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HH&R: Take Photos to Mark Progress or Issues

2026-03-27T10:23:00.002-05:00

Home renovations can be incredibly exciting. They can also be incredibly taxing and stressful. One of the best means to addressing both? Photos.

You can start by planning to do straight "Before and After" photos, but I'm talking more. More photos. More leverage to help you see progress and more clear cut explanation drivers for concerns.

Why take photos:

- For personal reasons: Photos allow you to look back at progress and see what things looked like, remember what you've been through, show the progression, and help you see the 'forest despite the tree's, if you will. As we renovate our home, we find ourselves looking back at photos going "oh! right! OMG I can't believe it looked like that one time!" Even though you think you're going to remember how amazing the transformation is, the reality is that sometimes because you see it all the time and are in the middle of it, progress doesn't seem as exciting. Photos help you remember and really enjoy the actual progress you made.

- For working with contractors: There's an old saying that says "You can say you see a 6, and I can say I see a 9, and depending on where we're standing, we can both be right but frustrated because we don't see the other's point of view." Same is true for construction. Having photos help give everyone the same starting point for the conversation. It allows you to explain to the trades folk doing work what you're seeing and why it's a concern, and it also gives them the same starting point for explaining their thinking and perspective. Without it, you all 'hope' you're basing your discussion in the same assumptions. With photos, there's no assuming.

Happy renovation!

AOT: Choosing Where Your Taxes Go

2026-03-12T12:07:00.000-05:00

Ok, it's that time of year - Bonus Season - and it brings up a lot of angst for a lot of people. If you don't get a bonus, you can still relate.

Every paycheck we get includes the removal of money to taxes. You notice it more at Bonus Season because of the sheer % they remove which is often higher than your normal tax bracket, but irrespective of your tax bracket, this cool idea popped into my head.

What if you could define how you wanted your tax money allocated?!

Disclaimer - I'm actually pro-taxes. I like roads and infrastructure. I'd like to see universal health care and public transportation and a greater sense of humanitarianism and environmentalism. But even if those aren't your choices, I bet you'll still find this idea worth discussing.

How it would work: When you sign up for a job (or if you have a job where you don't pay taxes / e.g. you pay your own taxes, etc, then you'd do the selections there) you select the top 3-5 areas you want your taxes to go.

Infrastructure (roads, bridges, sidewalks, internet, lighting, etc)
Education
Transportation (busses, trains, also bridges, etc) - similar to infrastructure, but with additional other items
Defense
Parks & Recreation (environmental protection, parks, public land maintenance)
Social services
Healthcare
Historical restoration and preservation
ETC

Obviously a portion of your taxes would go to fund the headcount required as well - thinks you can't get out of because in order for government to work, you have to pay people to work in government, but the rest of it (and the bulk of it) would be defined by you. And it would go in equal parts to those areas.

What does this do? This gives an immediate voice to the working public telling elected officials how they want their money spent. Now, many of these services would cross (e.g. healthcare and social services and education, infrastructure and transportation, even defense) but the point is we identify how we want our money spent by where we elect our dollars to go. Then based on how much that particular fund has, they can do things with it. If 95% of people elect "healthcare", then guess what? The government now has motive and money to move towards universal healthcare.

Etc.

Would this upset the balance of power, politics, and capitalism? 100%. But maybe it's time for America to join the rest of the world in taking care of its citizens and for its citizens to start thinking of themselves as global and community participants instead of solo players fighting one another.

Burnt Out Millennial (mix) is Live!

2026-02-20T10:52:00.002-06:00

I'm so excited! My album, Burnt Out Millennial (mix), is officially live!

Sample all 17 tracks and connect to the major platforms: Spotify & Apple Music / iTunes

https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/aboutstephanie/burnt-out-millennial-mix?ref=release

YouTube Music is coming soon. Keep tracking my page. https://www.youtube.com/@AboutStephanie

Quick Synopsis: This is the mix CD we'd burn today if that's what we did. Written for millennials navigating adulthood in a world that changed, this album moves through exhaustion, anger, humor, nostalgia, and small, stubborn hope.

Seventeen tracks. Different voices. Different styles.
Pop, rap, ballads, country, grunge, Latin, K-pop — all tied together by the same chapter of life.

For anyone who did what they were told… and is now adapting, recalibrating, and sometimes white-knuckling it anyway.

Why it matters: There's a quiet understanding that as you age, the music of the day is no longer for or about you. Maybe that was okay in generations past, but today's Gen X & Millennial generations need an outlet that both understands them and caters to them. Our music was varied, angry, happy, wistful, hopeful, and frustrated. And our music from the 90s and 2000s is still good, but we want songs that are today-relevant. I worked really hard to make that possible.

I genuinely hope you find at least one track to love. Share which one that is and why! Happy listening!

LMOH: Creativity

2026-01-30T08:28:00.004-06:00

I had some time off at the end of last year, and during it something in my brain switched on. I've always been creative, but I'd been creative in long projects - novels, kids books, etc. A friend over the holidays told me about Suno, an AI music app, and while I'm not the biggest proponent of AI (I think it has LOTs of good application and possibilities - like robot vacuums and mops - I don't think people are taking or appreciating the level of risk mitigation and oversight it should be coming with), I don't have the voice or musical instrument capabilities to create songs. However, I AM a writer. And lyrics and prompting the general tone of the song I can do.

And I have. And it's SO fun.

What I will say is that creativity doesn't have a timeline. I can't say "I'm going to be creative from 7-8pm or 12-1pm or 8-9am". At least mine doesn't. Maybe some of you have creativity switches that you can flip on and be focused for a set timeframe, but I do not. I have found that most of my lyric writing is either prompted after I've heard or thought of the musical inspiration, or after 9pm, when I'm in bed trying to sleep (which I also can't fault because now instead of my brain being awake with anxiety while I'm trying to sleep, it's working out song lyrics...much less anxiety producing).

So if you want to be creative, first start by rewarding your creativity when it turns on, whatever time that may be! If you love on it, it will love you back. And creativity is good for the mind and soul.

Song & AboutStephanie.com

2026-01-12T12:53:00.003-06:00

As you know I love writing. You may also know that I love singing, even though I know my singing voice has limitations. That said, I have started voice lessons again to make what voice I do have better. It's been fun.

So, when a friend of mine told me about Suno, an app that uses AI to make music, I was intrigued. I may not be the singer that you want to hear on the radio, but I have some song ideas in my head. Figured if I could get the lyrics and an outline of what I wanted into the AI engine, maybe it would turn out what I had envisioned.

And, sure enough, it's been pretty fun! I have created three songs so far: Send Me a Christmas Card, Ending, and Love My Dog.

They're on Spotify, iHeartRadio, and YouTube Music for your enjoyment (and downloading!). I'm hoping to keep adding to the list this year! I'm sure I don't make use of all the features of Suno, though I have tried a number of them and was only so-so impressed. But for what I have used it for, I have really enjoyed it!

You can also find links to them on my new website: www.aboutstephanie.com where I've consolidated all my published works and consulting / strategy offerings.

Excited to have you enjoying more of my creative works!

LMOH: Do Something Good

2025-12-30T06:46:00.003-06:00

It’s coming on the end of the year, and it’s time to make resolutions. For the longest time I did those things, and then for the last few years I realised making resolutions at the end of the year was just trendy. It wasn’t functional. I’d spend the year doing what I needed to do or what I thought was the right move not because of a resolution but because of the bigger goals I had in mind. Not everyone thinks about “life goals” as being impactful ways to guide your life, but they are. If you don’t have big life goals, then you’re just trudging along on whatever path seems to appear as opposed to actively discerning every possibility against a greater goal.

But that can be intimidating for us if we’re not used to working with a “big goals” mentality, and that’s ok. It takes a while. So in the meantime, and for those times when I wasn’t sure what my next big “life goal” was, I tried to default to the “do something good or helpful” mindset. It was incredibly helpful. It made small decisions less overwhelming or points of would-be indecision easier because I’d just have to ask myself, “What would be the good or helpful thing to do here?”

So if you’re looking for a 2026 resolution, and because 2025 has been (as we can collectively agree) overwhelming, I highly recommend the “Do Something Good” resolution. Drop off a canned good. Pay it forward at the coffee shop, donate a used blanket or towel that’s fraying and at the end of its life to a local animal shelter or rescue (trust me, they are so helpful!), put one piece of litter back in the garbage can, read a book to your kid or niece/nephew, text a friend, “Hi! Thinking of you. Hope you’re having a good day” randomly, just to make them smile….you get the point. They don’t have to be big gestures, and they don’t always even have to cost money. But they do require one moment’s effort, and that means you are “taking action” as most year-end resolutions require.

The best part? They make YOU feel good, too, and everyone can use a pick me up these days. And I bet you’ll find it starts to become a habit. And as the movie Klaus says, “One selfless act usually sparks another,” so maybe your act starts a ripple that helps do lots of good. And we can all use a little more “good” in the world.

Happy New Year!

LMOH: You Are Enough

2025-12-16T12:10:00.001-06:00

I saw a post on Instagram this morning that said something to the effect of: If women felt confident about themselves as they are, whole industries would collapse. And it made me smile. Because it's true. Yes, that also applies to men, and so we'll extend it to say: Remember, you're enough as you are.

At a time when Hollywood is reverting to the 60s-90s uber thin model, and everyone feels like their bank accounts are full of cobwebs instead of dollars, and it's also the holiday season so companies are trying to push you to spend-spend-spend, take a minute to pause. Breathe. Stop. You really don't need any of it. You don't need to be thinner or prettier. You don't need to be taller or shorter or have a different nose or hair color even. Yes we want you to be healthy, be balanced, be continuing to improve yourself mentally and emotionally, but the newest sneaker or eye shadow or toy or car or phone or highlight trend or one more pant size down isn't going to change who you are inside. If you're putting in the effort to be a good, kind, honest, caring person, then you're probably pretty great just as you are. No new labels, colors, size needed.

Remember. You're enough as you are.

Happy holiday season.

AOT: Transparency in the Application Process Needed

2025-12-10T14:50:00.009-06:00

I’m sure everyone reading this is either themselves applying for jobs or knows at least two people actively looking for work. I know four. It’s really unfortunate that four folks in my circle are actively looking, as that speaks volumes to the general discontentedness of the state of the American worker right now, but we can save that lens for another day.

Today’s focus is the lack of respect employers show when letting an individual know they’re not progressing in the application process. #4 is the most critical and always comes up in convos when people complain about the backwards application process.

We all know the application process is a joke. Between AI blocking candidates and companies having to post jobs externally for compliance reasons even though they already have a candidate in mind…amongst hundreds of other reasons, it’s a shot in the dark to go from applicant to interviewee. We all know this, but given the hoops applicants have to go through, there should be some mandatory things employers should have to do as well.

(1) not require you to re-fill in all your information when it’s on your resume. Period. You all already use AI. We know it. You can read my word doc or pdf. Stop making us parse our application.

(2) require your internal leadership to apply for jobs at their company once every 3 years to see the failure points. I bet most of them would get auto-rejected as well, but you don’t see it because you don’t require your internal mirror to be held up (think Undercover Boss, but for applications)

(3) remove the sentence “After careful consideration”. We know that line is bullshit. Half of applicants don’t make it past AI (not a real statistic, just how it feels) so stop pretending you’re turning someone down within 72 hours of applying because of “careful consideration”. You can use that after an actual interview, not before.

(4) the most critical - employers should be required to inform applicants how many folks applied when they are turned down. Ex - the auto reject because AI doesn’t like your resume for some reason (granted, I don’t think this should be permitted as it’s bogus anyway, but if it has to continue, there should be a mandated info sharing). “Thank you for your application. Your application will not be progressing. 576 applicants have applied so far.”

Now, let’s say you made it past the AI but not to the first interview round. “Thank you for your application. Your resume was not selected for continued consideration for this role. 1025 applicants applied and only 18 are progressing to interviews.”

Either way, the lack of mandated transparency is sucking the lives out of applicants, including my friends, and it’s painful to see the lack of respect shown to people who need money to work and, for the most part, are capable humans. There are few jobs (on a straight % basis) that require some specialized training, so the inability to get seen and considered is truly the pinnacle of the power dynamic between employers and employees. I hope it improves. It seems corporations just want us perpetually exhausted and disenfranchised because it suits their bottom lines better, but that’s not the way you treat people.

HH&R: Home Flipping Mistakes

2025-12-05T09:16:00.002-06:00

As mentioned, we like to frequent open houses because it's a hobby of ours. I love homes and architecture and my husband loves being practical. Recently we saw a 'renovated' home that is trying to increase the sales price by $275K. It was a full gut, or so it seemed. but all they did was change the superficial materials. The prior seller had redone the roof, the exterior and patio, and poured a new concrete driveway. The current sellers don't seemed to have done much other than 'update' the kitchen and provide some new paint and bathrooms. Here's what I mean - these are mistakes that I believe made them have to accept a reduced offer.

The dining room; It's still the entrance off the garage. It's a 2500 sq ft home and they didn't create any kind of dedicated drop zone or mudroom. They could have. But they didn't. Someone spending north of $800K is likely going to want somewhere to drop their stuff, and there's no dedicated space. It's just straight dining room.

The kitchen:

They put vents on the floor. Those can be moved to the baseboards of the cabinets. Yes it costs a bit of money to move them, but by moving them you (1) gain the safety of not having people drop things and food bits down your vents, including liquids, and (2) make it so that you're not stepping on it all the time (or your robot vacuum isn't trying to work over it). Especially when you're already moving the kitchen to a different part of the house. So poorly planned.
Also, there's no pantry. They had space next to the door that went outside. They could have moved the island over a twinge and put in a double door shelf pantry without issue.

OR they could have relocated the laundry room from the closet next to the kitchen to somewhere else and reused that space as a pantry.

Laundry room - did I mention they moved the kitchen? Doing so means they so could have created a drop zone / laundry room. So irresponsible.

Multiple rooms: They left the wall panelling and just painted it. This keeps the smell in the house. It needs to be redone with new drywall. That smell could be just old house, sure, but it also could be more nefarious and 'not worrying' about it and just painting it leaves the problem for the buyer. I don't believe that's good practice.

Yes, the house is 'pretty' but they had to reduce their price to sell, and the buyer is going to have to contend with these misses at some point. Spend a little extra to do it a little more thoughtfully and then you have a better chance of not only getting your WHOLE investment back but also of creating a name for yourself as a flipper people want to buy homes from and will follow you to do so.

LMOH: Holiday Card Time

2025-11-15T11:07:00.003-06:00

It’s official! Holidays are here and that means it’s time for the annual holiday card. And the moment we finalise ours and it finally arrives at my house is one of those unmatched happiness triggers! I love unboxing them and knowing I get to address and send a little bit of happiness to others. Apparently, our cards are even known for bringing people joy as we’ve received comments about how people always love our cards (sometimes they have unique or fun twists) and they love how they can rely on them to arrive right after Thanksgiving.

You see, my family didn’t do holiday cards growing up. My husband’s did, but we didn’t, and I didn’t get into holiday cards until after college. Initially I bought whatever cute holiday cards I could find in the sale aisles of places and tried to leave personalized messages on the inside. Once we got married, we started sending out the photo cards you see advertised online, and to keep up with the message, we’d add a small bit of commentary on the back. And with each batch, I’d turn on the holiday music, get in the spirit, and enjoy hand writing the addresses to each person because it would take up 30-60 minutes. I struggle with the holidays because it’s just never the same after you lose a parent, but this is something I continue to look forward to and find great joy in doing. That and baking cookies, but I can’t save one cookie every year to remember. (I mean, I guess teeeeechnicallly I could, but no).

So, I’m counting down the days until I can steal one card away to save and then prep the others with the holiday ambiance I’ve come to enjoy. I hope you find a small holiday tradition that, even if sometimes the holidays can be hard, brings you the bit of joy to put a smile on your face, too.

Cheers!

LMOH: Raising Money for Sick Kids with Extra-Life!

2025-11-08T10:37:00.002-06:00

Little Moments Of Happiness are the best - today's is brought to you by Extra Life!

This is the 9th year my husband is gaming to raise money for sick kids with an organization called Extra Life. Apparently it started in 2008, but my husband's been doing it solo or with friends wince 2016. The funds raised to go the local children's hospital, and as someone who battled with leukemia himself, he loves that he gets to do something he loves (gaming) and raise money to give back to kids going through things that are similar to what he went through.

I hate seeing kids suffer, just like I hate seeing animals suffer, because they don't know what's going on and why they're going through what they're going through, so I'm so proud of my husband for doing this amazing charity event every year.

I hope that you have something that you give back to that brings you joy and - dare I hope further - purpose! If not, and if you're looking for a great cause to give to this year, feel free to make it this one!

And if you're around today, feel free to donate to my husband's group directly and watch the livestream!

https://www.extra-life.org/participants/Clay-Houser

AOT: Being (Over) Prepared

2025-10-22T07:16:00.003-05:00

We've all heard the phrase, "Be Prepared". It's not a complicated one in terms of memory or verbal output, but its impact stretches wider and deeper than the cursory glance might suggest. In fact, "be prepared" can mean so many different things to so many people, and the question becomes "how far into 'be prepared' do you go to consider yourself 'prepared'?"

As an over-preparer, I recommend going down as many roads as possible to consider all angles before making a decision. Hosting a party? Things to consider:

Are you doing all the cooking? Do you have the prep-time and oven-time available for all the dishes?
Are people going to be bringing things? Will it be potluck style or will you just ask them to bring drinks? Can they pick what to bring or will you assign things?
Do you have enough counter space to put out all the food and still have places for folks to sit? Will they be inside/outside entertaining and eating? Do you have extra tables and chairs and serving items if necessary?
Do you know what time people will arrive and leave? is it set? is it not?
Is it a small gathering where you need to be sure everyone more or less gets along? or is it large enough that you figure people can mingle and fend for themselves?

That's just hosting a party. Wanna get a pet?

Do you have all the supplies you need (bowls, crates, food, treats, leashes and collars (if applicable), bedding, if they can go in the car, car covers / seats / supplies, cleaning supplies, etc etc etc)
Do you have the financial means to care for this pet (Food, treats, preventative medicine, vet visits)? Vet visits alone have skyrocketed in the last decade. Paying for pet care is no small thing anymore. And most household pets live 5-15 years, depending on the animal, and their care gets more expensive as they get older. Does your bank account and work schedule support that?
PS - I'm a big believer that once you have a pet, it's yours until it passes. All problems it has emotionally or behaviorally are linked back to you, so you need to work on you AND the dog if there are behavioral things. Physical ailments happen. But none of that is reason to give a dog back / put it for adoption / try to rehome it. There's already an animal crisis. Don't add to it by being underprepared.

What about something like buying property?

Have you considered if school districts keeping housing prices high are applicable to the area you're buying? Some towns are exclusively private school based and so people don't care about which public school the home aligns to. Others neighborhoods are fully driven by their school district alignment, and being on the wrong street with the wrong schools can cost you significantly in home value.
Are you ready for preventative maintenance costs - HVAC, Water, Bugs, electrical, etc. Getting ahead of these issues with regular maintenance keeps the big problems at bay and maybe even makes the big problems LESS of a problem because you've managed to keep everything in better condition in between.
Can you tackle lawn care? Do you need to hire someone? Are you prepared for that cost?
Do you have an HOA and do you know what they cover and what they restrict? So many folks get "surprised" by this by not requesting a copy of the CCRs and Bylaws before buying, and this should never surprise you.
Your first 5-7 years in a property is mostly interest payments. Can you afford a little extra every month to put towards principle to help shorten the length of time you're paying a mortgage? And, if you did have to sell in the first 1-15 years, this would help make it so you're recouping some of your principal cost.
If it's not a brand new house, do you have more than $10K in the bank that you can put towards emergency expenses? Yes an inspection should uncover things, but even then you likely will have to pay for them as sellers are covering fewer and fewer items in this market. Plus, once you close, all the problems are 100% yours now, and you don't want to put off something that can create bigger problems over time (think water, electrical, roofing, etc).

Again, those are three common scenarios, but this kind of thinking applies to everything. If you're not accustomed to 'over' preparing, take the time to sit and write a list of what could go well AND what could go wrong. Are you prepared to cover a portion of the 'wrong' column? If not, maybe it's not the right time for you. If you haven't thought about those things yet, this is a good exercise to think about them so you're less surprised in the future.

Hmmm, maybe this would be a good business to start! :)

Food: Pumpkin Cake with Coffee Buttercream and Chocolate Ganache

2025-10-03T08:12:00.002-05:00

Ok, so I have some fall favorite things I like to bake: Pumpkin scones, Pumpkin Cake Cookies , and even Pumpkin risotto (or the version with pancetta if you want the non-vegan version!)!

Well, this year my husband wanted sugar cookies in halloween shapes with frosting or filling, so I made ganache. Then I told him I was making my pumpkin cake cookies and he was like, "Can you just make them as a whole cake instead?! Maybe mini cakes!?" So now I needed a frosting, and I had a lovely recipe for coffee buttercream as well. I figured pumpkin spice lattes are a thing, so pumpkin and coffee naturally go well together. Thus, the cake below was born!

Note, it does require a lot of dishes, and I highly recommend a mixer for the buttercream (I've tried it with just a hand mixer / beater and it's tiresome but not impossible.)

Be ready, this recipe is long as it has 3 components. Luckily the Pumpkin Cake Cookies are already on the blog so you can find the recipe there! The only difference is to put it into a cake tin and bake for about 35-50 minutes, depending on how many cake tins you use / how thick the batter is in each / if it's convection, etc.

Chocolate Ganache (note, I got this from a macaron class at Sur La Table and it's one of the better ganaches I've found, personally).

2/3c heavy whipping cream
8 oz (1 cup) semi-sweet chocolate
2 tbsp butter @ room temp

heat the whipping cream on the stove until it just simmers (stir regularly)
pour the cream into a bowl with the chocolate. let sit for a moment to start melting the chocolate
whisk whipping cream and chocolate together gently until chocolate is melted
whisk in butter
let cool, but continue whisking every 10 min or so to keep it well mixed and smooth

Coffee Buttercream (note, I got this from a macaron class at Sur La Table but have made some adjustments based on my personal preferences)

4 egg whites (I save the yolks and make fried rice)
1 c sugar (you can try 1/2 c if you prefer less sweet frosting)
2 sticks (16 tbsp) butter - room temp
2 tbsp coffee or espresso (you can use an instant coffee, but first mix it with water and start with 1 tbsp as it may be more potent)
1/2 -1tsp of vanilla to taste

bring water to a boil in a pot (~2 inches of water)
mix egg whites and sugar in the mixer's stainless steel bowl (if you aren't using a stand mixer, make sure the bowl you're using can be used as a double boiler and withstand the heat)
Place egg white and sugar mixture bowl on top of the boiling water (e.g. double boiler) and continue to whisk until the sugar is dissolved.

I've been told this is until it reaches about 145 degrees, but it can be anywhere from 5-10 min depending

Once melted, place the mixing bowl in the standing mixer and mix on medium-high to high until stiff peaks form

this can take over 10-15 minutes, so be patient.
you'll need to do this until the bowl cools down too

Check if the bowl is room temp. if it's not, place an ice pack under it to cool it down
Add the butter 1 tbsp at a time (slower is better or you can deflate your buttercream)
add in vanilla and coffee to taste

NOTE: this does NOT make enough for a basic coat AND lots of decorations. You'll need to 1.5 or 2x the recipe if you want to make intricate designs and make it look prettier than my very basic cake above!

Once everything is cooled, you can put your cakes together! I put the ganache in the middle layer as you can see, and I put the frosting on top and on the outside. But the creative nature of it is endless. Enjoy!

HH&R: Introducing a New Topic Type!

2025-09-29T07:16:00.002-05:00

I've decided to introduce a new topic type: HH&R (Home Help & Reminders). Why? Because the more we look at homes and think about our home and rentals and building homes, the more I realize most people either probably know what to do to keep their home nice (or builder / rehabbers don't think about how homes are lived in when they design their updates). So, I want to spend some space dedicated to those things.

A little background: At one point in my life I wanted to be an architect and design homes. That isn't the direction my life ended up taking, which can be a topic for another day, but that didn't kick my love of homes. I love going through open houses and critiquing everything. And as homeowners ourselves, we are meticulous about maintaining our properties. I should also, at this point, create a shout-out to my husband without whom we would not have the amazingly clean and organized home that we do. That's all him, and he's totally talented at it. He thinks about things that never cross my brain and knows how to get things truly clean and organized. I think about things like layout / flow / general home use. We both think about maintenance. Let's face it, those things together keep a house nice and make it so someone wants to pay top dollar when you're ready to sell.

Today's commentary: Please clean your house before a showing. We went to an open house this weekend and then a private showing, and the open house was covered in spiders. Spiders everywhere. And that's not the first time we've been to an open house where the person showing the house hasn't cleaned up right. But for now, let's focus on spiders. Seriously, someone walking around your house (esp if you want them to consider paying top dollar) is going to be put off if every hallway and every turn has them checking to see where to step. If you couldn't spend the 10 minutes with a duster or vacuum (seriously, just a Swiffer) walking the perimeter of your home and shooing away the visible intruders, they're going to wonder what else you didn't bother to clean.

Feel free to recommend topics you'd like covered!

LMOH: Seeing My Art in the Wild

2025-09-18T08:03:00.001-05:00

The other day it made me really excited when a client sent a picture of their kid reading my book and when a friend asked for some of our blank-inside cards to use as her general Thank You (or otherwise) cards. I love that the Ein & Faye collection gives back to local rescues, and I love that our novels and quote books bring great information (and inspiration or critical thinking?!) to others.

Take a look for yourself! Maybe you'll find something you love!

Last Bite Publishing Main Page

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LMOH: Big Dipper Alternatives

2025-09-03T07:45:00.001-05:00

I was looking at the stars last night - it was a gorgeous evening whispering that fall is close - in awe of the stars. Always have been. They're fascinating. I saw the Big Dipper and I found myself looking at it going, "You know, if someone hadn't decided it was a giant ladle, what else could it have been?" Two ideas came to mind: a giraffe, and a brontosaur. Maybe even something like a stunk flicking its tail.

The thought made me smile. It made my husband lower his head and laugh. Wonder what other constellations we can reimagine!

LMOH: That First Fall-Feeling Day

2025-08-25T13:50:00.000-05:00

I was talking to someone I know through work, and she was telling me how much she loves summer. Just absolutely loves it. Loves the heat, loves the sun, loves all of it. I think she is the minority. I prefer fall. I love fall. I love the cool breeze after a hot summer. I love the changing leaves. I love the foods. I love that it leads into holiday season. And I love the first days of summer that finally start to make you realize fall is on the way - that first morning that opens below 60 degrees. The first day that peaks in the 70s. The first day that has a breeze that finally feels cool and like you might need a jacket instead of hot and humid and reminding you that you live in a sauna.

So, to my "first fall days" - I look forward to you.

AOT: Midlife Crisis + Rewatching Shows

2025-08-22T07:38:00.004-05:00

I know I've said this before, but the midlife crisis is real. And as we go through it, and the anxiety and dread and sense of 'stuckness' continues to grow, we have two choices: face it, or cry in a corner, curled up in a ball.

Ok, I lie. We can still face it and also cry in the corner in a ball. They're not mutually exclusive. One can face their future and also sometimes feel the necessity to curl int a ball and cry. I support both. Just be sure if you're crying your'e also facing your future at the moments when you're not crying.

But that got me thinking - you hear about how rewatching your favorite shows or movies is actually a sign of high emotional IQ because there's a sense of comfort in knowing what's coming and when you're stressed that sense of comfort is, well, comforting. We do that a lot here - lots of rewatching shows and movies. But we also did that a lot growing up, and that made me realize - our parents were self-soothing in the same way: rewatching shows. We thought it was fun to rewatch a movie we'd already seen and quote it more, but no no, it's an incredibly smart emotional tactic. You get the benefit of less stress, the joy of reliving the highs, and greater TV- and movie-quote recall through repetition. How ingenious!

Now the question is - what are the TV shows and movies you find comforting enough to rewatch?

AOT: What's After Post-Colonialism?

2025-08-05T07:53:00.001-05:00

I grew up on movie soundtracks. They graced many a car rides and roadtrips. All these year later, I still have many of them uploaded to my iTunes and when I put it on shuffle, sometimes they pop up. This morning was no different - the Pocahontas soundtrack popped up between a myriad of other songs. But it got me thinking - if we're in the post-colonial era, what's next? What is the era after this going to be? While it's true (and unfortunate) history tends to repeat itself and you can study it to understand where we are and where we're going, in terms of "eras", I'm not so sure they repeat themselves the same way. Do they?

If so, what comes next? I hope it's more environmental and animal protections, but there's always a (scary) chance it's the far other end of the coin.

Food: Fried Rice ... Homemade

2025-07-31T14:56:00.006-05:00

I'll admit, I'm a huge sucker for fried rice. Love it. Always have. But there's something magical about restaurant fried rice because I never knew how to make it at home. I figured "sure, easy enough - cold rice, soy sauce, veggies, eggs, and meat. How hard is that?!"

Well, apparently REALLY hard because for years I kept trying and trying and we would eat what I would make and would both agree "nope, restaurant is way better."

And then I saw Jet Tila's episode on HBO Max where he makes fried rice, and (insert magic happy sounds here) everything changed. I figured it out! It works! I recently made it, and let me tell you, it looks AND tastes like restaurant fried rice, and it couldn't be easier.

THANK YOU, JET TILA!

AOT: The Tether of Career + Identity

2025-07-22T13:44:00.002-05:00

Maybe you haven't thought about it before now, maybe you have, but the idea of career = identity is long rooted in history. It's about as synonymous as breathing = needing air. We've been defined by what we do. Even back to cave and prehistoric times = Men hunt. Women gather. Men fight. Women raise families. I'm sure there were men who gathered and women who hunted, but the exceptions aside, you can follow that idea of Person = Job throughout history. Gladiators fought. Soldiers fought. Oracles say the beyond. Healers healed. Medicine wo/men healed. Teachers taught. Blacksmiths forged. Cooks cooked. And on and on and on.

And if you look at that long enough you realize people were essentially raised into a (one) specific career (unless they were conquered and forced into another, but even then it was still basically ONE area of focus). And humans died young. Living to or beyond 50 was not the norm (why we have midlife crises early and not at 50). Even the concept of last names stemmed from the idea of being derived based on WHAT you did (smith = blacksmiths; housers = worked in the house; cooks = cooked) or WHERE you were from (Saxon, etc). https://www.english-heritage.org.uk/visit/inspire-me/blog/blog-posts/norman-saxon-surname/

So all this to say, the idea that today's attempt to break free from your career as your sole identity, having to get permission from one career to partake in another, etc., may seem annoying or even blasphemous, but, in reality, it's one of the most historically-based things we have. I don't think it's right anymore. I think humans and the human spirit is changing at a pace quicker than we can emotionally or social evolve, but I am not surprised it's hard to separate one from the other.

LMOH: The Health "Chalk Line"

2025-07-18T07:26:00.001-05:00

I love knowing things. Data and facts. Facts and data. There is power in knowledge, and I wish more people (companies, etc) followed that. In fact, especially when it comes to you and your body, facts and knowledge are key. I always wondered why we don't have more 'baseline' tests when you're in your 20s to see what the the status of things is so that in your 30s and beyond you can identify changes early. E.g. blood test everything; do the full-body MRI or CT, ultrasound more sensitive areas, etc. Do the test. Know what 'normal' is early so that you can find abnormal early and treat for it!

So that's why when I get new test results back, it always makes me happy. Now I have a new baseline. A new "chalk line" for what 'normal' looks like, or if those changes we see are still 'normal' for me.

I hope you get to find your baselines! Be your own advocate. Speak up. ASK for the test. You deserve it, and your future self will thank you!

LMOH: The Unexpected Happy Surprise

2025-06-16T07:46:00.003-05:00

The other day I received an email that my poem I submitted to an amateur poetry contest made it to the semi-finals! Now, I know that doesn't mean a lot to everyone, but the momentary spark of happiness it generated in my day was so wonderful. It's not often you get a happy email!

But maybe for you it's not a poem update. Maybe for you it's the surprise cup of coffee a friend brought you, or coming home to your partner having gotten takeout so you don't have to cook, or just an evening with a great breeze so you can sit outside in the summer and not be stifling hot.

Whatever the unexpected surprise of your day might be, I hope it brought a genuine smile to your face and paused all other life stressors because those breaks in the day are needed and help us reset.

Feel free to share your unexpected happy surprise!

AOT: The New Midlife Crisis

2025-06-06T07:37:00.011-05:00

It's strange. Growing up we saw people go through midlife crises by buying things, often expensive and unnecessary things, and many of us didn't get it.

Now, many of us are at the age where we finally do. We get it. Why? Because we're at that age, too. I've found the MC (midlife crisis) is usually triggered by one if not two things (below), but the results of those things today often look different (further below).

The Triggers:

You feel like you're falling in an abyss and there's no real end in sight

We're 40 (ish, give or take a handful of years). We've been working for 20 years and we realize we're only halfway there, if we're lucky. We're exhausted and don't know how it's possible to do 20 more years of the hamster wheel.

And everything around us seems to be on fire all the time. There are only so many 'once in a lifetime events' one can handle and, for most, they seem to be coming at us like an automated revolving door.

There's a certain anxiety, energy, and exhausted despair that goes with that, kind of like Stitch from Lilo and Stitch when he throws one of his tantrums. That's how it feels. And you wonder how this will be possible for t-w-e-n-t-y more years...

You realize that "doing all the right things" isn't fulfilling

This doesn't mean you dislike, hate, regret, or otherwise don't want your life or family. You probably love them. However, you realize you've spent 35 years of your life (b/c at 40, you don't really remember the first 5 if we're being honest) doing all the things you were told you were supposed to do without questioning if they were right for you. Did you want to do all the things you did in the order you did them? Would you do it again the same way? Would you push back in certain areas more to give yourself more space, love, freedom, self-knowledge if you had it to do again? (assuming you had money to do things in a different order, of course, and that itself is a certain type of freedom).

Schooling, possibly advanced schooling, marriage / relationships, kids, house, cars, want to climb the ladder by working yourself 60+ hours a week b/c that's supposed to be the way forward...etc etc etc, and also somehow fitting in pets, working out, cooking, cleaning, etc...

...and probably mostly all yourself too, because who has extra money these days to hire help and who lives close enough to family to create a fall-back community who can help you with these things when you're exhausted?

It's not that you don't want your life. Life can be great! It's that, at 40, you finally start questioning. You wake up and go, "Wait, now what? Just more of this and then retire and maybe travel and die? There has to be more."

But what does "more" look like?!?!

For the last generation, "more" was buying yourself the thing you thought you were denied - the extra house, the sexy car, maybe a divorce, a trip, clothes...you get the point....but us? Most of us can't afford any of that. Most of us are still wondering how we've managed to survive paycheck to paycheck with even bigger expenses ahead of us (e.g. healthcare costs, kids and schooling, house repairs, aging parent care, just inflation in general...)

The Outcomes:

So, without all the extra available cash or purchasing power, what are MCs (midlife crises) looking like today?

If you're lucky - quitting your job and finding your passion. This is probably lowest on the list, though, b/c healthcare and life costs are so high most of us can't do this...

Also if you're lucky, buying something nice and expensive...but again, expensive, so for most this is not plausible...

Crying a lot
Regular venting sessions with your friends where you both express your frustration, realize you're not alone, maybe drink, and then plan to do this on repeat because it's free to call your friend

If you're lucky, hiring a therapist

Picking up childhood hobbies, ones you either loved doing and want to do again or the ones you were denied

Can be as innocuous as replaying video games, finding memorabilia to buy that makes you feel special but doesn't break the very small bank account you have, or following accounts that showcase this because you still get the dopamine hit, but it's free

Finding the cheap hobbies (usually joked about as historically reserved for 'old' folks) - gardening, bird watching, getting the tactile satisfaction of a hard-copy newspaper, trying a new baking recipe, quilting, crocheting, etc
Crying again
Rewatching shows (possibly from your childhood but ones from your 20s and 30s you loved) because it's like an emotional blanket - you know what's coming, it's not stressful, it's comforting and familiar, and they make you feel safe and capable.

They help reduce the amount of crying and bank-account-induced panic attacks.

So, in short, we are still in crisis during our midlife, but we don't have the funds, space, or time availability to do what were historically seen as 'MC' events. So we've come up with cheaper alternatives to help 'get us through' and make that dark abyss more comforting :)

Share your MC event! You're likely not alone!

LMOH: Simplifying Presentations

2025-06-03T08:08:00.001-05:00

Most of us have day jobs (or night jobs, but those 40+ hr a week jobs). Some of us have to give presentations. There's nothing more satisfying than a well-put-together presentation both in language and layout. Cluttered or disjointed slides just create more visual chaos which hurts everyone's brain. The best thing is when it's simple, clear, to the point, and easy-to-follow.

Tips for your next presentation:

Manage your colors

You should have one color theme for the whole presentation - usually no more than 3 colors / color families, and for many of us, it's the company colors (so if you have company-preferred colors, stick to them). 1 or 2 is preferred!

NOTE - RED usually means RED FLAG - if your company uses red, try to only use red when you're actually yelling at someone or calling out risks / concerns / things that are behind schedule. Otherwise, please pick a different color!

Coordinate colors

If you use blue for new items, keep using blue for new items. Don't suddenly also use blue for closed items. Use a different shade of blue or a different color completely (like grey) for closed items.

Simplify your language

Don't use 10 words when 4 will do

Example:

Original: The results from last quarter (Q2 2025) clearly state that there is a 10% increase in incoming work volume
Simplified: Q2 results - 10% work volume increase

Make sure bullets / boxes / things align

There's a function in PowerPoint under Shapes called "align" and you can select your boxes or bullets you want to align and pick "align left" and they'll all align. But if you can't make that work, still do your best to align boxes and bullets. There are guidelines that show when you move objects in PPT that help you do this. Balance (including enough whitespace) helps your message come across clearly!