The Every Day Chameleon

Are you thick or fat

2014-05-31T09:45:00.001-05:00

http://blackdoctor.org/14554/curvy-or-fat-is-america-in-denial/2/

Being Mistaken For Kitchen Help Just Made This Exec More Outspoken

2014-05-25T09:01:00.001-05:00

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5380095?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000047

This is a new french toast recipe I may try

2014-05-24T09:37:00.001-05:00

Easy Cinnamon French Toast Recipe: http://youtu.be/2Uo2qaRsrec

Are you a confident women?

2014-05-23T13:22:00.001-05:00

http://www.healthyblackwoman.com/are-you-a-confident-woman-if-so-you-may-exhibit-some-of-these-traits/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=are-you-a-confident-woman-if-so-you-may-exhibit-some-of-these-traits

2014-05-14T20:21:00.001-05:00

http://theggcomics.blogspot.com/2014/05/hi-family.html

Poprocks send woman to rhe ER

2014-05-14T18:37:00.001-05:00

http://www.healthyblackwoman.com/woman-rushes-to-er-after-putting-pop-rocks-in-her-vagna-during-ex/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=woman-rushes-to-er-after-putting-pop-rocks-in-her-vagna-during-ex

Gigi

2014-05-04T20:37:00.001-05:00

http://theggcomics.blogspot.com/2014/05/the-agents-heart.html

Whew!! Been a while ...

2014-04-09T10:55:00.001-05:00

It's been a while since I've blogged, I need to do it more often though.

My life has been turned upside-down so I don't really get in the mood to do much of anything. I'm going to start writing more often. We need to get our thoughts out every once and a while.

Talk WITH the man...

2013-06-17T17:05:00.000-05:00

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I try to attend church to help better my spiritual well-being like people who thirst for knowledge read books. I read the Bible but some times it's good to get the opinion of a trained professional.

Over the past couple of weeks our pastor has been talking to us about the family. Last week he discussed, with the men, the proper way to speak to women. It was enlightening to say the least.

Do men have their own language?

That was my first thought! Surely... mine ... can't have a language that is that much different than mine and if it is .. he needs to get with the program... LOL! But men do speak different than women. I laugh because I already knew men have a way of thinking about things that is drastically different than women. Men think of things in a much more rational manner.

There is one thing he stressed that I KNOW I do. Brevity! (Concise and exact use of words in writing or speech.)

I get carried away some times in my explanation. That's because I'm a woman and I think like women do when I'm talking. I want to explain the reasoning behind the logic I conceived. I want to explain why I choose to come to that conclusion. I laughed when the pastor said it. He went on explaining by making it very clear that we need to just tell the bare minimum facts of the problem to a man.Women like a woman of few words, and it's not because they are trying to hush us up that's just how they think. I think men begin to mix up the point when we say too much. Women talk in fluff. We want to explain all of the art behind everything that happens in our lives and the message is embedded within the conversation ready for him to decipher.

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A couple of weeks ago, I was talking to my son and he "blah blah blah" 'ed me in mid sentence. That totally caught me off guard but made me realize that I must be talking too much and need to get to the point. He didn't do it on purpose, which is why I didn't revert to Mean-Mommy and try to snatch his head off his shoulders (figuratively speaking of course). He was saying what goes on in his head when I talk to him about things. He listens to me but as he is listening the message gets lost in the conversation.

There were some other highlights of the pastor's sermon, but I think that was a highlight for me. Women have to keep their man's privacy. Don't tell everyone his personal business... get permission first. Come to him like he is the man of the house and not just another one of your children -- talk to him through the value you have in him as a person you are sharing intimacy. If he is an "ain't shit" man... why are you with him? He is going to give you "ain't shit" until you treat him like he is the shit. You have to be his #1 fan. That's why every professional team has cheerleaders. Men need to be gratified by his own personal cheering section whether he is wrong or right you have to be on his side!

Yea. We all have some work to do ladies. I'm going to leave it at that!

What has rap music come to?

2013-04-20T09:29:00.000-05:00

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I am a self proclaimed critic of the hip-hop community. I am old enough to say I lived through it from beginning to end. It began when I was young and my life experiences are based on the hip-hop ethic.

But what has become of the hip-hop community? It used to be about ethics, no matter the validity of the idea. "Real" rap music had a message which was conveyed to the listeners about how life occurred where they lived. It connected the black communities all over the United States. This was the first time someone could officially say "we created this type of music". Other forms of music have been taken over by other ethnic groups. Rap music, in general, is still populated by the black community. Rappers are held in as high esteem as professional sports players. Rappers were the grios of the our time period.

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We knew what was going on every place in the country by the music that area put out. For instance, I know people in Michigan are "about fashion". If you listen to artist from the upper-midwest regions, they speak about high fashion and style. I am from the metro Detroit area and have lived in Detroit for quite a while, so I can agree with that idea. Remember in Notorious B.I.G.'s song, "pink gators, my Detroit players". Yes! People in Detroit can be seen wear a rainbow of different colored gators. West Coast rappers are militant minded. Rappers there talk about how to make things happen no matter the consequence and "F*ck the Police" because pigs "The Only Good Pig is a Dead Pig" according to the Black Panther Party. Every area mimics the issues and problems of that community. We listened to the music so we can understand the community where these things occur, and relate those ideas to the struggle in our own community. They ALL sent a message.

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Many people talk about the negative portrayals of women in rap music. In the creation of hip-hop music, there were lessons. I learned what not to be like and what not to do if I wanted to be a "woman" from Too Short, N.W.A. and Big Daddy Kane. They made a distinct difference between respectable women and women who were not worth respecting. The women had different labels. I carry that same attitude today because my family supported that opinion with "home training".

NOW! It's hard to stomach the nonsense that people listen to on the radio. The message is missing! What is the point of your song? What do you stand for? Malcolm X said, "A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything." Guess what black community.... Our kids are falling for anything! They fall for it in mass amounts because they are being taught that anything is acceptable. .... *blank stare* Yours... not mine!

Going to school is not as hard as you think

2013-03-27T16:50:00.000-05:00

I get it! School is not an easy task. A lot of young people are herded into community college with the idea that they will be able to coast through it the same way they did in high school. NOT! College is not high school. If you begin with that attitude, you are bound to fail in the first or second semester. It will be extremely overwhelming.

School takes life organization. New students must organize their lives in a manner which sets aside time for school and time for other things. For example, students who live alone and want to go back to school to move up at a job, get a career, or learn new things need to set aside time to make school work for them. For every hour you are in class, you have to set aside an hour of study time (at least an hour). That's why the classes aren't as long or strenuous as a high school class. There needs to be time to cover everything the instructor/professor has discussed.

It also takes high order thinking skills (HOTS). This is the problem a lot of my students have. You have to be HOT. High order thinking skills are what I call adult thinking. We want to know how you think about the information given to you and then recreate something based on that discussion. If your instructor asks you to write a final exam for a the class and you aren't including the information and vocabulary used in the course; I guarantee a poor grade for that course. Students need to also keep in mind the specifics of each instructor. We like things to be done a certain way (picky or not... it's my class). Students who aren't following the rules for the assignment are dooming themselves. The thought is what is most important. Students who can take information learned in class, apply this information to the way they interpret it, and create a product are on the right path.

I teach writing, and this is the most highly used form of completing assignments in college... any college. It is the formal way to express your own idea. The idea... and your ideal... We can discuss those thought another day.

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You look crazy! What do you expect?

2013-03-25T15:24:00.004-05:00

As a college professor, I have to be aware of who people are and not how they look. Your appearance means the world to everyone you meet. You have to be aware of how you are perceived to others. This is the first steps toward progression.

The way you look doesn't determine who you are as a person. People of all races, shapes and cultures have a variety of personalities, but all we see is what is on the outside.

All these things have a direct relection on the way that people are treating you. If you look like you are going to rob someone; you will be treated like you are going to rob someone. If you dress in tight-fitting and revealing clothes; you will be treated like you are easy access.

I was always raised to represent my household. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror, on facebook, on twitter (and any other social media sites) and ask yourself what messages you are sending out to others that are unintentional.

I change every day, so I can try to avoid being pigeon-holed into a category.

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Don't let the smooth taste fool you!

2013-02-13T17:40:00.001-06:00

Every day people go through life doing things because they see other people do it. What makes something a norm? It is only the fact that others do it also. If we do things that are outside of what people consider normal than we are considered to be crazy.

Well, I'm not crazy but I do find something wrong with that concept that we create.

Supermom duties

2012-11-09T19:53:00.000-06:00

Part of being a single parent is being able to be a jack of all trades. What ever has to be fixed, I will be fixing it.

Today's task is repairing the leak from my son's cooling system. His car has been sitting in the yard for a year now. Instead of saving money to get it fixed he has been spending his money on food and accessories. Then he looks to Supermom to come in and save him from being stuck at home because he has no way to get places.

Single parenting means you don't have the extra income to splurge on certain things like taking a car to the shop for minor repairs which may cost in the hundreds. The first thing you have to do is assess the problem to see if it can be repaired. The best thing to do is research the problem on the net. I love Youtube! I can always find the problem on Youtube.

We went out to the car and poured water in the radiator to watch where the leak was coming from under the hood. There was a hose which was cracked down the side and water was SHOOTING out of the hose. Now to find out which hose it is.

Google is a great tool for research. I googled some diagrams to assess the different hoses connected to the cooling system. The one that was leaking was a heater core hose. There two hoses for the heater core and depending on the care there are several shapes it can have for replacement parts. I took it off and sent my son to the nearest shop. O'Reily's and Autozone are both near the house but O'Reily's has great customer service, so it was an easy choice. Previously, I went up there and purchased a lower radiator hose and the lady behind the counter told me to bring it back if it were the wrong hose. No extra money to spend there and the new part was cheaper so I save $6 in the end. The video below helped me remove the hose for replacement.

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Why Breakups Are Harder on Men: Sex, Love & Life: glamour.com

2012-09-12T20:46:00.001-05:00

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Grrrrr!!

2012-08-15T20:18:00.001-05:00

Traffic slows to a crawl on the Monash Freeway in Melbourne, Australia through peak hour traffic. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)Since I moved to Dallas, I've created a sense of ... well ... road rage. People here CAN NOT drive. The traffic here is horrible. I miss leaving right off of 696 and jumping on the freeway doing like 75mph and no slowing down to let me in. People here slow down to an almost complete stop. It reminds me of the traffic on Southfield freeway during rush hour but imagine that on ALL of the freeways.

Driving down here is so dreadful! My mom just moved back to Michigan. The whole time she was here she refused to drive because of the way other people here drive. They don't use blinkers. I can't tell you the last time I saw someone use their blinker to get into the lane next to them. Here... NOT. They just jump in front of you with no real warning. Then on top of that people that this happens to smash on their brakes and come to a complete stop. Additional traffic for everyone.

The other day I saw someone stop all of the traffic on the street to cross two lanes in order to turn left. That means there was three lanes in one direction. They were in the far right lane trying to make a left turn. Instead of going down the adjacent street and turning left they raced across. They went across two lanes to get to the left turn lane and turn left.

Why am I mad today? What caused this post? I was on my way to work. It is well over 100 degrees outside every day here. I hate using the A/C because it uses extra gas and gas is ridiculously priced. I was behind a small foreign car... ahem... yeah... Then the car comes to almost a complete stop. The precedes to SLOWLY turn into the driveway of a shopping center. All of the cars behind it, me included, came to a complete stop in the road. Then they only pulled halfway in so they could turn left which means they were still sticking out into the middle of the street. UH... YOU CAN JUST GO STRAIGHT AND COME BACK!

Yeah, I know the road rage is bad but what can I say.

Have you ever had really bad road rage?

Corner the market

2012-08-13T03:50:00.001-05:00

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Are you going back to school? Everyone needs to have some sort of specialization in order to exist in this horrible economy. If you want to live comfortably you have to corner the market in whatever you are good at. The problem is determining what you are good at.

Everyone doesn't have the money to go to college just to explore the possibilities of what college has to offer. College costs a lot of money! The cost per year has gone up at least $10k since I started college. When I started college I was on a mission to change the world one person at a time. I never thought about the time going by so fast or the economy going downhill the way it has.

My son is going to college next year. Eeeekk! #1 - I realize how old I am. *sigh* #2 - I don't know what I'm going to do about these bill I'm going to inherit with an incoming college freshmen.

Don't let that deter YOU from going to college. Everyone should have something to fall back on. When choosing what you are going to do you need to be careful of where you go also. Where you attend school DOES play a role in the hiring process. Make sure you choose a school that is reputable for the field you are going into.

Community colleges are a great place to get a certificate. Sometimes all you need is a certificate! That's only a couple of classes and that will get you in the door. Specialize in something so you will have something over the next man. Going to a community college helps because the credits transfer virtually everywhere and they are 1/4 of the price with all of the financial aid.

Have you looked at a community college catalog lately. You can become virtually anything for dirt cheap. I want to learn to speak Spanish so I can check the "Fluent in language other than English" box. That will get you extra money on a job.

What are you going to corner the market in? What is your specialty and how are you going to make money doing it?

Question women want to know

2012-07-31T01:10:00.000-05:00

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I've been in and out of relationships for quite some time now. I can say I'm an experienced dater. While in my casual dating moments, I've had so many great conversations with men. I've learned that men are a lot more simplistic with reasoning than women lead them to be.

Ladies, we make things a lot more complex with our reasoning. We think of what will happen if... Men don't think that that the way we do. They think of things in the moment and the solution for the moment most of the time. A lot of women meet a man and begin to imagine what their child would look like based on his looks. If he doesn't have the traits we want our child to have we move on, regardless of scientific probability.

Ok... So guys here is my question. When you meet a girl, do you form her place in your life upon meeting her? Does that mean that she will never be able to move up or down in her role?

I was talking to a guy who told me that every woman in his life has a place or purpose. Some women he meets he knows that she will only be there for sex and nothing more. Then there are women he feels he would start a real relationship with. After speaking with several other men (and some women), I'm wondering if this is a common trend among men. I'm just asking the men though. We all know women do this. It's one of those things. We know within the first five minutes whether we would give you a chance (most of the time).

Seeing how Kanye made the comment that Amber Rose is not someone you take home to mama then turns around and gets with Kim Kardashian with circling about popping the question ... I am really curious about your responses.

My Blah Problem: "I think I am about to dump my baby mama!"

2012-07-25T23:03:00.002-05:00

Hey people! I say people because most of my readers are men.

I spend the majority of my time talking to men about problems. I think a lot of the problems deal with relationships. I'm good at explaining the why's to how women think in a way men can understand. It's easy when it's not you! I don't know why men think to ask me the answer to their problems but they do. I've always been the person a lot of men come to when they don't understand what to do. So here is the problem.

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My friend has a baby mama- mother of his child. He has been trying to make it work for the sake of his child but feels it's his time to go. What do you do? How do you break up with the mother of your child without it turning into something horrible?

Here's what he said:

"I think I am about to dump my baby mama!

I’m pretty sure it's going to happen.

Lol

Real talk though.

She is annoying, mean, selfish, cold hearted...

I’m trying to not call her stupid but it's hard.

This is beyond just young. This is "not raised correctly"

I’m going to talk about how sick my baby mama makes me and if people feel me.

It's too the point where I’m losing sexual attraction towards her, not based on her looks, but on her attitude.

Her attitude makes me not want to touch her.

It's going to hurt her... but I can't take all the pain so she's happy. It's turning my hair grey... real talk.

I wasn't going to allow her to walk all over me; and I just stay with her and take it."

Okay people... Let me know what you would say. Then I will tell you what I said...

My friends and family come to me often. If you have one you want me to post I'll post it also.

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2012-07-25T19:32:00.001-05:00

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You said what?

2012-07-19T13:44:00.004-05:00

Midwest (Wikipedia)

I am a so sincere when it comes to how people speak. My speech is not the best in word choice but it's up there. I choose my words wisely, when I do speak. The things you say have a direct reflection on how people perceive you in day-to-day life.

When I moved to Texas, I applied at several schools in the area. I figured out quickly that they don't like people who aren't from Texas to teach their kids. On one of my interviews, I was asked if I was familiar with section 8. I think that comment took me off-guard a bit. I didn't see how it would be relevant to my performance as a teacher. My demeanor is always calm so didn't think I could work with kids unless I was "full of energy." They continued to ask me questions about understanding the trials and tribulations of living in low socioeconomic standards or what we call "the hood." Still I say, "What!" That interview really baffled me for months. It wasn't until I began working as an instructor that I understood what happened. My speech is similar to the people where I come from. I come from the Midwest so my students said I sound "like you not from around here." No, I'm not from around here but what does that have to do with the price in China.

Contrary to popular belief, I am from "the hood" and feel comfortable in "hood" environments. I can act like where I'm from but I just choose not to. I do let it come out when I feel it is appropriate. There are instances I feel are appropriate to let it out on people. #thatsreal

When you speak a certain way, people automatically perceive you to be a certain "type" of person. I guess my speech was too strict and terse for their needs. In Michigan, a teacher whose speech is any different thank the professional standard won't get any job any place, especially teaching English.

You have to assess your surroundings. My mom calls this being "all things to all people." Speaking a certain way around certain people will not get you what you want. My speech patterns work well in most spheres because it's flexible. I change my wording depending on the crowd and environment. Typically, I talk the way I want to talk. My supervisor said it's my strength in the classroom.

What does this have to do with you? When you go out places, you have to be aware of your surroundings. If you speak a certain way, you have to be able to be flexible in other places. Cursing is something I never do in “public" because I don't know who is watching. I never use the "N" in public either. I don't think I really use the "N" word period because it makes me cringe. (I say negro though, a safer, negative connotation free alternative.) If you are on an interview, you have to avoid saying many things that may have negative connotation for people. Slang has negative connotation in every professional sphere. Everything you do in an interview is like a presentation. Your presentation is your way to sell yourself to the employer. Who wants to buy something they can't display?

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How do you fix it? Practice. My kids have normal speech patterns that are different from my own. I force them to perfect their speech. Most black people would say, "they talk white." However, what is white speech any way? They can talk all different types of ways and as long as you understand them does it really matter that they "talk white"? We listen to television all day and listen to people making millions "talking white". This is the closest thing to the language we write in also.

Do you have any interesting stories about the way you speak or other people speak?

Beats and Instrumentals

2012-07-10T09:05:00.002-05:00

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Sitting in my bed at 10:30 pm listening to my beau create instrumentals on the laptop made me think. How many young people today listen to rap music purely for the beat?

While growing up in the 80's and 90's, there were so many songs that had great content and basic beats. Rap music wasn't about "pretend" representation. It was about life, struggle and the stories people told that just happened to rhyme. That's how you know if someone was a good rapper. If they can tell you a story that seems to just happen to rhyme you were envious of their melodic recreation of the event.

Cover of Lauryn Hill

R&B today seems a little watered down also. Lauryn Hill said it best on Superstar when she said "Come on baby light my fire... Everything you drop is so tired... Music is supposed to inspire... How come we ain't gettin' no higher?" The word choice in songs nowadays leaves nothing for the imagination. They come right out and say exactly what it is they're doing. There's no wonder young men today have no game. A real lady -- and I use that term exactly how it's suppose to be intended -- doesn't want a man to come right out and tell her his intentions. Can I get some wooing up in here for a change? Instead of songs crying "Birthday Sex," which played frequently and openly during all listening hours for my underage children to sing, play song that alludes to the message like "Rock Me Tonight."

The music is one of the contributing factors to kids inability to imagine, inference and synthesize anything. They can't create the images in their minds because they no longer have to create images which are readily available. So seeing how it applies to you and creating something out of it in your own mind is out of the question!

I don't let my kids watch anything on TV. My teens are weary of things they hear on the radio. It's not inspiring them to do anything beneficial.

I'm enjoying the repetition of sounds, bass, horns and percussion. No elementary, moral-less, repetitive commentary laid over this beat is fine and dandy to me.

2012-07-09T21:29:00.001-05:00

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A well groomed man

2012-07-06T21:15:00.000-05:00

English: Shaving system with 2 blades. Wilkinson Sword, Protector 3D diamond. Nederlands: Scheersysteem met 2 mesjes. Wilkinson Sword, Protector 3D diamond. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

There is nothing like a well groomed man. I am the only girl in my family. My brothers are my first ideas of what men are suppose to be. My older brother was the man of the house while growing up and made sure everything in the house was taken care of before he left. When I was in college my brother came to stay with me and help me with my kids. He, my other brother and his friend (who I also consider my brother) showed me how a man should stay groomed no matter what the grooming it took for them to be comfortable. They would take hours in the bathroom getting ready to go out looking like a million bucks.

Hair

My oldest brother cuts everyone hair. He has been cutting hair since I can remember, literally. He taught me how to cut a man's hair. Men should have their hair groomed just like women. A man with a nice cut attracts a woman because it says he cares about his appearance. That doesn't mean I'm against different styles on men, but it does mean whatever style it should be presentable. My son has coils (locks) and when he's in between tightening he keeps it pulled back away from his face. Women spend at least $50 each time they get their hair done so a man can cough up $15 for his.

Face

I LOVE LOVE LOVE a man with a clean cut face. Schools in Texas require boys to be clean-shaven (without any face hair). It is a little on the extreme but it definitely gets them ready for the world. A man should keep his face looking nice. The face is the first thing women look at on a man. A nicely trimmed face could mean the difference between giving you a look and giving you a number.

Smell

Scented lotions and soaps would be a bit much but a man should always smell good. Smelling good should not be an options for anyone. There are so many options. Everyone woman loves to hug her man and inhale his ambrosial masculine physique.

What do you think? What is your take on a man being well groomed?

How important is...

2012-07-03T18:19:00.000-05:00

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Since I am an instructor, the majority of my daily conversations are with students in a college setting. Today made me think about the choices students make when they plan to attend college.

When you step into the college it is no longer the priority of the teacher to ensure you get the information. My training is in middle and high schools; the ideas of ensuring a student understand are all too well ingrained in my teaching style. These ideas hurt the student in the long run. When you step into my college classroom that idea changes. Most instructors and professors could care less about what is going on in your world.

What does that mean to you?

Step into each classroom with the idea that you are in a game with something to prove. Prove to the teacher that you are the best student in the classroom and can get the most correct answer.

Read the required assignments before coming to class so you can keep up with the conversations. HA! Don't assume a teacher is going to explain everything in the book. NO! Do you know how long it would take a teacher to cover everything in a textbook cover to cover. PLUS! This is not high school! College just gives an overview of the most important aspects of the course as the instructor and college sees fit. Some of the content may not be cover in that particular class but it is expected that you understand to keep up with the conversation.

How important is this $300 that you spent to be in class? If that money is valuable to you then make me work for my money. Read the required readings so you can have relevant questions when you come into class. This called making inference. Apply the material to logic. College is the ultimate leveler. Just because you coasted through high school doesn't mean you can do it in college.

How important is Twitter and Facebook? Get off the internet for the duration of class. Those comments will be there when you get out of class right? YES! Once something is on the internet it is there forever.

If the future of the world is in the hands of people who can't get off the internet we are definitely in trouble elders.