Try and really stretch yourself and nurture your spiritual self as well as your physical self. You never know whose life you might touch if you let God do the leading for a change….

Alms-giving. Find a local charity and provide some financial support. Find a group that provides assistance for something that is important to you: the Humane Society, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, a local school, a community clinic, a local arts council. Whatever your interest, seek it out and give them a buck or two. But, and this is important, DON’T TELL ANYONE YOU DID IT. Don’t be like the hypocrites and announce your good deed to the world. Rather, better not to let the right hand know what the left is doing (or something like that….)
Be kind. Yep, this means don’t flip off the lady who just cut you off as you were trying to park in that great spot at Wal-Mart. Don’t get angry at the neighbor who lets his dog run loose and considers your flower bed its personal toilet. Give that Negative Nelly a hug. Don’t talk badly about your spouse’s boss (or family members). Come on, even I can do this for a couple of weeks.
Go to church (or synagogue or mosque, or whatever your culture recognizes as a sacred place). Learn about a tradition you never quite understood before. Embracing our spirituality helps us to better understand ourselves within our own cultures and communities.
Use a talent you have neglected. If you like to sing, join the choir. If you like to paint, paint a picture. If you are a great speaker, volunteer to be a presenter or lector at church or read a book to your child’s class. If you like to play music, do it – or sign up to take lessons. Our talents, no matter how small they may seem, have the ability to enrich others’ lives. Nurture them so you may be able to utilize them in your community more effectively.
Make a sacrifice. No, not animal or human. What this means is, be willing to forego something you like in order to give someone else the opportunity to do something they enjoy. Take your kids to see that movie they’ve been begging you to see. Husbands, take your wife out to dinner (no, carry-out doesn’t count. They still have to set the table and clean up after you guys). Wives, let your husband watch ESPN all day Saturday or Sunday (the “honey-do” list will still be there after Easter). Let your sister borrow your favorite pair of jeans for her next date. Buy your co-worker a Starbucks on your way to work. I’m not talking complete martyrdom here, people. Just do something a little thoughtful for someone else, especially if it takes you out of your comfort zone a little.

So, there you have it: Another year, another Lenten season underway, another opportunity to develop some good habits. Won’t you join me in trying to incorporate all of these ideas into our daily lives?

Fess up – what are YOU giving up this year for Lent? (Insert Pope joke here that I didn't have the courage to print. And THIS is why I don't write a humor blog...) Will you add something new to your routine? Are you reading more spiritual books? Tell me, tell me! You guys gotta keep the conversation going here! J

The Good Stuff: February 3 through February 9, 2013

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“To be human is to listen to the rest of the world with a tender heart, and learn to live life with our arms open and our souls seared with a sense of responsibility for everything that is.” Sr. Joan Chittester

In 2007, Gap, Inc. launched P.A.C.E. (Personal Advancement & Career Enhancement) in an effort to provide skills, technical training, and educational learning to female garment workers. Women comprise 70% of Gap’s workforce, and 80% of garment workers worldwide. An easy way for you to help Gap build a better world for women in developing countries is to visit their website and purchase a Gap GiftCard. For every card purchased, 2% of the proceeds will be donated to CARE, one of Gap’s key partners in their P.A.C.E. program.

“Simply put, no society can truly flourish if it stifles the dreams and productivity of half its population. Happily, I see evidence all over the world that women are gaining social and economic power that they never had before. This is good news not only for the individuals themselves but also for entire societies, for it’s been proven that women tend to reinvest economic gains back into their families and communities more than men do.” – President Bill Clinton

The efforts of companies like Gap and organizations such as ICRW will help empower women in developing countries in order that they may make a viable contribution to improving and sustaining their local economies.

By now most of you know that there is nothing I like better than to celebrate local talent. From Grant Landis to Carter Hulsey to ThomasHart Benton and beyond, Joplin has no shortage of incredible talent that is locally, regionally, and nationally celebrated. This past week, Joplin native Vance Powell received a Grammy for his engineering work on the Raconteurs album, “Consolers of the Lonely”. Take a minute to read his piece at Universal Audio (I skimmed the part about all the techie stuff. I have NO CLUE what all those initials and numbers mean. Which would be why Vance received the Grammy and not me. Well, one reason why.)

Nia Vardalos’s book, Instant Mom, was released by Harper Collins. In her book, Vardalos tells about her struggles with infertility and how she and her husband found their daughter through adoption, in particular foster care. I love Nia’s honesty about her journey to motherhood and appreciate her advocacy on behalf of children living in foster care in the United States and Canada.

For Joplin locals: The Joplin Schools Foundation is currently selling tickets for their fundraiser, “Let’s Eat”. This event will be held on March 21, during Downtown Joplin’s Third Thursday. Tickets are $20 for adults and $10 for kids 6-12 (under 6 eat free). Proceeds will go to the Foundation’s Snackpack program, a weekly program that sends home backpacks of nutritious, child-friendly food to food-insecure homes every weekend in order that children may arrive at school on Monday mornings nourished and ready to learn. For more information, be sure and visit the event’s Facebook page or their webpage at www.joplinschools.org

Finally, this video came across my newsfeed earlier this week, and caused me to stop and think about how silly we sometimes are when we complain about the things that bug us in our world. May we all continue to do what we can to help ensure that everyone has fresh, clean water and a safe place to sleep.

What Good Stuff did you find this week? Feel free to share with me in the comments section below! Also, don't forget to submit your poetry for consideration for publication during National Poetry Month in April!

Foodie Fridays: Chicago’s Chinatown

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Last weekend I visited my daughter in Chicago. Yes, it was cold (the low on Friday was 15 degrees. As in Fahrenheit. Even parts of Lake Michigan were frozen. Trust me when I say, it was cold.)

Anyway, one of the things I wanted to do this trip was visit Chinatown. Our culinary-adventurous family has already visited Little Italy and Greektown, so I decided it was high time I checked out Chicago’s finest authentic Chinese cuisine. We asked my daughter’s friend, Wini, whose parents emigrated to the U.S. from Hong Kong, if she would join us and give us a tour of the area.

After we circled Chinatown’s numerous parking lots a couple times we finally settled on a spot by the train station and walked over to the commercial district. As we approached the shopping area, I looked around and took in my surroundings. In front of me was a sign for a restaurant, across the parking lot stood a Walgreens that boasted signage in both English and Chinese characters, and to my left I saw a bank that specialized in currency exchange. We followed a short alleyway for about three hundred feet and then turned left into Chinatown.

Wow.

A wide, meandering walkway led past storefronts – all boasting Chinese lettering that advertised for various restaurants, hair salons, and Chinese medicine shops. Intricate iron stairways led to an upper level of various shops and eateries as well. Overhead, Chinese New Year decorations hung from bridges that served as catwalks from one side of the outdoor shopping center to the other. The turquoise paint that adorned the decorative ironwork cast a pale blue shadow over the light layer of snow that blanketed the walkways. It was absolutely beautiful and completely unexpected.

Wini led us up the closest stairway to her favorite restaurant, “Cai”. We entered the restaurant and the maitre d’ escorted us past crowded tables and into a room with large picture windows from which we could look past the elevated train tracks to enjoy a beautiful view of downtown Chicago. I glanced around and realized we were the only tourists in the establishment – which I took as a good sign. We sat down and Wini expertly ordered dim sum, soup, and hot tea for us (all in Chinese, of course).

As we lingered over our food for about two hours, Wini explained that weekend dim sum is a Chinese tradition. Families head out to their favorite restaurants and spend hours sharing small dishes (the equivalent of Spanish tapas or American appetizers), connecting with each other over food. While we visited I realized that, no matter what culture we belong to, mealtime provides us the opportunity to share our lives with one another. Sitting down and enjoying good food together causes us to stop and take time to learn about each other – whether we are just getting acquainted, are old friends, or are members of the same family. The ritual of sharing a meal once a day or once a month – or once in a lifetime – presents the chance to converse and listen and helps develop stronger relationships with those we care about. Different cultures, of course, have different ways of sharing the family meal, but the end result is always the same.

So, this week let's sit down to a virtual meal gathering. Grab a snack and/or a beverage, pull up a chair, and join in the conversation!

This weekend, what family customs will you share? Will you participate in a tradition that will afford you the opportunity to spend time with your spouse and children in an effort to play “catch up”? Will you spend time with friends for the same reason? Where are your favorite places to enjoy a meal and what are are some of your favorite foods? And, lastly, do you own a pair of Uggs? (Seriously, I would never have survived the weekend without them....)