Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Your minds can be very sneaky and slippery when it comes to this… sliding into "don’t want" thoughts without our even knowing it.

Just today I was reading an article by Karen Luniw of the Law of Attraction Center.  Thought I’d pass it along to you because it discusses the very idea.  Read on…

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Do You Have a Plan B?

Ahhh, Plan B, our way out if things don’t work.  C’mon, admit it, for just about everything you want to have in your life or currently have, you have a plan just in case things don’t work out, right?

It’s looks something like this….I really would love to have that new Mini Cooper S but that Dodge Calibre has a great payment plan…. I’d really like to go for that great job but I’ll apply for this other job that I don’t really want…..  I really like that guy I met last week but this other guy has been asking me out and he seems nice enough….  I’d like to save the rainforest but I have get my laundry done and it’s been a hectic week and what can I do, anyways….  I’d like to make $100,000 this year but I should be grateful that I have any job…..

Do you catch the drift?  Plan B is really Plan BUT….  Did you notice that every scenario started with a desire and mid-way we got a but followed by the alternative.  Think about it, what do you think you’re attracting when you ask the Universe for one thing and immediately follow up with a different request?  If you answered, ‘nothing changes’, you’d be right!

Look, I understand that we’ve all been programmed to have an alternative plan in things don’t work out.  It seems prudent, even common sense.  The problem is that you’re sending out mixed messages and the status quo remains.

If you want change, real change in your life, you have to send out a strong and consistent message that will be able to attract like energy.  You need to identify what it is that you truly want and ask for it.  Have faith that if you really do have to come up with an alternative that you will but in the interim keep your focus squarely on what you truly want.  You’ll attract it much faster!

You deserve to have what you want - make it happen!     

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Law of Attraction Coach and Podcaster, Karen Luniw, publishes The Law of Attraction Tips weekly with thousands of subscribers and she also produces a Top US and Canadian Podcast, The Law of Attraction Tips that you can find on Itunes. If you’re ready to have more of what you want in your life, make more money, have better relationships and have more fun get your FREE tips now at www.thelawofattractiontips.com

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1) When you’re budgets and spreadsheets are complete, think about adopting a ritual of affirmations:  practice a few affirmations and gratitude:

"Thank you for the abundance that circulates through our lives.  This (meaning the financial figures) or something better!

"Source is my ONLY supply.  I allow infinite abundance to express BEYOND this boundaries of this budget!"

"Thank you for the ability to circulate my money in these ways AND I am TOTALLY open to flow and abundance circulating through my life in new and unexpected ways!"

2) When unexpected money flows - enjoy and give thanks.  Remember the energy of gratitude creates a snowball effect.  The more you acknowledge and give thanks for that which you have, the more the Universe sends your way.  Like attracts like.  When you live from a place of "having" the Universe gives you "more having."

3) And, as for a practical budgeting technique consider incorporating funds and accounts for unexpected money and unexpected expenses.  For example, you could have a two-tiered budget: Tier #1 is a plan for "predictable income and expenses.  With Tier  #2 create a formula where you allocate unexpected funds by certain percentages (i.e. 10% for tithing, 20% for fun, 30% for emergencies 40% for longer-term savings).  In this way you can use the budget as a guideline, but still stay open to the flow.

Choose Your Realtiy! tm

Sonia

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Q:  I have been wanting to create a budget as part of my goal around work, money, & creativity. However, I have been trying to parse out in my mind if budgets are "allowed" by LOA.  By this I mean, how do I, or can I even, create a budget that shows me the ‘reality’ of my family’s money income, alongside my family’s financial commitments that still allows for ‘flow’ in terms of money issues?…" 

A: This question points to the challenge and the opportunity inherent in integrating two very different bodies of knowledge: 1) spiritual/metaphysical and 2) business/finance. 

Spiritual practice, designed to keep one open to prosperity, answers questions like: How do I release fear of scarcity?  How do I trust?  How can I believe in an infinite supply?  How to I stay out of my own way to allow the experience of prosperity? 

Business tools like budgets and spread sheets answer questions like: Where’s the money coming from? Where is it going?  What’s the best way to spend it?  How do I cut expenses?

Without deeper understanding, a businessperson would say that the metaphysical approach to prosperity is fiscally irresponsible at best.  And a spiritual practitioner might find budgets and spreadsheets to be completely limiting, and may even perpetuate the fear that creates resistance to flow.   The key is to understand that BOTH bodies of knowledge require two different skill sets, that when used together integrate spiritual truth into one’s physical experience of money.

The spiritual skill set ALLOWS the flow of abundance, which is your true nature, to express in your life.  The business skill set lets you manage and direct the flow in practical ways.  Both skill sets offer helpful tools.  BUT if one set of skills gets distorted and hurts your ability to practice the other set of skills effectively, THEN you need to adjust.

For example, budgets lend themselves to the energy of CONTROL.  To be a good accountant, everything must balance to the penny.  You need to know where the money is coming from and where it is going.  The problem here occurs when you think you need to know HOW everything is going to happen with your money.  Remember, when it comes to the Law of Attraction you focus on WHAT you want and the Universe handles the HOW.

So, the best approach is to lighten up around the budgets.  Think of them as guidelines rather than rules.  Use them to set and direct your intention, but once they are complete for the week or the month let them go and keep practicing the spiritual techniques that nurturing your oneness with Source.

Stay tuned for more practical tips for integrating budgets with the Law of Attraction.

Choose Your Reality

Sonia

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Q:

I’m somewhat confused about tithing.  I understand the principle.  It’s the details that twist me around.  I use to tithe 10% to different environmental organizations.  It seems the more you gift them, the more they solicit.  More wasted paper, and seemingly greed (or so it felt to me) with the "more, more MORE!" way of interacting with contributors.

I don’t belong to nor even really believe in the concept of "church" but I do understand that as a place many people find their spiritual support.  Gifting directly to people speaks to me more personally.  Food bank, grassroots efforts at replanting rainforest (individuals, not organizations), helping people help themselves (KIVA, Habitat for Humanity), and gifting massage services makes me feel like I’m contributing to the higher vibration of the planet.  Tithing is "supposed" to be selfless, yet I see that we also do it to benefit ourselves by re-circulating that 10% to not get "stuck" ourselves, and also get the warm fuzzies from helping others.  Or is it the warm fuzzies that indicate we’re tithing in the right direction?

A:

Spiritual teachings do make a distinction between "giving in general" and tithing to your "source of spiritual nourishment."

A few books I’d recommend are Spiritual Economics by David Butterworth, The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by Catherine Ponder, and "I’m Rich Beyond My Wildest Dreams. I am. I am. I am." by Thomas Pauley.

As for me, I always look at the vibration beneath the thoughts, emotions and actions related to my choices.  If you can get to the point where you identify if there is an energy of resistance or allowing, then you’ll be able to connect with the higher truth of it all. 

There are a wide array of opinions about tithing, complete with religious strings attached and the emotional and mental energies of guilt, obligation, and judgment. However, if there is one thing I know for sure it is this:  If you are not giving your tithes from a place of true gratitude and acknowledgement for all that you have, for all of your blessings, then whatever your vibration is when you give, so will be your experience.

Tithing is not like making monthly "protection" premiums to the mafia - "Okay God, if I pay you 10% you’ll take care of me, right?"  Although some may feel that it works out that way.  Tithing is a spiritual practice to remind you that your only Source of supply is Source Energy.  Tithing is a discipline that pushes you to connect with gratitude, to remember that you ARE taken care of.  Tithing is an opportunity let go of the tendency to control every little thing because you are "trying to survive, and instead to surrender in trust to the flow of life - to trust in the ebb and flow of things.  Supply (money) follows the rhythms of nature - the ocean goes in and out, the moon waxes and wanes, the seasons offer bounty and go dormant - back and forth, flow.

And… on a more practical note, as long as you tithe to Your Source of spiritual nourishment, no matter what it looks like (i.e. The Sierra Club if that is how you connect with Spirit), and you do it with the intention of practicing higher spiritual principles, then tithing will bless you with more than warm and fuzzies, it will strengthen your relationship with Source as the source of your well-being under all conditions.

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Just a little apology on the lapse with my blog posts.  Been dealing with family matters that have been a bit challenging.  I hope to get to a more regular blogging rhythm soon.

Thanks for your patience!

Sonia : )

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When you shift your approach to prosperity from a money focus to a mind-set focus you can then begin to uncover the truth about your relationship to this infinite supply. The best way to do this is to take a mental inventory of your thoughts about and reactions to money. In other words you challenge your prosperity consciousness.

The Challenge

The Prosperity Challenge is a series of six fill-in-the blank statements which reveal your automatic thoughts and emotions in relationship to money. Each step should be answered completely before moving on to the next statement. If approached with honesty and thoughtfulness you will shed light on your hidden money fears and beliefs. The six statements are listed below, followed by sample responses to help you connect to your own answers:

1) I feel good in my relationship with money when the following events occur…

I get paid on time
I have money in my savings account
I have no credit card debt
My x-spouse sends the child support payment
My bank statement exceeds $50,000
I can take my lady friends out on impressive dates

2) When these events occur I feel… (list your feelings)

powerful
safe
in control
free
good about myself
worthy

3) This is because I believe….

money in the bank will keep me safe if something bad happens
my bank account is the only thing keeping from being homeless
in the end, I can only rely on myself
good things never last

4) I feel bad in my relationship with money when the following events occur…

a funding source disappears
surprise expenses pop up and I don’t have the money to pay for it
when I spend my hard earned cash
my bank account dwindles
my flow of money becomes unpredictable
I have to use my savings for an emergency (even though that’s what it is for)

5) When these events occur I feel… (list your feelings)

like I’m losing something
vulnerable
unsafe
out of control
stupid
like a loser

6) This is because I believe…

my value as a person is related to how much money I have
that when I can’t control things something bad will happen
when I’m in control, I’m safe
you can’t count on anyone

What This Means

If you take the Prosperity Challenge you will gain some valuable insights about the conscious and unconscious beliefs that have been controlling you. While you may gain some answers, you may also uncover many more questions. If so, let the Prosperity Challenge take you to the next level and drill down for more insight. Here are more questions to explore:

• Why do I believe this?
• Is it really true?
• How do I know this is true?
• Is it possible that there is a higher truth?
• What could the higher truth be?

The Truth About Truth

A process like this will lead you through layers of “truth.” In order to break through to higher truth, you must peel through personal truth. Sometimes these will be aligned. Other times what you think is true is actually only a limited, human belief. The key to cultivating a prosperity consciousness is to sift through limiting ideas to uncover and align with highest spiritual truth.

Warning: You can not do this on your own. You must have some influx of new information. Otherwise, you’ll keep doing what you’ve been doing because it is all you know. And, if you’re really serious about creating prosperity in your life, the influx must be steady and consistent. Whether you always have a book on your bedside, an audio program in your car, or you study with a teacher or coach, the only way to move into a new way of life, is to let go of the old while reaching for something better as a substitute.

The Truth About Prosperity

Whether you’re new to the truth about prosperity or not, here are a few higher truths for you to contemplate.

• There is only ONE unifying ocean of energy that is the substance of All That Is.
• There is nothing that is apart from this ONE energy.
• The natural state of this ONE energy is infinite, limitless abundance in the form of love, money… all that is good.
• Because there is only ONE, you, by definition are a part of this one. There is no separation. You are made up of the same substance. You ARE infinite abundance.
• The only thing that keeps you from experiencing this infinite abundance is your awareness.
• As you release the limiting beliefs that comprise your mind-set, you free yourself to see and experience your true nature.

The more you are willing to consider these ideas, while dismantling your limiting beliefs, the more you will allow infinite love in the form of money to flow through your life.

Choose Your Reality! tm
Sonia

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As an avid student of metaphysics, conscious creation and the Law of Attraction I’m always on the look out for a resource that will teach me something I don’t know, or at very least present it in a way that will allow me to go deeper.  This book GOES DEEP.

I will often read one sentence and re-read 3 more times in my attempt to really GROCK its true meaning - not the meaning I may have associated with the statement in the past, but the meaning that is the next stretch in my awareness.

You can’t just read about prosperity consciousness and not be willing to take it in with the intention of letting it stimulate a new way of BEING.

Here is one my the ones I’m really chewing on right now:

"In the teaching of Truth, there is a lot of emphasis given to "making demonstrations" (i.e. manifesting results)…   It is a term used in scientific prayer, the concept that if you get certain things worked out within your consciousness, you are going to "outform" or manifest them in your experience.  Answered prayer, then, is a "demonstration."  In the science of prayer, nothing is incurable or beyond help; all things are possible.  It is a tremendously important realization.

However, in the minds of many students, it is a matter of making divine law work.  You can’t make law work.  Law is an inexorable process…  It is not something you do to God or even something that God does especially for you.  It is simply a change of your consciousness  in which you become synchronized with the ceaseless activity of divine love, of healing life, or of prospering substance."

In my view this teaching is aligned with the idea that we don’t actually CREATE anything.  "IT" already exists.  It always has and always will.  Our job, is to expand our awareness to a) see it and b) allow it into our experience.  For this reason my favorite style of affirmation is SO powerful:  The Willingness Mantra (check out my book, The Attraction Distraction for an in-depth exploration of this).  By simply becoming willing to recognize and see what you have not seen before, you begin to lift the veil of illusion!

Choose Your Reality! tm

Sonia

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You get really clear about a life dream or goal.  You own it.  You declare it to yourself and the Universe.  Maybe you write it down.  Maybe you make a commitment to go for it.  Maybe you put it on your vision board.  You start visualizing.  You raise your vibration.  You’re doing it!

Then suddenly EVERYTHING falls apart!  Money stops flowing right.  You clients’ checks start bouncing.  Your car breaks down, then the hot water heater, then the tv.  A status quo relationship suddenly blows up.  You think to yourself, "I finally decide to go for my big dreams and THIS happens!?"  What the (%$#^$)!  Why did I even let myself want this?  See!  This Law of Attraction stuff doesn’t work.  Not only that, but life has gotten worse!"

SCREEECH…. Hooooold your horses!  BEFORE you give up on life, your dreams, and the Law of Attraction please read this.

This sort of thing happens ALL THE TIME.  And it is a predictable part of the process of expansion.  Carol Dore, Visualization Expert calls it Falling Apart, Falling Together in reference to the idea that often when you get clear about your intentions things fall apart before they fall into place.  Thomas Pauley of www.RichDreams.com calls it Chemicalization and he writes about it in his book, I’m Rich Beyond My Wildest Dreams. I am. I am. I am.

He uses the analogy of planting a garden of every beautiful plant you could imagine.  The seeds are in the ground.  The sun is shining.  The birds are chirping.  And you anticipate an abundance of magnificent blossoms.  (In other words, you’ve set all of your life’s intentions into motion using metaphysical tools and techniques and now you enthusiastically await their manifestation.)  However, despite the current pleasant weather conditions, "sooner or later the rain sets in.  The skies will darken as clouds cover the sun.  Lightning and thunder will quiet the birds, and for a while it may seem as though the sky is falling… The truth is, you’re in for nothing more than a little wet weather."

The mistake many seekers make is that they misinterpret this often-common phenomenon as a sign that:

• None of this works!
• I’ve been led astray!
• I’ve failed!
• I’m doomed!

So, they quit before the miracle.  They let their vibration sink.  And they go back to their old consciousness, which only perpetuates more of what they were trying to change in the first place.

As Pauley explains it:

"We live in a world governed by natural laws.  The foremost of which is cause and effect.  For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.  Growth is organic.  Growth requires change… The process of change that must first occur before you can have the prosperity you desire is called Chemicalization.  It is the stirring of the pot that makes the soup.  It is an actual chemical change.  Chemical change is necessary for creation.  Water, for example, is a combination of hydrogen and oxygen.  Separately, they are two gasses; together they make a liquid.  All of Creation, including you and me, is made of chemicals.  If you are not rich now and you want to be rich, then you must undergo a chemical change.  By definition you want to be different than you are now.  The things around you must also undergo a chemical change.  This is as basic as life itself."

And how exactly do you navigate these times of change?  You do whatever it takes!  You go deeper in your faith.  You look for and find evidence that you are still alive, still okay, still being cared for.  You put one foot in front of the other.  You keep studying and learning and reading and listening to anything that keeps you moving forward not backward.  And TRUST that this too shall pass.  Because the only thing that is constant in this Universe is change. 

Don’t quite before the miracle.  If you stay the course, you and your life will come out the other side bigger for it.

Choose Your Reality! tm

Sonia

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But in actuality, when you dare to become a bigger version of you, aspects of the OLD you need to fall away.  It is much like a death and rebirth.  And, as we’ve seen in the life cycles of human beings, sometimes (not always) both the dying process and the birthing process can be painful.  The way we reduce the pain is to understand it, trust it, and practice tools to navigate the transitions.

With her permission, Martha’s email is below.  Read on as she shares what happened in the process of crossing the final finish line of taking her state boards to become a nurse!

"Hola Sonia!  I would love to write my success story for you!  What in particular do you want me to focus on? Not quitting the six long years it took me to become a nurse, or actually passing the state boards?

Speaking of the boards, about 30 minutes before I went in to take it….I was getting increasingly nervous and my stress levels were immeasurable!!  I knew I needed to try to bring it down and somehow summon the courage to get through this and to allow  my brain to actually think through the most important  exam of my life.  I could literally feel my confidence go down hill and my focus getting narrow instead of open and broad.  I was going ’round and ’round in my head, being hard on myself, feeling worse and worse, and thinking, "Martha you are attracting failure." 

I needed to do something quick and suddenly, I thought of tapping (EFT) and the success I had with you.  I remember how when the emotions were so overwhelming and strong, the tapping  brought them down and eased my heart and mind….so I knew that for what its worth I would give it a try on my own….so, I went to the ladies room and locked myself in a stall and started tapping!!!! All the while wishing like crazy that YOU were in the stall with me  (perhaps you were in spirit) !!!  I tapped the very basic content I could remember….memories of our sessions came to me; rating my emotions, tapping at certain landmarks,  feeling grounded to mother earth, the top of my head open and sunlight and energy coming in and dispersing through out my body into effervescent bubbles…. I focused on the "feelings" and also I imagined that this is what my "nursing knowledge" would do when faced with each question on the exam, that it would just flow like those bubbles. 

Then when I went in to take the exam… all the centering and softness I felt dissipated and there I was facing the computer taking my test and feeling powerless, not trusting and certain that I was failing with each click of the button….honestly, I REALLY don’t know how I made it through the four hours and 15 minutes of the torturous test.  I wanted to quit so badly and tears were on the verge of spilling over. I found most of the questions extremely difficult and complex.  I was not able to "think"  At one point I just put my head into my hands and almost went "there."  I almost gave up…but I knew I need to at least finish the darn test.

Waiting for three days before I got my results was beyond overwhelming.   I haven’t cried like that in years  Sonia.  I cried in the shower, I cried at the grocery store, I cried when my guy would call (especially just hearing his voice), I  went to the cave and cried and cried for those three days, total pity party.  I guess I needed to release all that was there from who knows how long. 

I was so sure I’d failed, that I couldn’t bring myself to check the results on line. 

Then in the hours of the morning, my phone rang.  I heard my guy’s voice.  He said, "You’re a nurse."  He went online and found out for me! 

Finally, an "official" nurse;  the nurse that I’ve always felt I am!"

STAY TUNED To learn more about "falling apart, falling together" phenomenon.  To read Martha’s entire success story, be sure you’re subscribed to Sonia Miller’s Soul Food Ezine (see sign-up at right).

Choose Your Reality! tm

Sonia

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