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2017-04-18T18:11:00.000+05:30

Hello peeps,

Greetings!!

Are you looking to share any experiences or incidents that have brought a major change in you? Would you like to share a story of yours which has a huge impact on your life? Are you a good story writer and would like to showcase your skills to the world? Then why waste time thinking?

Share your stories with us & with everyone.

Write to us at sharewithsrm@gmail.com & we shall let the world know it.

Stop thinking and start writing. Take care & keep rocking.

Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Hawk Eye Application & Safety tips for Women

2016-10-10T11:26:00.001+05:30

Hello people,

Here are few safety tips for Women, along with an application that helps women to report in case of any emergencies to the police team.

SAFETY TIPS FOR WOMEN

Have you ever felt frightened or intimidated when out walking alone? Have you ever wondered what you should do if approached by an attacker? Have you ever worried about becoming yet another home invasion statistic?

The sad reality is that we live in an increasingly violent society in which the fear of crime is ever-present. Personal safety has become an issue of importance for everyone, but especially for women.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW ABOUT PERSONAL SAFETY

1. Awareness: Your first line of defence. Most people think of kicks to the groin and blocking punches when they hear the term "self-defence." However, true self-defence begins long before any actual physical contact. The first, and probably most important, component in self-defence is awareness: awareness of yourself, your surroundings, and your potential attacker's likely strategies. The criminal's primary strategy is to use the advantage of surprise. Studies have shown that criminals are adept at choosing targets who appear to be unaware of what is going on around them. By being aware of your surroundings and by projecting a "force presence," many altercations which are commonplace on the street can be avoided.

2. Use your sixth sense. "Sixth sense." "Gut instinct." Whatever you call it, your intuition is a powerful subconscious insight into situations and people. All of us, especially women, have this gift, but very few of us pay attention to it. Learn to trust this power and use it to your full advantage. Avoid a person or a situation which does not "feel" safe-you're probably right.

3. Self-defence training. It is important to evaluate the goals and practical usefulness of a women's self-defence program before signing up. Here are two tips:

a) Avoid martial arts studios unless you specifically wish to train in the traditional martial arts techniques and are prepared for a long-term commitment. Many women's self-defence programs teach watered-down martial arts techniques that are complex and unrealistic under the stress of an actual attack.

b) The self-defence program should include simulated assaults, with a fully padded instructor in realistic rape and attack scenarios, to allow you to practice what you've learned.

4. Escape: Always your best option. What if the unthinkable happens? You are suddenly confronted by a predator who demands that you go with him-be it in a car, or into an alley, or a building. It would seem prudent to obey, but you must never leave the primary crime scene. You are far more likely to be killed or seriously injured if you go with the predator than if you run away (even if he promises not to hurt you). Run away, yell for help, throw a rock on a store or car window-do whatever you can to attract attention. And if the criminal is after your purse or other material items, throw them one way while you run the other.

5. Your right to fight. Unfortunately, no matter how diligently we practice awareness and avoidance techniques, we may find ourselves in a physical confrontation. Whether or not you have self-defence training, and no matter what your age or physical condition, it is important to understand that you CAN and SHOULD defend yourself physically. You have both the moral and legal right to do so, even if the attacker is only threatening you and hasn't struck first. Many women worry that they will anger the attacker and get hurt worse if they defend themselves, but statistics clearly show that your odds of survival are far greater if you do fight back. Aim for the eyes first and the groin second. Remember, though, to use the element of surprise to your advantage-strike quickly, and mean business. You may only get one chance.

6. Pepper spray: Pros and cons. Pepper spray, like other self-defence aids, can be a useful tool. However, it is important to understand that there can be significant drawbacks to its use. For example, did you know that it doesn't work on everyone? Surprisingly, 15-20% of people will not be incapacitated even by a full-face spray. Also, if you're carrying it in your purse, you will only waste time and alert the attacker to your intentions while you fumble for it. Never depend on any self-defence tool or weapon to stop an attacker. Trust your body and your wits, which you can always depend on in the event of an attack.

7. Home invasions: A crime on the rise. The primary way to prevent a home invasion is simply to never, ever open your door unless you either are certain you know who's on the other side or can verify that they have a legitimate reason for being there (dressing up as a repair person or even police officer is one trick criminals use). In the event that an intruder breaks in while you're home, you should have a safe room in your house to which you can retreat. Such a room should be equipped with a strong door, deadbolt lock, phone (preferably cell phone), and a can of pepper spray or fire extinguisher.

8. Avoiding a car-jacking. Lock all doors and keep windows up when driving. Most car-jackings take place when vehicles are stopped at intersections. The criminals approach at a 45 degree angle (in the blind spot), and either pull you out of the driver's seat or jump in the passenger's seat.

9. A travel tip. Violent crimes against women happen in the best and worst hotels around the world. Predators may play the part of a hotel employee, push their way through an open or unlocked door, or obtain a pass key to the room. As with home safety, never open your door unless you are certain the person on the other side is legitimate, and always carry a door wedge with you when you travel. A wedge is often stronger than the door it secures.

10. Safety in cyberspace. Although the Internet is educational and entertaining, it can also be full of danger if one isn't careful. When communicating on-line, use a nickname and always keep personal information such as home address and phone number confidential. Instruct family members to do the same. Keep current on security issues, frauds, viruses, etc.

EVE-TEASING

Streets, bus stands, railway stations, parks and other public places should be for everyone to access and enjoy. Yet for many women they are the scenes of harassment. Everyday women face systematic assault on their fundamental right to free movement and personal dignity.

SEXUAL HARRSEMENT

Sexual Harassment affects all women in some form or the other. Lewd remarks, touching, wolf-whistles, "looks" are part of any woman's life, so much so that it is dismissed as normal. Working women are no exception. In fact, working women most commonly face the backlash, to women taking new roles, which belong to male domains especially in the organized sector. In the unorganized sector also it is widely prevalent. Studies have shown that sexual harassment is still endemic, often hidden, and present in all kinds of organisations. 40-60% working women face harassment at working places.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Within the four walls of homes, the violence against women is quite high. Domestic violence against is widely prevalent, but has remained largely invisible. Statistics reveal that 45% of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands. (ICRW 2002) .32% had committed acts of violence against their pregnant wives. Every 60 minutes a woman dies in India due to domestic violence. Women accept violence because social norms sanction them. At the same time, cultural conditioning and economic dependence prevent the vast majority of women leaving their marital homes. Though there is criminal law to prevent domestic violence, the recent civil law Protection of women from Domestic Violence is aimed at providing relief, compensation and support to a woman.

DOWRY HARRASEMENT

1. In India, Dowry system that has been prevailing amongst every society and affected lives of the people who are involved in marriage and on those who are around.

2. When Princesses of a dynasty got married, the King offered, out of overwhelming joy, a part of his wealth and his State to his Sons-in-Law in a grand wedding function. His Ministers also followed this regal practice as a protocol. The public in general, irrespective of rich and poor, followed this showy practice to maintain 'prestige' and felt great at par with the still rich society

3. This dubious matrimonial tradition however, seeped into the homes of the poor and downtrodden people to muster a false respect. By then there was already present a guilty conscious feeling of giving birth to and fostering of girl children. Also the growing percentage of female births over male children contributed its share to the corrupt system. The fact that every home having more girls than boys alarmed the elders make hurry the marriage of their daughters and created a ground for competition.

4. The Dowry system has recently become so popular that every groom felt proud and gaudy on the number of items, weight of gold and amount of money he received.

5. The parents of the girls too sighed in relief over gifting their sons-in-law with such things. They relaxed indebted because their daughters will be well respected and best treated by their in-laws, as compared to their counterparts.

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Thanks and regards,

Sriram Mallik.

Be the change!! Love your parents!!

2016-06-11T13:39:00.001+05:30

Hello readers,

Hoping this post would be read by you all in your good health. It's quite normal that we see people in their early thirties or forties yell at their parents for silly things. I agree that they might annoy us to a certain extent with repeated questions, unnecessary doubts, few messy things which they might have done because of their helplessness due to age factor etc. But think honestly, how many of us might have done the same when we were kids? Do you really think they should be apologized for such behaviour towards them? If your answer is NO, then undoubtedly you're a stone hearted person. For such people, "SORRY PALS!! THIS ARTICLE ISN'T FOR YOU GUYS".

To be much precise, I feel very bad whenever I have a quarrel or whenever I yell at them. It takes time for me to understand whatever I've done was wrong. I know that most of us feel like apologizing to them immediately but there's something that stops us.. It might take time but one day you'll realize that it's nothing but EGO. You'll definitely be happy, the day you learn to apologize them. As they are the people who taught you what life is, they are the ones who had faced the worst situations just to see us grow. Our parents stopped eating just to feed us better. They worked hard to earn a better livelihood so that we don't face any problems in our lives. And is it not minimal to apologize them for being rude and to love them more?

For all those who have been waiting for the right moment, go ahead and tell your parents how much you love them. Re-think all the moments which we've spent from our childhood, the hardships they faced for us and probably it's the right time we share the moment of LOVE with them. Make sure we do it even before it's late. Few of them might not be that lucky to share their feelings after reading this article but try not to be rude with them from now on. Remember that we might not be like the way they dreamt of but definitely, we could be better than what we are now.

So my dear readers, be the change. Few might be in a desperation to show the world about their status and wellness but just before doing it, do ensure your parents are the first to notice the change. Their love and blessings would definitely count. Please don't ignore them by leaving them at old-age homes etc. They would have left us in day cares like the way most of us are leaving our parents in old-age homes. But they wanted us to be a part of their love and caring. So why not give them the same love which they gave? Or probably a bit of more love than what they showered on us from their childhood? Take time and recollect few important aspects of your life and the presence of your family.

If you feel that you'd like to tell your parents how much you love them, it's never late. Walk to them and tell them how important they are. I'm going to do the same right now. And don't forget, do let us know now you felt, either by commenting on this article or write to us at sharewithsrm@gmail.com
Any stories that you'd like to share about your family, your love life, any good friendship messages that you'd like to let our readers know, please do write to us.

Remember, world changes only when we change. So BE THE CHANGE! NEVER IGNORE YOUR PARENTS!! LOVE THEM MORE & BE THE WORLD FOR THEM TILL THEIR LAST BREATH.

Thanks for your time & regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Tips to maintain good friendship

2016-06-09T12:00:00.000+05:30

Hello visitors.. Hope everyone's doing well.. It's quite natural that we get to make a lot of friends and we also know that friendship starts when communication is built between two people who later share few common interests.. However we also often see few opinion differences, misunderstandings between friends which might end up in bringing a permanent, uncovered distance between people. So here are few tips to keep up friendship and not to break the bond.

P.S : Special thanks to Ammu for this wonderful article.

1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A FRIENDSHIP.
- If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in keeping tabs on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your friends regardless of how much they give to you.

2. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.
- Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other people achieve their goals.

3. BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.
- Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.

4. TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.
- This is one way to show concern for others. If you really care, you will tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But once you've brought the problem to your friend's attention, don't harp on it all the time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you see some of your friend's faults. Be patient with a friend as he or she tries to change. Realize that nobody is perfect.

5. BE RELIABLE.
- When you say you are going to be there, be there.

6. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.
- Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It may be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel threatened when your friend spends time with others. If you are afraid to let your friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid of losing them. Good friendship will endure time spent apart. You and your friends may learn to appreciate each other even more.

7. BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.
- Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about something. But don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset about something, give them your full attention. Most of the time, what friends really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand their feelings.

8. LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.
- Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a particular situation. Do not automatically take your friends' behavior personally.

9. DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.
- Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.

10.DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
- Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've said what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing until you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win the argument may ruin your friendship.

Hope you guys liked this article.. Do keep visiting us for more and do feel free to write to us at sharewithsrm@gmail.com

Love and be loved

Thanks and regards,

Sriram Mallik.

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Be the writer!!

2016-06-04T12:29:00.000+05:30

Hello people,

Hope everyone's doing well. Very sorry for not updating anything.. Not finding the time to do.. However I am planning to launch a series of articles very soon.. Will keep you all updated with the postings. And here's a chance to be a writer yourself. Do send me any articles which you've written or which you like that you saw on the internet or which you'd like to share with others to my email. Will post it tagging you.

You can write to me at sriramthecupidofvizag@gmail.com or sharewithsrm@gmail.com and we shall post it tagging your name. This would also be shared to FACEBOOK & TWITTER too.

Will be waiting for the emails. C'mon people gear up and keep sending whatever you'd like to let the fellow readers read.

P.S : No offensive posts please.

Regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Valentines Week 2016

2016-02-04T15:33:00.001+05:30

It's the month of LOVE, February. Valentines' Week is back again...

Here is some info I've gathered about the Valentine's week Calendar for this year.

Valentine week days name

Sunday, February 7, 2016: Rose Day

Monday, February 8, 2016: Propose Day

Tuesday, February 9, 2016: Chocolate Day

Wednesday, February 10, 2016: Teddy Day

Thursday, February 11, 2016: Promise Day

Friday, February 12, 2016: Hug Day

Saturday, February 13, 2016: Kiss Day

Sunday, February 14, 2016: Valentine Day

So start this week with a ROSE, Propose your love to her, Sweeten your relationship with a Chocolate, Gift her a very cute Teddy, Promise her that you'd be with her forever no matter what, Share your feelings with a tight Hug, Kiss her and show how much you love her and be her Valentine forever.

With Love and best regards,

Sriram Mallik

Change in domain

2015-10-08T08:55:00.003+05:30

Hello people,

We have migrated from www.sharewithus.in to www.sharewithus.co.in
The regular blogger domain www.loveguru-srm.blogspot.in still remain the same.

Thank you every one for encouraging us and we hope to see the same encouragement in the future too :)

Regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Five Lakh Viewers.. Five lakh hits.. A remarkable moment

2015-06-17T12:36:00.000+05:30

A big HELLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO to everyone. It's been quite a long time since I've started this blog with the name www.loveguru-srm.blogspot.in which later on was changed to www.lovegurusrm.in
It's always been a simple blog with a slow and steady type of progress and I always ensured that my blog posts reach you with some good note. Took quite a lot of time than expected but finally you've made this success a remarkable one. Thankk you each one of you for visiting my blog regularly no matter there are no regular updates though. However I'll ensure that I keep updating it with good posts going forward.

Thank you very much for your encouragement. Hope this would continue going forward.

P.S. With you all, this blog is nothing. So this success means a lot to me.

Thanks and best regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Don't delay in proposing..Express your thoughts real quick..

2015-04-27T10:59:00.000+05:30

Hello friends,

Hope you're doing great there... Been a long time since I've posted anything in my blog.. So here's something for you. This post explains why you should not delay in expressing your love towards them...

Her diary

Today was the last day we met..
i thought he would propose he didnt..
he doesnt love me,crazy me..
how could i even assume dat..
i didnt look back i didnt want to show my tears to him..
the pain broke my heart when he walked away..
want him to be happy frever bcoz thinking abt old time,i can spend the rest of my life...!

His diary

I saw her beautiful face last time..
saw her smile and wanted to tell her that she means more than my life,bt she didnt even give me a glance...
she is really pretty i dnt deserve her..
i let go my angel today..
bt she will be burried in my heart till my last breath...!!

Conclusion

TEARS

So always convey your feelings to the ones you like or love...Might be a difficult task but remember Swami Vivekananda's words...
OPPORTUNITIES KNOCK YOUR DOOR VERY RARELY...IT DEPENDS ON YOU WHETHER YOU WILL OPEN THE DOOR OR NOT...SO friends,be wise and act wise..Keep loving,Keep rocking..!!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Valentines day celebrations worldwide

2015-02-10T12:26:00.001+05:30

Hello people,

Here is how valentines day is celebrated worldwide in many countries. Thanks to wikipedia for this wonderful document.

Celebration worldwide

Valentine's Day customs developed in early modern England and spread throughout the Anglosphere in the 19th century. In the later 20th and early 21st centuries, these customs have also spread to other countries along with other aspects of American pop culture, but its impact so far has been rather more limited than that of Halloween, or that of US pop-culture inspired aspects of Christmas (such as Santa Claus).

Tree in San Diego decorated with hearts on Valentine's Day with hearts

Due to a concentrated marketing effort, Valentine's Day is celebrated in some East Asian countries with Chinese and South Koreansspending the most money on Valentine's gifts.^[72]

China

In China, the common situation is the man gives chocolate, flowers or both to the woman that he loves. In Chinese, Valentine's Day is called lovers' festival (simplified Chinese: 情人节; traditional Chinese: 情人節; pinyin: qíng rén jié). The so-called "Chinese Valentine's Day" is the Qixi Festival, celebrated on the seventh day of the seventh month of the lunar calendar. It commemorates a day on which a legendary cowherder and weaving maid are allowed to be together. Valentine's Day on February 14 is not celebrated because it is often too close to the Chinese New Year, which usually falls on either January or February.^{[citation needed]} In Chinese culture, there is an older observance related to lovers, called "The Night of Sevens" (Chinese: 七夕; pinyin: Qi Xi). According to the legend, the Cowherd star and the Weaver Maid star are normally separated by the Milky Way (silvery river) but are allowed to meet by crossing it on the 7th day of the 7th month of the Chinese calendar.

In recent years, celebrating White Day has also become fashionable among some young people.

Finland and Estonia

In Finland Valentine's Day is called Ystävänpäivä which translates into "Friend's Day". As the name indicates, this day is more about remembering friends, not significant others. In Estonia Valentine's Day is called sõbrapäev, which has the same meaning.^[73]

France

In France, a traditionally Catholic country, Valentine's Day is known simply as "Saint Valentin", and is celebrated in much the same way as other western countries.

Greece

St. Valentine's Day, or Ημέρα του Αγίου Βαλεντίνου in Greek tradition was not associated with romantic love; In the Eastern Orthodox church there is another Saint who protects people who are in love, Hyacinth of Caesarea (feast day 3 July), but in contemporary Greece, this tradition has mostly been superseded by the "globalized" form of Valentine's Day.^{[citation needed]}

India

In India, in antiquity, there was a tradition of adoring Kamadeva, the lord of love; exemplificated by the erotic carvings in the Khajuraho Group of Monuments and by the writing of the Kamasutra treaty of lovemaking.^[74] This tradition was lost around the Middle Ages, when Kamadeva was no longer celebrated, and public displays of sexual affection became frowned upon.^[74] This repression of public affections persisted until the 1990s.

In the state of West Bengal, Saraswati Puja, a festival observed in early spring where Saraswati, the goddess of learning is worshipped; has often been seen as a Bengali version of Valentine's Day; especially among the urban middle-class youth.

Valentine's Day celebrations did not catch on in India until around 1992. It was spread due to the programs in commercial TV channels, such as MTV, dedicated radio programs and love letter competitions, in addition to an economical liberalization that allowed the explosion of the valentine card industry.^[74]^[75] Economic liberalization also helped the Valentine card industry.^[75] The celebration has caused a sharp change on how people have been displaying their affection in public since the Middle Ages.^[74]

In modern times, Hindu and Islamic^[76] traditionalists have considered the holiday to be cultural contamination from the West, a result of the globalization in India.^[74]^[75] Shiv Senaand the Sangh Parivar have asked their followers to shun the holiday and the "public admission of love" because of them being "alien to Indian culture".^[77] Although these protests are organized by political elites, the protesters themselves are middle-class Hindu men who fear that the globalization will destroy the traditions in their society: arranged marriages, Hindu joint families, full-time mothers, etc.^[75]^[76]

Despite these obstacles, Valentine's Day is becoming increasingly popular in India.^[78]

Valentine's Day has been strongly criticized from a postcolonial perspective by intellectuals from the Indian left. The holiday is regarded as a front for "Western imperialism", "neocolonialism", and "the exploitation of working classes through commercialism by multinational corporations".^[79] Studies have shown that Valentine's Day promotes and exacerbates income inequality in India, and aids in the creation of a pseudo-westernized middle class.^{[citation needed]} As a result, the working classes and rural poor become more disconnected socially, politically, and geographically from the hegemonic capitalist power structure. They also criticize mainstream media attacks on Indians opposed to Valentine's Day as a form of demonization that is designed and derived to further the Valentine's Day agenda.^[80]^[81] Right wing Hindu nationalists are also hostile. In February 2012 Subash Chouhan of the Bajrang Dal warned couples that "They cannot kiss or hug in public places. Our activists will beat them up".^[82] He said "We are not against love, but we criticize vulgar exhibition of love at public places".^[83]

Iran

In Iran, the Sepandarmazgan, or Esfandegan, is a festival where people express love towards their mothers and wives, and it is also a celebration of earth in ancient Persian culture. It has been progressively forgotten in favor of the Western celebration of Valentine's Day. The Association of Iran's Cultural and Natural Phenomena has been trying since 2006 to make Sepandarmazgan a national holiday on 17 February, in order to replace the Western holiday.^[84]

Israel

In Israel, the Jewish tradition of Tu B'Av has been revived and transformed into the Jewish equivalent of Valentine's Day. It is celebrated on the 15th day of the month of Av(usually in late August). In ancient times girls would wear white dresses and dance in the vineyards, where the boys would be waiting for them (Mishna Taanith end of Chapter 4). Today, Tu B'Av is celebrated as a second holiday of love by secular people (beside Valentine's Day), and it shares many of the customs associated with Saint Valentine's Day in western societies. In modern Israeli culture Tu B'Av is a popular day to pronounce love, propose marriage and give gifts like cards or flowers.^[85]

Japan

In Japan, Morozoff Ltd. introduced the holiday for the first time in 1936, when it ran an advertisement aimed at foreigners. Later in 1953 it began promoting the giving of heart-shaped chocolates; other Japanese confectionery companies followed suit thereafter. In 1958 the Isetan department store ran a "Valentine sale". Further campaigns during the 1960s popularized the custom.^[86]^[87]

The custom that only women give chocolates to men may have originated from the translation error of a chocolate-company executive during the initial campaigns.^[88] In particular, office ladies give chocolate to their co-workers. Unlike western countries, gifts such as greeting cards,^[88] candies, flowers, or dinner dates^[89] are uncommon, and most of the activity about the gifts is about giving the right amount of chocolate to each person.^[88] Japanese chocolate companies make half their annual sales during this time of the year.^[88]

Many women feel obliged to give chocolates to all male co-workers, except when the day falls on a Sunday, a holiday. This is known as giri-choko (義理チョコ), from giri("obligation") and choko, ("chocolate"), with unpopular co-workers receiving only "ultra-obligatory" chō-giri choko cheap chocolate. This contrasts with honmei-choko (本命チョコ, favorite chocolate), chocolate given to a loved one. Friends, especially girls, may exchange chocolate referred to as tomo-choko (友チョコ); from tomo meaning "friend".^[90]

In the 1980s the Japanese National Confectionery Industry Association launched a successful campaign to make March 14 a "reply day", where men are expected to return the favour to those who gave them chocolates on Valentine's Day, calling it White Day for the color of the chocolates being offered. A previous failed attempt to popularize this celebration had been done by a marshmallow manufacturer who wanted men to return marshmallows to women.^[86]^[87]

Men are expected to return gifts that are at least two or three times more valuable than the gifts received in Valentine's Day. Not returning the gift is perceived as the man placing himself in a position of superiority, even if excuses are given. Returning a present of equal value is considered as a way to say that the relationship is being cut. Originally only chocolate was given, but now the gifts of jewelry, accessories, clothing and lingerie are usual. According to the official website of White Day, the color white was chosen because it's the color of purity, evoking "pure, sweet teen love", and because it's also the color of sugar. The initial name was "Ai ni Kotaeru White Day" (Answer Love on White Day).^[86]^[87]

In Japan, the romantic "date night" associated to Valentine's Day is celebrated on Christmas Eve.^[91]

In a 2006 survey of people between 10 and 49 years of age in Japan, Oricon Style found the 1986 Sayuri Kokushō single "Valentine Kiss" to be the most popular Valentine's Day song, even though it sold only 317,000 copies.^[92] The singles it beat in the ranking were number one selling "Love Love Love" from Dreams Come True (2,488,630 copies) and "Valentine's Radio" from Yumi Matsutoya (1,606,780 copies). The final song in the top five was "My Funny Valentine" by Miles Davis.^[92]

In Japan, a slightly different version of a holiday based on a lovers' story called Tanabata (七夕) has been celebrated for centuries, on July 7 (Gregorian calendar).^[93] It has been considered by Westerners as similar to St. Valentine's Day,^[94] but it's not related to it, and its origins are completely different.

Latin America

In some Latin American countries Valentine's Day is known as "Día del Amor y la Amistad" (Day of Love and Friendship). For example Colombia,^[95] Costa Rica,^[96] the Dominican Republic,^{[citation needed]} Ecuador,^[97] Mexico,^[98] and Puerto Rico, as well as others. It is also common to see people perform "acts of appreciation" for their friends. In Guatemala it is known as the "Día del Cariño" (Affection Day).^[99] In Brazil, the Dia dos Namorados (lit. "Lovers' Day", or "Boyfriends'/Girlfriends' Day") is celebrated on June 12, probably because that is the day before Saint Anthony's day, known there as the marriage saint,^[100] when traditionally many single women perform popular rituals, called simpatias, in order to find a good husband or boyfriend. Couples exchange gifts, chocolates, cards and flower bouquets. The February 14 Valentine's Day is not celebrated at all because it usually falls too little before or too little after the Brazilian Carnival^[101] — that can fall anywhere from early February to early March and lasts almost a week. Because of the absence of Valentine's Day and due to the celebrations of the Carnivals, Brazil is a popular tourist spot during February for Western singles who want to get away from the holiday.^[102]

In most of Latin America the Día del amor y la amistad and the Amigo secreto ("Secret friend") are quite popular and are usually celebrated together on the 14 February (one exception is Colombia, where it is celebrated on the third Saturday in September). The latter consists of randomly assigning to each participant a recipient who is to be given an anonymous gift (similar to the Christmas tradition of Secret Santa).

A chocolate gift box

Cup cake with hearts

Philippines

In the Philippines, Valentine's Day is called Araw ng mga Puso ("Hearts Day"), and is celebrated in much the same manner as in the West. It is usually marked by a steep increase in the price of flowers, particularly red roses. 2014

Portugal

In Portugal it is more commonly referred to as "Dia dos Namorados" (Lover's Day / Day of the Enamoured).

Romania

In recent years, Romania has also started celebrating Valentine's Day. This has drawn backlash from several groups, institutions^[103] and nationalist organizations like Noua Dreaptǎ, who condemn Valentine's Day for being superficial, commercialist and imported Western kitsch. In order to counter the perceived denaturation of national culture, Dragobete, a spring festival celebrated in parts of Southern Romania, has been rekindled as the traditional Romanian holiday for lovers. Its date used to vary depending on the geographical area, however nowadays it is commonly observed on February 24. The holiday is named after a character from Romanian folklore who was supposed to be the son of Baba Dochia. His name has been associated, possibly through folk etymology, to the word drag ("dear"), which can also be found in the word dragoste ("love").

Saudi Arabia

Saudi Arabia has illegalized Valentine's Day. Youth people in Saudi Arabia has arrested since Saudi Arabia think Valentine's Day is not an Islamic festival.

Scandinavia

In Denmark and Norway, although February 14 is known as Valentinsdag, it is not celebrated to a large extent, but is largely imported from American culture, and some people take time to eat a romantic dinner with their partner, to send a card to a secret love or give a red rose to their loved one. The cut-flower industry in particular is still working on promoting the holiday. In Sweden it is called Alla hjärtans dag ("All Hearts' Day") and was launched in the 1960s by the flower industry's commercial interests, and due to the influence of American culture. It is not an official holiday, but its celebration is recognized and sales of cosmetics and flowers for this holiday are only exceeded by those for Mother's Day.

Singapore

According to findings, Singaporeans are among the biggest spenders on Valentine's Day, with 60% of Singaporeans indicating that they would spend between $100 and $500 during the season leading up to the holiday.^[72]

South Korea

In South Korea, women give chocolate to men on February 14, and men give non-chocolate candy to women on March 14 (White Day). On April 14 (Black Day), those who did not receive anything on 14 February or March go to a Chinese-Korean restaurant to eat black noodles (자장면 jajangmyeon) and lament their 'single life'.^[89] Koreans also celebrate Pepero Day on November 11, when young couples give each other Pepero cookies. The date '11/11' is intended to resemble the long shape of the cookie. The 14th of every month marks a love-related day in Korea, although most of them are obscure. From January to December: Candle Day, Valentine's Day, White Day, Black Day, Rose Day, Kiss Day, Silver Day, Green Day, Music Day, Wine Day, Movie Day, and Hug Day.^[104] Korean women give a much higher amount of chocolate than Japanese women.^[89]

Spain

In Spain, Valentine's Day is known as "San Valentín" and is celebrated the same way as in the UK, it is however not celebrated in Catalonia.

Taiwan

In Taiwan, traditional Qixi Festival, Valentine's Day and White Day are all celebrated. However, the situation is the reverse of Japan's. Men give gifts to women on Valentine's Day, and women return them on White Day.^[89]

United States

In the United States, about 190 million Valentine's Day cards are sent each year. And that figure does not include the hundreds of millions of cards school children exchange.^[105]Additionally, in recent decades Valentine's Day has become increasingly commercialized and a popular gift-giving event, with Valentine’s Day themed advertisements encouraging spending on loved ones. In fact, in the United States alone, the average valentine’s spending has increased every year, from $108 a person in 2010 to $131 in 2013.^[106]

Wales

In Wales, many people celebrate Dydd Santes Dwynwen (St Dwynwen's Day) on January 25 instead of (or as well as) Valentine's Day. The day commemorates St Dwynwen, the patron saint of Welsh lovers.

Mother's love...Always Unconditional

2015-01-25T11:46:00.001+05:30

Hi friends.howzz you all..??This article is specially dedicated to all the motherzz who are reading this blog..I took these many days to analyze and to present all my feelings in this article..Dont forget to read it till the end...Click read more..!

For most mothers, the love they feel for their children is a strong and powerful bond that will continue throughout their lives. The love that a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in their own body or in their heart, as when a mother adopts a child.

Do you know how a mother always feels..?? She would always say this to herself..."My children are dear to me and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a mother hen watching over her baby chicks. Children are tough in some areas, but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of their mother's love until they become a parent themselves or their mother is no longer living. Then, the power of a lifetime of love their mother provided sets in". These words are often heard here and there by any parent..I have re-collected them in my mind and have mentioned only a few of them..If you ask the same question for your mother then you would get almost the same answer that might differ in the way they express..!

To love and accept your children, even when they are driving you nuts and when their behavior is horrid is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits are the most important duties and responsability a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways too, including the discipline and responsibility we give to our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on the shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.

Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found from many people of my age,many children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child.

Children often tend to share their feelings with their friends rather than sharing them with their parents.This is because of the communication gap that you are creating between yourselves..So let this not happen..Try to become their best friends and stay close to their hearts,not only as a friend but also as a mother..!!

Outward expressions of affection for your husband such as holding hands and warm hugs are good examples of love and security you can give to your children.

Tuck little thoughtful love notes in their lunches, written on a napkin or notepaper or under their pillow.

Saying a simple, "I love you!" A smiley face or you're the greatest!

Ask them to read to you - whatever they want - for 10 minutes.

Spend time listening - this is sometimes hard with an active lifestyle,but more important than ever. Even 5 minutes can do wonders for a child's self image. Remember good eye contact is one of the keys. Pull yourself away from the computer or desk and sit with them face to face. Mirror their body language, moving forward as they do, or sitting on the floor with them.

For younger children even up to 10 years old, holding them on your lap for a minute or two might seem silly, but most kids miss the times when they were younger and were just held and comforted.

Share in their hobby or interest. Look at what they can do - kids love to show off to their parents, so watch. Listen for, "Watch this mom!" Put down what you're doing and really watch and praise them for their effort. Encourage them to keep trying. Smile and verbally respond.

Surprise them by buying their favorite magazine without being asked to. Just put it in their room with a little note - Thought of you today! Love, Mom

In some occassions,try to be silly for atleast a few seconds,for example where parents eat finishers like ice creams/salad first and then the main course; kids love it when their parents are silly at times.

Let the children make their own family photo scrapbook - try color copying some of photos in your photo albums - this way you are not losing valuable photos if they cut them up. Old cards and gift-wrap can make nice backgrounds and borders.

The best way to let them know you care is to hear it from you. Even the big kids need to hear this. They might act as if they are annoyed, but it is sinking in.

Whichever way you choose to share your feelings remember to do something each day. Experts agree that if a child receives their nurturing inside of the family, they are less inclined to look outside to others that might have other motives. Create a home where love is shown. Any parents, whether rich or poor, can afford this.

These simple and free actions can have a significant influence on our children's daily lives that will last for a lifetime. The cycle of love between you as a mother and your child will be passed on to their children all over again. Stop and enjoy them now. Before you know it, they will be grown and this time will be lost.I would always term MOTHER's LOVE as UNCONDITIONAL LOVE..So let this terminology be as such...Keep loving,keep rocking..!!

Start today!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Distinguish between FRIEND & LOVE

2014-11-15T12:33:00.002+05:30

This is an article that i completely dedicate to all girls.....Click read more...!

There are many guys who might be your friends, they might be nice and kind, and they might give a helping hand when you are in need of some help. They might protect you and they might also care for you to such an extent that you can be yourself when you are with them. In short, one of them can be a good boyfriend for you.

Most of us believe that a good relationship (love) could be started from a good friendship, that’s why we always tend to create good relationship with all of our guy friends, so if someday one of them becomes a boyfriend, our relationship with him will last long and more solid.

But the problem is … after many years of being together with them, none of our guy friends invite us to go out with him personally. And even if we go out for dinner or watch cinema, we always go with the group of guys and not making a romantic date between two persons.

When we are ready to have a lover, our friendship doesn’t go anywhere. If we invite one of them to come out, we are not sure if he will take it as a date or maybe he will only see it as an ordinary dinner. Why do men only consider us as a friend? Why doesn’t the friendship turn into a love or a better relationship?

There are many reasons why friendship can’t change to be a love relationship, some of the reasons are:

a. He is afraid to ruin the friendship:
You’ve been very close to him and often spend time by hanging out with him along with few other guy friends. Your relationship is beautiful and that’s why he’s afraid to change the status of friendship to love. He doesn’t want to make the other guys feel jealous. He doesn’t want to make you feel awkward and be distant from him. As a result, he retains his status as a friend and doesn’t turn into a lover.

b. Physical attraction disappears:
It’s not a secret if men are visual creatures; they are easily aroused by women’s physical beauty. But when you are very close to him as friend, he will not think much about your physical appearance. He accepts you the way you are and even he considers you as one of his best friends. This might not be the case if you get into a closer relationship.

c. There is no challenge anymore:
When a man approaches a woman and is able to take her out for dinner, that would be a proud moment to him because he can get a woman for dating. However when you are very close to man as a friend, going out for dinner or hanging out with him is a casual thing which he doesn’t consider it as a challenge anymore.

d. You don’t know when should change the status:
You’ve known him for years as a friend, you see him every day and feel comfortable with him. You may think that he will always be with you and gives his shoulder to you. However one day when he gets a girlfriend suddenly you start feeling sorry for yourself for being late to propose your feelings to him. When you are interested on one of your friends and want to be his girlfriend, you better tell him the truth. At least you will know about his feeling on you, so you won’t regret whatever happens in the future.

e. He is not excited anymore:
When a man is interested in a woman, he will feel excited every time he meets her. Even when he is alone in his room, he will still imagine her. When you are too close to a man and meet him every day as a friend, the excitement begins to vanish. He will ignore the feeling, and it will be difficult to change the feeling of a friend to be a lover.

So dear friends (especially girls), everything is in your hands.. Your life should be as per your decisions and shouldn’t be controlled or commanded by anyone else...Decide everything with care, take decisions wisely...Enjoy life......Keep rocking...!

With best regards,
Sriram Mallik.

What is LOVE ? How to understand LOVE ?

2014-11-11T22:22:00.002+05:30

Many people,who have met me till now regarding the counseling basis.,kept asking me one question that i could never get the right answer....How to understand LOVE..?Thought for these days,collected some raw info from various magazines,surfed some on the net and here i am finally with the answer...Click read more..!

Is love easy to understand? What makes it special or what makes it disturbing? What connects? What fails?

This article discusses essential characteristics of love. If you feel that you've something to connect to these,I'm sure you'll connect to your soul mates.

Love is a discovery: Love is the process of finding oneself in other eyes. It is about realizing your self-respect in the ones who have care for you.

Love is giving: Love is giving and expecting nothing in return. Love needs no calculation to get love back.

Love is a connection with feel: True love exists when you do not have to blame or explain, you just feel and connect. You can either love what you do or do what you love. Any other combination will fail.

Love is demonstrating: Trying to do something by force in the name of love will fail. A demonstrated love will win. Those who are able to demonstrate their love without intruding in the space of others get love back. Love is cooperation: The only way to win love and respect is to kill greed and cooperate for common goals.

Love is sacrifice: Love demands only one sacrifice and that is to love what you love more than anybody or anything else. At times you need to satisfy your ego, your pride in order to win the love of your special ones.

Love is blessing: Fear kills fear. Might kills right. Love wins all.

Love is correction: Punishment ensures you follow a set process. Love ensures you connect to the process. The results of punishment are immediate and might be divisive in terms of family and other relations.The results of love, though delayed, are sure and uniting.

Love is self-respect: To love your love, you need to love yourself. Without self-confidence, there is no love.

Love is direction: Lost in love, lost in life(Doesn't apply in all the cases). Love connects to others; any other feeling stays mechanical.

Love is work: Love your work because nobody else should.

Love is creation: Love creates. It will make you what you want to be.

Keep loving!! It creates, refines and defines life..!!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

6 tips for a "Successful long lasting relationship"

2014-11-09T23:24:00.002+05:30

Hi friends, writing on how to make a relationship last for a longer time. Click read more and read it for yourself...!

How to make a long lasting relationship ?

Many couples wonder how to make their relationship last for ever. More than 50% of marriages end up in divorce.(Assumption). Did you ask yourself why are they happening? What happened to the old times where people used to stay together for ever? Time has changed and now there are many issues that contribute to the failure of a relationship.

To make a relationship last longer, follow the below guidelines:

1. Learn to communicate with your partner.

Learn to listen to what he/she says without judgment. Your partner might have different opinion when compared to that of yours and that is fine. You can’t make your partner accept your opinion if he/she does not want to. Be interested and sympathetic because you should care about your partner's concerns.

2. Appreciate the other person.

If your partner does something special for you, thank him/her. This is a simple thing, which makes a lot of impact in your day to day relationship. Adding sugar coated words to the appreciation would definitely do wonders.

3. Trust.

Building trust between you and your partner is essential to making the relationship everlasting. You have to be honest with your partner about your intentions and actions. Trust is like a glass..Once lost cannot be gained..Just like a broken glass where the broken crack can never be hidden.

4. Spending time together.

Most of us might say that we are busy with work, household activities etc and there is not much time to spend with our loved ones. The truth is that "There is always time". Getting up early to share a breakfast together, sharing daily household works, complementing each other when possible, asking how he/she is feeling which portrays your care & affection play an important role.

5. Keep things private.

Cute little quarrels and fights are the most common in a relation. This is the spice of life. There is not a single relationship that does not have arguments. Remember to keep all arguments private between you and your partner. A lot of couples after having an argument, start sharing it with their parents or friends. Entry of a third person might create a distance between you and your partner. Never let a third person judge your argument. Solve it by yourself and keep your egos aside.

6. Don’t change your partner.

Many couples try to change something about their partner that they don’t like. If you don’t like something about your partner, tell him/her about your concerns, but don’t force him/her to do something they don’t want. Its good to have your opinion heard and understood accordingly but its always incorrect to go against it if your opinion is ignored. Instead try to think and analyse why he/she is against your opinion.

Remember its always good to have your concerns solved by talking with each other than taking hasty decisions and regretting it in the future.

Hope these tips would be of some help to atleast a few to keep your relationships stronger...!
With best regards,
Sriram Mallik.

TRUE LOVE.. WHY DO YOU NEED TRUE LOVE ?

2014-11-06T23:34:00.002+05:30

A wonderful story which explains the reason why everyone needs LOVE. To be very honest, there is nothing like TRUE LOVE or FALSE LOVE..Its just LOVE and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Go on and read this little article. Awaiting your comments.

What’s a fairy tale without a prince charming, a princess in distress and love? It’ll probably be just another old story that will somehow fade into obscurity as time goes by. But, the element of true love is what made fairy tales into all-time blockbusters. Yes, everybody wants it so bad, even those princesses who did nothing but wait for their courageous knight in shining armour atop his mighty steed. Even today, everybody wants a taste of true love no matter how elusive it is. Some are lucky to have stumbled upon it, while a lot have simply given up in the unending quest for it.

So, they find someone that they could somehow tolerate, put up with them so they don’t have to feel the loneliness of being single ever again, and then marry just because it’s what everyone expects them to do. Quite a lot of people have gone this way, but only a few have escaped from the challenges and veer from the all-too-often divorce. But what is it really? Is it a cruel myth, a fleeting insanity, or is it something real and tangible, like crow's feet and potbellies? How can anybody know if the right person is already in front of him/her? While it is easier to be dreamy-eyed and romantic, it is important to understand and remember that to find love isn’t as simple as going out there and putting a tag on someone who seems to be THE one.

Often, it’s more of a case of waiting for THE one, instead of finding him/her in an instant. The harsh realities of everyday life render a vast majority of people to be pretty cynical, and it can be rather mindboggling when one somehow ends up with a wonderful person. Some take it as some sort of pure luck, but time and again it’s the concerted effort from two people who wants to make the relationship last. It is likewise essential to have a clear picture of one’s own self-worth: every person must be capable of self-love, for how can anybody else love you if you can’t even love yourself in the first place? When meeting someone and the relationship somehow clicks, the important thing isn’t how many hobbies or interests you share with the person.

It’s the similar deep-seated core values that makes you both yearn for the same things from life. The initial fluttery sensation and feeling of heightened anticipation will always be there when meeting someone new and exciting. Although, this stage rarely lasts long—a lot of people get disenchanted upon returning to their senses only to discover that the seemingly perfect partner is just as flawed as all the others. But, this doesn’t make loving the person an impossibility. What makes a relationship work is not finding the person with a hundred good points that can make everything wonderful. The “happy ever afters” only exist in fairytales, not in real life.

A relationship is a process, and the couple must grow together with each other, able to weather any storm or the big changes in life. True love calls for hard work and give and take from each person to last...Special thankz for my sis puja for sharing this...

Best wishes & Regards,
Sriram Mallik

WOMEN ARE SO DAMN SPECIAL.. Why ?

2014-11-05T01:01:00.004+05:30

Ever wondered why women are so special..?? I hope most of us have been listening to this phrase very often,"WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL",atleast from most of the feminine group..?? Go ahead and read a small story which explains why women are so special..!!

"Mum and Dad were watching TV when Mum said, "I'm tired, and it's getting late. I think I'll go to bed." She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day's lunches.
Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button. She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer. She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to
dry.

She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom. She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend,addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick note for the grocery store. She put both near her bag.

Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails.

Dad called out, "I thought you were going to bed."

"I'm on my way," she said. She put some water into the dog's dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on.. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with the one up still doing homework.In her own room, she set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack.

She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. "I'm going to bed." And he did...without another thought.

Anything extraordinary here? *Wonder why women live longer...?
'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL....... (and they can't die sooner, they still have things to do!!!!)

This is the reason WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL...!!

Dedicating this article to all the women,mothers,sisters,lovers and all the lovely people across the globe. LOVE YOU for what you all are.. Without you, men like us are nothing. I mean it.

With best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

A week after HUDHUD Cyclone at Vizag

2014-10-26T12:35:00.001+05:30

Hi People, Hope everythings going well with you all. Here are few clicks of mine potraying the after effects of HUDHUD cyclone in Vizag. Take some time and check the pics.. Do keep donating & sending your prayers so that our Vizag would bounce back at the earliest possible. I've been doing my part of service since 10 days here in Vizag.

Lets rebuild Vizag(Y).
With best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Share the Spirit of Diwali.. Vizag needs YOU

2014-10-20T14:53:00.001+05:30

Hi friends,

A small gesture can go a long way in reducing someone's pain. Can we do something to lessen the pain of our brothers in Vizag? Vizag needs us..Our support and our helping hands...

Perfect initiative by SS Rajamouli garu.. Truly thoughtful... Was really touched by this video Must watch..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1LF624RY3wA

Regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Visit to Vizag(my hometown) after HUDHUD

2014-10-19T19:29:00.004+05:30

Hello people,

Hope everyone's doing well there.. Finally I've reached Visakhapatnam a couple of days back with a lot of difficulty. Boarded a bus to travel between my place and my hometown. It took four long hours to travel and the journey was quite tiresome with mixed emotions.

It made my heart heavy while entering the outskirts of my home town because there isnt any tree left with complete branches and leaves.. The so called GREEN CITY turned into a desert like place which made my eyes filled with tears. Buildings were damaged, trees and current poles were uprooted. But salute to our Chief Minister, Shri Chandra Babu Naidu garu who made impossible things possible. There was electricity restored in few places. People came out of their houses and started exploring the neighborhood. Airport and shopping malls were completely withered with the wind. I believe its the first city in India to be completely washed away with a single cyclone.

By the time I've reached my house, there was no electricity. My parents were having their dinner in the light of candles. With a heavy heart and provisions & vegetables in hand(which I've purchased to share with my neighbors) I've got in and found that there was no water to refresh. Took few empty buckets and walked to the next street and used the HAND-BORE pump line to get water for our daily usage. The very next day, workers team from Kurnool, a place in andhrapradesh have come to restore the electricity. After two days of continuous struggle, they've succeeded in restoring electricity at my place however on a condition that its provided between 9pm to 9am everyday.

And as of today, we've managed to clean the area successfully. We removed the uprooted trees, cut wires on the ground, debris all around in our entire area and made it neat. In the coming days we are planning to plant small trees in the entire city, starting from my area.

Hope you people pray for us because your prayers and best wishes will make us stronger and rebuild our hometown to a better condition.

With best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

HUDHUD Cyclone - Lets rebuild Vizag - Donations & Contribution details

2014-10-15T20:16:00.000+05:30

Hi friends, Hope you must be knowing about HUDHUD cyclone which has left enormous damage at my place, Visakhapatnam which is so called GREEN CITY and THE CITY OF DESTINY in India. Visakhapatnam is promised to be a SMART CITY and was approved to be one by the American Govt very recently however the recent cyclone has completely devastated the beauty of the city. Thousands of families have become homeless,without food and its been four days now, electricity hasnt been restored yet..Communication has completely been shutdown and hasnt been restored yet. Property damage of about $70,000 crores is likely to be reported by the Govt officials. No proper availability of food, Electricity, milk for children, petrol and diesel for vehicles, basic commodities for household purposes and no proper availability of water as well is the current situation at Vizag.

Officials put estimated loss to AP due to Hudhud at Rs 70 thousand crores. Navy alone has lost 2000 crores. Around 1 lakh tonnes of fertilizers stored at Vizag Port has been estimated to be washed away. 1000 crores loss estimated in Small and Medium industries in Vizag. Poultry industry in North andhra pradesh has taken a hit, around 25 lakh chicken are estimated to be killed,and the estimated loss could be around 125-200 crores. 200 crores loss estimated to Vizag Port. Airport has been completely destroyed by the cyclone. The Crude Oil Importing Jetty in Vizag's Inner Harbor, too has been damaged, loss estimated to be around 100 crores. Here is the link for the portal started by the Govt : http://www.hudhud.ap.gov.in/ Check out pictures on facebook page : http://www.facebook.com/StormHudhud/
https://www.facebook.com/vizag
https://www.facebook.com/APDisasterManagement
Chief Minister of Andhra Pradesh has started a HUDHUD CYCLONE RELIEF FUND and requested all the funds to be transferred into this account. He assured that these funds would be used effectively for rebuilding the City again. I humbly request you to donate/contribute as per your capabilities to Chief Minister relief fund, Andhra Pradesh,as much as you can. Our state needs our help "to come out of this HUD HUD cyclone effect".
To donate for Cyclone relief, you can transfer funds to
State Bank of India
Account No : 33913634404.
Branch name: Gowliguda, Hyderabad.
IFSC Code: SBIN0002724
Request you to please share this post so that the needful get some helping hand. Posted by AP CM : https://twitter.com/ncbn/status/521566111347650560
https://twitter.com/ncbn/status/521566874195095554

For international donations here are the details :
HDFC bank
Branch Name: HITEC CITY
IFSC code: HDFC0000545
Name: ABHIJETH DUGGINAPEDDI
Account No : 05451610525951
Email : paypal abhijeth0423@gmail.com

Please do contribute to your best and help us in building a better Visakhapatnam(VIZAG).
With best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Welcome to our new admin

2014-10-02T12:16:00.004+05:30

Hello there,

Its been a very long time since I've updated anything on our blog.. Reasons might be many like hectic schedule at work, my relocation to a new place due to work, no availability of internet etc. So I felt its time I take a step to re-start our blog with a new DOMAIN NAME and with a NEW ADMIN to share the pleasure of updating the blog.. So lets welcome my younger brother Sai Vittal Mocherla who would be sharing the blog updation along with me going forward.

Few words about him :

He's an active socialist persuing his Btech 3rd year. He's very much interested in social networking and is also very knowledgeable.

You can write an email to sriramthecupidofvizag@gmail.com and update his email mocherlasampath@gmail.com in CC. We shall be there for you guys to share anything you feel like sharing with us.

Officially loveguru-srm.blogspot.com will be changed to www.sharewithus.in very soon.

Hope you'd support and encourage us like the way you always did.

Thanks and best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Women Protection Cell-Andhra Pradesh Contact Information.

2014-01-31T16:09:00.002+05:30

Hello Friends,

Hope you are doing great today??

Its called "Emergency" because we never know what and when we are gonna be in trouble. Even in 2012-13, I dont think there is

any safety for women or girls in India. All we think is... "aaahh... that can never happen to me..!!" But we also should

pause and ponder. Are we really safe? Step out of your home and from our busy lane to a hi-fi street , there are predators

everywhere. Our state tops in number of eve teasing and rape cases in 2011-12. Before we do something to stop it, lets be

safe ourselves. NERVER EVER think that its NOT gonna be 'your' story. All the victims are the ones among us who never

expected the ill day.. If a girl suspects that anybody is following or observing them from few days, or if any indecent

comments are being passed on her (or her friend) by a gang or a guy, dont just overlook because statistics say that 70% of

men who starts with eve-teasing ends up as rapists or murderers. TAKE ACTION, SAVE YOURSELF!!! Always save emergency contact

numbers in your mobile and assign a handy speed-dial. Have your local police station number with you. or save 100 to your

speed dial.
Its always better to have Women's Protection Cell contact number saved.
A P Womens Protection Cell: 040 23320539.
Dont just neglect if something wrong happens infront of you or with you. If we are not in a position to fight back, we must

atleast be in a position to seek help.
Am leaving this post in public view. Try sharing to as many as possible, it can save a life.. :)

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Letter to the DGP..Source - Deccan Chronicle

2014-01-31T00:21:00.002+05:30

Hie Friends,

Here is one wonderful article which I've come across in Deccan Chronicle in the recent times where in one of the highest officials of the police, the DGP himself passed few comments regarding the ongoing harassment and unstoppable attacks on girls..

He blames that the mistake is entirely with the girls whose dressing sense etc provoke men's thoughts.. Honestly speaking I don't support to whatever he said.. Here is one such person who wrote to the officials with a lot of boldness.. Kudos to her.. Go ahead with the letter...

" Mr. DGP, so you refuse to protect me if I wear a mini-skirt?

Our Honourable DGP, Dinesh Reddy, passed a statement today with reference to the growing number of rapes and atrocities against women saying “It isn't a failure of the police force but the way girls nowadays are dressing" Excuse me, but, since when has dressing sense become a criterion for justice to be delivered?

A 40-year-old man attempted to rape a six year old girl in Vizag. The girl MUST have dressed provocatively at age 6. Parkwood International School’s director is alleged to have raped more than one of his students. Uniform is DEFINITELY inappropriate dressing, I suppose.

More than 50 per cent of rape cases are not urban.

Are you telling us rural women are wearing mini-skirts too? Oh, it’s probably the tribal women you’re talking about, right. A 12-year-old Dalit girl in Vizag was raped twice by her neighbourhood youth but the police, instead of taking action against the culprits, forced her sign a compromise letter in the police station. Did you find her clothing inappropriate, sir?In a desperate attempt to save your force’s face, conceal their incompetence, you decide to tell us that if we get raped, it’s our fault.
Yes, girls dress ‘inappropriately’ at parties at nightclubs. Who issues permissions for these nightclubs, I wonder.

Mumaith Khan decides to shed a little extra piece of clothing in every movie. Who does the censoring, I wonder.

Women in provocative poses in absolutely unrelated advertisement hoardings are seen at most traffic junctions. Who checks on the regulation for these hoardings, I wonder.
If a guy looks at such a hoarding and is driven to molest a college girl at a bus stop, it is the girl’s fault right?

As a matter of fact, Mr.DGP’s statement is an insult to men too. He goes on about “men being provoked”.

Excuse me, sir, but that was a long time ago. An era where men used to be provoked by just 'looking' at the opposite sex. I believe we are civilized now. Much more civilized.

Sadly, sir, you seem to be still be stuck in that era. I beg you to not make men sound like deranged perverts.
What is appropriate dressing, anyway?
As soon as I turn 14, is wearing a skirt going to be deemed inappropriate for me? Maybe we should start imposing bans on all the skinny jeans in malls. Girls in salwar-kameez are NOT harmed ever, right?
I am a girl in the 21st century and I DECIDE what I want to wear. Yes, I dress attractively. Supposing a guy does find me attractive then, does that give the guy a right to go ahead and do anything he wants?
You justify your statement saying even colleges have dress codes these days. Do you mean to impose a dress code on every girl in the state? Guys can walk bare chested. No problem, of course not, right? Lungis are extremely appropriate? I beg to differ, Mr.DGP.
It comes down to this. Women have been vulnerable in the society and continue to be. I wish you and your officers could man up and elevate our position a little bit. Take immediate action against all wrongdoers. Let me not be scared of acid bottles and razors.

Instead, if you tell me you’re going to decide my closet.

Mr.DGP. You could soon wake up to a Slutwalk in front of your house.

- The writer is a 17-year-old girl from Hyderabad."

Regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

Combination of text messages..

2014-01-02T08:30:00.000+05:30

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Happy New Year 2014

2014-01-02T08:27:00.000+05:30

Hello Folks..!! Wish you all a very happy new year 2014.. Hope this year would give you the best successful,wonderful,colorful,cheerful,lovely and special moments unlike all other years till date.. Cheers and Have loads of fun!! Regards, Sriram Mallik.