1. Get paid to do stand up comedy
2. Hit it on the Island Green at TPC Sawgrass
3. Keep my son drug free
4. Go to The MASTERS
5. Run a sub 4 hour marathon
6. Become a Millionaire
7. Sink 25 Free Throws in a row
8. Read All The CLASSICS
9. Play Shadow Creek
10. Teach my son how to play chess
11. Own a phenomenal ping pong table
12. Have cocktails at the Beverley Hills Hotel Patio Section
13. Become the most organized person I know
14. Own over 100 ties
15. See an NBA game while sitting in “Floor” seats
16. Own my own Bubble Hockey Machine
17. Avoid Alcohol for one full year
18. Memorize the Ten Commandments
19. Visit the top of the Washington Monument
20. Ride a real bull
21. Experience three hands of blackjack in a row
22. Drive from Los Angeles to Las Vegas with my Dad
23. See a game at Notre Dame
24. Teach someone to play golf
25. Teach someone to ice skate

1. Get married – time to have someone to share my newly bought Ritz Carlton white king duvet cover, which has very beautiful sophisticated white flower print. Time to leave my twin bed alone.

2. Make US $1 million per month so I can live anywhere in the world as long as I want to.

3. Write a book how I made these happen.

Achieve above within 12 months.

MONEY

o Stand on my own 2 feet
o Net $ 1,000
o Net $10,000
o Pay off debts
o Net $50,000
o Net $100,000
o Net $1 Million
o Own multiple properties
o Net $ 5 Million

Things
o Own a silver Vespa
o Own a Mini Cooper
o Buy Dallas Cowboys season tickets
o Own my own theatre
o Own my dream home
o Own an Italian Villa in Tuscany

Philanthropy
o Create performing arts scholarship fund
o Create starving actor’s professional expense fund
o Create new works grant for writers
o Open metal health and happiness retreat centers
o Give millions to help millions

CAREER

Director
o Find funding and sponsors for More Theatre
o Get critical acclaim for More Theatre production
o Win regional award
o Professionally direct my top 5 plays & musicals.
o Direct over 25 major professional productions
o Set up successful live multi-media interactive site
o Direct multiple Broadway /West End shows
o Direct (high budget) movie production
o Create thousands of jobs for performing artists
o Win major award

Actor
o Get major role in pro equity production
o Play Hamlet (Hamlet Lives)
o Win a regional acting award
o Perform major production in Chicago
o Major role Off-Broadway/West End

Writer
o Win major writing competition to have play produced
o Have play produced by National Theatre
o Have play/musical published
o Play & musical produced on Broadway/ West End the same year
o Win major writing award
o Have complete works published

PERSONAL
o Get :)
o Get part-time professorship at major University
o Don’t look at porn for over 25 years
o Attend a Super Bowl
o Live in London
o Live in New York
o Live in San Francisco
o Live in Hawaii
o Take a flight on Virgin Galactic

Skills
o Learn to play the piano
o Learn how to tap
o Learn to speak a foreign language fluently
o Earn doctorate degree from major University

Physical
o 152lbs. 8% body fat
o 8% Body fat 175 lbs.
o Run six miles
o Yoga certification
o Be on cover of a fitness mag
o Live a long & healthy life

PEOPLE
o Never miss another family death or birth because of money
o Provide for my mother and father
o Take care of my whole family
o Meet Sam Shepherd
o Meet Trevor Nunn
o Meet David Mamet
o Meet Richard Branson
o Meet Ted Leonsis
o Meet Martin Seilgman
o Meet Depak Chopra
o Meet Bono
o Meet Mark Zuckerburg
o Meet Barak Obama

Travel
o Visit Old Globe
o Visit Rome (Sistine Chapel)
o Visit Greece
o Visit Stratford Upon Avon (Shakespeare’s grave)
o Visit Oxford (The Eagle and Child)
o Visit Spain
o Visit Ireland
o Visit Denmark (Elsinore)
o Visit Australia
o Visit New Zealand (Hobbiton)
o Visit Washington DC
o Go to Disney World
o Visit Jerusalem and Bethlehem
o Visit Hawaii
o Visit Istanbul
o Visit India (Taj Mahal)
o Visit Dubai
o Visit China (Great Wall)
o Visit Iceland
o Visit Tibet (Himalayas)
o Go on Caribbean cruise

1. Family/Relationships

Fall in Love and Get Married
Help achieve my wife’s dreams (family, career, finance, giving back, fun)
Have a “non-traditional” wedding (one that actually mirrors my/wife’s lives)
Have a Son
Have a Daughter
Have Grandchildren
Take care of Mom and Dad
Make sure people know I love them
Create letters to others for dissemination upon death; write message to funeral attendants
Change lives of five extended family members positively in one year
Dedicate a building, bench, or token in the “Tam Family Name”
Dedicate a building, bench, or token in the “Wife Family Name”
Have 3 Meaningful (and non-commercial) Christmas gifts per year every year
Have 3 living country artists sign or write note to Dad
Improve relationship with best friend
Have a socially responsible death (if opportunity exists)

2. Financial Matters
30k for house by 30
Become debt-free
Net worth of 1 million dollars
Net worth of 50 mill dollars
Make and sell an investment: 10 to 1
Have more than one house (beach, mountain or similar) – apartment in city?
Own a piece of history
Obtain one original great piece of art

3. Career Related
Affect one life daily through career (ongoing daily)
Start one successful internet business
Start one successful business (non internet business)
Affect one chronic disease significantly
Be the subject of a magazine, news article (Cornell or UMBC Magazine by Age 30)
Receive an award for community service/other
Give a speech to graduating students or similar
Teach a class or short course

4. Giving Back
Inspire one other person to do good on daily basis
Serve on the board of an organization
Work for or support hospice
Do something anonymous that changes someone’s life
Organize Memorial Run for Someone Special
Be a mentor for 10 students (Sloan Program or other)
Change someone’s life through charitable gift
Coach a team
Impact third world country in significant way
Help someone achieve academic degree
Spend time with dying stranger (more than ten visit)
Help Asian Americans in life somehow
Put yourself on the line for equality in “sex”, “sex preference” or “ethnicity”

5. Spirituality
Read the Bible from cover to cover
Learn how to do Yoga

6. Health and Wellness
Identify one behavior change per year and actually change it following year
Read top 100 books (or similar list) (50%)
Run a marathon, triathlon, or similar at each decade until 80
Learn three languages other than English

7. Fun
Learn how to Long Skateboard
Learn to Kayak
Go in a hot air balloon
Ride a horse, a dolphin, an elephant, and a giraffe (if allowed)
“Make wine, beer, or whiskey
”
Create a YouTube phenomenon
Jump out with wings (hang glide)
Fund, create, or assist with a documentary or historical piece
Bike Across America
Go to Super Bowl with the Redskins
Go to World Cup (again)
Go to Olympics
Go to Highland Games
Go to Running of Bulls
See “Big” Football Premiership match
Be photographed or painted “in the nude”
Spend month in log cabin (or similar)
Have a national or critically acclaimed artist perform for my select group

8. Travel
Visit each continent
Step foot in all 50 states
Eat in a Matthew and wife restaurant in the same day
Go an African Safari
Go to Norway
Find the McGann’s pub in Ireland
Take Kids on tour of Macao
Visit 5 Frank Lloyd Wright facilities
Take a bike tour through wine country
Go to Grand ‘Ole in Nashville
See Northern Lights
Float in dead sea
See 10 National Parks or 33%
Be in NYC for New years
Visit more than one of the Happiest Places

9. Hodgepodge Stuff
Write an intellectual blog, newspaper article, book or similar
Create photography album (black and white)
Create art – have someone else buy
Write a children’s book
Develop a board game and take it to market
Learn one musical instrument and become decent (cello?)
See Big Sumo match
Meet Ted Leonsis and tell him about how he changed my life
Never have a nice car
Solve Rubic Cube in 5 minutes or less
Meet the President of the United States
Become actual friends with one “famous” person
Invent something that people use
Throw out first pitch of game; coin toss or similar
Play Survivor
Be on an island (alone or with family/friends)
Take a photo a day for one year

After I finished taking the bar exam I walked in to a bookstore with a huge smile on my face, an author signing her books said to her assistant “look at that woman with the beautiful smile!” I looked around wondering who it was, when I looked at the auther she said”I was talking about you!” I want to recapture and create new moments like that as I go through my journey to make happiness my business! Here is my list to kickoff me creating my double bottom-line:

1. Lose weight so I feel healthy and look my best
2. Fall in love and marry a man that is my soulmate, partner, bestfriend and lover.
3. Rebuild my relationship with my addicted father when he gets help
4. Get 2 cats and shitzu
5. Take care of mom and stepdad as they get older
6. Pay off my debt
7. Build a solid 401(k)
8. Make $25,000 on a speaking engagement
9. Have a net worth of $10,000,000 after taxes
10. Have a cleaning service the rest of my life
11. Seek forgiveness from those I have hurt in my life journey so far
12. Get my speaking and coaching business to a profitable level
13. Start a non-profit
14. Finish writing and publish my book
15. Launch my Blog
16. Have my own line of spiritual products (greeting cards, journals, jewelry, candles, etc)
17. Have a major impact on a child abuse charity
18. Save someone’s life via a charity
19. Start a scholarship for women to return to school after leaving an abusive relationship
20. Get certified in a yogadance
21. Get a Masters in Writing/Communications/PR
22. Become a member of the National Speakers Association
23. Sail the Mediterranean
24. Go to Greece
25. Do a wine tour through Tuscany
26. Stay in Positano and explore the Amalfi Coast
27. Visit Kripalu in the Berkshires twice a year
28. Go to Miraval Spa
29. Rent a cabin in the mountains where I can go to write
30. A beautiful diamond ring on my hand from marriage
31. A home with a library, exercise room and sunken tub
32. Own a home in San Diego and on the Potomac River or Chesapeake Bay
33.Be a host on a tv or radio show
34. Have my book turned in to a movie
35. Own my own healing arts center (yoga, spa, workshops) and boutique
36. Be invited to speak at a Hay House Conference
37. Write a NY Times Bestseller
38. Win a Toastmaster Contest
39. Design a piece of jewelry
40. Skinny dip with my lover
41. Scuba Dive
42. Read the Old Man and the Sea
43. Run up the art museum stairs in Phili- Rocky Style!
44. Meet Oprah Winfrey
45. Go to the Winter Olympics figure skating finals
46.Go to prom (I never went when I was in highschool)
47.Have a picnic in the park with my lover
48. See a show at Wolftrap
49. Write my story about trying to save an addict/alcoholic so I can help others
50.Live in Italy for 6 monthes

1.Have a job I enjoy
2.Marry a girl who wants to embark on a journey together and love me
3.Start a company before 30
4.Get rid of student debt by 35
5.Own a panerai
6.Own a home
7.Live in Spain
8. Be part of the music industry/entertainment industry
9.Live in LA
10.Do an MBA
11. Get the CFA (If appropriate for my career path)
12.Own a Porsche
13.Have a million in your bank account
14.Travel to Tahiti
15.Go to South America
16.Go back to Europe
17.Have a family vacation abroad with all family members
18. Have kids
19. Make a TV appearance
20. Be mentioned in book
21.Maybe write a book
22. Appear in a movie
23. Own a 1957 fender strat
24. Own a fender twin reverb amp
25.Own a Porsche
26. Own a BMW
27.Improve cooking skills(enough to make thanksgiving dinner alone)
28.Give back to Northeastern Business School
29.Help someone start a business
30.Wake up happy everyday for the rest of my life
31. Have a six pack
32. Run a 10K
33. Get my parents out of debt
34. Build them their dream home at the farm
35. Skydive
36.Go to Africa
37. Visit the piramids
38.See the red square in Moscow
39.surf in Hawaii
40.See all my family happy and help them be happy
41.Own a boat
42.Perform with a famous artist
43.See Phil Collins live
44. Net worth of 10 Million after tax
45.be part of a company that goes public
46.sell a successful company that I started
47.Have healthy children
48.Pay for all their college
49.Leave them trust funds
50. Help them live the life I lived

1. learn to walk
2. get a great job
3. get a apartment
4. get married
5. have children
6. be the best father figure and husband
7. send my son or daughter to a excellent college or university
8. give to local charity and or fundraising
9. swim 700 hundred meters nonstop
10. be a personal and fun working businessman
11. honor my mother and father
12. be a example to other disabled individuals
13. be a leader in various ways
14. lead a company to higher success
15. own a car
16. see the Washington Capitals win the stanley cup
17 meet famous athletes
18. beat the pittsburgh penguins in the eastern semi-finals
19. win a award for an outstanding achievement
20. go to mexico
21. be chosen to do a chimerical for Under Armour nike etc.
22. go to the NHL enerty Draft
23. have a building street or restaurant named in my Honor
24. own a capitals Authenic uniform
25. meet the washington Capitals team
26. put a pie in Alex Ovechkin’s face after he scores his 500th goal
27. give to Homeless
28. start a charity
29. have the opportunity to dress in capitals full uniform form helmet pads, etc.
30. meet everyone in the capitals organization
31. own a peace of history
32. witness history being made
33. start a business and sell it
34. Attend a Capitals stanley cup final game
35. invest in a major company
36. own a nice car
37. vist a top ranked University
38. give to people in need
39. build my washington Capitals room
40 kiss the stanley cup
41. skydive out of a airplane
42. have an Iphone
43. visit Kettler capitals iceplex
44. get booed in the Pittsburgh penguins new Arena
45. visit russia
46. invent a new beverage
47. win a eating contest
48. win a lawsuit case
49. meet the senators of maryland Virginia new york and Pennsylvania
50. see a wizzards game

Ahh, the beauty of obtaining peace…..
The ability to awake in the morning to a freshly prepared home cooked meal. The bonding time with the family before everyone go to their assigned places for the day. The peace of mind knowing you do not HAVE to rush around anymore. The option of driving your children to school priceless.
During the hum of the day I will do what I love. I will be able to work as an information security consultant as well as decorating (inside/outside – residential – inside commercial)
The ability to create your own schedule and do what you love and have a balanced work/home life… priceless
No more revolving bills. My homes would not be paid off because I would prefer the tax write off. However, I would have the money available to pay them off if needed.
My home:
My home would be like a walk in paradise….
I love the island free flowing feeling. My palm trees, leather furniture filled “smart home”
My mind is beginning to envision the dream that I had buried years ago.
The plantation blinds are on the windows in my office, living and dining room. The other window treatments were constructed by myself. I had a blast picking out the materials to make my house a home.
The movie theatre is in the basement with a built in wall aquarium (calming affect of watching fish). The game area with our WII connected to the 73″ plasma (how cool is that!)
A peaceful, serene feeling will capture a person’s soul upon entry into my humble abode.
The house would be only a mere 7000 square feet.
The grounds will look like you have embarked upon your own island of paradise.
I would own 4 automobiles – 4×4 for the winter, a convertible for the summer, a pick up truck and a SUV
Now, I do love to shop and share.
I would adopt a family who is a resident at the local homeless shelter and assist them in getting back on their feet. The assistance would include a permanent resident, educational assistance if necessary, a simple car and friendship. This process would probably take a couple of years. But the joy that would overcome me would last a lifetime. We all need a helping hand from time to time. It would be nice if those who can help would, with no strings attached.
I would also create a “Hang Out”, that would be the name of the place for teens and preteens to go to hang out. This would give them another option besides the streets. The hang out would provide food, activities, tutoring, and would provide transportation from the local school systems. The hang out would offer cooking classes for the children to prepare nutrional meals for the family to eat that evening.

My list does not show billions of dollars…
But to me, once all of these items were accomplished I would feel like the riches person on earth!
:-)

A Forty million net worth wasn’t just a made up number for me. I thought about it quite a bit. It wasn’t even a limit on what I wanted to make because it’s simply not worth having one. I have even heard that billionaire businessman Ted Turner said that your dreams should be so big that it takes two lifetimes to achieve them. I understand his point but I just haven’t gotten to that level of thinking yet. I currently feel that after obtaining forty million dollars, I would have acquired everything materially that I desire for personal use and then some and would have earned the right to turn down virtually any business meeting that would yield me additional financial gain. I won’t have to put off the important family events because we’ll have more than enough materially to not have to need or want for anything. My forty million was methodical. The break down goes as follows:

Build the Chateau D’Von (Dream Home) – $5 million roughly 14,000 square on three levels with port cochere). This is a French Castle entitled Revelais by world class architect John Henry, AIA out of Orlando, Florida. He is the best I’ve ever seen. I have titled mine Chateau D’Von and looked to have it built on a river with several acres of land. Henry’s award winning designs are just as breathtaking in the back as they are the front and the intricate details inside are to die for.

Nice Home for Mom and Mom-in-law – $500,000. Where I’m from (Cassatt, SC), people live the simple life. 15,000 square feet homes are impressive but really not at all desired, especially when you’re at active adult age. This is more than enough to build both moms if need be a nice home and a new car with enough money to dish out to the undeserving, yet needy, relatives.

Retirement Account – $3 million. This account will be geared for aggressive investing because the income replacement ratios will be low. The faster I can obtain these assets, the more aggressive I will have the assets allocated. Since I plan on living a long time and no dreams of retirement over the next 30 years easily, there is little thought of conservative approach. I’ve heard a money manager say that bonds are for wimps and old people and while I understand his logic, I won’t necessarily go that far.

R-44 Helicopter. $450,000k Since attending SLED (South Carolina Law Enforcement Division) Academy as a rising high school senior and riding for about two minutes in a chopper, I’ve forever looked at helicopters admiring them from a far. Now I desire to gain a pilot’s license and buy one for myself so I can have it at the Chateau where I can expose young and old to the gift of rotary flight.

Charitable Contributions – $200,000 annually. I hear money is good for three things, spending it, investing it and giving it away. What’s the point otherwise? Money is great at solving the problems it can solve and horrible at trying to solve the problems that it can’t. Let’s make somebody’s day at the restaurant, barber shop, fund-raiser and grocery store on a regular basis. God doesn’t need your money but be obedient and give Him His cut anyway.

Maintenance Team – $50,000 annually. From tax attorneys, cpa’s, estate planners, lawn care service providers, insurances, etc. this number is likely going to be higher than I think it is. However, I’m wise enough to realize that it has to happen and it needs to be the best. So while I don’t know what the annual costs will be, let’s just throw in a few tens of thousands.

The Stable – $600,000. Lamborghini Murciélago Roadster, Maserati Quattroporte, Full Size Truck (country boy at heart), one or two other mid-range luxury vehicles (you know, wife stuff, but they aren’t nearly as involved in the car game).

Vacation Home – $1 million. Although, I’m not sure where I want this home, I really like Seabrook Island, South Carolina as it reminds me of my days at The Citadel and it gets me away from the traffic driven Washington D.C. Metro. It’s a real hidden treasure complete with spectacular ocean views and dolphins that play near the shore during early morning breakfast hours.

Furniture – $200,000. I’m elegant, but still relatively simple and not into the multi-million dollar art collection. I can shop at the local furniture store and be just as content as if I were in some high dollar store with the muckety-mucks.

Things I Never Thought Of but Have More Than Enough Cash to Take Care of – $$$. You just never know. As much as I love driving my exotic sports car, I drive it to $10 restaurants with no thought of needing to be around the exotic class of people. Sometimes I floss with the muckety-mucks (hi profiled/upper echelons) and sometimes I don’t but it’s nice to be able to when you want to. Without putting anything on paper you’re just the aimless wanderer so I figured starting here was a well thought out and good enough start.

1. Start at the College of Charleston this fall
2. Find an apartment
3. Furnish that apartment
4. Take a semester in Sweden
5. Get my teaching certification
6. Graduate with Honors
7. Begin teaching
8. Get married
9. Buy a SUV
10. Buy a single family home
11. Get a puppy
12. Start a family
13. Save money for my childrens’ school expenses
14. Retire to Nantucket
15. Become a Capitals season ticket holder again
16. Go to every NHL arena for a Caps game
17. Go paintballing
18. Own a flat in Stockholm
19. Have a what happens in Vegas moment
20. Help build homes with Habitat for Humanity
21. Spend a night at the Willard Hotel
22. Go to Carnaval in Rio de Janeiro
23. Get a tattoo
24. Catch a show at the Crazy Horse Paris and Vegas
25. Be a guest on the Price is Right
26. Re-Meet Ted Leonsis and not be nervous
27. Own a cupcake bakery
28. Go to Ghana
29. Meet my childhood penpal
30. Buy a tempurpedic mattress