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Imagine driving on the highway when a lane is closed for road construction. When would you merge into another lane? Would you merge when there’s a sign warning you that construction is happening up ahead, or would you wait until the point where the cones completely block off the lane forcing you to merge into another lane?

In this story, one driver chose the second option, and he’s pretty frustrated about the way several truckers reacted when he tried to merge. Their reaction makes him wonder if he really did do something wrong.

Technically, he didn’t do anything wrong, but I personally would’ve merged earlier if everyone else was merging earlier.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for using a lane on the highway (in a car) until I was forced over to another lane by construction? (USA)

Happened last week while I was on a cross-country trip. I’ll do my best to visually describe it.

Picture 3 lanes, and construction is happening in the left lane, but a little ways up ahead, so I’m not even in the construction zone yet. However all 3 lanes are moving between very slow and dead stopped.

Here in the US they’ll put signs that say “Left lane closed 1000ft ahead” and another one at 500ft, and then they’ll put traffic cones across the lane at a diagonal angle until it’s impossible to use the lane.

Everyone decided to merge except OP.

I’m in the left lane and we slowly pass the 1000ft sign. Almost everyone in front of me in the left lane starts merging at this point.

I notice that the car in front of me is almost merged into the middle lane all the way and that the lane is empty until you get to the traffic cones, which are ~900ft away or so.

Now as someone who’s lived in large cities the past 15yrs, everyone usually goes all the way to the cones before merging, that’s just what happens. So I take the opportunity to do this, and as I’m starting to drive by, a semi-truck suddenly juts out halfway into my lane in an attempt to block me.

I stop and then go around him because he kinda had to get back in his lane fully and also there was plenty of room on the shoulder, but I didn’t even have to leave the lane at all really.

When he was finally ready to merge, it wasn’t easy.

I continue on my way and am coming up on the cones getting ready to merge when another semi-truck pulls out and completely cuts me off. So the front of his truck is basically touching the first or second cone and the back of his truck is in the middle lane.

I slam the brakes and am very annoyed, but there’s nothing I can do so I start pulling into the middle lane behind him.

BUT a freaking 3rd semi-truck, who is directly behind the one that just cut me off, also freaking cuts me off and gets within like 2in of the other semi-truck so that I can’t merge.

Finally, the car behind that last semi-truck lets me in because there’s nowhere else to go, and less than a minute later I’m passing both of those semi-trucks because traffic started going more than 10mph.

He isn’t sure what the truckers were thinking.

I’ve always been a fan of truckers and have done my best to be aware of what they’re doing on the road, but what the heck?

I understand if you don’t like what I’m doing, but it was legal and there was a huge amount of unused lane that I thought everyone should be using and just merging once they got to the cones, you know like a zipper.

What were these guys thinking? “Let’s make this guy pass us in a few minutes when traffic opens up instead of right now because….uh….reasons.” Are you really stupid enough to risk causing an accident that would be your fault because you don’t like that I’m about to pass you using a completely open and legal lane?

I understand people passing you when you’re at a dead stop makes you think “What a jerk” but I feel like these guys were just sticking together as truckers instead of using their brains.

If everyone else zippered in at an earlier point, I can understand why the truckers were annoyed, but was it wrong for them to almost cause an accident?

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Let’s see what Reddit has to say.

Are we sure he wasn’t being one of those people who cuts ahead and flies by everyone else?

This is a good point. I think it was more like they prevented him from merging.

This person doesn’t think he did anything wrong.

But this person thinks he should’ve merged earlier.

I don’t think of those signs saying a lane is closing ahead as something to ignore. To me, and most drivers, those signs mean you’re supposed to merge.

I can understand why the truckers prevented him from merging. He may think of it as the truckers cutting him off, but really, they just prevented him from cutting them off.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

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Setting a clear budget for a kid’s reward is one of the most responsible things a parent can do, and it’s also one of the fastest ways to end up in an argument when the kid’s wish list doesn’t line up with the number.

In this story, a dad promised his son in September that if he worked hard and did well in school, he could pick a $200 gift at the end of the year.

The kid delivered. His grades improved, the homework fights decreased, and the dad congratulated him and reminded him of the budget.

So when the son came back with a link to the Nintendo Switch 2, which runs more than double the promised amount, the dad held the line.

He offered his son alternatives, and even mapped out a plan involving birthday money and a trade-in, but still his son wasn’t satisfied. Things have been tense ever since.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for refusing to buy my son Switch 2, even though I promised him a reward for the school year?

My son is 13. I promised him in September that if he did well at the end of the year, we would celebrate and he could pick out a $200 prize for himself.

I didn’t want ambiguous promises like “something nice” or “within budget” without specifying a sum that might generate disagreements later, so I stated the amount up front.

So with the reward on the line, his son rose to the occasion.

He really tried hard. I was pleased with him as he got better in math and had less arguments about homework.

I congratulated him on his grades, told him he deserved his gift and reminded him of the $200 gift budget once again.

But here’s where things got messy.

This Monday, he came to me with a link to the Nintendo Switch 2 and said he wanted it.

I told him that it wasn’t within the budget. Its price is around $450, which is x2 more than the reward I promised.

He was transparent with his son about the family’s financial situation, but his son didn’t get it.

I explained that we can’t afford it right now as we have bills, his summer camp, and I need to repair my car which I need in order to work right now.

He got very upset and said he’d already told his friends he will get a Switch 2.

I told him I understood why he felt awkward, but he’d told his friends that himself before we’d even discussed the purchase.

He tries to compromise with his son.

I didn’t take away the reward. I suggested he choose headphones, games, a controller, gift cards, or something else up to $200.

I said that we could work something out if he truly desired the Switch 2. Next month, he could save up his birthday money, trade in his old Switch, and use my $200 to make the purchase.

But this still isn’t good enough and now things are tense around the house.

He said it was unjust since prices may increase and everyone else was already purchasing one.

I said I was happy for everyone else, but we must discuss all big purchases in our family in advance.

Now he doesn’t talk with me till this day except small interactions.

The father still thinks he did the right thing.

He did his best and I feel bad about this situation.

However, I kept my word. I didn’t guarantee a new console, but rather a prize that was affordable.

AITA?

Telling your kid no is never easy, but it’s also necessary.

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What did Reddit have to say?

Some life lessons are priceless.

This commenter offers words of encouragement.

Life is expensive, and that’s an important lesson to learn.

All things considered, this situation was pretty low stakes.

At the end of the day, this dad did everything by the book.

He set a specific dollar amount to avoid confusion, reminded his son of it before the pick, and when the request came in over budget, he didn’t shut it down cold. He offered alternatives, laid out the family’s financial reality, and even built a roadmap that could get the kid the Switch 2 within weeks using birthday money and a trade-in.

That’s a parent saying “let’s figure it out,” which is more than plenty of other kids get.

On the other hand, his son is thirteen — and being upset about not getting what you want exactly when you want it is peak thirteen energy.

This father shouldn’t get too discouraged. He still did the right thing.

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Imagine working in a warehouse, and it’s the end of your shift. You’re probably excited to clock out and leave, but before you can, your supervisor comes over and tells you to work overtime. Would you stay, or would you go?

In this story, one employee is in this situation, and he’s pretty annoyed that his supervisor waited until the literal last minute to tell him to work overtime. That’s right, it wasn’t really a question. It was more of a demand.

Now, he’s wondering if it’s too much to ask to be given a heads up about overtime.

I don’t think he’s asking too much. Keep reading to see if you agree.

AITA for wanting to know about overtime?

I work in a large warehouse from 12pm to 830pm with a few day swing shifts.

Only a few of us work this shift and the rest mostly either work 6am to 230pm or 12pm to 1030pm.

We’re granted these bids because our union rules stipulate how many of each shift schedule we can have.

A supervisor told OP to work overtime.

The other day it was approximately 820pm and I was putting away my equipment and doing my sign out sheet for my pallet jack.

One of my supervisors comes to me as I’m about to finish putting things away and informs me I must stay for overtime to pick a few more orders.

I ask him why I was not informed earlier as we have a measured work standard and a display for how many hours of work are left in each department.

He doesn’t respond to the question but asks why it would be so hard to pick a few more orders.

Here’s how the conversation continued.

I tell him it’s not very courteous to be telling me about my overtime at the time I’m supposed to leave and that I would’ve liked to know earlier.

He then tells me how much work still needs to be done (4 hours) even with 3 part timers still left on the floor.

I told him I’d continue to work but in the future I’d like to be notified at an earlier time about overtime.

He proceeds to tell me I should just be ready to work overtime all the time.

AITA for wanting to be notified of overtime at an earlier time in my shift?

Ready to work overtime all the time? What kind of logic is that? I’d be looking for another job.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person has a question about the union contract.

Another person points out problems with the supervisor’s phrasing and logic.

There are lots of reasons people need a heads up about overtime.

Nobody thinks he’s being unreasonable.

The supervisor is clearly the problem here. First of all, overtime should not be expected or required. If it is, employees definitely need to be given plenty of advance notice. Especially since he’s in a union, there probably are rules about overtime. He should definitely look at his union contract.

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Why, oh why, can’t some people simply mind their own freakin’ business?

If something doesn’t directly affect you, just let it go, baby!

But, let’s be honest…

We know that ain’t happening anytime soon!

And these folks know all about it…

Check out what kind of neighbor the couple in this story are dealing with and you’ll understand in a hurry why they’re so frustrated.

Read on and see what you think!

Neighbor keeps reporting our fully legal home business over 10 minute wood deliveries.

“My husband and I run a small business building greenhouses – this is our full-time livelihood.

It’s very low impact – no customers coming to our house, no employees, no chaos. We pre-cut some materials (like 2x4s) in our garage and do all the actual builds on site at our clients’ homes. We load everything in our enclosed trailer..

It sounds like they have all their ducks in a row!

We are fully compliant with all county and state requirements, including taxes. The town has already investigated us and confirmed everything we’re doing is allowed.

Occasionally, we get small material deliveries. That’s it.

Last year, one of our neighbors reported us for “running a business out of our home” and for having deliveries. The town checked and said we’re fine.

Good grief!

Now it’s happened again.

This time the complaint was literally that we had a wood delivery – 50 2x4s on a small flatbed truck. The truck pulled up, beeped maybe twice while backing in, dropped the materials, and left. The entire thing took less than 10 minutes. No obstruction, no ongoing noise, nothing disruptive.

The town actually drove by right after the complaint and saw the delivery load, and told us that this is the exact kind of delivery they themselves would have sent to their own homes. In other words – completely normal.

She knows what’s going on here…

While they didn’t officially name the person, they repeatedly referred to the complainant as “she reported again,” and based on that and our street layout, we can pretty confidently narrow it down to one specific neighbor.

What makes this even more confusing is, she doesn’t even have a direct view of our house from where she usually is (her front patio is on the corner of the cul-de-sac).

She started a new remote job after 14 months of unemployment that same day and was outside on her laptop (where she always is). The only “disturbance” here would have been two quick backup beeps from a truck that was gone in minutes

So the timing just feels… odd.

This makes it even weirder!

And this is someone we’ve gone out of our way to help over the years:

• Helped unload an entire semi of decking
• Bought her food when she had COVID
• Helped her look for her “missing” dog (which wasn’t actually missing…)
• Made and posted flyers for her lost cat
• Helped lift an ~800 lb fountain piece
• Let her dump pea gravel in our driveway
• Took a perfectly good fridge off her hands so she didn’t have to pay to dispose of it
• Been friendly, had drinks with her, gave her eggs, etc.

So we’ve been genuinely good neighbors.

What’s the deal?

Meanwhile she’s apparently repeatedly reporting us over completely legal, already-approved activity – and now over something that lasted less than 10 minutes and was confirmed by the town to be totally normal.

At this point I’m less angry and more just baffled.

Has anyone dealt with a neighbor like this?

Do you just ignore it since the town has already cleared everything, or is there a better way to handle someone who keeps making complaints over non-issues?”

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Check out what readers had to say about this.

This person weighed in.

Another individual has an idea…

This Reddit user shared their thoughts.

Another reader had a lot to say.

And this individual spoke up.

Well, it sure doesn’t seem like this woman and her husband are doing anything wrong, does it?

It sure doesn’t!

But one one thing is certain: their neighbor needs to mind her own business!

This neighbor clearly has some kind of grudge against these folks…

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Living at home as an adult comes with trade-offs that most people accept without much argument. You save money, but in exchange, you help with the household and tolerate a level of parental input that wouldn’t exist if you lived on your own.

But there’s a line between respecting house rules and being treated like a teenager who needs permission to leave, and the 24-year-old woman in this story found herself in that exact dilemma.

She made plans to go out with a friend for a few hours, but her overprotective mom implored her to stay home.

So, figuring she was a grown adult who could make her own decisions, she went anyway.

But when she returned, she realized her mother wasn’t just going to let it go.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITAH for going out with my friend even tho my mom didn’t want me to?

I (24F) still live with my parents. I came from a very traditional middle class family.

Last week, I made plans to go out with a friend for a few hours.

But her mother was very against this idea from the start.

My mom wasn’t happy about it and wanted me to stay home, but I decided to go anyway because I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong.

I wasn’t sneaking around, getting into trouble, or doing anything illegal. I just wanted to spend time with a friend.

Her mother wouldn’t stop meddling with her plans, even sending others to do her bidding.

She even made my brother make a phone call to me asking me to come home ASAP, when it was only 7 PM.

When I came home, my mom was furious.

Now she’s facing punishment for her “wrongdoings.”

Since then, she’s barely speaking to me. It’s been about a week, and if she wants to tell me something, she’ll usually ask my brother to tell me instead of speaking to me directly.

From her perspective, I knowingly went against what she wanted.

But she sees things very differently.

From my perspective, I’m 24 years old, I went out for a few hours, came home safely, and don’t think that deserves a week-long silent treatment.

Some family members think I should have just listened to her because I live at home. I think adults should be able to have a social life without being punished for it.

So AITAH?

Overprotective much?

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What did Reddit think of all this?

This user suspects there’s important information being left out of the story.

This isn’t how you treat an adult.

24 years old is definitely old enough to make your own decisions.

If her mom is really that upsets, she needs to explain why.

A week of silent treatment for going out with a friend at 7 PM isn’t a proportional response to anything — let alone your grown daughter going out to do something totally innocent.

Her mother may think she’s just being protective, but in reality, her behavior is just a control tactic.

The “my house, my rules” argument has a ceiling, and telling an adult daughter she can’t see a friend for a few hours in the evening is well above it.

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Let’s be real, high school is a very polarising experience.

Some people love their high school years. Whether that’s because they have a great group of friends, enjoy learning, or have an exciting range of extra-curricular activities, for some these years are a genuine highlight of their lives.

For others though, high school is more tumultuous. It could be that they’re dealing with bullies or a difficult home life, having a hard time in their friendships or not coping so well with the academic workload – but the truth is, if high school isn’t for you, better things are to come.

The student in this story is making the most of their high school experience, even joining the student leadership team to try to make things better for their classmates too. But doing so is becoming increasingly complicated, thanks to their staff advisor being the least approachable and supportive team member they could have been allocated.

So on the last day of the year, this student leader decided to go low-key revenge mode.

Read on to find out what happened.

Finally I got back at Mrs Happy and screwed up her morning by miscounting

I am in my last year of high school. As a member of student leadership,

I also help with our school’s pizza days. In the mornings of Tuesdays I help sell pizza vouchers that students can redeem at lunch.

Mrs Happy (her actual surname) is the one who is in charge of our student leadership, and she is one of the least happy people on this planet.

Ironic given her name is “happy.”

Let’s see what Mrs Happy’s leadership looks like.

Consistently Mrs Happy is screaming and interrupting our meetings. It makes it very difficult to get ANYTHING done. In the mornings, since she is the teacher supervisor, she is with us to help and look over us.

However, throughout the entire year, for any mistake we made she would lecture us and rant. We count the cards out each morning and additionally mark them down on a piece of paper, it’s a safety precaution.

So if we counted thirty cards and have twelve left, but only have sixteen marked down, we know we are out two cards.

She would lose it over this, something our previous teacher supervisor did not do. A single slice does not affect how much they order since they have to order in full pizzas anyway, and leftover unsold pizza gets frozen for kids without lunches.

Then, Mrs Happy’s behaviour got even less happy.

Last Monday, Mrs Happy cut each student in our student leadership a slice of cake as a celebration to end the year.

I was first in line, and she gave me a piece of cake one fifth of the size of everyone else’s.

Of course, upset, I got back in line to ask for a bit more.

She originally said no, but then gave in and cuts me another slice. This slice was half the size of the first one.

Eventually, this student decided to get revenge.

So, after a year of torture with her this morning I intentionally miscounted the cards. Each and every pizza voucher was out by at least one card.

Of course, she lost it. She also, additionally, made other mistakes but blamed us for them! I know for a fact she made the mistake since I remembered how many cards I had removed at the beginning.

We were missing three cards in one category, and had an additional three in another. Seems obvious they should be swapped. But she very clearly said, “I didn’t make a mistake I was listening very carefully! How does this happen?”

She looked me dead in the eyes and I could see the rage building behind them. Glorious. I am so glad I never have to see her again.

When Dickens wrote his characters, he chose names befitting of their personality: Mr. Sowerberry was a sour man, while Mr. Gradgrind was a teacher who worked his students very hard.

On an even more obvious level, the names of Roger Hargreaves’ characters couldn’t be any more apt: they described their entire personalities, after all.

It’s clear that Mrs Happy does not subscribe to the sentiment that her name suggests – or else she behaves this way deliberately to spite her name.

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Let’s see what the Reddit community made of this.

This person approved of the revenge plot.

While others had endured similar teachers.

Meanwhile, this Redditor had a funny story to share.

Look, you don’t get to have a name like Mrs Happy and be obnoxious and rude, okay? Sure you don’t necessarily get to pick your name, but really? The jokes write themselves.

Teachers like this women genuinely suck. It seems like – with the complete lack of patience and kindness – like they don’t like their jobs… or other people… or the kids they teach. Whatever the problem is, Mrs Happy should not be taking it out on a bunch of kids – especially not the student leaders, who are voluntarily giving their time to try to do good for the school and their classmates.

They deserve a supportive advisor who will hype up their attempts and support them, rather than lecturing them and bringing them down. Whoever put Mrs Happy in charge of this did these kids a real disservice.

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Have you ever been to a store that had a parking spot that was even closer to the front door than the handicapped parking spots? Would you automatically assume that this must be a handicapped parking spot too, or would you assume that it’s a regular parking spot if it doesn’t have any signs or markings indicating that it’s a handicapped spot?

In this story, one man parked in a parking spot that was not a handicapped spot but was more convenient than the actual handicapped spots next to it. Later, another person wanted to park in his parking spot and assumed that it was a handicapped parking spot.

He refused to move his car because it was perfectly legal for him to park there, but now, he’s wondering if he should’ve moved his car anyway.

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for parking in a not-accessible spot?

I do not have any disabilities. This happened a few years ago, I was a mid-twenties guy with a medium build. (that is to say, I don’t look disabled in any way.) I drove a 12+ year old lower end Mercedes sedan.

My college town grocery store parking lot was pretty crowded on the day this happened, but while I was looking for a spot, I found that the best spot in the parking lot was open. This spot is literally right next to the entrance for the store.

In fact, it is closer to the door than the two accessible spots next to it, and based on the paint pattern, I’m guessing at one point this was either an accessible spot or an access aisle for the spots next to it.

I can’t think of any reason why he couldn’t park in this spot

It might have been changed because it didn’t meet the handicapped parking standards for my town.

When this happened, all handicapped stripes have been painted black, and the spot has no special markings denoting it as an accessible spot.

It simply was not a handicapped accessible spot.

I parked in this spot.

It seems like his shopping trip started out okay.

It was early spring, and this store sells plants to put in your garden outside this time of year– so I meandered through this area right next to my car for a couple minutes. I then went back to my car, grabbed my reusable shopping bags out of the trunk, and began to head inside.

A man in a large white van had stopped and put his blinker on for my spot, and I waived to signal that I wasn’t leaving. I then went inside.

I believe this man was the husband of the woman who approached me later.

I don’t remember seeing anything on the van denoting handicapped access, but I am confidant the van was marked in some way.

This woman had been trying to track him down.

About 10-15 minutes later inside I am standing at the butcher counter when a 50-60ish year old lady comes up to me with a picture of my car on her phone. These aren’t her exact words, but the gist of what she was asking:

Her: “I’ve been trying to find you–this is your car, right?”

Me: “yes– uh oh– what happened?” I asked, slightly panicked that something happened to my car.

Her: “My husband has [disability] and can’t join me in the store because you took the last handicapped spot. I didn’t see a tag on your car, did you leave it at home?”

He explained the situation.

Me: I just started stammering “Uh… but… I…”

Her: Continues talking about the impact this has had on her and her husband.

Me: (Finally) “It’s not a handicapped spot.”

Her: “It’s not?”

He’s not sure if he handled this situation correctly.

Me: “No. There’s no sign, there’s no ground marking– the other two spots next to it are handicapped spots, but this one is just a regular spot.”

She then left, and I had a flood of adrenaline.

In retrospect days later, I wished I had offered to move my car, or had told her that if she/her husband had asked me to when I was parking, I could have moved.

Was I a jerk for taking this spot, and was I a jerk for not quickly offering to move so her husband could park and come shop with her?

He could’ve moved his car to be nice, but it’s a little much that she took a picture of his car and walked around the store just to ask him to move it.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person thinks the woman was just confused.

Another person reassures him that he handled the situation well.

This person thinks the store messed up.

Nobody thinks he needed to move his car.

What I find weird is that she took a picture of his car and walked through the store looking for him. That’s a little much even if he had parked in a handicapped spot when he wasn’t supposed to.

It seems that she realized she made a mistake though and didn’t get upset about it. He didn’t do anything wrong. All he did was explain the situation.

If she really wants to park in that spot, she can wait until he’s done shopping.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man whose celebratory post-grad school vacation is being ruined by his family’s insistence he’s being lazy.

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Small family issues can sometimes affect big life moments.

This woman has been having problems with her soon-to-be sister-in-law, who recently moved in with her and her partner. She tries to be patient and understanding because her SIL has cognitive disabilities. But when her SIL asked to be part of her wedding, she had to be honest and tell her no.

This is quite an emotional family situation where OP had to choose between personal peace and family expectations. Indeed, wedding planning can really be stressful. Read the full story below.

AITA for not giving my future SIL a “special role” in my wedding?

I (28F) have been having issues with my soon to be SIL (23F).

She recently moved in with me and my partner (26M) due to a bad living situation.

She has some cognitive disabilities, and I used to be a disability support worker.

So I do understand her and try to be patient.

This woman tried to ask her sister-in-law to back off on the wedding preparations.

Recently, our family had a vow renewal for my MIL and step-FIL.

My SIL kept trying to make it about herself, demanding certain photos and insisting she needed special roles.

Myself, MIL and the MOH all spoke to her about backing off, but it didn’t really change anything.

MIL and SIL are rebuilding their relationship. So when I bring things up, MIL brushes it off with “she doesn’t understand” or “she doesn’t mean it.”

I get that, but it feels like everyone else just has to deal with it.

Her SIL was expecting that she would have a special role.

Now, my partner and I are getting married in 4 months. I’ve already been overwhelmed.

I actually wanted to just go to the courthouse, but my partner said I deserve a proper day.

Today, I was making bouquets and my SIL asked which one was hers.

I said none, because she isn’t a bridesmaid.

She said she “needs a special job,” and when I said she didn’t, she replied, “Well, I’m special, too. He’s my brother.”

She feels bad for her SIL, but she wants her wedding to be about her, not anyone else.

My partner supports me, but after this, I had a full emotional breakdown to a family friend, which is not like me at all.

I feel like I’m not allowed to be important in my own wedding.

I understand she struggles, but I don’t want to spend my wedding managing her expectations.

I just want one day where I get to feel special. AITA?

Honestly, OP’s feelings are understandable given how overwhelming wedding planning already is. After all, every bride deserves to feel relaxed and special on her big day. Agreeing to give her SIL a special role might make the situation worse.

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Let’s see how other online users reacted on Reddit.

This user shares some advice.

Here’s another thought.

A valid point.

Another person chimes in.

And lastly, plain and simple.

Protecting your own peace is also part of preparing for marriage.

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Have you ever started at a new job, read the employee handbook or handover documents from your predecessor and thought “Weird. Why do they do things like that?”

Over time, it’s natural that you will have tweaked your work to do it your way – particularly if you came in and immediately knew of a better way of doing things. That’s completely normal, since fresh pairs of eyes mean fresh input, and if you’re an expert in your field – or have a wealth of previous experience – your way of doing things will likely enhance what your predecessor did.

Most workplaces embrace this, and accept that new people bring change, and that’s almost always a good thing. However, other places are more resistant and set in their ways. Perhaps they like the way things were done before, or lack the ability to see how things would change for the better. And when you know that things aren’t being done in the best way at all, it can be incredibly frustrating.

That’s exactly the position that the guy in this story was put into when his manager insisted that his team go back to the official way of doing things, instead of following a much more efficient and effective method that they’d developed themselves over time. But when they returned to protocol, the difference was plain to see.

Read on to find out what happened here.

Manager math: three times three isn’t nine

One of my early jobs was in the screen department of a CRT factory.

Here, various chemical mixes were dribbled, sprayed or poured into a screen (the front four inches of a glass picture tube) sloshed, spun or otherwise spread, then the excess was dumped or spun out and collected to be reclaimed, adjusted and reused for the next batch.

For one chemical, the official process was to top it off with new, mix it for twenty minutes, then if needed adjust based on the viscosity measurement you just took.

After every adjustment, another twenty minutes of mixing before measuring again. This needed to be done before the previous batch ran out.

But the employees realised that there were better ways of doing this.

We quickly learned that extra water was always needed, and you could fairly easily predict the size of the adjustment before measuring anything based on the pencil and paper graph of previous test results.

Our procedure became top off, add about three litres of water depending on the graph results from previous batches, mix, test and send. This resulted in a mix that was near center spec every time.

That was until an important manager with a degree watched me do a mix, and started ranting “You didn’t measure, you’re adding too much water, you should never add water unless the mix was out of spec, there’s too much water, you’re going to ruin the mix, only add water when it’s out of spec, follow the procedure.”

I asked if he was really asking me to add nine litres of water every third tank instead of three litres every tank, he confirmed. I told him that this increased the risk of running dry and causing a batch of defects, he said “I’ll take that risk, but you better not sandbag”.

Read on to find out what happened next.

It turns out that the people who run the process can make it run fine either thick or thin, but not when it changes from thick to thin every hour or two then ramps back to thick.

It also turns out that if something goes even slightly wrong on the previous shift they may not leave you forty minutes of mix time and ten minutes of measurement time before the previous tank goes dry.

The good news was that we were able to get a version of the smart way adopted as official.

We were then allowed to control the process using statistics, just like we were taught in our mandatory Statistical Process Control training.

Sometimes you have to accept that the workers know the processes better than those who aren’t doing them every day.

And in this case, it meant that the staff doing the mixing were well aware of how things worked best, and that wasn’t by the book.

Sure the manager would likely come under fire if things went wrong, but that’s more reason for him to be pushing for the changes to protocol to actually make things better.

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Let’s see what folks on Reddit made of this.

This person agreed that it’s common for employees to not do things ‘by the book’.

While others gave examples that showed the workers were doing things the smart way.

Meanwhile, this Redditor had examples of workers making things better using their own initiative.

The very fact that protocols have now been amended shows quite clearly just how much better the workers’ way of mixing was. And the fact that the manager was so insistent on them doing things by the book – while technically correct, and avoiding him getting into trouble – is just another example of managers who don’t understand their employees’ jobs, but try to dictate the way they do things anyway.

There would be nothing wrong with him saying ‘okay guys, I need you to do it the way protocol states otherwise I’ll get into trouble, but I’ll push to get protocol changed to your way’. But of course, that would require him actually having considered his workers’ method, rather than just insisting they do it his way. Because the components (nine litres of water) haven’t changed. All that has changed is the order of it being added to the mix – with the official way making it much worse overall.

It pays to listen to your workers – in this case, quite literally.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman whose HR department advised her to quit if she was that unhappy, so she did and found herself in a role reversal years later.

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Apartment living is certainly a divisive situation. Some people love it – after all, apartments that are built and furnished to a high standard – particularly if they have impressive city or coastal views – can feel like the height of luxury. It’s no coincidence that F1 stars live in fancy apartments in Monaco, a place where opulent apartments are hot property.

Even if your apartment is more basic, in cities they can feel like a very convenient way of living where you can be in the middle of everything, in a self-contained space that is yours to live your life in.

However, there are downsides to everything, and the neighbours you have as an apartment dweller can certainly be one of those downsides. Because if your neighbours are loud – anything from yelling to loud music, slamming doors or constant construction noise – you bet you will be able to hear it all over your home. And that can turn your perfect apartment into a nightmare.

That’s exactly the situation the folk in this story are dealing with. And regardless of what they try, nothing seems to resolve the issue.

Read on to find out more.

How do you deal with nightmare upstairs neighbours when absolutely nothing works anymore?

I need some advice because I’m reaching a breaking point.

The people living in the apartment above me are extremely disruptive, and living here has become unbearable for a long time now.

They make excessive noise at all hours of the day and night, drag furniture around constantly, stomp on the floor, play loud music, shout, argue, and regularly use offensive language.

They also invite large groups of people over, leave items in shared areas, ignore quiet hours, create disturbances, and have a very disrespectful and confrontational attitude toward other residents.

Let’s see how this person has tried to deal with the issue.

Trying to talk to them politely has not worked at all. We’ve had multiple respectful conversations, but nothing changed.

The property owner has already given them ultimatums and formal warnings, but that also had no effect. Written complaints have been submitted, yet the situation continues and, in some ways, has gotten worse.

Moving is not an option.

To be honest, I’m looking for ways to scare them away.

It really sucks for folk in this position.

To be trying to live your life and have it constantly disturbed by noisy neighbours is no fun at all.

And the fact that they know about the issue and yet it continues? Disgraceful.

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Let’s see what the Reddit community had to say about this.

This person, who was going through a similar thing, felt truly sorry for them.

While others had plenty of ideas for how to encourage the neighbours to move.

Meanwhile, this Redditor had a more practical suggestion.

No one should be put in a position where they are unable to relax in their own home. After all, without sufficient time for relaxation, the body cannot fully restore itself, and you end up with your mental and physical health on the line. Of course, perpetually disruptive neighbours don’t care about that – not at all. Because when you only care about yourself, other people’s health and welfare means nothing.

It sucks that the property owner’s action isn’t even having any effect. It seems like a concerted effort from fellow neighbours, perhaps plenty of noise complaints to the police, and further attempts from the property owner are all needed if everyone’s peace and quiet is to be restored. Whether that means pressing charges or evicting them, this can’t go on. Because there is only so long that folk can endure this – though they shouldn’t be having to endure it at all.

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When you work at one place for some time, you become part of that community. If there are a lot of like-minded folks working there, that can be a great thing – after all, you have a lot of shared experiences in work, and in many cases you spend as much time with your colleagues as you do your own family. So if your vibe fits that of your colleagues, you might have a great time at all work events – even the boring ones.

But if your colleagues have very different priorities, it can be hard to fit in, to enjoy their company at functions and events outside of the office, and the constant barrage of things to celebrate might become a bit overbearing. This is why most companies like to keep things low-key, especially office-sanctioned events, meaning that they can be inclusive and non-stressful, for everyone.

So when the government worker in this story heard that her colleague was going to plan cakes for her colleagues’ birthday, she thought nothing much of it. After all, how disruptive can a slice of cake be? But when she learned of the planned cakes – and was billed for half of their cost – she started thinking about things very differently.

Read on to find out what happened here.

Obligatory birthday contributions are making me call in sick tomorrow

I am a supervisor/manager at a government job in the USA (California).

We do not have a company credit card. Anything we do in-office, we have to spend our own personal funds on. For example, if the fridge in our office goes out, we have to split the costs amongst employees to buy a new one.

The reason I bring this up is relevant to my story (and the reason we have to pay for these things on our own is because the state I work for does not allow taxpayer dollars to be used towards them).

For context, we are also in the office two days a week for team building, three working from home.

Let’s see how this workplace drama really started.

My coworker “Barbara” is also a supervisor/manager. We both manage a team of two each. Above us, we have two managers, and then we also have three coworkers who work in our office suite, for a total of eleven people.

Barbara is the team cheerleader and events logistics person. If there’s a reason to celebrate, Barbara has the decorations, the planning, and everything else down. Barbara recently asked everyone for their birthdays and their favorite type of birthday cake.

Recently, we had two birthdays, one for team member A (my direct report) and team member B (one of her direct reports). She informed me on Teams that Team Member A’s favourite cake is red velvet cake and that she already pre-ordered it at Whole Foods two weeks prior… and she also included a cake for Team Member B, with the total being $120.00. She suggested that I chip in half.

I let her know that I was not comfortable contributing $60 of my salary to buy a cake, and to leave it to me to buy my employee some cupcakes ($18 for luxury cupcakes from Sam’s Club, highly recommend if you have one in your neighbourhood). She replied, “Well I already ordered it…” and I let her be.

Read on to find out how things went down on the person’s birthday.

The day of the office celebration, she brought both cakes in and I did not contribute because I felt like it was coercive.

The following week (last week), she bought yet another cake from Whole Foods for one of her direct report’s in-office baby shower. On top of that, she had baby shower games and gift card prizes for the participants. To her credit, she did not ask me to contribute to this celebration.

And here we are, tomorrow is another in-office Tuesday, and this time we are supposed to celebrate THREE birthdays for the month of June: one birthday of my direct-report employee, plus Barbara’s, and also my direct manager (who also is Barbara’s boss).

Again, I received a message today from Barbara on Teams asking if I had bought my employee an ice cream cake, since that is his favorite. Since his birthday is not until next week, I did not think of that (and I also don’t have access to the list of everyone’s favorite cake).

Read on to find out what happened with the ice cream cake.

Needless to say, I let her know that if we are going to be celebrating his birthday tomorrow, I can stop by a store and pick up a treat (some donuts, cupcakes, or other sweets), but no, she insists it must be ice cream cake.

After lunch, I got a Teams message letting me know she went to Baskin Robbins and picked up a $30 ice cream cake and some cookies, and that “should be enough…”

In addition, she is getting a cake for herself and for my boss.

The implication is real: contribute.

Let’s see how she’s feeling about this.

I feel sick to my stomach and coerced to give up $30 here, $60 there, and $90 over here. Considering we are a team of eleven, contributing $30 every time someone has a birthday would be about $300 a year out of my own pocket.

I became a manager to lead and earn more money, not to spend it on what I consider to be relatively expensive office treats for people that are just colleagues.

I am considering calling in sick tomorrow so I can avoid the birthday celebration altogether and save myself the guilt and pressure of contributing to what I consider to be over the top, as far as office birthdays is concerned. I am also concerned that by not contributing, I am putting a target on my back as a “non-team player” in the very likelihood a promotional opportunity comes up, which is unfortunate.

Please don’t be a Barbara.

It really sucks that this woman is being put in such a difficult position by her colleague.

Barbara is making a whole lot of assumptions about what her colleague can afford, and that really isn’t right.

It’s important she takes a stand with this, and who could blame her for calling in sick?

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Let’s see what the Reddit community made of this.

This person thought Barbara’s plan was crazy.

While others offered much more appropriate solutions.

Meanwhile, this Redditor had experiences with a much more preferable system.

Sure, many people enjoy a slice of cake, but the sheer amount of cake that Barbara is ordering is bordering on unhinged. There are eleven people in this team. Eleven. And some months they’re having three cakes at one party, because there are three birthdays that month. That means eleven people having to consume three cakes between them. Some people would be revelling in that, but others? That’s heartburn central.

But that’s without even mentioning the financial pressure that Barbara is putting on her colleague. There’s a different between asking people to throw in some change and requesting that a colleague pay hundreds of dollars every year to subsidise this elaborate birthday cake habit. One is relatively normal, if a little annoying at times. The other is completely unreasonable.

Of course this woman doesn’t want to rock the boat or not be seen as a team player, but in reality, she should have someone backing her up here. There’s no way she should be made to do this.

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Have you ever lived in a neighborhood that was dominated by one busybody who had to be in everyone’s business and was generally a huge annoyance?

Yes…that’s not fun…

Is that an understatement, or what?!?!

Because it can be a total nightmare!

And this woman knows all about it…

Take a look at what she had to say about a neighbor who is WAY out of line.

Narcissist Karen that will go to any extreme.

“We own and are surrounded by farms with some small tracts of houses scattered around us.

Our neighbors kids are little jerks and the mother is toxic as they come at home.

These children are really something else…

Their kids raised hell in our neighborhood for a while. Chasing a horse several times on other peoples’ property, throwing rocks at neighbors’ dogs in their fenced yard, driving through our fence, throwing rocks at my kid almost hitting my wires car.

Kids got in trouble once in their life and 3 days later started a rumor at school that spiraled till they weren’t in trouble. We sort it out and they want to be friends only to start more trouble. I have tactfully pointed out her flawed logic and stood up to her. On June 6 she attacked us out of nowhere on her neighborhood chat group.

We can’t even be invisible and be left alone.

She finally had enough of this nonsense.

I told her why she acts the way she does and tore her story apart on the chat group. She was not happy with that and blocked the road. Apparently the neighborhood has banded behind me and they silently “fear her” from what I keep hearing from everyone.

I put up a funny sign as a way to get back at her. She’s so insecure it’s not hard. This is the only thing I have ever done to them because we have anxiety from their toxic behavior.

It’s pretty obvious who causes the trouble around these parts.

We keep to ourselves down here. Our whole neighborhood is the same. We may hang with our neighbors once a month to every 6 weeks. This lady thrives on social status and connections.

This makes her feel rejected so she must protect her insecurities. No one wants to talk to her cause she is two faced and turns on you when she feels like she being accused of something, so everyone takes the stuff and avoids saying anything to her to keep the peace.

We installed cameras that were a huge expense due to the distance we had to run them from the house because it’s gotten to be too much harassment from their boys.

She decided to block access to 4 farms and the obstruction was on someone else’s farmland. We pulled deeds and maps to show that she in fact has the legal easement on her property.

It never ends with these people!

They concreted the road and gated it off when they moved in and made their neighbor family member allow passage on her land. They are above rules. We sent her a demand letter to allow passage or remove the posts immediately. She tells us all to get lost and get a lawyer.

Well a couple hours later she calls the sheriffs department and says I’m prowling around outside her property staring at them. I was walking my dog on my own driveway and there is another property between us and the KAREN.

Thank god for cameras cause she tried to frame me in retaliation. Unfortunately they won’t charge her for first time offense due to financial resources with the county. I have to keep worrying she’s gonna frame me or get an order of protection on fabricated stories. They are so vindictive.

She figured out the easement was on her luxury property where they live and that we legally have right to it. So she does a 180 removes the posts on the neighbor where everyone has been having to get access.

Then texts everyone on group saying we see the easement BUT we removed the posts. We just didn’t want our concrete to get damaged. They paved part of the road to keep gravel off their driveway. She is only saying that now because she knows the gates will have to come down and open her home up to through traffic.

She had to throw my name in there saying I’m not going to get into what’s going on with so and so, it’s all so & so, you don’t know about him, then saying she had to get the cops down here because of me ”walking my dog”….

She’s totally unhinged!

Seriously lady? They saw my video evidence I was nowhere near your place!

I’m considering putting up a sign that I had made that states. YOU CALLED SAYING YOU NEEDED DISPATCH, BUT AN INVESTIGATION HAS DETERMINED THAT WAS A LIE.

Taking her driveway is what the land owners have decided to do. She’s been a constant problem with this neighborhood and we are talking her to court to get an injunction to take down her gates. This is bittersweet victory. I know I have more drama on the horizon with her.

Is she a narcissist?

What should I do with this situation to get her to stay the hell away from us?”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.

Reddit users spoke up.

This person offered some advice.

Another individual didn’t hold back.

And this Reddit user weighed in.

Woof!

This woman’s neighbor sounds like a total nightmare!

You gotta feel for folks in this situation…it sounds like there’s no escape.

Some people just LOVE to cause drama.

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This story, my friends, is why so many workers are totally fed up with work culture in America.

Most employees are expected to keep their mouths shut and be appreciative for having a job.

And even when things go south, like they did in the story you’re going to read, employers still don’t budge and offer any humanity to their workers.

It’s not good, folks…

In today’s story, a worker explained why they’re pretty upset with their company after their benefits were slashed.

Take a look at what they had to say.

My employer just told us “you should be grateful to have a job” after cutting our benefits. Anyone else dealt with this?

“Our company just announced they’re eliminating paid sick days and reducing health insurance coverage starting next month.

That old line…

When a few of us pushed back in the all hands on deck meeting, the HR director literally said we should be grateful to have stable employment in this economy and that the company is making tough sacrifices to keep us all on board.

I’ve been here four years. Never called out sick unnecessarily, I stay late when needed, I genuinely try to do good work. And somehow the response to legitimate concerns about losing benefits we were promised is just gratitude-shaming us into silence.

This place sounds pretty screwed up.

The worst part is some of my coworkers nodded along like that was a reasonable answer. I think a lot of people have been so conditioned to feel lucky for having any job at all that they stop questioning whether the job is actually treating them fairly.

Has anyone else gotten this kind of response when raising workplace concerns?

How did you handle it?

Did pushing back ever actually change anything, or did you just end up updating your resume and moving on?

Genuinely curious how others have navigated this because right now I’m feeling pretty demoralized and unsure what the right move is.”

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a person who spent nearly 3 decades climbing the ladder at work only to be fired in a meeting that lasted less than a minute.

Reddit users spoke up.

This person weighed in.

Another reader shared their thoughts.

This individual spoke up.

And this person didn’t hold back.

This is not the way to handle this kind of situation, folks!

Bosses and managers, take note: your employees will eventually get fed up and bail on you.

No boss should ever make their employees feel this way…

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman whose HR department advised her to quit if she was that unhappy, so she did and found herself in a role reversal years later.

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