Comments for The Hero's Choice

Comment on Living From My Higher Self by Diana Reed

Diana Reed — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 21:37:18 +0000

Roger – I have to share with you what recently happened… I keep extra copies of your book on my book shelf so that I have one or two to give away whenever I feel the inspiration to do so; my 78 year old mother, unknown to me, perused through my titles, found and choose The Hero’s Choice. The next time I visited her she told me that she had just finished reading the best book – she shared with me some of her insights and how much she enjoyed it. “That book sounds familiar,” I told her, “what was the name of it?” “The Hero’s Choice,” she replied. I couldn’t help but smile as I explained to her that it was written by my friend and that I had taken your seminar. I think the thing that touched me most was that my mother has MS and as she is aging the pain and difficulties have increased; but I have never – no not ever – heard her complain and now that I attend the same Church that she has been a part of for years, I have learned of the abundance she has been able to deliver and give to others. She is truly loved and appreciated and the tenderness which she has so freely given is coming back in her hour of need in a million different ways. she is a testament to the abundant life.

Diana

Comment on How to Become Emotionally Mature by Roger Allen

Roger Allen — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 21:43:21 +0000

Thanks, Sander. If I understand your question, you are talking about your own love interest, right? I would recommend dealing with it by making a list of all the ripoffs (negative consequences) for getting caught up in this love interest. Make it a long, even painful, list. Magnify the consequences and imagine them as real, today. Let yourself feel that pain. Ripoffs are usually delayed so we opt for the short term payoff of the negative behavior, instead, since it is immediate. But the ripoffs need to be greater than the payoffs.

I would also think deeply about the rewards of not falling into an immature love. What do you have to gain in the long run? Magnify this as well. Then make a very conscious decision to say “no.” Take action of setting necessary boundaries. Move forward don’t look back. Act from your integrity and vision of what is most important to you and not momentary feelings or circumstances.

Comment on How to Become Emotionally Mature by Sander

Sander — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 20:14:19 +0000

Dear dr,

Great article.how does one deal with an emotionally immature love interest?or can one?thanks.

Comment on Living From My Higher Self by Diane Nolen

Diane Nolen — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 04:20:18 +0000

Thank you, Roger for your words of wisdom. Having known you for many years, I’m very aware that you truly practice what you preach. You are an example of living in serenity and living an abundant life. Serenity for me comes from recognizing all the “Tender Mercies” that occur in my life, no matter how small, and being grateful for them. I try to live by the motto, “expect less, give more”.
Diane Nolen

Comment on Living From My Higher Self by Candy Hardin

Candy Hardin — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 02:59:06 +0000

Dr. Allen,

First let me say how much I enjoy your newsletter and how I look forward to receiving it. Your message/thoughts always seem so appropriate for what is happening in my life.

Recently, my Father finished his journey in this life. Though I have lost loved ones before, this awful blanket of grief is suffocating. It doesn’t seem to matter how much faith I have or haven’t, the sadness is so consuming. Is there anything other than time, that will ease this heaviness in my heart and mind?

With Kindest Regards,
Candy

Comment on Living From My Higher Self by Merlin Jenson

Merlin Jenson — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 01:39:31 +0000

I’ve been rewarded from the heros choice and from your continuing thoughts and inspiration.
They are always though provoking and stimulate me towards living with more meaning.

Comment on How to Find Happiness by zed

zed — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 17:21:43 +0000

did you found it?… your happiness?

Comment on Count Your Blessings by Jules Meisenheimer

Jules Meisenheimer — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:40:35 +0000

I like your writing style really loving this website. “Slow and steady wins the race.” by Robert Lloyd.

Comment on The Power of Emotional Intelligence by Roger Allen

Roger Allen — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 02:41:33 +0000

Good thoughts, Melinda. I think you’ve captured a good part of what it means to be emotionally intelligent.

Comment on The Power of Emotional Intelligence by Melinda

Melinda — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 22:20:52 +0000

People I know with high emotional intelligence are balanced. They are able to place things in a proper perspective and not over react to situations. They do the best they can given what they can control and let go of what they cannot.