Steve Gershom

To the Core

Steve Gershom — Thu, 23 May 2013 19:49:00 +0000

“I know what I’m talk’n ’bout. I’m a gay man,” I told M. boozily, lowering my eyebrows for effect and possibly belching. Being drunk isn’t the best way to let people in on your secrets, but it is an easy way. And it does make a handy trump card for winning an argument. I was...

Matilda Syndrome

Steve Gershom — Sat, 04 May 2013 18:26:48 +0000

When I was younger I used to write poetry, and some of it was pretty good. It was just like they tell you about: a thought or mood or phrase would suddenly erupt at the center of me, and there was nothing to be done but to sit down and work it out until it...

Maintenance

Steve Gershom — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 20:27:30 +0000

On my 17th visit to my therapist, marking nearly a year with her, she asks me, What do you think has changed? I could truthfully answer: No longer frantic and empty Like a cat Tied to a stick That’s driven into Frozen winter sh★t1 But I don’t listen to Radiohead very often anymore, and that’s...

Seven Quick Takes, Vol. 5: Elation Edition

Steve Gershom — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 05:01:48 +0000

1: My boss is annoyed with me because I just put in a request to go part-time, so I can spend a full day every work week doing Gershom-type things. It’s okay that he’s annoyed: I know he’d rather I invested more and more of myself in helping him keep the place running smoothly. But...

Naming

Steve Gershom — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 04:01:12 +0000

Jesus turned to her and said, “Mary”. She turned to him and cried out, “Rabboni!” What is lonelier than not being seen, not being known? It is said that the Holy Spirit is the look of love that passes between the Father and the Son. Think of the look of love: think of how unafraid...

Ghosts

Steve Gershom — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 13:04:46 +0000

Good Friday 2008, I’m three thousand miles from home, I still don’t really speak Spanish, and — surprise — I’ve taken my propensity for emotional entanglement right with me to Peru. This time it’s one of the brothers who belongs to the order I’m staying with. Brother P. and I are drawn to each other...

Dear Steve: Obsession and Identity

Steve Gershom — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 16:30:46 +0000

My dear friend A. recently revealed to me that she’s bisexual, or whatever you want to call it — I’m no more comfortable with that term than I am with the term “gay,” but you know what I mean. I’m pretty sure female homosexuality is a whole different beast from the male variety, but some...

Some Questions I Have No answer To

Steve Gershom — Thu, 21 Mar 2013 22:58:39 +0000

Will I ever get married? At 19, I would’ve called myself a 6 on the Kinsey scale; at 29, I’m more like a 4.5. Does that mean I’m basically heterosexual with severe homosexual tendencies? Or basically homosexual1 with slight heterosexual tendencies? Could I ever get married to a woman if I were only, say, 35%...

Francis

Steve Gershom — Thu, 14 Mar 2013 02:48:02 +0000

I don’t know anything about the man who used to be Jorge Mario Bergoglio and is now Pope Francis. I don’t know if he’s fit to lead the Church, or if he’s as humble as they say, or if he’s the right man for this particular time in history. I just know I really like...

Hearts Of Flesh

Steve Gershom — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 15:44:17 +0000

Come check out my guest post at MyYearOfFaith.com. It’s kind of your standard I’m-here-I’m-queer-and-this-is-what-that’s-like, but I think it’s a good one. Check out the site while you’re at it: a worthy project for sure.