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If you’ve spent your life living in nice, peaceful neighbourhoods, you might not know how chaotic and stressful it can feel living in a not so nice one. But it’s just the same as saying that if you’ve spent your life living in chaotic and stressful neighbourhoods, you might have no idea how much your nervous system can relax when living in a nice, peaceful neighbourhood.

Because knowing that you can come home at night to a property where everything is safe, and that you will sleep through the night without excessive noice or disturbances from the street and neighbours around you? Knowing that you and your neighbours look out for one another, and that your kids and pets can play safely outdoors, in your yard or in the quiet street?

That’s a kind of tranquility that many people in the world would give anything to have.

The homeowner in this story certainly falls into that category, since he bought a home that seemed perfect on paper, but by night turned into a nightmare.

Read on to find out what happened here.

Neighbours keep drilling into our garage roof, other neighbours keep playing loud music until past midnight and law enforcement doesn’t do anything, or gets angry at me for reporting

Recently, for the second time, our neighbour drilled new hooks into my garage roof from his side to hang up a tarp.

I called the local police. Police came over, took a look, told me that because the garage wall faces his yard he can do what he wants.

Legally, he can’t: we’ve had a property survey done and some free legal counsel which said otherwise.

I tried to explain this to the cops and they yelled at me and told me it’s a civil manner and they’re not going to “deal with this again.” They stormed off.

Uh-oh. And this isn’t even the end of this neighbourhood drama.

Other neighbors keep playing very loud music. I always keep all my windows and doors shut at night but it’s so loud I can feel the vibrations in the furniture and windows.

Outside it’s over 100 decibels (as recorded by my phone, which may not be fully accurate).

I’ve called law enforcement. Long story short the cop said that she couldn’t hear any music until she was in the neighbor’s driveway, and to only call after 10pm.

I waited until 10pm and called again. I didn’t hear back from law enforcement. The music stopped around 1-2am. Similar noise-related incidents happened with other neighbours multiple times throughout the year.

Read on to find out how this situation just kept getting worse.

One of my neighbors tried to steal a decoration from my front yard. I had to run after him and argue to get it back.

I did get it back, but it’s still aggravating.

Another person in the neighbourhood did donuts and burn outs on the street a few months ago.

Despite rain and condensation, you can still see the tire marks in the streets. Multiple cars on the road had their alarms go off when he did. It was around 11:30pm when this happened.

Let’s see how this has left the person feeling.

I am a fool for not spending enough time researching this neighborhood and visiting it at night to see what it’s like. I am a fool for buying this place (and potentially being financially stuck for the foreseeable future here).

I am a fool for dragging my partner out here and making her go through these things.

Combined with other stressors in my day to day – work and other things – I just feel so incredibly tired, dejected and stupid. I know, it’s a first world problem and I shouldn’t complain.

What’s even funny is I have been through far worse situations. I shouldn’t feel as bad as I’m feeling now all things considered, and yet I do.

It’s so clear how low all this neighbour drama is leaving this guy feeling – and that is so unfair.

You should be able to relax and feel safe in your home, not have to be alert at all times.

And law enforcement not even taking him seriously? It’s so unfair.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a townhome owner who is at his wit’s end with the noise from next door.

Let’s see what folks on Reddit made of this.

This person felt sorry for him, and encouraged him to be less hard on himself.

While others told him to start compiling evidence.

Meanwhile, this Redditor encouraged him to seek out legal advice.

This guy isn’t a fool for not checking out the neighbourhood at night, it’s an easy mistake to make. And you should be able to trust your neighbours are at least semi-decent people who have a little respect for those living around them. It’s a shame that he’s found himself stuck in such a difficult situation with not just one dodgy neighbour but loads of them – it’s no wonder the previous homeowners sold the property.

The truth is, he’s not stuck there. As difficult and costly as it might be, he could try to sell the house and relocate to a nicer area. It might seem like a lot of upheaval and totally unfair, but in the end the family’s mental health and physical safety is worth so much more than cash and time. Because what should have been a safe and happy home for them to return to in the evenings, and spend family time together in, has become a site of stress and tension – all because the neighbourhood is contaminated with a lot of bad apples.

And that’s not his fault. Not at all.

If you enjoyed this post, check out this story about a woman who was in love with her dream house – and then spring came and her neighbor’s trees caused her to question the purchase.

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Living with family can save money, but it can also create some serious headaches.

The fact is that most people expect disagreements over chores, bills, or personal space. But what they don’t expect is a roommate to stop paying rent and create even bigger problems in the process.

That’s what happened after this family moved into a house together with the expectation that everyone would contribute.

At first, the arrangement seemed to be working well enough.

But then the brother stopped paying his share and started making decisions that affected everyone else in the house.

Before long, a disagreement over rent turned into a much bigger mess.

Read on to see what they’ve been dealing with.

AITAH for leaving unpaid rent in my brothers name?

My mother, my brother, and I had all gotten a three-bed, 2.5-bath for $1,700. Yes, it’s pricey. But split amongst all three of us, it is roughly $600 a month.

We all have reliable jobs, and combined we’d make the rent plus some.

Just a few weeks ago, we had to pay our rent, and his final portion was $402. I had to put a little extra in this time due to him having some problems at work.

After doing some math, his brother decided he already paid too much.

When my mom and I had gotten off work, we texted him and asked if he’d sent us the rest of his portion of the rent.

And he texted back, no, he wasn’t paying. He claimed he had already paid for the month, which he had not. He started to pull random numbers out and said he had paid almost three grand in just two months.

He had not. He hadn’t even made that much.

The lease is in his name since he wanted to boost his credit, my mom being a co-signer. We had planned to just pay for the rest of the month, then move to something cheaper. But he decided to shut off our water.

His brother was mad he had to pay his phone bill.

Why, you may ask?

Because he had to pay his phone bill and refused to send the money to pay that.

I usually pay the phone bill and didn’t find it fair that I needed to pay his $50 portion. He didn’t like that and called the water company and told them we had moved. We had not. He had the water shut off, and we could not get it back on for another 3 days.

And that wasn’t all.

Now, they have other problems.

All because of $50, he had also gotten our car repossessed. By us not paying the rest of our rent and leaving the lease early, it ruins his credit and his reliability if and when he tries to get another apartment.

My brother usually paid his portion, and we didn’t know why he suddenly decided not to. He claims we “basically made him homeless” when he found a place to live within 2 hours.

We had not kicked him out. We gave him an ultimatum: pay the portion or leave.

He chose to leave. We respected his decision, but that left us with unpaid rent and scraping by.

AITA?

Yikes! It sounds like these people have some pretty bad luck.

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Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit think about it.

This reader explains how it’ll probably affect his mother too.

According to this comment, the brother is wrong.

This person suggests small claims court if needed.

Yet another reader who thinks it’ll hurt the mom.

The brother only has himself to blame.

He stopped paying his share of the rent and made life harder for the very people who were trying to work with him. Then he acted surprised when they decided they couldn’t keep living that way.

At some point, actions have consequences. If he wanted the benefits of having his name on the lease, he also needed to take responsibility for the obligations that came with it.

The family didn’t ruin his credit. He made a series of choices that put him in that position all by himself.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

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Wait staff at a restaurant rely on tips to make a living, so when someone doesn’t leave much, it can be upsetting. Even when this happens, however, they need to remain professional.

What would you do if your waitress mistakenly thought you were leaving a tiny tip, so she shouted at you and got upset?

That is what happened to the man in this story, so he complained to the manager and explained the situation. This led to the waitress getting fired, but now the guy’s wife is saying that he shouldn’t have complained at all.

While I personally think that complaining to managers should only be done in extreme situations, I do think that this one qualifies. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA for leaving an 18 cent tip and getting the waitress fired?

I was dining at an upscale restaurant and the bill came out to $49.82.

Honestly, I can see why she assumed she was getting a small tip. But her response is inappropriate.

I pulled out a $50 to pay, and told the waitress I didn’t need change. Goes without saying, but I was planning on leaving the rest of her tip on the table. I used to work as a server. I always tip generously.

The waitress misunderstood my intentions and said “Really?” loud enough for all the other diners to hear.

Wait staff should never humiliate customers, even if they were giving a bad tip.

Before I could say anything, she said something like “Woooow- thanks for the generous tip”, snatched the payment from the table, and walked away in a huff. All the diners around me were staring daggers at me. It was humiliating.

I flagged down the manager and let him know what happened. He knows me and knows I’d never stiff servers.

I hope that the waitress has learned her lesson.

He offered to comp the meal, but I said it wasn’t necessary. I just wanted to let him know what happened and would be on my way.

The manager insisted that I was owed an apology. Made sense to me at the time. She apologizes, gets her tip, I leave, everyone is happy.

With an attitude like that, she deserves to get fired.

When the manager called the waitress over, both of us saw her roll her eyes as she was walking here.

As soon as the manager saw this, he put on his “you’re about to get fired” face. All the tears and pleading made no difference. It was ugly. People were filming with their cell phones.

I think that complaining to the manager was the right thing to do.

As she was being escorted to the back by some kitchen workers (who probably think I’m the second coming of Satan). The manager insisted on comping our meal and we went on our way.

When we got home, the wife claimed I was a jerk for making a huge scene out of nothing, and getting that poor girl fired over a simple misunderstanding.

The waitress really dug her own grave in this situation.

I feel like all I did was share a legitimate complaint to the manager. She is the one who escalated it by rolling her eyes at us.

Am I being unreasonable? What would you have done in this situation?

AITA?

Talking to the manager was fine, and the waitress really got herself fired. If she had acted professionally, this would have never happened.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man whose celebratory post-grad school vacation is being ruined by his family’s insistence he’s being lazy.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about this unfortunate story.

I think this commenter sums it up perfectly.

All he did was issue a very justified complaint.

He did make it seem like she wasn’t getting a tip. But that doesn’t excuse her behavior.

She needed to remain professional, regardless of the tip.

I agree, the manager should have handled it in the back room.

This waitress was clearly on her last warning as it was. This was the straw that broke the camel’s back, so the guy really can’t be blamed for it.

While it is entirely understandable that a waitress would be frustrated with a seemingly small tip, that is no excuse for throwing a fit like that. She needs to learn to keep herself under control and move on to the next table.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a family who is resisting pressure from the HOA to remove their tree and lights.

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If you have a neighbor who is breaking the law, would you report the neighbor to the city or talk to them about the problem? What would you do if you talked to them about the problem, but they didn’t seem to care?

In this story, one homeowner is annoyed that a neighbor’s RV is partially blocking the entrance to her garage. The RV has been parked there for a month now, and she finally had enough. She tried talking to the neighbor about the situation, but she’s not happy with how that went and is thinking about getting the city involved.

Honestly, I’m surprised she waited so long to talk to the neighbor, but is getting the city involved going too far? Let’s read the whole story to decide.

WIBTA if I call city bylaws on my neighbour for parking their RV in the back alley?

My neighbour has always parked their work truck in the back alley by their garage.

I am completely fine with this even though sometimes it gets too close to my back entrance.

However, they have now parked their detached RV in the back alley and it is clearly blocking not only the back entrance but it’s just a little off to the entrance of my own double garage.

Needless to say it has been challenging parking my car that is on the side where their RV is parked as I only have the opposite side of the back alley to angle my car to go in and out.

OP finally went to talk to the neighbor about the RV.

They’ve parked their RV there for more than a month now and so I finally cracked and went to talk to them about it.

Got one of the couple to answer the door and I asked until when are they planning to park their RV in the back.

Her response (imho she sounded a bit annoyed that I even asked) is they will park there for couple more days and completely stop the conversation by shutting her doors before I can say anything else.

She’s thinking about reporting the neighbor to the city.

Now my question, since I’m a little bit frustrated with her response and in all honesty the way she acted, WIBTA if I call the city bylaw on them?

Note that where I live you cannot park, even a single day, your RV in the back alley at all (I double checked the city rules and by laws for residential areas).

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this situation.

Here’s a vote for reporting the RV.

Another person has a good question and makes a good point.

The fire department might help.

This is what I would worry about.

I doubt that it will only be there a couple more days. If she wants to trust them and wait a few days, she could. If a week goes by, and it’s still there, I’d report it. However, it is a good point that the neighbors may not realize their RV is in her way. She might need to spell it out for them.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

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Companies that work with toxic waste need to be very careful about how they dispose of it, so that it doesn’t cause damage to the surrounding environment.

What would you do if your boss started trying to dump a certain type of waste down the drain, but that ended up clogging your machine, which led to you being fired?

That is what happened to the guy in this story, so he is thinking about filing a complaint with the EPA, but he is worried that it would get the company shut down, and he still has friends and family who work there.

I think that he has to tell the EPA. If he doesn’t, the toxic dumping could go on for years, resulting in untold damage to the community. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

AITA for ratting out former employer about toxic waste after being fired.

I was informed by the foreman at a metalworks factory that tomorrow would be the last day I would be working after 4 years of casual work.

Dumping toxic waste is never allowed.

I was planning on quitting soon, so I am not that upset but I feel like the past 4 years have been a complete waste of my life and that I deserve better.

Part of my job is recycling silica based sand into a machine. It was a wet day and my boss recently realized that pouring hazardous industrial waste water down a rain was illegal.

Shortcuts often make more work down the line.

He has been trying to dispose of it unsuccessfully nearby the machine, and as a result the water ended up in the sand I recycle.

Due to the weather and the toxic water, the wet sand clogged up the machine, which has never happened before in the 4 years of working there.

His forman is blaming the wrong person.

I knew the wet sand was a problem and tried to seperate the wet from the dry without any luck.

It took all day to unclog the machine and as the machine is my responsibility I got a tonne of flack from my foreman who was furious and says tomorrow’s my last day.

He needs to find a way to stop this illegal dumping, that’s for sure.

My boss is still dumping the waste water down the bathroom sink and I am wondering if I should alert the relevant environmental agency to get back at my jerk of a boss.

I think it is a no-brainer that I should do it, but I’m worried the place will be shut down and I have family and friends who work there.

WIBTA?

At the very least, he needs to tell upper management about the situation. If they don’t fix it, then going to the EPA or another agency might be the only option.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who is irate after she gave a group leader money for her daughter’s lunch, only to have him pocket the cash and ask all of the kids to pay their own way.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this story.

I definitely agree with this guy.

Everyone is at risk if he doesn’t report the company.

This commenter says he should have reported them as soon as he found out about it.

His motives are not good at all.

Why didn’t he report them right from the beginning?

He will be doing the right thing, but for the wrong reasons. Honestly, he should have reported this illegal dumping to the EPA after the very first time he saw it. The fact that he is only doing it now because he was fired is just crazy.

While it is true that this might end up hurting his friends and family in the short term, it would protect them from the toxic waste down the road, which is good.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

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Breakups can get messy when pets are involved. Unlike furniture or a car, you can’t just split a cat in half and send each person home with their share.

That’s what this man discovered after adopting two cats with his ex nearly a decade ago.

At first, they shared responsibility for the animals after the relationship ended. However, years passed and life went on, so the cat settled into a new routine.

Now his ex wants the cat back, and he has no intention of handing her over.

The only problem is that his ex has a history of making difficult situations even more stressful. So, he’s unsure how to tell her.

Read on for the full scoop.

AITA for not give up my cat that my ex and I got when we were together after she hasn’t seen her or asked about her in the past 3 years?

We adopted 2 cats 9-10 years ago. We broke up 5 years ago and shared responsibilities for them for about a year.

After that, she moved in with her new bf and my gf moved in with me. She couldn’t take the cat that she considered more so hers, because he had a dog that was a known animal killer.

We have been civil since. She asked about the cats here and there but didn’t want to visit, as she thought it would be like “teasing” the cats that she is back only to leave again. She wanted to take the cat but couldn’t do so, though she could after his dog passed.

Now she doesn’t have a dog, she wants the cat back.

Fast forward to today, and his dog has passed, and she said it’s time to bring her home.

Since my new gf has moved in, we both have grown very attached to the cat. The kitty was very depressed after her adoptive mother passed late last year, and then my mother’s cat, that I brought home 4 years prior, passed earlier this year.

She has just gotten used to her new normal and is now a senior, solo kitty, and I don’t want to do anything that would distress her.

He has no plans of giving her up.

We have decided we will not give her up and not offer visitation in fear that she will take her and we won’t ever see her again.

I had gone to a lot of therapy because of my ex, and manipulation was at the forefront of a lot of those sessions.

I paid for her when she didn’t have a job and still gave her money after we broke up and let her use my car until I could no longer financially sustain it.

Now, he’s stressed and unsure how to tell his ex.

I feel like she is again trying to manipulate me into giving her the cat, and I am fearing that she will make this a tumultuous experience when I say no. I’m trying to figure out the gentlest way of saying no to try to avoid a confrontation.

This whole thing has me so stressed out, and I haven’t replied. All I know is that she isn’t getting her.

My ex has since had a child of her own with the guy she left me for, and I feel that it’d be best for her to get a kitten from the shelter like how we got the cat she is wanting to take back. I just have no idea how to tell her any of this without her blowing up on me.

I have even gone as far as changing my lock because I can’t remember if she has a key to my place.

AITA?

Yikes! It’s too bad he can’t just ignore her.

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Let’s see what the people over at Reddit think he should do about it.

This reader thinks the cat is best off with him.

Exactly. The cat doesn’t know her anymore.

So true!

This person thinks he should block her.

He should keep the cat and stop worrying so much about what his ex thinks.

Five years have passed! During that time, the cat built a life with him and his girlfriend, and that’s the home she knows.

At some point, he needs to stop treating this like an open negotiation. The answer is no.

He doesn’t owe a long explanation or a compromise. Tell her the cat is staying where she is, wish her well, and move on. End of story.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a family who is resisting pressure from the HOA to remove their tree and lights.

The post The Ultimate Pet Custody Nightmare: Woman Sparks Bitter War by Demanding the Return of an Aging Cat She Abandoned Half a Decade Ago appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Most neighbor disputes start with something minor: noise, property lines, overgrown bushes. But when one neighbor repeatedly damages your property and refuses to take accountability, frustration can build fast.

This homeowner says trouble started shortly after a new neighbor moved in next door. From the beginning, the relationship felt tense. According to OP, the neighbor entered their yard without permission, cut down part of a bush near the property line, and tossed the trimmings back into their yard without explanation. Things escalated from there.

The bigger issue involved a retaining wall in OP’s front yard that had been professionally installed as part of landscaping gifted by family. Not long after moving in, the neighbor allegedly began running over the edge of the wall with her lifted truck, causing repeated damage. Even after repairs, the same thing kept happening. OP says the neighbor never apologized, denied responsibility at first, and only agreed to reimburse repair costs after being confronted directly.

Now, after another repair, OP is considering installing a metal post on her own property to protect the wall, but her husband thinks that crosses a line.

WIBTAH if I put a post in my yard that could damage my neighbor’s truck?

My husband (29M) and I (28F) have lived in our home for over six years now. Our house is over 100 years old and we’ve slowly been making improvements when we can.

When we got married my father-in-law gifted us landscaping for our front yard. We planned out what we wanted, talked to a landscaper, and he wanted to pay for it as a wedding present.

The landscaping was completed over three years ago and we were very pleased and appreciative for such a great gift. The landscaping included a much needed retaining wall where there was a low patch in our front yard that previously turned into a mud pit when it rained.

What a lovely gift.

Fast forward to last year and our neighbors sold their house to a new owner. Almost immediately after she moved in she made it clear that she was going to be unpleasant to live next to.

In the first week or so living there she came into our backyard and chopped the top off of one of our juniper bushes and threw it into our yard. The bushes were next to her garage, but clearly in our yard.

It’s an old neighborhood and a lot of the garages were built long after the homes so everything behind the houses is very close together. Her garage is very close to the property line and maybe even a little bit on our property.

Not very neighborly.

We would’ve understood if she didn’t like the bushes. They were looking scraggly and landscaping for our backyard was next on our list for improvements. However, she gave no explanation and she hadn’t even introduced herself to us. I knew she did it because I could see her from my dining room window.

We ended up clearing all three of the bushes out by her garage because they were unattractive (especially after having the top lopped off of one).

About a week later she ran over our retaining wall with her lifted truck. It damaged the wall, but her truck is so tall it did no damage to her vehicle. Again, she never talked to us about it or apologized but I had seen her do it because I’m home all day.

How rude.

That summer we had the same landscaping company do work on our backyard so we asked them to add on a repair for the front yard retaining wall. The repair cost $100 and we paid it because we didn’t want a confrontation with our neighbor. One week after the wall was repaired she hit it again. Still we had no apology from her.

We’re outside a lot, so we thought eventually she would approach us about it so we gave her time. She never did.

One day I saw her walking her dog and came outside to discuss it. I just opened by saying that I wanted to talk about our retaining wall and she responded back by saying that she didn’t know how the wall was damaged.

Bracing myself for the response…

When I said I’d seen her run over it with her truck many times she started making excuses. She said the wall is too close to her driveway and that it could’ve been a delivery driver or any random person who used her driveway.

I stayed firm. Initially, I was just going to ask her to pay for the next repair, but I decided that since she didn’t even apologize, I would ask her to reimburse us for the initial repair as well as the upcoming repair.

She agreed, but said it wasn’t a big deal and she couldn’t make any promises she wouldn’t just hit it again.

Wow.

The wall was repaired again yesterday and this is the part that my husband says I would be the AH for. I put an ornamental iron post at the edge of our wall, but completely on our side of the property. That way it would be easier to see where the wall is, but if she hit the wall again she would also hit the post and it would probably damage her truck.

My husband told me to take the post down. He said I was being vindictive and immature. I took it down immediately after I put it up, but I really want to prevent further damage to our property. I don’t want her to hit the wall again, but if she did hit it and our wall wasn’t the only thing being damaged I think she’d be less likely to do it again.

So, would I be the AH if I put the post back?

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Reddit came down firmly on NTA, with commenters overwhelmingly agreeing that OP has every right to protect her property after giving this neighbor far more patience than most people would have. Many readers were stunned by the neighbor’s repeated behavior—not just damaging the retaining wall multiple times, but cutting plants on OP’s property, refusing to apologize, denying responsibility, and openly admitting she might continue hitting the wall in the future.

For most commenters, that was the key issue: this stopped being an accident a long time ago. At this point, the neighbor is fully aware of the wall, fully aware she’s caused damage, and still refuses to change her behavior. That made many feel OP is well within her rights to install a post, marker, or barrier on her own property to prevent further damage.

A lot of commenters also pushed back on the idea that protecting your property is somehow vindictive just because the neighbor’s truck might get damaged if she hits it again. Their view was simple: if the post is clearly visible and entirely on OP’s property, any damage caused by hitting it would be the neighbor’s responsibility, not OP’s.

The overwhelming takeaway was that OP isn’t creating the problem, she’s responding to one.

This person says the only way OP is the AH is if they DON’T put it back up.

This person agrees.

And this person says it was literally a hit and run…no questions here.

If your neighbor keeps driving into your property after multiple warnings, whatever she hits next is on her.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

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It’s pretty interesting when you get out into “the real world” and you see how different companies operate.

Heck, I even thought it was eye-opening when I started working in high school and learned about how some businesses function…and it wasn’t always pretty.

And, let’s be honest: in the corporate world, there’s a lot of sucking up and kissing up going on.

The person who wrote this story got their first adult job recently and they’re pretty shocked at what they’ve seen so far.

Read on and check out what they had to say about this.

First real job and the brown nosing culture is insane, is this normal?

“I’ve been working at my first “real” job for about 6 months now.

It’s a small-ish company (around 50 employees), in-person. Before this I only did an internship, so this is my first time seeing office culture up close.

It’s not pretty out there…

What’s blowing my mind is how intense the brown-nosing is towards the bosses. I knew this kind of thing existed in theory, but seeing it daily is another level.

I’ve seen this kind of behavior from multiple coworkers (not just one person), but here are some of the most extreme examples:

Every single day, they go to the CEO’s office door at the end of the day just to knock and say good night. They’re literally the only person who does this, and it’s every day.

This is kind of hilarious.

They got the exact same haircut as one of the female managers.

In the team WhatsApp group, they agree with and laugh at everything one of the bosses says, even when it’s not funny at all.

They adopted a cat just because one of the bosses adopted a cat. They don’t even like animals that much.

Good lord, this is dumb.

They started going to a super expensive gym just because the bosses train there, bought a Whoop because our manager bought one, and even started smoking just to join him on smoke breaks.

They even came to work on a public holiday. Like, actually showed up at the office on a holiday.

And there are more little things I’ve seen but can’t even remember all of them right now.

Meanwhile I’m just here doing my job, being polite and professional, but not trying to become the bosses’ best friend or copy their lifestyle. Watching this stuff every day makes me feel like I’m in some weird simulation.

What’s the point?

Is this kind of brown-nosing actually common/normal?

Does this actually work long-term in terms of promotions, or is it just cringe?

I’m genuinely curious about your most absurd brown-nosing / bootlicking stories.

Make me feel less alone, please.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a team that agreed to work overtime, but then not everyone showed up, leaving the rest holding the bag.

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This person weighed in.

Another individual shared their thoughts.

This Reddit user spoke up.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

And this person had a lot to say.

As annoying as it can be to see how places like this operate, the best thing to do is work hard, keep your head down, and not get involved in any kind of office politics.

Well, that’s my advice, at least…

But that’s just me! To each their own!

Brown-nosing is alive and well in the workplace, friends!

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops speaking up in his Zoom meetings after getting constantly interrupted.

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It’s a tale as old as time itself…

I’m talking about people having to deal with crazy neighbors who make life a living hell!

It’s a sad state of affairs, folks…

But here we go again!

A woman talked about how her neighbor is driving her crazy…and she’s tired of dealing with this nonsense!

Read on and get all the details below.

Neighbor insists vibrations/noise are coming from my place.

“I (F26) live in a condo and my upstairs neighbor (female, probably in her 50s or 60s) has repeatedly complained about “constant vibrations” and noise supposedly coming from my unit.

Phantom sounds, perhaps…?

The problem is… there is no such thing that could be causing this.

The first time she approached me was shortly after I moved in (~3 years ago). She told me my TV was too loud past 10 PM on a Saturday and said she could feel vibrations in her wall.

I was honestly shocked because I barely had anything set up yet, and I keep my soundbar at an extremely low volume. After that interaction, I basically tiptoed around my own condo for months because I didn’t want to come across as the inconsiderate new neighbor.

That sucks…

This was also my first purchased home, so I was pretty sad that it felt like all my sounds were being closely monitored. Our walls/flooring are no where near paper thin or poor quality either and i have carpet floors, which i know helps with noise.

A few months later, she came down again while I had two of my girlfriends over. She complained, once again, about noise right around the time of our town quiet hours (10/11 PM on weekends).

Since then, I haven’t really had people over because I didn’t want more issues or to feel anxiety about simply laughing and watching a show with my friends.

Since then, she has also come down to tell me to stop slamming my door and I kindly told her it was the neighbor below me who is doing this (it’s quite loud, but not often enough that I care).

This lady is something else…

Then this past January, she came down..holding our printed HOA rules…and told me she’d been hearing and feeling vibrations in her floor for months. She specifically said she thought it was “100% caused by my fans or an air purifier in my condo”.

Pretty specific thing to accuse someone of when she has no idea what I do and don’t have in my place. She was decently polite, even though it was a strange interaction. I told her multiple times I had nothing running of this capacity to be causing such a disturbance.

This is pretty ironic…

She mentioned it was “starting to drive her crazy.”

I told her I had nothing running like this besides a fan at night and if this problem kept up, to come down and talk to me again.

I even told her she could come in and see for herself, which she responded “I’m not doing that!”, as if i was crazy for trying to show her I’m not the problem here.

During this chat, she also brought up hearing drilling one week, which was true — my boyfriend had installed two light fixtures for me during the daytime.

Get your facts straight, lady!

I believe she brought this up thinking that I’m a renter and I’m not allowed to be drilling in walls. What she doesn’t know is that i own the place. I know from research online, that she is renting.

Fast forwarding to this month (May 2026), my boyfriend had already been living with me for almost a year, and we are genuinely very quiet people.

We don’t host people/parties, don’t vacuum late at night or early morning, barely even use the TV, and we literally keep our microwave beeper turned off because we both dislike unnecessary noise ourselves.

Things escalated recently this past week. She stopped my boyfriend outside while he was leaving for work. He simply said a friendly “hello” to her, and she immediately started yelling at him saying that we “need to turn our fans off” and that we were “violating the law by creating an unlivable environment for her.”

I overheard and saw the interaction from inside my condo on my ring camera and was honestly shocked by how aggressive it was, especially because this was basically the first time she had ever interacted with him.

Just really gross entitled behavior.

What’s confusing is that after her earlier complaints, I told her multiple times to please let me know if problems continued. I never heard from her again for months, so I assumed things were resolved.

This lady have some issues…

Then suddenly she’s acting like we’ve been continuously disrupting her life this entire time on purpose.

Meanwhile, over the past several months, I’ve regularly heard extremely loud banging or heavy objects being dropped from her unit, often in the exact same spot.

I never complained because after our first few interactions, I just wanted to avoid conflict and contact with her. But after the way she spoke to my boyfriend, I’ve honestly started wondering whether some of it is intentional frustration being taken out on us.

Another factor is that she appears to almost never leave her condo. I mean maybe once every couple of weeks from what I’ve noticed.

So part of me wonders whether she’s become hyper-aware of normal condo/building noises and vibrations (pipes, HVAC systems, neighboring units, structural sounds, etc.) because she’s home 24/7.

We recently spoke to a few other neighbors, and multiple people told us they’ve had negative interactions with her too, complaints about doors closing, carrying furniture upstairs, normal living noise, etc.

So now I’m realizing what type of person this really is.

Since the incident with my boyfriend, we’ve tried knocking on her door twice to calmly talk things through, but she never answered.

I ended up leaving her a polite note explaining that I have genuinely tried to respect her concerns, but there is truly nothing in my condo that should be causing ongoing vibrations like she describes.

She’s doing her best here!

I also explained that I don’t want us living in a hostile environment where neighbors are yelling at each other. I told her she was welcome to reach out if she wanted to discuss things further, but I never heard back.

I did see her taking out the trash the other day as I was getting out of my car, and once she saw me and my boyfriend, she just stopped in her tracks and starred at us. It genuinely creeped me out bad.

At this point, I’m considering contacting the HOA just to formally document everything and ask whether there could be some other building-related source causing these vibrations because I’m tired of being afraid of seeing this lady and scared of the next time she’s going to come downstairs to complain about something.

Being that I’ve seen that she has been renting this unit for 4 years now, and I’ve owned for 3 years here (as well as lived here), is there anything you all would suggest I do, if anything at all I guess?

Just getting ready tired of all these interactions one after another.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a townhome owner who is at his wit’s end with the noise from next door.

Now check out what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another reader had a lot to say.

This Reddit user asked a question.

Another individual shared their thoughts.

And this person spoke up.

I think one of the commenters here might be on to something…

Perhaps this woman is deteriorating mentally?

It sure doesn’t look good, whatever the case is.

Her neighbor is genuinely starting to creep her out…

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

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For most of us, hair grows back.

That’s one reason so many people see a haircut as a low-risk way to try something new and express themselves.

Unfortunately, though, not everyone sees it that way.

This young woman had wanted shorter hair for a long time, and she couldn’t have been happier with the result. But her mother, on the other hand, reacted as though she’d done something terrible.

Sadly, the criticism didn’t stop after the first haircut either. Instead, things escalated when she decided to make another change a few months later.

Read on to see what her mother said.

AITA for cutting my hair short, knowing it would cause distress in my family?

A couple of months ago, in April, I (18F) got a haircut without telling my parents. I went from long hair to a mullet-esque style.

When I got home and my mom saw, she was immediately very upset. She was yelling and calling a bunch of people in the family to tell them about how I ruined my hair. Telling them that I want to look like a boy now. Then ignoring me for weeks.

Flash forward to today. I had told my mom that I want my hair shorter at the sides and front, to which she offered to do it herself. I didn’t want that because I know she wouldn’t cut as much as I’d like or would try to control the style even if I didn’t like it.

Suddenly, her mother barged in her room.

So I went and had it done (still the same length in the back, just slightly shorter bangs, and a piece on both sides of my head is shaved) and came home, to which she stated multiple times that she didn’t like how it looks.

I told her that’s fine that she doesn’t like it.

I go to my room, and she comes in crying and asking why I can’t just “conduct myself properly for myself, the family, and society.”

She went on to say that the haircut is so ugly and everyone will talk about me behind my back. And then she added that she is okay with me being a ******* (she’s not), but why can’t I just be feminine?

And she didn’t stop there.

She said she hates that I’m doing this to her and to stop immediately or else. What this “else” is has yet to be determined.

It’s complicated because, of course, I don’t want to upset my parents, and I do still live with them, but that situation is not changing anytime soon. They’re Indo-Caribbean and carry those values, though I was born and raised in Canada.

Honestly, I’ve loved having short hair. I’ve wanted it for so long. I’ve gotten more compliments than I can count on it, and a few from absolute strangers even. It’s easier to manage the heat, maintain, wash, and work out with it. I think it looks great, and I definitely feel more like me with it. I don’t think I’d ever want to go back to having long hair.

AITA?

Wow! It sounds like her mother has some issues that need worked out.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

Let’s see what the readers over at Reddit suggest she do.

Technically, a down payment could be toward a rental too.

That’s a very valid point.

For this reader, it’s just hair.

It does say a lot.

Her mother needs to take a step back.

We’re talking about hair. It isn’t permanent, and it will grow back if she ever decides she wants a different style.

So, rather than turning it into a debate about family values and what other people might think, her mother needs to accept that she likes the haircut and it’s not going anywhere.

If she loves it, that should be enough.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

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My fellow Americans…

What the hell are we doing?!?!

We’re working ourselves to the bone and it seems like the concept of enjoying ourselves has fallen by the wayside…

And this person is done dealing with it!

He wrote the story below and he decided that he didn’t want to play by the American rules anymore.

Let’s take a look at what they had to say!

I have a new goal, work 1.5 hours less each day at work.

“I was listening to Planet Money today and they cited a statistic that I took major note of and turned it into a goal of mine.

Due to PTO policies, Europeans work 1.5 hours less each day at work than Americans do.

5 days a week, that’s 7.5 hours per week, (basically a 32.5 day work week), and 390 hours a year, or 48.75 work days a year, if you consider 8 hours to be a work day.

We’re getting the shaft!

I’ve been in the US workforce since 2010, putting in over a month of extra work in comparison to our neighbors across the pond, and I’m officially done, and I’m taking it back starting today.

Here’s the plan…

So, while I can’t simply not be at work 1 extra day a week, I can, and intend to, commit to not doing work 90 extra minutes a day, on top of my 75 minutes of current break time (45 minute lunch, plus two 15-minute breaks).

I will be setting an hour and a half timer on my phone each day, pausing it if something immediate comes up, and starting it again once I get done.

I will make sure that 90 minutes is filled with non-work related activities (Internet, reddit, going outside, etc).

Go on with your bad self!

I have no more intention of waiting around until we make the system as a whole, better. I’m simply going to make my system of work better, and I encourage others to do the same, if at all possible.

I welcome any and all ideas on how to do this even better than my current plan.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who works fast and helps her coworkers, but is met with disapproval from her supervisor because of this practice

Check out what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another Reddit user shared their thoughts.

This reader had a lot to say.

Another individual spoke up.

And this reader chimed in.

Hey, if you can pull this off, more power to ya!

Let’s just hope their boss doesn’t catch on.

But one thing’s for sure, remember to treat yourself every once in a while.

Hopefully they don’t get caught trying this out at work…

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a team that agreed to work overtime, but then not everyone showed up, leaving the rest holding the bag.

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When you first start at a new job, the sheer number of new people you need to get to know can feel quite overwhelming. But over time, as you settle in, people will start revealing their true characters to you, just as you will to them. And as you become more and more relaxed around one another, you’ll be able to find out who in the office are truly your people.

The woman in this story has been at her job for some time, and is knowledgeable about the folk she does and doesn’t want to spend her time with. Unfortunately, another woman who works in the office has decided that she very much is her person – even though the feeling is not reciprocal. That would be fine on the surface, but when the other woman’s behaviour becomes increasingly annoying, this woman knew she had to take further action.

Read on to find out what happened.

My coworker has zero boundaries, stalks me to prayer times, and treats my desk like a playground. I’m losing my mind.

I (female) need to rant because I am at my absolute wits’ end with a female coworker in my office, and I’m starting to feel like I’m losing my sanity.

For context, she is a bit older than me (late thirties) and comes from a very privileged background. At first, I tried to be nice and polite, but she quickly turned into a complete energy vampire.

She uses me to dump all her emotional baggage, but the second I ask a simple question about her life—like asking for her Instagram handle—she literally lies to my face and says she doesn’t have one (spoiler: she does, she just wants to keep her life exclusive while invading mine).

Lately, her behaviour has crossed from annoying into completely suffocating and weird.

Let’s see what else she is doing to be so unsettling to this woman.

She is not a punctual or regular prayer-goer at all. But the *second* I get up from my desk to go for Namaz, she suddenly materialises and follows me there. It’s like she’s tracking my exact daily movements just to force her presence on me during a time meant for peace and reflection.

She constantly walks over to my seat, peeks directly at my monitor to see what I’m working on, and offers totally useless comments.

I keep a plushie and my personal diary on my desk. She will literally come over, grab my plushie without asking, and start playing with it. Last week, she took the thumb pins out of my stationery organiser and started sticking them directly into my diary cover!

I literally had to remove the pins from my table just to stop a grown woman from vandalizing my stuff.

But her behaviour gets even worse than this.

If things don’t go her way, she gets aggressive, rude, and starts misbehaving in the office.

Just today, she got into a massive, petty argument with another guy in the department because she missed his lunch call, giving some absurd, childish excuse that “school kids were too noisy” downstairs (our office is above a mall).

I have tried giving polite corporate hints, but she has absolutely zero social awareness. Today, she texted me to make lunch plans, and I finally just decided to choose peace: I didn’t even open the chat. I’m completely ghosting her messages now because it’s the only way to save my mental health.

I feel a little guilty because I’m naturally a polite person, but I cannot set myself on fire just to keep this woman entertained anymore.

Whether she’s trying to be a friend or not, this woman’s behaviour has gone far beyond what is appropriate.

It’s clear that these two don’t have the same vibe, and she’s finding the other woman’s behaviour overbearing.

She needs some boundaries, and she needs them fast.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a hotel guest who complained about noise from an event, then reported the employee who agreed with him.

Let’s see what folks on Reddit made of this.

This person agreed that she needed boundaries.

While others shared similar situations they’d been in.

Meanwhile, this Redditor thought it would be a good idea to ask for her seat to be moved.

Honestly, getting moved is not a bad idea – especially if there are spaces in different areas of the office or even in different offices altogether. Because while she’s still close to this woman, this bad behaviour is likely to continue. Of course, if she’s happy where she is, it’s absolutely okay to simply try to have an honest conversation with the woman, tell her that her behaviour is bothering her and explain that she needs some space – but whether or not that will work depends a lot on the co-worker herself.

But if she does confront the issue, explain what is bothering her and how she’d like to be treated going forward, at least her co-worker’s refusal to do so (if that were the case) can become an HR issue. Because this woman deserves to have her space, deserves not to have her things touched or damaged, and deserves to pray in peace. Any decent person would respect that – regardless of how upsetting it might be.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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If you hand a fragile, expensive item to a six-year-old and tell him to carry it somewhere, you’ve accepted a certain level of risk. That’s not a controversial opinion — that’s just how kids work.

They drop things, they trip, they grip too hard, their hands are dirty.

But one woman’s sister did exactly that, handing her boyfriend’s expensive fast charger to her nephew and asking him to bring it downstairs to their dad instead of walking it down herself.

So when the wire snapped in transit, the sister immediately blamed the child, claimed he did it on purpose, and then pivoted to demanding the mom pay for the damage.

Considering the fact the mom wasn’t even aware her son had been asked to carry anything, she’s refusing to pay for a decision she had no part in making.

Keep reading for the full drama.

AITA for refusing to pay back my sister for her expensive charger?

I (F30) work from home as a single mum and live with my sister (24) and son (6).

Our dad came to visit us from abroad and was downstairs watching TV with my son whilst I was working.

The drama all started with a charger.

Our dad asked to borrow my sister’s expensive fast charger (unbeknownst it actually belongs to her boyfriend), so my sister (who was in her room) called my son upstairs to bring it to our dad and gave it to him to do so.

I was unaware of this.

In this time, he went to bring it to our dad and the wire snapped.

All chaos soon breaks loose.

My sister at first claimed he did it deliberately because he “always breaks things like his toys.”

So then I pointed out that breaking a toy or something he is playing with whether on purpose (which I have never seen myself) or not is different because it’s his.

If she asks him to do something with her belongings, he wouldn’t just take it and break it for no reason instead of just giving it to my dad.

Then the matter of repayment arises.

Then she said regardless he broke it so I should pay.

I am refusing because I didn’t agree to him giving our dad the charger as I wasn’t aware of this agreement and it could have been something even more expensive and I cannot afford this.

She thinks the whole thing should have gone down differently.

He’s 6 and clumsy and if the charger was so expensive and belonged to her boyfriend, I think my sister should have given it to our dad.

She’s saying she had no idea he was so clumsy/would have broken it and regardless expects me to pay and says her boyfriend agrees.

AITA?

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who stirred up family drama by finally choosing her own mom over her in-laws.

What did Reddit have to say?

This user has their own theory entirely.

This user shares where they think the responsibility lies.

Her sister really needs to pick a lane.

Kids and breaking things practically go together.

Blaming a six-year-old for being six years old after you handed him something fragile and expensive is just low.

It’s not like the kid snuck into her room to grab the charger. He was only doing exactly what was asked of him.

It’s telling that her sister’s argument changed the second her first one fell apart, going from “he did it on purpose” to “doesn’t matter, pay up.”

The mom is right to refuse. She wasn’t consulted and she didn’t consent.

It’s high time her sibling own up to her shortcomings.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a middle schooler who was totally frazzled after being left to babysit alone for 3-plus hours, and swears she’s never doing it again.

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