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		<title>How underdogs will get promoted this year.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Jan 2012 14:42:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Doing your job isn&#8217;t enough. Working harder than all of your coworkers isn&#8217;t enough. Having a college degree certainly isn&#8217;t enough, even if it&#8217;s in something really marketable like &#8220;marketing.&#8221; Putting in one smiling year on the bottom of the totem pole isn&#8217;t enough. There are thousands of other people putting in their time, too. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Doing your job isn&#8217;t enough.  </p>
<p>Working harder than all of your coworkers isn&#8217;t enough.</p>
<p>Having a college degree certainly isn&#8217;t enough, even if it&#8217;s <span id="more-347010557"></span>in something really marketable like &#8220;marketing.&#8221;</p>
<p>Putting in one smiling year on the bottom of the totem pole isn&#8217;t enough.  </p>
<p>There are thousands of <em>other</em> people putting in their time, too.  The world doesn&#8217;t owe you a promotion, a pay raise, or even an attaboy.  The people in line ahead of you certainly aren&#8217;t going to toot your horn.</p>
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	<p class="wp-caption-text">Someone is clearly tooting this horn, however.  Creative commons image courtesy of <a href='http://www.flickr.com/photos/on1stsite/3781190711/' target='_blank'>on1stsite</a></p>
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<p>The secret to standing out in the crowd: how you react to being in the back of the line.  It&#8217;s easy to grin and take your lumps for a year.  It&#8217;s easy then to expect some manager to ride in on a white horse to save you, pluck you into a corner office with an administrative assistant, and give you 13 people who report to you.</p>
<p>One of the drawbacks of the current economy is that <strong>people with great degrees, tons of experience and internships, and winning smiles are <em>everywhere</em></strong>: People who went to school with the aim of being in management and eventually CEO of their own little company.  Now, they are at home crawling through monster.com or at an entry-level position somewhere waiting for their chance to get promoted.</p>
<p>So, if you plan on being promoted before them, it&#8217;s all about attitude.  Entitlement thinking is rampant in our corporate culture.  The only way to stand out for promotion is gratitude.  It is impossible to be grateful and entitled at the same time.  </p>
<p>Who can you thank today?</p>
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		<title>How to Derail your Productivity in less than 5 minutes.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 15:40:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I packed up my laptop, headed to the business office at my apartment complex, and made a plan to get some stuff done on my day off. But my plans were interrupted when I met Alberto (not his real name.) He speaks no English, so I thanked Jesus for the dozen-or-so years of Spanish class [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I packed up my laptop, headed to the business office at my apartment complex, and made a plan to get some stuff done on my day off.</p>
<p>But my plans were interrupted when I met Alberto (not his real name.)</p>
<p>He speaks no English, so I thanked Jesus for the dozen-or-so years of Spanish class (now a dozen-or-so years ago) and asked him where he was from.</p>
<p>Venezuela.  He is in the states seeking political asylum.  </p>
<p>Translation: <strong>he had to leave his home, and go to a place where he doesn&#8217;t even speak the language, to prevent Hugo Chavez from killing him.</strong></p>
<p>I watched as he Skyped his family through tears, asking them about the violence, and if they were OK.</p>
<p>He ended the call, thanked me for letting him be so loud, and said grinning (pointing at the laptop) &#8220;Isn&#8217;t this marvelous?&#8221;</p>
<p>Yes sir.  It is indeed pretty marvelous.</p>
<p>Please pray for my new 60-year-old friend, that he would be granted asylum, and that he and his family would be safe from a ruthless dictator.</p>
<p>It makes all my &#8220;productivity&#8221; seem pretty frivolous.</p>
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		<title>Was that a Tumbleweed? 3 Reasons I&#8217;ve Been Mysteriously Quiet.</title>
		<link>http://benandjacq.com/2011/08/was-that-a-tumbleweed-3-reasons-ive-been-mysteriously-quiet/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Aug 2011 16:28:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How does one go from a 5-times a week blogger for over three years to being the guy with the blog not updated in weeks? Simple: Turn his world upside down. When I was on staff with CCC, I used my internet presence to process life. I vented on the blog. I talked about the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>How does one go from a 5-times a week blogger for over three years to being the guy with the blog not updated in weeks?  Simple:</p>
<p>Turn his world upside down.<br />
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	<p class="wp-caption-text">Not that kind of upside down.  That actually looks pretty pleasant.  Creative Commons image courtesy of <a href='http://www.flickr.com/photos/notsogoodphotography/3580169323/' target='_blank'>notsogoodphotography</a>.</p>
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When I was on staff with CCC, I used my internet presence to process life.  I vented on the blog.  I talked about the hard parts about my job.  I made light of the silly things I did at my job.  I spent most of the time talking and writing about what I did on a daily basis: seek to reach people with the gospel in creative ways, and using the internet.</p>
<p>Now my job is to &#8220;connect people to their world&#8221; by selling mobile phones, internet, and TV solutions.  I am thoroughly a fish in water surrounded by smart phones and the latest technology.  And I am finding out that I REALLY enjoy customer service and sales.  It&#8217;s fun to see every customer as a puzzle.  They need to experience something memorable at the AT&#038;T store for me to feel like I&#8217;ve done my job.  </p>
<p>Sure, they primarily need a cell phone, or UVerse set up at their house, or a way to get internet access at work.  But I want them to receive not only that but to enjoy it.  If you aren&#8217;t smiling when you walk in, I want you to be smiling when you walk out.  My favorite transactions are ones where I clearly make money and provide for my family, but I also meet a need for the customer.  It&#8217;s a win-win.</p>
<p>So I love my new job.  But it&#8217;s not really conducive to producing experiences from which I can generate memorable content for my blog centered around missions and life.  Here&#8217;s the three main reasons:</p>
<p>1. <strong>I can&#8217;t blog about outreach in progress.</strong> &#8220;Hey pray for my coworker Billy, I&#8217;m pretty sure he wants to accept Christ.&#8221; It&#8217;s insensitive to Billy and counterproductive.<br />
2. <strong>I can&#8217;t vent about frustrations with my job or the structure of the company.</strong>  It is neither wise nor helpful to digitally bite the hand that feeds you.  Besides, I am overall very satisfied with my job.  And so I can&#8217;t blog about pay structure or the intricacies of working in a hybrid corporate/retail environment (I signed away that ability when I accepted the job)<br />
3. <strong>I&#8217;m learning discretion and patience.</strong>  This new season of life has been educational in so many ways.  I&#8217;m very thankful for it.  It&#8217;s just meant I either become the guy who just blogs about his kids (and nobody likes that guy) or I spend some time away, storing up good content for later.  </p>
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		<title>You can&#8217;t afford to hire based on a degree.</title>
		<link>http://benandjacq.com/2011/05/you-cant-afford-to-hire-based-on-a-degree/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2011 14:08:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you are in the business of hiring people to work for you, and the first filter you have is for a college degree, you might be costing yourself money, time, and the best applicants. The tried and seemingly-true line (sold thoroughly to us&#8211;by educators) is that the single most important thing you have to [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>If you are in the business of hiring people to work for you, and the first filter you have is for a college degree, you might be costing yourself money, time, and the best applicants.</p>
<p>The tried and seemingly-true line (sold thoroughly to us&#8211;by educators) is that the single most important thing you have to have to get hired is a college degree.  You have to go to college to get a good job.  To think otherwise is to go against the grain of popular thought for the past 50 years or so.  </p>
<p>And I certainly don&#8217;t mean to say that college is unimportant.  I won&#8217;t go see a dentist who hasn&#8217;t been to college.  There are many fields where a college degree is absolutely vital to getting hired.</p>
<p>But please don&#8217;t buy the lie that the degree is what makes someone (even a dentist) hirable.  Somebody who treated dental school like I treated my undergraduate degree should never touch the inside of a mouth.  I graduated using the &#8220;path of least resistance&#8221; method.  Find the classes that are the easiest, and get out with as little work as possible.  That person&#8217;s dental school degree doesn&#8217;t qualify them for hiring.</p>
<p>If you are in the business of hiring people, the first filter ought to be teachability.  Can the person be taught?  Sure, depending on the field you are hiring for, there are some things other than teachability that might rule out a person.  But a lack of teachability will always rule a person out.</p>
<p>The second filter needs to be integrity.  Take the person out to a middle-to-low-end restaurant for the interview, and see how they treat the server.  Take them to Starbucks (ahem) and see how they treat the barista.  Interviews are easy to fake.  Integrity is not.</p>
<p>No matter the size of your business, hiring people without teachability and integrity will kill it.  Even if they have a degree from Harvard.</p>
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		<title>The Municipal Broadband Bill: My take.</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 May 2011 14:05:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My Governor Bev Perdue has until midnight to veto H129, a bill that some are saying &#8220;protects the monopolies of second rate corporate ISPs at the expense of fast, cheap, local broadband.&#8221; I hope she doesn&#8217;t. In the interest of full disclosure, I do work for a corporation that provides high speed internet, but I [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>My Governor Bev Perdue has until midnight to veto H129, a bill that some are saying &#8220;protects the monopolies of second rate corporate ISPs at the expense of fast, cheap, local broadband.&#8221;  I hope she doesn&#8217;t.</p>
<p>In the interest of full disclosure, I do work for a corporation that provides high speed internet, but I want to make clear two things: (1) I held these views before I worked here, and (2) the views expressed in this post are mine alone, and unrelated to my employer or my employment.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m frustrated, as I&#8217;ve written before, that those on the opposing side of the debate are characterizing my position as a support of &#8220;big business&#8221; or &#8220;corporate monopolies.&#8221;  What I am against is a governmental monopoly.  Municipal broadband is broadband that doesn&#8217;t have to continue making a profit to continue to function.  Governments are fiscal nightmares, generally.  Instead of closing up show when they stop making money, they just continue to spend money they don&#8217;t have until our economy collapses.   &#8220;Big Business&#8221; on the other hand, makes a profit.  That profit is used to hire more people, provide healthcare to those people, provide income to those people, and make the economy grow.  (to call that a vast oversimplification would be itself a vast overstatement)</p>
<p>I understand that the same corporations are using those same profits to lobby government to pass legislation protecting their profits. (but can you blame them? Imagine someone entering your field, doing what you do, but for free, without having to make a profit to continue doing it.)  I&#8217;m not suggesting that I know the answer to the complex issues of corporate lobbies for government action. I&#8217;m only vaguely familiar with the issues in the first place. </p>
<p>Let&#8217;s start, though, by seeking to understand and debate the issues, not just the sound bytes.</p>
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		<title>Be Outstanding.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 27 Dec 2010 22:01:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Ever been amazed by technology? Imagine these sentences in the context of your grandparent&#8217;s childhood: &#8220;I just facetimed with my uncle in GA and wished him a Merry Christmas.&#8221; Or &#8220;I like to play scrabble on my phone with a guy I&#8217;ve never met who lives in Seattle.&#8221; Or &#8220;So last week I tweeted about [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Ever been amazed by technology?  Imagine these sentences in the context of your grandparent&#8217;s childhood:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I just facetimed with my uncle in GA and wished him a Merry Christmas.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Or</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I like to play scrabble on my phone with a guy I&#8217;ve never met who lives in Seattle.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Or</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;So last week I tweeted about how great the book QBQ is and the author wrote back and sent me a box full of free books.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>All three of those things happened to me, in the past few weeks.  The last one was particularly impressive to me.  </p>
<p>John Miller, author of <em>QBQ!</em>, <em>Flipping The Switch</em>, and his new book <em>Outstanding!</em> responded to a tweet of mine by going to my website, reading enough of it to know (at least) that my wife&#8217;s name is Jacq and is a Pampered Chef consultant, and found my email and shot me a message thanking me for the kind words about his book.  I responded and after a neat conversation he asked for my shipping address and sent me 4 free copies of his latest book (I told him I hadn&#8217;t read it yet) along with 4 each of his other books, and other assorted goodies (notepads, pens, etc).</p>
<p>And while he didn&#8217;t ask for it, I wanted to give him a shout-out for being so generous.  He truly practices what he preaches about personal responsibility.  </p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve not read it, QBQ was required reading for any student who wanted to be involved in a one-on-one discipleship relationship with me.  It&#8217;s short, to the point, and remarkable in it&#8217;s effectiveness.  I&#8217;ve read it now at least 3 times, and can&#8217;t recommend it highly enough.  I&#8217;ll be giving away those free copies that Mr Miller sent me (of it and the other books/goodies) in the next few weeks over at AssumeTheBest.info</p>
<p>Outstanding, his latest book, is geared toward organizations, and outlines in 47 brief chapters (the whole book clocks in at just 206 pages) the way to make any organization outstanding.  Predictably, I enjoyed the book.  (free ice cream tastes better)  But this book is well worth the price tag, if you are in management of any type or involved in leading others.  </p>
<p>Here&#8217;s why I think this book is so crucial, especially now.  In Chapter 40, entitled &#8220;Seek no Culprits,&#8221; Mr Miller lines out a principle that, if really grasped by many in our culture, would literally change the world.  As a culture we constantly look for someone to blame.  From 911 to Katrina response to school shootings to oil spills, every time there is a crisis, there has to be a fall guy.  What if instead of looking for a person to blame, we expended the same amount of energy making the situation better?  </p>
<p>Our entire insurance industry is built on the hypothesis that we are going to financially blame somebody when something goes wrong.  What if instead of blaming, we all just agreed to not seek culprits, to make sure that we make things right, and to accept blame personally for the results of our decisions?  There&#8217;d be no need for malpractice insurance or personal injury lawyers.  </p>
<p>If each of us, and the organizations of which we are a part, decided to not seek culprits, try and imagine the outcome!  We&#8217;d all turn the channel when the talking heads on Fox News and CNN start trying to find a politician to blame for the unemployment numbers, because that&#8217;s seeking culprits, and we aren&#8217;t interested in that.  We&#8217;d be too busy trying to fix unemployment numbers by giving people jobs cutting our grass or selling us coffee.  We&#8217;d almost completely tune out politicians in general, because 75% of what they say is seeking culprits (like the guy who just left office or the lobbyists or the red tape or the lack of red tape&#8230; they spend a lot of time talking about the culprits).  </p>
<p>Yeah, the idea of seeking no culprits catching on might be a really good thing.  It makes for outstanding organizations.</p>
<p>You know which organization I think is Outstanding?  John Miller&#8217;s.  Thanks for giving me the opportunity to give away such great stuff.  And for blowing me away with the power of technology.</p>
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		<title>Christmas Photos that Didn&#8217;t Make the Cut, Part 1.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Dec 2010 18:43:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have a proposal (see how I segued from last post with that? Amazing.) for Mike Rowe of &#8220;Dirty Jobs&#8221; fame. He needs to spend a day taking photos of young children for Christmas cards. It&#8217;d make him pine for the days of cleaning sewers and inseminating pigs. Yesterday we took 98 photos to get [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I have a proposal (see how I segued from last post with that?  Amazing.) for Mike Rowe of &#8220;Dirty Jobs&#8221; fame.  He needs to spend a day taking photos of young children for Christmas cards.  It&#8217;d make him pine for the days of cleaning sewers and inseminating pigs.</p>
<p>Yesterday we took 98 photos to get our ONE Christmas card photo.  I can&#8217;t show you that one until after the family/friends get it, because I&#8217;ve taken some justifiable heat in the past for people finding out things from a blog (like my son&#8217;s birth) that they thought should be found out other ways.</p>
<p>But I can show you some of the photos we aren&#8217;t going to be using.  Like this one.  Click to slightly enlarge.<br />
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	<a href="http://benandjacq.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/DSC_0402small.png"><img src="http://benandjacq.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/DSC_0402small.png" alt="" title="DSC_0402small" width="500" /></a>
	<p class="wp-caption-text">Some thought bubbles would be great on this one.  Oh for more time to post nonsense on my blog.</p>
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<p>I lobbied hard for this one to be the one we used, with some fun &#8220;fill in the blank&#8221; thought bubbles just above each head.  Maybe next year.</p>
<p>Just kidding.  I didn&#8217;t actually lobby.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll post some more rejects later on.  There&#8217;s some good stuff in those 97 other photos.</p>
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		<title>Happy (Diamond) Harbor Day.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Dec 2010 14:59:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[On this day in 1941, we got attacked by Japan. On this day in 2005, I drove 7 hours with a diamond ring in my pocket to &#8220;surprise&#8221; the woman of my dreams and propose. I sang a song I wrote, asked her to marry me, she said yes, and I turned back on the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>On this day in 1941, we got attacked by Japan.  </p>
<p>On this day in 2005, I drove 7 hours with a diamond ring in my pocket to &#8220;surprise&#8221; the woman of my dreams and propose.</p>
<p>I sang a <a href="http://benandjacq.tumblr.com/post/227142988/the-song-i-wrote-to-chronicle-our-14-hour-first">song I wrote</a>, asked her to marry me, she said yes, and I turned back on the UNC game.  It was not nearly as unromantic as it sounds.  I had driven 7 hours, and the game was almost over.  Didn&#8217;t she have people to call and squeal at over the phone?  How can I add to that conversation?  I held her hand&#8230; and watched Tyler Hansbrough&#8217;s freshman year unfold.</p>
<p>I&#8217;d do it all over again, babe (and I&#8217;d probably have to be persuaded not to turn the game back on.  Just putting that out there).  </p>
<p>Happy engagement day.  The Japanese drop bombs.  I drop diamonds. </p>
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		<title>More Gospel Lessons from Starbucks.</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Dec 2010 15:13:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;The lady in the car in front of you paid for yours.&#8221; It&#8217;s my favorite thing to say at work, these days. As the newly appointed official drive-thru guy at my Starbucks, I get to become an evangelist every time she comes through my line. I take the good news that a debt has been [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>&#8220;The lady in the car in front of you paid for yours.&#8221;</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my favorite thing to say at work, these days.  As the newly appointed official drive-thru guy at my Starbucks, I get to become an evangelist every time she comes through my line.  I take the good news that a debt has been paid, and I deliver it to the car behind her.  </p>
<p>Some people try and shoot the messenger.  One guy insisted that I take his money.  I pointed at the tip jar and said that if he wanted to put it in there, he was welcomed to, but that I couldn&#8217;t put it in my cash register.  &#8220;I don&#8217;t take handouts&#8221; were his exact words.  I explained that it wasn&#8217;t a handout, but a gift from the stranger in front of him.  He apparently wasn&#8217;t big on handouts OR gratuity, as he didn&#8217;t put the money in the tip jar either, but left upset that he couldn&#8217;t pay.  Really.</p>
<p>Most people are just excited.  Sometimes it starts an entire wave of paying it forward.  But it&#8217;s always fun for me, as the messenger.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s precisely what evangelism is*.  It&#8217;s in the root of the definition of the word.  An evangel in the ancient near-east was a messenger sent with news (usually of military victory) to share with people.  The most famous evangelist in history (the story goes) ran 26.2(ish) miles to Athens from the battle of Marathon, to announce that the Greeks had defeated the Persians (in a come from behind upset).  The point is, an evangelist is one who shares news that dramatically affects the hearers.  Either they are now slaves to the Persians, or free people.  </p>
<p>Either you owe me 4 bucks for your Café Mocha or you don&#8217;t.  The news affects you, but it&#8217;s not instruction, it&#8217;s just news.  The Athenians don&#8217;t have to do anything to be free people, not enslaved to the Persians.  </p>
<p>The guy who just had his cappuccino paid for doesn&#8217;t have to do anything but take the drink. (and he doesn&#8217;t even <em>have</em> to do that&#8230; his receiving it doesn&#8217;t change the fact that it&#8217;s paid for.)  </p>
<p>The good news is that his debt is paid, and there&#8217;s nothing he can do about it.</p>
<p>*all deep theological insights were directly stolen from Tim Keller.  Buy his books.  Seriously.</p>
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		<title>Evangelizing Your Neighborhood Barista: a Guide.</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Dec 2010 17:37:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Ben</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The other day, a guy handed me a tract through the window at Starbucks. His intro line went something like, &#8220;do you like riddles? here ya go!&#8221; and he pulled the tract from behind the sun visor on his beige sedan. After he had driven away, I pulled it out of my apron pocket, and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>The other day, a guy handed me a tract through the window at Starbucks.  His intro line went something like, &#8220;do you like riddles?  here ya go!&#8221; and he pulled the tract from behind the sun visor on his beige sedan.</p>
<p>After he had driven away, I pulled it out of my apron pocket, and the girl working with me said &#8220;Oh, that&#8217;s not a riddle.  It&#8217;s a Jesus thing.&#8221;  She made a face like she had taken a sip of curdled milk when she said &#8220;Jesus thing.&#8221;  </p>
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<p>Literally within minutes, a lady came in, and struck up a conversation with the same girl while she made her drink.  She gave about a 3 dollar tip, and casually mentioned that her and her friend would be praying in a few minutes, and asked if there was anything they could pray for her about.  My coworker politely declined, but later after those women had met, prayed, cleaned up very well after themselves, and left, she said to me &#8220;That was really neat that she asked me how they could pray for me.&#8221; </p>
<p>That&#8217;s how you open the door to share your faith with a barista at Starbucks.  </p>
<p>Both of those customers are regulars.  We are going to see them again.  In fact, today, the same girl was working with me when tract man came back through.  When I mentioned that he didn&#8217;t follow up with me about the riddle, my coworker said &#8220;Oh, I don&#8217;t think he really cares.  He just hands out those things to make himself feel better.&#8221;  What penetrating insight from my non-believing coworker.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not as harsh on the guy as she is.  I think his heart&#8217;s in the right place.  He really wants people to trust Jesus, and it&#8217;s scary initiating conversation with strangers.  So a tract about a riddle is what he uses.  And with a simple tweak to his intro line, I think he might become more effective in using the tract.  </p>
<p>If instead of &#8220;do you like riddles?&#8221; he went with <strong>&#8220;Hey, here&#8217;s a message that changed my life, condensed into an admittedly cheesy riddle.  I&#8217;d love to get your feedback on it.  I put my email at the bottom of it. I know I&#8217;ll see you tomorrow when I get my coffee, maybe we could briefly talk then.  Have a great day!&#8221;</strong> and put the tract inside of a 5 dollar tip, he&#8217;d have gotten my coworker&#8217;s attention without the soured-milk face.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not some anti-tract guy.  (Though some of them do absolutely no good for a postmodern-or-later context.  Telling somebody that they are a sinner without any sort of definition of terms is pretty useless, in my estimation.)  But the medium is already impersonal enough, don&#8217;t make it sound completely trivial with your intro.  </p>
<p>And maybe it&#8217;s time to retire the riddle tract.  Riddles are by definition questions that require intelligence, insight or ingenuity to answer.  <strong>The gospel is news that a child can hear and understand.</strong>  So, it&#8217;s almost the opposite of the answer to a riddle&#8211;it requires no extra intelligence, insight,or ingenuity to learn that Jesus died in my place.  </p>
<p>The good news is good enough all by itself.  No need to gimmick it up.  Here&#8217;s my question for you (reader): how did you come to Christ (if you have) and was a tract involved?  Comment below.</p>
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