Memories Destroy, Not Love.

2017-09-02T02:43:00.002-07:00

"Love destroyed me." The most common thing you'll hear from someone heart-broken.
Just one thing. Love never breaks people or hearts. It's that one beautiful feeling which makes your world seem beautiful. It is probably the best thing you can do to someone.
Then why does it hurt? Why do we suffer after?

Memories. The beautiful moments you create which you would never want to forget. While you're in love, you create memories; lots of them. All those happy moments, sad moments, the god-that-look moments, the I-wish-the-time-stopped moments; all of those. After someone leaves you, ask yourself- do I personally like the person more or the memories? Most of the times, you won't get an answer, instead you'll see the memories with that person flashing in your mind. This is what starts creating that void space you feel; you again and again catch feelings. You start looking for that person in everyone you meet, connect things around you to them. Soon enough, it starts swallowing you. Even if you try to forget those memories, you wouldn't be able to- for long. Everyday, your mind starts making new stories, stories with them, to make your heart feel better; while the inability of that to happen starts destroying you. With this, you would start hating and hurting yourself; questioning yourself. All this would eventually swallow you.

The best way to deal with it? Don't stop loving the person, just stop creating memories with them, thinking about them, replace those memories with some even better memories with friends & family (because only memories can replace memories). All this would eventually take time, but throughout all this, never stop loving yourself. Love yourself more than anybody else, 'cause it's the person you have to spend your whole lifetime with.
Be patient. Everything will fall in place.
And one more thing, Don't Catch Feelings. Because it will hurt.

The Basic Guy

Memories Destroy, Not Love.