Social media has a fascinating ability to take a thirty-second video clip and present it as a complete, flawless educational model. It is easy to watch an idyllic reel and feel like your own homeschool is falling short. (Check out the first post in this series for more on holding it together when homeschooling feels heartbreaking.) When I’m balancing writing deadlines, managing a large family, and trying to get dinner on the table, I’ve quickly realized which methods are sustainable and which ones are just pretty pictures. Believe me, in my 33 years of homeschooling, I’ve tried all of these philosophies in one way or another. 

Yet, I want you to know there’s hope! Our homeschool plans don’t always have to be formed in concrete. Every few months, it’s okay to pause and consider what adjustments are needed to move in the right direction. 

Just like a road trip through the countryside. We must be aware of where we are, yet also keep our eyes on where we’re going. As with steering a car, subtle movements, like our hands on the steering wheel, can keep us on the right track—even if that means making a sharp right at the next crossroads.

But before we get into the ways we can shift, let’s look at 10 homeschool philosophies that look lovely online but often crumble when applied to the reality of daily life.

10 Popular Philosophies to Reconsider for a More Peaceful Home

1. The Purely Child-Led Unschooling Utopia

The internet loves to showcase unschooling, as if children naturally gravitate toward advanced literature and quantum physics simply by following their passions. Yes, fostering curiosity is vital, but a completely hands-off educational approach often leaves glaring gaps. 

Research by cognitive psychologists like Dr. Daniel Willingham indicates that even highly self-directed learners require active parental facilitation. While children naturally pick up many things through play, they still need explicit guidance to tackle foundational skills, such as multiplication and phonics.

Dr. Willingham says,

It is absolutely a beautiful thing to lean into your child’s unique interests and encourage their God-given curiosity. Yet, true educational freedom still requires a reliable framework. When we take the time to intentionally teach the basics, we are not stifling their creativity. We are actively giving them the tools they’ll need to explore their passions. 

By providing a strong, structured foundation in core subjects, we equip our children with the confidence they need for a lifetime of successful learning.

2. The Aesthetic Morning Basket

Instagram is filled with images of beautifully curated baskets of vintage books, a lit candle, and children quietly sipping herbal tea while reciting poetry. In a real home, someone spills the tea, a toddler interrupts the poem, and the candle becomes a fire hazard. 

Gathering together to read is a wonderful practice, but holding on to the expectation of a serene, interruption-free environment only leads to frustration. 

In our homeschool, we read together more often than not, yet it was not a quiet affair. Because it’s hard for children to sit still and listen, each child (ages 5-15) was able to choose an activity to do with their hands: blocks, beads, Legos, paint, or other materials. Yes, I’d have to raise my voice to be heard over all the shuffling and sifting, but even my children with attention issues could sit and listen for hours when their hands were busy.

The goal of reading aloud is not to recreate a serene magazine cover, but to build shared memories and a lasting love for stories. Proverbs 14:4 reminds us, “Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox.” (Okay, our children are not oxen, but you get the picture!)

A quiet, spotless room might look nice on a screen, but the noisy reality of a living room filled with busy hands is where the real harvest of learning grows. When we let go of curated expectations, we are free to embrace the wonderfully messy work of educating our children.

3. The School-at-Home Replica

This philosophy involves buying the tiny desks, hanging up the whiteboard, and following a rigid 8:00 AM to 3:00 PM schedule. It attempts to replicate the traditional classroom environment at home. 

Homeschooling is an extension of family life. Imposing strict institutional structures usually creates unnecessary friction. Learning can happen at desks (or the kitchen table). Yet it can also happen organically on the couch, at the kitchen island, or in the backyard.

It is also important to remember that a successful homeschool day does not need to mirror the hours of a traditional classroom. Traditional schools require seven or eight hours simply because one teacher is managing a room full of thirty students. When you are sitting one-on-one with your child, focused learning takes a fraction of that time. You can accomplish a solid, foundational education in just a few intentional hours, leaving the rest of your day open for life and exploration. 

Above all, never forget that while you are your child’s teacher, you are primarily their mother. We do not want to become so rigid with the educational checklists that we miss out on the beautiful relationship-building that happens between lessons. 

The heart of your home matters far more than checking off every academic box. As Colossians 3:14 reminds us:

"And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in unity." 

Let love and connection be the true framework of your days, and the learning will flourish right alongside it.

4. The 100% Screen-Free Mandate

Some groups advocate for completely eliminating screens from our homeschool to protect attention spans. While limiting digital consumption is wise, a blanket ban is often impractical and ignores incredible resources. 

High-quality documentaries, interactive math tutorials, and digital curricula are lifesavers for a busy parent. They allow one child to learn independently while you assist another with a challenging subject.

Furthermore, to function successfully in today’s world, our children must know how to use technology. We cannot simply hide them from it. Instead, we must teach them how to be wise when navigating devices. 

You might be able to strictly limit screen time at home, but your children will eventually have to deal with it in the real world. By actively training your kids on both the benefits and the dangers of technology, you are building a crucial foundation of discernment. When a neighbor’s child pulls out a device with unlimited internet access, your children will already know how to respond wisely and with integrity.

5. The Grade-Level Box

There is a temptation to ensure a child strictly aligns with standard public school benchmarks in every single subject. Educational researcher Paula Rothermel noted in her studies that homeschooled children thrive on flexibility:

Children do not grow in straight lines, and their minds do not learn in tidy boxes. It is incredibly common for a student to read at a high school level while still needing extra time and patience to grasp middle school math concepts. 

In a traditional classroom setting, children are often forced into a rigid, uniform grade level based purely on their birth year. Unfortunately, that approach can easily stifle a child’s natural pace of growth and lead to unnecessary frustration.

Educational researchers refer to this uneven growth as asynchronous development. As the National Association for Gifted Children explains, “Asynchronous development is a term used to describe the mismatch between cognitive, emotional, and physical development.”

As a mother who has homeschooled ten children over thirty-three years, I simply call it being human. Each child is a unique masterpiece crafted by God. Ephesians 2:10 reminds us:

"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."

Because God designed your children individually, you have the beautiful freedom to meet them exactly where they are. If your child needs to speed ahead in literature and take baby steps in fractions, let them. You are not falling behind. You are actively providing the customized education they need to truly thrive, free from the heavy burden of arbitrary expectations.

6. The Project-Based Masterpiece

It sounds wonderful to end every history and geography unit with a massive diorama, a theatrical play, or a complex kitchen experiment. Yet we must ask ourselves who usually has to do all the work to make those things happen. We know the answer! It is almost always the parent. While hands-on learning is beneficial, requiring a major project for every subject is a direct path to burnout.

We often feel the pressure to be constant entertainers for our children, but a mother’s energy is a precious and limited resource. When we pour all our time into gathering craft supplies and cleaning up massive messes, we have very little left for the actual teaching and discipleship our kids desperately need. 

Consistent, quiet diligence and a thoughtful conversation about a good book often produce better long-term retention than a chaotic afternoon of paper mache.

Instead of big projects, educational researchers emphasize that simple reflection is an incredibly powerful learning tool. Cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Maryanne Wolf notes that deep reading and the discussions that follow cultivate critical thinking and empathy far better than scattered, surface-level activities. We can fully embrace the joy of a simple, quiet discussion on the living room couch. 

Galatians 6:9 reminds us, "And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." 

Keeping our lesson plans simple and sustainable allows us to stay the course without growing exhausted.

7. The Exclusively “Living Books” Approach

Inspired by Charlotte Mason, this philosophy shuns all textbooks in favor of narrative literature. Reading great books is a cornerstone of a rich education. However, there are seasons when a straightforward workbook is exactly what a student needs to grasp a grammar rule or a math concept without wading through a 300-page story. Flexibility beats dogma every time.

It is also important to recognize that many modern educational resources beautifully weave narrative storytelling with structured frameworks. You do not have to choose between engaging reading and factual organization. 

For example, history curricula like The Mystery of History provide a chronological, deeply engaging view of world events from a biblical perspective. Resources like this offer the clear, organized instruction of a textbook alongside the captivating heart of a living book. 

We can absolutely appreciate a good story while also giving our children the straightforward guidance they need to build a solid academic foundation.

Proverbs 1:5 reminds us, "Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance." 

By utilizing the best tools for each specific subject, we ensure our children receive the guidance they truly need.

8. The Hyper-Socialized Co-Op Schedule

Fear of missing out on socialization drives many families to join multiple co-ops, field trip groups, and extracurricular activities. The philosophy is that more activities equal a well-rounded child. The reality is that constantly being in the minivan destroys the peace of being at home. It fragments actual learning time and leaves both the parent and the student exhausted.

Please do not misunderstand me. Homeschool cooperatives certainly have their benefits. There is great value in sharing the teaching load, especially for subjects like high school biology or a new foreign language. Co-ops also provide a structured environment for group projects, public speaking practice, and consistent peer interaction. 

As Ecclesiastes 4:9 wisely notes, "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil." 

Partnering with other families can be a tremendous blessing in the right season.

However, we must also weigh the significant drawbacks. Joining a co-op almost always requires a rigid weekly commitment that dictates your entire family schedule. It frequently involves mandatory volunteer hours or teaching assignments for the mother, which can quickly drain the energy you need for your own household. 

Furthermore, you lose the beautiful flexibility of taking a spontaneous day off to explore a local museum or rest when your family simply needs a break. Committing to outside groups easily shifts your focus from customized learning to rushing out the door with half-eaten breakfasts. 

A well-rounded child is not created by an overflowing calendar. Children are nurtured in a home where there is ample time to think, play, and learn without constant hurry.

9. The Forest School Exclusivity

The idea that all meaningful learning must happen outdoors in nature is highly romanticized. This philosophy often draws on the Forest School movement, which holds that the wilderness is the ultimate classroom for a child’s holistic physical and cognitive development. 

Nature study is beautiful and necessary. Yet, teaching algebra in the rain or managing multiple children in the woods daily is exhausting. Sometimes the best learning environment is a warm, dry living room with a comfortable chair.

We do not need to become outdoor survivalists to harvest the genuine benefits of this approach. What we can glean from the nature-based movement is the profound importance of simply stepping outside to reset a frustrated mind. 

When a math lesson ends in tears, sending a child into the backyard for fifteen minutes of fresh air and sunlight often completely changes their disposition. Author Richard Louv has extensively documented how direct, unstructured exposure to nature improves attention spans and reduces stress in students (Louv, 2005).

We can integrate the outdoors in manageable, realistic ways. Taking a short walk around the neighborhood, planting a small backyard garden, or simply sitting on the back porch to read aloud all provide the cognitive reset our children need. Observing the natural world also gently points our children back to their Creator. 

Psalm 19:1 declares, "The heavens declare the glory of God, and the sky above proclaims his handiwork." 

We can foster a deep appreciation for God’s creation without feeling the pressure to turn every school day into a wilderness expedition.

10. Flawless Habit Training

When you spend all day, every day with your children, it is incredibly easy to put their behavior under a microscope. At times, I have tried too hard to correct every character flaw that cropped up, resulting in a wedge between me and my child. Constant criticism quickly breeds discouragement, especially in a homeschooling environment where the parent and the teacher are the same person.

I learned it was far better to intentionally catch my kids doing things right and praise the good I saw. Psychological research strongly supports this approach. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship researcher, found that thriving relationships require a ratio of five positive interactions for every one negative interaction (Gottman, 1994). This principle applies directly to how we speak to our children and manage our homeschool.

When we shift our focus to praising their effort, kindness, and diligence, the atmosphere in our home changes. It naturally encourages them to work on their character and actions without the heavy weight of constant correction. Most importantly, it draws us closer together. 

Proverbs 16:24 tells us, "Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body." 

When we lead with grace and affirmation, we build a secure environment where true heart change can happen.

It’s Okay to Blend Methods

As we navigate these different educational ideas, let us remember that no single philosophy holds all the answers for our unique families. You do not have to force your children into a specific mold or adopt a rigid set of rules to give them a beautiful education. 

The best approach is the one that brings peace to your home and allows your children to thrive both academically and spiritually. Take the heavy pressure off your shoulders. Blend the methods that work for your specific season, discard the ones that cause unnecessary stress, and trust that God will faithfully guide your steps. 

You are the exact mother your children need. With His wisdom, you can build a homeschool that truly flourishes.

Again, if you haven’t read the first post in this series, find it here. In my next blog post, we will walk through 10 Gentle Steps Toward a Stronger Homeschool. Whether you are in your first year of homeschooling or your fifteenth, you will find simple ways to cultivate a learning environment rooted in peace rather than pressure. 

You do not have to figure it all out today. For now, simply rest in the truth of Proverbs 16:9:

"The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps." 

With the Lord’s help we can take small, intentional shifts to bring lasting joy back into your daily routine.

A Prayer for Parents

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the incredible gift of our children and the privilege of guiding their education. Lord, we confess that it is easy to become overwhelmed by the many voices and philosophies telling us how to run our homes. Please give us the wisdom to filter out the noise and clearly hear Your direction. Help us lead with grace, choose connection over rigid expectations, and celebrate the unique way You have designed each of our kids. When we feel inadequate or weary, remind us that Your strength is made complete in our weakness. Give us the courage to build a homeschool filled with joy, peace, and a deep love for You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Don’t Miss This Opportunity!

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

Mark 10:27 is one of those verses that seems to pop up everywhere—on coffee mugs, social media feeds, and wall art: “Humanly speaking, it is impossible. But not with God. Everything is possible with God.”

We love to quote it because it speaks directly to the limitless, world-moving power of our Creator. But what does it actually mean for us when our daily life feels overwhelming, prayers seem unanswered, and we start wondering how the broken pieces of our circumstances could ever fit back together?

To understand the true weight of this promise, we have to look at the context of the chapter. Jesus was talking to His disciples about how incredibly difficult it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God. His words absolutely shocked them. In ancient Jewish culture, wealth was widely viewed as a direct sign of God’s favor. The disciples immediately thought, “If the rich, who seem to have all of God’s blessings already, can’t get in, who on earth can be saved?”

The Impossibly Possible

It’s easy to relate to their knee-jerk reaction. We often look around our communities or churches and think, “They seem to have it all together—the perfect marriage, financial security, seamless opportunities.” Yet, Jesus flips this cultural narrative completely on its head. He tells His followers that it is fundamentally impossible for anyone to save themselves—whether they are wealthy and influential or poor and struggling. Salvation is a supernatural rescue mission.

Right after this heavy truth, Peter speaks up, and I love his honesty because we’ve all been there. He says, “We’ve given up everything to follow you.”

Have you ever felt that way? Like you should be handed an easier path because of what you’ve sacrificed for the sake of the Gospel? Maybe you’ve walked away from a toxic relationship, turned down a questionable business opportunity, or quietly poured your time into serving others when you were running on empty. It’s natural to feel like life should run a little more smoothly because of your faithfulness.

But instead of offering hollow praise or promising a problem-free life, Jesus responds with a profound, sobering reality: Yes, you will be rewarded abundantly, but hardships and persecutions will still come. He wraps up the thought in Mark 10:31 by saying, “But many who are the greatest now will be least important then, and those who seem least important now will be the greatest then.”

This reminder is a vital anchor for Christian readers today. Being human is hard. Following Jesus doesn’t exempt us from the brokenness of a fallen world, but it radically changes how we walk through it. When we let go of our expectations of a comfortable, prosperous life, we finally make room for God’s extraordinary, sanctifying plans to unfold right in the middle of our ordinary struggles.

Shifting Your Focus: How to See What’s Possible with a Humble and Curious Faith

In a world that screams for recognition, self-reliance, and instant comfort, Jesus invites us to a entirely different standard—one of deep humility and active trust.

Here are four practical ways to align your heart with His truth when the road gets rocky:

1. Release the Expectation of an Easy Path: We fall into the trap of thinking our personal sacrifices buy us insurance against suffering. But Jesus explicitly warns us that trials are part of the refining process. Shift your focus away from what you’ve left behind and anchor your thoughts on what you have secured for eternity: salvation, unshakeable peace, and a personal relationship with Christ.

2. Cultivate True Gospel Humility: True humility isn’t beating yourself up or thinking less of your talents; it’s simply thinking of yourself less and thinking of God more. You are a child of the King, saved entirely by grace. When you stop striving for human applause or recognition for your ministry work, you are suddenly free to love and serve others with zero strings attached.

3. Stay Spiritual Curious in the Wilderness: When hardships hit, the enemy loves to whisper that God has forgotten you or that you’ve done something wrong. Reject those lies! God is often doing His most transformative work in the dark seasons. Remain spiritually curious—ask the Holy Spirit, “What are You teaching me here? How can I reflect Your grace to someone else in the middle of this pain?”

4. Trust the Upside-Down Kingdom: The rewards of a faithful life rarely align with worldly timelines. The culture tells you to promote yourself, build your own kingdom, and demand your rights. Jesus promises that those who are willing to be “least” for His sake will be the greatest in His eternity. Trust His timing, trust His heart, and remember that you never walk through the furnace alone.

A Prayer for Trust and Perseverance

Lord, You are the God of the impossible. When my heart is overwhelmed and my circumstances look completely unmanageable to my human eyes, remind me of Who You are. Forgive me for the times I expect a life of ease just because I follow You. Help me to lay down my expectations, my desire for control, and my need for validation from the world. Teach me to stay humble, to trust Your upside-down Kingdom, and to look for Your hand at work even in my hardest days. Thank You that I am never alone and that Your grace is always enough. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Don’t Miss This Opportunity!

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

Recently, a mother reached out to me with tears spilling. A few years ago, she stepped into homeschooling full of hope and excitement. She imagined slow mornings filled with meaningful conversations, nature walks, and family outings, with some child-led education sprinkled in. She had watched beautifully curated reels from homeschool influencers, showcasing barefoot children in wildflower fields and mothers smiling softly over nature journals. She believed what many of us have wanted to believe: that learning happens naturally without the need for strict structure or intentional guidance. The problem was that this wasn’t how her homeschool turned out. Somewhere between kids who’d rather play than learn—and the daily reality of managing a household—things quietly unraveled. Now, this mom was left grieving the outcome. 

Burnout arrived first. Then came the realization that her children were struggling academically. There were reading gaps and missing math skills. In the relaxed environment others described online, her kids were floundering. And to be honest, she was too.

Completely overwhelmed by how to help her kids catch up, this mom made the painful choice to enroll them in public school. Her heart was broken because her children weren’t at the same level as their peers in the classroom. By this point, she regretted listening to the wrong voices. Now she lies awake at night, asking herself how she completely missed the mark. Could she have done things differently? Would her kids ever be able to catch up?

If you are in a similar place, carrying the heavy burden of regret and wondering if you have ruined your child’s future, I want you to hear me clearly: Don’t let shame be your teacher in this season. You haven’t ruined your kids. They can go on to have success. And there are simple ways to make homeschooling work. It all t starts by acknowledging that social media posts rarely tell the whole truth. Even moms who seem to “have it all together” struggle. Me at the top of the list!

The Danger of the Highlight Reel

Social media has a deceptive way of turning thirty-second fragments into entire educational philosophies. The concepts sound amazing in sound bites, and it’s easy to blindly adopt them without measuring long-term consequences.

A short video clip can quietly convince us that children learn phonics simply by existing outdoors or that math naturally develops while baking muffins in the kitchen. Friend, I believe deeply in wonder and curiosity, but after homeschooling ten children over thirty-five years, I can tell you with absolute confidence that intentional teaching matters just as much as dirt under the fingernails. 

Children do not learn foundational reading skills through osmosis, and most kids need someone sitting beside them to patiently sound out letters and correct mistakes.

Daily work is rarely glamorous, and it certainly does not look like the beautiful images we see scrolling on our phones late at night. Scripture reminds us in Proverbs 14:15:

"The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps." 

God’s Word is clear. We need to slow down and ask wise questions about the advice we are allowing to shape our families. We must critically examine who is giving the advice, what fruit it is actually producing in their homes, and whether it truly fits the unique needs of our own children. In the second post in this series, I will tackle The Truth About Homeschool Trends: How to Navigate Educational Philosophies with Wisdom and Grace. In the third, I’ll be covering 10 Gentle Steps Toward a Stronger Homeschool. Each of these ideas has some merit, but we must also ensure they lead to the desired end result: children with a foundational education they can build on for lifelong learning.

When Freedom Needs Framework

Somewhere along the way, structure became the villain with modern homeschool ideals, but I the truth is that a solid framework is actually a form of safety. 

Curriculum is not inherently restrictive, and it is often a tremendous kindness to an overwhelmed mother. A good curriculum provides clear direction when you feel scattered and helps fill in the educational gaps you might not even realize are forming.

Proverbs 24:3 tells us, "By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established." 

A wise parent discovers that homeschooling is something we must actively and prayerfully construct day by day.

Building an educational foundation does not mean you have to recreate a public school classroom at your kitchen table. It’s not necessary to have the same workload, pressure or striving. Having a strong foundation simply means recognizing that children require active instruction. Play, while beautiful for building imagination, does not replace the necessary work of phonics or multiplication practice. 

We can deeply love freedom to create and explore while still creating intentional daily rhythms that help our children flourish academically and spiritually. True education requires discipline from both the parent and the child. Establishing these habits while our children are young saves a tremendous amount of heartache later.

When the Plan Changes

If your family has made a hard pivot recently, please hear my heart when I say that a change in direction doesn’t have to be the end of your beautiful story. Sometimes enrolling children in a traditional school setting is exactly what love looks like in a difficult season, especially when healing must come before any rebuilding can occur. God is not standing at a distance, shaking His head over the choices you made while genuinely trying to do your best for your kids. 

Isaiah 40:11 gives me such immense comfort in these moments:

"He will tend his flock like a shepherd; he will gather the lambs in his arms; he will carry them in his bosom, and gently lead those that are with young."

Notice that the Lord gently leads mothers, never hurriedly or harshly, and He absolutely sees the hidden tears you’ve shed. If you are carrying the heavy burden of regret today, our Heavenly Father meets you in the middle of your mess, offering endless grace and compassion. 

For those still actively homeschooling and wondering whether you are doing enough, see today as an invitation to pause and ask honest questions about what is working and what is not. 

Pause and take some time to evaluate where our children need more academic support. Invite God to show us what kind of structure would bring more peace and growth to our homes.

How to Pause and Evaluate Your Next Step

Sometimes, a highly productive step is to simply stop. If you feel hopelessly behind, pressing pause might sound contrary to logic. Yet taking a break is often the exact remedy a weary homeschooler needs. 

A pause is not a failure. It is a designated time to breathe, to pray, and to seek God’s direction. You can take a week off from formal lessons to read aloud, go for walks, and reconnect with your children’s hearts. 

Psalm 46:10 tells us, "Be still, and know that I am God." 

In the stillness, we find the clarity needed to move forward. Do not let the fear of being behind keep you running on empty. You have permission to rest.

10 Questions to Ask About Your Homeschool

As you rest, gently evaluate your current season. Here are ten questions to ask about your homeschool:

1. What specific areas is my child struggling with academically?
2. Am I consistently providing the focused instruction my children need?
3. What part of our daily rhythm brings genuine joy and peace?
4. Where is the friction occurring during our learning time?
5. Is our current curriculum serving our family, or are we serving the curriculum?
6. Have I been relying too heavily on social media for my educational philosophy rather than on God’s leading?
7. Are there foundational skills in reading or math that we need to revisit?
8. Does my child need outside help, tutoring, or a new learning environment right now?
9. How is my own spiritual and emotional health impacting our homeschool days?
10. What is one manageable change we can make this week to bring order to our schedule?

10 Places to Find Answers for Your Homeschool

When you identify the gaps, you do not have to figure out the solutions alone. Here are ten places to look for the answers:

1. The Word of God, seeking wisdom and comfort in daily scripture reading.
2. Prayer, asking the Holy Spirit for specific guidance for each individual child.
3. Your spouse, inviting their honest observations and partnering in decisions.
4. Experienced, veteran homeschooling mothers who have successfully graduated their children.
5. Trusted educational consultants or testing services to identify specific academic gaps.
6. Solid, structured curriculum guides that offer clear, daily lesson plans.
7. Your local library, speaking with librarians about resources for struggling learners.
8. Christian counseling, if burnout and anxiety are clouding your ability to lead your home.
9. Local homeschool support groups where you can find in-person community and accountability.
10. Your own children, gently asking them what they find confusing or frustrating about their schoolwork.

Friend, your homeschooling journey does not have to be an untangled thread of regrets. The Lord is a God of restoration.

Lamentations 3:22-23 reminds us, "The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." 

You get a new morning every single day. Take a deep breath. Let go of the highlight reels. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus. He loves your children deeply, and He will faithfully guide your next steps.

Friend, There is Hope

Returning to the mother I mentioned at the beginning of this post, if you are sitting where she was, wiping away tears and grieving a homeschool vision that did not go as planned, please know there is hope. You do not need wildflower fields or a flawlessly curated life to give your children a meaningful education. Real learning happens in the messy, ordinary moments. 

Real learning happens when we put away our phones, stop comparing our days to an online illusion, and simply show up for the kids sitting right in front of us. God gave these specific children to you, and He will equip you for the journey. 

As James 1:5 promises, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him."

Today, you can pause and ask for that wisdom, and I know that God will be faithful to provide it.

A Prayer for the Weary Homeschool Mom

Dear Heavenly Father, thank You for the immense privilege of raising and teaching our children. Lord, we confess that it is so easy to get distracted by the images we see online and to feel like we are failing. When the weight of expectations feels too heavy, remind us, Lord, to look to You alone for our worth and direction. Give us the courage to press pause, the wisdom to build a solid framework, and the grace to change course when needed. Please comfort the weary mother reading this right now. Replace her anxiety with Your overwhelming peace. Help us to trust that Your mercies are truly new every morning and that You are gently and faithfully leading our families step by step. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Don’t Miss This Opportunity!

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

Okay, can we talk for a minute about how fast the years fly by? I am feeling that reality so deeply right now. We just graduated another one of our students this spring. That means I am down to my final two high schoolers at home! With eight of my ten children now graduated and out navigating the world, I am reminded of how short these summer months truly are.

It is so easy to fall into the “busy trap” during the summer. We rush from one activity to the next without actually connecting. But I’ve learned that if we want to cultivate a happy heart in our homes, we have to intentionally seek out moments of joy, wonder, and shared learning. One of the best ways to do that is by stepping out of the school room and into the great outdoors!

I love this state. It has truly become my home over the years, so I want to share my ultimate Arkansas Family Fun Guide for Summer 2026 with you! Arkansas is packed with rich history, breathtaking nature, and hands-on science. The best part? So much of it is completely free or highly budget-friendly, making it the perfect canvas for your summer family adventures.

Let’s dive into the ultimate guide to making memories together this season!

State Parks: Nature’s Classroom

Our state parks are a treasure trove for gameschooling and hands-on science lessons. From geology to native history, these spots offer immersive learning that beats a textbook any day.

• Mount Magazine State Park: Take your teens to Arkansas’s highest point, standing tall at 2,753 feet! The panoramic views are breathtaking, and the visitor center offers fantastic exhibits on local wildlife and geography.
• Petit Jean State Park (Rock House Cave): Walk the trail to Rock House Cave—which is actually a massive, ancient rock shelter. It is the premier spot in the state for viewing Native American rock art created over 500 years ago. Don’t miss the unique “Turtle Rocks” geological formations along the way!
• Lake Catherine State Park: Lace up your sneakers for a beautiful, family-friendly two-mile hike featuring rolling hills, clear streams, and a stunning waterfall. It’s the perfect spot for a picnic and a nature scavenger hunt.
• Historic Washington State Park: Step back into the 19th century! This legendary stop on the Southwest Trail was traveled by James Bowie, Sam Houston, and Davy Crockett. You can visit the very Blacksmith Shop where James Black forged the original Bowie knife. From 1863 to 1865, this town even served as the Confederate capital of Arkansas. Today, it holds the largest collection of 19th-century buildings in the state. Homeschool Perk: Stop by the 1874 Courthouse visitor center, the Weapons Museum, and the Print Museum. If you’re planning a group trip, call 870-983-2660 to request their updated Teacher’s Guide. Before you leave, grab lunch at the Williams Tavern Restaurant for a taste of history!
• Crater of Diamonds State Park: Located in Murfreesboro, this is one of the only places in the world where the public can search for real diamonds in their original volcanic source. For a small admission fee, your family can search a 37-acre plowed field—the eroded surface of an ancient volcanic crater. The best rule? Any rock, mineral, or gemstone you find is yours to keep!
• Civil River Red River Campaign Sites: If you are studying American history, you can visit south-central Arkansas to see where three major Civil War battles took place in the spring of 1864: Poison Springs, Marks’ Mills, and Jenkins Ferry Battleground State Park. Together with Historic Washington, they form a National Historic Landmark. You can download educational brochures directly from the Arkansas State Parks website.

Local Parks, Trails, & Hidden Gems

You don’t have to drive far from downtown Little Rock to find beautiful spaces to explore, move, and photograph.

Local Parks

• Big Dam Bridge: Come walk or bike across the longest pedestrian and bicycle bridge in North America built specifically for that use! It spans a massive 4,226 feet atop the Murray Lock and Dam, offering incredible views of the Arkansas River.
• The Old Mill (North Little Rock): Bring your camera! This is a gorgeous, historic re-creation of an 1880s water-powered grist mill, famously featured in the opening scenes of the classic movie Gone With the Wind. It features stunning concrete sculptures by artist Dionicio Rodríguez and is listed on the National Register of Historic Places.

Nature Trails

• Pinnacle Mountain State Park: Standing as the centerpiece of Central Arkansas, this park offers outdoor adventure on the Big and Little Maumelle Rivers. It features over 15 miles of hiking trails (including a challenging hike to the summit) and 7 miles of mountain bike trails. Stop by the visitor center to look at their schedule of park interpreter programs!
• Lorance Creek Natural Area: This is a primarily shallow, ground-water swamp featuring a fully accessible boardwalk trail. It winds through a mix of pine, hardwood forest, and bald cypress-water tupelo swamps. Interpretive panels along the trail teach kids about the vital functions of forested wetlands.
• William Kirsch Preserve: Nestled in the Ranch North Woods community right at the foot of Pinnacle Mountain, this 230-acre preserve offers spectacular views, a 1.2-mile walking path, biking trails, and a peaceful canoe launch.

Gorgeous Gardens

• The Bernice Garden: Located in downtown Little Rock (South Main Street), this community space features permanent and temporary sculptures created by local Arkansas artists, along with beautiful mosaics and rock formations.
• H.U. Lee International Gate & Garden: Located downtown, this area honors the late Eternal Grand Master H.U. Lee and the Songahm Taekwondo style. It features a spectacular South Korean gate, traditional foliage, symbolic statues, and a reflective pool.
• Garvan Woodland Gardens: Situated in the nearby Ouachita Mountains of Hot Springs, this world-class botanical garden was a gift from philanthropist Verna Cook Garvan. It features magnificent architectural structures (like the Anthony Chapel), canopy bridges, and dynamic children’s gardens.

Sports, Farms, & Animals

• Arkansas Travelers Baseball: Take the family out to Dickey-Stephens Park in North Little Rock to see “The Travs!” They are the Double-A Minor League affiliate of the Seattle Mariners and offer fantastic, family-friendly theme nights all summer long.
• Ron Coleman Crystal Mining: Located in Jessieville, this has been a premier destination for hands-on quartz crystal mining for decades. Families can dig through the dirt to find and keep their very own sparkling treasures!
• Arkansas Alligator Farm & Petting Zoo: Located in Hot Springs, kids can safely view adult and baby alligators, feed pygmy goats and sheep, and see mountain lions, wolves, primates, and peacocks.
• The Little Rock Zoo: Home to more than 500 animals, the zoo focuses on conservation and education, offering close-up encounters with everything from rhinos to penguins.
• Family Farm: Located in Malvern, they host incredible hands-on outdoor experiences and farm days. While public events vary, keep an eye on their seasonal schedule for family farm days!
• Majestic Park: Located in Hot Springs, this gorgeous baseball park was built several years ago on the very site where Major League legends Babe Ruth, Henry Aaron, Honus Wagner, and Jackie Robinson once played! Check out a game or just tour the park; it’s sure to be a pleaser for your little baseball fans.

Government, History, & Museums

• Arkansas State Capitol: Did you know you can tour the Capitol for free? Guided tours are available on weekdays (schedule by calling 501-682-5080), or you can grab a free self-guided booklet on the first floor. Our Favorite Part: Visiting the Treasury! If you ask nicely, they might let your kids hold a real stack of currency worth $500,000!
• William J. Clinton Presidential Library: Located right on the riverfront, the museum features full-scale replicas of the Oval Office and the Cabinet Room, tracking the history, timeline, and day-to-day work of the 1990s presidency.
• Museum of Discovery: Ranked as one of the best science museums in the country, this is an interactive playground of physics, biology, and technology that kids of all ages adore.
• Mid-America Science Museum: Located in Hot Springs, this kid-oriented museum offers over 100 hands-on exhibits, a planetarium, and the world’s most powerful Tesla coil! The museum also features a 21-acre nature preserve and walking trails, providing your family the opportunity to get outdoors and connect with nature.
• Little Rock Central High School National Historic Site: A vital stop for Civil Rights history, preserving the legacy of the 1957 desegregation crisis. The visitor center features deeply moving, free interactive exhibits.
• Historic Arkansas Museum: Walk through a block of beautifully restored, pre-Civil War houses and galleries that showcase Arkansas’s rugged frontier days.
• Old State House Museum: The oldest standing state capitol building west of the Mississippi River. It served as the capitol until 1911 and now functions as a fantastic, free museum dedicated to state history and political artifacts.
• MacArthur Museum of Arkansas Military History: Located in the historic Arsenal building—the birthplace of General Douglas MacArthur—this free museum honors the military heritage and stories of Arkansans from the territorial period to the present.
• Mount Holly Cemetery: Known as the “Westminster Abbey of Arkansas,” this historic cemetery offers a free self-guided walking tour map at the Victorian bell house, marking the final resting places of famous governors, generals, and writers.
• Rohwer Japanese American Relocation Center: Located in Desha County, this historic site marks the location where thousands of Japanese Americans were unjustly incarcerated during World War II. It stands as a sobering, vital educational site for older students.
• Scott Plantation & Plantation Agriculture Museum: Located just outside the city in Scott, AR, these sites depict early farming life from statehood through World War II. You’ll see authentic 1840s log cabins, historic cotton gins, and antique tractors.
• Plum Bayou Mounds Archeological State Park: Also just outside of Scott, this park is an incredible opportunity for your family to see a historic Native American ceremonial site and ongoing archeological research. Guided tours are available with request in advance!

Living History: Caverns & Theme Parks

• Blanchard Springs Caverns: Located near Mountain View, this is a spectacular “living” cave where crystal formations, stalactites, and stalagmites are actively changing. Expert Forest Service interpreters lead guided walking tours on paved trails. For the brave, they even offer wild cave crawls!
• Magic Springs Theme & Water Park: Located in Hot Springs, this is Arkansas’s ultimate summer destination for thrilling roller coasters, family rides, and giant water slides to cool off on hot afternoons.

Bonus: Free Trolleys!

Don’t want to worry about parking downtown? Hop on the METRO Streetcar! These beautifully restored vintage electric trolleys operate on two routes connecting downtown Little Rock and North Little Rock. Best of all? Rides are 100% free, making it a fun, built-in adventure for the kids!

A Prayer for Your Homeschool Family This Summer

Heavenly Father, thank You for the beautiful gift of our children and for the incredible freedom we have to learn and explore Your world together. As we step into these summer months, I pray that You would protect our schedules from empty busyness and instead fill our homes with purposeful joy. Grant us safety as we travel these Arkansas roads, climb these mountains, and explore these historic paths. Open our eyes to the wonder of Your creation and use these moments to draw our hearts closer to one another and closer to You. Settle our hearts in Your peace, and let our homes be a wellspring of Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

There is so much to see, do, and learn right here in my incredible home state. I know you and your family will have a beautiful time making memories together this summer!

Don’t Miss This Opportunity!

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

Recently, I spent some time chatting on the phone with a sweet friend. As we talked, she began to share how completely overwhelmed she felt trying to juggle all of life’s demands. But as she opened up, she dug deeper than just a busy schedule. She shared some of her inner struggles—the heavy, quiet things she’d been wrestling with alone.

Listening to her reminded me of how incredibly common it is for us to carry burdens that weigh down our spirits without even realizing it. We walk through our days doing the laundry, making the meals, writing the chapters, and managing the schedules, all while carrying an invisible, exhausting weight.

Guilt and shame are emotions that so many of us grapple with on a daily basis. They love to linger in the quiet corners of our lives, casting long, obscure shadows over our joy, our relationships, and our time with the Lord. But ignoring them isn’t the solution. Those heavy emotions are actually signals—God-given billboards, even—alerting us that something deeper needs addressing within our hearts.

When we feel that nagging ache of guilt, it’s often an invitation from a loving Father to come clean, lay it down, and experience true restoration and freedom. In my book Heart Happy, I talk a lot about how a healthy spirit requires an honest connection with God.

If your heart is feeling heavy today, here are ten practical, life-giving steps to integrate the beautiful practice of confession into your daily routine.

10 Steps to Unload Your Burdens and Heal Your Heart

• 1. Recognize the Signals: Understand that emotions like guilt and shame are indicators, not final verdicts. They don’t mean you are a failure; they simply point toward areas that require tender attention and spiritual healing where we’ve fallen short of God’s standard.
• 2. Approach with Humility: We don’t have to clean ourselves up before we talk to God. Psalm 51:17 teaches us, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.” Come to Him just as you are, ready to unload your heavy pack and accept His sweeping mercy.
• 3. Confess with Sincerity: Genuine confession is critical for emotional and spiritual freedom. Openly acknowledge your missteps before God. Don’t treat it like a rigid, formal checklist, but rather as an earnest, heartfelt admission of your faults and a sincere plea for His comfort.
• 4. Accept Forgiveness: Understanding and truly accepting God’s forgiveness is where the healing sticks. When you confess, you must choose to believe in His immutable promise to forgive and cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). If He says you are clean, stop trying to pick up the dirt again.
• 5. Seek the Root: Have you ever had a tiny, microscopic splinter or a piece of glass dug into your foot? It’s so small you can barely see it, yet every single step causes sharp discomfort. Sometimes the smallest, hidden splinters of sin cause the most nagging spiritual pain. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you seek the root cause of your guilt so you can pull it out through confession.
• 6. Let Go of Limping: Even long after a physical injury has completely healed, old habits can make us limp out of pure muscle memory. The same is true for our spirits. Recognize old, negative thought patterns that no longer serve your walk with Christ, and consciously choose to step forward into the smooth, steady stride that forgiveness provides.
• 7. Embrace Complete Transformation: We all make mistakes, but that isn’t where our story ends. Romans 3:23–24 reminds us that while all have sinned, we are “justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Fully accept that you are fundamentally transformed by Christ’s sacrifice—you are genuinely forgiven and made righteous.
• 8. Reject False Narratives: The enemy loves to whisper the lie that some sins are simply too big, too ugly, or too repetitive for God to forgive. Challenge and change that narrative immediately! Believing your mess is bigger than His mercy completely contradicts the absolute completeness of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross.
• 9. Celebrate Your New Identity: Don’t walk away from confession feeling somber; walk away celebrating! Let the pure joy of being entirely accepted, deeply seen, and unconditionally loved by the Creator of the universe fill and renew your heart.
• 10. Live in God’s Love: Finally, make intentional room for God’s love to dwell deep within you. Post-confession, your heart isn’t just a cold, empty, swept-out space—it is a newly sanctified, warm home meant for divine love to reside, flourish, and overflow into the lives of those around you.

Journal Prompt & Action

Take a quiet moment today to pause and allow God to search your heart, just as David asked in Psalm 139:23: “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.”

If you don’t already journal, I highly recommend it. There is something about writing everything down on paper that helps clear my mind. So here is a journal prompt to get you started today:

Is there anything you’ve been holding onto that you need to confess? Quietly pray, lay it at the feet of Jesus, and let go of those heavy burdens.

Afterward, grab a 3×5 notecard and write out Isaiah 1:18 to place on your bathroom mirror or kitchen windowsill where you’ll see it daily:

“Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.”

Embracing the daily habit of confession clears the cluttered pathways of our souls, making room for God’s love to pour in. It fills your heart with a profound, unshakeable peace that whispers, “Jesus loves me, this I know.” Let that beautiful truth echo in your soul today as you walk out your faith journey, fully transformed, deeply renewed, and beautifully heart happy in your newfound freedom.

A Prayer for a Redeemed Heart

Lord, I lift up the reader whose spirit feels tired and weighed down by the invisible chains of guilt or shame today. Thank You that we don’t have to hide our brokenness from You. Give us the courage to bring our hidden splinters into Your light. Wash us clean, fill the empty spaces of our hearts with Your overwhelming love, and teach us to walk without a limp. Thank You for the gift of the cross and the beautiful freedom of a fresh start. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

What Will You Do With Your Freedom?

If you are looking for a way to pursue higher education that aligns with a steadfast faith, I encourage you to explore Colorado Christian University. Whether you are an adult stepping back into the classroom online or you are guiding your own teens toward their next steps, finding a school rooted in a biblical worldview is essential. Colorado Christian University trains students to succeed academically while teaching them to stand firm in the truth of Scripture.

Enter for your chance to win a $10,000 or $5,000 Grand Prize scholarship!

All other eligible entrants will receive a $1,000 scholarship just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

You can learn more about Colorado Christian University’s degree programs and take the next brave step in your educational journey by visiting my link here! Let us intentionally equip our minds and our families to face the future with might!

Oh, friend, can we just pull up a chair, take a deep breath, and talk about summer? As the weather warms up, I always feel this beautiful mix of anticipation and, if I’m being completely honest, a little bit of apprehension. We imagine these golden, sun-drenched weeks of peaceful park dates, reading on the porch, and sweet family memories.

However, as a homeschool mom who has graduated seven students and still has three busy teenagers at home, I know how quickly the unstructured days of summer can turn into organized chaos. Between shifting schedules, teen activities, and the constant hum of a full house, “Busyness” can easily become our banner.

Before I started to actively practice soul care, I rushed to please God by doing more—writing over eighty books, speaking, podcasting, and caring for my family. But I quickly learned that an overloaded schedule leads to an overloaded heart. If we want to thrive this season, we have to learn that heart happiness doesn’t depend on our external circumstances; it flows from the internal work of God’s love within us. We have to tend to the soul first so we have something beautiful to pour out.

Want to learn more about soul care and having a Happy Heart? Heart Happy: Staying Centered in God’s Love through Chaotic Circumstances will inspire you to stay tethered to the Lover of your soul. By taking time to make your heart happy in the Lord, you’ll grow closer to the Heavenly Father, fostering true transformation from the inside out. Peace and joy can be yours—no matter what life dishes up.

10 Tips to Cultivate a Happy Heart This Summer

1. Anchor Your Morning Before the Chaos Begins

Before the day makes its demands, spend those first few quiet minutes in prayer and Bible study. When I open my Explore Every Woman’s Bible in the quiet of the morning, it gets my heart happy and focused on God’s big plans rather than my own endless to-do list.

“Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.” — Psalm 90:14

2. Savor the Beauty of the Present Moment

High school years slip away so fast, and the days with our children are fleeting. Slow down enough to notice the little things—the taste of a cold snow cone on a hot afternoon, the sound of your teens laughing together, or a beautiful sunset. Savor them as gifts from a loving Father.

3. Practice Proactive Soul Care

Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s stewardship. Whether it’s digging in your flower bed, taking a walk in the sunshine, or stealing fifteen minutes for a warm bath, find what refreshes your spirit and make it a priority.

4. Build Community in the Sunshine

Don’t isolate yourself in the busy summer months. Connect with other moms who share your faith and values. Meet up at a local lake, plan a casual park day, or sit on the porch together while the kids hang out. We were created for connection!

5. Keep a Daily Gratitude Journal

When the laundry piles up or summer plans fall through, our emotions can try to take over. Shift your perspective by writing down three things you are thankful for every day. Gratitude has a beautiful way of changing our outward attitudes.

6. Set Boundary Markers for Your Schedule

It is completely okay to say “no” to summer activities, co-ops, or commitments, even if they sound incredibly fun. If an activity is going to rob your home of peace, protect your family’s schedule with healthy boundaries.

7. Learn the Holy Spirit “Pivot”

When a summer day gets completely turned upside down, don’t view it as an obstacle to the day you “deserved.” View it as a divine appointment. The mess can be beautiful when we allow the mayhem to catapult us straight into God’s embrace.

8. Intentionally Schedule Sabbath Rest

Whether it’s taking an afternoon nap, reading an encouraging book, or simply meditating on a favorite scripture verse, your soul needs rest. God designed us for rhythms of rest—make sure you are honorably practicing it.

“Truly my soul finds rest in God; my salvation comes from him.” — Psalm 62:1

9. Ask For and Accept Help

You cannot pour from an empty cup, friend. If you are drowning in housecleaning, meals, or carpooling, lean on your spouse, an older child, or a sweet friend. Asking for support is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.

10. Stay Anchored in the Finished Work of Christ

Remember that Jesus died so He could live a new life within us. When you face the mountains of “Rushmore” and “Do-more” this summer, you don’t have to climb them in your own strength. Access His supernatural peace and power every single day.

Words to Carry in Your Heart

• Staying centered on God’s love is the key to everything.
• Our outward actions should flow from the wellspring of joy within us.
• The external must always stem from the internal.
• Every small decision to tend the soul and turn the heart to God brings change.

A Prayer for Your Summer

Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of these summer months. I pray for my sweet friend reading this today. Lord, when the days feel long and the schedules feel chaotic, settle her heart in Your love. Help her to push aside the pressure to do it all, and teach her how to rest in Your embrace. Give her the grace to tend to her own soul so that she can joyfully pour into the precious lives around her. Fill our homes with Your laughter, Your peace, and Your presence this season. Amen.

Ready for a New Chapter?

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

When we wrap up another homeschool year, it’s easy to just close the books and breathe a sigh of relief. But over the years—from graduating seven of my kids to now homeschooling my youngest three in high school—I’ve realized that the transition from “school mode” to “summer mode” deserves a little celebration.

Back in 2012, when our daughter Alyssa was just a toddler, my husband John came up with a brilliant, low-stress idea to celebrate the season: The “Little Bit” Party. It was such a hit then, and it’s still one of the most requested traditions in our house today. Whether you have toddlers or teens, this is the perfect way to kick off your summer break!

What is a “Little Bit” Party?

The concept is wonderfully simple. You create a dinner menu made up of various foods—some healthy, some “fun”—and serve the kids just a “little bit” at a time. The magic is in the mystery; the kids have no idea what is coming next!

Each item is served as its own “course.” Once all the courses have been served, they can have more of their favorites. It turns a regular dinner into a high-stakes culinary adventure.

Setting the Scene: Decorations & Plates

Since this is a celebration of “little bits,” lean into the theme!

• Miniature Decor: Use small items like dollhouse furniture, tiny figurines, or tea-party sets as centerpieces.
• Muffin Tin Service: Instead of large dinner plates, serve the “little bits” in mini muffin tins or on appetizer-sized plates. If you want to be extra festive, use colorful cupcake liners to hold each food item.
• Personalized Menus: Create a “Mystery Menu” where the items are listed with silly code names. For example, buttered noodles could be “Golden Twists” and applesauce could be “Cloudy Orchard Mash.”
• Summer Kickoff Colors: Use bright yellows, sky blues, and vibrant greens for your napkins and tablecloths to signal that summer has officially arrived.

The Mystery Menu

The best part? You don’t have to go to the store! You can shop your own pantry. Here is a sample menu to get you started:

1. The Crunchy Start: A few cheddar rice cakes or goldfish crackers.
2. Fruit Medley: A tiny scoop of applesauce or three grapes.
3. Protein Power: Two or three bites of grilled chicken or a slice of turkey.
4. Warm Comfort: A small forkful of buttered noodles.
5. Garden Green: A single broccoli floret or a “baby” carrot.
6. Sweet Surprise: A granola bar bite or a tiny square of chocolate.
7. The Grand Finale: A mini cupcake or a spoonful of pudding.

Party Games for Extra Fun

Between courses, or once the meal is finished, keep the energy high with some simple games:

• The “Tiny” Scavenger Hunt: Give the kids a list of tiny things to find in the backyard—a small pebble, a tiny leaf, a blade of grass.
• The Big Summer Bucket List: While everyone is enjoying their final courses, grab some markers and a large poster board. Have everyone shout out one “little thing” they want to do this summer (like “eat a popsicle” or “run through the sprinkler”).
• Blind Taste Test: Have the kids close their eyes and try to guess a “little bit” of a mystery food item by taste alone.

Embracing the Rest

As we transition into these summer months, let’s remember that our work as parents and educators isn’t just about the grades or the completed workbooks. It’s about the memories we build. In Psalm 107:9, we are reminded: “For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things.”

Summer is a time for our souls to be filled with rest, laughter, and a “little bit” of extra fun.

A Prayer for the Summer Kickoff

Dear Lord, thank You for bringing us through another school year. Thank You for the growth we’ve seen in our children and the grace You’ve provided for every lesson. As we step into these summer months, help us to find rest in You. May our homes be filled with laughter and our hearts be filled with Your peace. Protect us in our travels and help us to cherish the “little bits” of joy You scatter in our path every day. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Ready for a New Chapter?

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

Looking back at where we’ve been is so much fun. Recently, I dug up an old “Ask Me Anything” post from twenty years ago. At the time, I was living in the shadow of the Montana Rockies, homeschooling my older kids, and just beginning to navigate the balance of a growing writing career.

So much has changed since then! We’ve moved to the beautiful rolling hills of Arkansas, I’ve graduated seven homeschoolers (with three high schoolers still at home!), and my library of books has grown in ways I never could have imagined. But as I revisited these questions, I realized that while the scenery changes, the heart behind the work remains the same.

Here is a little update on those “writer life” questions, viewed through the lens of where I am today.

1. If you could travel to any time period, where would you go?

Twenty years ago, I said World War II for the research, or the future for the fast travel. Today, my answer is a bit more grounded. While I still love historical research (and I’ve spent many years “living” in the 1940s through my novels!), I think I’d choose the present.

Looking back, I realize that Psalm 118:24 is a daily invitation: “This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it.” With kids still at home and new grandbabies to snuggle, there is no place I’d rather be than right here, right now. Though, I still wouldn’t turn down that “fast and cheap” travel to see my far-away friends for lunch!

2. Which is easier to write: Fiction or Non-Fiction?

My answer hasn’t changed much! Non-fiction still feels like building a house with a very clear blueprint. I can tackle one “room” at a time. Fiction, however, is more like a cross-country trek through a forest. Looking back now, the first half is still the hardest part for me—I still question everything and dive into research rabbit holes!

But I’ve learned to trust the process. I’ve realized that God often uses the “struggle” of the first half of a novel to refine the message He wants me to share.

3. How has your family influenced your writing?

In Montana, I called my family the “color” in my Wizard of Oz world. That is even truer today. Raising ten children—each with their own unique stories, struggles, and triumphs—has given my writing a depth I couldn’t have achieved on my own. They are the heartbeat of my work. They remind me that life isn’t lived on a laptop; it’s lived in the kitchen, in the car, and in the quiet moments of prayer together.

4. Lake breezes or mountain vistas?

Back then, I had the Rockies out my window but dreamed of a lake. Well, God is so good! While I loved those Montana peaks, I now get to enjoy the lush, green vistas of Arkansas. I’ve learned that whether I’m looking at a mountain or a forest, the message is the same: “The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands” (Psalm 19:1).

5. How do you balance homeschooling and writing?

This is the question I still get asked the most! Twenty years ago, I sat in a wraparound desk with my kids. Today, my “office” looks a little different, but the philosophy is the same. My three youngest are in high school now, so they are much more independent, but we still share our lives.

Homeschooling is a lifestyle of discipleship. It’s not just about the textbooks; it’s about walking, working, and praying together. I’ve leaned heavily on Deuteronomy 6:7: “Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

6. Where would you drive if you had a full tank of gas?

I used to say Washington, D.C., for the history. Now? I’d drive to wherever my kids and grandkids are. There is no historical site more precious than the people God has placed in my life. A road trip with a car full of family is still my favorite kind of adventure.

7. What do you cherish most in a friend: Honesty, wisdom, or humor?

I still choose honesty. I am so thankful for the friends in my life—the ones who love me enough to tell me the truth even when it’s hard. We all need those people who will encourage us when we’re down but also pull us back when we’re drifting. Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” I wouldn’t be the writer or the woman I am today without those sharpening friendships.

What questions would you want to ask me? Let me know in the comments!

A Prayer for Your Season

Lord, thank You for the way You lead us through different seasons of life. Whether we are in a season of “mountain vistas” or “thick forests,” help us to trust Your hand. Thank You for the gift of family and the friends who sharpen us. Give us the grace to be present today, to teach our children well, and to reflect Your beauty in everything we create. Amen.

Ready for a New Season?

If you are looking for a way to pursue higher education that aligns with a steadfast faith, I encourage you to explore Colorado Christian University. Whether you are an adult stepping back into the classroom online or you are guiding your own teens toward their next steps, finding a school rooted in a biblical worldview is essential. Colorado Christian University trains students to succeed academically while teaching them to stand firm in the truth of Scripture.

Enter for your chance to win a $10,000 or $5,000 Grand Prize scholarship!

All other eligible entrants will receive a $1,000 scholarship just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

You can learn more about Colorado Christian University’s degree programs and take the next brave step in your educational journey by visiting my link here! Let us intentionally equip our minds and our families to face the future with might!

If you’ve followed my journey for a while, you know that homeschooling in our house isn’t just about workbooks and lectures—it’s a lifestyle. We’ve always looked for ways to make learning feel like an adventure. Years ago, I remember standing at a homeschool convention and finding a game that absolutely revolutionized the way I thought about teaching writing.

It was called Liebrary. While that specific version has become a rare vintage find, the heart of that discovery remains: Games are one of the most powerful tools in a homeschool mom’s arsenal.

In the homeschooling community, we often call this “Gameschooling.” It’s the art of using tabletop games to teach everything from vocabulary and logic to social skills and strategy. Whether you are trying to expand a high schooler’s vocabulary or get a reluctant middle-schooler to understand the “hook” of a story, word games take the pressure off the “assignment” and put the focus on the fun.

Our Favorite Games for the Homeschool Classroom

If you are looking to add some “stealth learning” to your curriculum this year, here is a list of games that have earned a permanent spot on our shelves. These are perfect for rainy afternoons or as a reward for finishing a tough math unit!

Word & Language Builders

• Bananagrams: This is a staple in our house. It’s fast-paced, requires no board, and is great for all ages. It builds spelling confidence and quick thinking. You can even find a version for littles here!
• UpWords: Think of this as 3D Scrabble. You can stack letters on top of each other to change words. It’s fantastic for teaching prefixes, suffixes, and how changing one letter can transform a whole thought. With a little help, this can be a great intro to Scrabble for younger players.
• Scrabble: A classic for a reason! It’s a vocabulary builder like no other. For younger kids, we sometimes play “open board” where we all help each other find the best words.
• Boggle: This game is wonderful for pattern recognition and helps kids find smaller words hidden within larger ones. It’s also portable, making it great for the car or a day at the park! Find the version for little ones here!
• Tapple: This is a fast-paced category game that gets everyone thinking quickly. It’s great for building “word retrieval” skills and categorizing information.
• Spell Trek: A fantastic adventure-themed game that makes spelling practice feel like a mission rather than a chore.

Strategy & Logic

• Code Names: This game is brilliant for teaching word association and critical thinking. You have to give one-word clues to help your team find specific cards without hitting the “assassin.”
• A Little Wordy: A clever two-player game that is part word-building and part logic/deduction.

Creative Writing & Thinking

• Poetry for Neanderthals: This one will have your teens in stitches. You have to explain complex concepts using only single-syllable words. It’s a brilliant lesson in word choice and simplicity.
• Scattergories: This is perfect for teaching students to think outside the box. It rewards unique answers and expands their descriptive vocabulary.
• Herd Mentality: This is a “social deduction” game where you try to guess what everyone else is thinking. It’s a fun way to discuss perspective and commonality.

Making Memories While We Learn

Looking back at those convention days, my “why” was often about the next big project or deadline. But the “why” that truly lasted was the laughter around the table.

I remember praying back then for the funds to bring our kids with us to China to adopt our daughter. God answered those prayers in His own beautiful way, but He also used these games to bond us together as a family during the waiting.

Don’t be afraid to put the textbooks away for an hour and pull out a game. You aren’t “skipping” school; you are building a love for language and a bond with your children that will stay with them long after they graduate.

A Prayer for the Homeschool Parent

Lord, I lift up the parent who feels the weight of the “to-do” list today. When the lessons feel heavy and the progress feels slow, remind them that You are the Great Teacher. Give them the freedom to find joy in the journey and the wisdom to know when to pause for laughter. Bless their homes with peace and their children with a curiosity that honors You. Thank You for the gift of time together. Amen.

Additional Resources

Ready for a New Chapter?

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

John and I have ten kids, and that’s a lot! Even now, when several of them have grown up and moved out, it’s still easy to see “the kids” as a group; but they are individuals. With each of them, there is a one-on-one relationship that needs to be fostered and nurtured. This is hard to do when we also have jobs, housework, homeschooling, and church and ministry activities, yet it is so important.

Seven of our kids were adopted, and only one of those was an infant adoption, so the kids came with backgrounds of trauma which has led to all types of challenges and behavioral issues. I’ve gone to hundreds of hours of therapy with them over the years, as we work through trauma-based issues, and do you know what the #1 tool has been to fostering healing? One-on-one time with their mom. One-on-one time fosters bonding. One-on-one time helps regulate kids. In a world that is overwhelming and confusing, one-on-one time helps kids find their foundation and their center.

So how is it possible?

7 Tips for Spending One-on-One Time With Your Kids

1. Schedule It

The first trick to one-on-one time is just to schedule it. One of the best ways is making dates to take our kids to lunch. We set the day, and they get to pick the place (within reason). We try to do these dates monthly. This means there is one day each month that our kids know they have our full and undivided attention. (This also means keeping electronics and smartphones tucked away, especially mine!)

Of course, it doesn’t have to be lunch. I’ve created a free printable that you can use to schedule a special time with each child. They’ll have a ton of fun coming up with ideas for your time!

Also, Becky from YourModernFamily.com uses a unique way to schedule one-on-one time:

Spending one-on-one time with each of the kids can be challenging because they each want our attention all of the time. I was talking about this with my dear friend, Kristy, and she told me a wonderful idea that we have since adopted and we now use every month:

Every month on our child’s ‘birth date,” they get to have “their night” (example: our first son was born on August 29th, so every month on the 29th is his night. Our second son was born on April 18th, so the 18th of every month is his night).

I love that idea!

2. Connect in Small Increments

When I was having big behavior issues with 2 ½-year-old Casey, the therapist asked me to spend 5 minutes a day of one-on-one time with him. The time had to be away from everyone else. He had to have my full attention, and I was to play what he wanted.

Casey and I had a special toy box just for this time with Legos, animals, and cars. As we played my job was to:

• State what he was doing (“You are lining up the cars”)
• Praise him (“Great job sharing with Mommy”)
• Repeat his words (“The car is red”). This let Casey know I was focused and paying attention. It built a connection between us. And, amazingly, his behavior improved!

This has worked with older kids, too. I had one older girl who really struggled in our home. After years of trauma, followed by years in foster care, it was hard for her to connect and feel loved. What was the therapist’s advice? 15 minutes of one-on-one time a day. And, yes, it worked.

On days when I took the time to spend with her, her behavior improved immensely, and it was only 15-minutes! (Okay, the truth is that we usually went longer because we were having so much fun connecting.) Sometimes we’d just sit on my bed and talk. Other times we baked. And once she helped me open a stack of business mail, and we had fun reading letters and notes from my readers together.

When spending time together in small increments, let your child know what to expect. “We will play with toys from this box,” or “We’ll have ten minutes to play today and another 10 minutes tomorrow.” Kids will usually want more options and more time, but letting them know ahead of time what to expect will help with expectations and transitions. (After all, what kid wants fun time with Mom to stop?)

3. Add One-on-One Time Into “Together” Moments

My three youngest kids shared a bedroom when they were small, and they did the bedtime routine together. Yet, as a mom, I also wanted to connect with them individually at the end of their day.

Back then, they were young enough to sit on my lap, so they each got to pick out a short book, and they would snuggle on my lap as I read it. When it was time for them to pray, I’d sit by each child and rub (or scratch) their backs while they said their prayers. When we started this routine, I realized they started to take their prayer time more seriously and didn’t goof around much, but sometimes the prayers stretched out a bit longer because they were enjoying the caress. Before I left the room, I would tuck them in, snuggle them down, and give more kisses and hugs.

4. Always Say “Yes”

I’m honored when kids want to spend time with me. When they ask things like, “Mom, can we make some cookies?” or “Mom, do you want to play a game?” I try to always say yes, even with my kids who are grown and with my grandkids when they visit! “Yes” doesn’t mean I stop what I’m doing, but I do take a moment and think through when I can spend time with them. I’ll tell them, “I can’t bake cookies now, but let’s do that after dinner.” Make sure if you give a time, you do your best to stick to it. Work hard to keep your word.

Then Jesus called for the children and said to the disciples, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. - Luke 18:16

5. Work One-On-One Time Into Ordinary Events

If you’re going on an errand, choose one child to go with you. If you’re cleaning a closet, ask for help. (You might be surprised; they usually don’t mind rolling up their sleeves and offering a hand.) If you’re pairing socks make it a game, playing against each other. It’s these little things that will create positive memories for your kids.

6. Use Driving Time to Your Advantage

Parents are always shuttling kids around. Instead of allowing your child to use electronics to “tune out,” use that time to talk and connect.

7. Pay Attention and Heed the Holy Spirit

When you get that feeling that one of your kids needs one-on-one time, don’t ignore it. Both Mama instincts and the Holy Spirit can help you discern which child needs you NOW. There are times when I glance at a child’s face and just know. It’s then I clear the calendar and spend time with that child.

Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it. - Proverbs 22:6

Which of these “one-on-one” tips are you going to implement with your kids or grandkids?

Ready for a New Chapter?

Sending our kids out into the world is one of the hardest acts of trust we face as parents. We spend years praying over them, guiding them, and hoping they make choices that honor the Lord. When it comes time for them to take that next big step toward college, that surrender feels even heavier. We desperately want our children to step into a community that nurtures their faith rather than tears it down.

That is exactly why I am so grateful for Colorado Christian University.

At Colorado Christian University, they offer more than just an outstanding education. They provide a steadfast foundation of biblical truth. Their professors are committed to mentoring students and helping them view their choices in career paths through the lens of a Christian worldview.

Whether your teen is looking forward to experiencing campus life or your family is exploring online dual-credit options through Colorado Christian University Academy to get a head start, you can have peace of mind knowing your student is in an environment that values what you value.

Trusting an unknown future to a known God is a daily surrender. Partnering with a university that shares your family’s core convictions makes that transition just a little bit easier.

Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now:

• $10,000 and $5,000 Grand Prize Scholarships
• A $1,000 scholarship for all other eligible entrants just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

Explore the opportunity and embrace your next chapter here!

The bond between friends is a sacred one—a journey of mutual affection, spiritual support, and personal growth. In our busy, digital world, finding and cultivating deep connections requires intentionality, understanding, and a heartfelt commitment.

The Bible tells us in Proverbs 17:17, "A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need." 

But what does that look like in real life?

The Power of a Friend Showing Up

About seven years into marriage and parenting, my world darkened unexpectedly with the loss of my grandpa. Amidst the heavy grief and the chaos of arranging a funeral, my friend Cindy appeared.

Cindy had been my confidant since my newlywed days, but this was different. She drove in from out of town bearing waterproof mascara, a strong hug, and a tender smile. In that moment, Cindy wasn’t just a “fair-weather friend.” She became the embodiment of Christian love in action. She walked into my grief and whispered, “I’m here for you.”

Through Cindy, I learned what it truly means to be a supportive friend during life’s hardest seasons.

10 Tips for Being a Better Friend

If you want to know how to be a better friend and build lasting relationships, consider these ten principles:

1. Listen First, Speak Last: James 1:19 reminds us to be “quick to listen and slow to speak.” Cindy listened without a filter, allowing me to process my pain.
2. Show Up for Milestones: Whether it’s a celebration or a funeral, being physically present matters more than any text message.
3. Keep Your Promises: Reliability is the foundation of trust. If you say you’ll be there, be there.
4. Encourage Genuinely: True encouragement doesn’t require a long speech; sometimes, it’s just a simple gesture that speaks volumes.
5. Respect Boundaries: A good friend intuitively knows when to offer a shoulder and when to give you space to breathe.
6. Forgive Quickly: Colossians 3:13 urges us to forgive as the Lord forgave us. Don’t let petty disagreements stand in the way of a long-term bond.
7. Celebrate Success: When I received my first publishing contract around the same time I lost my grandpa, Cindy was the first to cheer. A true friend isn’t threatened by your wins.
8. Offer Help Before It’s Asked: Proactive help is a gift. Cindy knew I needed waterproof mascara before I even realized I’d be crying through a service.
9. Stay Honest: Faithful are the wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6). True friends share hard truths with gentleness to help us heal and grow.
10. Nurture the Bond: Deep friendships aren’t accidental; they are nurtured through consistent, caring actions over time.

Reminders for Your Heart

• A friend knows the song in your heart. When you forget the words, a true friend sings them back to you. Cindy reminded me of the joy my grandpa brought to my life when I could only see the sorrow.
• Friendship isn’t about duration; it’s about devotion. It’s not about who you’ve known the longest, but who walked in and proved they were staying when everyone else walked out.
• Friendship multiplies joy and divides grief. As the old saying goes, a burden shared is a burden halved.

True godly friendship means making your friend’s problems your own so they don’t have to face them alone. These relationships are the true measure of our wealth in this life.

A Prayer for Your Friendships

Dear Lord, thank You for the gift of community and the sacred bond of friendship. I ask that You would help me be a friend like Cindy—someone who shows up, listens well, and loves deeply. Please bring godly, supportive friends into my life and give me the wisdom to nurture those bonds. Teach us to bear one another’s burdens and to reflect Your love in every interaction. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Additional Resources

If you are looking for a way to pursue higher education that aligns with a steadfast faith, I encourage you to explore Colorado Christian University. Whether you are an adult stepping back into the classroom online or you are guiding your own teens toward their next steps, finding a school rooted in a biblical worldview is essential. Colorado Christian University trains students to succeed academically while teaching them to stand firm in the truth of Scripture.

Enter for your chance to win a $10,000 or $5,000 Grand Prize scholarship!

All other eligible entrants will receive a $1,000 scholarship just for entering.

Enter the Colorado Christian University Spring 2026 Scholarship Contest by June 12 for your chance to win a scholarship to complete your degree 100% online at Colorado Christian University. This contest is for new students only.

You can learn more about Colorado Christian University’s degree programs and take the next brave step in your educational journey by visiting my link here! Let us intentionally equip our minds and our families to face the future with might!

I remember the first time I said it to one of my kids: “Say you’re sorry.”

My oldest was just a toddler, and there he was in the church nursery at Calvary Chapel. He’d just charged across the room and tackled another little boy, like he was going for the winning touchdown. My son could hardly talk, and here I was wanting him to apologize. At two years old, he turned to play as if I hadn’t just spoken to him.

With a forced smile, I knelt beside Cory. I gently but firmly prompted the words that after decades of parenting, have become a regular part of our family vocabulary. “Say you’re sorry.”

“Sa-ree,” he mumbled. It was the first of a million prompts within our home.

– Say sorry when you take a cookie that isn’t yours. 

– Say sorry when you’re unkind to a friend. 

– Say sorry when your words hurt someone else. 

I expected to teach my kids those words. What I didn’t expect… was how often I would need to say those words to myself.

The Hardest Mirror

The day came when I realized the same words I was asking of my children were the very ones I resisted. Say you’re sorry, Tricia. Ugh. Do I have to? It’s hard, isn’t it?

It’s hard to apologize to your spouse, to a friend, or to a co-worker. But if I’m honest, it can be especially hard to apologize to our children. Because somewhere deep down, we wonder… does it make me look weak? If I apologize, will my kids think they can get away with more? Will I lose authority if I admit I’m wrong?

So instead, I justified not apologizing. I’m doing my best, I’d think. Or I’d mumble to myself. “That’s just how it is.” 

Even though I felt conviction, it was easier to believe this: “They’ll be fine.”

Have you ever done that? We don’t really want to humble ourselves before our kids so we brush right past a moment that needs repair.

When God Gently Turns On the Light of Apology

For our family, the shift came when John and I made a simple decision: we wanted to decrease the grumbling in our home. We wanted more kindness, patience, and grace. What parent doesn’t want that?

But here’s what we didn’t expect. When you start paying attention to the tone of your home, everything rises to the surface. I noticed my own sharp words and impatience. Broken promises, sighs, and frustrations slipped out when I was tired. And suddenly, it became clear: Apologies weren’t rare moments. They were needed often. From me. 

My kids weren’t the only ones who needed to work on this area. I did, too.

What “I’m Sorry” Really Teaches

When we apologize to our kids, we’re not losing face. We’re offering a gift. We’re modeling that humility matters more than being right. After all, people who love each other make mistakes, yet they also try to repair them

When we apologize to our children, we show that ownership for our own actions or words is stronger than defensiveness. Our children see how an apology should look and sound, and they discover that grace flows both ways in a family. And, most importantly, we’re modeling the very behavior we’ve been asking of them all along.

A Better Kind of Strength

There is a quiet strength in looking your child in the eyes and saying:

• “I’m sorry I raised my voice.”
• “I’m sorry I broke my promise.”
• “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings.”

These apologies should not be rushed or half-hearted. And the 100 percent should not be followed by a “but.” Instead, we just need to be honest about our flaws. And the truth is, our children know we’re not perfect parents. Instead, we’re parents who try to make things right when we’ve handled things wrong.

A Simple Practice That Changes Everything

Three decades after becoming a mom, I’m trying to catch myself more and more. When something feels off in our home, I try to pause and I ask myself: Is this a moment that needs repair? More often than not, the answer is yes. And those same words come back again… “Say you’re sorry.” Only this time, they’re meant for me.

What if today, instead of brushing it off, you leaned in when you’ve messed up? What if you modeled what grace looks like in real time?

When we say we’re sorry, we’re not just fixing a moment. We’re shaping a heart. Including our own. Then, while we’re working on ourselves, we can be trusted when we guide our children, too, no matter their age.

Apologizing To Kids of Various Ages

The way we repair a relationship changes as our children grow, because they understand at different levels at different times. Still, the goal of modeling humility remains the same. We need to make things right when we’ve done wrong.

• The Preschool Years: Keep it simple and physical. At this age, a child needs to see your face and feel your presence. Get down on their level, look them in the eye, and say, “I am sorry I used a loud voice. I was frustrated, but it was not right to yell. Will you forgive me?” A hug afterward helps regulate their nervous system.
• The Elementary Years: This is the time to connect emotions to actions. You might say, “I am sorry I snapped at you about your chores. I was feeling stressed about work, but that is not an excuse to be unkind to you. I want to do better next time.”
• The Teen Years: Use the “Neurological Bridge.” There is a fascinating benefit to text-message apologies for teens. Reading a message requires the prefrontal cortex—the logic center—to engage. This helps a teen shift out of a fight-or-flight response and into a rational state. A text like, “I’m sorry for how I handled our talk earlier. I want you to feel safe with me,” gives them a tangible word to process at their own pace.

The Foundation of Accountability

In my book Calming Angry Kids, I noted that a parent’s emotional regulation directly impacts a child’s ability to self-soothe. When we humble ourselves, our children feel safe enough to take accountability for their own part in the conflict. We are not just fixing a moment; we are providing them with the tools they need to navigate big emotions for the rest of their lives.

The Bible provides a clear map for this level of honesty. We are told in James 5:16 (NIV) to “confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” Scripture also reminds us in Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) that “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” 

A healthy relationship is not one without conflict, but one where repair happens quickly and respectfully. Modeling accountability is the most effective way to teach it, proving that grace is more powerful than being right.

What The Bible Says About Apology

Here are ten scriptures that guide us in the art of the apology and how we can apply them to our parenting:

1. Matthew 5:23–24 (NIV)

"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."

Application: Our relationship with our children affects our spiritual walk. If we have caused a rupture in the morning, we should prioritize apologizing before moving on to “spiritual” tasks or Bible lessons.

2. Ephesians 4:26 (NIV)

"In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry."

Application: This is a call to quick repair. Apologizing before the day ends prevents resentment from taking root in a child’s heart, ensuring they go to sleep feeling safe and loved.

3. Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."

Application: When we apologize with a gentle tone, we de-escalate the situation. It shifts the atmosphere of the home from one of defensiveness to one of peace.

4. James 5:16 (NIV)

"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."

Application: Confession brings healing. When I admit to my children that I lost my temper, it opens the door for us to pray together, which heals the emotional wound I caused.

5. Colossians 3:13 (NIV)

"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

Application: Apologizing reminds our children that we are all in need of grace. By asking for their forgiveness, we teach them how to extend it to others.

6. Proverbs 28:13 (NIV)

"Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy."

Application: If I try to hide my mistakes or “power through” without acknowledging my yelling, I lose influence. Confession allows me to find mercy and regain the trust of my teen.

7. Matthew 7:3–5 (NIV)

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"

Application: Before I address a child’s bad attitude, I must apologize for my own. Taking the “plank” out of my eye through an apology makes me a much more effective teacher.

8. 1 John 1:9 (NIV)

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

Application: We model God’s character when we confess. It shows our kids that there is a path back to righteousness after we fail, which removes the shame they might feel for their own mistakes.

9. Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)

"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."

Application: An apology is an act of compassion. It says, “I see that my words hurt you, and I care more about your heart than my pride.”

10. Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

Application: Harsh words can crush a child’s spirit. When we apologize, we draw close to them in their hurt, mirroring the way the Lord draws close to us when we are broken.

So, are you ready? You can do it. It’s time to apologize.

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Parenting requires a profound level of surrender. We pour our hearts into raising our children, yet we cannot control the paths they ultimately choose. When we watch our children make destructive choices, a specific kind of panic sets in.

As researcher Brené Brown so wisely points out in her book Daring Greatly, our deepest vulnerability can easily twist into foreboding fear. When we are terrified for the people we love the most, our minds script worst-case scenarios. We become paralyzed by the fear that fills us. We doubt that any good can come from the mess. 

The truth is, it’s incredibly hard to hope for the future when we cannot see beyond the next five minutes. We want everything fixed as soon as possible, yet we are forced to realize how little control we actually hold.

I’ve been to this place many times. I pray to God, “Please, do something. Please show up in this child’s life.” It’s a good prayer. Yet, in those times of total helplessness, I’m also reminded that a visit from the Lord doesn’t mean that suddenly everything will flip and turn out good at a moment’s notice.

Instead, a visit from the Lord is more like a soft wind than a spectacle. It’s a time when our doubts become shrouded with a thin veil of hope, when we dare to trust that God can make a way in our child’s life when we cannot see one.

As we see through the people we meet in God’s Word, hardship may continue to be part of a wayward child’s story, even with a parent’s fervent prayers. When we read about the men and women of the Bible and their flaws, we may discover that prayers take longer to be answered than they hoped for.

Still, trusting God is believing that He will be with us no matter what comes. Also, when the whisper of surrender is finally released from our child’s lips, God will not bring out good only for a family, but also for a neighborhood, community, or the world.

Considering Samson’s Mother

Think of Samson’s mother. The angel of the Lord met her in Judges 13 and promised her something she desperately longed for: a child. God showed Himself to this couple. As they offered a burnt offering, “the flames from the altar shot up toward the sky, and the angel of the Lord ascended in the fire” (Judges 13:20).

Samson’s parents grew up in a time when their nation had always been oppressed by the Philistines. They lived in a hostile world. Samson’s mother’s name is not even given. Instead, she is referred to as Manoah’s wife. Not only did she live in a hostile world, but she was unable to have children. How many tears had she cried over this? Yet the angel of the Lord appeared to her and gave her a promise that she would become pregnant. What joy! 

At the time this woman dared to hope for a baby in her arms, God had a transformation in mind for His chosen people. The angel of the Lord appointed this child to be a Nazirite from birth. I imagine that, in addition to her own hope, this woman hoped for freedom for her people. The first thing she does is tell her husband. She believed this, and she wanted her husband to believe it.

Manoah prayed to the Lord, saying, “Lord, please let the man of God come back to us again and give us more instructions about this son who is to be born” (Judges 13:8). God answered this prayer. My heart flips at the thought of this couple and their total faith. So Manoah asked him, “When your words come true, what kind of rules should govern the boy’s life and work?” (Judges 13:12).

The angel of the Lord repeated what he’d previously told Manoah’s wife. The angel of the Lord also stayed, just to be with them, when Manoah asked. The angel refused a meal but then suggested they prepare a burnt offering as a sacrifice to the Lord. 

When the angel of the Lord came, this couple welcomed Him and discovered they’d met with God. This couple had also believed. And they’d witnessed miracles. As the years passed and Samson grew, God’s Word says that the Lord blessed their son. More than that, the Spirit of the Lord began to stir him. What more could these faithful parents hope for?

I imagine this couple never forgot this moment, yet I am certain they were filled with anguish at their son’s  wrong choices when he grew up. Did they ever question whether they had done something wrong that caused their son to go wayward? I’m sure they did.

Samson’s “wayward path” started when a young Philistine woman caught his eye. Remember, the Philistines had oppressed the Israelites for decades. Manoah and his wife wanted their son to make good choices and choose an Israelite bride. But Samson told his father, “Get her for me! She looks good to me.” His father and mother did not realize that the Lord was at work in this, creating an opportunity to oppose the Philistines, who ruled over Israel at that time (Judges 14:3-4).

Did God cause Samson to sin? No. Yet God knew Samson’s weaknesses. God knows all of us are sinners. Even when it was clear that Samson was going to do what he wanted, God had a plan to bring all things together for good (Romans 8:28).

In the New Testament, we are promised that “he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion” (Philippians 1:6). But they lived centuries before those words were penned. 

It was only after their son had fallen to his lowest low that it became clear that God DID have a great plan for His people. God used Samson to destroy their oppressors, but that didn’t come until the end of Samson’s life.

They no doubt questioned if their answered prayer of having a son was a blessing or a curse. And it’s not as if they did anything wrong. Yet, what they’d hoped would be a smooth road turned rocky. In the middle ground between God’s promises, this couple faced heartbreak and hardship. And don’t we too?

When God Brings Good Fruit Out of Bad Choices

This makes me think of my own teen years. Looking for love in all the wrong places, I sought out guys’ attention and got pregnant twice in high school. Sadly, I chose abortion for my first pregnancy. With my second pregnancy, I had a son. God knew I would make wrong choices, yet He also knew He could bring things around to good. 

It was with that second pregnancy that I dedicated myself to God. It was from the pain I felt from the abortion and the lack of help I had to become a teen parent that I helped start a crisis pregnancy center and a teen mom support group decades later.

Even now, Hope Pregnancy Center in Kalispell, Montana, thrives. Even now, I have close relationships with some of the teen moms I mentored twenty-five years ago. This gives me hope for my own children when they make wrong choices today. God knows. God can bring all things around for good. God can use them in ways I cannot imagine. The Spirit of the Lord on our children can change anything.

As the beloved author Corrie ten Boom once wrote, “Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God.”

We serve a known God. We can rest in this unwavering truth:

"But you, O Lord, will sit on your throne forever. Your fame will endure to every generation" (Psalm 102:12).

Here are some ways we can actively pray for ourselves and our children during these difficult seasons of choices.

10 Scripture Prayers for Ourselves to Have Hope

1. Romans 15:13: Lord, fill me with all joy and peace as I trust in You, so that I may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
2. Psalm 42:5: Father, when my soul is downcast and disturbed within me, help me to put my hope in You and praise You as my Savior and my God.
3. Isaiah 40:31: Lord, as I hope in You, renew my strength. Let me soar on wings like eagles, let me run and not grow weary, let me walk and not be faint.
4. Lamentations 3:21-24: God, call to my mind Your great love and compassion. Remind me that Your mercies are new every morning, and therefore I will dare to hope.
5. Hebrews 10:23: Give me the endurance to hold unswervingly to the hope I profess, for I know that You who promised are faithful.
6. Psalm 33:20-22: Lord, I wait in hope for You. You are my help and my shield. May Your unfailing love rest upon me as I put my hope in You.
7. Romans 5:3-5: Father, help me to glory in my sufferings, knowing that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance produces character, and character produces hope. Let this hope not put me to shame.
8. Psalm 119:114: Lord, You are my refuge and my shield. I have put my hope in Your word.
9. Psalm 25:3: Assure my heart, God, that no one who hopes in You will ever be put to shame.
10. Jeremiah 29:11: Father, remind me daily that You have plans to prosper me and not to harm me, plans to give me a hope and a future.

10 Scripture Prayers for Our Children Who Are Making Bad Choices

1. Philippians 1:6: Lord, I pray that You, who began a good work in my child, will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.
2. Ezekiel 36:26: Father, give my child a new heart and put a new spirit within them. Remove their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh.
3. Luke 15:17: God, just as the prodigal son came to his senses, I pray You would bring my child to a place of realization and turn their heart back home to You.
4. Psalm 139:23-24: Search my child, O God, and know their heart. Test them and know their anxious thoughts. Point out anything in them that offends You, and lead them along the path of everlasting life.
5. Proverbs 3:5-6: Lord, teach my child to trust in You with all their heart and lean not on their own understanding. In all their ways, may they acknowledge You, so You can make their paths straight.
6. 2 Timothy 2:25-26: Father, gently instruct my child so that You will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the enemy.
7. Colossians 1:9-10: God, fill my child with the knowledge of Your will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that they may live a life worthy of You.
8. Psalm 25:4-5: Show my child Your ways, Lord, and teach them Your paths. Guide them in Your truth.
9. Romans 8:28: Lord, I ask that You would take the broken pieces of my child’s bad choices and miraculously work them together for good, according to Your glorious purpose.
10. Psalm 91:11: Father, command Your angels concerning my child, to guard them in all their ways, even when they wander off the designated path.

5 Practical Ways to Trust God With Our Children’s Choices

• Surrender daily in prayer: We cannot change our children’s hearts, but we have direct access to the God who can. Make a habit of verbally handing your child over to God each morning.
• Reflect on His past faithfulness: Look back on your life and remember the times God rescued you from your missteps. Let His past grace fuel your present trust.
• Stay anchored in the Word: When fear threatens to take over, combat those anxious thoughts with the truth of Scripture. Fill your mind with His promises rather than your worries.
• Embrace community: Do not carry this burden alone. Seek out trusted, faith-filled friends who will intercede for your family and remind you of God’s sovereignty when you forget.
• Focus on your own walk: Often, the best thing we can do for a wandering child is to keep our own spiritual foundation strong. Model a life of steadfast faith and quiet trust in the Lord.

5 Practical Ways to Love Our Kids Even When We Desire Different Choices

• Separate their worth from their actions: Remind them often that your love for them is unconditional. They need to know they are loved for who they are, not just for how well they perform or behave.
• Keep the door of communication open: Resist the urge to give the silent treatment or push them away in anger. Make sure they know they can always call you, no matter how deep of a mess they are in.
• Listen more than you lecture: When they do share their thoughts, strive to understand their perspective. Offering a listening ear builds a relationship bridge much faster than a sermon does.
• Establish healthy boundaries: Loving someone unconditionally does not mean enabling destructive behavior. Set firm, clear boundaries to protect your home and your peace, and communicate them with grace.
• Celebrate the small steps: Look for the good and praise it. Whether it is a small moment of honesty or a brief conflict-free conversation, celebrate those victories and build on them.

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Brown, Brené. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. New York: Gotham Books, 2012.  

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How come we are surprised when life gets hard, and we seem to be hit on all sides? In the last year, John and I have faced the death of my grandma, my in-laws’ health decline, struggling teens, personal health issues, family conflict, financial hits, and so much more. Just when it seems we have a chance to gain our footing, something else comes down the pipeline. 

Yet through it all, our trust in God is strong. There are some things we do not have answers to, yet we know God is with us. With heartache, we’ve found hope. With questions, we’ve discovered a deeper trust. We face the future with courage, not because we expect that everything will get better right away. We face the future with courage because we know Jesus is with us, and He will always be with us.

As I study the Gospels, I am constantly drawn to the practical reality of what the disciples experienced. Walking with Jesus was not a static journey. It was a dynamic training ground that shifted. Things grew more hostile as the timeline of redemption progressed. 

According to the Enduring Word commentary, “The disciples had been sent out to do ministry without Jesus before (Luke 10:1-17), but then they were received with goodwill and hospitality. Now they faced a hostile world without Jesus and must be prepared. From this, we can learn lessons on how to face hardships and hostilities in our own lives.

The Peaceful Training Ground

There was a beautiful season early in the disciples’ walk with Christ where Jesus called His followers to step out in absolute, unhindered dependence. He sent them out into the surrounding towns with a very specific set of instructions. We read in Luke 9:3 (NIV), “Take nothing for the journey, no staff, no bag, no bread, no money, no extra shirt.” 

The disciples’ job was to share the Good News … the Messiah has come! At the time, there was great interest. Rumors had spread about this not-so-ordinary man. The disciples were welcomed because the Israelites were curious and wanted to know more. There was no nightly news to tune in to. Instead, Jesus’ disciples carried the news from town to town.

Jesus was teaching them a vital lesson. He wanted them to learn that God would provide for their daily needs through the kindness and hospitality of the people they met. The environment was receptive. They were welcomed into homes, and they were part of incredible miracles.

The Coming Storm

However, as Jesus neared the end of His earthly ministry, the atmosphere surrounding His disciples grew incredibly dark. The religious leaders were plotting. The shadow of the cross was looming large. Jesus knew the world was about to violently reject Him, and He knew His followers would be caught in the crossfire.

In Luke 22:35-36 (NIV), Jesus brings up their earlier, peaceful mission. It’s looking back to the “good ole’ days,” and His purpose is to prepare them for the harsh reality ahead. 

“Then Jesus asked them, ‘When I sent you without purse, bag or sandals, did you lack anything?’ 

‘Nothing,’ they answered. He said to them, ‘But now if you have a purse, take it, and also a bag; and if you don’t have a sword, sell your cloak and buy one.'”

Yes, friends. Jesus told His disciples to go buy a sword.

This was a radical change in direction. Why the sudden need for a bag and a sword? Jesus explains the reason in the very next breath. In Luke 22:37 (NIV), He says, “It is written: ‘And he was numbered with the transgressors’; and I tell you that this must be fulfilled in me. Yes, what is written about me is reaching its fulfillment.”

Jesus was marching straight into a spiritual war. He was about to be treated as a criminal. He was warning His dearest friends that the season of friendly reception was over. They were entering a time of intense hostility and persecution.

The Call for Deep Courage

The disciples were going to need profound bravery to face what was coming. Looking back, we can see how Jesus had been laying the foundation for this courage all along.

When they were terrified in a boat on a turbulent sea, Jesus came to them and anchored their bravery entirely in His identity. He commanded them in Matthew 14:27 (NIV), “Take courage! It is I. Don’t be afraid.”

When Jairus was standing in the agonizing grip of grief after being told his daughter was dead, Jesus required him to make a hard choice. In Mark 5:36 (NIV), Jesus said, “Don’t be afraid; just believe.”

Jesus knew the disciples’ hearts would be deeply troubled by His departure and the coming persecution. To equip them, He gave them a gift the world could not replicate. In John 14:27 (NIV), He promised, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

He did not promise them an easy road. He promised them guaranteed victory. He told them plainly in John 16:33 (NIV), “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

Ancient Roots of Bravery

This call to fearless obedience is woven throughout the entire history of God’s people. The men and women of the Old Testament faced impossible battles, but their courage was always rooted in the presence of the Almighty.

Moses encouraged a trembling nation in Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV), saying, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you: he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

God spoke directly to Joshua as he prepared to lead the Israelites into hostile territory. We see this in Joshua 1:9 (NIV): “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

The prophet Isaiah brought words of profound comfort to a weary people in Isaiah 41:10 (NIV): “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

We also see the beautiful, fierce resolve of David in Psalm 27:14 (NIV), where he writes, “Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.”

When I read the story of Deborah, I am deeply moved by her bold faith. In the aftermath of a massive battle where God supernaturally delivered Israel, she sang out a rallying cry. Judges 5:21 (NIV) records her powerful declaration: “March on, my soul, with might!” Deborah understood that courage is an active decision to align your soul with God’s unstoppable will.

The Reality for Believers Today

Just as Jesus prepared His disciples for a massive shift, we must be prepared for the reality of our own walk with God today. We should never be surprised by hardship. The Bible tells us in John 10:10 that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. We have a real enemy who despises our faith.

Many believers around the world face severe physical persecution for speaking the name of Jesus. Even if we live in areas where physical persecution is less common, we will still face intense trials, health crises, fractured relationships, and spiritual attacks. The enemy of our souls wants to paralyze us with fear so we will stop advancing the Kingdom of God.

Putting on Our Armor

Because we are in a battle, we cannot walk out our front doors unprotected. We must practically prepare ourselves every single day by putting on the full armor of God, as outlined in Ephesians 6.

• The Belt of Truth: We must wrap ourselves in the truth of God’s Word. When the enemy whispers lies about our identity or God’s goodness, we fight back with what Scripture says is true.
• The Breastplate of Righteousness: We protect our hearts and our emotions by living in obedience to Christ. We rely on His righteousness to cover our vulnerabilities.
• The Shoes of the Gospel of Peace: We need a firm footing. The peace of Christ gives us stability so we can stand strong when the trials try to knock us off balance.
• The Shield of Faith: We actively raise our faith to extinguish the flaming arrows of doubt, anxiety, and fear that the enemy fires our way. We choose to believe God over our circumstances.
• The Helmet of Salvation: We guard our minds. We must filter every thought through the reality that we are saved, redeemed, and secure in Christ.
• The Sword of the Spirit: This is the Word of God. It is our offensive weapon. Just as Jesus used Scripture to defeat the enemy in the wilderness, we must speak the Word aloud to push back the darkness.

Friends, the call to courage is not a call to be self-sufficient. It is a call to be entirely dependent on the God who has already overcome the world. When the trials come, and they will come, let us remember the words of Deborah. Let us put on our armor, look to our Savior, and say: March on, my soul, with might!

As we step into this reality, applying this truth requires intentionality. Instead of a long list of tasks, let us focus our hearts deeply on three core practices of courageous dependence.

1. The Practice of the Upward Gaze

Scripture Focus: “When I am afraid, I will put my trust in you.” (Psalm 56:3, CSB)

It is human nature to stare at the storm. When the medical reports are frightening, when our teenagers are struggling, or when financial hits keep coming, our eyes naturally lock onto the problem. The danger is that whatever has our sustained attention begins to dictate our emotional state. We find ourselves paralyzed by the “what ifs” because we are evaluating our circumstances through the lens of our own limited capabilities.

True courage requires a deliberate, physical, and spiritual shift of our gaze. David did not deny his fear in Psalm 56. He acknowledged it. Then he made a conscious decision to look away from his terror and look directly at his Father. 

Brave Step: This week, practice the upward gaze. When a fearful thought enters your mind, do not fight it with logic. Fight it by immediately stating a truth about who God is. We must train our souls to look to the hills from where our help comes (Psalm 121:1, NIV).

2. Releasing Our Grip on the Outcome

Scripture Focus: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10, ESV)

One of the sneakiest forms of self-reliance is trying to control the future. We often mask our fear with extreme planning, believing that if we can just manage every detail, we can keep our loved ones safe from heartache. Yet, clinging tightly to specific outcomes only breeds profound anxiety.

Dependence on God means opening our hands. It means praying fervently for our families, our health, and our ministries, and then trusting that God’s righteous right hand is infinitely more capable than our own two hands. 

When we open our hands in dependent prayer, God promises to strengthen and uphold us. He does not promise to answer things the way we want, as quickly as we want. Stepping bravely into tomorrow means surrendering our desire for a predictable narrative and trusting the Author of the story. 

Brave Step: This week, identify one area of your life where you are gripping the steering wheel too tightly, and actively surrender the results to Him.

3. Trading Our Defenses for His Armor

Scripture Focus: “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.” (Ephesians 6:10-11, ESV)

When we feel hit on all sides, our natural instinct is to build a wall. We protect ourselves with isolation, cynicism, anger, or simply shutting down emotionally. These are human defenses, and they are entirely ineffective against a spiritual enemy who wants to steal, kill, and destroy.

Jesus did not tell His disciples to build a bunker. He prepared them for an active battle. Courage means stepping out from behind our self-made walls and choosing to put on God’s armor instead. It means wrapping ourselves in the Belt of Truth when lies feel loud. It means raising the Shield of Faith when doubt creeps in. We cannot fight spiritual battles with earthly coping mechanisms. 

Brave Step: This week, when you feel the urge to retreat or build a defensive wall, pause and ask the Holy Spirit to clothe you in His supernatural armor. Stand firm in the strength of His might, not your own.

Friends, we do not have to live in a state of shock when the next challenge comes down the pipeline. Instead, we can live in a state of preparation. When we feel overwhelmed by the needs of our multi-generational homes, the complexities of family conflict, or the sudden health crises that knock us off our feet, we know exactly what to do. We stop trying to find our footing in our own limited strength.

Our courage does not come from the expectation that the circumstances will magically get easier. Our courage is forged in the fire of knowing Jesus is standing right beside us in the trenches. He has given us His peace. He has provided our armor. He has already overcome the world. When the next storm hits, we can look directly to our Savior and boldly declare: March on, my soul, with might!

Closing Prayer

Lord, we come before You with weary but willing hearts. We acknowledge that the battles we face are real and the hits from all sides are heavy. We bring our grief, our aging loved ones, our precious teenagers, our physical health, and our daily needs directly to Your feet. When the storms rage, and the enemy tries to steal our peace, remind us that we do not fight alone.

Equip us with Your armor today. Wrap us in Your truth and secure our footing with Your peace. When we are tempted to build walls or retreat in fear, help us to fix our eyes entirely on You. Give us the supernatural strength to release our grip on the outcomes we desperately want so we can fully trust the Author of our story.

Thank You, Jesus, for never leaving us. Thank You for the guarantee of Your ultimate victory over this world. As we step into whatever tomorrow holds, let our spirits be anchored in the unfailing love of Christ. Give us the grace to stand firm, to look to our Savior, and to boldly declare: March on, my soul, with might!

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

As we talk about putting on our armor and marching forward with courage, we must think about how we are actively equipping our minds for the days ahead. The apostle Paul tells us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2, NIV). A vital part of that renewal is the education and the environments we choose for ourselves and our families.

If you are looking for a way to pursue higher education that aligns with a steadfast faith, I encourage you to explore Colorado Christian University. Whether you are an adult stepping back into the classroom online or you are guiding your own teens toward their next steps, finding a school rooted in a biblical worldview is essential. Colorado Christian University trains students to succeed academically while teaching them to stand firm in the truth of Scripture.

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All other eligible entrants will receive a $1,000 scholarship just for entering.

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Let us intentionally equip our minds and our families to face the future with might!

Hello, friends. If you have been homeschooling for longer than five minutes, you have probably heard a question you could not answer. When John and I started this journey thirty-six years ago, our resources were limited to physical encyclopedias and the local library. (Yes, seriously!) Now, with ten children graduated and over a dozen grandchildren growing up fast, the internet has completely changed the landscape of home education. When my kids or grandkids ask me a stump-the-teacher question, my favorite response is right there in the subtitle of this post. We simply look it up.

While I love a deeply researched historical novel to teach multidisciplinary subjects like history and English, sometimes you need a quick, reliable, and completely free digital resource. Having these tools bookmarked will save your sanity and your budget.

Here are the top 10 free online resources to support your homeschooling journey.

1. Khan Academy: This is a gold standard for free education. They cover everything from kindergarten math to high school physics and history. It is a wonderful way for students to learn independently.
2. Easy Peasy All-in-One Homeschool: Created by a fellow homeschooling mother, this is a completely free Christian curriculum. It offers daily lesson plans for every subject from preschool through high school.
3. Freedom Homeschooling: If you are looking for an organized directory of free resources, this site is a lifesaver. It categorizes free materials by subject, grade, and style.
4. AmblesideOnline: For families who love the Charlotte Mason method, this site provides a free curriculum heavily based on rich literature and classic books. It is wonderful for weaving ethics and history together.
5. CK-12 Foundation: This is an incredible resource for STEM subjects. They offer free digital textbooks, interactive simulations, and adaptive practice, which is highly useful for older students.
6. Project Gutenberg: As an author, I believe deeply in the power of reading. This library offers over seventy thousand free eBooks, including many classics that are wonderful for high school English assignments.
7. National Archives and Records Administration (NARA): For my fellow history lovers, especially those studying World War II aviation and the European theater, the National Archives offer free access to primary sources, historical photographs, and veteran oral histories. It makes history come alive for students.
8. Starfall: When my younger children were learning to read, Starfall was a wonderful supplement. Their free phonics activities and interactive stories are delightful for early learners.
9. ReadWorks: This site is an excellent tool for building reading comprehension. It offers free, high-quality reading passages and question sets for various grade levels.
10. PBS Kids: For the younger crowd, PBS offers wonderful educational games and videos that reinforce early math, science, and literacy skills in a gentle way.

There is no single right way to homeschool. The beauty of this lifestyle is finding the tools that work for your unique family dynamics. The next time a tough question arises at your kitchen table, remember that the answer is usually just a few clicks away!

What If You Said Yes?

In our homeschooling journeys, we are constantly learning alongside our children. But what about your own education? Over time, people do not typically regret the leaps of faith they took. Instead, they mourn the chances they ignored and the dreams they left unpursued. 

Stepping into a new season to cultivate your talents is not selfish. It is a vital act of stewardship Colorado Christian University is uniquely equipped to support men, women, and yes, mothers, who are ready to answer that call. They provide an academically rigorous, faith-filled environment designed to help you transform your God-given dreams into tangible skills. The best thing is, you can take one class at a time. It is a tiny step in the right direction.

If you feel that God is telling you it is the right season to take the next step, do not let hesitation hold you back. Colorado Christian University is offering a special scholarship right now.

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