Sometimes, even before we do something, we start by quietly thinking about poor support, constraints, difficulties or unrealistic expectations that we are going to face.

Sometimes, you make excuses
before you even begin a project by reasoning “I can start working on this project, and if things does not work out right, I can say that it was because …”

Such thinking is the first warning sign that you may be a bad project manager and the project you are managing is sooner or later is heading towards trouble.

With excuses in mind and as you use your left brain, your subconscious mind starts working on justifications, reasons, excuses, and someone to share the blame.

Excuses gives you the strength and confidence that you will not be alone in time of trouble.

Project with a built-in all-purpose excuse all too often end up failing in some way. It would have a list of ready to go excuses, somebody to blame and something to say when the going get rough.

What happens if no matter what, you refuse to look for help from excuses?

You know very well that accomplishments are filled with people who are always looking forward and not looking for excuses.

Give it a try. If you work to avoid excuses, you may never need to blame anyone.

I think we have a problem!

We keep doing the same thing. We keep going to the same place. We keep thinking the same way.

Then we wonder why our life is so dull. We wonder why could not think outside the box like those we admire. We wonder why you are not achieving more.

Let me explain.

Admit it.  You have a selective mind when it come to remembering. You tend to remember pleasant, nice, good memories but you tend to forget any mistakes, hurting and painful experience.

You have a delicious dinner at a restaurant and you put in on  your list of favorite places to go back to.

You like a book and get the author ‘s other books to read.

You try a particular approach with a person, you manage to strike a good conversation, so you repeat the same with other people.

Think about how you tend to decide whether something is good or bad with memories which you have become stuck with.

I have a solution

The habit of looking back may simpli?es your everyday life without you having to make every little decision.  Putting too much of your life on auto pilot may will lead to a mind that is indifference.

Try to see things as they are instead of associating them to your past. You will stop thinking too much , stop blaming somebody else and can start doing something good.

Know the consequence

When too much of your life is run on automatic based on past recollection of experience, you lose the ability to react spontaneously to the many beautiful and pleasant experiences that come your way. 

Without the thrill of trying out new ways and the fascination of seeing what we have not seen before, the game of life would not be interesting.

How much of what you do, your experience, and the way you react to work and people are pre determined by your memories?  Now you know why you feel constraint and not able to think outside of the boxes you work in.

Learn and Do

Now for a change, try to go through your days without looking back at what had happen and what you have done before.  You will surely find each moment of the day to be refreshing and simply fascinating.

Who were you ten years ago? What was life like back then? Can you try to remember what happen?

You probably have a wish list in your head or written somewhere.  Can you try to recreate the list with as much detail as you can remember.

Chances are, some of the wishes are now with you and are a ‘taken for granted’ part of your life.  Are you now happier and more at peace with yourself?

A few of you may be surprise to discover that some of your wish does not work out as expected and did not bring the benefit it was suppose to.

What about you? How have your game of life to turn out to be so far?