Unfortunately this is “normal” for the most of us. Some people call it their little hater. I call it my ego. I have couple of these voices. There’s rey the interaction designer, rey the MS in HCI graduate, rey the rapper, rey the boyfriend, rey the brother, uncle, son etc. Each one telling me how I should act and what I should and shouldn’t tolerate. It kinda makes me wonder, “Who is rey to begin with?” Am I any one of my egos? a combination of all? or am I, simply, I am?

Solution
Those are pretty philosophical questions that we can discuss forever, but for now I want to focus on the voices in your head. It turns out that it (they) can be stopped! And it’s easier than you think. Just breathe. Yup that’s right, breathe. If you focus on the in and out flow of your breath your inner dialogue will quiet down to a low mumble and maybe even stop! Imagine that, no voices. Some people call this practice, “meditation.” But when anyone says “meditation” people think of The Buddha sitting Indian style on pillows chanting mantras. Meditation is a word with too much baggage, I just call it focused breathing. You can do it anywhere anytime.

Try it and let me know if it works for you…

I don’t care.

Gay marriage has nothing to do with my life or lifestyle. One way or the other my life will not be affected.

If I had to vote I’d say, “sure go head, let gays get marriage.” Shit why not. What does marriage mean anyway (besides the lifetime commitment thing)? Living together? Paying bills together? Filing taxes together? What’s the difference between marriage and a domestic partnership? The only thing I could think of is the religious aspect of it, but I’m not religious, so that’s out the window.

I’m not saying that I don’t believe in marriage or that I won’t get married. I’m just saying that it’s not that big of a deal.

Shit, if people want to get married to their cats, dogs, gold fish, what ever, I say let em.

I don’t follow any religion and I have my reasons, but I wanted to learn more about Scientology. So I did what any person would do, in this day and age, I looked it up on Wikipedia. At first it seem like it followed the mantra of all other religions, you know, do good, be good, feel good. But as I continued to read what they believe, it became more interesting….

Among these advanced teachings, one episode revealed to those who reach OT level III is the story of Xenu (sometimes Xemu), introduced as an alien ruler of the “Galactic Confederacy.” According to this story, 75 million years ago Xenu brought billions of people to Earth in spacecraft resembling Douglas DC-8 airliners, stacked them around volcanoes and blew them up with hydrogen bombs. Their souls then clustered together, stuck to the bodies of the living and continue to do this today. Hubbard called these clustered spirits “Body Thetans,” and advanced-level Scientologists place considerable emphasis on isolating these alien souls and neutralizing their ill effects.

I had to read that a couple of time to make sure I wasn’t mistaken. Then I recalled a South Park episode which was being satirical of this religion. They actually had a reenactment of the above beliefs. Shown below:

Now there is no way that I can disprove the story of Xenu and the Galactic Confederacy nor will I try to. Being the open minded individual that I believe myself to be, I won’t make any judgments on their beliefs. I just found it interesting and thought I would share my newly discovered fact.

First of all, LOL, this shit is funny. I’m sorry, I had to get that out of my system (no pun intended). I actually posed a similar question to my gf a couple of months ago. And this ties into my gripes about the way society views cheating. The question I posed was, “Are men cheating when they go to strip clubs?”

It may be considered cheating because naked or half naked women are parading around to simulate arousal in a man’s pants, while simultaneously putting cash in their pants (or thongs or … you get the picture). Sexual arousal occurs when the brain thinks the body will soon participate in sexual activity. At this point the guy is “up” and the brain thinks sexual engagement will soon occur. So this guy is imagining (consciously or subconsciously) sexual activity with the parading women around him. Is this cheating?

Let’s take it a step further. In most of these clubs laps dances are employed for further arousal (and cash). Some men (I’ve heard) actually soil their trousers while being entertained by such measures, although no actual penetration has occurred. Ejaculation occurs at the climax of sexual arousal. In this case, the brain cannot tell the difference between a lap dance and actual sexual intercourse; if it could, neither arousal nor ejaculation would occur. Now, can this be considered cheating?

If we take it one step further, we get to the topic of discussion, “Is masturbation cheating?” Scrap the strip club situation and let’s look at a hypothetical situation with Bob. Bob’s wife is (or was) a thick light-skinned woman with a fat ass, slim waist, and big breast and he’s had her every way imaginable. Today Bob wants a chocolate lover with beautiful dark skin and with petite build. He could A) find a chocolate lover for the day and cheat on his wife or B) pick up the DVD “Dark Chocolate Honeys 5″ at his local adult novelty store (or boot-legger) and spend some quality time with himself.

In either situation Bob’s brain is satisfied with the results: going through motions of sexual intercourse with a dark-skinned petite woman. Most would agree that option B is more acceptable than option A. I argue that both the situations should be judged equally, either acceptable or not. I say this in my attempt to sharpen the blurred lines of what is and isn’t cheating. Is it penetration or ejaculation? Is it thought or action? Or is it emotional reoccurring involvement with any of the above? You tell me.

1) She’s always in a relationship
2) She’s a micromanager
3) She refers to her pet(s) as her child/children
4) She’s a pushover

If you have just realized that you’re dating a desperate women here’s what you can do

1) Tell her you’re not ready for a serious relationship
2) Tell all your mutual friends that you are no longer with her
3) Cut ALL contact (on and off line)

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2) Do people look at you funny when you wear your Hip-Hop gear?

3) Is your style dictated by the most recent fad?

4) Do you talk with an urban accent although you were born in the suburbs?

5) Are you over 20 years old and wear bandannas on your head?

If you answered yes to 4 of the 5 questions above, you are a Hip-Hop poser.

When I become rich I will focus most of my time on family, friends and fun (and the rest on making more money). We all know what family and friends are but what is “fun”? Fun may be different from person to person. Passively watching TV 18 hours a day may be fun for one person and mind numbingly boring for another (I’m the later).

I have the most fun when I’m being creative or engaging in challenging physical activity (sports). That’s is what I’ll spend my time doing when I’m richer than I am now. How about you?