Having read “The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature”, it points out some facts which directly mirror a lot of the tenor of this post.

Men go for fertility (youth and beauty). Women go for status as an indicator of ‘winning genes’. Doesn’t matter if you are a sparrow or an Associate.

How does this fit into this article? The wonderful lady lawyers are jumping up and down saying “Pick me! Don’t you see I’m wonderful AND high status? Much better than that secretary.”

Men don’t care about status. We don’t. Sure, there are outliers but for the most part, it’s barely a bonus for us. WOMEN thinks it matters a lot…and tries to use it as a selling point. We don’t care.

The second thing is these women who ‘rationally’ say ‘well, it’s okay to date a low status guy’ somehow find that things never work out. Now, as stated before, men don’t care about status. They care about beauty and affability. MAYBE they are insecure. Totally possible.

OR…maybe these women are unconsciously NOT satisfied with dating Lowly Pauly the Street Artist. That little faint flush of shame at the company parties. “Here I am, an accomplished litigator who does 80 hours of billables a week…and the best I can do personally is HIM…”

It’s much more emotionally satisfying to put it all on the man even though it’s a cliche that men cheat down, women cheat up.

But you associates would know better about the truth of that than I would.

And I went looking because of MY personal biases. While I am happily married, I hypothetically thought about whom I would date. And lawyers would not be one of them…and it all comes down to the marriage culture of today.

A wife is inside your life. She knows your secrets, how you think, how you feel. She knows your vulnerabilities.

A wife LAWYER….that is a fiscal and emotional raping that I would NOT risk. And frankly, with the stereotype of high maintainance and demanding nature that lawyers fairly or unfairly have…welll….there are a LOT of girls to choose from. Cutting them out means lessening my odds VERY slightly but somewhat protecting myself.

Divorces these days are nightmareish enough for men. They are guilty and fiscally raped until proven…well…broke. And even then Judges, who WERE lawyers, try to squeeze the turnip some more.

Letting a snake into your bosom…not smart.

Nope, no bad experiences with lawyers. Never had a divorce. Never even been to court. Just looking at things in what I think is a rational way.