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When a loved one falls on hard times, it is great to help them out as much as you are able.

What would you do if, after your parents got divorced, your father was having a really hard time and didn’t have anywhere to live?

That is what the son in this story dealt with, so he let his dad live with him, but only as a temporary solution. After a while, he gave him a firm deadline to move out, but as that deadline approaches, his dad still doesn’t have a new place lined up. So, he is wondering if it would be wrong of him to stick to the deadline and kick him out anyway.

I think he has to stand firm on that deadline, or his father will never move out. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA if I (29M) kick my dad (59M) out of my house (making him homeless)?

A couple years ago my parents had a bad divorce and my dad ended up with nothing.

Divorce can be very difficult for many people.

At first he lived out of his car, then he was able to rent a cheap room through a coworker until this past March, almost 4 months ago.

My wife (30F) and I (29M) felt bad and offered to let him stay in our basement, since it has a separate entrance.

Dad doesn’t seem to be very motivated at all.

We did not set a move-out date when he moved in (early March), just agreed that it would be temporary (under 6 months) and with the condition he saves money and gets his life together ASAP, prioritizing looking for housing.

After a month I started to regularly ask for housing updates. He is always vague and brief in his replies-“still looking” etc. I had to push him to apply for food stamps-I sat with him and did the application for him on my laptop.

Setting firm deadlines is important.

Every day since he moved in, my dad has been going to work and either coming back to smoke weed and sleep, or at most, hanging out smoking with a friend before returning- no real effort to change his situation.

Towards the end of April (6 weeks into him staying with us) due to his lack of effort and the overall inconvenience, we decided to set a move-out deadline (June 27th, 10 more weeks).

They are more than willing to help him.

I sent him a long text emphasizing this is for his own good, to get him working on finding housing, because we hadn’t seen efforts.

My wife printed several low income apartment applications, and I sent him links to several cheap room options I found for him on craigslist, roommate finding websites, FB, etc.

He puts things off until the last moment.

May passed with no updates. After I ramped up to daily reminders over text and in person, he finally submitted an application LAST WEEK on 6/17 to an apt.

That building mailed us today-he is now on the waitlist for when an apt becomes available. If he had just started more of this process earlier (even in May when my wife printed the application) maybe he’d have a place lined up?

There will always be one more reason why he isn’t ready to move out.

But he didn’t, so he texted me today (Tuesday, 5 days before move-out) saying: “I’m still looking, l’ve got a couple of numbers that [COWORKER] gave me and I’ll be calling tomorrow, l’ve been trying..I know how much you and [WIFE] have done for me and how much I appreciate you being here for me..I’m hoping i can stay a little longer than you said, I’m really looking and trying to find a place”

We know the economy is bad, but I agree with what my wife said- at a certain point it’s not our responsibility to keep helping/enabling him when he refuses to help himself.

Dad did this to himself.

He’s had almost 4 months now to live rent free and figure it out. Besides maintaining the boundary (we set a deadline, we are keeping it), we have several reasons this isn’t an ideal setup for us anymore.

Would we be in the wrong if we stick to what we said and ask him to move out this Saturday (rendering my dad homeless even though he could put WAY more effort into finding a place)?

AITA?

No, they were very generous and put a deadline that was more than reasonable in place. If he had started actively looking for an apartment right away, they wouldn’t be in this situation.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This commenter thinks he is wrong for sticking to the new deadline.

Why would Dad change at this point in his life?

If he wants to give him another month, that is fine.

I think this commenter is correct.

He isn’t likely to change his ways.

Dad is being disrespectful and unappreciative at this point. They already let him move in and get on his feet, but he has done almost nothing to improve his situation.

Some people will never help themselves until they are forced to, and that certainly seems to be the case here.

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I make no bones about it...

I’m no fan of sleeping in a hot room!

Being too cold requires an easy fix: you just pile on more blankets and you’re good to go.

But if you’re too hot when you’re trying to sleep, you’re gonna be up all night tossing, turning, and cursing.

The woman who wrote this story is dealing with a roommate who likes it HOT…and she’s had just about enough of it.

Let’s take a look at what’s going on here.

Can’t stand my roommate! She wants us to sleep in a sauna.

“I’m in a university dorm with this girl, she’s perfectly nice for the most part but tonight I officially lost my cool.

It’s Sunday, and we have to get up at 7 am tomorrow. She comes in at 2 am, is SO loud and scuttles around for 30 minutes turns the room light on waking me up and does her skincare.

What the hell?!?!

Like, are you joking?!

And then on top of that she TURNS THE HEATING ON so that our room is 27°c aka 81°F and I’m literally sweating my feet are heating up like crazy and I can’t sleep!

She’s right…

It’s so frustrating because I can’t strip naked but she could put on a hoodie—keep in mind I’m happy with a reasonable 24°c / 75F although preferable I’d sleep in 22.

I feel like this crosses into insane territory?!

Now it’s 3:30 am and I can’t sleep and I have to wake up in literally 3.5 hours. I’m just SO frustrated.

We met yesterday and like I want to make compromises, which I am (ie temperature), but this has made me want to rip out my hair.”

Readers shared their thoughts.

This person weighed in.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

This individual spoke up.

And another reader chimed in.

Ugh…hell no!

That’s what I say about this!

This would be a huge dealbreaker for me.

These roommates have some things to figure out…

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If you pay for a purchase with a credit card or debit card, you sometimes have the option of chooses to get cash back, but what would you do if you accidentally pushed the cashback button? Would you claim you didn’t press it, simply take the cash, or freak out and blame everyone but yourself?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she ends up doing all of the above plus arguing and asking for a manager.

The employee who had to deal with the whole ordeal understands how the mistake happened and why the customer was frustrated, but it was still a funny story.

Let’s read all about it.

“Put the money back in!”

I work at a grocery store, and despite the coin shortage, we’re one of the few retailers that hasn’t suspended the cashback option (which for us is fine; we haven’t been caught short yet).

Today, I was ringing up an older lady (we’ll go with CL for Card Lady), and it’s going alright, she’s pleasant and we’re making small talk.

She has a contactless card, but instead of hovering it over the keypad and pulling it back, she holds it on the keypad with one finger while she uses her other hand to input the pin.

At the end of the transaction, the register prompts me to give her $100 cashback.

But she didn’t want the cash.

Me: Alright, so here’s 20, 40, 60, 80, 100 and your slip!

CL: I didn’t ask for cashback!

Me: According to the slip, you must have hit the button by accident.

CL: I didn’t hit the button, I just put my pin in and that’s it! Put it back on my card!

The customer refused to believe OP couldn’t put the money back.

Me: I’m sorry, I can’t, it’s already withdrawn. You can go to your bank tomorrow and deposit it back in. It’s possible you hit the button when you held your card on the card reader.

CL: I don’t have enough money in my account, I’m going to get an overdraft fee, and my bank is in (neighboring state we have a friendly rivalry with)! Put it back in, I did not hit the button!

A few more “Put in back in”s and “I’m sorry, it’s impossible” follow.

CL: uttering the magic words that will vindicate me Call up a manager so we can get my money back on the card!

Here’s how the manager handled it.

With relief, I gladly did so. I explained the situation to my manager, who goes into the office to pretend to make a few phone calls, and comes back out, stating that, once again, it’s impossible to put it back on.

While this is going on, CL calls her husband, who transfers money from his account into hers, so her account doesn’t OD.

CL: You really need to get your machines checked out, I know I didn’t press that button!

Me: Hmm. Have a nice weekend!

Everyone (besides the woman) found the situation funny.

Guy behind her in line (after she was out of earshot): As soon as I heard her say she’s from (neighboring state), I knew she was in the wrong!

The line ends, and I hear my manager and coworker talking about it, trying to figure out how she unwittingly pressed the button (they knew it was highly unlikely for the machine to do it on it’s own), so I demonstrated with a blank gift card how it happened, and we all had a good laugh.

I don’t feel like the lady was particularly nasty about it; the tech is new to her, and she was worried about it overdrafting her account, so I can’t fault her about freaking out, but she wouldn’t give me more than 5 seconds at a time to explain that yes, she did press the button when she kept holding the card on the reader.

I like that OP understood why the customer was frustrated and confused and wasn’t exactly mad at her. It was more of just a funny story to share.

Let’s see how Reddit responded.

This is a good point!

This person accidentally did the same thing!

This sounds like a good idea.

Right???

That is a weird mistake to make. I’ve never had that happen, but if I did accidentally push the cashback button, I’d probably just put the money in my wallet and go on with my day. I can understand being stressed out about it if you really need every penny in your account though.

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There’s a special bond that happens between a parent and a child when they have a hobby in common. That doesn’t mean that parents love their children less if they don’t have a shared hobby, but having something you truly both enjoy in common can create a sense of connection that’s hard to beat.

In this story, a dad and daughter share a love for gaming. They have gaming PCs, and the dad made sure his daughter also had a phone that could handle mobile gaming.

What I love most about this story is that the little girl truly seems to appreciate how good her dad is at gaming and how much he has done to support her own hobby. It’s very evident in the way she talks to a little boy who makes fun of her phone.

Keep reading for the whole story.

Show off to my girl? What does it feel like whe she slaps you with adult money?

I’ve always loved games, I mean I’m a 44 m and always played games, since the Atari 5600 I’ve owned every console I could get my hands on.

I have 3 girls 18, 12 and 9 and only the middle one shares my video game addiction, I tend to pamper her in that regards, she had a gamer PC fully equipped.

Her sisters dont really like gaming so their PC is a bit more to their liking, since they dont really know much about specs they really don’t care, but my middle daughter let’s call her Nani is just as obsessed with games as I am.

His daughter has a decent phone for a 12-year-old.

Due to changes in tech I grew very fond of mobile gaming, back in the days I used to play a game or two when the game downloading on mobiles began so I’ve always bought devices that could support my addiction.

Last december right after chistmas eve we were on the park of the residence we live in and my little one was playing with her bike and the eldest was chatting with some friends while Nani was just messing around with her phone cashing some daily rewards on one of her games until this entitled kid who lives in the building sees her.

As sson as he notices her phone he starts to bash and shame her for it, I mean it’s not a crap phone in either way, It’s a Samsung A22 128Gb of internal and althrough it’s an entry phone runs some games pretty smoothly.

Kid states that with a phone like that she won’t be playing cool games like Call of Duty Mobile like it should and might want to stick with low end games like FreeFire and stuff like that.

She definitely sounds like a firecracker!

Nani is mischevious like me in many ways and when she sees the kids phone (Samsung A72) she smirks and says “You play CoD Mobile? Cool can I see your account?”.

Little boy proudly showed her the game. As she watches she starts to check here and there and says cool you have a legendary skin and 2 legendary guns!”.

The boy was pretty proud and says “Yeah I’m gonna be legendary in no time!”.

My daughter then looks at him and says “well maybe one day you’ll catch up with my dad!”…

I love that she’s bragging about her dad.

Boy had a puzzled face while Nani runs to my side and says ” Daddy can you give me your phone a sec”, I’ve heard the whole interection and smirked while giving it to her.

From the moment the boy saw my phone he was stunned, I recently got and Asus Rog Phone 6 pro, he was stunned and looked at it with his mouth wide open.

The final stake to his heart was when my daughter opened the game and showed him my legendary skins and my mythic weapons, wile proudly saying “Daddy’s been legend since season 1″…

But she wasn’t done…

While the boy was still amazed my girl finished with a master touch “My sisters have an iPhone but I have a deal with dad, he bought me an awesome gamer pc and I’ll get his old phone when he buys a new one … (evil grin) I’ll have this one!”…

The boy just shut his mouth and went on without saying anything else.

My girls are pretty humble and don’t like to show off but my Nani gets triggered with egocentrical jerks easily and she is freaking merciless…

That is so epic! She was bragging but also only telling the truth to put the boy in his place. I love it!

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

I feel the same way!

Yes, this shows good parenting!

Another person is impressed.

A gamer girl weighs in.

I’m not a gamer, but she certainly put that boy in his place. I love how proud she clearly is of her dad and how proud her dad clearly is of her. This is a special father-daughter bond that shows good parenting.

She definitely knows how to stand up for herself.

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Is too much competition a bad thing?

Well, I guess it depends on who you talk to and what you’re talking about…

But one thing is for sure: the guy who wrote this story seems to be pretty bent out of shape because his neighbor is selling their house at the same time he is.

Is he being too sensitive?

Or does he have a point?

Check out what he had to say and see what you think.

My neighbors are selling their house the same week as ours.

“My neighbor told me that they are selling their house in second week of May, the same time we planned to sell ours.

We’re relocating out of state in June.

They’re pretty concerned about this.

I don’t know what will be the effect on us (selling price, purchase appraisal, etc)

Both houses are bi-level and built in 1970s. Their house is bigger by 150 sq ft and has 5Br,2Ba, and our is just 4Br,2ba, though their house is dated, ours was fully rehabbed in 2021.

They will be using an agent, and we will do FSBO+MLS+RE Atty (we are offering 2.5% Buyer agent’s commission).

Our home was appraised in Feb for $275k, current comps is $281k, we will be selling at $280k (only because we bought new appliances worth 5k).

What are they supposed to do?

I would like to ask your opinion if we have to sell our home before or after them or just stick to the same plan.

Or are there any strategies I need to do, if you’re in my situation?”

Reddit users spoke up.

This person shared their thoughts.

Another reader weighed in.

This individual spoke up.

And this Reddit user shared their thoughts.

Well, he sounds pretty worried about it…

But hopefully, it’ll work out for him in the end.

Good luck to him!

Hopefully, it won’t be a big deal that two houses so close to each other will be for sale at the same time.

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Every business should have a set of rules, but sometimes it can be easier to have a general set of rules instead of making them super specific.

For example, in the story you’re about to read, the local pub follows rules they like to call Grandma’s rules. Instead of having a detailed list of rules for employees and customers, they follow one simple rule. If it would offend your grandma or their grandma, you broke the rules.

In this story, a customer who fits the description of an obese Karen claims Grandma’s rules. In retaliation, one of the employees claims Grandma’s rules right back and wins.

It’s pretty funny and has a twist I didn’t see coming! Let’s read all about it.

Grandma’s rules? Okay, you can leave then.

This happened about 6 years ago when I worked at my local pub.

Now for context the landlord operated on a “Grandma’s Rules” in the pub. Meaning anything you said or done that would offend my Grandma or yours then you’re out.

You don’t offend Grandma. Simple.

Overall, it sounds like a great place to work.

I used to supervise the bar while my landlord dealt with the office stuff to help balance the workload.

It was a great job overall – decent wage, was right on my doorstep and the regulars were class.

Except one. We shall call her Karen.

Let’s get to know Karen.

Karen was getting married to one of the regulars and was a complete witch.

She was this horrible morbidly obese woman who would complain about the size of the stools and how it doesn’t fit her.

What’s worse is she doesn’t acknowledge you. She would just huff and puff until she gets a new drink – I HATED that and so did every member of staff.

One day I got fed up and ignored her because she snapped at me for saying hello.

Karen claimed “Grandma’s rules.”

The situation went as follows:

Karen: “well aren’t you going to serve me?!”

Me: “Why?”

K: “Err, Grandma’s rules?! My grandma would be offended if I sat here with an empty glass for too long!”

She had an idea.

I immediately had a lightbulb moment and waited my moment to strike.

I served her as normal and spoke to my landlord about her in the office. I explained what I wanted to do and he gave me the go ahead.

I went back to the bar where she was spitting fire at the new bar girl I was training. I just calmly told the bar girl to ignore her, serve the customers.

I then took her drinks, poured them down the sink and asked her to leave.

This is funny!

Karen: “WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!”

Me: “Sorry, Grandma’s Rules. She thinks you’re a witch and wants you to leave.”

Spoiler: the landlord is actually a landlady and my Grandma.

I love that the landlord is the grandma! That’s hilarious! It’s literally Grandma’s rules! Well played!

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

Is it really a spoiler if it’s at the end though?

I like Grandma’s rules too.

This sounds like a good idea!

Here’s an alternate set of rules.

I hadn’t heard of Grandma’s rules before this story, but it’s good idea. Everyone would pretty much know what it means, but the use would also vary depending somewhat on your Grandma.

It’s crazy how the annoying Karen tried to claim Grandma’s rules just to get her drink filled.

My favorite part was the twist at the ending!

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Some animals give exactly one warning before they stop being patient. This one gave three.

A cat owner had been telling her sibling for visit after visit to keep an eye on her toddler around the family cat, and got waved off every single time.

So when the kid ended up holding the cat upside down while mom scrolled her phone five feet away, and the cat did what cats eventually do.

But instead of apologizing for neglecting to follow the warnings, her sister called her a psycho and accused her of “letting it happen.”

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for telling my sister to stop letting my nephew grab my cat

My sister (34) has a 3 year old and I have a 5 year old Siberian cat named Moose, who tolerates being picked up for maybe 10 seconds before he starts wriggling and nips if you don’t put him down.

Her nephew isn’t the most gentle when it comes to her cat.

So every visit her son makes a beeline for him, and every visit I ask her to keep an eye on it, but she brushes me off with the “he loves animals” line even after Moose has warned him twice with minor scratches.

This weekend I stepped into the kitchen for a couple minutes and came back to find her son holding Moose upside down by the ribs while my sister sat scrolling her phone 5 feet away.

She tried to put a stop to it, but soon disaster struck.

So I said, “Put him down please,” not loud but firm, and she said, “He’s fine, leave them,” right before Moose scratched him across the wrist, with blood this time.

Her son screamed and my sister immediately said I “let it happen” and that Moose was clearly not safe around kids.

This goes against everything she’s been telling her sister for months now.

So I told her Moose has warned him every visit and she’s ignored me every time, and until her son is old enough to leave the cat alone she either needs to watch him constantly or come without him.

She called me a psycho and rang our mum, who called me 20 minutes later to say I was making it a bigger deal than it needs to be.

Third scratch though.

AITA?

Her sister definitely isn’t winning any parenting awards anytime soon.

What did Reddit have to say?

If this mother blames anyone, it should be herself for her own inaction.

Some people would rather make everyone else suffer before taking responsibility for their own actions.

The cat already gave many warnings, but her sister was too obtuse to see them.

This woman is acting like more of a child than her own son.

Three warnings and one bloody scratch later, the math on this isn’t complicated. A five-year-old cat who tolerates ten seconds of handling before nipping is about as predictable as animals get.

The sister had every opportunity to prevent this and chose her phone instead. Calling the boundary “psycho” after the fact doesn’t erase the two prior scratches she waved off with the same tired line.

The cat communicated, but it was the humans who weren’t paying attention.

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Paying nearly $2,000 a year in HOA fees is supposed to buy some peace of mind about your neighborhood, not a recurring dog waste problem in your own backyard.

One homeowner has been dealing with one difficult neighbor who consistently plays fetch with their dog in other people’s yards, letting the dog relieve itself without ever cleaning up afterward.

So after the neighbor’s negligence started impacting her daughter, she  decided to report the situation to the HOA instead of approaching the neighbor herself.

Rather than resolving anything, the report seems to have only earned her dirty looks, with the dog still showing up in her yard just as often as before.

Keep reading for the full dilemma.

AITA for reporting my neighbor’s dog to HOA?

I live in a somewhat upscale neighborhood, we pay ~2k a year in HOA, which may not sound high to some, but it’s high to me.

Anyways, my backyard backs up to 3 other people’s backyards and none of us have a fence.

This neighbor has caused quite a bit of trouble recently.

My neighbor next door consistently and constantly plays fetch in our yard (and other yards). The dog poops in our yard and our neighbor doesn’t bother to pick up after her. So we are forced to clean up after the dog.

My daughter has stepped into its waste several times, and once accidentally even rolled in it.

The homeowner is quickly beginning to lose their patience, so she started getting the HOA involved.

In my opinion it’s extremely disrespectful to play fetch with your dog in other people’s yards.

I’ve reported them to the HOA because I don’t have a good relationship with these neighbors and frankly I’m afraid of confrontation.

This managed to only make matters worse, though.

I don’t dislike dogs, I just dislike irresponsible dog owners, so it’s frustrating.

But now they are giving us a stank eye and STILL sending their dog to our yard.

This neighbor can’t continue to behave this way.

What did Reddit think?

Maybe HOAs do serve somewhat of a purpose.

This commenter has a few helpful suggestions.

There are other authorities this homeowner could report to.

Sometimes you just have to revolt against bad behavior.

Filing an HOA complaint instead of confronting someone directly isn’t cowardice — especially when you already have a strained relationship.

HOAs practically exist for this very reason, and this homeowner is already paying more than enough for the right to use it.

This homeowner has a legitimate hygiene and safety concern.

And if this behavior continues, this homeowner will have to go even more lethal.

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Imagine working at a job where you sometimes have the option of working overtime. Would you choose to work as much overtime as possible, or would you rather go home at the end of your shift?

In this story, one man is in this situation, and he almost always chooses to say no to overtime. He has good reasons for this decision, but he worries that it makes him look bad at work, like he’s not a team player, if he’s not willing to work overtime like some of his coworkers.

I don’t think he has anything to worry about. Keep reading to see if you agree.

AITA for always refusing optional overtime at my job?

I need some perspective here, I work at a warehouse, it’s not a glamorous job or anything, but it pays my bills and it works for me right now.

I work 10 hour shifts, 4 days a week, overnight I might add.

I’m not trying to complain, I signed up for this, but the job is tiring and physical.

Like any person at a job, I give it my all, I work hard, do what I’m asked, make my goals, all that stuff.

He works hard when he’s at work, but he usually turns down optional overtime.

I’ve only been there a year, but I feel like I’ve earned my keep, I’ve gotten compliments from my higher ups and they trust me. Especially considering that I’ve seen people barely last the 90 days or get fired or quit.

But the one thing is, there have been times, especially during the more busy parts of the year, they throw out the option of people coming in for overtime and usually I say no.

I’ve come in a few times and stayed an extra hour or so here and there, but most of the time I opt out of it.

My reason is, my time is precious to me. I understand they need the extra hands at times, but to me, I put my time in each week, those days off are for me to recharge my batteries, see my family, spend time with my girlfriend, and just enjoy that little time I have off.

He doesn’t want to turn into a workaholic.

We do get mandated quite a bit, the past few weeks we got mandated for an extra day, the end of last year, we got mandated an extra day for like 3 months straight. So it’s not like I don’t end up giving them some extra time.

I guess I just don’t want to be seen as someone who isn’t a team player. Because it’s not about that, like I said, I do what is asked of me, I work hard, etc, etc.

I just don’t want to be that kind of person who spends more time at their job than they do living their life. Which I see there, people working 5, 6, even 7 days straight, and I just don’t want to end up like that.

I just need some perspective here.

The key word here is “optional.” If the overtime is optional, there shouldn’t be a problem with choosing not to work.

Let’s see if Reddit agrees.

This person encourages him to avoid burnout.

Another person chooses not to work optional overtime.

This is true.

Don’t buy into the “hogwash.”

He’s doing exactly what he should be doing, and that’s prioritizing his mental health and his work life balance. He shouldn’t feel like he needs to be a workaholic in order to keep his job. It sounds like he’s doing well, working hard, and working mandatory overtime when it comes up without complaint. I doubt that any boss would be upset with him for choosing to go home instead of working optional overtime.

It’s possible that his coworkers who work a lot need the extra money. Since it sounds like he doesn’t, he shouldn’t feel guilty about enjoying his free time.

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Trying to make everyone happy rarely goes according to plan.

This bride wanted her bridesmaids to feel comfortable, so she spent time visiting multiple stores and looking at different styles to find something everyone could agree on.

When that still didn’t work, she gave the bridal party another option. She could pick and pay for matching dresses herself, or everyone could buy their own blue dress instead.

Every bridesmaid voted to let the bride choose and pay for the dresses, including her future sister-in-law.

But after the bride ordered an off-the-shoulder dress, her future sister-in-law decided she didn’t like it after all and asked her to start the entire process over.

Read on to see what happened next.

AITA for telling my sister in law she can wear the dress or get out of the wedding

I am getting married in a few months, and bridesmaid dress shopping has been a nightmare.

Everyone has different body types and different ideas about what they want to wear. The main issue is my sister-in-law (Jen). The issue with Jen is that she is super insecure about her weight because she is fat. This has made dress shopping a nightmare.

We have gone to multiple stores, and I even tried those dresses that can be styled multiple ways. She claims the color washed her out.

She asked everyone what they preferred before choosing a dress.

The main reason she is a bridesmaid is because she is the only younger woman on my future husband’s side, and everyone else in his family had a role, so it seemed rude not to include her.

For example, his two brothers are groomsmen, his niece is the flower girl, his nephew is the ring bearer, his mom and dad are each giving a speech, and I am close to his other sister, so she is a bridesmaid.

I recently did a poll asking my bridesmaids if they wanted me to pay for the dresses and have no say in the style, or if they wanted to buy their own blue dress. Everyone chose to have me pay for the dresses. That includes Jen.

Of course, her sister-in-law did not like her dress.

I picked a long, blue, off-the-shoulder dress. I got a call from Jen, and she said she didn’t like the dress. She told me it drew too much attention to her arms. She asked me to pick another one, and I told her no.

We got into an argument, and I told her she would wear the dress or she was out of the wedding. I also pointed out that she picked the option of not paying.

She called me a jerk, and my MIL is on my *** about it.

AITA?

Yikes! It’s easy to see everyone’s side here because dress shopping is so hard for most women.

Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit think about her ultimatum.

Here’s someone who feels for the sister-in-law.

For this reader, the SIL needs to get over it.

Apparently, this woman has been in four weddings.

This reader thinks the fiancé needs to fix this.

This one goes both ways.

If the SIL knew she wouldn’t be comfortable in certain dress styles, she probably should have chosen the option to buy her own dress instead.

At the same time, this is the bride’s wedding, not hers. She already spent time trying different stores, different styles, and even let the bridesmaids vote on how they wanted to handle the dresses before making a final decision.

At some point, everyone has to accept that they won’t get everything they want. If wearing one dress for a few hours is the biggest sacrifice she has to make, it’s probably worth doing to support the bride on her wedding day.

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Imagine renting an apartment where basic utilities like gas and electricity are included in your rent. What would you do if the landlord didn’t pay the utility bills, and you didn’t have heat in the middle of winter?

In this story, an apartment building full of renters are in this exact situation, and it’s particularly awful for one renter. In the end, he decides to get revenge on the landlord but is smart enough to record what the landlord says so he’ll have proof in court.

Yes, this drama goes to court.

Let’s read all about it.

Cozy up to the fire.

So I lived in apartment in Maine that was fully furnished, heat water and electricity included in rent, a fireplace that worked but the heating that was included in the rent was a gas-powered heater in the basement.

I lived alone so I felt the need for some companionship but instead of getting a normal pet like a dog or cat for some reason I decided to go up bamboo shark. The setup for the shark was nearly two grand. And I felt like it was a good choice because that shark acted like a dog and a cat all at the same time it was playful and lazy and had a wonderful personality especially for just some fish.

I will admit I got a little more attached to a fish than normal people would care to admit I love him. I named him Orion because three of his spots were actually kind of shaped like stars, if you used a lot of imagination.

The name orion slowly turned into Ojo little brother who would visit wouldn’t be able to pronounce Orion so that’s what it became.

Things changed when he got a new landlord.

Anyway for the first part of the year the apartment was great and a godsend because it was relatively cheap and it was hard to find an apartment that would pay your electricity and Heating and the landlord was quite nice.

Before my lease was up however the apartment was sold to a different owner, the new owner was not as pleasant as the previous and we would often have issues that would pop up that in my mind we’re not big deals.

Such as he would walk by my window he would say just passing by; which I don’t think is true because you’d have to get onto the porch and actually peer into my window and see that I have dishes to do so in his mind the apartment was a complete wreck and he has the right to kick me out.

I double checked my leased with a realtor friend of mine and in no spot in the least with any mention of keeping the apartment clean until move out day they could charge me $400 if the apartment was messy. I would always clean up though because I’m not an animal and like to have things relatively clean.

Uh-oh!

What one big issue that I had along with other tenants is that we would pay rent and he would not pay for the gas company to keep our heat on.

After a couple times of this in a Maine winter things were getting rather cold and other tenants were starting to complain oh, luckily he turned the heat back on after I sent him an email stating that all the tenants have the same problem being that we are in the same building as each other and we need cheat to stay alive and we are not afraid to press charges.

I admit the letter I sent was Overkill and he called me out on it that we could just buy our own gas but we had already bought our gas through the rent!

This is awful!

Unfortunately however, the following months he did not pay the gas bill again and I had awoken to my apartment freezing and instantly thought about Orion being cold so I ran over to make sure the heating on his tank was still working.

It was not or the landlord also cut electricity. So Orion sadly passed away.

This made me Furious and somewhat depressed and I demanded to be reimbursed for Orion.

This conversation was on the phone and my landlord chuckled on that sure I can deduct it from my next rent payment. He was thinking that Orion was a goldfish so he owed me 5 cents.

The bill was much, much more than five cents.

I explained to him know he is not $0.05 and I also want to be reimbursed for all of his supplies being that I no longer need them because he killed my fish.

He said fine just write a check for the remainder of the rent so I sent him a bill for $1,000.

The bill made him mad and he said that she would not pay for gas without my rent check.

I told him that we were all caught up and other tenants need their heating so you need to pay the gas for what they pay for as well being that the heater Heats all the apartments.

The landlord is heartless!

He hung up and I didn’t hear from him for two weeks, until we started the new month without heat again and I called him up and said that we need our Heat.

He said I don’t care what you guys do you are the third tenant to call me today I’m on vacation down in Florida so there’s nothing I can do.

I made a comment on that what do you expect us to do burn all of our furniture trying to stay warm?

He laughed at me again and said if that’s what you want to do I’m completely fine with it. It will just help you not leave so much crap in the apartment when I kick you out next month when I get back.

Recording the landlord was a smart move.

Something clicked she didn’t realize when he bought the apartment he was buying all my furniture to that was furnished by the previous owner! So I pulled out a recorder and told him I’m recording of it what you say next, can you please repeat but you told me that it was fine to burn my furniture to keep warm?

The landlord said yeah but I’m not reimbursing you up for any of the furniture if that’s what you want to do that’s what you can do.

So I started burning my furniture and in my apartment the fireplace also heats up the rest of the apartments so I went to one other tenant and asked him if he was moving next month and he was and I told him my evil plan and how we were heating ourselves this month, she was happy with the plan and donated all of his furniture as well which was the landlord’s.

It was finally time to move out.

The landlord had come back and I asked for him to come over so we may talk and settle things before I leave.

He came in and saw that my apartment was completely emptied. He laughed and made a comment about must have been a cold one last month.

I said yeah luckily I had all your stuff here to keep me warm at night.

He paused and looked at me and questioned what do you mean my stuff?

Now, the landlord realizes the problem.

Then I ask didn’t you realize that all of the apartments come fully furnished?

He seemed to be taken by surprise, and was stammering and said that I would have to replace all the furniture for the next tenants.

Don’t you remember you told me to burn all the furniture?

Not my furniture he exclaimed

The landlord sent OP a bill.

Yours was the only one in the apartment, but I also got some donations from other tenants. I laughed

Both he and I went out of the apartment me and to my car him into his and the last thing he said to me is that I’m going to have to pay him back for this!

I had gotten a bill in the mail later on and read it oh, he was charging me for all the furniture even the other apartments furnitures. Heres the total, $800 table × 2, $80 chair × 8, $200 end table ×4, $40 barstool ×10, $700 couch ×1, $20,000 for fire damages, $400 cleaning, and heres my favorite bill: reimbursement for fraudulent death of pet claims, $4,000. Quick math $27580.

See you in court!

Obviously we went to court over this, when I was asked if I felt that these charges were Fair I said no or he told me to do it.

Landlord chuckled

I have a recording your honor.

Lets hear it.

The judge’s reaction had OP worried.

I played it, the judge didn’t seem too impressed….. DARN

judge stays silent for a minute while rereading the bill. Whats this fraudulent death of pet claim?

My landlord answered, says that I owed him money because his dumb fish died because it’s too cold.

Was there a fish? -judge

Landlord: ya, but there was no way it was that expensive of a fish.

Let’s see what the judge had to say.

Judge: it’s not the price of the fish that concerns me what concerns me is that your tenants are paying for services that they are not receiving and thus their way of life is suffering to a point that this man lost a pet and felt the need to burn all of the furniture to stay warm. It’s very concerning to me that there was a fish that died and there is a recording of you laughing at off that they should burn their furniture I am sure you are suing them for following your advice. The recording alone wouldn’t have helped the tenant but the fact that you put the fish’s death on your own bill to be reimbursed for it chose me that you are in the wrong. What’s the fire damage?

Landlord: before the tenant had use the fireplace the fireplace was clean and now it needs to be cleaned out of the soot.

Landlord was also planning on replacing the fireplace completely but didnt say it.

Judge: so that’s a part of the cleaning. Tenant owes landlord $400 for cleaning and that’s it. Case closed.

I don’t think the tenant should’ve owed anything. His fish died. He didn’t have heat. It was awful.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person thinks OP missed a step.

Another person thinks he needed a lawyer.

This is the craziest part.

Another person doesn’t like the way the story ended either.

A lawyer might’ve been able to help. I don’t think the judge should’ve made the tenant pay for anything. The landlord needs to be fined by laughing when tenants are living without heat in the middle of winter. This is not okay!

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No matter what type of job you have, you should always be professional and do the best you can.

What would you do if you felt like your managers were always treating you poorly and yelling at you because you did certain tasks differently than they did?

That is the situation that the worker in this story was in, so he finally snapped and swore at one of his managers. A few days later, he heard that he was going to get fired, so he just stopped showing up.

In my opinion, he wasn’t doing great work and likely deserved to be fired. Read through all the details below and see if you agree.

AITA “Got Fired” for yelling at a Manager

It has been a few months since this happened, I’m not particularly excited to relive the experience.

This would be disappointing.

I had been working at chipotle for over a year. At one point I had been promised a promotion, only to eventually be taken off that promotion lists without ever hearing a word.

As time passes she has to hire new managers for the short staff, she promoted a few employees hired after me, but mostly had managers come in trained somewhere else (maybe not even a chipotle).

It is certainly not uncommon to dislike your managers.

The woman I got into an argument is the 4th manager that’s been hired externally. I’m cooking my food in the water heater we use for all the food that comes in bags.

The new transfer manager come and take my food out the cooker and has it sitting on the counter. Admittedly I was already feeling a little heated when she said, “the food is not cooking or cooling now, it’s just in the temperature danger zone”

Well, this manager seems unprofessional.

I said “I’m gonna put these back in the cooker so they are at least doing something, I can get them when I need them for the line.”

From here is where the arguments started. As I remember it, at this point I was going back to continue cutting chicken and under her breath she says something like, “I’m tired of all you disrespectful kids doing whatever you want and not doing things right.”

Just do it the way that your manager wants.

I then explained how I was trained to do it this way, my way is different, but that doesn’t make it wrong, we cook all the other bagged food in the heater.

And it was done that way until managment changed, and the meat was okay too. Now she says it “tastes worse.”

You can’t be swearing at managers (or coworkers).

I started trying to walk away again, but she wanted to passive aggressively say some stuff out loud to herself, and I snapped and swore at her for being passive aggressive with me. Then she got the general manager.

I realized it was inappropriate for me to be yelling at coworkers with customers in earshot, but the steam cooker was far from the only thing that new managers had been trained differently on, and they often found ways to put down my skill and work ethic because I didn’t do things exactly like them.

When multiple managers have a problem with your work, maybe you are the problem.

The 2nd external manager she hired made fun of me constantly for being “terrible at closing grill” instead of training me better.

I felt really unhappy and unappreciated while at work and wanted to talk about it. My boss said things like “I know you work but you have to work harder to show the other managers that.”

Asking for the day off one day ahead of time isn’t very professional.

I went on break, when I came back I let my GM know I was gonna take all of Sunday off. Initially I had half a shift because I was going to see a musical with my family, but was gonna make my day harder to help their open.

She said okay. Later in the night after helping somebody fix equipment, she walked passed me and shouted to them, “Nice words or it wont work tmrw”.

So, he just doesn’t show up to work?

I closed the shift and thought that would be it for the drama, but about a week later I got a message on snap from a coworker saying he was called in for my upcoming shift. I told by an uninvolved manager that the General Manager was going to fire me when I came in.

So I never went in,I got a new job and I have not been back.

AITA?

Technically, he wasn’t fired; he just stopped showing up based on a rumor from a manager. I feel bad for this guy, but it really sounds like he isn’t a good worker at all.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about what happened.

I agree with this commenter.

Here is someone who says he didn’t do anything wrong.

Everyone was behaving poorly.

This person says management and this kid were out of line.

The managers should have updated everyone’s training.

Sometimes it is best to just do as you are told while you are at work. People often think that their managers have no right to tell them what to do, or how to do it, but that is not the case at all.

I am not at all surprised that this kid got fired (or that he was going to). I just hope that he learns his lesson.

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Imagine going to a high school where a lot of the students live there, but some of the students live at home. What would you do if the school decided to change the pricing structure making it more expensive for the boarding students?

In this story, one boarding student was in this situation, and all of the boarding students were furious at the changes.

The school seemed to think they could convince the students that the new pricing structure wasn’t that much of an increase, but they were very, very wrong.

Keep reading to see how the students rebelled and taught the school a lesson.

Rewrite your prices to gouge money from students and bleed money out, a tutorial.

This is from over a decade ago when I was a student, but it never fails to make me smile even now.

The curriculum I was in is very particular to my country. It’s a two-year intensive program that usually ends in admission to the best schools in the country.

This curriculum, like most of its kind, was hosted by a public high school (with a much larger population of high school students), and – important part – it was heavily STEM-oriented.

A lot of students lived at the school.

This high school, being downtown in a big city in a large area of nothing, had, in addition to the usual lunch room, boarding facilities that were mostly used by students in this curriculum, as the high school population usually lived in town.

When I arrived, the price structure was the following:

boarding students paid a fixed price of about €62 a week for the room and all meals Monday morning through Saturday morning

other students could eat lunch for about €4.30 a lunch, with a prepaid card. Easy enough. (I don’t remember the exact prices but it was in this range)

But then the pricing structure changed.

In January of my second year, all boarding students were made to attend a meeting about a new price structure that would count everything separately.

The room would be €29 a week, lunch and dinners would be €4.20 a pop, and breakfast would be €2 a pop.

The resulting price would be an across the board 2% increase, which “is negligible”.

Key word being “across the board” here.

It was actually a much bigger increase than 2% for the boarding students.

I still don’t know who they expected to fool.

Obviously good STEM students would figure out instantly that for them, the week would now be €82, so a 33% increase.

There was an uproar.

The rest of the meeting was hearing over and over “it was validated by the school board”. As if boarding students had any representation there. The parents were too far and the students too busy. And of course other parents and students would approve of what was essentially a discount for them.

The students did something the school didn’t anticipate.

So we were stuck with the new pricing.

Okay. But we don’t pay for the meals if we don’t go, huh?

Remember: the school was downtown. And it appears, the students needed much less the breakfast, lunch and dinner on site where there are tons of options in walking distance at a lesser price. Up to and including stocking up things in the rooms for breakfast.

The school had to make another change.

The kitchen was DROWNING in stock and BLEEDING money through the nose.

The school being public, buying the food was not a very flexible process they could change week after week.

It only lasted a few weeks they came back to the old pricing structure, albeit a little higher (€65 per week I believe).

I still call it a win.

While the prices didn’t go back to where they were, at least the school brought them down significantly. Good for the students for finding a way to teach the school a lesson!

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person imagines what the office workers were thinking.

Another person wouldn’t have wanted them to change things back.

They learned this the hard way!

Another person points out that the response was to be expected.

The school didn’t think that decision through very well! You’d think they would’ve had to at least notify the boarding school students’ parents and/or given them a vote on the matter before making this change.

The students proved that they were smarter than the school administrators!

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