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For most of us, hair grows back.

That’s one reason so many people see a haircut as a low-risk way to try something new and express themselves.

Unfortunately, though, not everyone sees it that way.

This young woman had wanted shorter hair for a long time, and she couldn’t have been happier with the result. But her mother, on the other hand, reacted as though she’d done something terrible.

Sadly, the criticism didn’t stop after the first haircut either. Instead, things escalated when she decided to make another change a few months later.

Read on to see what her mother said.

AITA for cutting my hair short, knowing it would cause distress in my family?

A couple of months ago, in April, I (18F) got a haircut without telling my parents. I went from long hair to a mullet-esque style.

When I got home and my mom saw, she was immediately very upset. She was yelling and calling a bunch of people in the family to tell them about how I ruined my hair. Telling them that I want to look like a boy now. Then ignoring me for weeks.

Flash forward to today. I had told my mom that I want my hair shorter at the sides and front, to which she offered to do it herself. I didn’t want that because I know she wouldn’t cut as much as I’d like or would try to control the style even if I didn’t like it.

Suddenly, her mother barged in her room.

So I went and had it done (still the same length in the back, just slightly shorter bangs, and a piece on both sides of my head is shaved) and came home, to which she stated multiple times that she didn’t like how it looks.

I told her that’s fine that she doesn’t like it.

I go to my room, and she comes in crying and asking why I can’t just “conduct myself properly for myself, the family, and society.”

She went on to say that the haircut is so ugly and everyone will talk about me behind my back. And then she added that she is okay with me being a ******* (she’s not), but why can’t I just be feminine?

And she didn’t stop there.

She said she hates that I’m doing this to her and to stop immediately or else. What this “else” is has yet to be determined.

It’s complicated because, of course, I don’t want to upset my parents, and I do still live with them, but that situation is not changing anytime soon. They’re Indo-Caribbean and carry those values, though I was born and raised in Canada.

Honestly, I’ve loved having short hair. I’ve wanted it for so long. I’ve gotten more compliments than I can count on it, and a few from absolute strangers even. It’s easier to manage the heat, maintain, wash, and work out with it. I think it looks great, and I definitely feel more like me with it. I don’t think I’d ever want to go back to having long hair.

AITA?

Wow! It sounds like her mother has some issues that need worked out.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit suggest she do.

Technically, a down payment could be toward a rental too.

That’s a very valid point.

For this reader, it’s just hair.

It does say a lot.

Her mother needs to take a step back.

We’re talking about hair. It isn’t permanent, and it will grow back if she ever decides she wants a different style.

So, rather than turning it into a debate about family values and what other people might think, her mother needs to accept that she likes the haircut and it’s not going anywhere.

If she loves it, that should be enough.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

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My fellow Americans…

What the hell are we doing?!?!

We’re working ourselves to the bone and it seems like the concept of enjoying ourselves has fallen by the wayside…

And this person is done dealing with it!

He wrote the story below and he decided that he didn’t want to play by the American rules anymore.

Let’s take a look at what they had to say!

I have a new goal, work 1.5 hours less each day at work.

“I was listening to Planet Money today and they cited a statistic that I took major note of and turned it into a goal of mine.

Due to PTO policies, Europeans work 1.5 hours less each day at work than Americans do.

5 days a week, that’s 7.5 hours per week, (basically a 32.5 day work week), and 390 hours a year, or 48.75 work days a year, if you consider 8 hours to be a work day.

We’re getting the shaft!

I’ve been in the US workforce since 2010, putting in over a month of extra work in comparison to our neighbors across the pond, and I’m officially done, and I’m taking it back starting today.

Here’s the plan…

So, while I can’t simply not be at work 1 extra day a week, I can, and intend to, commit to not doing work 90 extra minutes a day, on top of my 75 minutes of current break time (45 minute lunch, plus two 15-minute breaks).

I will be setting an hour and a half timer on my phone each day, pausing it if something immediate comes up, and starting it again once I get done.

I will make sure that 90 minutes is filled with non-work related activities (Internet, reddit, going outside, etc).

Go on with your bad self!

I have no more intention of waiting around until we make the system as a whole, better. I’m simply going to make my system of work better, and I encourage others to do the same, if at all possible.

I welcome any and all ideas on how to do this even better than my current plan.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who works fast and helps her coworkers, but is met with disapproval from her supervisor because of this practice

Check out what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

This reader had a lot to say.

Another individual spoke up.

And this reader chimed in.

Hey, if you can pull this off, more power to ya!

Let’s just hope their boss doesn’t catch on.

But one thing’s for sure, remember to treat yourself every once in a while.

Hopefully they don’t get caught trying this out at work…

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a team that agreed to work overtime, but then not everyone showed up, leaving the rest holding the bag.

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When you first start at a new job, the sheer number of new people you need to get to know can feel quite overwhelming. But over time, as you settle in, people will start revealing their true characters to you, just as you will to them. And as you become more and more relaxed around one another, you’ll be able to find out who in the office are truly your people.

The woman in this story has been at her job for some time, and is knowledgeable about the folk she does and doesn’t want to spend her time with. Unfortunately, another woman who works in the office has decided that she very much is her person – even though the feeling is not reciprocal. That would be fine on the surface, but when the other woman’s behaviour becomes increasingly annoying, this woman knew she had to take further action.

Read on to find out what happened.

My coworker has zero boundaries, stalks me to prayer times, and treats my desk like a playground. I’m losing my mind.

I (female) need to rant because I am at my absolute wits’ end with a female coworker in my office, and I’m starting to feel like I’m losing my sanity.

For context, she is a bit older than me (late thirties) and comes from a very privileged background. At first, I tried to be nice and polite, but she quickly turned into a complete energy vampire.

She uses me to dump all her emotional baggage, but the second I ask a simple question about her life—like asking for her Instagram handle—she literally lies to my face and says she doesn’t have one (spoiler: she does, she just wants to keep her life exclusive while invading mine).

Lately, her behaviour has crossed from annoying into completely suffocating and weird.

Let’s see what else she is doing to be so unsettling to this woman.

She is not a punctual or regular prayer-goer at all. But the *second* I get up from my desk to go for Namaz, she suddenly materialises and follows me there. It’s like she’s tracking my exact daily movements just to force her presence on me during a time meant for peace and reflection.

She constantly walks over to my seat, peeks directly at my monitor to see what I’m working on, and offers totally useless comments.

I keep a plushie and my personal diary on my desk. She will literally come over, grab my plushie without asking, and start playing with it. Last week, she took the thumb pins out of my stationery organiser and started sticking them directly into my diary cover!

I literally had to remove the pins from my table just to stop a grown woman from vandalizing my stuff.

But her behaviour gets even worse than this.

If things don’t go her way, she gets aggressive, rude, and starts misbehaving in the office.

Just today, she got into a massive, petty argument with another guy in the department because she missed his lunch call, giving some absurd, childish excuse that “school kids were too noisy” downstairs (our office is above a mall).

I have tried giving polite corporate hints, but she has absolutely zero social awareness. Today, she texted me to make lunch plans, and I finally just decided to choose peace: I didn’t even open the chat. I’m completely ghosting her messages now because it’s the only way to save my mental health.

I feel a little guilty because I’m naturally a polite person, but I cannot set myself on fire just to keep this woman entertained anymore.

Whether she’s trying to be a friend or not, this woman’s behaviour has gone far beyond what is appropriate.

It’s clear that these two don’t have the same vibe, and she’s finding the other woman’s behaviour overbearing.

She needs some boundaries, and she needs them fast.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a hotel guest who complained about noise from an event, then reported the employee who agreed with him.

Let’s see what folks on Reddit made of this.

This person agreed that she needed boundaries.

While others shared similar situations they’d been in.

Meanwhile, this Redditor thought it would be a good idea to ask for her seat to be moved.

Honestly, getting moved is not a bad idea – especially if there are spaces in different areas of the office or even in different offices altogether. Because while she’s still close to this woman, this bad behaviour is likely to continue. Of course, if she’s happy where she is, it’s absolutely okay to simply try to have an honest conversation with the woman, tell her that her behaviour is bothering her and explain that she needs some space – but whether or not that will work depends a lot on the co-worker herself.

But if she does confront the issue, explain what is bothering her and how she’d like to be treated going forward, at least her co-worker’s refusal to do so (if that were the case) can become an HR issue. Because this woman deserves to have her space, deserves not to have her things touched or damaged, and deserves to pray in peace. Any decent person would respect that – regardless of how upsetting it might be.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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If you hand a fragile, expensive item to a six-year-old and tell him to carry it somewhere, you’ve accepted a certain level of risk. That’s not a controversial opinion — that’s just how kids work.

They drop things, they trip, they grip too hard, their hands are dirty.

But one woman’s sister did exactly that, handing her boyfriend’s expensive fast charger to her nephew and asking him to bring it downstairs to their dad instead of walking it down herself.

So when the wire snapped in transit, the sister immediately blamed the child, claimed he did it on purpose, and then pivoted to demanding the mom pay for the damage.

Considering the fact the mom wasn’t even aware her son had been asked to carry anything, she’s refusing to pay for a decision she had no part in making.

Keep reading for the full drama.

AITA for refusing to pay back my sister for her expensive charger?

I (F30) work from home as a single mum and live with my sister (24) and son (6).

Our dad came to visit us from abroad and was downstairs watching TV with my son whilst I was working.

The drama all started with a charger.

Our dad asked to borrow my sister’s expensive fast charger (unbeknownst it actually belongs to her boyfriend), so my sister (who was in her room) called my son upstairs to bring it to our dad and gave it to him to do so.

I was unaware of this.

In this time, he went to bring it to our dad and the wire snapped.

All chaos soon breaks loose.

My sister at first claimed he did it deliberately because he “always breaks things like his toys.”

So then I pointed out that breaking a toy or something he is playing with whether on purpose (which I have never seen myself) or not is different because it’s his.

If she asks him to do something with her belongings, he wouldn’t just take it and break it for no reason instead of just giving it to my dad.

Then the matter of repayment arises.

Then she said regardless he broke it so I should pay.

I am refusing because I didn’t agree to him giving our dad the charger as I wasn’t aware of this agreement and it could have been something even more expensive and I cannot afford this.

She thinks the whole thing should have gone down differently.

He’s 6 and clumsy and if the charger was so expensive and belonged to her boyfriend, I think my sister should have given it to our dad.

She’s saying she had no idea he was so clumsy/would have broken it and regardless expects me to pay and says her boyfriend agrees.

AITA?

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who stirred up family drama by finally choosing her own mom over her in-laws.

What did Reddit have to say?

This user has their own theory entirely.

This user shares where they think the responsibility lies.

Her sister really needs to pick a lane.

Kids and breaking things practically go together.

Blaming a six-year-old for being six years old after you handed him something fragile and expensive is just low.

It’s not like the kid snuck into her room to grab the charger. He was only doing exactly what was asked of him.

It’s telling that her sister’s argument changed the second her first one fell apart, going from “he did it on purpose” to “doesn’t matter, pay up.”

The mom is right to refuse. She wasn’t consulted and she didn’t consent.

It’s high time her sibling own up to her shortcomings.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a middle schooler who was totally frazzled after being left to babysit alone for 3-plus hours, and swears she’s never doing it again.

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I don’t like HOAs. A lot of people feel that way. But if you live in an HOA, sometimes your dues go towards community amenities such as a swimming pool, playground or a lake stocked with fish.

In this story, one homeowner shares that she lives in a neighborhood where the HOA dues go towards maintaining a private lake and keeping it stocked with fish. The lake is for HOA members only, but apparently it’s not gated or fenced off because sometimes people who don’t live there use the lake too.

The homeowner noticed a family fishing at the lake, a family who is not a member of the HOA, so she asked them to leave. Now, she’s wondering if she was wrong to enforce the HOA rules.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for having a family removed from a private lake neighborhood?

I live in a private neighborhood built around a lake. Essentially, the lake is in the middle and a road runs in a circle around it with houses on the road.

Everyone who buys a house here pays an HOA fee to help take care of the neighborhood. Fixing docks, stocking the lake with fish, clubhouse maintenance, etc. Not a big body of water, about 1.5 miles around.

There are lots of signs, including a big one right when you drive in, saying that the neighborhood is private for members and guests only.

Only people in the HOA are supposed to use the lake.

In the past month, all homeowners have gotten letters from the HOA saying to be on the lookout for people who don’t living coming to fish since a lot of public parks have been closed.

If we see someone who doesn’t live here and doesn’t have lake tags signifying that they are a guest, we should tell them to leave or call the maintenance guy who will handle it.

You can see where this is going.

OP encountered a family fishing.

A week ago I leave my house and see a pickup pulled up to the dock in front on my house. There is a guy (dad) and his two small kids there fishing.

I have never seen them before, so I go up to them and strike up a conversation. I ask where they live and they say that they don’t live here but heard about the lake from one of their friends who also doesn’t live there.

We talk for a few more minutes and I tell the dad (whispering so the kids don’t hear) that this is a private neighborhood and that they technically aren’t allowed to fish here if they aren’t a member or guest. I then say that they must not have known that and tell them to finish fishing for a day. I even offered to give them lake tags if anyone else hasseles them about being there.

The guy thanks me, says he didn’t know, and continues fishing the next few hours that I could tell after I went back inside.

The same family came back.

Two days later, I am going for a walk around the lake and I see the same family fishing at another dock (not in front of my house). I ask the dad if he has tags and he says he doesn’t, but that his kids want to fish and they aren’t hurting anyone.

I say I understand that, but the people that live here pay for the lake, the docks, and the fish in it and it isn’t for just anyone to come here and use.

We get into it and I tell him to leave.

We can do this the easy way or the hard way…

He refuses, calmly, and I tell him that our maintenance guy will be here in 10 minutes and he better find some tags in that time period or else he’s getting dragged out.

I get back to my house, call the maintenance guy, and I see the maintenance guy drive up to them from my window and presumably tell them to leave which they do.

Am I a jerk here? On one hand, it is private property and I let them stay and finish the first day when I could have easily kicked them out. On the other hand, they weren’t hurting anyone.

It’s one thing when the family clearly doesn’t know they’re breaking the rules, but when they came back, they simply didn’t care about the rules. I don’t think OP did anything wrong.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.

Let’s see if Reddit agrees.

This is a good point.

This person knows how the maintenance guy feels.

It could’ve been worse!

Here’s another good point.

Their HOA dues are paying for the fish in the lake, so when the family who doesn’t live there trespasses and fishes, they’re really stealing the fish the HOA members own.

It’s unfortunate to end a family’s fun, but they were breaking the rules. In this case it was two strikes and you’re out.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a family who is resisting pressure from the HOA to remove their tree and lights.

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When you get fired from a job, it is normal to take your personal belongings home with you when you leave, even if they were used as part of the job.

What would you do if you put together an art supply kit to use with the kids you watched as a live-in nanny, but when you took them with you after being fired, the family said you were being shady?

That is what happened to the young woman in this story, but she doesn’t think she did anything wrong since she paid for the supplies with her own money. Her family is split on the subject.

Personally, I think the only reason it might have been a bad idea is that she will want a good reference from the family. Read through all the details and see if you agree.

AITA for taking my craft bag back after I was fired?

I was recently fired from my live in nanny job after a week, being told that they decided a “live in nanny just wasn’t for them”.

It is terrible that they just changed their mind after a week.

They said it was nothing personal, it was all them. They gave me 2 hours to clean out my things.

Before I started this job, I created a huge art kit for the kids with my own money.

She put a lot of time and money into this.

I bought paints, paper, crayons and coloring books. The kids and I used some of it but I had more plans for the coming weeks.

I decided to take the stuff we hadn’t used for a future job. I left behind the colored in coloring books and used paints, but took the unopened things and the reusable tote I put them in.

It is not shady to take your personal belongings with you after you’ve been fired.

As I was leaving, the dad saw this and said the kids would be sad if I took that. I said it was property to use with the kids that I paid for.

Later when I was at my parents’ and looking for a new job, the mom texted and said that was a shady thing to do. I didn’t respond.

How can it be wrong to take your things with you?

My parents are torn. My mom says I was in the right, my dad says I should’ve just left it.

AITA?

The only way that Dad is right here is that it might make it so that the family won’t give her a good reference, which would be very important. Beyond that, she did absolutely nothing wrong.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who is irate after she gave a group leader money for her daughter’s lunch, only to have him pocket the cash and ask all of the kids to pay their own way.

Check out what the people in the comments have to say about this story.

Here is someone who has lots of experience working as a nanny.

I agree. Why didn’t they offer to buy the art supplies?

The family is in the wrong here, but there are several reasons at play.

This family was way out of line. I wouldn’t want to work for them.

I agree, this was a low blow.

What kind of person expects someone to leave their personal belongings behind after getting fired? If the family wanted them, they could have offered to buy them from her, but they didn’t seem willing to do that.

I think she did the right thing by taking her things with her. And if the family gives her a bad review because of it, that is on them.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

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We’ve said it before and we’re gonna say it again, folks…

Some people just have too much time on their hands!

Instead of being productive, they choose to spend their free time bothering other folks.

What a way to live, right?

In today’s story, a person went on the record and complained about a neighbor of their who makes a HUGE deal…about EVERYTHING.

Take a look at what they had to say.

Harassing me over a parking spot.

“This lady is the definition of a Karen.

Narcissistic

Entitled

Old

Bitty

She has been harassing me over “these” parking spots since Day One and now my mental state is being affected.

Things aren’t going well, that’s for sure!

I have lived in my complex for 6 years, never have had a problem until she moves in, and now she wants to say I’m the problem?

It’s me? I started this?

She spies on me, she acts like she knows my whole life story from staring at me through her windows. Thinks she knows everything about me.

This is pretty creepy…

When I go outside there she is, when I come home from work there she is.

I’m outside playing with my dog and she’s on her porch lurking at me. One day I caught her taking pictures of my license plates for who knows what.

The Property Manager has never said anything to me about anything. Not once. Even our maintenance guy can’t stand her and says she’s just a miserable old lady with nothing else to do but make problems.

I loathe a person who tries to make everyone’s business theirs.

She’s doing this just to cause problems…

Mind you, there is zero assigned parking and none of these spots are handicapped marked. We as tenants can park where ever whenever (first come first serve).

The tipping point for me was when I came home from being gone all weekend. I came home, unloaded my bags and decided to go get food.

This lady has way too much time on her hands.

So I went back out to leave and there she is pulling up, parked in an empty spot 3 spots down from me. As soon as she realized I was leaving she backed out of that spot, and waited for me to back out and leave so she could take the spot I was in.

What the hell?

As if it matters!

This lady will literally park, wait for me to leave, and then come back out just to move her car into the spot I was in.

So after I came home from getting food, she’s outside waiting for me so she can start throwing insults in my face, calling me a fat pig and how I need to move my vehicles so she can park there.

I told her to get away from me, grow up, stop harassing me for a parking spot when she has 50 others to choose from and all she can say is “go to Hell.”

Not very intelligent either apparently, never has anything to say about why she does what she does. She just likes to call me names like a 5 year old. I can’t stand her anymore.

I’ve filled a couple claims against her for harassing/insulting me but they haven’t done anything.

She finally started parking in a spot thats on the very end of the parking lot, so I can at least be glad she’s not in between me and my other car.

It’s definitely helping my mental (having peace) like I can breathe again.

I just want her away from me.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a townhome owner who is at his wit’s end with the noise from next door.

Reddit users spoke up.

This person weighed in.

Another reader shared their thoughts.

And this individual has an idea…

Have you ever had to deal with a neighbor like this?

It ain’t pretty, friends!

In fact, it can make a person not even want to go outside for fear of having yet another run-in with that person.

This neighbor is totally unhinged! Yowza!

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.

The post “She Tracks My Every Move”: Stressed Resident Exposes the Unhinged Neighbor Who Files Complaints Over Literally Everything appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Imagine feeling sick and testing positive for Covid. You obviously wouldn’t go to work.

What would you do if you called in sick, but your supervisor insisted that you had to go to work anyway unless you had a doctor’s note? Would you go in sick or call your doctor?

In this story, one employee was in this situation and decided to call his doctor. I love how the doctor handled that situation. It was definitely malicious compliance. You can tell from his response that he doesn’t like employers who insist on a doctor’s note.

Keep reading for all the details.

New supervisor asked me for doctor’s note

My company is very busy and very short of staff and is asking everyone for overtime and imploring to come and work on their days off.

I got sick last week was feeling very poorly and took a Covid test and it was positive, this was on my day off,called work said I’m positive for Covid and won’t go to work on the next couple of days.

They said ok no problem.

It can take awhile to get over Covid.

Two days later on Monday I’m feeling worst and called again and asked for my supervisor.

He wasn’t there and I talked with the new assistant that started 2 weeks ago and tell him I’m taking another couple of days since I’m feeling very bad with coughing and muscle pain.

And he tells No,I have to come to work sick or get a doctors note(it’s very hard to see a doctor where I live if you have Covid) where I am the government asks employers not to ask for doctor’s note for Covid since all doctors are busy and overworked.

The supervisor insisted on a doctor’s note.

I asked him are you sure you want me to get a doctors note for Covid and since when do we need a note.

He keeps affirm I need one.

I said sure I will call my doctor.

Called my doctors office and asked for appointment with doctor reason I have Covid and I need a note.

This doctor is awesome!

Secretary tells doctor will call me in a couple of hours (I was very lucky ).

When I talked with the doctor he tells me sure no problem I’m putting you off sick for 10 days.

I emailed the note to my supervisor and Human resources saying instead of the 2 extras days that I asked to be off work,my doctor decided that I needed more time off so I will be back only next week. Here is the note.

Haven’t heard a peep from them.

That was definitely malicious compliance on the doctor’s part. He didn’t even need to see OP. He understood the workplace rules and proved what he thought of them by giving OP a generous amount of time off. I love it!

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops speaking up in his Zoom meetings after getting constantly interrupted.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

One person points out a scenario where this situation doesn’t work.

Another person thinks the time off is wise.

This person shares what happened when they needed a doctor’s note.

An urgent care employee weighs in.

I love that some doctors give their patients too much time off when they ask for a doctor’s note. It’s nice for the employee. It’s revenge on the employer.

What I particularly love about this situation is that the employee didn’t even have to go to the doctor’s office. A simple phone call was all it took.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a team that agreed to work overtime, but then not everyone showed up, leaving the rest holding the bag.

The post His Supervisor Demanded a Doctor’s Note to Miss Work for Covid — She Should Have Been More Careful What She Asked For appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Everyone needs sleep. That’s why it gets frustrating when the people around you don’t seem to care whether they’re waking you up or not.

This young woman still lives at home while completing an unpaid apprenticeship, so moving out isn’t really an option right now.

Unfortunately, her parents have a habit of talking so loudly at all hours of the night that they constantly interrupt her sleep.

To make matters worse, they get upset whenever someone accidentally wakes them up during the day.

So, it’s not like they don’t know how it feels.

Read on to see exactly what’s going on.

AITA for lowkey being mad at my parents for waking me up all the time

I (19F) still live with my parents because I’m doing an apprenticeship that isn’t paid.

The issue I have is that my parents absolutely have no regard for the fact that I’m trying to have a normal sleep schedule, which is from like 11 PM to 8 AM (when I don’t have school) and from 9 PM to 5:30 AM (when I do have school).

The thing about my parents is, they have a weird sleep schedule. I don’t know how they can function like this, but they do. I wouldn’t even care if it didn’t affect my schedule so much.

They get up at 3 AM on most mornings, and they start talking to each other so loudly. My parents are both generally loud people, so it wakes me up every time.

She’s tried talking to them, but it does no good.

For some reason, they also manage to be awake after 11 PM, though, and wake me constantly as well. They don’t even normally talk to each other; they basically yell.

It’s funny sometimes, but not when I’m tired lol.

I’ve tried to talk to them about it, but they don’t change anything. Even when I ask them to please be a bit more quiet, they just aren’t. Like, they say they will be, so I go back to bed. But then they just continue. Still, not a single day passes without this.

The thing that bugs me most about it is that when they take naps during the day and I accidentally wake them (I always try to be as quiet as possible), they get mad and yell at me.

AITA?

Eek! That does sound pretty frustrating.

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Let’s see how the readers over at Reddit would handle it.

According to this person, she needs noise protection.

That’s about all she can do, really.

Yet another person who suggests earbuds.

This reader thinks her parents sound crazy.

Most people would be frustrated.

Getting woken up once isn’t a big deal. But getting woken up over and over again by the same behavior is a different story.

And the most frustrating part is that the parents already know it’s bothering her. She has talked to them about it, and they keep doing the same thing anyway.

Respect is a two-way street. If they want everyone to respect their sleep schedule, they should show the same respect for hers.

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Imagine driving on the highway when a lane is closed for road construction. When would you merge into another lane? Would you merge when there’s a sign warning you that construction is happening up ahead, or would you wait until the point where the cones completely block off the lane forcing you to merge into another lane?

In this story, one driver chose the second option, and he’s pretty frustrated about the way several truckers reacted when he tried to merge. Their reaction makes him wonder if he really did do something wrong.

Technically, he didn’t do anything wrong, but I personally would’ve merged earlier if everyone else was merging earlier.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for using a lane on the highway (in a car) until I was forced over to another lane by construction? (USA)

Happened last week while I was on a cross-country trip. I’ll do my best to visually describe it.

Picture 3 lanes, and construction is happening in the left lane, but a little ways up ahead, so I’m not even in the construction zone yet. However all 3 lanes are moving between very slow and dead stopped.

Here in the US they’ll put signs that say “Left lane closed 1000ft ahead” and another one at 500ft, and then they’ll put traffic cones across the lane at a diagonal angle until it’s impossible to use the lane.

Everyone decided to merge except OP.

I’m in the left lane and we slowly pass the 1000ft sign. Almost everyone in front of me in the left lane starts merging at this point.

I notice that the car in front of me is almost merged into the middle lane all the way and that the lane is empty until you get to the traffic cones, which are ~900ft away or so.

Now as someone who’s lived in large cities the past 15yrs, everyone usually goes all the way to the cones before merging, that’s just what happens. So I take the opportunity to do this, and as I’m starting to drive by, a semi-truck suddenly juts out halfway into my lane in an attempt to block me.

I stop and then go around him because he kinda had to get back in his lane fully and also there was plenty of room on the shoulder, but I didn’t even have to leave the lane at all really.

When he was finally ready to merge, it wasn’t easy.

I continue on my way and am coming up on the cones getting ready to merge when another semi-truck pulls out and completely cuts me off. So the front of his truck is basically touching the first or second cone and the back of his truck is in the middle lane.

I slam the brakes and am very annoyed, but there’s nothing I can do so I start pulling into the middle lane behind him.

BUT a freaking 3rd semi-truck, who is directly behind the one that just cut me off, also freaking cuts me off and gets within like 2in of the other semi-truck so that I can’t merge.

Finally, the car behind that last semi-truck lets me in because there’s nowhere else to go, and less than a minute later I’m passing both of those semi-trucks because traffic started going more than 10mph.

He isn’t sure what the truckers were thinking.

I’ve always been a fan of truckers and have done my best to be aware of what they’re doing on the road, but what the heck?

I understand if you don’t like what I’m doing, but it was legal and there was a huge amount of unused lane that I thought everyone should be using and just merging once they got to the cones, you know like a zipper.

What were these guys thinking? “Let’s make this guy pass us in a few minutes when traffic opens up instead of right now because….uh….reasons.” Are you really stupid enough to risk causing an accident that would be your fault because you don’t like that I’m about to pass you using a completely open and legal lane?

I understand people passing you when you’re at a dead stop makes you think “What a jerk” but I feel like these guys were just sticking together as truckers instead of using their brains.

If everyone else zippered in at an earlier point, I can understand why the truckers were annoyed, but was it wrong for them to almost cause an accident?

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Let’s see what Reddit has to say.

Are we sure he wasn’t being one of those people who cuts ahead and flies by everyone else?

This is a good point. I think it was more like they prevented him from merging.

This person doesn’t think he did anything wrong.

But this person thinks he should’ve merged earlier.

I don’t think of those signs saying a lane is closing ahead as something to ignore. To me, and most drivers, those signs mean you’re supposed to merge.

I can understand why the truckers prevented him from merging. He may think of it as the truckers cutting him off, but really, they just prevented him from cutting them off.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

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Setting a clear budget for a kid’s reward is one of the most responsible things a parent can do, and it’s also one of the fastest ways to end up in an argument when the kid’s wish list doesn’t line up with the number.

In this story, a dad promised his son in September that if he worked hard and did well in school, he could pick a $200 gift at the end of the year.

The kid delivered. His grades improved, the homework fights decreased, and the dad congratulated him and reminded him of the budget.

So when the son came back with a link to the Nintendo Switch 2, which runs more than double the promised amount, the dad held the line.

He offered his son alternatives, and even mapped out a plan involving birthday money and a trade-in, but still his son wasn’t satisfied. Things have been tense ever since.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for refusing to buy my son Switch 2, even though I promised him a reward for the school year?

My son is 13. I promised him in September that if he did well at the end of the year, we would celebrate and he could pick out a $200 prize for himself.

I didn’t want ambiguous promises like “something nice” or “within budget” without specifying a sum that might generate disagreements later, so I stated the amount up front.

So with the reward on the line, his son rose to the occasion.

He really tried hard. I was pleased with him as he got better in math and had less arguments about homework.

I congratulated him on his grades, told him he deserved his gift and reminded him of the $200 gift budget once again.

But here’s where things got messy.

This Monday, he came to me with a link to the Nintendo Switch 2 and said he wanted it.

I told him that it wasn’t within the budget. Its price is around $450, which is x2 more than the reward I promised.

He was transparent with his son about the family’s financial situation, but his son didn’t get it.

I explained that we can’t afford it right now as we have bills, his summer camp, and I need to repair my car which I need in order to work right now.

He got very upset and said he’d already told his friends he will get a Switch 2.

I told him I understood why he felt awkward, but he’d told his friends that himself before we’d even discussed the purchase.

He tries to compromise with his son.

I didn’t take away the reward. I suggested he choose headphones, games, a controller, gift cards, or something else up to $200.

I said that we could work something out if he truly desired the Switch 2. Next month, he could save up his birthday money, trade in his old Switch, and use my $200 to make the purchase.

But this still isn’t good enough and now things are tense around the house.

He said it was unjust since prices may increase and everyone else was already purchasing one.

I said I was happy for everyone else, but we must discuss all big purchases in our family in advance.

Now he doesn’t talk with me till this day except small interactions.

The father still thinks he did the right thing.

He did his best and I feel bad about this situation.

However, I kept my word. I didn’t guarantee a new console, but rather a prize that was affordable.

AITA?

Telling your kid no is never easy, but it’s also necessary.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man whose celebratory post-grad school vacation is being ruined by his family’s insistence he’s being lazy.

What did Reddit have to say?

Some life lessons are priceless.

This commenter offers words of encouragement.

Life is expensive, and that’s an important lesson to learn.

All things considered, this situation was pretty low stakes.

At the end of the day, this dad did everything by the book.

He set a specific dollar amount to avoid confusion, reminded his son of it before the pick, and when the request came in over budget, he didn’t shut it down cold. He offered alternatives, laid out the family’s financial reality, and even built a roadmap that could get the kid the Switch 2 within weeks using birthday money and a trade-in.

That’s a parent saying “let’s figure it out,” which is more than plenty of other kids get.

On the other hand, his son is thirteen — and being upset about not getting what you want exactly when you want it is peak thirteen energy.

This father shouldn’t get too discouraged. He still did the right thing.

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Imagine working in a warehouse, and it’s the end of your shift. You’re probably excited to clock out and leave, but before you can, your supervisor comes over and tells you to work overtime. Would you stay, or would you go?

In this story, one employee is in this situation, and he’s pretty annoyed that his supervisor waited until the literal last minute to tell him to work overtime. That’s right, it wasn’t really a question. It was more of a demand.

Now, he’s wondering if it’s too much to ask to be given a heads up about overtime.

I don’t think he’s asking too much. Keep reading to see if you agree.

AITA for wanting to know about overtime?

I work in a large warehouse from 12pm to 830pm with a few day swing shifts.

Only a few of us work this shift and the rest mostly either work 6am to 230pm or 12pm to 1030pm.

We’re granted these bids because our union rules stipulate how many of each shift schedule we can have.

A supervisor told OP to work overtime.

The other day it was approximately 820pm and I was putting away my equipment and doing my sign out sheet for my pallet jack.

One of my supervisors comes to me as I’m about to finish putting things away and informs me I must stay for overtime to pick a few more orders.

I ask him why I was not informed earlier as we have a measured work standard and a display for how many hours of work are left in each department.

He doesn’t respond to the question but asks why it would be so hard to pick a few more orders.

Here’s how the conversation continued.

I tell him it’s not very courteous to be telling me about my overtime at the time I’m supposed to leave and that I would’ve liked to know earlier.

He then tells me how much work still needs to be done (4 hours) even with 3 part timers still left on the floor.

I told him I’d continue to work but in the future I’d like to be notified at an earlier time about overtime.

He proceeds to tell me I should just be ready to work overtime all the time.

AITA for wanting to be notified of overtime at an earlier time in my shift?

Ready to work overtime all the time? What kind of logic is that? I’d be looking for another job.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person has a question about the union contract.

Another person points out problems with the supervisor’s phrasing and logic.

There are lots of reasons people need a heads up about overtime.

Nobody thinks he’s being unreasonable.

The supervisor is clearly the problem here. First of all, overtime should not be expected or required. If it is, employees definitely need to be given plenty of advance notice. Especially since he’s in a union, there probably are rules about overtime. He should definitely look at his union contract.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

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Why, oh why, can’t some people simply mind their own freakin’ business?

If something doesn’t directly affect you, just let it go, baby!

But, let’s be honest…

We know that ain’t happening anytime soon!

And these folks know all about it…

Check out what kind of neighbor the couple in this story are dealing with and you’ll understand in a hurry why they’re so frustrated.

Read on and see what you think!

Neighbor keeps reporting our fully legal home business over 10 minute wood deliveries.

“My husband and I run a small business building greenhouses – this is our full-time livelihood.

It’s very low impact – no customers coming to our house, no employees, no chaos. We pre-cut some materials (like 2x4s) in our garage and do all the actual builds on site at our clients’ homes. We load everything in our enclosed trailer..

It sounds like they have all their ducks in a row!

We are fully compliant with all county and state requirements, including taxes. The town has already investigated us and confirmed everything we’re doing is allowed.

Occasionally, we get small material deliveries. That’s it.

Last year, one of our neighbors reported us for “running a business out of our home” and for having deliveries. The town checked and said we’re fine.

Good grief!

Now it’s happened again.

This time the complaint was literally that we had a wood delivery – 50 2x4s on a small flatbed truck. The truck pulled up, beeped maybe twice while backing in, dropped the materials, and left. The entire thing took less than 10 minutes. No obstruction, no ongoing noise, nothing disruptive.

The town actually drove by right after the complaint and saw the delivery load, and told us that this is the exact kind of delivery they themselves would have sent to their own homes. In other words – completely normal.

She knows what’s going on here…

While they didn’t officially name the person, they repeatedly referred to the complainant as “she reported again,” and based on that and our street layout, we can pretty confidently narrow it down to one specific neighbor.

What makes this even more confusing is, she doesn’t even have a direct view of our house from where she usually is (her front patio is on the corner of the cul-de-sac).

She started a new remote job after 14 months of unemployment that same day and was outside on her laptop (where she always is). The only “disturbance” here would have been two quick backup beeps from a truck that was gone in minutes

So the timing just feels… odd.

This makes it even weirder!

And this is someone we’ve gone out of our way to help over the years:

• Helped unload an entire semi of decking
• Bought her food when she had COVID
• Helped her look for her “missing” dog (which wasn’t actually missing…)
• Made and posted flyers for her lost cat
• Helped lift an ~800 lb fountain piece
• Let her dump pea gravel in our driveway
• Took a perfectly good fridge off her hands so she didn’t have to pay to dispose of it
• Been friendly, had drinks with her, gave her eggs, etc.

So we’ve been genuinely good neighbors.

What’s the deal?

Meanwhile she’s apparently repeatedly reporting us over completely legal, already-approved activity – and now over something that lasted less than 10 minutes and was confirmed by the town to be totally normal.

At this point I’m less angry and more just baffled.

Has anyone dealt with a neighbor like this?

Do you just ignore it since the town has already cleared everything, or is there a better way to handle someone who keeps making complaints over non-issues?”

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who was in love with her dream house – and then spring came and her neighbor’s trees caused her to question the purchase.

Check out what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another individual has an idea…

This Reddit user shared their thoughts.

Another reader had a lot to say.

And this individual spoke up.

Well, it sure doesn’t seem like this woman and her husband are doing anything wrong, does it?

It sure doesn’t!

But one one thing is certain: their neighbor needs to mind her own business!

This neighbor clearly has some kind of grudge against these folks…

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

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