The main observations they made were that women paid attention to the “core” of the body, much more than the arms and legs. Most lousy dancers focus on flailing their arms around to the rhythm, and bouncing up and down with their legs. Good dancers dance with their heads and their hips and their shoulders. Go out to a club and see how many guys are using their hips when they dance – it’ll be the guys who have girls around them.

Here are some more tips I’ve observed to help you be a good dancer, in no particular order.

1 – Make some space around yourself. Whether you’re dancing with a partner or just “freestyling” on the dance floor, you want to make some space around yourself. With a partner, this makes her feel more comfortable, and prevents douchebags from bodyslamming you. When you’re freestyling, it makes you look more alpha and gives you more room to dance well. (Read this article on lekking for more reasons why you want space).

2 – Move with the music – The study cited by the BBC found that women were attracted to men who used a variety of different dance moves. In a club, this means you want to change up your dance pattern every few measures of the song. Use the lyrics of the song as inspiration.

3 – Exert yourself – If you’re dancing to a high energy song, you should be tired at the end of it. If you’re not, you’re not exerting enough energy. Moving just your arms and legs is easy. Add some bounce to your step, engage your hips and your shoulders and you’ll be dancing better and tiring yourself out more.

4 – Use your glutes. If you want to add some bounce to your step, engage your glutes.

5 – Get off the dancefloor when a crappy song comes on. Some songs or styles of music aren’t your cup of tea, some just suck in general. If you can’t dance to the music, get off the dance floor. That will help prevent you from undoing all the good work you’ve been doing earlier.

And the NUMBER ONE piece of advice on how to dance well is to feel at ease and don’t let self-consciousness hold you back at all. A bad mental state will tighten up your back and shoulders and make you look stiff. Realize that most guys absolutely stink at dancing, and that by being confident and putting some energy into your dancing puts you in the top %5 of guys at a club.

Before I go, let me leave you with a video of Mick Jagger dancing. Keep in mind that Mick Jagger is dressed like an idiot, and in many ways is moving in a way that looks ridiculous. But he shakes his hips, beams confidence, and when this video was made, he was unquestionably one of the sexiest men in the world.

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How to dance to be more attractive

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• Learn to Dance
• How to build attraction with good bodylanguage and vocal tonality.
• How to Overcome Sticking Points.
• Tokyo

One thing I haven’t been doing a lot of is writing, so I thought I would give you guys a little update about Tokyo.

The Tokyo bootcamp was absolutely amazing. I absolutely fell in love with the city, and almost fell in love with a couple of girls I met there. I travel a lot for work, but almost entirely in the English-speaking western world, so it was truly a treat to teach in a city that is nothing like any other place I have ever taught in. You can compare New York to LA, to London, but you really can’t compare any of those places to Tokyo. It’s not comparing apples to oranges – it’s  more like comparing apples to sushi.

One thing I didn’t expect to find in Tokyo were models. Tokyo is one of the fashion centers of the world, alongside London and Milan. It seems like there are hundreds, perhaps thousands of ridiculously gorgeous Eastern European and Scandinavian models kicking around Tokyo.  And unlike a place like London or Milan, there is pretty much NO competition. Go out to the right places in Rappongi, and you will find models sitting around, bored, waiting for guys to come over and talk to them.

On Saturday of the bootcamp, we got bottle service at one of the clubs in town that models are known to congregate in. Our table was located in the middle of the VIP section. Next to us a 45 year old Chinese man in a sparkling golden shirt and leather chaps was dancing with a half dozen Japanese girls and pouring champagne freely. To the other side, a group of muscular Slavic looking men stared intently into glasses of cognac that looked like it was too fancy for me to even have heard of before. And just a few tables away, a group of about 30 models  in their early 20’s were dancing, directly underneath the ear-splitting sound system.  With them, about 4 or 5 male models looked like they were having the time of their lives, as they danced around grabbing the girls asses and getting completely shitfaced. Ah, to be a 22 year old male model in Tokyo – it must be the life.

I surveyed the scene; it was intimidating. The club was loud enough that even having a simple conversation was difficult. There were 30 people in this group, and you could tell they were tight knit. And you could tell that these girls knew how to blow guys off.

Now, a lot of you guys may have the misconception that I would know exactly what to do in this situation. That is not the case. Rarely do I know EXACTLY what to do in a particular situation. What I do have, however, are techniques that are proven, and enough balls to keep trying till they work. So I did a bunch of things, and they wound up working in the end.

First strategy: Short setting.

Thankfully, the models were between us and the bar, so on my way to grab a drink, I walk by and open casually over my shoulder – with short setting, my goal is not to start a conversation, but simply to open, say something clever and move on. What this does is set the stage so I can open much easier later in the evening. This is especially useful when having a real conversation is nearly impossible due to the volume.

TM: I like your hat, it’s fucking badass.

“Thank you” says the girl, looking at me apprehensively.

TM: Holy shit, pull up your pants girl, you’re flashing the bar!

(I laugh, smile, and head towards the bar. Model pulls up her ridiculously skinny jeans).

At this point, I notice the weak spot in the set – the Achilles heel, if you will. One of the models had brought her friend out that night. While this girl was by no means unattractive, she was definitely the ugly girl in the set by comparison.

Second Strategy: Chat up the “friend”.

I forget what I opened the friend with, but I can assure you it wasn’t anything particularly clever. Keep in mind the volume at this club made it very difficult to use any words longer than four letters, or sentences longer than 5 or 6 words. Most importantly, I assumed a comfortable position and body language, and when the conversation waned, I just sat there looking to all the world like I belonged in that spot in that bar more than anyone else ever could.

The girls milled about around me, as the “friend” and I chatted away. Eventually, another girl came by and Sarah introduced me to her. Now I have insinuated myself into the middle of their group, and am chatting with two women while sitting on a railing.  Suddenly, the dynamic goes from stone cold snobby model vibe, to being friendly. This is the power of social proof. Over the next few minutes, several girls come by and I just casually chat them up. The crowd has made their decision: I’m officially OK. Now it’s time to take it up a notch.

Third  Strategy: Capitalize.

At this point I know the names of a half dozen girls in the crowd, and the vibe has warmed significantly as pretty much everyone in the group has seen me, looking laid back and chatting with their friends. Now is the time to game in earnest. I notice a tall (6’2) brunette looking a little bit lost nearby. I decide to open with a light, direct opener.

“You look lost. Have you met Sarah?”

“Yeah… how do you know everyone here?”

“I guess you could say I’m friends with Sarah”

“I’m Olya”

Fourth Strategy: Get Lucky

There is often a big element of luck in any pickup.  Sometimes a girl just likes you, sometimes you find out you have something unique in common. Sometimes the guy who hit on her before you screwed up in such a spectacular way that you look amazing in comparison. But there are things you can do to get lucky more often than other guys, and that is a) positioning yourself so that opportunities will come your way and b) recognizing opportunities when they come your way.

So how did I get lucky? Olya gestured with her hand, and sent my drink flying all over me.

Most guys would probably consider something like that to be a bad thing, but I completely disagree. This kind of obstacle, this kind of challenge, is an opportunity to show your stuff. Handle it poorly, and you’re a dead duck. Handle it with grace, strength and poise, and you’ve just shown that you’re made of better stuff than most other men.

So I looked at her with raised eyebrows that said “your move”. My expression was three degrees colder than usual. The key here is to not make a big deal of it, but to not pretend that you’re not annoyed either. She wants to see my emotions, and I was rightfully a bit pissed off.

“I’m so sorry! Let me get you a drink”

“Gin and tonic” I warmed up  my expression by a degree.

“I’m so sorry, I’ll be back in a second”

Olya came back with the drink, and I teased her lightly for being clumsy. She laughed and I warmed up a bit. All would be forgiven, but she had to put a bit of effort in. She was working now to impress me, so I started qualifying her. She told me about growing up in Russia and her travels as a model. I told her about my life in Vancouver and the adventures I would be going on in Australia. I pulled her in next to me and we talked for almost an hour.

The next morning, I woke up to half a dozen messages from Olya, including the very blogworthy line: “you’re the most important person in my life right now” – A little over the top, but quite flattering coming from someone who is about three leagues above me in the looks department.

Tokyo, you truly are a gem. I will be back soon!

My time in Tokyo was made extra-special by the awesome people I met there. Thanks to E. (I’ll let him remain anonymous) for showing me the city and helping out with the logistics. Thanks  to all the students, who saw great progress and were awesome guys (all of them).

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Tokyo

• Lovesystems Bootcamps in Tokyo and Australia!
• How To Approach Women
• Should I buy her a drink?
• Picking up women in Atlanta – Southern Belles
• Opening Mixed Sets in Atlanta

Also – check out how Jeremy’s bodylanguage changes when he takes on the different roles. It’s a very good illustration of how good bodylanguage differs from bad.

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Soul has a new Video.

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• How to Pick Up Women for Beginners
• Opening Mixed Sets in Atlanta
• Cajun the Pick Up Artist on Keys to the Vip (With Video)

This is a definite must see, and there’s some free advice on the splash page. Make sure you check this out!

Click here for Beyond Words!

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Beyond Words is now Available

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• How to Pick Up Women for Beginners
• New Tenmagnet & Cajun Pickup Video
• Cajun and Tenmagnet are coming to Amsterdam, Sydney, and Barcelona

What is that “je ne sais quois” that guys who get good understand, but a lot of men struggle to use properly.

The answer is, of course, bodylanguage, pretty much every guy worth his salt in the Dating Science industry knows this.

So, if you’re serious about improving you game, you NEED to check out Beyond Words: The Art of Body Language and Physical Escalation with Cajun and Vercetti. There are free videos on the website, and the big launch is tomorrow morning. This thing is going to be huge.

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Is your bodylanguage right?

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• Free Dating Advice in Melbourne

What I find is that in some sets, I do the majority of the talking. Meaning, I start a thread, we talk about it for a bit and then it dies down. I start up a new one and yada yada the same thing. In some of my sets the girls give me like one word answers and they invest very little into the conversation. Like I will ask them a question, they will answer, but then thats it. For some reason, I am not getting the indicators of interest that I want. Things such as girls asking me my name, where am from. I feel as though am doing all the talking and the girls seem disinterested in what I have to say, like they start looking around, or give me one word answers.

Maybe this was just one of those nights, where nothing sticks, am not sure, but it’s a shitty feeling, because although am doing best to absorb the social pressure and stay in set I feel like a rambling fool for doing all the talking.

If you’re having problems getting attraction, it’s usually because of something you’re doing wrong earlier in the interaction. There are a few things you are probably doing wrong based on this description.

1) Being too gamey. MORE IS NOT BETTER when you’re talking about attraction routines – they can pretty quickly get weird. Attraction routines are great for when you get stuck – when you don’t know what to say next. But what really generates attraction is when you demonstrate wit, poise, and humor. If you’re not demonstrating these things (or one of the other attraction switches) you’re not generating attraction, attraction routine or not.

You want to engage the set, make them laugh, generate a bit of attraction and then CHILL. Either continue with some good fluff talk, pick up the kino and/or move into qualification. That is to say, once you HAVE attraction, you need to move forward to the next step in the Lovesystems triad. If you keep trying for more attraction, you will blow it.

2) Being weak on the opener. If your opener is weak, you’ll usually see the effects about a minute or two in. Opening/transitioning poorly can make it very hard to get attraction. If you’re nervous on the opener, if you’ve been sitting by the bar with your beer stuck to your chest looking awkward for the past 15 minutes, if you come across too eager or like you’re reading a script, these things will often mess up your game about 3-5 minutes into the set. Practice your openers, practice making them spontaneous, invent your own openers, and above all else, HAVE FUN when you’re out, and make that energy infectious.

3) Not plowing. Some women will giggle and be all over you when they’re attracted – many will not. Some women  are bad conversationalists, some women are shy. Some women have bad game and will ask you boring questions over and over. There are a lot of reasons why a woman might not give you strong IOI’s (indicators of interest), so you can’t really sit around and wait for those IOI’s. Keep moving forward, and if you get a “red light” or she’s clearly showing disinterest, back off and move on. But don’t bail just because a woman isn’t giving you strong “I like you” signals.

4) Short setting. A lot of the time, the sets I do early in the night have the same problem –  the women are friendly enough, but chemistry doesn’t come easily. You can do really well for yourself by bailing from those sets after 2 minutes or so (on a high note) and re-opening at midnight when the girls have a few more beers in them and have seen you having a great time around the bar. Suddenly, there’s chemistry.

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I want to do a free talk in Tokyo, Japan.

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I’m sitting in a pub in the Garden district of New Orleans, listening to some classic blues and sweating my balls off. I’m in the midst of a mini-tour of the Sourthern US. I like life on the road, going from one town to another, new, exciting things every day, feeling like a nomad.

So when Savoy called me up and asked me to do Japan and Australia this July and August, I snapped up the chance. I have some unfinished business with Australia, mostly in the form of parking tickets and tolls unpaid, but also a sense that I didn’t really get a feel for the country last time I was there. The whole incident involving Cajun cast a bit of a pall over things, and I carry a sense of regret that I didn’t get as much surfing in as I could have.

So I’m going to be doing a big tour this summer (winter in OZ). Tokyo, Melbourne, Brisbane, Perth and Sydney. In every city, I’m going to make myself available to give a free talk. I’m also looking for guys who can help me organize these talks – message me at <my handle> at lovesystems.com. This tour is going to kick some serious ass, so sign up to the Lovesystems Insider to be kept abreast of what’s going on.

The bootcamps in Tokyo, Brisbane and Perth are going to be ONE TIME ONLY events, with highly limited enrollment. Right now these are limited to THREE students at each program,  and we’ve already sold one ticket in Tokyo and Brisbane (three months in advance!) these programs are pretty much GUARANTEED to sell out, so you really need to sign up now if you want to attend. If you’re interested, please sign up on the website or call Jeremy at +1 323 836 0150. We’re on Pacific Time, or GMT -8, so any time BEFORE noon Sydney time should be fine.

And as I said earlier, signing up for the Lovesystems Insider will get you inside information of Free Talks and bootcamps as they are announced. I can’t recommend it highly enough, and you can sign up near the top left of this page.

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Lovesystems Bootcamps in Tokyo and Australia!

• Free Dating Advice in Melbourne
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• Bootcamp in Rio! (Updated July 29th)
• Lovesystems with Lawrence Leung on Australian TV
• Everything Happens for a Reason

Fader makes a good reply when he writes:

There are a pics on the lovesystems site. Your best bet is to try it out for yourself. There are tons of people here who it has worked here for. Your challenge is you are looking for it not to work. I just looked through your posting history. Have you actually gone out and tried it?

A CMPitts addresses the point too…

Here’s the LS youtube feed. You can find infield videos, interviews, and other bits of knowledge. On some of the videos, you can see the types of girls LS instructors regularly interact with, and what their skills are.

It’s completely normal not to trust a business company in the beginning, especially with such a controversial topic as learning how to meet and seduce women. That’s where our reviews section comes in handy. It’s chalked full of user reports of LS bootcamps, and products, as well as a comparison against other products in the seduction industry. You can say that its biased, but to a certain extant, every company is trying to make themselves look good. However you will also find bad reviews, which any respectable company will include in order to show their potential customers the real deal.

We aren’t asking you to trust us right off the bat. We ask you to research your options and make an informed choice. We believe that you will choose Love Systems because we are the best choice in the industry; which can be determined based on reviews, comparisons, team composition, instructor knowledge and customer support. If there is something you don’t like, or a reason why you didn’t choose our products, then let us know. Your feedback allow us to improve our company and put out better products for our posterity.

And finally, Future silences all critics

Aestus, I’ll clear this up once and for all.
Please give me your sister’s phone number and tell me where I can find that one girl you always wanted but never thought you could get. I’m in Manhattan, so give me some travel time to set you straight.

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Does Lovesystems Work?

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• Q and A
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Despite the Icelandic God’s best attempts, 5.0 & Keychain have flights and are hitting Amsterdam for one night only!

Who are the isntructors?

5.0 famously made his name in the community working training The Streets frontman Mike Skinner on his TV show ‘Beat Stevie‘

Keychain was ranked as 2009’s #8 Pick-Up-Artist in the World and voted #3 Instructor at the Love Systems Super Conference in Las Vegas.

As part of the Love Systems Mini Seminar tour of Europe, you have a chance to have a live session with these top instructors who will deliver content usually exclusive to our $3,000 bootcamps for only €38 AND will include a Q&A session at the end where you can get individualised feedback.

Thats 5 hours of pure content – cutting-edge dating and attraction advice from one of Love Systems hottest instructors - for only €38!

This is a great opportunity to meet and learn from one of the world’s best PUA coaches at this amazing price!

This is what a client from the last bootcamp in London had to say:

5.0:
“This guy can rapid fire banter so quickly and effortlessly that if you can emulate him to just a fraction of his skill you’ll be able to destroy any shit test or bitch shield with ease”

Keychain:
“I worked with him on the first night and he had me opening some insanely difficult sets… He is a true master of the arts and has injected his own personal style into it.”

Read more reviews from 5.0 here & more about Keychain here

Due to demand there is extremely limited availability so get your tickets from the EventBrite Site now for only €38!

See you there!

-5.0

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Keychain and 5.0 in Amsterdam!

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