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How to Feel Blessed . . Even on BAD Days!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 02:23:00 +0000

As I continue reading my way through Kristine Carlson's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women," and blogging about it to synopsize her messages for busy women, today couldn't have been a more perfect day to read Tip #8!

It is, "Make Peace with the Mundane!"

She says, "Let's face it: much of life is mundane." She then explains part of her daily ritual is spending about an hour each day 'picking up.' As all women know, when you pick up the household it doesn't stay that way and has to be done again and again . . and again . . and AGAIN!!!

Since taks like these fill most of our life, we need to learn to accept and then find the blessings in them. If, after all, you only look forward to those few and far between vacations, there's a lot of time where you're just 'surviving.' I teach women clients of mine to not just survive (especially when it comes to tolerating the difficult people in your world, coworkers, etc.) but learn to THRIVE!

Kristine writes further in this tip about meeting an older gentleman at a laundromat who seemed to be enjoying doing laundry. He said he found folding his clothes to give him quiet peaceful time to just think . . or not think too deeply about things . . and meditate!

There are so many moments in life we have to or really need to be fully present, so part of your making peace with the mundane may be taking time to chill or zone out a bit while you do tasks that don't require lots of critical thinking (& feeling blessed to give your mind a break!). I find doing dishes one of the mundane but necessary things I have to do. I have a dishwasher but feel if I personally wash what I eat & drink from it's more thorough so have made the decision to wash virtually all of the dishes.

I've made peace with this activity by sinking my hands in the hot soapy water & working but letting my mind focus on something else. I make phone calls using my bluetooth to catch up with beloved friends I don't have time to call, I love listening to books I don't have time to READ, but can sure listen to & focus on just fine while knocking out a sink full of dishes. Then I feel blessed to have gotten so much done in that brief time.

So find a way to make peace with what is much of life, the trips to Wal-Mart, picking up, washing dishes, folding laundry, etc. It's part of life, and if we let it, it can be one of the great parts. When you stop and complete this below sentence with the 1st 10 things that come to mind, we really don't have much to complain about, do we? This brings true peace, being content with what life is instead of focusing on all that it is not or everything you currently do not have.

Try it, 10 things . .

I am so blessed because __________.

Do this if you're having a TERRIBLE day & it'll perk you right up! It can be anything from because you have a job to go to each day when almost 1 in 10 people do not to because you have your health, people who love you in your daily life, food on your table, opportunities to volunteer & help those even less fortunate.

One day I was having a BAD day . . I briefly really didn't think I could think of what to fill in the blessed sentence with! Then it hit me, I'm blessed because I have dishes to wash & I have clothes to fold. We have things to pick up! Amazing how a little perspective changes things & quickly!

I weave motivational messages into my training & speaking so attendees are not only entertained with my dynamic delivery, but they learn as well. If you are part of any groups, associations, or organizations who need fun educational well worth your time hearing messages, don't hesitate to contact me at

http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact

& I will check my calendar to see if I'm available to come speak LIVE to you & your group!

Joy Huber
Award-Winning International Presenter & Professional Coach
http://www.JoyHuber.com

How to Be a Better Communicator with this 1 Question!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 03:16:00 +0000

Hello Again!

I've been so busy working on getting all my tax "stuff" put together time has flown & I wanted to update the blog. I so enjoy putting up a new post, especially when I review the content I'm sharing and think about how helpful it will be for someone who either didn't know it previously or knew it but "forgets" to implement it.

With today's info. I feel like a lot of us will say we didn't specifically know this! My subject is how to be a better communicator . . . with just 1 question!! Really? See if you don't agree as you start to use this in both your professional & personal relationships.

We're upto Tip #7 in Kristine Carlson's book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women." This tip is . .

"Clarify with the question: 'Are you asking for my opinion, or should I just listen?'"

There's several different ways you can say this, so feel free to massage the words and make it sound like how you would speak! "Are you asking for my opinion, or would you like it if I just listen?" "Would you like me just to listen, or do you want an opinion?"

"Not feeling listened to is one of the major complaints people have about all of their relationships, especially those people we live with."

I would totally agree! When teaching workshops on effective communication & conflict resolution, I am often requested to spend time on listening skills! It's not really something we ever master, but rather must continue to work on. Life is filled with so many distractions!! I teach that listen . . unscrambled . . also spells

S-I-L-E-N-T

L-I-S-T-E-N

The lesson there is to be more effective at listening we need to practice being silent. Let the person speak or complete their thought. Don't interrupt or hijack the conversation taking off with your thoughts & feedback! Now if you're dealing with the birdy who goes on . . and on . . and ON I address that in my book "You Go Girl! A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People" available here.

When I went through professional training to be a coach, one of my classes was on listening. In fact, it's one of the biggest benefits to people of working with a coach. The coach often listens to you better than anyone else in your life. Let's face it, how many times have you been telling your husband (or wife, because I know this blog has men readers too as I see in the comments on posts & e-mails I get, Terrific! We're glad you're here getting insight!!) something profound only to stop and say, "Honey, hey, HEY, are you LISTENING to me?!!" It can be frustrating but you won't feel that in professional coaching.

Ms. Carlson states, "Asking this simple question prior to spouting off your advice will enhance and clarify your communication with others." I totally agree! How many times have we shared our opinion, gave unsolicited advice, or flat out interrupted the person telling them what to do thinking we are helping only to be met with anger. "Just let me vent about this," the speaker might say! You've been on the receiving end of advice you really didn't ask for or want. Don't you usually just ignore it?

As we enter a new work week, make a conscious effort to incorporate this question into your communication! Use it at work with co-workers, perhaps with the boss, customers if useful, and at home with children and friends. I'd love to hear a comment from you on how it works for you!

I believe it will help your communication be clearer. The person will tell you what they need lowering the chances of misunderstandings. They'll say, "No, just listen." at which you can focus on being silent and concentrating on the person and what they are saying. Advanced listeners can also pick up on perhaps what they don't say, what their body language is, etc. Communication is so much more than the words that come out of our mouths!! Or they'll say, "I'm asking you for what I should do with this annoying co-worker (Ask ME annoying co-worker questions . . one of my specialties! In fact, I give away what you say in response to many situations at http://www.StopDifficultCoWorkersNow.com.)."

Best of Luck with this new information!!

Joy Huber
Professional Coach, Author & Award-Winning International Presenter

Stop Comparing Yourself to (Fill in the Blank)!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:40:00 +0000

Good Evening! At the end of a very productive & satisfying day, I looked with excitement to updating my blog for women tonight (You DO also know about my new blog found at www.EntrepreneurshipIsTheAnswer.blogspot.com right? Check it out & share with those you know who yearn to be their own boss, work for themselves & transform their GREAT ideas into jobs, not just for themselves, but by adding jobs to our economy. We could all certainly use more jobs added to the economy as that is a + for all of us!).

Which brings me to a request. I try not to ask my blog readers, but rather to give, give, give content & useful information to you. I want to give you new ideas to ponder & fresh perspectives. This is such important work though, I make an exception and ASK for your Support which I know you'll be happy to give after all the help you've received from this blog.

Yesterday month-long voting opened on the Pepsi Refresh Everything Project!

I have submitted an idea that made it through (approx. 30% of the submitted ideas were deleted & not eligible for voting!) that is so important to me I would like to request your commitment of continued support for it.

Each Day in February would you please visit

http://www.RefreshEverything.com/entrepreneurshipeducation

to Vote for this idea that will help emerging Entrepreneurs successfully start new businesses so they can provide new jobs for the un & underemployed. We all know people in these categories who need new solutions. Thank You in advance for your continued support this whole month!!

Now, back to me giving for You! I realized it's been over a month since I've shared 1 of the tips from Kristine Carlson's cute little book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women" so tonight I want to get back to that with Tip #6 - a good one!

"Stop Comparing Yourself to the Media Measuring Stick"

In this tip, Ms. Carlson talks about how we have to celebrate our uniqueness as a woman. I quote, "When we are unhappy with ourselves, it is usually because we are preoccupied with comparing ourselves to others." So True!

She goes on to mainly discuss in this tip the media giving us impossible standards to live up to. She discusses the physical portrayal of women (who are, REMINDER, air-brushed, computerized, and use tools of their trade including plastic surgery!) that can cause "regular (?)" women to feel low about how "we" all look in COMPARISON!

At the end of this tip, she states, "Stop comparing yourself to the made-up fantasy images presented by the media; instead, be the best that you can be, given the attributes that you have. . . . In the end, a woman with true self-confidence is the most attractive woman in a room, because her beauty comes from feeling good about herself from the inside."

To expand on the material found in the book and leave you with a lil' food for thought, the tip says don't compare yourself to what the media portrays as beautiful meaning the models in the magazines, on the television commercials, etc. Note in my title of this blog, I said to stop comparing yourself to "fill in the blank!"

Who are you comparing yourself to? A woman at work? The lady in church? Another Mom you know? A lady on a committee you volunteer with who shows up early with delicious homemade cookies while you rush in at the last minute unprepared wondering HOW she is so darn pulled together?

Are you "sweating small stuff?" What do these comparisons lead to? Feelings of jealousy, inadequacy? Really these feelings burn inside you and lead to nothing positive or productive coming from it. As I quote on page 70 of my book available here, "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." I would debate you could replace the word 'anger' with jealousy. Doesn't it just eat you up inside while probably harming the person you envy little because they have no idea of your jealousy and so go on happily with their daily life?

Stop Comparing Yourself to ! If you find yourself jealous of someone, a model in a commerical, a coworker, try to isolate and ask yourself why. What do they have that you want so bad you feel envious of them instead of at peace and happy for them? Then, try to think of how you can create an action plan that will get you on the path towards having what they have. If it's models you envy, perhaps you feel jealous of how fit they are. What are some small steps you could take on a daily basis or a few times a week to get you on a road of being more physically fit & make you feel at peace vs. envious?

Remember, I offer personal help on challenges like these through my 1:1 coaching services. If you'd like to explore professional coaching and realize all the benefits it can bring to your life, you can contact me to request a complimentary session at http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact. Speaking to those I coach, I honestly believe I get as much benefit out of the sessions as they do. They leave with focus, clarity, peace, happiness and a concrete plan of action & I have such a sense of happiness helping another person improve the overall quality of their life!

Have a Great Rest of the Week; I'll be "talkin'" to You again Soon!!

Joy Huber
Professional Coach

Ladies: Got Difficult Co-Workers? How DO YOU Respond to “Them?”

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 15:24:00 +0000

Hello! This morning, as promised in my last blog post, I wanted to share with you the second & final part of a brand new article I've written & am in the process of distributing. As my valued Blog reader, I wanted You to see this here FIRST!

If you have a blog, and are interested in using this or any of my other blog posts or content, and re-posting with me as a guest blogger/contributor, you can contact me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

for permission on using content.

Ladies: Got Difficult Co-Workers?
How DO YOU Respond to “Them?”
By Joy Huber

3. Aggressive – This behavior is unfortunate as in the moment the person practicing it thinks, “I WIN, & YOU LOSE . . at all costs!” These are the intimidating, blunt, and sometimes downright rude individuals but ultimately it costs the aggressive person friends and respect using this intimidating style vs. being genuinely respected for being an effective communicator and terrific listener proactively warding off a lot of conflict and managing and resolving other conflict significantly reducing workplace stress!

You likely recognize upon honest self-reflection that you can and do often choose one of the above three ways to respond, but I have found that the best results are achieved when you actually choose a fourth option many women want to learn more about, and that is 4) Assertive Communication. This is the behavior & communication balance I am able to help every businesswoman (and man!) client of mine find. This balanced style means “I WIN & YOU WIN” finding a happy medium for you & your difficult people where you are able to not just co-exist but really respect the differences in each other & THRIVE during your workdays making your career, gasp, enjoyable again!

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Ladies: Got Difficult Co-Workers? How DO YOU Respond to “Them?”

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:49:00 +0000

Hello! This afternoon I wanted to share with you the first part of a brand new article I've written & am in the process of distributing. Since YOU are my valued Blog reader, I wanted You to see this here FIRST!

If you have a blog, and are interested in using this or any of my other blog posts or content, and re-posting with me as a guest blogger/contributor, you can contact me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

for permission on using content.

This is Part 1 of 2 for this Article. The 2nd and final part will be posted on Sunday, January 24th, 2010!

Ladies: Got Difficult Co-Workers?
How DO YOU Respond to “Them?”
By Joy Huber

As the author of “You Go Girl: A Woman’s Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People,” business communications expert, women’s business coach and award-winning international presenter who speaks to many groups of women in business, I’m very VERY often asked questions surrounding how to DEAL with difficult co-workers. Co-workers are especially challenging because we have no direct supervisory authority over them and can not discipline them through verbal or written warnings to change their behavior! They are often the cause of a lot of working women’s stress and persistent stress leads to many very expensive health problems!

· “Working women rank stress as their #1 everyday problem. Women must balance work and family, cope with aging parents and handle interpersonal conflicts,” says the New York Times on the Web Women’s Health section (http://www.nytimes.com/specials/women/whome/stress.html).

To help you learn HOW to deal with difficult co-workers, I first want to share my favorite definition for the word “attitude.” I define attitude as “the way You Choose to Respond.” You probably notice I’ve highlighted three words there: you, choose, respond.

But how do you choose to respond? Overall what is your preferred style of communication or behavior in response to your co-workers? While we can certainly behave & communicate different ways in different situations or with different people, I’ll most be able to help you feel better, stress less, look better at work, and save $$ on expensive reactive healthcare if you choose ONE of the below four options for how you respond MOST of the time.

1. Passive – I list this style first because this is what most of the businesswomen I work with choose. Ignore it & it’ll go away! How often does that really work for you though? This behavior can be defined as shy, timid, or nonassertive. Unfortunately for women who choose this behavior, it’s a very lose-win behavior meaning you continue to lose while “they (Your Difficult People)” Win! It causes you a tremendous amount of frustration about situations, anger & STRESS. Have you ever looked for a different job, looked to leave a job you otherwise liked (job duties & compensation-wise), because of co-workers who are there every day and cause that very hazardous to your health ongoing chronic stress?

2. Passive-Aggressive – Any guesses why I listed this one second? You are correct! This is the next most common behavior I hear of women. They mask their hurt feelings and anger by saying in the moment they are “fine” because they are simply not confident and comfortable with a face-to-face conflict and then waste time plotting & planning REVENGE or sabotage of their difficult person. This behavior and communication is very lose-lose as the person you get revenge on then seeks to “not get mad, but get even.” You understand why you experience so much anxiety & worry when practicing this behavior!

For the rest of the article, check back at this blog on Sunday, January 24th, 2010!
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I look forward to connecting again Sunday!

Joy Huber

Is YOUR 2010 Going Better or Worse Than You'd Planned?

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:01:00 +0000

Hello Everyone! A Belated Hap-py New Year to You!!

I realize my last post was a couple weeks ago before Jan. 1 & the new decade came in. My 2010 is off to a fast & furious start, but I'm very Excited about all the Terrific things that have been happening!

How has your 2010 started out? Like you'd planned, better, or worse??

WHAT? You didn't make a PLAN for all you hope to accomplish in 2010? You have heard the quote, "Failure to plan IS planning to fail," right?

What are 3 HUGE things you want to do this year? It could be
anything, personal, professional, or both! It starts with getting clear about your goals & then developing the how-to do that! Start with the WHAT you want to accomplish, then it's helpful to set a deadline of "By WHEN?" & then you can get down to the HOW to do it planning!

Remember, if I can help you, I continue to offer a Complimentary 30-minute Coaching Session. I did one of these last night & a couple last week & have immensely enjoyed focusing 100% on the client (It really is "ALL About YOU!" in my sessions!) & how to make dreams happen . . not just when sleeping or daydreaming but in REAL life!!

I have been busy booking Speaking Engagements, especially in the Spring! In March I speak to my former college, Peru State College, in NE & I can't wait! April has virtually imploded on my calendar & things have been booked in May & June as well! I would Definitely say my 2010 is off to a Fantastic & Very Interesting start! But it hasn't happened by accident. It's by me making a very focused effort to become CLEAR on my goals, focused in the right direction, and then working a plan Every Day to make sure I take steps in the direction of some Huge Dreams that'll be what life looks more like very soon! I'd love to help you live this life too!

Start by completing the following sentences & then fill out the brief form at http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact & we'll start strategizing about Your PLAN!

Fill in the 'X!'

"I always wanted to do/be 'X,' but I'm kinda giving up on that happening in my life."

"I still feel like doing/being 'X' is possible."

Talk Soon!!

Joy Huber
Professional Coach

2010 Goal Setting!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 19:39:00 +0000

Hello to My Blog Readers & if you do Celebrate Christmas, I hope you had a Wonderful one!

As the last few days of 2009 tick down and we all prepare for not just the New Year ahead with 2010, but a whole new decade dawning, I LOVE reflecting this time of year on what were the victories & successes (Sure!), but what didn't work or could be improved. I invite You to do this reflection on a personal level, professional level, but I really encourage both!!

As a woman first & entrepreneur second, I'm really finding clarity in these being my two primary niches I help. I also have successfully helped many men & deliver trainings in the areas of people recruitment/management/retention (& this will be a HUGE one as the economy continues to improve! See "Workers May Jump Ship as Economy Improves" at http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/33346418/ns/business-businessweekcom/page/2/ & then

Contact me at http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact!

With my background working in Retail Mrkg. & Customer Service I also speak on customer service. Something I've found with my reflections this year is I have interests in so many things and I have sometimes allowed myself to be pulled in too many directions! I've realized just because I am qualified & CAN do something in my business does not mean it's what I should do. I & my business, Joy Huber Presentations, Inc. (JHPI) have both improved this year as I've learned to clarify priorities & FOCUS.

I'm VERY Excited about what 2010 will hold for me because I've taken the time to think about what I could do, focus on what I want to do MOST, and set up some HUGE accomplishments in those areas then broken down into Baby steps that will ensure I head in the right direction in 2010!!! It feels Amazing to have this clear purpose, a plan for achieving, and be off in a direction I couldn't be more excited about!

Now how about You? What does 2010 hold? Will you keep your employees and customers or lose them?? Loss, as you're well aware, is very costly! Will you keep your job where you're employed or be let go and waste precious time wondering what to do next? Will you leave your job, of your own choosing or through a lay-off, and successfully enter the world of entrepreneurship? Somebody has to start new businesses that will grow & provide jobs for those currently searching you know - why not You? Will 2010 be a year where you finally get rid of all the pain conflict brings, lower your stress, improve relationships with assertive communication and be able to stop taking expensive medications?

My point is ARE YOU PREPARED? Have you thought ahead to your big 2010 goals, and then broken them down into manageable chunks? If you're not even clear on what direction you'd like to go and feel stressed, overwhelmed, and would like personal confidential help, I do encourage you to contact me by clicking here about individual coaching programs. The 3 main areas I offer coaching in, going back to my own clarity of purpose, are

1. working with businesswomen who want to communicate more assertively, avoid the pain of conflict, stress less, and improve relationships (professional, personal or both!)

2. working with entrepreneurs who want to start their own business but have no idea where to begin & need Entrepreneurial support

(I found a coach myself & worked with him for 10 months in 2008 for this VERY reason! There are a few but NOT MANY entrepreneurs in my family/friends network who started a business from the ground up & worked VERY HARD to realize their dreams. As I sought support I felt many people, especially employees, just "glazed over" and could not relate when I talked "entrepreneurial things!" It was soo worth it to me to hire a coach just to have someone listen to me so well, help me get this beautiful clarity, understand my challenges, support & encourage, and just want me to WIN & be SOO Happy!! That's what professionally trained coaches offer & I was trained through Coach U.)

3. working with anyone who manages or is responsible for retaining people and is facing challenges with the human capital in their organization

I offer a complimentary 30-minute Coaching Session & specials right now because I truly want to help those who are committed to making 2010 one of their BEST years ever, and not just another "Eh" year. It was fine, ok, average, can't complain . . any of these words describe how you've felt lately? Contact me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

Happy 2010 to YOU!

New Thoughts on Boredom!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 15:11:00 +0000

I haven't had time to update my blog in a couple of weeks . . so I found the new information I just learned & want to share with you especially interesting!

In tip #5 from Kristine Carlson's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women" she discusses . . boredom. The tip title is "Bust Your Boredom Blues." Some of you might say, as I frequently think, "WHAT boredom??? I'm sooo busy I haven't had time to . . fill in the blank. As I started this post, I haven't had time to update my blog!!

I found this fascinating! Kristine says ". . . boredom is a learned response, and a form of anxiety which stems from our thinking - too much thinking, to be specific. Our minds are so busy and 'filled up,' that we become restless when there isn't something 'exciting' going on . ." Do you agree with this thought or not?

She goes on to say, ". . . it's interesting to examine how virtually everyone is complaing of having too much to do and not enough time, yet their solution to restlessness is to find even more to do!" This tip made me think about bored feelings in a whole new level. Instead of scrambling to find things to do, just sit with the peace and quiet for awhile and look for an opportunity to actually 'relax!'

A dear friend of mine talks about how sometimes our society tends to give value or importance to people who are "so busy," so there's pressure almost on us to have too much to do to show how important we are. What are your opinions on that?

At the end of this tip, Kristine says, "Without realizing it, we have taught our children to be bored by filling up every minute with rushed activities, too much stimulus, non-stop entertainment, and school. Kids get so used to the 'what's next' mentality that they become bored if there isn't something 'exciting' going on, or something they are looking forward to doing."

There is definitely a rush to succeed as parents and schools push kids, maybe instead of just letting them be kids for a little while.

"When you're not freaked out by boredom, you'll realize that you've temporarily slipped into the past or future, and you can bring your attention back to the present moment," Kristine states towards the end of this tip.

I really present this just as food for thought on this cold Midwestern Monday morning . . what are your thoughts and opinions after reading this? I welcome your comments, and perhaps this post will change your perspective on "boredom" or always having to fill every moment, for you & young ones around you.

During the rushed holiday season as I see many Facebook posts about hurrying to shop, wrap, ship, get to family gatherings, bake/cook goodies, attend work & other holiday parties, send out cards & letters, etc., I wonder if we bring some of the lack of time and stress on ourselves sometimes.

I'm reminded that we ALL have the same 24 hours in a day . . one thing I've always loved about time is how it doesn't discriminate. From rich to poor, we all get the same amount of time in each day, etc. You can't BUY more time for yourself and gain an advantage. HOW is it that some people manage to get so much done & don't feel so rushed, stressed, or even bored when they have the rare quiet moments of peace we all say we're seeking?

Do they have clarity that you don't?
Do they prioritize and do what's truly most important first vs. procrastinating tasks?
Do they know how to say "NO" to the unimportant (See previous post where I teach you how to say NO!" at http://success4businesswomen.blogspot.com/2009_10_01_archive.html )
Do they appreciate their feelings of boredom instead of rushing to fill that anxiety with hustle & bustle??

Just true "food for thought" this Monday morning . . talk to you Soon!

Joy Huber
Business & Personal Coach

Have YOU Ever Explored Coaching? You can e-mail me at
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subject line, "Request to Schedule Comp. Coaching Session,"
to receive a complimentary 30-minute coaching session with Me to
experience its tremendous value!!

How to ENJOY the Holiday Season!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 18:23:00 +0000

Hello Blog Readers!

How was Your Thanksgiving?

1. Did you take part of the Holiday to truly count your many many blessings & stop & give
"Thanks?"
2. Did you enjoy time with family and/or friends?
3. Did you eat too much delicious food?
4. Did you go shopping Friday or this weekend? :)

My Thanksgiving was truly Delightful!! Since I fly quite a bit delivering training events & doing keynote speaking, it was so nice to have a very brief commute that can be DRIVEN to my parents vs. having to fly anywhere. I would have to admit a resounding "YES!" to the first 3 questions in the list but definitely not the 4th.

Now that "the holidays" are upon us and everyone is so Busy bustling around shopping, wrapping, shipping, attending parties and traveling to family get-togethers, I can't help but notice how Stressed out everyone is too! Do we ENJOY the holidays anymore or just hope to survive them as I sometimes hear people say? "Just let me get through the rest of this year . . " I just heard someone say. It made me rather sad. There's GOT to be a better way!

As I continue perusing through Kristine Carlson's "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women," the 4th 'tip' is timely so I wanted to share it with my blog readers today.

It's called "Cut Your Friends Some Slack."

Kristine says, "It sure would be nice if we could count on our friends to cut us some slack, from time to time, and we should surely do the same for them." Basically, timing is everything, and people are only human after all. If you can tell your friend is having a bad day, it's "not the time" to bring up certain things for example. Let them go, see how you can help her or him, and basically cut them some slack!

I've been thinking lately about what it truly means to be a friend to someone & I welcome your feedback & thoughts on this too! As you give Thanks this holiday season, celebrate, maybe share gifts, cards, family pictures, and letters of greeting summing up your '09 with family & friends, what makes your friends your friends? What do you love about these people you choose to share life with on a deeper level than an acquaintance. We give more of our time to friends, we help them out knowing that the true friends will be only too happy to help us in return when we need it, etc.

Kristine says towards the end of this brief tip, "In the long run, cutting your friends some slack will greatly reduce your stress. You'll feel good about yourself, knowing that you allow people to be fully human, even though they are far from perfect."

Since I'm all about helping YOU reduce your stress so you can save time & improve your health & quality of life (when you Feel better, you sleep well & Look Great!), I'll be watching for stress-reducing products and services I can share with you in December (for gift ideas, or a gift to yourself idea!)! One I've shared previously is that I'll be offering individual coaching programs where you can work with me confidentially. I just want you to make 2009 your best year vs. just another stressed year!!! To schedule your complimentary 30-minute session with me to explore coaching, e-mail

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

& you can learn more about my coaching services (information is up on my coaching) at

http://www.JoyHuber.com/coaching

I really hope you had a Terrific Thanksgiving & I want to ensure you can truly ENJOY "the holidays" vs. just trying to 'get through them.' Have a Terrific Week BACK AT WORK & I'll be talking to you again very soon in December - already, I can hardly believe it! :)

How to Handle STRESS!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:19:00 +0000

Hello! When working from home recently (with my TV on in the background) I was brought to an abrupt halt when I heard the start of this segment on "The Today Show." Since it aired when a lot of you may have already been in the car on the way to drop off the kids at school & get to work, I felt I should share it with you. Please check out this link, and comment here . . let me know what you think. Do you feel stressed? You're certainly not alone! 3 out of 4 Americans in this study feel a high to moderate level of stress EVERY DAY! What stresses you out? This time of year we feel even more pressure because of "the Holidays."

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/33717058#33717058

I have recently especially noticed people I talk to who say, "Let's touch base in January." On November 10th? To me this signaled people who are stressed who can't possibly add one more thing to their plate with just regular work, and then Thanksgiving, Christmas, holiday shopping, wrapping & shipping, booking travels & traveling for family gatherings, attending holiday parties, and the list goes on and on . . oh, and don't forget dealing with a few "difficult people" along the way! :)

This is why I remind you that I give away FREE information at
http://www.StopDifficultCoWorkersNow.com

It's the same Great information I also give away when you sign-up to the right of this blog post! If you're a woman who has to communicate with coworkers who on occasion become "difficult," I would encourage you to sign-up for this FREE information by clicking here. What is the price of not signing up?

As you hear in "The Today Show" piece, our blood pressure & anxiety goes up. This leads to expensive chronic health problems. You also hear her talk about how it's more difficult to lose weight because of Stress! It's vital to make the tiny investments in yourself to learn how to handle difficult people & what to say to them so you don't have to pay a huge price when the chronic stress gets to you and you incur huge health care expenses!

One of those tiny investments can be made off to the right of this blog post by getting your immediate download of "How to Communicate Clearly." For only $9.97 for NOW (This is a LOW Introductory Price, and the price will be going up Soon to $14.97 for this download because of the high value of this information!), you can immediately learn magical phrases that will help you manage & resolve conflict so you can LOWER YOUR STRESS & ANXIETY. Aren't you worth it?

Something else interesting I found in the piece is how Dr. Snyderman talks about the # of people who feel like they don't have support. If you're seeking someone who is 100% in your corner, and wants You to WIN, who will listen to you better than you've ever been listened to before, and who believes in You, I continue to offer a complimentary coaching session so you can explore the high value of coaching for FREE. E-mail me at Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com to set-up your session at the time best for you. We can do this during the day at work, at home in the evening, or on the weekend. Get the support you need to
"Make 2010 Your Best Year instead of another Stressed Year!"

I look forard to hearing from you with your comments on stress, this Today Show piece, and how I can help you be more successful & less stressed! Talk to You Soon!!

Joy Huber
Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

FREE Info. for Women on Difficult CoWorkers!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:06:00 +0000

Good Evening! Tonight, a treat for you - a Video!

I recently had the pleasure of speaking to a group of businesswomen in Kansas City and I wanted to share this brief excerpt video on my blog.

This is also on YouTube . . search "Joy Huber" on YouTube to watch my other videos there. Subscribe to my channel at YouTube to be the 1st to know when I add new videos!

This video addresses where you can go for more information so make sure you share this with all the businesswomen that you know (& like & want to help . . think of friends who gripe to You about all the "difficult people" they have to deal with at work like their coworkers . . Coworkers are especially tricky for most women because you have no supervisory authority over them! WHAT to do?!) so they can sign-up for the FREE Goodies at

http://www.StopDifficultCoWorkersNow.com

If you work someplace or are part of any associations or groups who bring in outside speakers for anything from a keynote address to 1/2 day or even full or multi-day workshops, visit my corporate web site

http://www.JoyHuber.com

to learn much more about me, then pass this information along to Human Resources or whomever has the authority to book outside speakers (They can click HERE.), and they can fill out the form at

http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact

to initiate bringing me to your organization for a fun-filled, educational "en'JOY'able" training experience!

Talk to You Again Soon! Have a Terrific Week!

Joy Huber, Author "You Go Girl! A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People," Award-Winning International Presenter & Business Communications Expert

It's My Blog's BIRTHDAY & YOU Get the GIFT!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 01:04:00 +0000

Happy Birthday to (My Blog), Happy Birthday to (My Blog), . . .

This Blog you are reading, Success4BusinessWomen, is ONE Year Old Today!!!

While I'm Excited about all the Valuable FREE content I've been able to share with you over the course of the last year, and I happily look forward to the future, I also stop to take this moment to . .

CELEBRATE the Successes of the Past Year!!

& What would a Birthday BE without PRESENTS! However, I quickly decided the presents should go to YOU, the READERS of this Blog, who without there would be no purpose.

You are the ones who read the posts & forward this on to other women it can benefit! You DO forward it on RIGHT? Or do you keep all the great info., like how to diplomatically say NO (See previous post!), to Yourself?? :)

With that, since Christmas now IS "next month (Yikes!)," I felt I could best help you by making my Gift to You Christmas-y! You can knock out some of your shopping without going out in the cold & fighting the crowds!

Therefore, as you see in the picture, you get your choice of . .

A Red, Silver OR Gold Gift Bag with ALL of the following

(YOUR CHOICE OF either Peppermint in the Green or Gingerspice Scent in the Brown!)

- Refreshing Shower Gel

- Moisturizing Body Lotion

&&&

- a copy of my Guide for Women "You Go Girl! A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People"

for

ONLY $25!!!!!

Yes, I Know, my Guide Alone retails for $20 in my Online Store at

http://www.JoyHuber.com/online

& the Holiday Scented Goodies retail for $15 in the current Mary Kay catalog which SHOULD make the price $35, but, it's a BIRTHDAY PARTY so it's Only $25!

Please hurry to order though because quantities are limited!

To order, just e-mail me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

& let me know how many of each scent you want, i.e.,

2 Peppermints &

1 Gingerspice, etc.

& I'll get your mailing address & payment information (I can accept your check or credit card.)

Get 1 for YOURSELF & do some Christmas shopping here for other women in your life, teenagers, your Mom or sister, sis-in-law, good friends, valued co-workers, etc., etc., etc.

I look forward to hearing from you . . SOON! E-mail me at Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

& HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO SUCCESS4BUSINESSWOMEN.BLOGSPOT.COM!

Joy Huber, Author

"You Go Girl! A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People"

Award-Winning International Presenter & Business Communications Expert

HOW to Say "No!"

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 21:23:00 +0000

Good Afternoon Blog Readers!

Today, I want to share with you some VERY Important, immediately useful information I believe EVERY BusinessWoman HAS to know to truly BE Successful! It is partially the 3rd of 100 tips from "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women" by Kristine Carlson . . &

I'm adding

HOW to Say "No!"

The 3rd tip is

Don't Get Over-Committed!

The two brief pages in the book proceed to cover women who try to "do it all." Is this truly being 'successful?' Or is this the path to chronic STRESS? When I started this blog about a year ago, I remember in my first postings I encouraged You to define what success means . . to YOU . . & then to develop a plan to go for it!

Remember, if you need help defining &/or planning, I'm developing individual coaching programs. To qualify for a FREE 30-minute coaching session, please fill out the form at my web site at

http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact

& say you want to work with me in Coaching & I'll be in touch to set-up your complimentary session to explore the wonderful world of working with a professionally trained coach! Some of the many many benefits of coaching include: the coach has no hidden agenda like family & friends sometimes do, the coach solely wants YOU to be successful (according to your definition!) & WIN, and the coach will listen to you better than anyone else in your life (Ever try to share something Really important with your spouse, only to go, "Honey, are YOU LISTENING?")!

I am scheduling 3 complimentary coaching sessions this next week with ladies I just spoke to in Central NE this past week who requested such time to invest in themselves & gain some clarity!

"Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" suggests, "If you select just one or two things to do, and make sure that you truly do enjoy those things you decide to be involved in, the work will be that much more meaningful."

I want to help you beyond what's in this book and give you some valuable bonus content, just from me, on HOW to Say NO! Try this method, called the 'USA Method,' because of its tactful diplomatic approach.

U - Give a Statement of Understanding, understanding the person coming to you with the request and their situation. Perhaps you empathize with the person, and TALK about the emotions they are expressing but don't REACT to them. Example: "I understand you need help with the committee. I can tell you're frustrated with the volunteers you're working with so far."

S - Talk about YOUR specific situation, what you have going on, to help them to understand why you possibly can't commit to one more thing (& do it well!).

& finally, A, what people are MOST interested in

A - A Statement of ACTION, talking about what You CAN do vs. what you Can't Do which is what people want to hear! Example: "What I can do for you is . . "

To really implement this Great material, try to think of a couple situations you find yourself in, 1 professional (Maybe with a boss or co-worker!) & 1 personal (Maybe a friend who asks you to babysit all the time & never offers to Pay You!), and try to script in your mind what your "USA Response" would be to those requests/situations so You can WIN & ASSERTIVELY stand up for yourself and hold your ground.

You Go Girl!

If you enjoyed this blog post and feel other women you know (friends, work colleagues, etc.) could benefit from it, please feel free to send the link to it in an e-mail, post it on your Facebook, tweet it out or otherwise share with your network. My goal to feel fulfilled in my work is to reach & HELP as many BusinessWomen as possible & I can only do that if you help me get my messages out there!

Another woman YOU know NEEDS to know USA. Share it with her; I'm sure she'll then be looking for an opportunity to help you!

Have a Terrific Weekend & I'll be "talking" to you again soon! If you want to talk to me on the phone re: coaching & getting this set up for you for 2010 to really make it "YOUR YEAR," click here.

Achieving Success on YOUR Terms!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:03:00 +0000

Hello again Blog Readers (Facebook Fans, Twitter followers, etc.)! However you found me, I'm glad you're here & I intend to make your life better through our association.

A new friend sent me an e-card today (I love them - they just brighten my day!) and the ecard said something I loved so much I immediately thought, "I can USE THAT in my blog post!" It said,

"The key to happiness is having dreams. The key to success is

making them come true."

LOVE IT!

So ladies, what dreams do you have? Have you written them down? Then WHAT IS YOUR PLAN for making them come true so you too can experience true success in life?

My final question for you is How can I HELP you along this journey?

I'm happy to announce in 2010 I'll be launching my own individual coaching programs, so, YES, you'll have the opportunity to work with ME one-on-one to finally make 2010 the year of your success! More info. to come on that soon in later blog posts!

Today, in a related frame of mind, I'd like to share another tip from "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women" by Kristine Carlson, which I'm enjoying reading one little tip at a time.

Her 2nd tip is "Get Off To A Peaceful Start." I KNOW this, but do I even do it all the time? No-o-o-o-! So it's a good reminder to refresh me on doing this . . starting again! I love how books & audios provide these gentle reminders on things you can START doing when you re-visit them. Those of you who already have my quick-read book "You Go Girl: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People" and audio CD's - REMINDER: Pull them out, dust em' off, and re-visit that valuable content! They too will remind you of things you already know but aren't doing & can start again to achieve better results. Remember that promise about improving the quality of your life through our association? :)

Oh, and for those of you who don't have your copy yet, click here!

The material provided after this tip paints two different scenarios for women in the morning -
one of course is the off on a dead sprint, no calm time morning
the other IS potentially waking up 20 or so minutes earlier to build in some "quiet time" while the kids are still sleeping, ahead of the phone beginning to ring, etc.

"So, in a very real way, the twenty or thirty minutes you spend setting up and preparing for a peaceful day will save you far more time than it will take."

What could you do with this time to get your day off to a GREAT start?
1. Take a few deep calming breaths.
2. Do some light stretching & warm your body up.
3. Mentally note a few blessings or 2-3 things you are grateful for!
4. Listen to some music (I have an alarm clock I can set to kick on to a radio station or to start playing a CD. What a delight to have a CD of spa music playing as I come to life in the a.m.!).
5. Leisurely enjoy your coffee, hot tea, etc. as you read something positive (a book, magazine, article you printed & wanted to read). Try to really make sure these are positives vs. the morning paper, because news (TV & Radio too!) tends to be full of negative, stressful, "bad news" type things that don't START our day optimally!

Finally, I'd add please remind yourself my definition of attitude, "the way you choose to respond." You might even say outloud,

"I have CHOICES in HOW I RESPOND TO EVERYTHING that happens to me today." from what happens to me with my children this morning to how I respond to traffic, the customers at work, my co-workers I have no direct supervisory authority over, etc., etc.

I hope this gentle reminder helps you kicking off your weekend tomorrow morning & the next work week on a very positive note. Have a Terrific Weekend & "Talk" to You Soon!

Joy Huber
Author, "You Go Girl: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People"
For immediate access to this quick-read and an entire system including FREE audios helping you feel significantly better by transforming your worry, frustration, anxiety, anger & stress into calm confidence & resolved conflict, simply click here!

Managing Emotions to Improve Communication!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 21:26:00 +0000

Good Afternoon & Hello to Readers!

Funny, as I sit down to write this afternoon I intended to share a different message! It is a timeless reminder always beneficial to hear though so I think I'll table it for my next post in light of more "timely" news!

I think it's more important today to discuss a bit about some happenings in society lately. I find things occurring in "3's" interesting, and in less than 1 week, I find the following "3" communication incidents have caught not only my attention but that of the National Media.
- Last week Republican Senator Joe Wilson from South Carolina had a spontaneous outburst yelling out "You Lie!" at the PRESIDENT of the United States as he addressed not only Congress, but the American People on Live TV. He apologized.
- Over the weekend at the U.S. Open Tennis Player Serena Williams had an outburst including profanity at a line judge after calling her on a Foot Fault which caused her to lose. As the defending champ., this came as a shock to many! She held a Press Conference.
My latest "Tweet" on Twitter says in part, "What has lack of tactful, diplomatic communication cost U? It cost Serena Williams, Tennis Player, $10K! OUCH!"

By the way, You can Follow me on Twitter at www.twitter.com/JoyHuber

- Last night at the VMA's Kanye West interrupted Taylor Swift's Acceptance Speech with an outburst. He has also issued an apology.

So, the past week's been Very active with issues in "communication." To me it shows us no one, male or female (2 men here, 1 woman in these examples), is immune to unprofessional, emotional communication. No matter how big of a recording artist, athlete or even congressional representative you are, you can be embarrassed (& I would say they all have been, and they've all suffered bad press as a result & probably suffered in the court of public opinion!) by not being a tactful & diplomatic communicator. It's something we all really need to be trained on, aware of, and reminded of! This is at the heart & core of what I teach when I speak to associations, companies, college groups, the government, etc.

In my book "You Go Girl: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People" I define attitude as
"the way you choose to respond"
Isn't that what's at issue here? We all choose how we respond to events and that can be very empowering realizing we ultimately control how we communicate, what we do and don't say or do & don't do action-wise. These people chose to respond as such to statements made in a speech, calls by a line judge, and who an award was presented to.

Remember that when you are in conflict! In my book, I also discuss how you can loosely script conversations to try to anticipate out of the "heat of the moment" different directions the conversation could go, and role-play them with someone in your support network to help you be optimally prepared as your co-worker, customer, boss, etc. says and behaves in certain ways. Being prepared really helps you in not having these unprofessional, embarrassing responses for which we are often very sorry for later but unfortunately can Not take back.
In one of my tweets in the past month, I said,

When you feel conflict escalating, when was the last time you consciously took a Deep Breath? This simple helpful tip has a calming effect!

This simple but profound tip can also really help you. Because I want to help people so much, I GIVE AWAY at my web site a FREE mini-course that's 12 phrases you can use in conflict & challenging situations! All you have to do is input your name & a personal or work e-mail & you'll begin receiving this immediately. To sign-up, click here.

To see my library of educational resources including my book & audio CD's, click here.

I'd love to learn what else I can do to help you. Think back - What has the lack of professional, diplomatic communication cost You?
- promotions at work & more $$
- relationships with loved ones as you say damaging things you can not take back
- loss of respect & reputation

I offer individual coaching programs too if you're really seeking a professional to work with over the long term to achieve astounding improved results in your professional & personal life.

I look forward to hearing from you (E-mail me at Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com), and remember
- You choose your response in conflict!
- Loosely script conversations to prepare.
- Role-play with someone in your support network so you can practice not only your word choices, but your voice tone, volume, pace (Speak too quickly & you sound ner-vous!), and body language (Actions speak louder than words you know!).
- Take a Deep calming breath as you feel conflict escalating! That one is FREE & Easy!

Make it a Great Week!

Manage Difficult People Now!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:11:00 +0000

Happy Labor Day!

For today's blog "post," I've decided to share a treat with you - a Video! I have this on YouTube & if you search "Joy Huber" you'll find six of my other videos for your viewing pleasure! I also tweeted about it & put it on the Facebook page for my business last week so those of you who are already Fans of "JHPI" on Facebook or following me on Twitter received some advance notice. If you haven't had the opportunity to watch this yet, it's less than 10 minutes & I believe will really help you with addressing

- Why ARE People Difficult?

which I addressed in an earlier blog post you may have missed,

& also

- What's the Biggest Mistake Women Make Around Difficult People?? Enjoy, and don't forget to forward to other women in your world. Facebook friends, the co-workers you like (Ha!), and you can send the link to others on your e-mail list that you send forwards to!

I'll be "talking" to you again soon!

Don't forget to visit

http://www.managedifficultpeoplenow.com/

to sign-up for my FREE mini-course "12 Phrases Every Business Professional Must Know!"

How to Achieve Success!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 00:32:00 +0000

Greetings Blog Readers & Followers!

Considering I awaken many mornings & look over at a hanging saying in my bedroom that says, "Good Morning . . . Let The Stress Begin . . . . . . . (See Picture!)" I was interested in finally reading a little book called "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women." This book has 100 "chapters," or tips, and as I read through the info., I intend to share these nuggets with you to help you . . achieve success while "NOT" sweating all the small stuff us women tend to get so worked up about!

The first tip in this book says "Wish Wonder Woman Goodbye," and after thinking about it for a bit, I agreed. To me part of achieving success which is what this blog is all about is defining what success means for YOU, and then creating a plan about how to make that happen! I would encourage anyone I work with though to refine their definition to what not only makes them successful in their eyes, but makes them HAPPY as well. Sometimes we go for what we think we "should," what we think we "should" be, or what will make others happy or proud of us. We need to re-think that and look at how we define success & what will make US happy!

Let me quote the first sentence of this chapter. "I saw a bumper sticker that said: 'I am Woman. I am invincible. I am tired.'"

3 tips are given & they are
"One, let go of the notion that you can do it all. . . .
Two, be willing to ask for help when you need it. . . .
Three, be willing to make changes when your system fails."

To expand on these points, the first one is what I'm referencing above when I say you need to come up with your definition and have it truly be yours, not what you think you "should" be to be successful.

Complete the blank Please! :)

Success TO ME means . . . _________________________.

Now what does success to YOU REALLY mean . . try it again . . go deeper in your soul.

Success TO ME means . . . _________________________.

Is your 2nd time filling in the blank more accurate to what you Really want? :)

I love the second idea where you identify what you're good at and what your strengths are and use your time to accomplish or work on those. Identify what is NOT a good use of your time or talents and outsource, delegate, etc. No need to think you have to work hard in your career && take care of everything at home. Nothing wrong with saying to your spouse, "We both work outside our home to contribute income to our household. I've noticed when I get stressed and overwhelmed it negatively affects the whole family including our relationship. To help everyone be happier (cause no one's really happy when I'm not!), we should do a more equitable division of tasks inside this home to keep it running smoothly." You get the groceries and make the dinner, he does the dishes & swiffers the floor!

To speak to the third point, I have a saying I love so much I put it on the back of my book "You Go Girl!" and it is, "If you do what you have always done, you will get the results you have always got! Are you ready to get different and better results?"

I believe that's what Kristine Carlson, author of Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women" means when she says in the third point be willing to make changes. It's insanity to think doing the same thing over & over will yield different results! Nothing will change unless you change! What are you going to start doing differently?

If you're looking to communicate differently with anyone in your life to instantly feel better (You know that feeling of empowerment you get when you assertively stand up for yourself & your rights?! Doesn't that FEEL Great!) this is really where my expertise can help you. As a business communications expert, my specialty is helping women end frustration, anger, stress, worry & anxiety over situations with the classic "difficult people."

For more information on how I can help you, you can contact me through my web site of

http://www.JoyHuber.com/contact

Oh, and finally, I want to address a question I've gotten which is "How do I know when you've added new content to your blog? I just come to this url & check ever so often." I can save you time & resolve that one!

Join Facebook & become a FAN of my business. I always post there when I've made a new addition to the blog. You can search "JHPI" & my business, Joy Huber Presentations, Inc. should come up. Become a Fan!

You can also follow me on Twitter at
http://www.twitter.com/JoyHuber

I "tweet" out when I've made a new post to the blog. Then you'll be the 1st to know & can come check for the latest & greatest new content!

Enjoy the rest of your weekend & I'll be "talking" to you again soon with another tip from "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Women!"

Why ARE People "Difficult" to begin with?

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 17:33:00 +0000

Felt like this recently? As a businesswoman, I understand & I'm here to help!

As today is the mid-point of August I shouldn't be surprised to hear of kids going or getting ready to soon head "Back-To-School!" Time just keeps flying by!

I have been very busy (which makes time go even Faster, by the way!) working to formally launch a web site to help as many businesswomen as possible achieve "Your definition" of success by
- communicating more effectively
- learning to manage & resolve conflict so You can stress & worry LESS (Who wants to look, or worse yet, FEEL, like the woman in the image at the start of this blog post?!)!
- just learning to THRIVE around all those "Difficult People" out there (& let's face it, with the economic downturn, don't there seem to be even more "Difficult People!?")

At my web site,

http://www.ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com/ I've put up an entire SYSTEM on how to Thrive around difficult people! You've heard me mention this before, but I feel very strongly about giving businesswomen tools at an exceptional value so I've been adding more & more useful items to the system.

The BEST news is

It's all available IMMEDIATELY! BECAUSE . . when you're stressing, anxious, worried, not sleeping over difficult people & conflict in your life, do you want to WAIT to get a solution? NO, please! You want immediately implementable solutions.

In addition to getting my book "You Go Girl: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People" as an ebook with chapters on: attitude, communication, listening, word choices, emotion && stress management . . you're ALSO going to get

(This is Crazy but it's all there . . for Now!)

SIX BONUSES! All for only $29.95!

Bonus #1 – I am giving you the audio of the system so you can listen to me reading the ebook if you prefer to absorb it that way!
(A $19.95 Value!)

Bonus #2 - I’ve developed a very valuable “Insiders’ Report” to the system that is only 5 pages! In this brief report, I address the “Top 12” Questions BusinessWomen Ask About “Difficult People!” Skim this & get some immediately implementable Solutions!
(A $19.95 Value!)

Bonus #3 – I’m also providing the audio of the “Insiders’ Report” to you as a FREE BONUS!
(A $9.95 Value!)

Bonus #4 – A FREE article “Effective Communication in the Workplace” that details a concept I mention briefly in the book on Page 14 – how using You + a bad news message puts someone on the defensive & causes conflict to erupt! Learn how to communicate more effectively & avoid conflicts so you can reduce stress & worry!
(A $9.95 Value!)

Bonus #5 – Another FREE Bonus Report on Aromatherapy! In this 2-page quick-read, I save you time researching aromatherapy explaining what results you can attain from various essential oils, sharing blends, and discussing creative uses of aromatherapy to help you stress less!
(A $9.95 Value!)

Bonus #6 - The mp3 (& Lyric Sheet) of a song I co-wrote FOR YOU entitled “Get Even Better!” This unique song you’ll love to sing along with is all about focusing on yourself and getting even better! The lyric sheet is in the system so you can follow along.
(A $4.95 Value!)

All together, this system & the bonuses' are a tremendous value! The bonuses’ alone are worth approx. $75 which is two and a half times more than the tiny investment in the system!

I want to give you a taste of the "Insiders' Report" with the Top 12 Questions . . here is Question #1.

Question #1)
Why ARE people “difficult” to begin with?
This may be ‘the’ most frequently asked question I get when teaching how to thrive around difficult people! Everyone asks why they are so darn difficult for starters! For simplicity purposes, I break ‘difficult people’ into two simple categories but this is so important. You have to know FIRST the type of difficult person you have on your hands so you can determine what strategy or ‘how-to’ to use to THRIVE around them!

The first type is those who are being difficult because they are miserable. Misery LOVES company so if they’re unhappy, they want nothing more than for you to be just as unhappy as they are!

The second type is those who seem difficult or you perceive them that way, but in reality, you’re thinking they’re the difficult one because they are just very different from you in communications style, behavior, etc.

Decide FIRST what “type” you are dealing with!

This will dictate the strategy you employ to THRIVE around them! Most women don't realize we have to know first who we're dealing with to understand how to manage them!

Enjoy your Weekend & I'll be "talking" to you again soon!!

Visit http://www.JoyHuber.com/
& sign-up in the upper left corner
for my FREE mini-course
"12 Phrases Every Business Professional Must Know!"

Negotiation Skills for Women

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Thu, 30 Jul 2009 17:33:00 +0000

Hello to My Blog Readers!

Have you noticed I'm working at blogging & putting content out here more often for you? Not too far back I was lucky to manage 1 single post/month but am working at giving you more content! More & USEFUL content that is . . who needs more "stuff" to read that doesn't help you and/or isn't interesting?!

In my blog earlier this month I talked some about listening skills. Look for more to come on this important topic than just 1 blog post! Today I want to share a phrase with you though I consider to be one of 'the phrases' Every Business Professional Should Know. This is essential in the area of negotiation.

Dictionary.com lists its first negotiation definition as

mutual discussion and arrangement of the terms of a transaction or agreement

To me a keyword in there is "mutual." Negotiation is assertive; it is win-win. I always think of negotiating salary & benefits packages, negotiating the terms of a sale or contract like at work OR your next vehicle purchase! Negotiation skills are essential so you don't find your self in a passive position or feeling like you lost & the other person just won . . and won big. Get rid of that helpless "I just got run over there!" feeling! Try this phrase in your next negotiation . . & let me know how it went!

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Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

"I am willing to do that, and what I’ll need from you is . .”
When To Use It: Excellent for negotiation! Before we give our power away or give and give without asking for anything back, simply agree to what they’ve asked if feasible for you and realistic and ask for them to provide something in return in the same sentence. Being assertive and standing up for yourself means win-win!

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How to Be a Better Listener!

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:32:00 +0000

Greetings from Chicago Tonight!

I have hit the Windy City to faciliate an all-day training class for Administrative Assistants (one of my 'core' groups I work with!) the next few days!

In approx. one week, Monday, July 20th, my Birthday rolls around again! So I have begun my reflections about "the past year" and my accomplishments. I tend to define how "Successful" I've been very much by how many people I've been able to HELP with my messages & content. So, it has been a GREAT year . . & I'm lookin' forward to all that the next year will bring!!

This blog has been going for just a little less than one year; I've got two web sites up now at
http://www.joyhuber.com/
&
http://www.managedifficultpeoplenow.com/

I have a page for my business, Joy Huber Presentations, Inc. on Facebook (see right side of this blog, BECOME A FAN TODAY so we can stay connected!), I'm "Twittering," you can search YouTube for "Joy Huber" & find a few videos so my reach is rapidly expanding! Exciting Stuff!

Tonight, the phrase I want to share with YOU is all about improving our listening skills! Most adults will acknowledge they are 'really' not very good at listening! So I believe you will find this phrase VER-YYY useful!

You know the person who goes on & on . . & on . . & ON! & you've tuned out! (Ok, sometimes this is "Me!") But what if they're a customer where you work or at your own business?? It's exponentially important we LISTEN . . but HOW do you get them to "the point?" See below, and ENJOY!!

“If I understand you correctly, what you’re most upset about is (insert here).”
When To Use It: This phrase had to make my top dozen because it can be used with anyone who’s gotten carried away and is going on and on .. and on about their issue! Many people dance around the subject and we need them to get to the point. So simply step in (right as that person takes a deep breath so they can go on . “and furthermore!”) and summarize “If I understand correctly, what you’re most upset about is that the shirt is no longer in stock.” This forces them to the point if they haven’t gotten to it yet. “Noo, what I’m MOST upset about is . .” Then you can think, Great, now we’ve got the problem on the table . . finally . . . let’s move to resolution!

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You'll get 11 more phrases in addition to this that help you . .
communicate more effectively to manage & resolve conflict
maximize employee performance
increase productivity
stress less
&
make more $$!

Communication Skills for Women

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:21:00 +0000

Hi (Happy June . . for a few more hours!)!

As July is almost upon us, I wanted to share with you another phrase you can internalize and add to your arsenal or toolkit, and some exciting news!!

I personally can not Believe it is the 4th of July THIS weekend! To me this mid-point of Summer is usually almost the "end" of Summer! It seems as the fireworks explode in the sky & I celebrate our nation's freedom (and my own personal "freedom," being a business owner has enabled me to do what I really WANT to do & what I feel I am MEANT to do with my life!) then it seems it's hot, hot, hot . . my Birthday comes July 20th . . and before I know it Labor Day is upon us & it's Back-to-School time for the kids!

But let's don't get ahead of ourselves . . for now, it's only July!! :)

As I announced in an earlier blog post,

www.ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

is up & running! This is the web site where you can immediately download my comphrehensive system for THRIVING around difficult people. Don't let them win another moment; get the tools you need today! Feel free to pass this link onto others you know to help them THRIVE instead of just barely surviving & trying to cope with their difficult people!

The tips in this book will enable you to communicate & listen more effectively, increase your productivity, manage & resolve conflict, be more assertive & stand up for yourself & your rights, and stress less so you can improve your health (sleep at night, get rid of those bags that creep in under the eyes, ugh!).

I'm excited to announce I'm adding some ADDITIONAL bonuses' to this site . . so w/ your purchase, you'll ALSO get

* the audio files of the ebook, perfect for putting on your mp3 player & playing while on the go or in your car . . remember you could also burn the mp3's to a CD & listen on a CD player . . this will be FREE and avail. as an additional bonus!!
Note: For those of you who've already purchased the system, I have your e-mail & will e-mail blast these additional free bonuses' to you as they become avail. so you also have!!
* I've also been compiling the "Top 10 ??'s" I'm most frequently asked about "difficult people" and I'll be putting this quick-read for you to begin with up as another FREE report & as an audio file for you to listen to on the go! If you haven't had time to get into the ebook yet, START WITH THIS!!
* still contemplating yet one more bonus for you . . I like to give a tremendous value!

But, speaking of giving . . here's a phrase you can begin using! Enjoy!!

“I realize some of that may have been unclear. What should we review?”

When To Use It: A terrific one for management situations, and especially when you have delegated something to a peer, subordinate, etc. Personal situations you could use this in include volunteering, and communicating with your spouse, and older children. This professionally allows you to take responsibility if something you explained wasn’t clear. Wouldn’t you rather have a comfortable statement that gives your listener the benefit of the doubt and an opportunity to ask questions safely? The alternative is you go through things to quickly and they didn’t get something and then they go out and really mess up the project.

Happy 4th of July to those of you in the United States! Celebrate your freedoms and your own professional/personal success you've achieved according to your definition on this special day! If I can help you in any way, e-mail me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

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New Resources for BusinessWomen to Manage Conflict

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Tue, 26 May 2009 21:06:00 +0000

Hello!

Before May gets away from us here in another week, I wanted to get my post for the month up.

BIG EXCITING NEWS for all BusinessWomen!!

#1 - As you read in the last post, I promised I would let you know when my audio CD is out where you can get all 12 Phrases Every Business Professional Must Know in one place. Well, it's HERE!

In my online store at

www.JoyHuber.com/online

the CD is the first CD of 4 listed. SSHHH . . don't tell . . but I'll give you a big discount when you order this or any of my CD's & e-mail me a quick note to

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

I'll give you $5 or 25% off ANY CD.
(Pay full price when ordering through PayPal. Money will be refunded in the form of a check payable to you and enclosed with product in shipment.)

This way you can have all the phrases avail. in one convenient place to listen to in your vehicle before you head into work and potential conflicting situations with those "difficult people" we all encounter every single day!

#2 - When you're in my online store, you'll see my book "You Go Girl!" on how to THRIVE around difficult people is now also out & available for purchase.

I do want to let you know that you can immediately download this book (No need to wait for it to arrive in the mail!) at

www.ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

This site just became fully operational less than one week ago so this really is "breaking news!" You'll have the PDF file for printing, or if you're environmentally-friendly, you don't even have to print it out. You can save it to the computer for future reference & read it off your computer!

If you've made these mistakes below around any difficult people in the past, grab your copy of my new ebook to start winning with difficult people NOW & Stop them in their tracks!

Do you let them ruin your whole day?
Do you let them treat you however they want without assertively standing up for yourself?
Do you let them make you soo mad or make you cry?
Do you let them stress you out?
Are they driving you crazy? Driving you to snap at loved ones at home . . or driving you towards costly expensive & destructive behaviors (shopping out of control, over-eating, smoking, drinking, depression & medication) to try to cope?
Well, let me make a prediction . . if you do what you have always done, you will certainly get the same old results you have always gotten. Are you finally ready to get the tools that allow you to take control?

I hope your Summer is off to a Warm & Wonderful start! I look forward to connecting with you again soon!!

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How to Communicate Assertively

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 16:23:00 +0000

April Already!

& this week is the dreaded "D" day, or "T" day with the income tax return filing deadline Wednesday the 15th and perhaps you have taxes due.

Today's phrase is on assertive communication, hence, my more applicable title. I don't want to delay so here it is, and then an exciting announcement right behind it . . so keep reading!

“That sounded (insert emotion here) to me; did you mean it that way?”

When To Use It: Again, this is a great one for standing up for yourself and tactfully letting someone know you pick up on their tone. Was that their true intention or how they really wanted to communicate this? I once said in a staff meeting to a co-worker, “Emily, that sounded really sarcastic to me; did you mean it that way?” She blushed, started stammering, “No, no, no.” and I taught her to not address me that way in front of other colleagues & management without consequences for her. If the person says they did mean it that way, you can then utilize the other statements I teach. I recommend #7 where you empathize, and also #1. Some people have shared success also using #’s 6, 4, and 8. These all work together so beautifully!

Now, as you read the end of the post you probably wonder . . "Where are phrases #7, 1, 6, 4, & 8?" I've realized that unless you print most of this blog . . . multiple posts spanning multiple months . . hmm, people need the phrases all together in a more concise format.

Hence, a couple solutions . .

ON THIS PAGE, in the upper-right-hand corner, you can sign-up for a FREE mini-course and the mini-course I'm currently offering is GETTING ALL 12 Phrases Every Business Professional Must Know! The whole idea is to give you solutions to "Communicate Clearly In Challenging Situations!" What I'm going to offer is once a week for a month you'll get delivered to your e-mail inbox, three phrases to start implementing that week. The next week, three more phrases arrive. The cool part is I do all the work to get these to you each week & you do nothing to get this each week but Sign-Up!

Also, I am working on an audio CD with all the phrases & the song I've mentioned I've co-written for you entitled "Get Even Better!" This "should" be available as of next month's writing so I'll be sure & let you know when you can pick up your copy of the audio of the phrases.

It'll be in my online resource store at

www.joyhuber.com/online

where my book is currently available too

"You Go Girl: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People"

Then you can listen to them in your car or during your morning commute - what a great way to refresh on the phrases right before you go into potential conflicting situations with co-workers, customers, management, and subordinates.

Make It A Great Day, and don't forget to sign-up!

Remember, you can e-mail me at

Joy@ManageDifficultPeopleNow.com

too to tell me how you've utilized these phrases & how they've helped you. Always enjoy hearing from you! Talk Soon!

Communication Skills for Women

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 02:55:00 +0000

March Already!! & tonight is the night we "Spring Ahead" indicating Spring is on the way! While I'm so busy I'm not greatly looking forward to the loss of an hour of my time, but I am very excited about it staying lighter later in the day!

Today I continue in my mission to arm you with communication phrases you can internalize and add to your arsenal. Pull these out to avoid, manage & resolve conflict, both professionally & personally! Let me know which one is your favorite and how you've used them! I'm excited to hear from you! You can contact me through my web site too at http://www.joyhuber.com/ & click on the Contact Joy tab!

As I'd mentioned in a previous post I'm releasing my first book, I'm also working vigorously to make it available as an ebook! Why order online & have to wait to receive the information? When I have a problem I want a SOLUTION . . NOW!!! I suspect as professional women you may be the same way?? I've registered a new url & as early as my next post I may be able to release the address & direct you there to

download your copy of "You Go Girl!: A Woman's Guide on How to THRIVE Around Difficult People!" I'm working hard to get it all up & running! So if you see me at a LIVE Event you'll want to buy a copy there . . otherwise you can download & get the solutions immediately!

For today, though, you're looking for another phrase I KNOW! This is a great one that catches most people by surprise because they don't hear it a lot. A very nice way to assertively stand up for yourself! Here it is; enjoy!

“Speaking to me this way is unacceptable.”
When To Use It: Anytime you want/need to stand up for yourself! This is a powerful one for assertiveness! I feel strongly though it correctly balances standing up for yourself with not going overboard, and becoming rude or infringing on the other person’s rights. I always say ‘We teach others how to treat us!’ So it’s a great way to teach someone that their volume, tone, or word choices have become an unacceptable way for them to communicate their situation or feedback to you. It encourages them to reframe in a way that is acceptable and will allow the conversation to continue. Sometimes people don’t intend to be addressing you the way they are; they just get carried away. This is a great phrase to provide some assertive feedback.

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Communication Skills for Women

noreply@blogger.com (Joy Huber) — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 00:59:00 +0000

How is your 2009 going? Have you defined what your success, profesionally and personally, means to you? Are you taking concrete steps each and every day towards achieving your definition of success? Contact me and let me help you!

Couple action items . .
If you haven't already done so, go to http://www.joyhuber.com/
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Next, do you have your copy of my 1st book? "YOU GO GIRL: A Woman's Guide on How to Thrive Around Difficult People" can now be ordered in my online store at
www.joyhuber.com/online

This quick-read gives immediately implementable tips for how you can thrive around difficult people. With the current state of our economy, difficult people abound at every turn it seems!! In my book I detail the two main reasons people ARE difficult, and one of those is because they're miserable. Misery LOVES company; they want YOU to be unhappy, so they're difficult trying to drag you down. Learn how to THRIVE in spite of this!!

As in my last post last month I want to share with you another phrase to add to your toolkit. Here's the phrase, and when to use it! Let me know your questions & comments!!

“I hear/understand your (insert emotion here).”
When To Use It: So many times as humans we just want acknowledgement that someone not only heard us but was truly listening and they understand our feelings! I teach talking about the emotions being expressed instead of reacting unprofessionally to them by raising our voice and getting defensive. This has a calming effect because the person knows someone understands. I might say, “I hear your frustration.” when on the phone with a customer or “I understand your disappointment.” calming a friend who wasn’t granted a job interview. It is critical that we empathize or talk about the emotions people have. “I hear your anger, and sincerely apologize for the inconvenience.” is a terrific phrase for customer service.

Have a Great Week!

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