They are. They really are.

Well, maybe not you personally, but the chances are high, because kids understand these hot topics better than most adults.

How can we tell? The same way we can tell that anyone understands a subject, or at least understands what they do and don’t know — kids are comfortable talking about these things.

Children are very comfortable asking and thinking and talking about any subject.

They don’t become nervous, they don’t start tailoring their words in odd ways and euphemisms to please the people around them. They’re straight-shooters.

They don’t do everything they can to avoid engaging a topic.

They follow their natural impulses, pursue their natural curiosity, and they aren’t held back by a million socially trained fears.

Here’s a video from a very reputable source: TEDTalks. Comedian Julia Sweeney tells us her hilarious story about trying to have "the talk" with her 8 year old.

Yes, it’s funny, but there’s more to it.

It’s a very clear story of two people, one is extremely comfortable with her own curiosity and subject matter, and the other one is caught off-guard, and is far less comfortable.

There’s many strong and controversial opinions on how "we" as a society "should handle" this topic (sex, and others) with our children, and I’m not here to tell you how to do it.

I will say that anything you want to teach to or engage others on is hugely helped by comfort.

Kids are comfortable with themselves, their growth, and wherever their questions and curiosity in life take them.

Children are smarter because they are comfortable and open and always learning. They are smarter because they have no neuroses or social fears stopping them from following their curiosity and their experimentation.

Adults? Not so much.

This goes for money and fame and health as well.

Oh my goodness — the discomfort and debates about nutrition or <gasp!> the economy? How about the gossip about how famous people use their money? Do our adults seem ‘comfortable’ and ‘curious’ about things, looking to grow? Do we see warm, loving, innocent curious talks between adults, looking to expand and reach solutions? Or do we see rigid, opinionated, borderline aggressive arguments between grown-ups who’ve clearly already almost-permanently made up their minds?

Now, will children remain this open, comfortable, and understanding of these topics?

Probably not.

The powerful, strongly opinionated grown-ups will eventually influence the child more towards adult-attitudes and inflexibility.

But if a grown-up was able to consistently demonstrate, true, honest, equal, person-to-person comfort with the child on these important issues, that child would NOT lose their own comfort, curiosity, and understanding… at least not nearly as much.

Is this doable? I’ll admit I’m curious about it, and comfortable to look into it, but I admit that I don’t know

Either way, it’s food for thought.

So it mostly looks like this:

• Child = comfortable, open-minded, issue-less.
• Adult = uncomfortable, inflexible, and generally neurotic.

And Interestingly, there’s another group of people who are also quite comfortable with these topics. Celebrities!

…but that’s a story for another time.

A special thank you to Denise of MadeByDenise.net. She really knows how to ‘nurture creativity,’ and this post was inspired by her Monthly Writing Prompts.

Do you like feeling energized? Do you like passionately giving energy to stuff you believe in? Do you have any idea about the energy going back and forth in your relationship?

I certainly didn’t, especially 1-to-1 partnerships.

I’ve always felt powerful, capable, a genius. I was raised that way, and I like it. I have a history of over-achieving and loving success, and even if people don’t see it, I know I excel. I’m very sensitive to getting the details right and improving whenever I learn something.

I kept failing at my dream relationships though.

For a long time, I felt misunderstood, and I really, really wanted someone on-board with me who could relate to me, shared similar goals, and was eager to grow deeper together.

A fantastic dream, yeah?

I expressed this to many people, I’d say things like:

• "I want to collaborate."
• "I want to succeed together."
• "I want to change the world, but I want to do it WITH people."
• "I want harmony."
• "I want solutions, together."
• "I want to spiral together."

They’d say "Yeah!" but talk is cheap.

I wanted the "I" to become a "we".

Because of this, I’ve had a number of long-term partnerships, I’ve taken up-and-comers under my wing, invested heavily in other human beings, and I’ve poured my heart and soul into people I believed in, even when others were advising me against it. I do what my heart tells me.

Have you ever done this? Given your heart and soul to someone, hoping and expecting them to return the passion?

In the last 7 years, I’ve devoted massive chunks of time, energy, and money, teaching 17 people (I could name names ) success and encouraging them in their projects and visions. It was non-stop, free-access, success-coaching.

The people I associated with generally did not value my gifts, and that’s to be expected, because I didn’t treat my offers like a precious gift, I just openly gave it to anyone who was around. Friends, family, strangers, etc. – they didn’t have to work to get it, and so, they de-valued it.

I also had no boundaries, I remained open (which is a good thing) and I embraced anyone who came into my life with love and generosity. I offered them the ‘keys to the kingdom’, introducing them to all my family, friends, clients. I taught them all kinds of skills to sky-rocket them through life. I volunteered whatever I had. I discovered what their dreams were and poured tons of energy into helping them realize them.

And most of the time, they just… took it. They took it and did very little with it, but they took it.

More than that, they started to take it for granted. At first they saw me as my brilliant, clear, wise self, but eventually they started ignoring me and believing others had their best interests in mind. They listend to family, they listened to friends, they listened to people who never really supported them in the first place.

"Familiarity breeds contempt."

While I don’t personally believe that exactly, I do know that I didn’t value myself enough and so neither did my partners.

So what I’m saying is…

I’ve had a lot of unbalanced partnerships. Girlfriends, clients, business partners — all of them I gave tons and tons of value that was unappreciated and unused, while they half-assed their way through, doing the bare-minimum necessary to hang around me.

They would never stop the partnership, because, hey… tons of free (or extremely cheap) appreciation, love and success-coaching from Jason, great!

Unbalanced relationships must be changed or they become unsustainable and eventually collapse.

In every case, eventually I realized that something needed to change, and so I’d boldly take a stand, and draw a line. The message I would send is "You know all the free, cheap success-coaching and deep appreciation I’ve given you day & night? Yeah, I’m stopping that, it’s not healthy, and the partnership isn’t helping either of us."

The response to this in almost every case was "Taking away my easy, lazy, gravy train? Fuck you."

Okay, they didn’t say that exactly (actually in one case … ), but they’d start being distant instead of seeking ways to solve things. I’d realized what was going on in the relationship, and made a change, but they wanted things to stay the same.

Can you relate?

I had so much trouble with it, and I kept repeating this situation because I was not clear on my feelings in relationships, and I was never able to explain it in ways others understood.

I tried everything, every word, every breath, focused on solutions and peace and harmony, but words and breath and solutions don`t change people who don`t want to change.

I was confused. I wasn’t handling things well at all. I was good at so many things, and I learned so much, but there is not much information that I could find about how to feel out a relationship, and how to take steps that matter in it. My favourite relationship teacher, David Deida, covers almost everything under the sun, but I didn’t hear much about understanding the energy of a relationship.

Part of handling this smoothly, is understanding that there are 6.97 billion people in the world, and not every single person that you meet is going to be that person that gets you and wants to grow with you. Oh I know, you *want* every person you meet to be the person that gets you and grows with you (or at least I wanted that), but that is completely ridiculous. Some of the people in your life right now, are probably one’s going in a different direction, with different understandings, and ready for different things. They can’t all get you, and they can’t all remain in your circle.

It helps to filter them out and attract the one’s that suit you most. One’s who fulfill you and match your energy are ones to keep an eye out for.

Like I said, my dream was to find someone else who could relate well to me, understand my vision for my life and contribute to it by being themselves, and I to theirs. That’s my favourite kind of client, favourite kind of friend + family, and favourite kind of girlfriend.

So now I’m going to share with you all the clarity and insight I have on understanding what’s going on in your relationship with another person.

A relationship is a continual, measure of energy and interaction. We don`t really have tools to measure it, but we have feelings, and we can feel when somethings "up".

Dysfunctional Relationships

After some pretty hard lessons, (My family was distant from me, I ended up homeless, had drama-filled relationships, slow-burn failure, etc.), I realized that a) I can’t have a specific person understand me, no matter how clear I am, if they don’t want to understand me and b) it doesn’t help anyone if I’m ‘patient’ and let things drag on when it’s clear the other person isn’t interested in growing or ready to grow together.

Sometimes people have two very opposite directions in life. One with a dream of relating incredibly well, committed to that dream, and ready to do what it takes, the other ‘kinda wanting that.’ In reality, they aren’t ready to do what it takes and they are not sure what they want, and they’re showing very little passion and energy about it. It can be seen in every aspect of their life.

With two opposite positions like this, and no common goal to aim towards, there are lots of fights and frustrations. There is disconnect, discord, and a lack of understanding.

Do you have any dysfunctional relationships in your life?

A dysfunctional relationship is where neither person’s energy is going anywhere truly helpful, and it`s something you can feel.

Limited Relationships

This is where the relationship appears to be okay and functional, it feels really good for awhile. Each person feeding off the others natural beauty, power, intelligence, ideas, sex, etc. but what both people usually don’t see, is that there’s a limit, because they can only help each other so much, if they don’t have a shared external goal.

These feel great at first, but no shared goal limits things.

They keep helping each other at first, giving energy to each other, but soon they’ll hit a wall, where they’ve learned a lot from each other but learning stops because they aren’t involved in the community, business, family, or whatever shared goal suits them. Deep down, they know there’s no shared goal, and they’ll find out, sooner or later.

‘Healthy’ Relationships

This is my definition and understanding of a healthy relationship, you might have different words, but the idea is the same.

A healthy relationship is two people, being who they are as naturally as possible, and sharing energy between them and out into the world towards a shared goal. They continue do this in deeper and larger ways as they grow together. It’s possible they may separate if/when the relationship changes on one of the core points, but that event is unlikely.

Aim for this, it helps us all

A healthy relationship directed towards a shared goal, will automatically bring in support and love from society. In the form of dollars, support, word-of-mouth, popularity, recognition, praise etc.

A Shared Goal

I’ll talk a little about having a shared goal. A shared goal is a powerful call for both people to aim it. When both people in a relationship are aimed at the same thing, then they are heading the same direction. If they are heading the same direction, then they are always close. The shared goal almost always relates in some way to other people in the physical world.

• In a business partnership, the shared goal is usually the business vision (help the market).
• In a husband-wife partnership, the shared goal is usually the family or children (help our species).
• In a friend-firend partnership, the shared goal is usually reliable sharing of stories, supportive energy, and others-best-interest guidance and take a break from ‘other’ relationships (help society)
• In a interviewer-interviewee partnership, the shared goal is usually to have the audience helped, and the guests brand/product/service helped (help audience + brand).

No goal means no direction, and no direction means people will drift apart and also, that it’ll be difficult to tell if people are ‘on your path’ or not.

So What’s It All Mean?

It means that you have all the tools you need to have incredible relationships with other human beings.

• Every person has energy.
• Every person has feelings to measure that energy.
• Every person knows where they’re directing their energy in a relationship, and same with the other person.
• Every person knows whether they share a goal with someone or not.

And now I’ve given you another piece of the puzzle, visual explanations of the different types of relationships, and you can check your own, and see if they are more on the dysfunctional side, or more on the healthy side.

If your relationship needs changing, hopefully you can explain more clearly to the other person what’s going on (even show them this post!), and create solutions together, but, like myself, you may have to just admit that they don’t seem or feel ready to step up, right now, and they don’t feel ready to understand, no matter what how clear you are.

That’s okay

6.97 billion people, take a breath, take a step back, and stop participating in dysfunctional relationships. Have standards for yourself, do what’s right for you, and if you have any feedback on these ideas, or on your own relationships, share them in the comments!

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Sitting On The Fence

"If you’re sitting on the fence, you’re only hurting the family jewels."

This could mean you’re sitting on the fence, or it could mean you’re dealing with a fence-sitter, either way making some changes will help, big time.

Making decisions relates directly to confidence. Making decisions, and feeling some kind of reward connected to them, generates more confidence, and confidence generates bolder decisions, and so on.

It’s difficult to find examples of fence-sitters who were rewarded for their fence-sitting.

Fence-sitting is related to a lack of confidence; to fear. Fear prevents decision, and indecision results in an unchanging situation, and an unchanging and fearful situation, becomes scarier.

Sitting on the fence means pouring energy into each situation and reality, trying to keep them balanced, like juggling plates. Instead of either choice receiving your full focus and energy, none of them do.

In my experience, most fence-sitting decisions occur when there are relationships involved. Person A won’t follow his dreams because it will upset his parents and comfort zones. Person B won’t really shine in their relationship because they’re too scared to commit and be vulnerable about their deepest fears and secrets and love. Person C won`t fire their employee, even though they clearly aren`t a fit, because conflict is scary.

Sound familiar?

Bamboo Forest shares this story:

"My whole life I’ve had this great dream. I wanted to run two miles around a track.

 

Every morning I’d get up at the crack of dawn and walk to the track. On arrival, I’d sit in the bleachers hesitating, sometimes for up to a half hour wondering whether I should get on the track and whether I had the energy to run.

 

I’d finally generate the courage to walk onto the track and start running, except as soon as my legs started to move I’d begin wondering if the effort was worth it.

 

Actually, I’ve been practicing the above for the past 15 years and not once have I fulfilled my goal of running all eight laps successfully. It’s crazy because if I would simply accomplish this goal I’d feel a sense of accomplishment and joy no words could describe.

 

If only I’d commit myself.

 

The story above demonstrates how insane and energy depleting sitting on the fence is. It’s not a logical choice and will prevent you from reaching your true potential."

Decisions Measure (And Cause) Confidence

Decisons require a conscious effort, and most people would prefer to operate on habit, autopilot and default. That’s great, if you have good decision-making mastery, go for it, rely on auto-pilot. If you have… well…shitty decision-making skills, then practicing conscious choices needs to be your prioritiy. If there’s one skill every area of your life could benefit from, it’s making conscious decisions.

• Yes they take a tiny bit of effort.
• Yes they carry some sort of ‘responsibility’ with them.
• Yes it will mean your life will change.

If you don’t want to put conscious effort into your life, if you dream of having zero responsibility of any kind, and if you don’t want change… then why are you here?

And you know the best part of practicing decisions? It’s the same as practicing confidence? Wouldn’t it be nice to feel more confident? Sure it would, and here’s the results of a study on that very thing: The study was done on rats, to see how they made decisions, and then to see how confidence affected their decisions.

"…that confidence estimation is not a complex function specific to humans but a core component of the process of decision-making probably found throughout the animal kingdom," said Kepecs. According to Mainen, "future studies of this kind may illuminate the question of how we form an intuitive sense of the solidity of a belief, how we distinguish fact from fiction itself." – a study by CSHL Assistant Professor Adam Kepecs, Ph.D., in collaboration with Zachary F. Mainen, Ph.D., CSHL Associate Professor and Group Leader in the Champalimaud Neuroscience Programme at the Instituto Gulbenkian de Ciênçia near Lisbon, Portugal.

IN ENGLISH: The study says that decision-making based on confidence/fear (pleasure/pain) is found all through nature, and can teach us about intuition.

So decision-making is super-important, and now I want to help you make any that you may be avoiding or afraid of. You want to practice your decision-making, it’s time to equip you with the right tools.

Decision-Making Tips

Listen To Your Inner Voice

Oh I know, it sounds weird. Well, everyone, even the most scientific of us (Einstein + Edison, for example) have an inner-voice, telling them what’s really true. It goes by many names: intuition, instinct, your gut, soul, heart, conscience, god, etc. – you’re going to be making many, many decisions in life, and all the world’s successful fine-tune their inner-voice, and drop arguing over what it’s called and does it exist. Join us

Move Forward.

This means act. This means step up. This means solidify your decison and give yourself the gift of confidence and sureness. You could "hesitantly make a decision, look back, worry and doubt" OR you could "make a committed decision, take action towards it, and feel the confidence of your forward motion and progress." It’s hard to feel paralyzed when you’re moving forward.

Just Make It.

Simply make a choice (crazy, I know) and then be OK when you don’t make the perfect choice. Are you dead? I’d wager pretty strongly that you are not. So, you’re still around, and smarter than before. Realize that everything is happening for a reason and the outcome caused from the choice you made is exactly what needed to happen. It’s about learning how to not get exactly what you want.

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Takeaways

It’s not hard to make decisions, and it’s not difficult to store up some incredible confidence by making them. In fact, it’s easy, and it’s the game of life. It’s what it’s all about. Give yourself a leg up on most people, refine and practice your decision-making, work your confidence.

You’ve understood how sitting on the fence sucks your energy and delays reward. You’ve received some powerful decision-making tips.

I know you want to direct your energy well. I know you want that huge feeling of relief that comes from making a decision. I enjoy being a decisive person, and you can too.

Make your first decision right now, decide and commit to Make More Conscious Decisions, you`ll be thanking yourself over and over for it, and the rewards will come quickly, in ways you can feel.

Any decision-making tips and tricks? Share ‘em in the comments!

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That is NOT understanding.

"92% of people never achieve their dreams" – T. Harv Eker.

Ninety-two percent ‘failure’ rate on dreams! That is a huge percentage!

Well, about the same percentage of people have no idea how to direct their desires and their sexuality. Is there a relationship? Napoleon Hill, one of the world’s great success-teachers said yes.

"Love, Romance, and Sex are all emotions capable of driving men to heights of super achievement. Love is the emotion which serves as a safety valve, and insures balance, poise, and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift one to an altitude of a genius.". – Napoleon Hill.

Most people can tell that sex-energy is a combination of three things. First you are attracted to someone, and desire them. Second, you make a decision to pursue them in some way. Third you take actions that bring you closer to them. This is repeated until it results in something… satisfying

• 1. Intense desire
• 2. Committed decision
• 3. Inspired action

You can see this at work in every sexual exchange, and you want to see it at work in your dreams and successes.

Getting clear on this will help you so much, and you’ll be able to use the powerful sex-drive everyone has inside them in ways that suit you, instead of denying it, masking it, or wasting it.

Yes, these 3 concepts are important, but I haven’t even gotten to the best part yet.

All of the above steps are next-to-useless without using the ultra-powerful 4th factor.

image courtesy of Dynamite Imagery

The Ultra-Powerful 4th Factor – Focus

Well, enough with the teasing…

The 4th key factor to using sex to succeed, is focus and direction.

Steps 1, 2, and 3 need to be focused on and directed at a single desire. Usually they are focused on something quite limited: "To fuck <so-and-so>."

Wow. Bravo. Billions of people on the planet, with incredible energy and drive inside them, waiting to come out and rock the world, and most people decide to "find the nearest pretty/powerful person" and sleep with them.

Does this sound like well-directed, properly-managed, sex-drive that really helps your life? Or does it sound like a drug-addict spending all their time to get another ‘hit’ ?

Taking steps 1, 2, and 3 and focusing them on a goal is very, very powerful, but most people only do this for a girlfriend or boyfriend, once in a while. Successful people use the sex-drive steps to succeed in all their dreams.

Will Smith used them to become a megastar. Richard Branson used them to rise out of boring classes, into his own success. Sure, they used it for sex too, but unlike most people, they didn’t hold it in reserve, only for that. They applied it to their dreams.

I’m not saying not to enjoy sex, I’m telling you to use this energy MORE. There is nothing stopping you from using it more.

The average person spends their time/energy something like this:

• 56 hours asleep
• 30 hours of eagerly waiting for sex,
• 2 hours of ‘ok’ sex
• the other 80 hours going through the motions of a boring life, basically goal-less.

The average person's focus.

Are you like them? Do you want to be? Even a little bit? Do you want to feel on track to acheiving your dreams?

The world’s dream-achievers didn`t devote 80 hours to minimal energy, they devoted 108 hours focused on their dream. They spent their time/energy something like this:

• 42 hours asleep
• 21 hours eagerly anticipating and imagining their goal
• 3 hours of fulfilling sex
• 108 focused on desiring a single dream, pursuing a single dream, and achieving a single dream.

Now, these are just rough examples, from informal research, but no one can argue that successful people use a different attitude, different thoughts, and different actions, and you can take steps to improve your own.

You don’t need to cut-back on your sleep like the world’s top-achievers, but understanding how you use your sex-energy is a very, very powerful step, and it`s all about a focused, intesne desire.

If you could use an intense desire, make a committed decision, and then take inspired action all focused on one particular thing, (your life purpose, for example) you’d succeed very quickly.

A far more successful focus.

Then you could repeat the process with a new dream.

If you’ve been following SpiritSentient, you know we’ve shown you How To Find Your Life Purpose.

Well, once you know your life purpose and what you’re really good at, as well as Chosen Your Audience, you can then Focus Your Sex Energy powerfully on living your dream. It will happen quicker than you imagine, and once you’ve achieved that, you have a solid platform to repeat it for something else.

Or you can waste most of your life, dissipating and throwing away the power of your desire, decision and action on unsuccessful distractions.

A Dash Of Science

Back in the day, Napoleon Hill had it right, but he didn’t really have any scientific facts to back his conclusions. Today we study oxytocin, which backs up Napoleon’s findings.

Oxytocin is a neurochemical, sometimes called the "cuddle hormone" or "love hormone." We couldn’t fall in love without it. We produce oxytocin at will when we engage in affectionate or care for others. Oxytocin is unique among neurochemicals in that the more we produce, the more receptive our nervous systems become to it. It is an ever-growing cycle of pleasure. The more we love, the more we are receptive to love, and so on.

This is a very powerful, ever-expanding cycle.

Oxytocin has very powerful affects, and the choices we make can generate more of it, or less. If you take our 3 sex-drive steps and align them towards a goal you love, whatever it is, you will generate oxytocin. If you care about your customers and want to nurture them, you will generate oxytocin. If you care about your friends and family, and do what you know is best for everyone invovled, out of love, you will generate oxytocin.

There is power in oxytocin will enable you to counter the effects of stress, relieve depression, decrease cravings, and increase sexual receptivity. It produces feelings of "all is right with the world," which is the perfect mindset for creating success. Napoleon Hill talks about polarity, partnership, and attraction – perhaps he was talking about the power of oxytocin.

"No man is happy or complete without the modifying influence of the right woman. The man who does not recognize this important truth deprives himself of the power which has done more to help men achieve success than all other forces combined." – Napoleon Hill

Times may have changed but affection and hormones still come into play. Today we have very altered gender roles, but again, Hill’s principle stands, a masculine/feminine balance of some kind is very powerful. In business there are ‘perfect complement’ partners, and you’ll notice one is usually softer and more feminine, and one is harder, Jay-Z has Beyonce, and their empire grows, etc.

"Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but its forces are like a cyclone – they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgment, and balance." – Napoleon Hill

An Urge To Action

How many people have a good idea, but just can’t seem to work up the urge to act. If you were to study or interview them, you’d notice that these people generally have many strong issues about sex. They’re distracted by it, obsessed with it, starved for it, and much more.

"Sex, alone, is a mighty urge to action, but its forces are like a cyclone – they are often uncontrollable. When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise, accuracy of judgment, and balance." – Napoleon Hill

What Napoleon is getting at is that sex-drive can be directed distractedly, towards some illusion of sexual satisfaction, or blended with love and directed toward a truly noble goal for humanity. When you are aimed at one, you are not aimed at the other.

Hill goes on to explain that sex-drive is always powerful, creative, and generates results, but it can be directed towards other life goals.

"When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, [the sex drive] maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches." – Napoleon Hill

Hill is pointing out that the kind of hungry, obsessive desire you see in people who "just want sex," can be replicated. gathered, and focused on achieving a dream.

I say that not only can this type of desire help you achieve your dream, but I also say that aligning this desire with your core gifts and life purpose will make you so magnetic and attractive, that wealth + relationships + health will all come to you, so long as you remain focused.

Conclusion

92% of people never achieve their dreams because they have no idea how to use their strongest energy: sex!

I’ve taken a controversial and misunderstood topic, and shone some light on it for you. You’ve been given insight about the power of your desire (if you want a clear explanation of How To Really Desire Success, check this out), I’ve explained how you can focus it and direct it. You’ve been given examples of successful people who’ve done this.

Now go use your knew knowledge, achieve some dreams, get on-track ot success, and I know there’s lots of questions on this hot-button topic, so if you have anything to share, please join us in the comments!

Crazy, I know.

That means all the words you’ve maybe avoided ‘marketing’, ‘niche’, ‘product launch’, ‘assets’, ‘features’, etc. – there`s a reason most artists never really connect with financial wealth. They’re too busy hating on the people who are experts in that arena, because of their "word-choices."

Again, unless you’re planning on revolutionizing language, it is very, very helpful to understand this stuff. (And the same goes for the marketing crowd — learn about stuff that may be unfamiliar: inspiration, love, creativity, flow.)

I interact with a lot of artists and many of them want to play in the world of money. They want to be materially successful, they want to achieve big dreams, that will almost certainly require large amounts of funds + resources, and they want to do it without selling out or compromising their art.

Like any country you would visit, the world of money has it’s own culture, and refusing to learn this culture is like heading to Rwanda without a lick of study. Even worse, if you have a Rwandan who happens to speak English willing to tutor you, but you`re too closed-minded to listen, probably means you aren`t anywhere near ready to make your journey.

The same thing goes for artists who want to journey to financial wealth, if you can’t roll with the culture, you aren’t ready either.

Allow me to share a couple personal stories from my week…

Story Number 1

I recently had a discussion with an awesome chick who loves helping people, and likes to make her own mold. I thought she wanted to talk about achieving big dreams, (which again, will almost certainly require large funds and resources), and the first thing she chose to do was pick on the language of marketers.

She was particurlarly focused on outlining how the phrase "solving problems" was … dare I say it … problematic, lol.

This is funny, but to me, not aimed at success.

Aimed at success to me is: "Hmm, these marketing guys seem to really be on to something money-wise, and they achieve pretty big things, and they’re involved in every major transaction in the world, and they’ve evolved their language for a reason — I’m open to it, and you seem to understand both sides, I’d love to know more, Jason."

Anyway, that’s not how the discussion went, which is fine.

I could’ve just agreed with her language-hate and said yes to move on with our meeting, but I naturally filter people who work with me. I’m a walking gold mine, and I am not interested in working with artists who insist on picking on the language of business. (I also don’t conduct business deals with people who don’t bother to learn the language of business either.)

The language of business has evolved for a reason, it’s powerful, it’s a legacy, and unless someone shows me their vision for transforming it completely, we’ll be using it – that’s a deal-breaker for me.

• If you don’t want to understand, at least on a basic level, how marketing greats like Greg Habstritt, Dan Kennedy, and Joe Polish create million dollar launches where tons of people support them with dollars – don’t talk to me.
• If you don’t want to understand that to break out of your small-time ‘creative artist’ world, you may have to grow, learn new cultures, and speak new languages – don’t talk to me.
• If you aren’t ready to listen, with an open-heart and mind, to the success-coach speak on his area of expertise – don’t talk to me.

I am uncompromising on this. There is a language of success that exists, (financial and otherwise) and I highly recommend it be the next language you learn. Start now.

You can actually see the evolution of someone’s language as it mirrors their success mindsets. Take a look at Jay-Z or Eminem’s catalog, and listen to the words they used in the beginning and the words they use now.

"Popped out, I’m the realest deal,
best legal team so the deals is ill
It’s Mac, OPI and a fragrance too
Apparel:, I’m dominating every avenue" – Drake feat. Nicki Minaj, Make Me Proud

 

This 29 year old rapper actually sings about all her business deals, and references her fantastic legal team. (and she’s not even close to the only one – any mature, successful person can speak this language.)

The most street-thug-style rappers who just wanted to make money of their rhymes, quickly learn the language of success, it’s necessary to grow.

The most spiritual people like Abraham-Hicks and Deepak Chopra learn the language of success to broaden their reach. There is Nothing Wrong With Marketing-Speak. Really. There isn’t. It exists for a very good reason.

The hollywood elite start small, but eventually have to learn the language of success

I see myself easily travelling back and forth from the country of wealth, economics, and the market, to the country of art, creativity, inspiration, spirit. It is vital that my team and those who work with me are at least vaguely interested in a blend of both languages.

It’s what I teach, a blend of spiritual and material success. Arguing with that is arguing with the core of who I really am.

So… I explained that a mark of successful people don’t force other cultures to bend to their speech patterns, successful people instead connect with others on their level, and then lead them to new horizons.

I cited the way Steve Jobs spoke the Record Executives language, when he wanted to realize his dream of the iPod.

I explained how Steve didn’t talk about ‘Changing The Face Of Technology’ and ‘Inspiring The Tech World’ with his iPod and instead used numbers, stats, and market graphs to explain how iTunes was an incredibly viable, scalable, and sustainable business model.

When I finished my story, I realized that I wasn’t really heard or understood at all, and that’s fine, but it also means it was time for me to go.

I was focused on speaking the language of success, but my friend was still focused on defending her position.

Story Number Two

Recently I had a discussion with another blogger, in response to his line: "[You should be] building a product that you like instead of a product that other people need [or its an obvious failure]".He wasn’t super-focused on it, but it caught my eye, so I responded.

I responded by outlining the 3 phases of a creator, the ultimate phase being the one where you create whatever you want/like, from the heart, and it still achieves massive commercial success and solves a problem / fulfills a need.

• Phase 1: When an artist is young, immature, and idealistic, they generally want to ‘create purely for love’, and so they do it. At least for a while. This helps them become skilled and talented. It also usually leaves them poor, because they’ve ignored every aspect of commerce and economy. They expect their genius to be worshipped regardless.
• Phase 2: The artist becomes fed up with being unknown, and starts to learn about marketing. Sometimes they get obsessive, doing whatever they have to to get others to buy their stuff, or to cater to their crowd. This commercialism usually brings financial success on a certain scale.
• Phase 3: The holy grail. After being immersed in the business world, they eventually realize that they want to get back to their creative side, and do something ‘risky’, but this time their innate knowledge and resources of commercial success helps their experimental creation soar.

In both of these discussions, I insightfully blended the divine, inspired, spiritual side of Doing What You Love with the physical, material, financial side of things of Solving Problems And Fulfilling Needs.

It’s what I do, and I’m fucking good at it.

Lots of people like my stuff, but if you’re one of the one’s who wants to continue holding on to ideals of Love/Creative success being somehow more important than Material/Financial success, more power to ya and I probably won’t see you around

I don’t mean your writing ‘voice’ (though the world wants that too).

I mean use your real voice, the physical one you born with. It’s one of the most powerful tools for expressing yourself and moving others, and unless you’re a musician, chances are you haven’t paid much attention to it.

Way too many talented, passionate people are scared to speak up. If you can’t speak up to the people closest to you – your friends and family, you won’t be able to speak up anywhere else. Start now, speak up.

I`ve seen a lot of presentations on the ‘net, from marketers, to gurus, to motivational speakers and more. They all have a different vibe, and a unique voice. They’re all successful in their own way. At the same time, it feels like they could show some more heart, some true-er colors.

Image courtesy of sheelamohan.

I Used To Hide My Voice

I’ve always felt like I had a powerful voice. I’ve had conversations my whole life that continually generate eye-opening moments and glowing testimonials. I’ve used it to turn on tons of women. I’ve even used it to manipulate and win arguments (not my proudest moments.)

Until now though, I’ve used my voice rarely with groups. I’ve emceed the occasional gig, I’ve sung a few times on stage, I’ve organized sports events, but recently I spoke for a sold-out group of entrepreneurs, and I was rewarded with inspired, transformed people, and they wanted an encore (I was asked to continue speaking longer!)

I have always had very clear insight on creativity and solutions, from my youngest memories. I rarely shared those clear insights though, I’d shut up and be a good boy because I didn’t want to rock the boat. See, I love harmony. I love things going smoothly, I love people getting along.

So I spent much of my life imagining myself speaking up and speaking out, even when I wasn`t. I`d write poems and songs that expressed what I felt (won a few competitions ).

Eventually, not-rocking-the-boat became painfully impossible. It was either rock the boat or starve and die.

So I made some big decisions, and since then, I’ve spoken up whenever I felt strongly about something and compelled to express. Some people like it, some people don`t, but either way I`m using one of my most powerful gifts.

I aim to do it gently, but if a firmer tone is called for, I use it.

I use my voice.

And now I thrillingly speak to groups, and I do it with passion and power.

See if you can feel the vibe I’m talking from the clip below from my presentation:

Let Me Hear You!

So I made a transformation, I stepped up and expressed myself. Some of the people who encouraged me to do that, disappeared when I actually took their advice, and that`s okay. They don`t have to like what I say.

I know you`re out there, people who have been in the same boat.

I know there are others like me, those who have incredible ideas, solutions brewing, hungry desires for better lives and better relationships who sit quietly in silence and cliches, when they really want to speak! They`re sitting in fear of other people`s reactions. They’re scared of their mates, parents, and best friends. They don’t want to lose them.

You know what?

Fuck ‘em I say.

If you can’t say what’s in your heart, not even one time, and have them embrace you, accept you, and understand you…

Fuck ‘em.

I’m gonna repeat it…

Do you! Be you! Be the real you, and fuck whoever doesn’t like it.

I want to see more creative souls, passionate people, rockin’ artists RISE UP and SPEAK OUT.

Use your voice…

…please!

So shout out and lemme know in the comments section, speak up and share your feelings on it!

If you want to check out the hour-long presentation in full, here it is:

If you pay attention, in part 6 of the speech, there’s a giant shout-out to my team, Arthur Hung. This man always encouraged my voice. Always. No matter what I was saying, he trusted that it was an honest, heartfelt expression. Thanks man, the world needs more encouragement to express, and you’re the king.

Are you comfortable with fame?

If you had instant fame tomorrow, how would you feel about it?

What ingredients are necessary to be famous?

Well, I know one thing, what we love grows, and what we ignore doesn’t, and I love fame.

And recently I’ve had some fame of my own. A Toronto artist, Pooneh Stad sketched a portrait of me, I was in a music video with rapper Famous and songstress Melanie Durrant, I was mentioned in the thank you section of Dave + Audley’s BasketBall Quotes Book, and I’m speaking to a sold-out group of creative entrepreneurs in two days.

How did I end up doing these things?

I didn’t use any tactics or techniques, I didn’t even use a ‘strategy.’

I used attitudes. In particular, the attitude of ‘loving fame’, and an attitude of ‘appreciating others’. Ever tried them? How much? Could you improve?

"I can’t help myself
I’m addicted to a life of material
It’s some kind of joke
I’m obsessively opposed to the typical"

Lady Gaga, The Fame

Loving Fame

If you listen to Lady Gaga or Drake, two of the world’s youngest to rock some record-setting fame, you`ll hear them express some mixed feelings about fame, especially in their music. It`s just words of the moment though, and if you had an honest, intimate chat with them, you`d find out that they really do love fame, or they did when they were creating their albums.

Now, you might not want the level of fame that Gaga + Drake have, but even if you want to be a little more famous in your field, it`s so key to have the right attitude.

Love fame, it`s a tool for reaching people.

If you have some quality products and services to offer, that can help people who are feeling bad or have ome problems, are you helping them if you hate fame, and stay unnoticed?

No, you’re harming them.

You’re making it difficult and challenging for them to get something that it might be your destiny to deliver.

Be happy to expand and reach more people, because that’s all fame is. A tool to help you shine your awesomeness to more people.

"Did I just trade free time for camera time?

Will I blow all of this money baby, ‘hammer-time’?

Yeah, I just need some closure, ain’t no turning back for me

I’m in it till it’s over."

The Resistance

Appreciate Others

I love Pooneh Stad, and I love Famous, and I love The Breakdown Show. They all represent Toronto hard, and I continually give them whatever I can.

At famous’ music video shoot, I entertained all much of his crew. I bought them all food or water. I got my business partner to cancel multiple appointments, I hunted him down a camera from a director I knew in Paris.

I often aim to meet up with Pooneh, and I, offered to include her in my Sexy Is Feminine project. I gave Dan Stad access to some SpiritSentient content for his site, TodaysToronto.com.

I straight-up pour my heart out for people, giving almost until it hurts (note: if it hurts to give, you’ve either given too much, too fast and upset the balance of the relationships, or you don’t really WANT to give).

And what happens when I do this? 99% of the time, people respond in kind. They include me in their artworks, or seek me out for their projects as well. Together we create amazing things, like Famous feat. Melanie Durrant’s video "This Chick Is Crazy".

This is a really quality, really professional, fantastically produced video is by Zac Facts. It’s based off the show Cheaters, and follows Famous as he shops for his girlfriend’s (Melanie Durrant’s) surprise party, meanwhile she is paranoid and jealous. I play the instigating talkshow host, trying to stir up trouble. Watch til the end for the passionate fight scene (you can spot Arthur as camera man too) and if you like the song go check out Famous at RoadToCenterStage.com and Melanie Durrant.

Or Pooneh Stad‘s gorgeous rendition of… me

She’s a wicked talented artist and model (both professions I adore, and often help coach), and I honored to be a subject.

Then there’s Dave Mendonca + Audley’s Stephenson’s legendary Basketball Quotes book (I’m thanked in the first paragraph!)

This book (thebreakdownbook.com) basically introduced me to the world of basketball. I’d always loved to play sports, but never really followed any professional players. The humour, wit, and wisdom in this book blew me away, and it makes a fantastic bathroom reader or coffee table book.

Dave + Audley of The Breakdown Show have amassed quite the following for the hilarious antagonistic-old-friends vibe they bring to the world of sports. Their humour and warmth is so attractive, in fact, that this non-sports-talk guy, was an instant convert.

All these amazing creations I got to be a part of, and not one of them did I pitch, approach, or ask for. How many people get to be in music videos, portraits done, and have books dedicated to them? I’m touched, I’m appreciate it, and I love it.

It all seems natural to me, it’s what happens when you show love.

You Can’t Force It

You can’t force people to talk about you, support you, praise you, or even care, all you can do is be an awesome you. Love fame and appreciate others, and hopefully inspire them to send their attention and support your way. No guarantees though.

If you want guarantees, then you’re basically waiting until you get PROOF before you start appreciating people, and that attitude is generally a success-slow-er. You have to APPRECIATE first, then results show up.

Adopt the proper attitudes, live those attitudes with actions that match, and allow fame to unfold.

"For so long I buried myself

And nobody knew, and nobody helped

Deep down,

I knew that I wanted wealth

I loved the praise and how it felt

I love the fame simple and pure

No hesitation now, drop the fear"

Remember, attitudes, not tactics. You can reduce these powerful mindsets into tactics by over-focusing on your goal, or trying to ‘use’ them to ‘manipulate’ things and ‘get’ something, but that`s a shitty thing to do, and it won`t help you. Now get out there and show some love! (And show some in the comments below too!)

You may have heard the phrase, "nothing in life is black & white. "

But I say everything can be, it’s just a matter of perspective.

Everyone is always feeling pain/pleasure.

Let’s start with something everyone can agree on: Everyone is always feeling some degree of pleasure, or pain, right?

Even discomfort or ‘blah’, is painful compared to exhilaration, joy, and bliss.

Now let’s take something else we can agree on…

Life is a series of moments, and we can either be feeling ‘more pleasure’ or ‘more pain.’

This is very black and white. Every moment, every decision, is pain or pleasure (‘less pain’ counts).

So now, let’s say that anything that creates more pain for us is a 0, and anything that creates more pleasure is a 10.

Most people go through life aiming for 7′s and then settling quietly for 5′s.

I’m here to tell you, aim for 10′s. & accept 10′s, period.

So, like… be perfect?

Of course not, this isn’t about perfection, it’s about knowing pain and pleasure, and choosing well. This doesn’t mean that every girl or job needs to be perfect. But it does need to generate pleasure (or ‘less pain’).

If you meet a girl, and it feels good to say ‘hi,’ do it. 10-star move. If you find out she wants a free ride, and the easy way out, and isn’t interested in committing and growing in her relationship, and it feels good to break-up, do it. Another 10-star move.

If you enthusiastically partner with someone because you believe the two of you will revolutionize business together, do it. 10-star move, you feel better, you have some collaboration experience under your belt, etc. If it goes south and everything you’ve tried just isn’t working, let them go.

The 0-star move is settling. It’s prolonging something you can tell won’t generate ‘less-pain’.

Only you know if you’ve tried every solution, or if you’ve just repeated old ways. Only you know if you benefited a lot and made your life better, or got distracted and confused from what really matters to you.

Focus on feeling better, on moves that create pleasure in your life (or less pain!), and make 10-star decisions. Then make more.

On the flipside, make sure you’re delivering value; make sure you’re as 10-star as you can be. Are you an indispensable ‘more pleasure” ten in someone’s life?

I know what I bring to the table, do you? Get clear on your value, and deliver it where it’s appreciated.

Trust your heart.

In all you do, check with your heart or gut or feelings to know if any decision you make , is a 10 star one for you. Does it create more pleasure or less pain? And once you’ve decided, then be ready for it to change because you grow, and because a 10 for you might be a 0 in the next minute.*

This is a rare way of life; and it makes everything black & white, but I highly recommend giving it a shot, because it makes decisions really fucking easy, and who doesn’t want that.

*And vice versa.

Well, their heart is in the right place.

Jon Cavanagh wrote an article for YES! Magazine, telling his personal involvement in 1979's version of Occupy Wall Street. He also explains a long history of 'good people', 'coming together', and 'fighting back'. He applauds these protests and demonstrations, and he does this because he can feel what many of us can feel about these movements:

Their hearts are in the right place.

They really are, and that's fantastic. We need that. I love it.

At the same time, I'm going to point out that while their hearts are in the right place, just about everything else could be much better placed.

The very thing Cavanagh is applauding, to me is not a powerful recipe for mediocrity. Sure, protests have their place, and I'm not saying they shouldn't exist, but I am saying there are far more powerful solutions available.

When 'good people' are only creative enough to use 'fighting back' as a solution, their efforts are misplaced.

When the energy of the day is directed towards protest and resistance, instead of understanding and smooth win-win solution-seeking, it is misplaced.

When people who want to better for themselves in life, are condemning someone who has done well for themselves in life, their efforts are misplaced.

So what's a more powerful solution?

One more powerful solution involves each protester understanding their own personal value.

Human beings start businesses, human beings inspire each other, human beings team up and create great things. (Or they team up and sit around protesting.)

Human beings, every single one of them, has massive potential. Not a single one is a write off. No one is less valuable. People may choose not to use their gifts and they may choose to poorly invest their time and energy, but not one person is lacking a wealth of of value inside them that is waiting to come out and be rewarded by others.

Sean Stephenson, 50 cent, and Nick Vujicic were looked at by many as 'weak' or 'not valuable' early in their lives, but they believed in themselves, spent their time getting clear on their value, and offered it to the world well. They now uplift communities everywhere.

Sean Stephenson was born with little chance of surviving his first night alive because of his Brittle Bones Disorder (where even coughing could fracture his ribs). Now he's successful personal growth expert who's met Richard Branson and the Dalai Lama.

Curtis Jackson was born in the ghettos, drug-dealing at age 12, and shot 9 times in 2000. Since then he's gone on to become a massively success as 50 Cent, and his personal creative success continues to provide economic opportunity for so many.

Nick Vujicic was born with no limbs, and wasn't even allowed to attend school. He embraced his life, and turned his disability into a gift that inspires and motivates others through his own successful non-profit organization, started at age 17.

These are just a few of the many examples of people who could easily have lived their lives in poverty, settled for a life of complaining. All three of them almost killed themselves, and all three were willing to take the hands they were dealt and search for meaning, aiming higher.

If a man with no limbs, a brittle-boned man, and a 12 year old drug dealer can all rise up, what could the intelligent and capable Occupy Wall-Street-ers do? Why waste another minute protesting? Why not devote their time and energy to Being More Valuable To Society, it right now? I encourage everyone to devote their time and energy to unlocking the value and powerful stories contained within them, instead of creating a giant group of people complaining… loudly.

Is it because they are "too ordinary" and they weren't born with disadvantages and disabilities?

No, because "ordinary people" can succeed too.

Jon Lajoie turned the most mediocre experiences of being an Everyday Average Normal Guy into a hit song with 24,000,000+ views and a loyal fan-base and Rebecca Black at 14 puts out a 'garbage' music video 3,000,000+ people 'dislike' on Youtube, and spins it into her personal fame.

Occupy Wall Street talks of providing a wake-up call to 'something that needs changed'.

And they're right, something does need changed, it's just not what they think. They are so focused on outside events, they are missing the real necessary change.

Here's the real wake-up call…

"Hey! Occupy Wall Street… Change Yourselves!"

What's that? It bothers you that you're not rewarded like the 1%? Boohoo. I'm in tears.

Forget about the 1%. They have nothing to do with the value inside you, that will be rewarded when you clarify it, access it, and deliver it to the world properly.

Occupy Wallstreet wants change? Well, when it comes down to it, individuals changing themselves is the only change possible anyway. Get your mind off the 1%. Focus on you. 

The mind is the most powerful resource, direct it properly. If you feel like you're part of the 99%, I encourage you to unlock your value. I know you're valuable, I know you're destined for success, why are you acting like you don't have any? A person who knows they're valuable doesn't waste their time complaining all day. Instead, they create new ideas, try new things, and focus on their unique purpose and gifts.

The people involved in Occupy Wall Street are strong, smart, capable people. Let's see them do the things that strong, smart, capable people do. If that's occupying public space and moaning about some group of people, fine, if that's finding their life purpose, their unique gifts, and delivering opportunities and delivering more value to the world, even better.

"It's not about what you HAVE, it's about what you DO with what you have." – Sean Stephenson.

Cheers to everyone's success.