Comments for Sweet Hot Justice | All the Dirty Details on BigLaw Life | Entertainment | Advice http://www.sweethotjustice.com An entertaining inside look at BigLaw and beyond Tue, 01 May 2012 07:51:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat? by L http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2010/09/08/does-this-law-degree/comment-page-3/#comment-37509 L Tue, 01 May 2012 07:51:38 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=2670#comment-37509 To get where we've gotten, we have developed a certain hardness for sure. Independence cuts both ways. And yes, unlike men, we typically refuse or frankly can't get used to "dating down." Attracted to assertive driven power etc. That's why I've told men I would prefer if they can afford for me to stay home to play housewife. Then I can feel feminine (and stay attracted) and he, not emasculated. Laws of attraction. To get where we’ve gotten, we have developed a certain hardness for sure. Independence cuts both ways. And yes, unlike men, we typically refuse or frankly can’t get used to “dating down.” Attracted to assertive driven power etc. That’s why I’ve told men I would prefer if they can afford for me to stay home to play housewife. Then I can feel feminine (and stay attracted) and he, not emasculated. Laws of attraction.

]]> Comment on Is a Nose Ring an Interview Dealbreaker? by Anonymous http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2009/07/27/nose-ring-at-interview/comment-page-2/#comment-37487 Anonymous Tue, 01 May 2012 02:11:04 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=1888#comment-37487 Yes lose the nose ring. And then contact me so we can bang ferociously throughout the night because you are obviously a loose slut. Yes lose the nose ring. And then contact me so we can bang ferociously throughout the night because you are obviously a loose slut.

]]> Comment on BigLaw Bros: Why Slam Pieces Don’t Want You by Foucault http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2011/03/01/biglaw-bros-why-slam-pieces-dont-want-you/comment-page-1/#comment-36406 Foucault Fri, 20 Apr 2012 16:22:28 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=3280#comment-36406 First of all, I take umbrage with the assertion that the "Grade A slam pieces" are trained exclusively in LA and NY. South Florida is as good a place as either of those two places--and I would even say it might be superior to NY. Furthermore, as the gateway to the Americas, there is a great deal of lovely "talent" (in keeping with the fratbrobro douche language) that comes into the region from all over South America (though, these days, mostly Brazil, Venezuela, and Colombia), in addition to the rich Caribbean community that's been here for decades. Finally, I'll say that this entire article is utter horse shit. Drive around Hialeah, FL for twenty minutes and you're likely to spot at least five "10s". They may not be stupid as a rule (I mean, they're each a unique human being who may or may not be intelligent), but a great many are definitely magnificently attractive, and almost invariably young and looking to have fun (as young people in general are wont to desire). And more often than not, being a lawyer IS impressive to them--if only because they grew up with a Cuban grandmother extolling the virtues of doctors and lawyers. Seriously, we live in a first world country obsessed with physical beauty, with readily available dental care, and personal hygiene and grooming products--finding incredibly attractive people is not difficult. First of all, I take umbrage with the assertion that the “Grade A slam pieces” are trained exclusively in LA and NY. South Florida is as good a place as either of those two places–and I would even say it might be superior to NY. Furthermore, as the gateway to the Americas, there is a great deal of lovely “talent” (in keeping with the fratbrobro douche language) that comes into the region from all over South America (though, these days, mostly Brazil, Venezuela, and Colombia), in addition to the rich Caribbean community that’s been here for decades.

Finally, I’ll say that this entire article is utter horse shit. Drive around Hialeah, FL for twenty minutes and you’re likely to spot at least five “10s”. They may not be stupid as a rule (I mean, they’re each a unique human being who may or may not be intelligent), but a great many are definitely magnificently attractive, and almost invariably young and looking to have fun (as young people in general are wont to desire). And more often than not, being a lawyer IS impressive to them–if only because they grew up with a Cuban grandmother extolling the virtues of doctors and lawyers.

Seriously, we live in a first world country obsessed with physical beauty, with readily available dental care, and personal hygiene and grooming products–finding incredibly attractive people is not difficult.

]]> Comment on Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat? by Shalom Beck http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2010/09/08/does-this-law-degree/comment-page-3/#comment-36154 Shalom Beck Wed, 18 Apr 2012 09:05:35 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=2670#comment-36154 A woman whose income is adequate to maintain her standard of living cannot committ to a marriage. So marry down, boys, if you want to marry for keeps. A woman whose income is adequate to maintain her standard of living cannot committ to a marriage.
So marry down, boys, if you want to marry for keeps.

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]]> Comment on Will Smoking Weed Keep Me out of Big Law? by Tia http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2009/07/02/smoking-weed/comment-page-1/#comment-30420 Tia Thu, 02 Feb 2012 09:11:19 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=1827#comment-30420 wow this is very relieving to see. I work for a top tier firm and smoke weed, definitely not the smartest thing to be doing =/ but at least I can refrain from smashing back whiskey when Im high. If you dont need it in your life, avoid it, if possible. wow this is very relieving to see. I work for a top tier firm and smoke weed, definitely not the smartest thing to be doing =/ but at least I can refrain from smashing back whiskey when Im high. If you dont need it in your life, avoid it, if possible.

]]> Comment on Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat? by Mike http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2010/09/08/does-this-law-degree/comment-page-3/#comment-28353 Mike Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:26:04 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=2670#comment-28353 Sounds like the good stuff is indeed intimidating (top-achieving star athelete prom queen partner-track 1%ers), while the resulting neuroses are complete disqualifiers, rather than normal, relatable human foibles. All in all, it's a dead-lock explanation for why people go for the mostly-average rather than the high-octane, high-irregularity example of two equally-hot 28-year-olds. Sounds like the good stuff is indeed intimidating (top-achieving star athelete prom queen partner-track 1%ers), while the resulting neuroses are complete disqualifiers, rather than normal, relatable human foibles. All in all, it’s a dead-lock explanation for why people go for the mostly-average rather than the high-octane, high-irregularity example of two equally-hot 28-year-olds.

]]> Comment on Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat? by gnome http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2010/09/08/does-this-law-degree/comment-page-3/#comment-25428 gnome Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:12:25 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=2670#comment-25428 I notice women are either lawyers or idiots with no health insurance. Maybe you're a bitch? I notice women are either lawyers or idiots with no health insurance. Maybe you’re a bitch?

]]> Comment on Will Smoking Weed Keep Me out of Big Law? by Curious http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2009/07/02/smoking-weed/comment-page-1/#comment-25343 Curious Wed, 30 Nov 2011 09:27:17 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=1827#comment-25343 I've never used cannabis, but I'm a bit curious about it, and I have severe back pain resulting from years of bad posture. If I were to become a medical marijuana patient in California, would the state bar care? I mean would this weigh on the character and fitness committee's decision regarding my fitness to practice law--since medical marijuana, while legal under California law, is illegal under federal law? I’ve never used cannabis, but I’m a bit curious about it, and I have severe back pain resulting from years of bad posture. If I were to become a medical marijuana patient in California, would the state bar care? I mean would this weigh on the character and fitness committee’s decision regarding my fitness to practice law–since medical marijuana, while legal under California law, is illegal under federal law?

]]> Comment on Does This Law Degree Make My Ass Look Fat? by lawgirl12 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/2010/09/08/does-this-law-degree/comment-page-3/#comment-22719 lawgirl12 Tue, 11 Oct 2011 18:53:36 +0000 http://www.sweethotjustice.com/?p=2670#comment-22719 I am a 27 year old female third year law student who has been pushed my entire life to achieve independence, career success, and then afterward, told to find someone who matches on both of those fronts. I've always been told I'm attractive--hot even, until super recently always had a dancer body, love to go out and drink--although I tend to drink with guys and dislike most girls, yet am still girly in personality. I've always had success finding guys to date--generally other lawyers, even though many of those relationships haven't worked out as one would hope...sometimes because of me, sometimes b/c of the guy, and sometimes due to both of us. A couple of weeks ago, I broke up with the first non-lawyer, non-law student guy I have dated in six years. He was a bartender/manager at a tiny local bar, four years older than me, with no sense of direction, no future goals, plans, or ambitions--other than to be happy. I'm assuming due to my parents, and due to the environment in which I've been educated, I've turned out not remotely domestic or maternal. And that is who I am. The bf I broke up w/ coincidentally, was the type to make me gourmet dinners, take care of the house, etc--but we couldn't discuss political/societal/academic issues. My world centered around questions such as how to save a woman's house from foreclosure or how to bring an equal rights case against the local police for selective enforcement while his focused on how to book band A or band B for a particular night at the bar--not that he didn't care about social issues, but they just didn't hit close to home in his day to day life. But he made me happy and made me laugh. I think we as female lawyers or lawyers to be, have been so trained not to accept guys who provide a balance to our lives as being inferior or lesser than our "high intellect" deserves. But you know what? Very few guys in our position would agree. I have been half of a "power couple" in pretty much every relationship until this one, and the most serious ones have ended miserably. Lawyers (not just female ones) are too simply trained to logically take all facts and make an objective decision. When it comes to relationships or marriage, objectiveness just isn't what makes someone happy. I've already been realizing what a mistake I've made in terms of my own relationship that I ended for what I will happily admit are very shallow reasons (what he does, lack of vision, and lack of education). After reading the response posts to this blog, I even more so realize how lucky I was (and what a mistake I've made). While two high power jobs may work for some people--for many people that I know even--it just isn't for everyone. Due to the way I've learned to assess potential mates, I have looked for education and intellect and matching income potential, but rarely for fathering skills. I think the problem for female lawyers is our view on who our ideal partner is, and I think we have it all wrong. I'm not saying there aren't plenty of women who will and do end up w/ similarly situated men partners. I'm just saying it's not the end all, and that not doing so doesn't constitute failure. We law girls just need to reshape the way we look for and at guys--and decide if we want a co-worker or a spouse. I'm not saying the two are mutually exclusive in all cases, but they may be in some. I am a 27 year old female third year law student who has been pushed my entire life to achieve independence, career success, and then afterward, told to find someone who matches on both of those fronts. I’ve always been told I’m attractive–hot even, until super recently always had a dancer body, love to go out and drink–although I tend to drink with guys and dislike most girls, yet am still girly in personality. I’ve always had success finding guys to date–generally other lawyers, even though many of those relationships haven’t worked out as one would hope…sometimes because of me, sometimes b/c of the guy, and sometimes due to both of us. A couple of weeks ago, I broke up with the first non-lawyer, non-law student guy I have dated in six years. He was a bartender/manager at a tiny local bar, four years older than me, with no sense of direction, no future goals, plans, or ambitions–other than to be happy. I’m assuming due to my parents, and due to the environment in which I’ve been educated, I’ve turned out not remotely domestic or maternal. And that is who I am. The bf I broke up w/ coincidentally, was the type to make me gourmet dinners, take care of the house, etc–but we couldn’t discuss political/societal/academic issues. My world centered around questions such as how to save a woman’s house from foreclosure or how to bring an equal rights case against the local police for selective enforcement while his focused on how to book band A or band B for a particular night at the bar–not that he didn’t care about social issues, but they just didn’t hit close to home in his day to day life. But he made me happy and made me laugh. I think we as female lawyers or lawyers to be, have been so trained not to accept guys who provide a balance to our lives as being inferior or lesser than our “high intellect” deserves. But you know what? Very few guys in our position would agree. I have been half of a “power couple” in pretty much every relationship until this one, and the most serious ones have ended miserably. Lawyers (not just female ones) are too simply trained to logically take all facts and make an objective decision. When it comes to relationships or marriage, objectiveness just isn’t what makes someone happy. I’ve already been realizing what a mistake I’ve made in terms of my own relationship that I ended for what I will happily admit are very shallow reasons (what he does, lack of vision, and lack of education). After reading the response posts to this blog, I even more so realize how lucky I was (and what a mistake I’ve made). While two high power jobs may work for some people–for many people that I know even–it just isn’t for everyone. Due to the way I’ve learned to assess potential mates, I have looked for education and intellect and matching income potential, but rarely for fathering skills. I think the problem for female lawyers is our view on who our ideal partner is, and I think we have it all wrong. I’m not saying there aren’t plenty of women who will and do end up w/ similarly situated men partners. I’m just saying it’s not the end all, and that not doing so doesn’t constitute failure. We law girls just need to reshape the way we look for and at guys–and decide if we want a co-worker or a spouse. I’m not saying the two are mutually exclusive in all cases, but they may be in some.

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