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Etiquette

2010-01-27T05:12:00.001-08:00

All of us want to be successful as swingers. It doesn't matter how often, with whom, where, or in what style we swing. One of the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be treated. If you employ the following suggestions or adapt them to your own situation, you should become a welcome participant.

1. BE COURTEOUS - Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Remember the Golden and Silver rules.

2. BE FRIENDLY - Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or
you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.

3. RESPOND TO ALL INVITATIONS - RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a party, a group or another couple, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette and good social courtesy DEMAND you respond, by either calling or writing to say yes OR no.

4. NEVER ARRIVE EMPTY HANDED - When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring. (it's amazing how many supplies, other than food are used up at an average party.) If you are not going as a couple, a bottle or chasers would be great!

5. GO PREPARED - Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you plan to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.

6. CLEANLINESS - Need I say more???

7. RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS - Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.

8. DON'T BE PUSHY - If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.

9. ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU - Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

10. HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO - One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.

11. ALCOHOL OR DRUGS - Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.

12. PRACTICE SAFE - It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. The use of protection should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly.Unless you are apart of a couple, at no other time will this be accepted. You will be escorted out and banned from future events.

13. ENJOY YOURSELF - Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

Platinum Playhouse Guideline's

2010-01-25T05:00:00.000-08:00

1. Anyone found to be in possession of a firearm or other dangerous weapon will be asked to leave promptly.

2. Harassment, stalking, and otherwise socially disturbing behavior will not be tolerated at any events. Members or their guests who are observed or described on more than one occasion having acted or who are acting in an inappropriate manner will be asked to leave promptly.

3. Slandering other members on site or offsite is grounds for permanent removal from PAE provided that multiple instances are accurately described in email form to the organizer.

4. Drugs, illegal narcotics, and other illegal items will not be tolerated. Observed offenders will be promptly asked to leave and repeat offenders will be removed from PAE

5. Any member or guest of a member who is observed having consumed unsafe amounts of alcohol will be heavily encouraged to leave an event, will be escorted home, or a cab will be called on their behalf and cost.

6. Any member who consistently RSVPs to an event and fails to show up consistently, will be removed from the group after their 3rd failure to attend. They will be allowed to return to the group after a period of time judged by the organizer. Equally, members who are inactive past 5 months will be removed.

7. Advertising on the message board or at an event will not be tolerated and repeat offenders will be removed from the site.

8. Enjoy yourselves! Everyone deserves to laugh and have a great time!

FB(Thursday Poll)

2010-01-07T19:03:00.002-08:00

(Thursday Poll)

(Thursday Poll) Many join the lifestyle for many reasons. Some to please their mate, fulfill fantasies or to "pick up the slack" of what they aren't getting at home. What were your reason's of entering the lifestyle? Did you succeed?

FB(Random Rant)

2010-01-07T19:03:00.001-08:00

(Random Rant) It's 2010 and many men still trash talk about their performance, oral skills and wood...When comes down to it..many women end up dissappointed. In fact their are women in their 30's and still haven't experienced the BIG O" Why is this?? Are women not in tu...ne with their bodies or is the man just inexperienced?

Don't touch yourself?!?!?

2009-12-05T15:28:00.000-08:00

By: Spiice Member
When I was younger NO one ever told me that it was ok to TOUCH MYSELF..infact I was always told NOT to TOUCH MYSELF....and now at the tender age of 36 I can say that it's been almost 10 years now that I've been enjoying the ART of touching myself......just was wondering if anyone else out there was taught the same.....

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Why does Porn Affect Some Relationships?

2009-12-05T15:19:00.000-08:00

Why do many women get upset that their men are addicted to porn? Are you addicted to porn? What is your favorite type of porn and why?I had a friend that actually would fight with her man b/c she sexed him day in and day out and he would still find the time to watch porn. So what?? I'm sure some women like to disappear too and get their rub on. I can understand if you (don't) get any and he watches porn all the time but if your maxing out atleast 5 times per week...Why not?? Hell porn saved my life quite a few times!!! lmaof

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Better Female Orgasms - Increasing Libido and Female Orgasm Sensitivity

2009-12-03T11:53:00.000-08:00

While there has been a focus on male sexuality enhancement over the past ten
years or so, women have often been ignored when it came to sexuality research.
The focus now seems to be shifting, and women's sexuality is suddenly
attracting many researchers that are looking to improve and enhance female's
sex lives. Diagnosing female sexual dysfunctions is the job for a professional,
but women should try and understand their own sexuality in order to get the
most out of their sex life. There are a variety of techniques that work for
different women, and today there are also a number of female sexual enhancement
products for both increasing libido as well as enhancing female orgasm
sensitivity. This article is intended to shed some light on women's sexual
enhancement and increasing female orgasms.

Sometimes women can suffer from a sexual dysfunction and they aren't able to
enjoy a healthy sex life as they normally should. While some dysfunctions are
more serious than others, many problems are not considered to be major and are
easy to understand and even correct. Low female libido is a very common
complaint amongst middle aged women, and is nothing to be concerned about. Sex
drive is fueled by a number of hormones, and if these hormone levels fluctuate
so do female emotions. Keeping these female libido hormones in check is the
trick to maintaining a healthy sex drive. Some women can even suffer from
decreased orgasm sensitivity, which can be very frustrating. Luckily, there are
different techniques that can help, and even some cream products for this
problem.

Different techniques can often be the key for increasing female orgasm
sensitivity. This includes different positions as well as different stimulation
techniques for bringing on female orgasms. Every woman is different, and
individuals will need to find what works best for them. Most orgasms are
stimulated through the clitoris, usually by rubbing, pressing, or using a
vibrator against this hyper-sensitive part of the female anatomy. While this
usually works for stimulating orgasms in females, others might find that they
prefer vaginal stimulation to reach orgasm. Something that should be understood
is that vaginal stimulation rarely results in orgasms, and the clitoris is
almost always the easiest trigger for a female orgasm.

Beyond different techniques, there are now a number of effective products for
female orgasm enhancement and increasing female libido. Although the past
couple of decades have brought countless sexual enhancement products for men,
it wasn't until the most recent few years that women's products came to the
market. Now there are many natural products for increasing female libido, based
on herbs and vitamins that are known to settle hormonal fluctuations in women.
These products are all based on research from civilizations around the world,
and many women are already taking some of the ingredients in these supplements,
like Black Cohosh, Vitamins A, B, C, etc. Alternatively, for women suffering
from decreased orgasm sensitivity there now topical creams, also completely
natural. These new creams are allowing women that were never able to experience
orgasms to reach new heights of pleasure. Being based on natural ingredients,
these products are medically approved and safe for women of all ages.

Female sexuality problems have become the focus of a new group of researchers.
A high percentage of women suffer from decreasing libido, an inability to come
to orgasm, or a number of other sexual problems. While there is no simple
answer to female sexuality, there are plenty of techniques and even some
different products for female sexual enhancement.

Jonathan Matthews is an avid sexual health activist, and encourages a healthy
sex life for both women and men. His site, http://www.sexdriveforher.com is
considered to be one of the most comprehensive female sexual enhancement
websites online.
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For Ladies Only: Can’t Reach Orgasm? Here’s A Secret…

2009-12-02T16:46:00.000-08:00

It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of
reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage
in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot
seem to find the road to the Big O.

This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve
had the opportunity to share what some ’secrets’ that have helped countless
women get out of that 10% statistic.

The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an
oxymoron now but read on below to know more!
The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles

On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all,
all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual
arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that
contract while making love. Why?

For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days
of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better
get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at
it.

For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus
muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop
the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving
your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction
between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to
push to you a wonderful climax).
The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind

The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women
can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note
that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding
him now?!?

So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you
wash over you.

If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s
employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that
electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws
your attention to it doesn’t it?

So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind
with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it
comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the
pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally
experience a climax.

Remember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t
sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?
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