tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731Fri, 12 Nov 2010 02:15:04 +0000<p> © 2006 - 2009. all rights reserved.</p>http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (titilayo)Blogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-6507984894204444892Wed, 31 Dec 2008 11:21:00 +00002008-12-31T06:32:13.128-05:00slopesdaisiesnextnew yearThough I tried to put these items in chronological order, they really are not. Which is OK since life really isn't. So here you have it:2008? Well…Brought the year in with bang.A guy I used to date was murdered.Learned to receive love.Did the right thing.Crushed a lot.Stressed a lot.Started a paper.Still working on that paper.Hmmm…maybe I’ll float my resume…My nephew TALKS!Understanding.Landed http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/12/slopes-and-daisies.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-1711877927783331490Sun, 02 Nov 2008 13:02:00 +00002008-11-02T09:32:10.272-05:00urbanismcreativechrisitianurbanistcitynew yorki know.the title is lame.but hear me out.i recently read an article by tim keller that helped make sense of the hell that i think i've been going through for the past year-ish. it's an eloquent look at urbanism and the role of the city to stretch, pull and draw out the creativity of the human soul. and boy does this hurt.but it helps. and it's true. and leave it up to me to pick the most uber http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/11/joanne-urbanist.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-1331398465314079532Sat, 13 Sep 2008 16:10:00 +00002008-09-13T12:47:17.320-04:00i am a product of my environment. there, i said it.as much as i would like to think that i am an island unto myself, i'm not.it matters who i live next to. it matters that my neighborhood is culturally and, when it works, economically diverse--that's beautiful to me. it matters that i have a pet by choice and not by default. it matters that i have just enough time to read on the train, but not http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/09/affected.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-6166268707148501637Sat, 30 Aug 2008 13:38:00 +00002008-08-30T09:42:14.326-04:00I’m sure you’re still reeling. I feel you. But akin to the seven (or it 12?) stages of grief, I’ve moved on from shock, to bafflement, to feeling rather insulted.All of this is causing quite a bit of reflection.Putting the obvious political motivation, yet lackluster display of foresight aside for now, I’d like to raise a few questions:Have WE (the people) lost our minds?Has the Republic gotten http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/08/sarah-palin-is-joke-on-us.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-4296835153240484099Fri, 27 Jun 2008 12:00:00 +00002008-06-27T08:44:20.482-04:00bitter + sweet = me.so i'll tell you the sweet part first:1. i'm moving to the bronx.2. it's ok. i'm in the safe part.3. i can walk to bronx museum of art.4. my landlord is a gem.5. my place is lovely, cozy and so me.6. my building is quiet (10ish units), new (5 yrs old) and my neighbors are groovy.7. i'm in between the 2|5 and B|D lines and still only about 25 min from work.8. i'll be saving anhttp://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/06/ttbx.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-681132762078986685Tue, 17 Jun 2008 02:57:00 +00002008-06-16T23:11:12.656-04:00work. work. work. a lil play here. a lil play there. love. catching up. loving again. loving more. always loving. smile. work. laugh. work. work. repeat.this has been the story of my life lately folks.spicy, i know.right now, i'm listening to a message from brooklyn vineyard church on embracing the practice of silence and being okay with stillness in a world, hemisphere, country, state, CITY http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/06/bunch-of-nothing.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-6862605733048335787Tue, 17 Jun 2008 01:54:00 +00002008-06-16T22:00:23.058-04:00after much harassment (shareka), gentle prodding (allen & jesus), sweet encouragement (travis) and just an all out shift of the soul, here i am again...a-blogging.hope this is as fun, un-fun, clear, murky, circular, straightforward, boring, and invigorating for you as it is for me.welcome to: simple (and not so simple) things.love,t.http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2008/06/new-again.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-8374265760171547621Thu, 25 Oct 2007 15:07:00 +00002008-06-16T21:24:18.692-04:00"For Africa to me... is more than a glamorous fact. It is a historical truth. No man can know where he is going unless he knows exactly where he has been and exactly how he arrived at his present place."From October 25 – November 9 I will be home for the first time. I don't know if you know what it feels like to want to say so much, but feelings of joy and excitement overwhelm you such that http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/10/going-home-nigeria-2007.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-4570768847761930804Sun, 07 Oct 2007 00:47:00 +00002009-01-04T22:37:45.708-05:00to answer the question "so how's harrrrrrrlem?" i offer you this:hmmm...in the words of my good friend ashley "i eat new york for breakfast." ny is treating me well and i am treating it even better. it so beautiful to be in a place in life where i can soak in all that life has to offer. eh...call me spongebob bravebird.seriously though, the best way i can describe this bliss is to ask you to http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/10/to-answer-question-so-hows-harrrrrrrlem.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-6513352480497432397Thu, 02 Aug 2007 12:20:00 +00002009-01-04T22:41:06.997-05:00do you care?have you noticed?now what?t.http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/08/demcracy-lost.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-4019029251086796856Tue, 03 Jul 2007 13:14:00 +00002009-01-04T22:42:31.111-05:00"I'm realizing now that you have to get love, period. Love is my food. Truth is my oxygen. I need those things. I'm sure there have been times I tried to deny myself love by staying in something safe or convenient. By the time I realized that that was not going to work, I was literally starving for oxygen. Now I realize that satisfaction, and the ability to affirm it, is my birthright. Happiness,http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/07/what-she-said.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-7722341744267155093Sun, 01 Jul 2007 15:34:00 +00002009-01-04T22:54:48.792-05:00Soooooo, I have been wrestling with writing about this in a way that is both honest and full of integrity, because you know blogs can be a pretty dangerous place. But I think that the fact that I have been wrestling means that something in this will bless someone and for that I think it's worth it.So here we go.I dated (and strongly considered marrying) a man.He was (and is) a WONDERFUL person.http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/07/laugh-love-live-recent-thoughts-on.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-3418841030781369159Sun, 03 Jun 2007 13:34:00 +00002009-01-04T22:57:47.507-05:00once upon a time, a velveteen rabbit learned that new isn't necessarily better... that the quiet wisdom of an old toy horse can change the world... that honest friendship and understanding can warm the heart... that a good book can make the world a better place... and that love can make us real. "What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2007/06/to-be-known-and-loved-anyway.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114515491099844692Sun, 16 Apr 2006 02:12:00 +00002006-04-15T22:35:11.010-04:00Hi friends! I'm not gone...still here. Just trying to process this thing called life. Pray for me as I try to articulate my steps on this journey in ways that aren't too jumbled up. And pray that I'll be ok with jumbled up thoughts that haven't yet resolved, for that's part of the journey, too.humbly yours,t.http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/04/hi-friends-im-not-gone.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114515347424110860Sun, 16 Apr 2006 02:10:00 +00002006-04-15T22:12:00.686-04:00In light of this holy season and in remembrance of one fierce example of redeeming, enduring, unconditional love, here are a few thoughts on one of the ways we can imitate his example...The vow of marriage isn't a promise to shield the other from, hurt, pain, or fear. We promise to LOVE—we don't promise to not hurt the other person. The vow isn't a vow NOT to do this or that (that would not http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/04/lovein-spite-of.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114013138299789979Thu, 16 Feb 2006 23:08:00 +00002006-02-16T18:09:43.006-05:00".....To follow Jesus, I learned, does not mean to solve every human problem --Christ himself did not attempt that-- but rather to respond as he did, against all reason to dispense grace and love to those who deserve it least." (Author unknown)http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/02/life.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114011912906067612Thu, 16 Feb 2006 19:44:00 +00002006-03-02T22:49:21.646-05:00My first "F" ever was on a paper that I wrote for my Advanced Composition class freshman year at Spelman College. I say "ever," and I truly believe that. I don't recall ever getting low grades on many assignments and especially not English. Needless to say, that experience broke me down and caused me to rethink some things. To understand why, you'll have to know the reason why Dr. Gebre-Hewitt http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/02/naked-and-unashamed_16.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)17tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114011905341041705Thu, 16 Feb 2006 19:43:00 +00002006-03-02T22:50:12.190-05:00This past weekend was one that I'll likely remember for the rest of my life. As I scanned my life (all 23 years of it :-), I really looked at decisions I've made, choices I've settled on, paths I've taken, and I came to the true realization that God is a friend who will NEVER leave me. Now, I’d like to say that this realization made me so happy and I was utterly overjoyed by this revelation of http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/02/friend-who-just-wont-go-away_16.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22564731.post-114011898541936923Thu, 16 Feb 2006 19:41:00 +00002008-06-18T18:52:01.027-04:00Yesterday was a day that I'll remember for a lot of reasons. As some of you know, I have been MIA for a while preparing for marriage of two of my college friends. Well, the marriage happened yesterday, and it was simply amazing.As I stood with the rest of the wedding party tearfully gazing at the bride and groom, I thought about what was actually happening. We were at a wedding, but a MARRIAGE http://titilayotalks.blogspot.com/2006/02/yesterday-i-saw-marriage.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (titilayo)2