Comments for The Daily Redhead http://www.thedailyredhead.com The color may fade, but the attitude remains. Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:08:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 thedailyredheadcommentshttp://feedburner.google.com Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by thedailyredhead http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/sQEeXOICg38/ thedailyredhead Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:08:57 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-55 Meh, I don't think anything or anyone is to blame. She just wasn't the right woman for you. And thanks for <strong>your</strong> comments! :) Meh, I don’t think anything or anyone is to blame. She just wasn’t the right woman for you.

And thanks for your comments! :)

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-55 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by jw http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/-t5zX091Yg0/ jw Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:06:21 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-54 oh you're funny! in my mind i'll continue blame the holidays (gawd, not the kissing!)... but thanks for your comments. oh you’re funny! in my mind i’ll continue blame the holidays (gawd, not the kissing!)… but thanks for your comments.

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-54 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by thedailyredhead http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/tocSQ2W4kdk/ thedailyredhead Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:00:21 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-53 So, you think it was the kissing that did you in? :-p But really, I know how much it sucks, and all you can really do is realize she did you a favor by being honest with you. Who wants to be with someone who isn't really into them? NOT YOU!! Every "no" is just one step closer to the one who'll say "yes". (And, it's not redheads who are hard to fathom, it's women in general. LOL!) So, you think it was the kissing that did you in? :-p

But really, I know how much it sucks, and all you can really do is realize she did you a favor by being honest with you. Who wants to be with someone who isn’t really into them? NOT YOU!!

Every “no” is just one step closer to the one who’ll say “yes”.

(And, it’s not redheads who are hard to fathom, it’s women in general. LOL!)

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-53 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by jw http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/B3HpVYdj4Qw/ jw Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:53:58 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-52 i should also mention that i thought it was going really well right up until that date right before xmas (kissing and all that). then again, maybe i'm wrong. maybe she just wasnt that into me. redheads are hard to fathom. i should also mention that i thought it was going really well right up until that date right before xmas (kissing and all that). then again, maybe i’m wrong. maybe she just wasnt that into me.

redheads are hard to fathom.

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-52 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by jw http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/X0lUkE30NKU/ jw Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:51:48 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-51 aw, c'mon -- gimme SOME credit :) i called her between xmas and new years (she didnt return the call) and we traded texts on the actual holiday days. as soon as i got back into town i reach out to her and then got an email explaining (very nicely) that she didnt think i was the right guy for her. this was about 2 weeks ago. now the whole internets knows my holiday drama. strangely, i feel a little better. aw, c’mon — gimme SOME credit :)

i called her between xmas and new years (she didnt return the call) and we traded texts on the actual holiday days. as soon as i got back into town i reach out to her and then got an email explaining (very nicely) that she didnt think i was the right guy for her. this was about 2 weeks ago.

now the whole internets knows my holiday drama. strangely, i feel a little better.

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by thedailyredhead http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/PIduC3AghQ4/ thedailyredhead Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:36:39 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-50 If you disappeared for two weeks without another word after five dates with me, I'd write ya off too! Couldn't you have reached out to her while you were gone? If you disappeared for two weeks without another word after five dates with me, I’d write ya off too! Couldn’t you have reached out to her while you were gone?

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-50 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by jw http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/q_91vPYNvBY/ jw Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:27:43 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-49 great post! wish i had read it before my disastrous date with a wonderful redhead right before christmas. damn, that could have gone so much better, but i was an idiot (maybe too full of vulnerability -- so worried that i'd fuck it up before leaving town -- we'd had like 5 dates on match.com, and i was as nervous as a little schoolboy), and then i was gone for two weeks. by the time i got back, she had decided we werent long term material. *sigh can't i just blame the holidays? it's a lot easier that way. great post! wish i had read it before my disastrous date with a wonderful redhead right before christmas. damn, that could have gone so much better, but i was an idiot (maybe too full of vulnerability — so worried that i’d fuck it up before leaving town — we’d had like 5 dates on match.com, and i was as nervous as a little schoolboy), and then i was gone for two weeks. by the time i got back, she had decided we werent long term material. *sigh

can’t i just blame the holidays? it’s a lot easier that way.

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-49 Comment on Merry Frickin Christmas by Eathan http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/heRGdWMnIUY/ Eathan Fri, 26 Dec 2008 15:54:49 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=262#comment-47 Merry 'Fricking' Christmas to you too! Merry ‘Fricking’ Christmas to you too!

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/25/merry-frickin-christmas/comment-page-1/#comment-47 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by thedailyredhead http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/vbG898cLjEc/ thedailyredhead Wed, 24 Dec 2008 15:50:10 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-46 "A seasonal feeling or a true feeling" - well, the same type of problem exists in all new relationships, no matter when they start. How do you know if it's "a sexual feeling or a true feeling"? How do you know if it's "infatuation or love"? You don't have any more knowledge of someone's true feelings outside of the holiday season than you do during it, so you're not risking any less at those times; nor are you risking <em>more</em> just because it's the lonely time of year. I guess my overall point is: what is the <strong>worst</strong> that could happen, and how is that any more of a dangerous risk during the holidays than not? As long as you're not running off to Vegas on New Year's Eve to get hitched to a stranger for "companionship and company", I think you'll be just fine reaching out for love during the season in the same ways as you normally would. “A seasonal feeling or a true feeling” – well, the same type of problem exists in all new relationships, no matter when they start. How do you know if it’s “a sexual feeling or a true feeling”? How do you know if it’s “infatuation or love”?

You don’t have any more knowledge of someone’s true feelings outside of the holiday season than you do during it, so you’re not risking any less at those times; nor are you risking more just because it’s the lonely time of year.

I guess my overall point is: what is the worst that could happen, and how is that any more of a dangerous risk during the holidays than not?

As long as you’re not running off to Vegas on New Year’s Eve to get hitched to a stranger for “companionship and company”, I think you’ll be just fine reaching out for love during the season in the same ways as you normally would.

]]> http://www.thedailyredhead.com/2008/12/23/holiday-vulnerability-and-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Comment on Holiday Vulnerability and Dating by Eathan http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/thedailyredheadcomments/~3/-vCt2IqbtZY/ Eathan Wed, 24 Dec 2008 15:07:15 +0000 http://www.thedailyredhead.com/?p=260#comment-45 My thoughts are.. yes the holidays are about family and a feeling of belonging. When you're single, it's easy to struggle and not feel connected with other people. I remain careful because it's tough to know if it's just a seasonal feeling or a true feeling. The Christmas - New Years break is a long stretch when alot of your friends travel or are busy. That break makes you focus on wanting companionship or company. Just my small opinion in the short version. My thoughts are.. yes the holidays are about family and a feeling of belonging. When you’re single, it’s easy to struggle and not feel connected with other people. I remain careful because it’s tough to know if it’s just a seasonal feeling or a true feeling. The Christmas – New Years break is a long stretch when alot of your friends travel or are busy. That break makes you focus on wanting companionship or company.

Just my small opinion in the short version.

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