The Wedding Gurus

Is a member of your bridal party making your wedding planning hell?

2015-08-17T21:53:00.002-07:00

So, you’ve got a member of your bridal party that is giving you hell and causing you grief on all sorts of levels. You chose them because you were friends or maybe it’s your cousin and your family wanted you to include her/him, but now all you want to do is get rid of them, but how? This is a more common situation than you might think. For some reason, much like any other highly emotional get-together, a wedding can stir up a lot of trouble in friendships and family situations and cause mixed emotions for all involved.

For a bride, having a difficult bridesmaid can range from someone who doesn’t seem interested, refuses to participate or just can’t make the time, to complaining about their dress, whining about costs and just plain rudeness. We all know that weddings are stressful enough without the added pressure of a strained relationship with someone who is supposed to be helping out and willing to stand beside you on the big day. When it’s a groomsman the same applies, but it can often mean they fail to show up, make rude comments or make fun of everything you try to do.

So, what do you do? How do you handle a situation where you’ve chosen someone to share this special day and all of the planning and fun with you (and possibly forked out money for accessories) and now they’re making it hell?

Well, here’s our tips.

1. First, make sure that you’re not overreacting. When you’re stressed and emotional, even the littlest things can seem big and important, when in fact they’re not. Write down what’s been happening and how you’re feeling about things and then run it by someone you trust will tell you the truth. If you’re being silly you need to be told, but if there are some real problems then at least you can be sure that the second opinion has confirmed it.

2. You need to consider how close you are to this person. If it is a sister or relative you may need to handle things differently than if it is a friend. The reality is that it is likely you will need to address the situation at some point and it could get hairy.

3. If the person causing the problem is very close to you eg, sister or best friend, are they dealing with anything at the moment that might be causing their behaviour. If they are, then it might be best to sit down and have a heart to heart about what’s going on and how to best move forward for both of you. It may mean that they have to pull out or need a little more understanding, but either way, at least it’s out in the open. If they’re not going through anything that you know of and just appear to be being difficult because of jealousy, laziness or some other unfair reason, then a harsher approach may need to be taken. Take them aside and tell them how you’re feeling. If, at the end of the conversation you’re not feeling any closer to resolving the issue then you may need to consider asking them if they would like to step down.

4. If the person causing the problem is a friend or distant relative, you might need to still gauge whether there is something going on with them, but then just come right out and say how you’re feeling. Explain that this is a big deal for you and that you’d like their support in making it fun and exciting for everyone. If they are unable to do that then you’ll have no choice but to ask them to step away.

Some final tips. Approach the person face to face and not over email or text. Body language says much more than words and you’ll know very quickly if their attitude is saying for you to stick it, or if they are genuinely interested in making it work.

My 12 Best Celebrity Wedding Dresses

2015-08-10T05:52:00.000-07:00

As a wedding planner myself I love nothing more than drawing inspiration from the weddings of celebrities.

Yes I love the glamour, the grandeur, the scandals but what I love most are the dresses! Sure their marriages usually don't last the test of time (some a mere 72 days might I add) however what you can always be sure of is their beautifully embellished, multilayered, silky, lacy glorious gowns which make you weak at the knees.

Whilst it has been a tough task I bring to you my top 12 best celebrity wedding dresses (of all time!).

Grace Kelly - 1956

Kate Moss - Vintage inspired gown by John Galliano

Kim Kardashian (Wedding 1) - Vera Wang

Kim Kardashian (Wedding 2... or is it number 3) - by Givenchy

Christina Ricci - Haute Couture Gown by Givenchy

Lauren Bush - by Ralph Lauren

Hillary Duff - by Vera Wang

Kyly Boldy - by Alex Perry

Holly Valance - by J'Aton Couture

Molly Sims - by Marchesa

Princess Claire Lademacher - by Elie Saab

Rebecca Twigley - by J'Aton Couture

Which is your favourite?

Yasmin xo

A Moment in Time - Weddings Adelaide SA

2015-07-22T06:12:00.001-07:00

Yasmin from A Moment In Time Event Planning and Hire shared with us some of her favourite wedding and event set-ups from this year. From gardens, beaches, wineries and private residences, Yasmin has created beautiful scenes all over South Australia that couples and guests rave about. From her showroom in Northern Adelaide, she specialises in theming and creating unique and memorable weddings and events.

You can check out her work at http://www.amomentintimehire.com/

The Worlds First Selfie Wedding

2015-06-22T00:27:00.001-07:00

Adrian and Kristy have attempted (and succeeded) in the ultimate journey, they eloped and embarked upon a journey to create possibly the worlds first selfie wedding.

Adrian being a photographer himself knew he was the best person for the job. With his camera stand and a remote control trigger in hand they ventured the beautiful landscapes of New Zealand, capturing stunning memories of their day. Their intimate adventure meant there were no guests and no suppliers, just Adrian, his wife and the beautiful quiet natural surrounds of Queenstown. They became so carried away in the enjoyment of their day they stayed out until 11.30pm, but the results speak wonders and we think their photos are a pure representation of love and romance at its finest.

See the full story here: http://www.9jumpin.com.au/show/today/videos/4296402663001/
More Image can be found following this link: http://www.elopepics.com/

#worldsfirstselfiewedding

Every bride needs a garter, right?

2015-05-12T00:17:00.002-07:00

HAND MADE IN MELBOURNE

BESPOKE WEDDING ACCESSORIES

Garters & Co. bespoke wedding accessories are created for every bride on her most special of days. At the heart of the collection are the handmade wedding garters, each lovingly hand-sewn in Melbourne. All of the garters are designed with the finest quality satin, lace and tulle available in Australia and then adorned with Swarovski Pearls, Crystals and the finest Rhinestones to create a beloved keepsake for the Bride to wear on her big day.

Melbourne’s Christine Arnaud is the talented seamstress behind Garters & Co. She noticed Brides were not offered much in terms of wedding garters – most were poor quality and made from second-rate imported materials. Christine knew that Brides want only the very best on their wedding day, from the dress and shoes right through to the wedding cake and bonbonerie. As someone who had been sewing since she was a young girl, she set out to create something better – and so Garters & Co. was born.

Elegant, delicate, striking, romantic – Garters & Co. have an assortment of designs for every Bride in a range of colours. Sourcing quality lace, tulle, satin, ribbon, pearls and rhinestones from Italy, France and Australia - each garter is custom-made to the Bride’s exact leg measurement to ensure a perfect fit. Garters & Co. know that every Bride is unique, and as such they offer hand made original garter designs in addition to their own range - Brides can work in with Christine to create the garter of their dreams. Garters & Co. also offers Bridesmaids Garters and Toss Garters.

Garters & Co. also design one-of-a-kind Bridal Flip Flops, a saviour for the Bride’s feet on her big day. After wearing those amazing high heels down the aisle, she needs a glamorous (and comfortable!) alternative to get her through the wedding reception. Garters & Co. Bridal Flip Flops have been carefully designed with a silky soft 5cm heel height to keep the Wedding Dress from dragging along the floor and expose just a brief glimpse of the Pearl & Rhinestone embellishment with each step. Slip in and out of them with ease, Bridal Flip Flops are perfect to dance the night away in comfort and class. Bridal Flip Flops are also available for Bridesmaids’ precious feet, and can be matched to any dress colour.

Check out what's on offer at www.gartersandco.com.au

Blog Tour for The Wedding Gurus writer, Susan Murphy

2015-04-11T20:00:00.000-07:00

A while ago we announced that one of our very own had just had a book released with Harper Collins.

Susan's book, Confetti Confidential: They Do, I Don’t was released in February with a second in the series out later this year.

Susan is one of the founding members of The Wedding Gurus and we wish her every success with her upcoming blog tour.

Susan will be on tour April 13-20 and you can find details at: http://www.clpblogtours.com/2015/03/review-tour-they-do-i-dont-confetti.html

You can grab your copy of the book from:

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/author/susanmurphyauthor

Harper Collins: http://www.harpercollins.com.au/9781460704998/confetti-confidential-they-do-i-don't

Kobo: https://store.kobobooks.com/en-US/ebook/confetti-confidential-they-do-i-don-t

Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/confetti-confidential-murphy-susan/1120641088?ean=9781460704998

and also on iTunes.

Here's the blurb to get you started.

How can you be a part of a couple’s big day when your own love life is crumbling? Her once happy life in tatters thanks to a cheating husband, lacklustre career and a wrinkling face, Viv no longer believes in love and happiness. In fact, she hates them both. The problem is that as a marriage celebrant, gleeful love is what she has to deal with every day. With 10 hilarious and tragic weddings (and a funeral) to get through before she can give up being a celebrant, can she prove that love and happiness are the pathetic hopes of the naive, or will fate intervene and show her that what she secretly craves could be right in front of her?

Please visit CLP Blog Tours for all the tour stops!

You can also connect with Susan at:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susanmurphyauthor?ref=hl
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SMurphyAuthor
Website: http://www.susanmurphyauthor.com/

Bridesmaid Colour Trends 2015

2015-03-07T00:03:00.000-08:00

Out with the frumpy ol' bridesmaid dresses with oversize sleeves, nasty drab colours and unflattering fit. Today brides spend a lot of time and effort when choosing the perfect bridesmaid dress. In the past brides worried that their bridesmaids would outshine them on the day and in turn choose something less eyecatching. The modern bride today however will look for fashion forward dresses, being influenced by trends of the celebrities and the red carpet.

We are loving some of the fresh colour choices in trend this season, with lilacs, mints and emeralds being a real favourite.

note: so I have got a little excited and my collection below is mostly made up of celebrities and couture gowns, a little on the expensive side yes.... but hey it doesn't hurt to dream xx

MINT

CREAM

EMERALD GREEN

LILAC

CORAL

Elie Saab Gowns

GREY

DUSTY BLUE

Yasmin xx

The Wedding of Yasmin and Matthew

2015-02-11T20:06:00.002-08:00

1 year, 2 months and 10 days ago I married my my wonderful husband Matthew.

I cannot believe I have let all this time fly by without sharing with you, our beautiful readers, the special highlights of our amazing day.

As you may already know, whilst I am a co-writer for The Wedding Gurus, I also own a event hire and planning company. Ok so I can all hear you thinking I would have been cool calm and collected when it came to decorating my own day, this certainly wasnt the truth. I must have changed my mind on what I wanted 100 times over. Looking back now, whilst I have no regrets and wouldnt change a thing, I still have moments where I wish I had done something differently. With the ever changing wedding industry and the constant inspiration we are all exposed to from social media (pinterest anyone), wedding trends are forever changing and evolving and you are always left thinking, oh I wish I had known this when I got married! My advice... before you get all tied up in the finer details (which seem like the be all or end all of the world at the time) remember why you are planning your special day the most important things that make up a wedding, if nothing else, is the bride and groom and the love they share, your celebrant who you need to make things official and all your beautiful family and friends to share the memory with - all other elements are a bonus.

With that said, I bring to you our glorious day filled with the happiest memories of my life!

For the bridesmaids dresses, I was inspired by Miley Cyrus 2010 Oscar Red Carpet Dress

Remembering Matthews dad who had sadly passed

We walked down the aisle to ' At Last - Etta James' sung live with guitarist

Boys will be boys

We made a quick trip to the hospital to visit my sick grandfather

Reception Venue: John Di Fede Adelaide

With a quick hair and dress change (me not Matthew) we danced our way into the venue
Dress: Henry Roth Design

Matthew presented me with 9 red roses for the 9 years we have been together and 1 white rose for the year we were married

My Wedding Favors

2015-02-01T22:14:00.001-08:00

Some couples find choosing a wedding favor one of the most difficult tasks when planning their wedding. Im going to share with you some tips in making this process easier... and maybe even a little enjoyable.

Choose something practical. Can your guests use the item after the wedding or will it become another dust collector on their shelf?

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Choose a favor that represents you as a couple. You may like to choose something that is personal to you as a couple. Perhaps you met at a coffee shop, a set of short black coffee glasses would be perfect... and tick the box of something practical also!

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Everyone loves an edible favor. Your guests will love a tasty treat - and im not talking sugar coated almonds either.

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Does the item fit your theme? If you are having a rootin-tootin cowboy theme? Then choose a wedding favor that represents this.

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Budget ( I bet your sick of hearing that word!). Yes you must consider your budget when choosing a wedding favor. Try to choose something that can be used by the couple, that way you are not buying a per person male / female gift - instead you are buying something they can share.

I love the range of wedding favors from www.myweddingfavors.com - check them out for some inspiration!

Yasmin xx

'Confetti Confidential - They Do, I Don't'

2015-01-25T02:55:00.000-08:00

Some time ago we shared some exciting news on the blog, that one of our writer's, Susan, had scored a publishing deal with Harper Collins for her fun and cheeky Chick-Lit novel.

Well, after lots of hard work and many months of planning, we're excited to announce that February 1st is the big day!

Susan has been a writer on this page since the beginning, so please take a look at 'Confetti Confidential - They Do, I Don't' and let us know what you think. We've added an excerpt and a cute video trailer to give you a sneak peek.

If you want to find out more, visit her website at http://www.susanmurphyauthor.com/

You can order the book on iTunes and Amazon or from the Harper Collins website: http://www.harpercollins.com.au/9781460704998/confetti-confidential-they-do-i-don't

Enjoy!
x

Excerpt from Chapter 3

The Wedding of Cadence and Christian

(The Chips)

“Where the hell are you, Viv? Everyone’s waiting.”

“Tom, I’m stuck on Direk Rd behind the slowest drivers in the world. I’ll be there in ten minutes.”

“Jesus, the groom’s freaking out and his mother is having a fit.”

“Oh, bloody hell, hang on – Moooooooooove,” I shouted out the window, waving my fist.

“Why the hell are they all looking at me like I’m a crazy person? They are seriously going, like, ten kilometres an hour.”

Silence filled the phone line as my breathing increased to a pant.

“Viv? You there?”

“Oh no, oh my God, Tom, I’m going to hell.”

“What? What’s wrong? Don’t hyperventilate while you’re driving.”

“Oh Tom, I’m going to hell, those ‘idiots’ I’ve been swearing and waving my arms at…”

“What? Was there an accident?” The pitch of his voice had elevated.

“No, it’s a funeral procession, and I just cut off the hearse! That’s it, I’ve had it! Cancel the wedding. I’m not coming because I’m going to throw myself off the nearest bridge. Tell them I died.”

“Okay, deep breaths, calm down and just get here when you can,” he pleaded. “I’ll cover for you, I’ll make something up. Just relax, you’re heading for a nervous breakdown.” His tone was stern but gentle. “I’ll be right here with you. You’ll be fine, we’ll get through it.”

“Okay,” I grunted. Everything won’t be fine. I’m not fine.

“No stops on bridges,” he insisted “I’ll be here waiting for you.”

To my relief, the bride was running forty minutes late anyway. Tom had calmed the groom and his mother by explaining that I was merely in the carpark rehearsing my ceremony and awaiting the bride’s arrival. He calmed me with a swig from his hip flask.

“I love you,” I said, downing the amber liquid that soothed my tingling nerves.

When the pink and white Cinderella-inspired carriage drew to a halt at the top of the path, Cadence’s arrival was met with gasps from the gathered guests. Christian was already bawling his eyes out.

“She’s here,” I said with a little clap, trying to get him to pull himself together.

As the music began and the carriage doors opened, the gorgeous Cadence emerged smiling. The gasps, however, soon turned to shrieks of horror as she lost her footing on the carriage step and planted face first into the concrete. Christian, giddy with nerves and fright had to be seated on one of the chairs as everyone else rushed to poor Cadence’s aid. She bounced back to her feet and I clasped my hand over my mouth.

You’re awful, what an awful thing to do, to laugh at the poor girl falling. But I couldn’t contain myself. I’d always had trouble not giggling when someone fell over or banged into something. I patted Christian and then headed to the drinks table to get him some water.

My eyes immediately sought out Tom, who was helping the unfortunate girl’s father brush her off. Stunned and slightly bleeding from the bridge of her nose, Cadence took her position on her father’s arm. By the time she reached Christian she had composed herself and dabbed the blood from her grazed nose. I had to give her credit, she was one tough cookie. Christian on the other hand was a complete mess.

“Do you, Mr Chips …”

I couldn’t believe they were actually making me say that out loud.

“…Take Ms Chips to be your lawful wedded wife?”

“I do,” he sobbed.

“And do you Ms Chips, take Mr Chips to be your lawfully wedded husband?”

Cadence hesitated for longer than expected. As she looked into Christian’s eyes, her smile fading, I wondered if she was seeing the life that she would have with him. He hadn’t rushed to her aid when she fell from the carriage, he’d taken care of himself first. And there he stood, crying like a baby. I watched as the implications of what she was about to do seemed to consume her. Would he protect her? Would she end up just having to do everything for him like a mother instead of a partner? Was she remembering past loves, stronger men who had made her feel safe, and wondering if she had chosen wisely?

Cadence looked at all the loving friends and family that had gathered to support them today, and as she turned her attention back to Christian, her expression told me that she had made her decision.

“I do,” she beamed, squeezing Christian’s hands.

I let out the breath I had been unintentionally holding, feeling bad for secretly hoping she would walk away. I wondered where I’d be today if I’d walked away. I would have travelled, definitely, and probably gotten a degree. But I wouldn’t have the kids, and I wouldn’t change that for anything.

As the guests swarmed on the happy couple to offer their congratulations, Tom and I fell to the back and swigged from the flask.

“Did you see that face plant?” He laughed. “I nearly had a heart attack.”

“That poor girl.” I tried to maintain a serious face, but as Tom flicked through the photos on his digital screen, the images of poor Cadence’s contorted face as she lost her footing brought tears of laughter that refused to be stifled.

“No more, it’s so mean and I’m going to wet myself,” I warned Tom, which, of course, only made him laugh more. “I’m glad she was okay. She was so courageous, I really like her. Most would have cried and made a big scene, but she just got on with it.”

“I give it a year,” he waved, as he set off to take thousands of happy smiling pictures that would get stuffed in a drawer somewhere and never looked at. Mine were in a box in the shed. Fitting really.

Photobooth Inspiration

2014-11-04T19:40:00.001-08:00

Photobooths are a huge trend at weddings today, they are a fun activity for your guests and a great memory for everyone who gets to enjoy the photos for years to follow.

We are in love with the open air photobooths, where you are able to create a little setting that represents you as a couple. We encourage you be as unique and creative as you like, include backdrops, chairs and props - dont forget to hire a photographer or ask a friend to capture the fun shots. We have gathered our favourite pictures from the web for your inspiration.

Exciting News!

2014-10-25T01:04:00.001-07:00

The team at The Wedding Gurus have certainly been busy!!! And boy do we have some great news.

Writer and page manager Yasmin (as you may know she got married last year) is pregnant with her first little bundle of joy.

As a writer for the blog, Yasmin is already super busy as owner and manager of a wedding and event hire company, "A Moment In Time Event Planning and Hire' (who, we might add, recently won first place in the Australian Bridal Industry awards for Best Wedding and Event Hire.)

If you want to have a peek at some of the wonderful work she does, check out her website or Facebook. http://www.amomentintimehire.com/

We wish her all the best and can't wait to meet the little one when He/She arrives in March 2015.

Another of our staff writers, Susan, also has some wonderful news. As an aspiring fiction writer and marriage celebrant, Susan has just landed a contract with Harper Collins for her novel 'Confetti Confidential'.

As a team we love to celebrate the achievements of everyone in our network, so look out for Susan's book when it's released in February 2015!

The Wedding Gurus
xxx

RELAX! A Meditation for Brides

2014-10-02T22:55:00.001-07:00

The amount of stress experienced by many brides is alarming. Dealing with bridal parties, dresses, seating arrangements and family 'issues' can take it's toll on what is meant to be the most exciting and beautiful event of your life.

At The Wedding Gurus we know exactly just how this can make you feel. Tired, fed up and glad to get it all over with.

Rather than let the piling stress get to you, take a few minutes to sit back in a comfy place, close your eyes and RELAX, with our 5 minute meditation.

Go one, do it!

Forget-Me-Not Clipart

2014-09-17T00:05:00.002-07:00

Deborah Hartl, is the passionate designer and creator behind 'Forget-Me-Not Clipart'. We were absolutely mesmerised by her handmade hairpiece collection and know you will be too. With a bridal selection to suit all hairstyles we hope you enjoy our selected favourites to follow. Be sure to visit Deborahs website forgetmenotclipart.com to see the full range.

5 ways to tie a chair sash

2014-08-26T20:52:00.000-07:00

There are many ways to tie a chair sash for your wedding or event. We bring you our top 5 set by step ways in the instructional video to follow:

A Celebrant's Life

2014-08-06T02:41:00.001-07:00

Written by Susan Gallina

Being a Civil Celebrant for the past eight years has afforded me the wonderful opportunity to play a role in many ceremonies including weddings, baby naming and funerals.

This experience has, over the years, taken me to some weird and wonderful places and allowed me to briefly get to know many unique and interesting couples. One of the best things about this job is working with a young couple to create their wedding ceremony and then, to my delight, when they call me back for a naming ceremony for their first born, then second and sometimes third and fourth. It is always heart-warming to remember the two people that stood before their family and friends to commit to each other and to then see them, sometimes a few years later, raising their own child or children, and how it has all changed.

I’ve had the very good fortune to visit many beautiful and hidden places in South Australia, from far North to far South and of course the Adelaide Hills, but when an old friend asked me to conduct her wedding ceremony at a resort in Thailand I thought all my Christmases had come at once!. It was a fabulous experience and a wonderful holiday for all of us that made the trip. The bride walked the grassy, flower lined aisle at sunset, to a backdrop of the bluest ocean, and we partied on the very edge of the beach at a formal sit down reception, watching the candle lit paper lanterns float away into the distance.

I honestly believed that this couldn’t, and never would be, topped until recently when I was asked to fly to Brisbane for a wedding that was to take place on board the P & O Cruise ship, Pacific Dawn. When asked if I was available and willing to do it, I think the actual words that came out of my mouth were “Is the Pope Catholic? Yes of course I’ll do it.”

Sadly, I wasn’t going to set sail with them, but would get to board, spend the day on the ship to look around and relax, before conducting the ceremony and disembarking.

Plans were made and permissions sought and soon enough we set off for sunny Brisbane (My husband decided to tag along and make a weekend of the opportunity to have a short break).

On the day of the ceremony, the wharf was packed with hundreds of passengers eagerly waiting to go through customs and board the ship.

I wondered if I’d ever get on until one of the crew came charging through the crowd waving at me, yelling “come with me, I’ll take you straight through to the priority boarding entrance.” ( I would have felt quite privileged if not for the death stares I was getting from the people, impatiently waiting in the exceptionally long and pushy line, as I breezed on through).

I was taken to the Captains private meeting room, where the ceremony was to take place to lay out the documents etc and then led to the bar area for coffee and nibbles while a lovely 3 piece band played. (Loving it at this point!)

As the wedding guests all continued to board and the ceremony time drew near, the event planner led me back to the room to begin.

The view from the very front room of the ship was breathtaking as the groom took his position, and the bride entered, along with their two small boys.

When the ceremony was finished, I was escorted off the ship as it set sail for a seven day cruise. (I was wishing I had hidden in a cupboard).

We spent the next three days in Brisbane, enjoying the warm weather and all the interesting things the city had to offer as well as catching up with family.

With any luck, I’ll be invited to do another one some day!

A Tradition from Romania

2014-07-07T19:51:00.000-07:00

There are a treasure trove of rituals and traditions that originate from Romania and people from different regions practice these in varied forms. The important ceremonial rituals practiced as part of a wedding is heavily dependant upon which region the couple come from.

One ritual/tradition that we came across takes place in the hours leading up to the wedding when the bride is preparing for the day. While she is dressing, the bridesmaids and best friends all gather and assist her. This is a very important part of the preparation and can be a very emotional and moving moment for the bride and those closest to her.

Song of the Bride:

Say goodbye bride to your mother, to your father

To your sisters, to your brothers, to your garden with flowers

To your friends and neighbours, to the games or lover

Cry bride, today is the day

It's time to forget your father and love your husband

To forget your mother and to love your mother- in- law

To forget about your sisters and to love your sisters-in-law

You will go with your husband and you will leave behind everything you had.

As they prepare her for her ceremony a song, "Say farewell bride to your family and house"- "Ia-ti mireasa ziua buna" is played and with an overflow of emotion, is often accompanied by tears and embraces from all present. We found a rough translation of the lyrics:

Today with many couples living together before they are married, much of this significance can be lost, but for those who are coming from their parents home to join their husband in a new home and a new life, this rite of passage is still very special.

What Does Your Wedding Photographer Want to Know From You?

2014-06-25T20:39:00.000-07:00

Planning a wedding is one of those experiences that will be forever remembered. You'll recall the moment you found the perfect dress, the day you and your significant other agreed on the venue, and the second you chose your wedding photographer for those picture perfect moments. The latter is one of the most important of these moments, because those pictures are going to be what really keeps your memory sharp.

Once you’ve chosen your wedding photographer they will usually ask to meet with you to run through some questions, and you may be wondering what it is they want to know. Here we take you through some of the bases they’ll cover, so you can be ready with the answers that best reflect what you want from your wedding photography.

The Family Dynamic

One of the first things that your wedding photographer will want to know from you is your family dynamic. This includes biological family and in-laws. The reason it is important to inform your photographer of your family dynamic is that most pictures taken will include family, and when there is a negative feeling between family members, the entire photograph can be ruined. So, to mitigate this issue, the photographer will be able to be more selective in who stands in a photo and who does not. Also, when mentioning family dynamic, explain which individuals you'd like in certain photos and any standard family photos that you'd like.

What is Your Style

One of the most important things a photographer will ask is what style of photography you have in mind for your wedding photos, and whether you think their portfolio is a good fit for you. You may have chosen the photographer on the basis of price or because they’re a friend or a friend, but it is important to them, and to you, that you actually take the time to look through their past work and make sure you’re happy with their style – because every photographers’ work will be different. Choose some of their photos that you really like the style of so they know along what lines you’re thinking, and if you come across a photo in a magazine, online or even an old family snap that you love, bring them along – the more reference you can provide the better.

Customary or Religious Considerations

The photographer will want to know about the ceremony side of your wedding and any customs or considerations they should be aware of. If they have experience in the type of ceremony you will be having, whether it’s Catholic, Hindu, Greek, Jewish etc., they may also be able to provide you with some insight into considerations that you may not have thought of. For example, many Catholic brides and grooms are not aware that some Catholic celebrants are not comfortable having a photographer circling the bride and groom or stepping onto the altar and causing distractions during the sacrament of marriage. Therefore they must first get permission from their celebrant before inviting a photographer into the ceremony. The more information you can give the photographer, the smoother your day will run – the last thing they want to do is step on any toes or make a faux-pas!

The Venue

In many cases, wedding photographers want to know what to expect when attending a venue. The venue is an extremely important element for photographers to take into consideration – it allows them to plan for lighting requirement as well as brainstorm some creative ideas based on surroundings.

Specifics of the Wedding Day

The photographer will understand the extent of careful planning going into your wedding day, and they’ll want to make sure they fit themselves in seamlessly with the itinerary you have in mind, rather than dictate it for you. To make things easier for the photographer and to allow him or her to do their job, one thing you should do is provide the itinerary and also let them know what specific moments you want to be photographed. This could include after the meal, during dancing, before the ceremony, during the ceremony, and so forth. Being clear about what you want is the best way to go about the process.

The Best Man or Bridesmaid

The next thing to cover is preparation for the photographs. While you can provide as much detail as possible about ‘who’s who’ in the family, the photographer won’t know you or your guests well enough to round up the right group or find Aunt Millie in the bathrooms. As well as this, during the course of taking the pictures someone might need something held, something moved, hair fixed or dress trains moved. While the photographer can direct, he or she cannot take charge of holding things while taking the photograph. So, one thing the photographer will want to know is if you have someone who can help you out during these instances – usually the best man or bridesmaid. It will make the photographer's job easier and it will create a more relaxed environment for better photographs.

About the Author

Anna-Nicole Del Re is a professional photographer and the Marketing & Operations Manager at Viva Photography, a leading Wedding and Portrait photographer in Perth Western Australia and Melbourne Victoria. Connect with Anna-Nicole on Google+.

Horrific Wedding Cakes

2014-06-20T18:54:00.000-07:00

We had a huge response from our "Weird World of Strange Bizarre Wedding Cakes" post a few years back, its obvious our readers like a good laugh. Each to their own we know... but some of these wedding cakes are just horrific!

This Jabba Wedding Cake looks a little like a poo

"Yoda One For Me"

Kimye Wedding Sneak Peak

2014-06-11T20:28:00.000-07:00

E! Online have given us an exclusive on Kim and Kanyes wedding day. Official pics and write up to follow from us in the coming weeks, for now you can read all the goss on
E! exclusive

A precious gift for a priceless friendship

2014-06-09T19:49:00.002-07:00

Thank your bridesmaids with Australian opals

The amount of time, money and effort your bridesmaids have invested in making your wedding a memorable event is absolutely priceless.

Having true friends who are willing to put up with your emotional outbursts and planning dramas for months is a true blessing when you’re a bride. Friends who have the patience to debate hydrangeas vs freesias for the bouquets; spending Saturdays driving around with you to find the perfect veil ... well, only soul mates will do that for you.

While wedding etiquette dictates these and more are just some of your bridesmaids’ informal duties during the lead-up to your special day, the truth is that bridesmaids today usually go far beyond traditional expectations to make your day memorable.

Throughout weeks and months of trials and tribulations, these special ladies can become your colour consultants, fashion advisers, design gurus, food critics and every now and then, your counselors, too. There’s no doubt that your bridesmaids’ untiring support and affection deserve a lot more than just a hug and a kiss on the cheek when it’s all over.

Give whole-hearted thanks with a unique gift

Besides being an honour and an opportunity to spend endless hours of fun plotting a wedding event with their best friend, becoming a bridesmaid is a long term commitment of their time and, very often, their finances. So when it’s the bride’s turn to express your gratitude, don’t cut corners.

Many brides treat their bridesmaids to a special girls’ night out close to the wedding day itself, using the occasion to finally relax and show appreciation for their help. It can also be the ideal time to personally reward them with a special gift.

The more personal that gift, the better. Jewelry is a popular choice as a bridesmaid thank you present. Opal stones in jewelry, by their nature, ensure that each gift is unique – a one-off symbol representing a one-of-a-kind friendship.

A symbol of appreciation from Mother Nature

For Australian brides, opal jewelry will not only add a stylish, contemporary touch to your gift but it will afford you the option to match the design and type of stone to each of your bridesmaids’ taste, sense of fashion, and personality.

Not unlike your friends, every one of these rare Australian gems are, quality gifts designed by Mother Nature to be passed on to future generations. Opals are not only rare because they display such vibrant, swirling colours. Found in three isolated area in the Australian outback, opals command prices similar to the finest emeralds, rubies and diamonds.

Opals can also be matched to a person’s characteristics and are said to even accentuate or improve some of the aspects of their lives. Legend has it that Common Opal, for instance, stimulates feelings of self-worth and helps improve relationships; Boulder Opal boosts mental lucidity, spiritual progression and enhances emotional security.

Selecting the perfect opal gift

Almost every wedding budget becomes stretched and challenged, the closer you get to your big day, but the good news for brides is you’ll find the right opal jewelry to present as thank you gifts, no matter how much or how little money you still have available to spend.

At Opals Australia, for example, you’ll find elegant and eye-catching contemporary pieces that make ideal gifts, from just $100. You’ll be able to consider your bridesmaids’ fashion sense with the piece’s design – whether casual or formal – and meet their preference for a setting in either silver or gold.

Whether your bridesmaids prefer pendants to earrings or a bangle to a bracelet, contemporary opal jewelry ranges will surprise you with their fashionable looks. When you’ve made your choices, take the time to include a hand-written personal letter to accompany your thank you gift and you’ll take a place in your friends’ hearts for good.

Modern range with something for everyone

Bracelets

Your maid-of-honour is the person who’s seen you through many highs and lows. She deserves a real treat and a special token of your appreciation. So, if your budget allows it, a sterling silver light opal doublet bracelet (as shown, for $498) – or a similar elegant bracelet from the Opals Australia range – is a fabulous way to give well-deserved thanks with style.

Rings

A gift of this exquisite Light Opal Doublet Ring is an ideal representation of your commitment to each other as friends. Just like the bond made by exchanging rings during your wedding ceremony, this piece demonstrates how you and your bridesmaid are bound by eternal friendship. This fashionable design is one of many in the range that is fresh, fun and versatile.

Earrings

At $128, these chic drop earrings are a quality addition to a friend’s collection and a gift your earring-loving friend will treasure. This contemporary design features a slice of precious light crystal opal enhanced by bonding ironstone to the back to give the stone a black or ‘boulder’ opal look. Perfect for either casual or formal wear, these earrings suit a vibrant personality who enjoys a dash of style.

Pendants

Your bridesmaids are sure to adore this contemporary and cheeky fishbone design, one in the extensive range of opal pendants at Opals Australia ($108). Your bridesmaid can wear this bright and eye-catching piece formally or informally, as well as to work. The solid inlay light crystal opal pendant will be a conversation piece everywhere she goes.

Opals: a busy bride’s solution to saying ‘Thank You’ with style

Making the final decision on any aspect of your wedding plans is a relief that lets you move on to the next item on your full list of tasks. Selecting contemporary opal jewelry as bridesmaid gifts is a choice that won’t fail to satisfy all requirements – budget, taste and personal care.

Opals Australia

For classic and unique mementos of your wedding that reflect your gratitude towards those truly special friends, visit the Opals Australia website. Browse through their modern opal jewelry designs any time it suits your busy schedule. You can even buy direct, online, with free and secure shipping provided for orders valued at over $200.

Attention Australian Celebrants

2014-06-05T21:02:00.000-07:00

Australian celebrants do not miss this opportunity to do you Ongoing Professional Development with our very own Susan Gallina and The Gordon TAFE.

OPD can be a task that every busy Celebrant dreads for the simple fact that we are all so time poor, but if it's a great topic and something that will help you reach potential clients, then it's definitely worth the time.

Don't miss getting in early for Susan's 3 hour session on 'Creating and Maintaining a Social Media Presence' (And also includes a further compulsory 2 hour unit.)

If you've ever wanted to master social media and learn how to do it efficiently and effectively, then this is the course for you.

Check out the dates below and register by emailing COURINFO@gordontafe.edu.au.

You will be contacted within the next two business days to confirm the enrolment and payment process.

Or call (03) 5225 0800 for enrolment enquiries.

Sydney, CBD	Package 9 Compulsory activity 2014 (compulsory legal module) • Creating and maintaining a social media presence	Sun 27/07/2014 10am - 3.30pm
Adelaide, Novar Gardens	Package 9	Thurs 19/6/2014 4pm – 9:30pm
Perth, Northbridge	Package 9	Sun 14/09/2014 10am - 3.30pm
Gold Coast, Currumbin	Package 9	Sun 2/11/2014 10am - 3.30pm
Adelaide, CBD	Package 13 Compulsory activity 2014 (compulsory legal module) • Presentation skills • Evaluating your service	Sun 7/12/2014 10am - 3.30pm

Real Weddings: Caitlin and Jason

2014-05-26T21:34:00.001-07:00

When a wedding is as refreshing and unique as Caitlin and Jasons we cannot help but share it. Filled with soft nude tones complimented by yellow and green, their gorgeous day is a readers delight.

Makeup: Trish Sousa

Hair: Emma at Hennesy Lane Hair Design http://www.hennesylane.com.au/

The Pavilion - Fitzroy Gardens VIC http://www.thepavilionfitzroygardens.com.au/

Wedding Dress: Melissa and Georgia at Simonelli Bridal Couture http://www.simonellicouture.com/
Men’s suits: Trenery

Flowers: Cobi at Flowers of Canterbury http://flowersofcanterbury.com.au/
Shoes: Alan Pinkus

Photographer: Alan and Karen at Finessence Photography http://www.finessence.com.au/

Performing a unity candle ceremony

Wedding Rings: Anton Jewellers

Wedding Cake: Michelle at House of Elegant Cakes http://www.houseofelegantcakes.com.au/

10 Ways a Modern Wedding is Completely Different to a Traditional Ceremony

2014-05-18T19:50:00.000-07:00

You're getting married? That's awesome, but, it's 2014 in-case you haven't seen the calendar. Weddings are different now, and although mothers, grand and not-so-grand, are dragging hundreds of years of tradition into most weddings, your marriage is a modern one, so your wedding should be a modern wedding.

Here's ten ways that weddings are totally different now. Hi mums, sorry.

1. Most weddings don't happen at 3pm on Saturday anymore.

From the wedding bookings I see, more and more weddings are happening outside of 3pm Saturday, the old school traditional time of bridal bliss. The new popular times are 5pm Saturday, 9am Sunday, 11am Saturday and 5pm Friday. Tuesday, Thursday and Monday are becoming crazily popular as well!

It’s just a reflection of modern society where a good handful of the population don't work Monday to Friday, 9-5 anymore. Shift workers, hospitality and retail workers, the self-employed and people that just have really cool jobs can get any old time off to party.

2. Weddings are being celebrated outside of (gasp) wedding venues! (gasp)

The rising trend is to celebrate your wedded bliss in venues that aren’t your traditional wedding venues, golf courses and function rooms. Look out for more art galleries, warehouses, concert venues, backyards, restaurants and parks on wedding invites this year.

3. Not everyone’s exchanging rings

Some people don't like rings. They're exchanging other things, and some people aren't exchanging anything except for their undying love.

4. Only 28% are religious

72% of all weddings being celebrated in Australia this year will be officiated by a civil marriage celebrant.

Please don't confuse celebrant with celibate.

5. You've got the power

There is no “standard wedding” or normal layout today. Where it happens, when it happens, whether you take photos before or after, or anything like that, it’s all up to you. You have the power as you plan your wedding in 2014!

6. Wives are taking their husbands names again

This is a trend that comes, then goes, then comes again. We're on the rise at the moment, with most wives wanting to join their husband not only on a marriage certificate but also with the same last name.

Though one couple last year saw the husband take the wife's last name!

7. 100% (of my) brides and grooms already live together

This comes purely from my records, but 100% of the brides and grooms I married last year, and this year, live together already. Don’t tell your priest!

8. Weddings are no longer weddings, they're actually marriage-starting-parties

The word wedding arrives on your doorstep wanting to stay for a few months and brings with it more baggage than that weird friend from high school that just broke up with her boyfriend and needs a place to crash.

Stop planning a wedding, start planning a party to celebrate the beginning of your marriage!

9. Guest lists are getting smaller than ever

The average guest list 10 years ago was more than 120 people. Today I’m surprised if I see a wedding with more than 40-50 people. Everyone knows that it costs and people don't get offended as much when they're not invited to your wedding. Its’ totally ok to not fill an A4 piece of paper with a guest list. Heck, most of my family didn't come to my wedding!

10. Weddings are freaking cool, today

Weddings used to be horrifying. Now they're not. Get amongst it and plan an awesome wedding!

Josh Withers is a wedding celebrant with offices in Brisbane, Sydney and Gold Coast. Find out more about a different wedding ceremony at marriedbyjosh.com

Josh Withers - Marriage Celebrant

Get the perfect smile in time for your wedding day

2014-05-08T19:39:00.001-07:00

Common Cosmetic Dental Treatments

From your skin to the last hair on your head, all the way to your manicured fingertips, you want to look flawless on one of the most important days of your life. You’ve made sure your dress fits perfectly and that every detail is coordinated to take your groom’s breath away.

But what about the most important white accessory you’ll be wearing – your smile?

You’ll be grinning from ear to ear from morning to night on your wedding day and your smile will be captured in hundreds of formal and informal photographs over many blissful hours, inspiring memories for years to come.

Every bride deserves a beautiful smile to compete with her stunning gown and also to feel confident enough to wear it all day long. Are there aspects of your smile you would like to improve before your big day? Depending on how much time you have to prepare, there are several cosmetic dental treatments available to have you wearing a ‘Hollywood Smile’ on your big day.

One-hour whitening

In just one visit, your dentist can whiten your teeth by up to several shades. Removing these deep-set stains makes your smile look younger and healthier in just an hour. Heavy stain from coffee, tobacco, tea or red wine is naturally lifted from the pores of the teeth thanks to professional grade whitening gels and amplifying lights.

Dental veneers

Veneers have the most potential when it comes to dramatic smile makeovers. Each porcelain veneer is created to make your smile look straighter, whiter and is shaped the way you want it to be. Results are instant. Typically, two appointments are needed; the first for preparation and the second visit is made two weeks later for bonding the veneers in place over your natural teeth.

Clear braces

Do you have beautiful teeth but they’re just out of alignment? Clear braces are a great way to reposition your teeth into the perfect smile. They’re comfortable to wear, easy to care for and you can take them out anytime (such as during meals.) Most treatments last six to 12 months, so you have plenty of time to complete your braces before your wedding day without having to worry about wearing metal braces during any portraits. Unlike traditional braces, invisible braces typically require fewer appointments, making them perfect for busy brides (or grooms) to-be.

Professional home whitening

Take home whitening kits made by your dentist can provide dramatic whitening results you can achieve on your own time without having to visit the dentist’s office. These kits use custom-fitted trays for even whitening without tissue irritation. Their high-grade gel removes more stain than over-the-counter alternatives. Having a set tailored to your teeth takes just a quick appointment for an impression, ready in around a week for pick-up. Allow one to two weeks of home-use to achieve your completed whitening results.

Bonding

If a few minor tooth discrepancies bother you, like a chipped tooth or a small gap between your teeth, then composite bonding is a great option. Bonding uses tooth-coloured filling material to reconstruct the tooth or fill in gaps between the teeth so the teeth look healthy. Be sure to whiten your teeth first, as bonding is permanently matched to the natural colour your enamel at the time of the treatment.

Smile with confidence on your wedding day

If you’re still not sure which option or combination of treatments is right for you in the available planning time, schedule a consultation with your dentist today to discuss what aspects of your smile you would like to improve. There may even be a couple of different options that can be customised to meet your expectations and budget, with plenty left over for your big day.

About Smile by Design

Smile by Design is run by Sydney’s leading cosmetic dentist, Dr Michael Tam.

Dr Michael Tam’s over 20 years’ experience in cosmetic, implant and rehabilitative dental procedures have made him the leader in cosmetic dentistry and dental implants he is today.

Dr Tam’s special interest in cosmetic and implant dentistry especially in regard to dental implants, tooth whitening and porcelain veneers, led him to obtain a Distinction Award from the NZDA in Continuing Dental Education. A graduate of the prestigious Las Vegas Institute for Advanced Dental Studies, Dr Tam is also one of the founders of the Sydney Institute of Cosmetic and Implant Dentistry.

Visit www.smilebydesign.com.au to book an appointment with Dr Tam and have the perfect smile on your wedding day.

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Bracelets

Rings

Earrings

Pendants

Opals: a busy bride’s solution to saying ‘Thank You’ with style

Attention Australian Celebrants

Real Weddings: Caitlin and Jason

10 Ways a Modern Wedding is Completely Different to a Traditional Ceremony

Get the perfect smile in time for your wedding day

Common Cosmetic Dental Treatments

One-hour whitening

Dental veneers

Clear braces

Professional home whitening

Bonding

Smile with confidence on your wedding day

About Smile by Design

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