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Just Let Them Do it

2013-09-24T13:55:00.000-04:00

Several months after my great Alzheimer's caregiver experiment, I received one of the biggest shocks of my Alzheimer's caregiver life. A shock that sent me into a tailspin like I had never experienced previously in my life -- it sent me to the edge of total despair.

Just Let Them Do It

+Bob DeMarco
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Dementia, Alzheimer, Memory Loss, Health

2012-12-01T11:17:00.003-05:00

Dementia affects memory, thinking, language, judgment, behavior, and a person’s ability to perform normal daily activities.

Dementia is a word that describes symptoms of the gradual deterioration of mental functioning that cannot be explained by normal aging.

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2012-11-06T14:30:00.000-05:00

At its core the Alzheimer's Reading Room is about helping members of the Alzheimer's Community understand, cope, and communicate with persons living with Alzheimer's and related dementia.

Bob DeMarco is the Founder of the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR), and an Alzheimer's caregiver. His mother Dorothy lived with Alzheimer's disease.

Prior to moving to Delray Beach, Florida to take care of his mother, Bob was CEO of a software development and marketing company, and an executive on Wall Street for 15 years.

Bob's also taught at the University of Georgia and Philadelphia University.

Bob DeMarco is a recognized expert in the Alzheimer's community, an expert on Sharecare, and listed as one of the top ten Alzheimer's influencers on the Internet.

Bob has lectured, appeared in person, and been interviewed on television and radio across the U.S. Bob is an expert speaker on Alzheimer's caregiving.

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About the Alzheimer's Reading Room

2012-10-03T08:24:00.000-04:00

The goal of the Alzheimer's Reading Room is to Educate and Empower Alzheimer's caregivers their families, and the entire Alzheimer's community.

In the Alzheimer's Reading Room (ARR), we offer "real life" solutions to problems that Alzheimer's caregivers face each day.

The website contains a knowledge base of more than 3,800 articles. These articles can be found via a keyword search using the search box on the right hand side of every webpage. We add new information to the knowledge base every day.

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Creating Moments of Joy: A Journal for Caregivers, Fourth Edition
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Is Coconut Oil a Treatment for Alzheimer's?

2012-08-02T15:17:00.002-04:00

The article discusses the issue and offers possible explanations of the positive affect of coconut oil on Alzheimer's patients.

Rudy Tanzi

It is almost like a cult, people extolling coconut oil as a treatment for Alzheimer's disease.

They send emails and enter comments constantly on theAlzheimer's Reading Room. Is coconut oil an effective treatment for Alzheimer's disease?

In the article below Rudy Tanzi discusses the issue and offers possible explanations of the positive affect of coconut oil on Alzheimer's patients.

There is currently no peer-reviewed clinical research available regarding the efficacy of coconut oil in treating or preventing Alzheimer’s.

Thanks to the Cure Alzheimer's Fund for this information.

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Why Do Alzheimer's Caregivers Torture Themselves?

2012-03-27T14:01:00.003-04:00

For several years, I tortured myself psychologically and emotionally. To this day I look back and ask myself, why?

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Saint Genesius

Alzheimer's is a sinister disease. It robs the patient of the ability to remember, to think, and effects mood and behavior often in a negative way.

Alzheimer's disease (AD) eventually robs the patient of the ability to do things we take for granted -- like buttoning a button.

Alzheimer's often robs patients of the ability to say "yes", so instead they say what comes easiest -- No.

These new and often bizarre changes brought on by Alzheimer's can feel like torture to an Alzheimer's caregiver. This explains in part why a large fraction of caregivers, up to 40 percent, suffer from depression.

The other day I answered a question by saying, "its the job of Alzheimer's to torture you". Later on as I thought about those words, I was surprised that I used the word "torture". Surprised until I remembered that I once thought, "Alzheimer's is trying to kill me". Alzheimer's kills the brain of the person living with Alzheimer's. It will also try and kill the spirit of the Alzheimer's caregiver.

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Why Do the Deeply Forgetful Say No So Often

2012-03-25T15:00:00.000-04:00

Did it every occur to you that you are the problem?

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

Most dementia caregivers accept the word "No" from the deeply forgetful. Then they turn around and vent about it to anyone that will listen.

S/he says no all the time, they say.

It is very common for a person that is deeply forgetful to say "no" when you ask them to do something. I don't know why, but it seems like this is a secret to many in the dementia community.

Frankly, I knew for a long time when Dotty said "no" she didn't mean it. Nevertheless, it still drove me crazy, and often made me feel frustrated or angry.

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What is Alzheimer's Disease ?

2010-10-20T14:57:00.000-04:00

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Alzheimer's Reading Room

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A comprehensive overview. Includes definition, symptoms, causes, risk factors, lifestyle issues, test and diagnosis, treatments and drugs.

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White House Conference on the Challenge of Alzheimer's Disease in the United States

2010-10-06T11:30:00.001-04:00

The information contained in the video is valuable and important. This presentation leaves no doubt that Alzheimer's disease is a threat to our citizens, and a threat to the financial well being of our nation.

From the White House Blog:

The Obama Administration is committed to strengthening our nation’s response to Alzheimer's disease and this meeting was a serious effort to better understand the challenges and opportunities available to us.

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Reading, Engaging, and Communicating with an Alzheimer's Patient (Podcast))

2010-09-15T10:22:00.000-04:00

By Bob DeMarco

Take the extra step. Walk the extra yard. Engage. Keep on living. Don’t be afraid to try things. Do things that you have always done together. Don’t let anyone discourage you or get in your way.

Make your own parade and have fun.

Click the button above to listen. If you don't see the podcast button go here. You are welcome to comment, share or embed this podcast.

If you would like to hear my Alzheimer's patient, Dotty, read and interact with me -- go here.

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Alzheimer's Disease Changing Patterns of Behavior

2010-08-25T15:00:00.002-04:00

Did you ever think to yourself, I wonder if I could replace the "bad" patterns of behavior that are driving me crazy with "new' positive patterns of behavior?....I did....

By Bob DeMarco
Alzheimer's Reading Room

I wonder if Alzheimer's caregivers think about patterns of behavior when it comes to caring for someone suffering from Alzheimer's disease.

Many Alzheimer's patients evidence patterns of behavior that drive Alzheimer's caregivers "nuts" or worse.

Did you ever think to yourself, I wonder if I could replace the "bad" patterns with "new and good" patterns of behavior?

I did.

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Alzheimer's Caregiver Just Let Them Do it

2010-08-19T13:36:00.002-04:00

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Several months after my great Alzheimer's caregiver idea...I received one of the biggest shocks of my Alzheimer's caregiver life...A shock that sent me into a tailspin like I had never experienced previously in my life -- it sent me to the edge of total despair....

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Eisai and Pfizer Announce FDA Approval for New Higher-Dose Aricept Tablet for the Treatment of Moderate to Severe

2010-07-23T23:12:00.001-04:00

Specific to moderate to severe Alzheimer's disease.

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Eisai Inc. and Pfizer Inc [NYSE: PFE] announced today that the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved a new once-daily, higher-dose Aricept (donepezil HCl) 23 mg tablet for the treatment of moderate-to-severe Alzheimer’s disease (AD). Aricept 23 mg tablet offers another dosing option for patients with moderate-to-severe AD, for whom few treatments are available.

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Learning Never Ends

2010-07-13T11:17:00.001-04:00

This is a great lesson for all of us today, as we face our own hard times. Joe never remembered our names, but he knew that we appreciated the life lessons that he shared with us....

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We work with people living with Alzheimer’s in all sorts of settings, and in every one of these settings we find people who are still curious, still able to learn.

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Vitamin D Deficiency Increases Risk of Cognitive Impairment

2010-07-11T21:29:00.001-04:00

It is now becoming known that for those over 60 years of age Vitamin deficiency is a major health problem.

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David Llewellyn, PhD, of the University of Exeter Peninsula Medical School (UK), and colleagues examined information from 3,325 adults aged 65 years and older from the Third National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey (NHANES III), a study that was carefully designed to accurately represent the U.S. non-institutionalized population. Vitamin D levels were measured from blood samples and compared with performance on a measure of general cognitive function that incorporated tests of memory, orientation in time and space, and ability to maintain attention.

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Four Researchers Given Lifetime Achievement Awards By the Alzheimer's Association

2010-07-11T08:44:00.001-04:00

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The Alzheimer's Association recognized four scientists for their extraordinary achievements in advancing Alzheimer research at the Alzheimer's Association International Conference on Alzheimer's Disease 2010 (AAICAD 2010) in Honolulu, Hawaii.

Honorees for their professional and scientific contributions to Alzheimer research are:

Takeshi Iwatsubo, MD, Department of Neuropathology, Graduate School of Medicine at the University of Tokyo.

Karen H. Ashe, MD, PhD, Department of Neurology and Neuroscience Director at the University of Minnesota.

Marsel Mesulam, MD, Dunbar Professor of Neurology and Psychiatry and Director of the Cognitive Neurology and Alzheimer's Disease Center at Northwestern University.

Marilyn Albert, PhD, Director of the Division of Cognitive Neuroscience in the Department of Neurology at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine.

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Alzheimer's Caregiver Lament -- This is Not the Person I Knew (Audio)

2010-07-03T11:23:00.002-04:00

By Bob DeMarco
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In order to communicate effectively with a person suffering from Alzheimer's disease you need to come to an understanding that they are now living in a new world -- I often refer to this as Alzheimer's world....

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Conquering Urinary Incontinence -- The First Bladder Infection of the Year

2010-06-30T14:05:00.000-04:00

Last year my mother had five bladder infections. This is a common occurrence amongst people suffering from Alzheimer's disease and dementia....

By Bob DeMarco

Beginning in 2008, I came upon a solution that not only allowed me to detect my mother's frequent bladder infections, it also allowed us to cut down her urinary incontinence to near zero.

In 2008, I made a simple observation, my mother seemed to be warmer when I held her hand. I also noticed that she seemed to be perspiring a bit.

At the end of one of her regular doctor appointment I brought this up to our personal care physician Dr. Carlos Chiriboga. He decided to test her for a bladder infection and hydration right on the spot.

Hydration no problem. She did have a urinary tract infection. In my discussion with the doctor, I learned that is was possible to have a bladder infection without pain. I now refer to this as the silent bladder infection.

Prior to this new understanding, I was under the impression that when a woman had a urinary track infection she would experience pain, or have an irresistible urge to pee all day long. I learned that older women knew immediately from the symptoms that they had a urinary infection.

When I learned that it was possible to have a bladder infection without the typical symptoms I started to discuss this with my sister and other women. Most of them were surprised to learn what I was learning.

On top of the above, it is now impossible for my mother, who suffers from Alzheimer's disease, to tell me when she is sick, feeling pain, or when she has a headache. I usually notice these symptoms from her non-verbal behavior before she tells me. For example, if she starts rubbing her head I have to ask, do you have a headache? Most times she will say something like, I am OK. After I ask her the same question a few times, very gently, she tells me she has a headache and where it is located.

My mother has never once told me she has a urinary track infection. In fact, if you ask her right now she will tell you she never had one. On top of that, if you ask her if she has incontinence she will tell you no. NO pee pee pajamas, no pee pee underwear, no pee pee pants.

I should interject, my mother was suffering from incontinence since 2000. I know this because she started to have "accidents" in public places. The flood.
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After I had the experience I described above with our doctor, I started to wonder why a doctor didn't detect my mother's bladder infections with ease. It soon dawned on me why.

My mother's normal body temperature is 97.6 to 97.8.

So, when she went for her typical three month check up and they took her temperature at the doctor's office they would not detect a problem when my mother's temperature was 98.4. This is part one of the solution.

I started taking my mother's temperature every day or two. Sure enough, once her temperature reached 98.4 she had a bladder infection. Every time. Five times last year and once already this year in January.

So here is my first piece of advice. If your loved one is suffering from urinary incontinence start taking their temperature and establish a baseline temperature. It is not unusual for an older person, suffering from dementia, to have a body temperature well below the commonly recognized 98.6.

If you are experiencing the dreaded pee pee underwear, pee pee pajamas, or pee pee bed, get on the stick. Get the baseline temperature established and get rid of the silent bladder infection.
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Here is something you might find interesting. This last time around within hours of getting the 98.4 temperature reading we had the flood. The big dreaded pee pee flood in the sky. I already thought my mother had the bladder infection and this "event" convinced me it would prove to be true. Unfortunately, it was Saturday and we couldn't do anything about it until Monday.

As a sidenote. It use to "piss" me off (lol, pun) when I would try to tell the woman on the phone that I needed to see the doctor because my mother has a bladder infection. Usually, they want an explanation of how you know this. Of course, when I explain the 98.4 they automatically assume I don't know what I am talking about. I say this use to bother me, no more. I am use to the drill, and I am confident in my diagnosis. I know I am not a doctor -- I am an observer of patterns. And there in lies the solution, look for patterns.
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In November, 2009 I finally got around to writing -- Urinary Incontinence -- How We Beat Alzheimer's Incontinence -- The Solution. Now, I am feeling a lot more confident, probably cocky, so I am not afraid to use the word - conquered.

Conquering urinary incontinence requires two things. The first I already described above. Establishing the body temperature baseline, and catching the silent bladder infection and killing it.

The second thing you need to do is to establish a pattern of pee-peeing. In other words, you have to incorporate the scheduled pee pee into your own already established pattern of behavior.

I describe how I did this in Urinary Incontinence -- How We Beat Alzheimer's Incontinence -- The Solution.

The bottom line is this. I have to make sure my mother pee pee's every two hours. Of course, she says all the time, I don't need to pee pee. I sometimes try to explain to her in a very low calm voice, when you have to pee pee its too late. To be honest, I have all kinds of things I say, in a calm low voice, to get her to pee. Things like, come on, its time to pee and then you'll have a snack. Come on, its time to pee pee and then we will eat. Come on, its time to pee pee and then we will go out and have some fun.

I say all these things to my mother not because I believe she will remember them, but because I want to establish a pattern of behavior.

If you got this far consider this. No pee pee in the bed. None. No need to change the sheets. My mother does not wear diapers, or for people that find that word objectionable -- briefs, depends, or socks.

Sometimes a little pee pee in the pajamas. Sometimes a little pee in the panties or pants. Often-- NO pee pee.

This is my belief. If I don't get my mother to pee pee at least once every two hours, and she pee pees on herself that pee pee is on me.

One of these days I am will get around to writing the Magic Poop Solution. Yeah, I conquered that problem also. It only took around four years to figure that one out.

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Alzheimer's and the Dreaded Bowel Movement

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I already wrote about how I beat urinary incontinence and bladder infections. That solution is not perfect. Poop. No enema, no pills, no laxatives. How I won the Poop-E war.....

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I really wanted to entitle this article Alzheimer's and the Magic Elixir. However, I am not using anything to mask the taste of my solution so it just didn't fit. I also considered Alzheimer's and the Poop Panacea. Panacea does fit -- panacea is a literary term to represent any solution to solve all problems related to a particular issue.

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Communications in Alzheimer's World

2010-04-27T14:46:00.004-04:00

The most important part of the equation is understanding that something has to change and that something is you.

By Bob DeMarco
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In order to communicate effectively with someone suffering from Alzheimer's you need to learn an entirely new way to communicate. Sound easy? It isn't.

We all develop certain patterns of communication over the course of our life. This is the way we communicate.

Most of you probably know a family filled with hot blooded Italians. You might observe them fighting or arguing all the time. You might also notice that they do this, and then almost immediately they shrug it off, acting as if nothing had happen. I suspect this kind of behavior goes across ethnic boundaries.

During the course of your life, you might have learned to correct someone when they say something that is not true. Or, correct them when they get their facts mixed up.

If someone says something mean to you it is likely that you get angry. It wouldn't be unusual for a person to respond to meanness by saying something mean or nasty. You would probably end up apologizing for your behavior and this would defuse the conflict and bad feelings. Make things all better.

You learned all these communication behaviors over the course of your entire life. They are embedded in your personality.

Then Alzheimer's disease comes into your life.

Alzheimer's is a brand new World. It is not your world, and even though you live part of your life in this world, if you had a choice you wouldn't.

When you are the ONE you don't have the choice of leaving Alzheimer's world and going to another place. The reality is clear. You are going to spend years, maybe many years of your life, where a certain fraction of your time -- minutes, hours and days -- are spent in Alzheimer's world.

Many of the communication skills and behaviors that you learned in the world outside Alzheimer's world won't work in Alzheimer's world. In fact, the same communication skills and behaviors that allowed you to make sense of the world around you over the course of your life, will make your life in Alzheimer's world worse.

In order to communicate effectively in Alzheimer's world you need to change. The first thing you need to do is start listening. Listen to the person when they repeat themselves or say something mean. Look at their face. In what context are they repeating themselves? Is it when they sit in a certain chair? At a certain time or period during the day? Pay very close attention to the time of day, or the day of the week that these behaviors are occurring. See if you can discern a pattern.

If you can start anticipating the behavior of someone suffering from Alzheimer's then you will soon learn that when the behavior happens it won't seem so disconcerting.

When you finally learn to anticipate certain behaviors, to anticipate behaviors, you might find that instead of driving you crazy these behaviors might in fact become another part of your day.

Your day in Alzheimer's world.

This is only one example. The point today is simple. Once you come to a realization that there is a new world called Alzheimer's world you might finally be able to accept it as part of your life.

Once you accept Alzheimer's world as part of your life, you'll start to have a very different view of the behaviors. You will expect and anticipate these behaviors. Alzheimer's behavior will become a natural part of your life. Not a foreign part of your life.

Understanding that something needs to change is a first step. Understanding that the person suffering from Alzheimer's disease can't and won't change is one part of the equation.

The most important part of the equation is understanding that something has to change and that something is you.

Change is always difficult. In this case made more difficult by the fact that you have been communicating in a certain way over your entire life.

Please note. You won't be changing the way you communicate with family and friends. You will be changing the way you communicate with the person suffering from Alzheimer's disease. You'll need to learn to swith gears. To move seemlessly from world to world.

This won't be easy. But if, if you do it you will change your own life and in a way that you could have never expected.

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I'll be writing more about communication in Alzheimer's World in the weeks ahead. I'll make specific suggestions to help you reach the intersection that exists between you and the person suffering from Alzheimer's disease.

It is while in this intersection that life for both parties improves.

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Back in May I wrote about Wii suggesting it would be an excellent tool for older people and those suffering from Alzheimer's disease.

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Recently, I am reading articles about how Wii is being adopted by Senior centers and assisted living facilities all across the country. The game of choice seems to be bowling. Wii bowling provides moderate exercise and allows groups to get together much like they would at a bowling alley.

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How To Beat Alzheimer's Incontinence

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We are on a three day roll. No pee pee. No pee pee pajamas. No pee pee underwear. No pee pee pants......

Bob DeMarco
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My mother suffered from urinary incontinence long before I moved to Delray Beach to take care of her.

My sister Joanne was the first to notice the problem -- 8 or 9 years ago.

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Urinary Incontinence (UI) is a stigmatized, underreported, under-diagnosed, under-treated condition that is erroneously thought to be a normal part of aging. One-third of men and women ages 30-70 believe that incontinence is a part of aging (National Institute of Health, NIH).

You could put everything I knew about urinary incontinence in a thimble before I started to focus on this problem. Reading and learning about the problem helped me come to the conclusion that we could do something about it. A little education is always helpful.
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I want to make something clear. I did not arrive at this current solution to urinary incontinence over night. It took years.

Once we finally developed the current solution, it still took many months before it started to work effectively. Here is some good news. The solution is becoming more and more effective over time.

My solution is not perfect. It does not work every single day. It does not work every single night. I can say this with some confidence -- we no longer experience the flood. Now its more like the little tiny accident.

When we have a problem with incontinence during the day it usually happens because I am tardy or less than perfect in following the program.

If you decide to try this, it is going to be a lot of work. You will need to tailor my solution to fit you own needs or you own Alzheimer's sufferer.

If you are not ready to give this program everything you have to give -- you will likely end up frustrated, or quit.

If you make this work you will end up with a wonderful feeling of accomplishment, and frankly, keep more of your hair.
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If you really want to solve the problem of urinary incontinence, I suggest you try a little role reversal.

If you were the one with Alzheimer's and urinary incontinence, how would you want to be treated?

Would you want to be yelled at? Treated like a baby? Would you want to listen to someone constantly complain about how you are peeing all over yourself?

Would you want to feel all those bad vibes being directed at you?
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I tried many times to do something about incontinence over the years. All false starts. I gave up every time.

Finally, the problem was so bad that we were using 14 sets of pajamas and 24 panties. My mother was blowing through 3 pajama bottoms a night. Day time, same story with her cloths.

All I can say is, that is a lot of wash.
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My mother was suffering from incontinence from day one.

I turned to everyone I knew. I listened to their ideas and advice. I turned to women of all ages.

Most of the advice centered around two solutions -- pads and adult diapers.

I have to laugh at myself now as I remember my first trip to the store. I figured I would go in and grab what I needed and get on with the task at hand. Keep in mind I am a man.

Well the aisle that contained these products in Walmart was gigantic. It just went on and on. I think I spent more than 30 minutes trying to figure out which might work for the problem at hand.

In a way, it was mesmerizing. Oddly, since I am a curious person it was interesting to me. Later I thought to myself, wow, this is one big problem.
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I decided to try the adult diapers. At the mention of this, my mother pitched a fit.

I would get here to put the diaper on grudgingly. As soon as I wasn't looking she would take the diaper off.

If you are an Alzheimer's caregiver you can already imagine the things she was saying. Some of them not very nice.

Let me tell you what I was accomplishing -- I was making my mother miserable and mean. This in turn was making me miserable. The dreaded stomach ache.

Here is what I started to learn.

My mother did not believe there was a problem. It was embarrassing to wear a diaper. It was a sign of old age. If she didn't think there was a problem she would never accept the solution to the problem.

I thought to myself, well if there wasn't a problem I wouldn't wear a diaper either.

I gave up.
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Here we were again. 14 pair of pajamas, 24 undies.

Now I decided to try the pads, the inserts. I thought I had a new idea that would work.

I convinced my mother's elderly friends to talk to my mother and tell her how they used the inserts, pads, and diapers. How it was a normal part of getting old. I coached them to be very enthusiastic and tell her how great this solution worked. I asked them to smile and laugh all the way.

My mother listened -- in went the pad.

They went home and out came the pad. I know they say that the person suffering from Alzheimer's will eventually get use to the pads and every thing will be beautiful.

I tried and I tried and I tried. I gave up.
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I don't know why I didn't think of this sooner but I finally decided it was time for a trip into the Alzheimer's bunkhouse. I took my big newspaper pad with me and wrote -- problem incontinence -- right in the middle of the page with a big circle around it.

Then I started writing everything I could think of and remember about this problem all around that circle.

Then like magic like the light bulb went on in my head. I thought to myself, if I can do this I'll be like the Leonardo da Vinci of urinary incontinence (I'm Italian by the way).

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Should Women Be Worried about Alzheimer's ?

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Current statistical studies indicate that at age 80, there is a one in five chance of suffering from Alzheimer's disease (20 out of 100).

At age 85, the odds rise to one out of every two (50 out of 100). I call this the Alzheimer's danger zone.

It is well known that women live longer than men. But, I don't think it is well known that healthy women live much longer than healthy men, and live into the Alzheimer's danger zone.Women who reach the age of fifty without suffering from cancer or heart disease can expect to live nearly ninety-two years (92).**
Men who live to age sixty-five without suffering from cancer or heart disease, can expect to live to eighty-one (81).

I believe most men and woman would find these aging statistics startling. Especially women marrying older men.

I doubt that 50 year old women are thinking or worrying about Alzheimer's if they have not seen it in their family. It seems to me that they should be very worried. Without a treatment or a cure, 50 percent of the woman in the group described above can expect to suffer from dementia or Alzheimer's.

Here are some things that women can be doing to stay healthy, protect their brain, and decrease the chances of suffering from Alzheimer's.

The list.

Exercise. Note, you need to get sweaty when you exercise. This means getting the heart rate up.
Proper nutrition. Less Baby Ruth bars, Mediterranean style diet.
More mental activites. Games, Wii, Puzzles, search the Internet.
Kindness. Believe it or not, kindness and being conscientious help ward off dementia (reduces risk by 89 percent).
Drink Apple Juice, Fruit or Vegetable juice , they are anitoxidant rich.
Get the blood pressure and cholesterol down.

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