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Leaving for college is already emotional enough without watching your family give away your cat before you’ve even graduated.

In this story, a hardworking teen’s mom decided it was time to rehome the family cat of four years ahead of a move to a new house.

She cited concerns over furniture damage, litter box odor, and the fact that she simply didn’t want the responsibility.

The teen, on the other hand, was completely devastated. She tried to offer a compromise trial period, but her mom just wouldn’t budge.

Now she’s hurt, frustrated, and running out of options for an animal she’s loved since she was thirteen.

Keep reading for the full dilemma.

AITA for arguing with mom because she wants to give my cat away after im in college?

I (17F) have recently been in a back and forth with my mom.

Lately, there’s been some serious drama over the household pets.

She wants to give my cat of 4 years away because of a few reasons.

1, I’m moving to college in a year and she will be moving houses too. She’s gonna have new furniture, and she insists our cat will scratch everything up.

2. She says her litterbox will stink up the place, and that my brother (15M) doesn’t want to take care of her and neither does she.

This teen thinks her mom is being totally unfair — and besides, her mom knows how much this pet means to her.

I got upset because I don’t ask for a lot. I get good grades and study hard.

All I want is for my cat to be with my family, because that’ll make me feel comforted as compared to giving her away to another family.

My mom knows how attached I am to my cat. Everyone knows how much I love her.

The teen tries to suggests alternatives, but her mom won’t agree to anything.

I proposed letting the cat stay at least for a month, see if she causes any trouble and then make a decision at least, but she still doesn’t budge.

My brother initially agreed to take care of her for a month, but all of a sudden he’s changed his mind and insists he never said he would in the first place, which got me mad at both of them.

I don’t know what to do. I’m so upset and teary ugh.

AITA?

Even the thought of parting with a beloved pet could make anyone teary-eyed.

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Maybe Redditors will be the voice of reason.

This teen may just have to brainstorm ways to take the cat with her.

Her mom should have known better that this day was coming.

This user thinks more background information is needed for a proper judgment.

Maybe both sides are making reasonable points.

She’s seventeen, heading to college, and asking her family to keep the one constant that makes home feel like home while she’s gone. Ultimately, that’s a completely understandable ask.

Her mom is treating the cat like a logistics problem to be solved before the move, and the fact that her daughter is in tears about it apparently isn’t enough to pause and reconsider.

If her mother doesn’t want to seriously damage their relationship, she would be wise to consider a compromise.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a middle schooler who was totally frazzled after being left to babysit alone for 3-plus hours, and swears she’s never doing it again.

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Snoring isn’t something most people do on purpose, and punishing someone for it by stomping on their ceiling every time they fall asleep is a level of pettiness that borders on cruelty.

One tenant has been living in his apartment for nearly two decades and takes medication for severe insomnia that helps him sleep but causes snoring as a side effect.

His upstairs neighbor’s response to the noise has been to stomp hard enough to vibrate the floor every time he drifts off, waking him up without fail.

He’s averaging two to three hours of sleep a night for years now and can practically feel the damage accumulating.

Keep reading for Reddit’s take on the matter.

Every time I fall asleep my upstairs neighbor stomps and wakes me up

Maybe I’m the bad neighbor, I don’t know.

I don’t have sleep apnea, just really bad insomnia. Because of this I take medication.

This medication helps with sleep but dries everything out so I snore.

The upstairs neighbors took note of this and quickly showed their disapproval.

Well, the last 2-3 years every time I fall asleep and I assume start snoring, my upstairs neighbor stomps to the point I can feel the vibration and wakes me up.

It’s really starting to take a toll on his sleep.

I haven’t gotten more than 2-3 hours of sleep the past 2-3 years and I’m starting to feel it.

It’s not like I can do much about it. Was tested for sleep apnea and I don’t have it. Was told a CPAP would be useless in my case since it’s medication causing it.

Now he’s not sure what to do next — nothing seems to be enough for these neighbors, no matter what he tries.

Been living at this place for 15-20 years and a good chunk of that my mother lived here and was so much louder than me, yet no one did or said anything. So I’m not sure what to do.

It seems the people upstairs are always home. It doesn’t matter what time I try to sleep, AM or PM, they always wake me up.

It’s not like I do it on purpose, yet they are.

Sounds like the snoring is totally out of his control at this point.

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What did Reddit have to say?

Maybe there’s another way to drown out some of the noise.

The upstairs neighbors’ rigidity is only making matters so much worse.

Perhaps the landlord needs to get involved.

The snoring issue ought to be investigated a bit further.

Deliberately stomping to wake someone up every time they fall asleep isn’t a neighborly response to noise.

It’s not like this tenant is throwing parties or blasting music. He’s snoring involuntarily because of medication he needs to function, and his neighbor has decided that’s worth punishing him for around the clock.

The sleep deprivation alone is a serious health concern at this point. Two to three hours a night for years does real, measurable damage to the body and brain, and it’s being inflicted by someone who has the option to buy earplugs, use a white noise machine, or simply accept that apartment living comes with sounds you can’t control.

It’s time for him to stop absorbing the blame for something he can’t change.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

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Imagine stopping on the way to work to pick up something to eat. If you only worked with two other people, would you get something for them to eat too?

In this story, one woman is in this situation. She has a coworker who she likes and a supervisor who she finds annoying. Sometimes when she stops to get food on the way to work she also gets something for both of them, but sometimes she just gets something for her coworker. Other times, she only gets food for herself.

Now, she’s wondering if she’s rude for not always getting food for her supervisor when she gets food for her coworker.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for not giving my supervisor free food?

I (24F) work as a 2nd shift elementary school custodian. That means I work in the afternoon after the kids get out. Which means sometimes I don’t eat before I go into work. So sometimes I stop by somewhere to get food and eat it before my shift starts.

On the custodial team, there is my coworker (65F) and my supervisor (62M).

My supervisor is basically a micromanager and takes pictures on mistakes my coworker and I made. He would also show me mistakes in front of other people.

She gets along well with her coworker.

Anyway, when I go to pick up food, sometimes I decide to get my coworker something. Sometimes it’s a surprise and sometimes she asks if it’s possible to get her something next time I go to the food place. So I do that and give it to her.

Now my coworker and I have a good work relationship and we chat as if we’re old friends.

Meanwhile, my supervisor would come up to me asking why I didn’t get him anything.

Let’s see how she responds.

I would explain that I didn’t know what he would want (and sometimes I decide to go to a restaurant on that day).

He would then tell me what he would want as if I should’ve known.

A few times I go to McDonald’s to get myself lunch and only myself and a few times he would get on me about not getting him a sweet tea.

When these things happen, I feel I’m obligated to give him something.

She does sometimes get something for her supervisor.

Now there are times where I do give both my coworker and supervisor something. I got chicken nuggets for both my coworker and supervisor last week and my supervisor has yet to eat them.

I’ve given my supervisor his sweet tea the few times I would go to McDonald’s and even got both of them hot coco when we had to shovel snow.

I just wonder if I’m a jerk for the times I would only get my coworker something and not my supervisor.

So AITA?

I can kind of see why her supervisor is annoyed. I think it’s the inconsistency of sometimes getting him something but not always.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

She doesn’t have to buy him food for free.

Here’s another vote for letting the supervisor pay.

Nobody thinks she should buy her supervisor food.

I completely agree.

It’s one thing to buy something for a friend because you want to. It’s another thing to have a supervisor expect you to buy him food just because. I agree with the comments suggesting she ask him to pay. That’s only fair.

It’s unfortunate when trying to be nice and generous becomes expected instead of appreciated.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

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Helping family can be complicated.

Most people want to support their parents when they’re going through a difficult time. However, things get a lot harder when the problems seem to stem from years of poor decisions rather than bad luck.

That’s the situation this person found themselves in after watching his father struggle financially for years.

Now, as he’s try to save for a home of his own, he’s being asked to help cover bills that never seem to stop piling up.

And as much as he wants to help, he also wants the chance to build a stable life for himself.

Read on to learn the whole story.

AITA for not wanting to help my dad out

My dad has made a lot of awful financial decisions in his life.

He “retired” at 52 after a workplace injury and has subsequently lived off a disability pension. He could’ve re-entered the workforce in a different role but chose not to.

He moved back into his mother’s house and lives there now, mortgage-free, obviously. He is required to pay for the incidental bills and associated costs but has fallen behind.

The house is now completely trashed due to lack of maintenance. I can’t set foot in there without getting frustrated and depressed.

Now, his dad keeps asking for money but he doesn’t have it to give.

He’s gradually started asking for financial support for bills. He offers to pay me back, but I’m mindful that he really can’t afford it without falling further behind.

I’m currently saving for a deposit for my own apartment that I purchased off-plan. I have my own bills and expenses too and am not flush with cash.

I expect nothing from my parents in terms of an inheritance, but I would like the freedom to build my own life without this additional expectation. I feel like this isn’t my responsibility. And that I shouldn’t be financially supporting a parent.

AITA?

Yikes! It sounds like these two are in a pretty rough spot.

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Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit think about the whole thing.

This is a good point.

According to this reader, it’s the dad’s problem.

Here’s someone who thinks he has his own life.

That’s a good way of looking at it.

It’s easy to see why he feels so torn.

Nobody likes watching a parent struggle, especially when they know they have the ability to help. However, that doesn’t mean they should have to put their own goals on hold to solve problems that have been building for years.

Meanwhile, this young man is trying to save for a home and build a future of his own. And that’s exactly what he should be doing at this stage of life.

Besides, helping out once is one thing. Becoming responsible for a parent’s ongoing financial problems is something else entirely.

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Property line disputes bring out a side of people that HOA drama could only dream of.

Something about an inch of grass between two yards turns otherwise normal adults into amateur land attorneys with Ring cameras and petty grudges.

One homeowner did everything by the book: hired a land surveyor, had the lines marked, rented a trencher, cemented posts, and put up a fence squarely on his property.

His crazy neighbor’s response was to claim the fence weaves one inch over her line in one spot and start saving Ring camera footage of the entire installation.

The worst part is that she won’t talk to him directly, but has no problem banging on another neighbor’s door to try turning everyone against him.

Needless to say, this homeowner’s patience was running thinner and thinner by the day.

Keep reading for the full story.

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I paid a land surveyor, had my property lines marked and proceeded to rent a trencher, cement the posts, and put up a fence.

This was all because of his entitled neighbor and her schemes.

My neighbor is stating that the fence weaves and goes an inch over her property line in one area.

She has a Ring and is stating she has videos saved of the whole installation process.

This neighbor has had a frustratingly indirect way of dealing with all this.

This woman won’t talk to me in person but banged on my other neighbor’s door to complain about me and try to get my neighbor on her side. Making comments like, “If you care for someone’s property for X amount of years it becomes yours.”

This isn’t the first time she’s overstepped.

When we first moved in she also tried to “care” for parts of my lawn that were obviously in my yard, like weed whipping the back of my shed.

This woman already has a small fenced-in area for her 3 dogs, which she leaves outside all day and smacks them when they bark.

Now this homeowner is trying to find ways to fight back.

Anyway, I will be having my lines marked AGAIN to show that my fence is on my side of the property line. If it weaves over and I have to move my fence, what are some petty things I can do as I am taking down and putting up my fence while being recorded?

This is pretty much a textbook example of a nightmare neighbor.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.
If anyone knows how to be petty, it’s redditors. Let’s see what they had to say.

Like with many other types of neighborly disputes, it’s best to build a paper trail.

Some people act irrationally just to get a reaction — and this neighbor just might be one of them.

This user made a whole list of petty things this homeowner could do to retaliate.

This reader couldn’t help but have flashbacks of their own past terrible neighbors.

Going door to door to recruit allies while refusing to speak directly to the person you have a problem with tells you everything about how this neighbor operates.

At the end of the day, this neighbor doesn’t really want a resolution — she wants an audience.

The Ring footage, the complaints to other neighbors, the legal-sounding claims about property maintenance giving her ownership rights. None of it is about one inch of fence. It’s about control.

This homeowner is right to commission yet another survey.

If the fence is on his side, the conversation is over regardless of how many Ring clips she’s saved.

And if it needs to shift one inch, he should do it slowly, thoroughly, and with the biggest smile he can manage for the Ring camera.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a townhome owner who is at his wit’s end with the noise from next door.

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Companies often have stupid policies that they enforce, even when they don’t make sense.

What would you do if you got hired at a company to do a job that you had over a decade of experience performing, but once you got hired in, they demanded to see your high school transcripts?

That is what happened to the woman in this story, so she had to reach out to her high school and pay them to send in transcripts from 20+ years ago.

I just don’t understand how companies can think that this type of thing is a good idea. Read through the full story here, and see what you think about it.

Just paid $35 to get HIGH SCHOOL transcripts for a receptionist job

I’m 35 years old. I went to a 2 year technical college after graduating high school.

She has plenty of experience.

I’ve been working as a medical coder, biller, and front desk lead at doctors offices for about 11 years. All of this was on the job training, no school needed.

I just moved to a new town and picked a medical front desk receptionist job that was offering a great schedule with good pay, & I needed something fast.

Taking a step back in your career sometimes makes sense.

Only HS diploma needed. This position would be a step down for me technically, but I’m taking it because I’m self studying to test for a higher medical coding degree.

I had to do a background check- the email from HR specifically stated “do not add technical colleges or vocational schools under education”. Not sure why??? But fine, I left it out.

Who has high-school transcripts from 20 years ago?

HR and background check place have been blowing me up for the last 2 days to submit any pictures of my diplomas AND transcripts.

I don’t have them. I graduated almost 20 years ago and moved 10 times since then.

What a waste of time and money.

Even though my background check was super clear and all of my previous medical jobs confirmed my employment, I was told I would lose my job offer if I didn’t submit education.

College transcripts and diploma would take weeks to receive and sent by mail only (for $10). I could get high school diploma & transcripts emailed immediately for $35, so I did that.

Some corporate policies are just insane.

All of this was after I drove 30 minutes each way to complete a drug screen.

All of this effort just to answer phones and type on a keyboard.

If she was already doing a good job in her position, why do they need her to go back and get this documentation? What a stupid waste of time.

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Now this is just crazy.

They can’t expect people to track this stuff down.

Faking documents like this is easier than ever.

The company is just making people jump through hoops.

In some cases, finding these documents would be impossible.

It is shocking how companies seem to love wasting everyone’s time. If this woman was doing a good job in her role, why do they care at all about her high school transcripts? It just doesn’t make sense.

The amount of time and money this woman wasted was insane, but that doesn’t even take into account how much time the HR department spent on it. This type of thing is crazy, but it will never end.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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If you’ve spent your life living in nice, peaceful neighbourhoods, you might not know how chaotic and stressful it can feel living in a not so nice one. But it’s just the same as saying that if you’ve spent your life living in chaotic and stressful neighbourhoods, you might have no idea how much your nervous system can relax when living in a nice, peaceful neighbourhood.

Because knowing that you can come home at night to a property where everything is safe, and that you will sleep through the night without excessive noice or disturbances from the street and neighbours around you? Knowing that you and your neighbours look out for one another, and that your kids and pets can play safely outdoors, in your yard or in the quiet street?

That’s a kind of tranquility that many people in the world would give anything to have.

The homeowner in this story certainly falls into that category, since he bought a home that seemed perfect on paper, but by night turned into a nightmare.

Read on to find out what happened here.

Neighbours keep drilling into our garage roof, other neighbours keep playing loud music until past midnight and law enforcement doesn’t do anything, or gets angry at me for reporting

Recently, for the second time, our neighbour drilled new hooks into my garage roof from his side to hang up a tarp.

I called the local police. Police came over, took a look, told me that because the garage wall faces his yard he can do what he wants.

Legally, he can’t: we’ve had a property survey done and some free legal counsel which said otherwise.

I tried to explain this to the cops and they yelled at me and told me it’s a civil manner and they’re not going to “deal with this again.” They stormed off.

Uh-oh. And this isn’t even the end of this neighbourhood drama.

Other neighbors keep playing very loud music. I always keep all my windows and doors shut at night but it’s so loud I can feel the vibrations in the furniture and windows.

Outside it’s over 100 decibels (as recorded by my phone, which may not be fully accurate).

I’ve called law enforcement. Long story short the cop said that she couldn’t hear any music until she was in the neighbor’s driveway, and to only call after 10pm.

I waited until 10pm and called again. I didn’t hear back from law enforcement. The music stopped around 1-2am. Similar noise-related incidents happened with other neighbours multiple times throughout the year.

Read on to find out how this situation just kept getting worse.

One of my neighbors tried to steal a decoration from my front yard. I had to run after him and argue to get it back.

I did get it back, but it’s still aggravating.

Another person in the neighbourhood did donuts and burn outs on the street a few months ago.

Despite rain and condensation, you can still see the tire marks in the streets. Multiple cars on the road had their alarms go off when he did. It was around 11:30pm when this happened.

Let’s see how this has left the person feeling.

I am a fool for not spending enough time researching this neighborhood and visiting it at night to see what it’s like. I am a fool for buying this place (and potentially being financially stuck for the foreseeable future here).

I am a fool for dragging my partner out here and making her go through these things.

Combined with other stressors in my day to day – work and other things – I just feel so incredibly tired, dejected and stupid. I know, it’s a first world problem and I shouldn’t complain.

What’s even funny is I have been through far worse situations. I shouldn’t feel as bad as I’m feeling now all things considered, and yet I do.

It’s so clear how low all this neighbour drama is leaving this guy feeling – and that is so unfair.

You should be able to relax and feel safe in your home, not have to be alert at all times.

And law enforcement not even taking him seriously? It’s so unfair.

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Let’s see what folks on Reddit made of this.

This person felt sorry for him, and encouraged him to be less hard on himself.

While others told him to start compiling evidence.

Meanwhile, this Redditor encouraged him to seek out legal advice.

This guy isn’t a fool for not checking out the neighbourhood at night, it’s an easy mistake to make. And you should be able to trust your neighbours are at least semi-decent people who have a little respect for those living around them. It’s a shame that he’s found himself stuck in such a difficult situation with not just one dodgy neighbour but loads of them – it’s no wonder the previous homeowners sold the property.

The truth is, he’s not stuck there. As difficult and costly as it might be, he could try to sell the house and relocate to a nicer area. It might seem like a lot of upheaval and totally unfair, but in the end the family’s mental health and physical safety is worth so much more than cash and time. Because what should have been a safe and happy home for them to return to in the evenings, and spend family time together in, has become a site of stress and tension – all because the neighbourhood is contaminated with a lot of bad apples.

And that’s not his fault. Not at all.

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who was in love with her dream house – and then spring came and her neighbor’s trees caused her to question the purchase.

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Living with family can save money, but it can also create some serious headaches.

The fact is that most people expect disagreements over chores, bills, or personal space. But what they don’t expect is a roommate to stop paying rent and create even bigger problems in the process.

That’s what happened after this family moved into a house together with the expectation that everyone would contribute.

At first, the arrangement seemed to be working well enough.

But then the brother stopped paying his share and started making decisions that affected everyone else in the house.

Before long, a disagreement over rent turned into a much bigger mess.

Read on to see what they’ve been dealing with.

AITAH for leaving unpaid rent in my brothers name?

My mother, my brother, and I had all gotten a three-bed, 2.5-bath for $1,700. Yes, it’s pricey. But split amongst all three of us, it is roughly $600 a month.

We all have reliable jobs, and combined we’d make the rent plus some.

Just a few weeks ago, we had to pay our rent, and his final portion was $402. I had to put a little extra in this time due to him having some problems at work.

After doing some math, his brother decided he already paid too much.

When my mom and I had gotten off work, we texted him and asked if he’d sent us the rest of his portion of the rent.

And he texted back, no, he wasn’t paying. He claimed he had already paid for the month, which he had not. He started to pull random numbers out and said he had paid almost three grand in just two months.

He had not. He hadn’t even made that much.

The lease is in his name since he wanted to boost his credit, my mom being a co-signer. We had planned to just pay for the rest of the month, then move to something cheaper. But he decided to shut off our water.

His brother was mad he had to pay his phone bill.

Why, you may ask?

Because he had to pay his phone bill and refused to send the money to pay that.

I usually pay the phone bill and didn’t find it fair that I needed to pay his $50 portion. He didn’t like that and called the water company and told them we had moved. We had not. He had the water shut off, and we could not get it back on for another 3 days.

And that wasn’t all.

Now, they have other problems.

All because of $50, he had also gotten our car repossessed. By us not paying the rest of our rent and leaving the lease early, it ruins his credit and his reliability if and when he tries to get another apartment.

My brother usually paid his portion, and we didn’t know why he suddenly decided not to. He claims we “basically made him homeless” when he found a place to live within 2 hours.

We had not kicked him out. We gave him an ultimatum: pay the portion or leave.

He chose to leave. We respected his decision, but that left us with unpaid rent and scraping by.

AITA?

Yikes! It sounds like these people have some pretty bad luck.

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Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit think about it.

This reader explains how it’ll probably affect his mother too.

According to this comment, the brother is wrong.

This person suggests small claims court if needed.

Yet another reader who thinks it’ll hurt the mom.

The brother only has himself to blame.

He stopped paying his share of the rent and made life harder for the very people who were trying to work with him. Then he acted surprised when they decided they couldn’t keep living that way.

At some point, actions have consequences. If he wanted the benefits of having his name on the lease, he also needed to take responsibility for the obligations that came with it.

The family didn’t ruin his credit. He made a series of choices that put him in that position all by himself.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

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Wait staff at a restaurant rely on tips to make a living, so when someone doesn’t leave much, it can be upsetting. Even when this happens, however, they need to remain professional.

What would you do if your waitress mistakenly thought you were leaving a tiny tip, so she shouted at you and got upset?

That is what happened to the man in this story, so he complained to the manager and explained the situation. This led to the waitress getting fired, but now the guy’s wife is saying that he shouldn’t have complained at all.

While I personally think that complaining to managers should only be done in extreme situations, I do think that this one qualifies. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA for leaving an 18 cent tip and getting the waitress fired?

I was dining at an upscale restaurant and the bill came out to $49.82.

Honestly, I can see why she assumed she was getting a small tip. But her response is inappropriate.

I pulled out a $50 to pay, and told the waitress I didn’t need change. Goes without saying, but I was planning on leaving the rest of her tip on the table. I used to work as a server. I always tip generously.

The waitress misunderstood my intentions and said “Really?” loud enough for all the other diners to hear.

Wait staff should never humiliate customers, even if they were giving a bad tip.

Before I could say anything, she said something like “Woooow- thanks for the generous tip”, snatched the payment from the table, and walked away in a huff. All the diners around me were staring daggers at me. It was humiliating.

I flagged down the manager and let him know what happened. He knows me and knows I’d never stiff servers.

I hope that the waitress has learned her lesson.

He offered to comp the meal, but I said it wasn’t necessary. I just wanted to let him know what happened and would be on my way.

The manager insisted that I was owed an apology. Made sense to me at the time. She apologizes, gets her tip, I leave, everyone is happy.

With an attitude like that, she deserves to get fired.

When the manager called the waitress over, both of us saw her roll her eyes as she was walking here.

As soon as the manager saw this, he put on his “you’re about to get fired” face. All the tears and pleading made no difference. It was ugly. People were filming with their cell phones.

I think that complaining to the manager was the right thing to do.

As she was being escorted to the back by some kitchen workers (who probably think I’m the second coming of Satan). The manager insisted on comping our meal and we went on our way.

When we got home, the wife claimed I was a jerk for making a huge scene out of nothing, and getting that poor girl fired over a simple misunderstanding.

The waitress really dug her own grave in this situation.

I feel like all I did was share a legitimate complaint to the manager. She is the one who escalated it by rolling her eyes at us.

Am I being unreasonable? What would you have done in this situation?

AITA?

Talking to the manager was fine, and the waitress really got herself fired. If she had acted professionally, this would have never happened.

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Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about this unfortunate story.

I think this commenter sums it up perfectly.

All he did was issue a very justified complaint.

He did make it seem like she wasn’t getting a tip. But that doesn’t excuse her behavior.

She needed to remain professional, regardless of the tip.

I agree, the manager should have handled it in the back room.

This waitress was clearly on her last warning as it was. This was the straw that broke the camel’s back, so the guy really can’t be blamed for it.

While it is entirely understandable that a waitress would be frustrated with a seemingly small tip, that is no excuse for throwing a fit like that. She needs to learn to keep herself under control and move on to the next table.

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If you have a neighbor who is breaking the law, would you report the neighbor to the city or talk to them about the problem? What would you do if you talked to them about the problem, but they didn’t seem to care?

In this story, one homeowner is annoyed that a neighbor’s RV is partially blocking the entrance to her garage. The RV has been parked there for a month now, and she finally had enough. She tried talking to the neighbor about the situation, but she’s not happy with how that went and is thinking about getting the city involved.

Honestly, I’m surprised she waited so long to talk to the neighbor, but is getting the city involved going too far? Let’s read the whole story to decide.

WIBTA if I call city bylaws on my neighbour for parking their RV in the back alley?

My neighbour has always parked their work truck in the back alley by their garage.

I am completely fine with this even though sometimes it gets too close to my back entrance.

However, they have now parked their detached RV in the back alley and it is clearly blocking not only the back entrance but it’s just a little off to the entrance of my own double garage.

Needless to say it has been challenging parking my car that is on the side where their RV is parked as I only have the opposite side of the back alley to angle my car to go in and out.

OP finally went to talk to the neighbor about the RV.

They’ve parked their RV there for more than a month now and so I finally cracked and went to talk to them about it.

Got one of the couple to answer the door and I asked until when are they planning to park their RV in the back.

Her response (imho she sounded a bit annoyed that I even asked) is they will park there for couple more days and completely stop the conversation by shutting her doors before I can say anything else.

She’s thinking about reporting the neighbor to the city.

Now my question, since I’m a little bit frustrated with her response and in all honesty the way she acted, WIBTA if I call the city bylaw on them?

Note that where I live you cannot park, even a single day, your RV in the back alley at all (I double checked the city rules and by laws for residential areas).

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Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this situation.

Here’s a vote for reporting the RV.

Another person has a good question and makes a good point.

The fire department might help.

This is what I would worry about.

I doubt that it will only be there a couple more days. If she wants to trust them and wait a few days, she could. If a week goes by, and it’s still there, I’d report it. However, it is a good point that the neighbors may not realize their RV is in her way. She might need to spell it out for them.

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Companies that work with toxic waste need to be very careful about how they dispose of it, so that it doesn’t cause damage to the surrounding environment.

What would you do if your boss started trying to dump a certain type of waste down the drain, but that ended up clogging your machine, which led to you being fired?

That is what happened to the guy in this story, so he is thinking about filing a complaint with the EPA, but he is worried that it would get the company shut down, and he still has friends and family who work there.

I think that he has to tell the EPA. If he doesn’t, the toxic dumping could go on for years, resulting in untold damage to the community. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA for ratting out former employer about toxic waste after being fired.

I was informed by the foreman at a metalworks factory that tomorrow would be the last day I would be working after 4 years of casual work.

Dumping toxic waste is never allowed.

I was planning on quitting soon, so I am not that upset but I feel like the past 4 years have been a complete waste of my life and that I deserve better.

Part of my job is recycling silica based sand into a machine. It was a wet day and my boss recently realized that pouring hazardous industrial waste water down a rain was illegal.

Shortcuts often make more work down the line.

He has been trying to dispose of it unsuccessfully nearby the machine, and as a result the water ended up in the sand I recycle.

Due to the weather and the toxic water, the wet sand clogged up the machine, which has never happened before in the 4 years of working there.

His forman is blaming the wrong person.

I knew the wet sand was a problem and tried to seperate the wet from the dry without any luck.

It took all day to unclog the machine and as the machine is my responsibility I got a tonne of flack from my foreman who was furious and says tomorrow’s my last day.

He needs to find a way to stop this illegal dumping, that’s for sure.

My boss is still dumping the waste water down the bathroom sink and I am wondering if I should alert the relevant environmental agency to get back at my jerk of a boss.

I think it is a no-brainer that I should do it, but I’m worried the place will be shut down and I have family and friends who work there.

WIBTA?

At the very least, he needs to tell upper management about the situation. If they don’t fix it, then going to the EPA or another agency might be the only option.

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Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this story.

I definitely agree with this guy.

Everyone is at risk if he doesn’t report the company.

This commenter says he should have reported them as soon as he found out about it.

His motives are not good at all.

Why didn’t he report them right from the beginning?

He will be doing the right thing, but for the wrong reasons. Honestly, he should have reported this illegal dumping to the EPA after the very first time he saw it. The fact that he is only doing it now because he was fired is just crazy.

While it is true that this might end up hurting his friends and family in the short term, it would protect them from the toxic waste down the road, which is good.

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Breakups can get messy when pets are involved. Unlike furniture or a car, you can’t just split a cat in half and send each person home with their share.

That’s what this man discovered after adopting two cats with his ex nearly a decade ago.

At first, they shared responsibility for the animals after the relationship ended. However, years passed and life went on, so the cat settled into a new routine.

Now his ex wants the cat back, and he has no intention of handing her over.

The only problem is that his ex has a history of making difficult situations even more stressful. So, he’s unsure how to tell her.

Read on for the full scoop.

AITA for not give up my cat that my ex and I got when we were together after she hasn’t seen her or asked about her in the past 3 years?

We adopted 2 cats 9-10 years ago. We broke up 5 years ago and shared responsibilities for them for about a year.

After that, she moved in with her new bf and my gf moved in with me. She couldn’t take the cat that she considered more so hers, because he had a dog that was a known animal killer.

We have been civil since. She asked about the cats here and there but didn’t want to visit, as she thought it would be like “teasing” the cats that she is back only to leave again. She wanted to take the cat but couldn’t do so, though she could after his dog passed.

Now she doesn’t have a dog, she wants the cat back.

Fast forward to today, and his dog has passed, and she said it’s time to bring her home.

Since my new gf has moved in, we both have grown very attached to the cat. The kitty was very depressed after her adoptive mother passed late last year, and then my mother’s cat, that I brought home 4 years prior, passed earlier this year.

She has just gotten used to her new normal and is now a senior, solo kitty, and I don’t want to do anything that would distress her.

He has no plans of giving her up.

We have decided we will not give her up and not offer visitation in fear that she will take her and we won’t ever see her again.

I had gone to a lot of therapy because of my ex, and manipulation was at the forefront of a lot of those sessions.

I paid for her when she didn’t have a job and still gave her money after we broke up and let her use my car until I could no longer financially sustain it.

Now, he’s stressed and unsure how to tell his ex.

I feel like she is again trying to manipulate me into giving her the cat, and I am fearing that she will make this a tumultuous experience when I say no. I’m trying to figure out the gentlest way of saying no to try to avoid a confrontation.

This whole thing has me so stressed out, and I haven’t replied. All I know is that she isn’t getting her.

My ex has since had a child of her own with the guy she left me for, and I feel that it’d be best for her to get a kitten from the shelter like how we got the cat she is wanting to take back. I just have no idea how to tell her any of this without her blowing up on me.

I have even gone as far as changing my lock because I can’t remember if she has a key to my place.

AITA?

Yikes! It’s too bad he can’t just ignore her.

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Let’s see what the people over at Reddit think he should do about it.

This reader thinks the cat is best off with him.

Exactly. The cat doesn’t know her anymore.

So true!

This person thinks he should block her.

He should keep the cat and stop worrying so much about what his ex thinks.

Five years have passed! During that time, the cat built a life with him and his girlfriend, and that’s the home she knows.

At some point, he needs to stop treating this like an open negotiation. The answer is no.

He doesn’t owe a long explanation or a compromise. Tell her the cat is staying where she is, wish her well, and move on. End of story.

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Most neighbor disputes start with something minor: noise, property lines, overgrown bushes. But when one neighbor repeatedly damages your property and refuses to take accountability, frustration can build fast.

This homeowner says trouble started shortly after a new neighbor moved in next door. From the beginning, the relationship felt tense. According to OP, the neighbor entered their yard without permission, cut down part of a bush near the property line, and tossed the trimmings back into their yard without explanation. Things escalated from there.

The bigger issue involved a retaining wall in OP’s front yard that had been professionally installed as part of landscaping gifted by family. Not long after moving in, the neighbor allegedly began running over the edge of the wall with her lifted truck, causing repeated damage. Even after repairs, the same thing kept happening. OP says the neighbor never apologized, denied responsibility at first, and only agreed to reimburse repair costs after being confronted directly.

Now, after another repair, OP is considering installing a metal post on her own property to protect the wall, but her husband thinks that crosses a line.

WIBTAH if I put a post in my yard that could damage my neighbor’s truck?

My husband (29M) and I (28F) have lived in our home for over six years now. Our house is over 100 years old and we’ve slowly been making improvements when we can.

When we got married my father-in-law gifted us landscaping for our front yard. We planned out what we wanted, talked to a landscaper, and he wanted to pay for it as a wedding present.

The landscaping was completed over three years ago and we were very pleased and appreciative for such a great gift. The landscaping included a much needed retaining wall where there was a low patch in our front yard that previously turned into a mud pit when it rained.

What a lovely gift.

Fast forward to last year and our neighbors sold their house to a new owner. Almost immediately after she moved in she made it clear that she was going to be unpleasant to live next to.

In the first week or so living there she came into our backyard and chopped the top off of one of our juniper bushes and threw it into our yard. The bushes were next to her garage, but clearly in our yard.

It’s an old neighborhood and a lot of the garages were built long after the homes so everything behind the houses is very close together. Her garage is very close to the property line and maybe even a little bit on our property.

Not very neighborly.

We would’ve understood if she didn’t like the bushes. They were looking scraggly and landscaping for our backyard was next on our list for improvements. However, she gave no explanation and she hadn’t even introduced herself to us. I knew she did it because I could see her from my dining room window.

We ended up clearing all three of the bushes out by her garage because they were unattractive (especially after having the top lopped off of one).

About a week later she ran over our retaining wall with her lifted truck. It damaged the wall, but her truck is so tall it did no damage to her vehicle. Again, she never talked to us about it or apologized but I had seen her do it because I’m home all day.

How rude.

That summer we had the same landscaping company do work on our backyard so we asked them to add on a repair for the front yard retaining wall. The repair cost $100 and we paid it because we didn’t want a confrontation with our neighbor. One week after the wall was repaired she hit it again. Still we had no apology from her.

We’re outside a lot, so we thought eventually she would approach us about it so we gave her time. She never did.

One day I saw her walking her dog and came outside to discuss it. I just opened by saying that I wanted to talk about our retaining wall and she responded back by saying that she didn’t know how the wall was damaged.

Bracing myself for the response…

When I said I’d seen her run over it with her truck many times she started making excuses. She said the wall is too close to her driveway and that it could’ve been a delivery driver or any random person who used her driveway.

I stayed firm. Initially, I was just going to ask her to pay for the next repair, but I decided that since she didn’t even apologize, I would ask her to reimburse us for the initial repair as well as the upcoming repair.

She agreed, but said it wasn’t a big deal and she couldn’t make any promises she wouldn’t just hit it again.

Wow.

The wall was repaired again yesterday and this is the part that my husband says I would be the AH for. I put an ornamental iron post at the edge of our wall, but completely on our side of the property. That way it would be easier to see where the wall is, but if she hit the wall again she would also hit the post and it would probably damage her truck.

My husband told me to take the post down. He said I was being vindictive and immature. I took it down immediately after I put it up, but I really want to prevent further damage to our property. I don’t want her to hit the wall again, but if she did hit it and our wall wasn’t the only thing being damaged I think she’d be less likely to do it again.

So, would I be the AH if I put the post back?

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Reddit came down firmly on NTA, with commenters overwhelmingly agreeing that OP has every right to protect her property after giving this neighbor far more patience than most people would have. Many readers were stunned by the neighbor’s repeated behavior—not just damaging the retaining wall multiple times, but cutting plants on OP’s property, refusing to apologize, denying responsibility, and openly admitting she might continue hitting the wall in the future.

For most commenters, that was the key issue: this stopped being an accident a long time ago. At this point, the neighbor is fully aware of the wall, fully aware she’s caused damage, and still refuses to change her behavior. That made many feel OP is well within her rights to install a post, marker, or barrier on her own property to prevent further damage.

A lot of commenters also pushed back on the idea that protecting your property is somehow vindictive just because the neighbor’s truck might get damaged if she hits it again. Their view was simple: if the post is clearly visible and entirely on OP’s property, any damage caused by hitting it would be the neighbor’s responsibility, not OP’s.

The overwhelming takeaway was that OP isn’t creating the problem, she’s responding to one.

This person says the only way OP is the AH is if they DON’T put it back up.

This person agrees.

And this person says it was literally a hit and run…no questions here.

If your neighbor keeps driving into your property after multiple warnings, whatever she hits next is on her.

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