Tips for women

Are you in Charge of your Life?

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Take charge over your life.
How many times have we not thought about that?
Once a day or once a week?
Maybe it comes once per year due to an event occurring.
Whatever it is it’s good for us. We take an inventory over things that happened. Look over the social net of people we surround us with. Where do I live? Am I happy there?
We think about the financial structure. Is it working for me?
Do I make enough of money? If not how do I do?

I love changes. Not many people like changes.
We don’t have to make huge changes just small adjustments.
Think about what it can do for us.
You can have a new home. A new profession. A new spouse.
The options are numberless.

Some people do whatever it takes to make too many changes.
It is like they find it thrilling to do that.
We humans are in way set in our minds.
When we look of how we structure things around us.

The brain likes to have everything in an order.
Every night when we go to sleep the brain deletes old unused programs. It organizes it in files. When we need it the brain just have to go to that specific place to use it.
When we are in a stressful environment or state the brain can not get in to the files due to a net, like a filter.
The more stressful we feel the tighter the net will become.
Then the brain signals can’t get through. We are getting confused. Confused people do nothing.

Have you ever been in to the crazy situation of doing nonsense things like watering the flowers, doing the dishes when you need to do phone calls, meeting etc?
Well it s the brain telling the body to do some actions.
The brain wants everything in order s the body starts to create it. Not the things you would like to have done. The brain is confused and sends down strange information to the body.
So it starts watering the flowers instead.

If you are confused take a power nap. Just lie down and do nothing. Think about the brain. How it is working now to set everything in an order.
You just need to rest for 20 minutes.
Look at the Latino countries how they do. They take siesta in the middle of the day when it is hot.
In that way you will have more energy. You ill also have more strength during the whole day.

It is important to slow down our tempo time to time.
Let things have its course. See how old people walking, slowly. Have you noticed why people run in the office?
Will they finish earlier or the job gets quicker done?
There are so many strange ways to live at.

I prefer to stay healthy. To eat well. Be able to have a good sleep. Let the brain work in a quiet environment.
Be out in the nature. That’s great healing for us.
Stay in love. Laugh a lot and be happy.

Author: MarieLouiseFalk

Dietary Sources of Vitamin C

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Food, Standard Amount	Vitamin C (mg)	Calories
Guava, raw, ½ cup	188	56
Red bell pepper, raw, ½ cup	142	20
Red bell pepper, cooked, ½ cup	116	19
Kiwi fruit, 1 medium	70	46
Orange, raw, 1 medium	70	62
Orange juice, ¾ cup	61 to 93	79 to 84
Green bell pepper, raw, ½ cup	60	15
Green bell pepper, cooked, ½ cup	51	19
Grapefruit juice, ¾ cup	50 to 70	71 to 86
Vegetable juice cocktail, ¾ cup	50	34
Strawberries, raw, ½ cup	49	27
Brussels sprouts, cooked, ½ cup	48	28
Cantaloupe, ¼ medium	47	51
Papaya, raw, ¼ medium	47	30
Kohlrabi, cooked, ½ cup	45	24
Broccoli, raw, ½ cup	39	15
Edible pod peas, cooked, ½ cup	38	34
Broccoli, cooked, ½ cup	37	26
Sweet potato, canned, ½ cup	34	116
Tomato juice, ¾ cup	33	31
Cauliflower, cooked, ½ cup	28	17
Pineapple, raw, ½ cup	28	37
Kale, cooked, ½ cup	27	18
Mango, ½ cup	23	54

Food sources of vitamin C are ranked by milligrams (mg) of vitamin C per standard amount; also calories in the standard amount. (All amounts listed provide 20% or more of the Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) of 90 mg/day for adult men.)

Source: USDA/HHS Dietary Guidelines for Americans, 2005

Dietary Sources of Iron

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Food Sources of Iron ranked by milligrams of iron per standard amount; also calories in the standard amount. (All amounts listed provide 10% or more of the Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for teenage and adult females, which is 18 mg/day.)

Food, Standard Amount	Iron (mg)	Calories
Clams, canned, drained, 3 oz	23.8	126
*Fortified dry cereals (various), about 1 oz	1.8 to 21.1	54 to 127
Cooked oysters, cooked, 3 oz	10.2	116
Organ meats (liver, giblets), cooked, 3 oz^a	5.2 to 9.9	134 to 235
*Fortified instant cooked cereals (various), 1 packet	4.9 to 8.1	Varies
*Soybeans, mature, cooked, ½ cup	4.4	149
*Pumpkin and squash seed kernels, roasted, 1 oz	4.2	148
*White beans, canned, ½ cup	3.9	153
*Blackstrap molasses, 1 Tbsp	3.5	47
*Lentils, cooked, ½ cup	3.3	115
*Spinach, cooked from fresh, ½ cup	3.2	21
Beef, chuck, blade roast, cooked, 3 oz	3.1	215
Beef, bottom round, cooked, 3 oz	2.8	182
*Kidney beans, cooked, ½ cup	2.6	112
Sardines, canned in oil, drained, 3 oz	2.5	177
Beef, rib, cooked, 3 oz	2.4	195
*Chickpeas, cooked, ½ cup	2.4	134
Duck, meat only, roasted, 3 oz	2.3	171
Lamb, shoulder, cooked, 3 oz	2.3	237
*Prune juice, ¾ cup	2.3	136
Shrimp, canned, 3 oz	2.3	102
*Cowpeas, cooked, ½ cup	2.2	100
Ground beef, 15% fat, cooked, 3 oz	2.2	212
*Tomato puree, ½ cup	2.2	48
*Lima beans, cooked, ½ cup	2.2	108
*Soybeans, green, cooked, ½ cup	2.2	127
*Navy beans, cooked, ½ cup	2.1	127
*Refried beans, ½ cup	2.1	118
Beef, top sirloin, cooked, 3 oz	2.0	156
*Tomato paste, ¼ cup	2.0	54

Food Sources of iron are ranked by milligrams of iron per standard amount; also calories in the standard amount. (All amounts listed provide 10% or more of the Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for teenage and adult females, which is 18 mg/day.)

Source: USDA/HHS Dietary Guidelines for Americans, 2005

How much iron do I need?

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If you have already been diagnosed with iron deficiency, talk to your doctor or healthcare provider about treatment. For healthy individuals, the Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for iron is listed in the following table.

Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for iron by age and sex.
Age/Group	Life Stage	Iron (mg/day)
Infants	0–6 months	0.27*
	7–12 months	11
Children	1–3 years	7
	4–8 years	10
Males	9–13 years	8
	14–18 years	11
	19–30 years	8
	31–50 years	8
	51–70 years	8
	>70 years	8
Females	9–13 years	8
	14–18 years	15
	19–30 years	18
	31–50 years	18
	51–70 years	8
	>70 years	8
Pregnant Women	14–18 years	27
	19–30 years	27
	31–50 years	27
Lactating Women	14–18 years	10
	19–30 years	9
	31–50 years	9

*This value is an Adequate Intake (AI) value. AI is used when there is not enough information known to set a Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA).

What can I do to prevent iron deficiency?

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In general, you can eat a healthful diet that includes good sources of iron. A healthful diet includes fruits, vegetables, whole grains, fat free or nonfat milk and milk products, lean meats, fish, dry beans, eggs, nuts, and is low in saturated fat, trans fats, cholesterol, salt, and added sugars.

In addition to a healthful diet that includes good sources of iron, you can also eat foods that help your body absorb iron better. For example, you can eat a fruit or vegetable that is a good source of vitamin C (see table on Dietary Sources of vitamin C) with a food or meal that contains non-heme iron (see table below for Dietary Sources of Iron). Vitamin C helps your body absorb the non-heme iron foods you eat, especially when the food containing non-heme iron and the vitamin-C rich food are eaten at the same meal.

The following recommendations are for specific groups who are at greater risk for iron deficiency.

Babies

If possible, breastfeed your baby for 12 months and when your baby is about 6 months of age, give your baby plain, iron-fortified infant cereal. Just two or more servings a day can meet a baby’s iron needs at this age.
When your baby is about 6 months of age, include a feeding per day of foods rich in vitamin C with foods that are rich in non-heme iron to improve iron absorption.
If you can’t breastfeed, use iron-fortified formula.
Don’t give low-iron milks (e.g. cow’s milk, goat’s milk, and soy milk) until your baby is at least 12 months old.
Give home prepared or commercially prepared plain pureed (chopped until smooth in a blender) meats after age 6 months or when the baby is ready.
If your baby was born early or small, talk to your doctor about giving iron drops to your baby.
If your baby can’t get two or more servings per day of iron rich foods (such as iron-fortified cereal or pureed meats), talk to your doctor about giving iron drops to your baby.

Young children (aged 1–5 years)

After your child is one year old, give no more than three 8 ounce servings of low-fat or nonfat cow, goat, or soy milk per day. After your child is 2 years old, your child only needs two 8 ounce servings per day of low-fat or nonfat milk. Milk is a good source of calcium and vitamin D, but not iron.
Give your child a diet with iron-rich foods such as iron-fortified breads and iron-fortified cereals and lean meats.
Include fruits, vegetables or juices that are rich in vitamin C. Vitamin C helps your child absorb non-heme iron especially when the food that is a source of non-heme iron and the vitamin C-rich food are eaten at the same meal.

Adolescent girls and women of childbearing age

Eat iron-rich foods.
Eat foods that are vitamin C sources. Vitamin C helps your body absorb non-heme iron especially when the food that is a source of non-heme iron and the vitamin C-rich food are eaten at the same meal.
Eat lean red meats, poultry, and fish. The iron in these foods is easier for your body to absorb than the iron in plant foods.

Pregnant women

Eat iron-rich foods.
Eat foods that are vitamin C sources. Vitamin C helps your body absorb non-heme iron especially when the food that is a source of non-heme iron and the vitamin-C rich food are eaten at the same meal.
Eat lean red meats, poultry, and fish. The iron in these foods is easier for your body to absorb than the iron in plant foods.
Talk to your doctor about taking an iron supplement.

How is iron deficiency treated?

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If you are found to have an iron deficiency, it is important to see your healthcare provider for treatment. Your treatment will depend on factors such as your age, health, and cause of iron deficiency.
If your doctor or health care provider thinks that you have iron deficiency she or he may prescribe iron supplements for you to take and then ask that you return after a period to have your hemoglobin or hematocrit tested.
If your healthcare provider determines that the iron deficiency is due to a diet low in iron, you might be told to eat more iron-rich foods. Your health care provider may also prescribe an iron supplement for you.

Again, it is important to be diagnosed by your healthcare provider because iron deficiency can have causes that aren’t related to your diet. Your healthcare provider’s recommendations will be specific to your needs.

How is iron deficiency detected?

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Your doctor or healthcare provider will do blood tests to screen for iron deficiency. No single test is used to diagnose iron deficiency. The most common tests for screening are

Hemoglobin test (a test that measures hemoglobin which is a protein in the blood that carries oxygen)
Hematocrit test (the percentage of red blood cells in your blood by volume)
These tests show how much iron is in your body. Hemoglobin and hematocrit levels usually aren’t decreased until the later stages of iron deficiency, i.e., anemia.

Sometimes other blood tests are used to confirm that anemia is due to iron deficiency. These might include

Complete blood count (to look at the number and volume of the red blood cells)
Serum ferritin (a measure of a stored form of iron)
Serum iron (a measure of the iron in your blood)
Transferrin saturation (a measure of the transported form of iron)
Transferrin receptor (a measure of increased red blood cell production)

Signs and Symptoms of Iron Deficiency

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Too little iron can impair body functions, but most physical signs and symptoms do not show up unless iron deficiency anemia occurs. Someone with early stages of iron deficiency may have no signs or symptoms. This is why it is important to screen for too little iron among high risk groups.

Signs of iron deficiency anemia include

Feeling tired and weak
Decreased work and school performance
Slow cognitive and social development during childhood
Difficulty maintaining body temperature
Decreased immune function, which increases susceptibility to infection
Glossitis (an inflamed tongue)

Who is most at risk?

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Young children and pregnant women are at higher risk of iron deficiency because of rapid growth and higher iron needs.
Adolescent girls and women of childbearing age are at risk due to menstruation.
Among children, iron deficiency is seen most often between six months and three years of age due to rapid growth and inadequate intake of dietary iron. Infants and children at highest risk are the following groups:

Babies who were born early or small.
Babies given cow’s milk before age 12 months.
Breastfed babies who after age 6 months are not being given plain, iron-fortified cereals or another good source of iron from other foods.
Formula-fed babies who do not get iron-fortified formulas.
Children aged 1–5 years who get more than 24 ounces of cow, goat, or soymilk per day. Excess milk intake can decrease your child’s desire for food items with greater iron content, such as meat or iron fortified cereal.
Children who have special health needs, for example, children with chronic infections or restricted diets.

What causes iron deficiency?

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Iron deficiency has many causes. (See table below for a summary). These causes fall into two main categories:

1. Increased iron needs
Many common conditions can cause people to need additional iron:

Because of their rapid growth, infants and toddlers need more iron than older children. Sometimes it can be hard for them to get enough iron from their normal diet.
Women who are pregnant have higher iron needs. To get enough, most women must take an iron supplement as recommended by their healthcare provider.
When people lose blood, they also lose iron. They need extra iron to replace what they have lost. Increased blood loss can occur with heavy menstrual periods, frequent blood donation, as well as with some stomach and intestinal conditions (food sensitivity, hookworms)

2. Decreased iron intake or absorption (not enough iron taken into the body)
The amount of iron absorbed from the diet depends on many factors:

Iron from meat, poultry, and fish (i.e., heme iron) is absorbed two to three times more efficiently than iron from plants (i.e., non-heme iron).
The amount of iron absorbed from plant foods (non-heme iron) depends on the other types of foods eaten at the same meal.
Foods containing heme iron (meat, poultry, and fish) enhance iron absorption from foods that contain non-heme iron (e.g., fortified cereals, some beans, and spinach).
Foods containing vitamin C (see Dietary Sources of vitamin C) also enhance non-heme iron absorption when eaten at the same meal.
Substances (such as polyphenols, phytates, or calcium) that are part of some foods or drinks such as tea, coffee, whole grains, legumes and milk or dairy products can decrease the amount of non-heme iron absorbed at a meal. Calcium can also decrease the amount heme-iron absorbed at a meal. However, for healthy individuals who consume a varied diet that conforms to the Dietary Guidelines for Americans, the amount of iron inhibition from these substances is usually not of concern.
Vegetarian diets are low in heme iron, but careful meal planning can help increase the amount of iron absorbed.
Some other factors (such as taking antacids beyond the recommended dose or medicine used to treat peptic ulcer disease and acid reflux) can reduce the amount of acid in the stomach and the iron absorbed and cause iron deficiency.

Increased Iron Needs

Decreased Iron Intake and Absorption

Rapid growth
Pregnancy
Blood loss

Heavy menstrual periods
Frequent blood donation
Some stomach and intestinal conditions (food sensitivity, hookworms)

· Lack of heme iron sources in the diet (e.g., vegetarian diets)

· Low absorption

o Taking antacids beyond the recommended dose or medicine used to treat peptic ulcer disease and acid reflux can reduce the amount of iron absorbed in the stomach.

Picky Eating Tips

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Parents are role models! Set a good example by eating healthy foods yourself! Buy and try new fruits and vegetables. Drink water between meals. Set an eating routine at home for your meals and snacks. Your children will learn by your good example.
Don't expect your child to like something new the first time. Offer it again in a week. It usually takes several tries before children are willing to try new foods.
Place a small amount of each food on your children's plates. Let them ask for more.
It's normal for children to explore foods. Young children often touch or smell the food on their plate.
Children thrive on routine. Just like you have a bedtime routine, stick to a feeding routine. Your child is less likely to be tired or fussy at mealtimes!
Offer healthy foods. Your child soon learns these are the foods in your home and will eventually eat!

Getting Children Involved

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An easy way to get children to try new foods is to get them involved in meals. Here are some age-appropriate suggestions.

3-year-olds can

Wipe table tops.
Scrub and rinse fruit and vegetables.
Wash and tear lettuce.
Snap green beans.
Bring ingredients from one place to another.
Mix ingredients and pour liquids.
Knead and shape yeast dough.
Put things in the trash.
Shake liquids in a covered container.

4-year-olds can also

Peel oranges or hard cooked eggs.
Mash bananas with a fork.
Set a table.
Cut parsley or green onions with kid-safe scissors.

5-year-olds can also

Measure ingredients.
Use an egg beater or whisk.

Eat at Home

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Part of having a healthy family includes spending time together. The family meal is a great way for everyone to get together, have a conversation, and eat together.

Serving meals at home requires planning. Before you do your shopping, sit down and plan your meals for the week. Make a list of all the ingredients you'll need to prepare healthy, balanced meals. When fatigue kicks in and you want dinner on the table fast, your menu is already planned and the ingredients are right on hand.
Make sure to always include low-fat or nonfat dairy products, fruit, and vegetables.
Limit the amount of processed ready to-eat-snacks you buy (such as potato chips or cookies). Prepackaged and processed foods are usually higher in calories and fats and often more expensive. For the price of a large bag of chips and box of cookies you can buy the items below

2 pounds of apples
1 pound of bananas
1 pound of carrots
3 pounds of potatoes
1 pound of peppers

Simplify your schedule for better quality of life. Say no to lessons, teams, and commitments that don't interest you or your child. If you or your child are feeling overwhelmed, consider limiting the number of organized activities your child participates in to one per season.
Children thrive on routine. Routine meals, naps, outdoor play, and bedtime can make for a happy child who comes to the table rested and hungry for the food you have prepared.

To serve a healthy and balanced meal at home, choose a variety of foods from several food groups. Children need to eat a variety of different foods every day. Use the USDA’s Food Guide Pyramid for Young Children to help guide your food choices.

TV Time

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Tired of hearing your children beg for sugary, high-fat foods? They may be influenced by too many commercials.
Limit the amount of time your children watch TV to less than 2 hours a day. Remove the TV from your child's room.
Find fun activities to do inside and outside your home: play hopscotch, jump rope, walk the dog, play hide-and-seek, or build an obstacle course in the hall.

Portion Size for Young Children 2–6 Years Old

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1/3 to ½ cup of frozen veggies
1 or 2 little cooked broccoli spears
½ cup of tomato sauce
5 to 7 cooked baby carrots
1/3 to ½ cup of melon
5 to 7 strawberries
½ cup of apple sauce
1 small tangerine
1/3 to ½ cup of frozen or fresh berries
1 cup (8 fl. oz.) low-fat yogurt or nonfat milk
1/3 to ½ cup of macaroni-and-cheese, rice, pasta, or mashed potatoes
2oz. hamburger
¼ cup ground meat such as turkey or pork, browned and drained
1 or 2 drumsticks

Money-Saving Ideas For Better Health

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Avoid arguments about high-fat, high-sugar foods by not bringing them into the house. Leave the candy, soft drinks, chips, and cookies at the store.
Serve water when your child is thirsty. Water is cheap and healthy.

12 financial tips for women (II)

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6. Start investing. Both women and men procrastinate when it comes to investing, says Wall, co-founder of the Women's Institute for Financial Education. But while men procrastinate because they have something they'd rather be doing, women tend to put off investing because they are afraid of making a mistake, says Wall. "They want to know the exact right thing to do," she says. Instead, "the solution is to at least start in small steps to move forward." Do some research, work with small amounts at a time and get started, she says.

7. Don't fear risk. When it comes to money, sometimes playing it safe isn't safe or smart, says Wall. "If you're investing in guaranteed income funds, you're not even going to keep up with inflation and taxes," she says.

"Women look at money as a lake," perceiving it as a finite resource, says Liz Perle, author of "Money, A Memoir." "Men look at it as a river, constantly renewing." Consequently, "women are afraid to risk."

Instead, start learning about what you fear. Resolve to learn one new financial fact every day. "Get more informed," says Wall. "And start taking some risks, even if it's just a little bit. If you've got all your money in CDs, start investing a little bit every month -- maybe even in a (stock) index fund."

At the same time, "one rule of investing is you never put money into something you don't understand," says Stanny. If you do, "you won't know how to evaluate the information that people are giving you."

8. Don't go it alone. Women who will join a group or hire a trainer to get in shape think they have to tackle their money problems solo. They don't.

"The women I've interviewed with the highest net worth, the most financially secure, are the ones who work with financial professionals," says Stanny.

Start with a CPA or fee-based financial planner "to find out what your whole situation really is," says Stanny. "Get out of vagueness and denial."

9. Get emotional support, if you need it. When dealing with difficult financial issues, "that's when we most need support," Stanny says. And just as there are groups to help with weight loss or other high-stress challenges, there are groups to help with money issues, whether it's an investment club or Debtor's Anonymous. Just find "somewhere where there are other people and you can feel that support," says Stanny.

"We don't talk about money with each other," says Wall. "God knows there are clubs for everything else."

10. Be more confident in salary negotiations. "What I've found is that women, especially, devalue ourselves," says Stanny. "We give away our time, our knowledge, our skills, for free or bargain prices because we don't believe we're worth more."

In addition, many women believe that if they just do an outstanding job, the paycheck will reflect that. Sorry, but it doesn't work like that.

The lesson: bargain at the beginning. Unless you get a giant promotion or an offer from a competing firm, you may not have that kind of power again.

"Men will compare salary negotiation to a good ball game," Perle says. "Women will say it's like going to the dentist."

11. Venture out of your financial comfort zone. Whether that means saving for your retirement instead of your kid's college education or asking the boss for a raise, be willing to put yourself first for a change. "The reason more women are not a financial success is they don't want to be uncomfortable," says Stanny. "Every time you deviate from the norm, any time you do something you're not used to doing -- ask for a raise, buy some stock -- it will feel uncomfortable."

12. Know that it's never too late. "The mistake is we often learn too late," says Stanny. "But it's never too late." She's talked with women who didn't start investing until they were in their 70s and 80s, she says. "But they started."

By Dana Dratch • Bankrate.com

Dana Dratch is a freelance writer based in Atlanta.

Another safety tips (V)

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Anticipate potential problems. For example: if a group of men or young boys approaches you on the sidewalk on your side of the street, cross to the other side to give them space and you peace of mind.

Be sure to know when the sun rises and sets. A bustling market can quickly empty out and be transformed into dark deserted streets. Plan to be back to your lodging or in a safe, busy neighborhood by dark.

Carry enough money in your shoe or money pouch to get you out of a tight spot. Be willing to spend this money on a cab in order to get you to a safe place or back to your lodging. Do not take unnecessary risks.

If in doubt, take a self defense course.

All rights reserved. © Marybeth Bond

Another safety tips (IV)

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Ask for help or company if you feel uncomfortable.

It is common for a would-be thief to use razor blades to cut purse straps, take the purse, and then get away in a thick sea of bodies. Wear a money belt to avoid this happening.

It can be difficult to know what is considered offensive or suggestive in segregated societies, such as in Orthodox Muslim areas. At times you may feel uncomfortable or vulnerable. You may not know if the local men view you as a sex symbol representing the immoral Western World. Take your cues from the local women. Watch them. If they don't make eye-to-eye contact with men, follow their example. Blend in. Dress appropriately.

Clothing that is fashionable and appropriate in the USA may project a provocative image in another culture. Leave the revealing clothing at home.

Another safety tips (III)

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If you are being followed in the street and you feel threatened, duck into a shop and firmly tell the clerk: "I am a foreigner and someone is following me. I am frightened and need help." If need be, have the clerk call a cab or police officer for you.

Try to sit or stand next to other women or family groups in restaurants, on trains or buses, and in other public places. It is unlikely that you will be approached or harassed if you're in the company of other people.

Consider wearing a wedding ring, if you don't already.

There is power in vocal embarrassment. I have found that many men are shamed by a verbal, loud woman admonishing them in public. Practice screaming before you leave home! Also shame them by shaking your finger in their faces. Even if the crowd doesn't understand your words, they will understand your indignation and gestures. Most sleazy men do not want public attention.

Another safety tips (II)

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Most of the people who offer you food or drink are just being kind. However, the rare exception exists - drugging occasionally happens. Try not to leave your drink unattended in bars, and exercise good judgment when accepting food or drink from people. Rophynol, the date rape drug, is odorless, tasteless and colorless. It is a tranquilizer that can be slipped into your drink by a man who would like to have sex with a woman who is heavily sedated. If you are at a party, don't accept a glass of punch unless you trust the host. Don't think this won't happen to you. Some women don't even know they have been raped until it's too late.

Tips on staying safe (VI)

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Never let yourself or anyone that you know be the "closer" in any type of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat knew Danielle, who was a girl that just died from being shot point blank by some kids while she was closing at the local gas station. He talked with her the night before she died, and asked whether it ever scared her to close alone. She said, "Yes, but I'll be allright, Pat. I'll be all right." She wasn't. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in our fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later. Pat Malone said again and again that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from violent crimes expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow. No one expects it,but we must be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT HARD! HAVE A PLAN!

I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it. For you and to share with your family, especially the women.

Tips on staying safe (V)

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If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you find him following/chasing you: Scream "FIRE!" and not "help"; People don't want to get involved when people yell "help" but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy. RUN!

Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it, like Ring Around the Rosie. This may sound silly, but over the years, 5 women have told Pat Malone that this SAVED THEIR LIVES. Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under there, there are tons of things to hold onto, and he will not be able to get you out and will not come under for you (most likely). Usually they give up by this point. The catch here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE GETTING UNDER THE CAR. You must have a plan (he will have one); know if you will be going on your back, front, from the side or back of the car. It must be practiced.

Tips on staying safe (IV)

2007-08-21T20:34:00.000-07:00

Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator: The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there HARD. It may be your only window of opportunity.

The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip, AND HAVE THE STRENGTH to cut off his breath. Punch him in the throat to cut off his air supply.

The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very vulnerable, and a swift kick here will take anyone down. **** A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these things right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will only anger the individual, and that anger will be TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't attempt them, it may be your only hope, but be forceful when you do.

Tips on staying safe (III)

2007-08-21T20:33:00.000-07:00

Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
REACT IMMEDIATELY - If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking you to an abandoned area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If you are driving, react immediately in the situation, and crash your car while still going 5 mph. If he's driving, find the right time, and stick your fingers in his eyes. He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge him. It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT. This sounds gross, but the alternative is worse if you do not act.

RESIST - Don't go along with him: Run, if you are able: DON'T EVER GIVE UP! You DO NOT want to get to a crime scene.

Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas.

GET A CELL PHONE: There are packages for $19.95 a month that allow you to program only 911 into the dialing out program. (This is an alternative for parents who say it is too expensive for their kids to have a cell phone.)

BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your carin good working order. If your car breaks down:

LOCK YOUR DOORS. You better have a cell phone to call for help. If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you) keep a blanket, warm clothes, a pair of boots, and a flashlight in your car always, for emergencies.

If it's noon on a business day, you may want to put your hazards on and walk to safety. If it's 2 AM, put on your warm clothes, and walk to a lighted area. You are a perfect target if you are sitting in your car broken down. Predators search the highways for easy targets like you.

If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm clothes) and go to some bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicles. It will be cold, and uncomfortable, but you DO NOT want to stay in your car, and there are no psycho bogeymen waiting in the bushes who knew you were going to break down there and then.