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One of adulthood’s weirdest social rules is trying to figure out which relationships survive a breakup—and which ones are apparently supposed to disappear with it.

This man became friends with his sister-in-law’s boyfriend while they were dating, and unlike the relationship itself, the friendship never really ended. More than a year after the breakup, the two still get along well, occasionally keep in touch, and recently found themselves sharing a mutual interest in golf. So when the ex invited him out for a round, OP’s first reaction was basically, “Sure, why not?”

His wife, however, sees things differently. Even though her sister has been in a serious relationship for quite some time, she worries that maintaining a friendship with the ex could be perceived as disloyal or insensitive. OP doesn’t want to create unnecessary family tension, but he also doesn’t think friendships should automatically expire because someone else’s relationship did.

Now he’s wondering if accepting the invitation would be harmless—or a family-sized headache waiting to happen.

WIBTAH if I go play golf with my sister-in-laws ex boyfriend?

My sister-in-law broke up with her ex-boyfriend about a year and a half ago. Since then, she has moved on and is now in a serious, committed relationship with someone else.

During the time they were dating, her ex and I became pretty good friends. Over the past year and a half, we’ve stayed on good terms.

Recently, he started getting into golf, and because he knows I play, he invited me to join him for a round.

Uh oh…

I didn’t think much of it because, from my perspective, he’s a friend and my sister-in-law has clearly moved on.

However, my wife thinks it might not be a good idea.

She feels her sister could see it as a betrayal and be upset that I’m spending time with her ex.

Most likely…

I don’t want to cause unnecessary drama or hurt anyone’s feelings.

But I also don’t feel like I should have to end a friendship because of a relationship that ended a long time ago.

AITA if I go play golf with my sister-in-law’s ex-boyfriend?

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Reddit largely landed on NTA, though many commenters added a healthy dose of “proceed with caution.” The biggest factor for most people was timing. A year and a half has passed, the sister-in-law is in a committed new relationship, and there’s no indication the breakup is still an active emotional wound. Under those circumstances, many felt it’s reasonable for OP to maintain a friendship that developed independently of the romantic relationship.

That said, commenters also noted that family dynamics rarely operate on pure logic. Even if OP isn’t doing anything wrong, some people can still feel hurt or blindsided by seeing family members remain close with an ex. Several suggested that a quick conversation with the sister-in-law could prevent misunderstandings before they happen.

The overall consensus was that friendship isn’t betrayal—but avoiding an awkward surprise is usually worth a few minutes of communication.

This person says it’s only rude if the breakup was messy (but it sounds like it wasn’t).

This person says it’s all totally fine.

And this person says this is ridiculous to even think about.

Sounds like the golf game probably isn’t the problem, but the family group chat afterward might be.

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Public spaces often rely on basic courtesy and awareness.

The following story is about a woman who was at a movie theater looking after the seat beside her for her partner.

Suddenly, another moviegoer quickly sat beside her and took his partner’s seat despite it being clearly occupied.

Even after being told the seat was taken and seeing a coat on it, the stranger refused to move.

The situation escalated until the theater staff had to step in to resolve the issue.

Let’s take a closer look!

Guy tries taking my significant others seat at theater though my significant others coat was on the seat which is the universal way to say seat is occupied

On Saturday, myself, my significant other, and our kids went to see The Mandalorian and Grogu.

My significant other left their coat on the seat they picked.

They told me that with time before the trailers began, they were going to the restroom.

Within two minutes, a guy came walking over and sat next to me.

This woman asked the stranger to move.

I said, “Excuse me, that seat is spoken for.”

The person didn’t get up. I again asked them to move.

I said they were sitting on my significant other’s coat.

They still wouldn’t budge. I texted my significant other.

I told them to bring an usher because someone was trying to take their seat.

Her partner returned with an usher to help them redirect the stranger.

They were ignoring me when I said the seat was already taken.

This was at a theater where there is no assigned seating.

Before long, my significant other returned with an usher.

Only when the usher got the guy’s attention did the guy stand up.

He removed his coat that he had put down in the seat and saw my significant other’s coat.

He then wondered how the guy missed the reserved seat in her partner’s coat.

The guy said he was not moving. It took an additional two ushers to help the guy leave.

Once he got up, the ushers helped find him a different seat.

How the guy missed seeing the coat, I have no clue.

The lights were not yet dimmed for the trailers.

My thought was that they just saw a seat with nobody and thought they were entitled to it.

It sounds like it’s a serious stubbornness over a simple seat.

It’s wild that it took multiple ushers just to fix something so obvious.

Some people can really be entitled and think unwritten rules don’t apply to them.

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Let’s check out the comments of other people on this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a valid assumption.

Another honest opinion here.

That’s psychopathic behavior, says this one.

Finally, this user narrates a personal experience.

A coat on a seat is definitely an acceptable rule for reserving a space.

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Most people would agree that if your dog gets loose and bites someone badly enough to need stitches, the bare minimum response is to take responsibility and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

You’d secure your yard, maybe apologize profusely, and count yourself lucky the other person didn’t file a formal complaint.

But in this story, the dog owner who was injured faced ridiculous demands from the neighbor who couldn’t manage to keep her dog on a leash. Now, he’s expected to personally text the neighbor every time he plans to leave the house.

This neighbor clearly doesn’t understand how accountability works — and Reddit has some strong opinions on that.

Keep reading for the full story!

AITAH for not calling my neighbor before I walk my dogs?

So I, 34M, walk my dogs every morning around 6.

Every morning about a year ago when I was walking my dogs, my neighbor’s dog got out their yard.

That’s when chaos struck.

My German Shepherd and her dog, I believe is a bully mix, started getting into it, and so I tried separating them. I didn’t know what to do at the time.

So when I was trying, her dog bit my thumb and I had to go get stitches.

This dog owner decided to be kinder than his neighbor deserved and not make a fuss.

I didn’t file any complaints or anything cuz I figured it was an accident.

But the neighbor continues to be the worst.

So roll into a couple months ago. I’m walking the dogs and she stops me and she yells, not like mad yelling but just loud. She was in her yard, I’m in the middle of the street.

And she goes, “I need to talk to you, we need to work out a time when you’re walking.”

But this dog owner thinks this is blowing things way out of proportion.

In my head I’m like, I take 5 seconds to cross your house.

Mind you, she’s not out every morning either, or at least at the times I go to walk.

This is a higher level of involvement than he ever signed up for.

But I feel like I shouldn’t have to text her, plus I don’t want her to have my number.

The other day she yelled, “You’re supposed to text me,” but I left my house at like 5:40 that day and I yelled, “I left early.”

AITA for not calling?

What fantasy world is this neighbor living in?

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Redditors chime in with their thoughts.

Considering her track record, it’s pretty rich for this neighbor to be critiquing anyone else’s behavior.

This neighbor should really be more focused on her own dog.

It’s hard to imagine a more entitled neighbor.

This user thinks a report should have been made a long time ago.

Walking past someone’s house on a public sidewalk at dawn shouldn’t require a permission slip, but here we are.

This neighbor had one job after her dog bit someone: make sure it couldn’t happen again. Fix the fence, reinforce the gate, do whatever it takes to keep her animal contained.

Instead, she outsourced her problem to the guy who already took stitches to the thumb without complaint.

Demanding he text her before every walk is peak “your emergency is not my responsibility” energy, except somehow she’s got it backward.

He’s not the liability here. He’s just a guy walking his dogs.

If she wants to prevent another incident, the answer is on her side of the property line, not his.

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Traveling brings a lot of good, and sometimes awkward, surprises.

In this story, a man was on a river cruise who loved getting coffee in the morning from the “Chef’s Table” dining room.

One morning, a stranger assumed he worked there even though he was wearing casual clothes.

The situation became awkward when the woman didn’t seem to believe his response.

Read the full story below to find out more.

I need ice

I was just on a river cruise in the Netherlands and Belgium.

At the back of the ship, there is a small dining room.

It is referred to as the Chef’s Table. It has a tasting menu each night.

My cabin happened to be just two doors forward from this dining room.

This man would go to the dining room in the morning and get himself and his wife some coffee.

Each morning, I would get up and go to that room.

I would use the automatic coffee machine to make cappuccinos for my wife and me.

This was allowed. There is also a more visible machine in the lounge area.

I think I may have been the only person aware this machine exists.

I never saw anyone else there except for…

Another passenger approached him and asked for ice.

On about day five, I was making the coffee drinks as usual.

I was wearing a T-shirt and lounge pants. I still had bed head.

Next thing I knew, a woman walked in carrying a bucket.

She took one look at me and said, “I need ice.”.

I looked up and said, “I don’t work here.”

Instead, he pointed her to where the ice was.

I am not sure she believed me. She gave me a side eye.

It was like I was shirking my duties or something.

Being a polite person, I told her where the ice machine was located.

Hopefully, she did not reduce her tip at the end of the cruise due to me not helping her.

Okay, that was such a random mix-up, especially with the bed head and lounge clothes.

I wonder why the other passenger didn’t take those as a clue. Lol.

It’s funny how just being in the wrong place can make people assume things.

Oh well, at least he still helped her out even after the awkward moment.

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Let’s read the responses of other people to this story.

Lol. Short but true!

This person chimes in.

This one has a few questions.

Here’s a straightforward response.

And finally, this user makes a quick suggestion.

Apparently, if you stand near a coffee machine long enough, you might get promoted to staff.

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Weddings have a funny way of turning theoretical traditions into very real invoices.

This mom says she and her husband have always lived within their means. They raised children from previous marriages, now have two younger kids together, and built a life that prioritizes family over luxury. No extravagant spending, no endless splurges, just a budget that works for their household.

Now, their adult daughter is getting married, which should be a purely exciting milestone. The problem is that the wedding is shaping up to be a fairly traditional and expensive affair, complete with the expectation that the bride’s family will help foot a significant portion of the bill. In this case, that apparently means OP and her husband are expected to cover half.

The issue isn’t that they don’t love their daughter or want to support the marriage. It’s that they genuinely don’t have the kind of money being discussed without draining savings they still need for their own future…and for the two children they’re still raising at home.

AITA for not wanting to spend $$$ we do not have on my stepdaughter’s wedding?

My husband I have “his, her, theirs” – we each have an adult child from our first marriages (to different people obv), and we have two littles together.

Neither one of us centers our lives around money. I’d say that we live somewhat comfortably – we’ve always had a modest budget.

Our decision to have our last two kids took this into consideration – that’s part of why we have a modest budget. Because kids aren’t cheap

Fair.

We raised our first two into successful young adults, so we know the sacrifices involved in raising kids. I work p/t so I’m the go-to parent for sick days, school events, appointments, etc. His job carries the family on his health insurance. It works out well.

His ex and her husband have always been pretty financially well off. He always paid a lot of child support monthly – they didn’t go to court. He just did it because he didn’t want to be a sh*t parent. Basic human decency.

My now-adult bonus child was always asking her dad (my husband) for money for basic stuff like school textbooks, help with her car, etc. I don’t think she understood that after he (we) paid her mom child support, we didn’t have much money left outside of that.

Oooh, that’s tough.

Occasionally it caused tension between us because my husband always wanted to give her money while her mom and step dad were/are pretty well off.

Now bonus is engaged!!!! Woooo!!!! We are so excited, and her partner is absolutely amazing. We are over the moon!!!

Here’s the catch.

There’s a catch! Uh oh.

There is the expectation that the wedding is going the “traditional” route where the bride’s family is expected to cover the majority of the wedding expenses. They want a pretty traditional, fancy wedding, too. And we are expected to pay for half.

This idea of spending so much money on a wedding has always been completely absurd to me.

For my own first marriage, I did a nature theme, married outside, had a potluck, etc. It wasn’t pricy at all. My husband feels the same way in terms of how silly expensive weddings are.

Agreeing is good.

We are nature people, in general. We grow a lot of our own food, try to support local businesses, etc, and just aren’t really materialistic in any sense of the word. I don’t get nails done, I don’t do make up, get regular haircuts, etc. And essentially on one salary, we have to maintain a reasonable budget because we have two littles in the house, too.

Honestly, we barely have *any* money to contribute.

AITA for not wanting to throw the little bit of savings we *have* managed to build up at this wedding?

Reddit overwhelmingly leaned NTA, with many commenters pointing out that there’s a huge difference between being unwilling to help and simply being unable to afford something. A lot of people felt the expectation itself was unreasonable if everyone involved already knew the family’s financial situation.

Many also noted that traditional wedding customs only really work when the people expected to pay actually have the resources to do so. Commenters repeatedly stressed that nobody is entitled to a wedding someone else can’t comfortably afford, no matter how much they may want one. Several people suggested that the couple should decide what amount, if any, they can contribute without jeopardizing their own financial stability and offer that number clearly and without guilt.

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The overall consensus was that parents should not be expected to sacrifice emergency savings, retirement plans, or the wellbeing of younger children to finance a celebration. A wedding lasts a day. Financial stress can last years.

This person says NTA at all.

This person says this is simply not a a decision they can make.

And this person says NTA, unless they overstep.

If the wedding budget requires raiding the college fund and the emergency fund, it might not be your budget.

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Waiting in line is never fun, but it’s something that we all have to do from time to time.

What would you do if you were in line at the butcher counter, and the person whose turn it was couldn’t make up their mind on what they wanted?

That is what happened in this story, so after a long time, this woman made a comment about how long it was taking, and the slow customer turned around and called her rude and immature.

While I certainly agree that her comments were a bit immature, they were also funny and well-deserved. Read through the full story and see what you think.

AITA for being impatient with a woman at the butcher counter?

This afternoon I went up to the butcher counter at a local supermarket.

If you’re not ready to order, you should let other people go ahead of you.

In line ahead of me a mother and her teenage daughter couldn’t make up their minds about sausages, of which there were a dozen to choose from.

“Are those good? I heard sweet Molinari are good. (By they way, they are.) What about those?”

How can a simple decision like this take so long?

The one counter person was doing her best to answer and be helpful. I’m standing by taking it all in, when a woman and her husband walk up.

The mother and her daughter continue to discuss sausage options, especially what the daughter likes and doesn’t like. She can’t make up her mind.

Just when you thought they were ready.

The mother finally decides on 4 sweet Sicilian sausages. They are weighed, and come up short of the amount she wants. She wants another sweet, but is told those are the last 4.

This sets off another lengthy discussion between mother and daughter. “Will a spicy one be all right?” Daughter wrinkles her nose. Mother points to the case and says “Those look like sweet ones.” She’s told they’re not. “But they look like it.” More discussion.

Really, she wants the skins taken off, now?

The husband rolls his eyes and walks away. The woman who came up behind me and I exchange a look.

Mother finally decides on the 4 sweet sausage and that’s it. The counter person is about to wrap them up and she says “Can you take off the skins?”

This is never going to end.

So she does. It takes more time than I expect. Also, who asks for the skin to be taken off? A good cook does that at home.

She gets the 4 sweet, naked of their skins, and then says, “You know, we’ll take a spicy one too.”

I can only imagine how frustrating this is.

This involves a discussion of the level of spicy of each sausage. A decision is made, and again, as the counter woman is about to wrap it she asks for the skin to be removed.

At this point I’ve been standing there 8 minutes, the other woman 7. Under my breath I mutter “Jesus Christ.”

Maybe it was rude, but it was certainly earned.

The mother turns to the woman next to me and says “That’s rude! This is a counter. It takes time. Saying “Jesus” is rude.”

I say “It wasn’t her, it was me.” The woman next to me says, “And he’s right. You’re taking forever.”

Ok, this is just too funny.

Mother and daughter say to us both, “You’re just rude.” In a high sing-song, whiny voice I say, “I want the skins off. I can’t do it myself. I don’t like it.”

The woman and her daughter get their meat and the mother says to me, “You’re immature. You’re 12!” I say, “I’m more like 8, maybe 9.” (Actually over 50)

Everyone in this story is a little immature, to be honest.

Mother and daughter storm off, again saying, “You’re 12. That’s how you act!” The other woman and I share a nice moment.

I get that sometimes an order takes time, and, up to a point, I was even patient.

Taking time to choose is no big deal, but not letting others go ahead of you is.

What annoyed me about this mother and her daughter was their smug cluelessness and utter entitlement that allowed them to ignore the fact other people were waiting.

The other woman and I agreed that if the mother had at some point said “I’m sorry I’m taking so much time” we both would have cut her some slack.

If she had let these other ladies go ahead of her while she decided, this could have all been avoided.

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Check out what the people in the comments have to say below.

Yeah, she did act immaturely, that’s for sure.

I think this commenter is correct.

The person holding up the line was the problem.

Everyone in this story behaved poorly.

This person thinks she was out of line.

Yes, she was very immature and even rude, but the lady holding up the line deserved it. What kind of person doesn’t let those behind them go first if they haven’t decided what they want yet?

On top of that, the butcher counter workers could have helped other people while answering questions. This is a frustrating situation where everyone was out of line.

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There are pros and cons to being self employed, there’s no doubt about that. While people frames ‘being your own boss’ as a kind of idealised situation in which you get to manage everything about your business from the workload to the money, making your work flexible around your life and your family, for many the reality is rather different.

Long hours for low pay while the business is getting off the ground, chasing invoices and dealing with customers who pull out at the last minute, leaving you with no pay. Having some months with very little money at all because invoices aren’t being paid, and having to make seemingly endless changes to a product that the customer isn’t happy with, but can’t really articulate why.

Sure there are benefits to seeing all the money that comes into the company, and not having your working life and schedule dictated by someone else, but there is a lot more to working for yourself than meets the eye.

Saying that though, it really works for some people. Because if you’ve got a constant flow of well-paying jobs, someone to manage the paperwork and the finances if you’re not prepared to do them yourself, and a decent support network to lean on, the lifestyle of a freelancer or self-employed businessperson could really work for you. And for the dad in this story, self-employment is really working – for him and his family too.

Read on to find out why.

My dad’s boss has to pay three new people instead of giving my dad the pay that he worked for

I’m fifteen and genderfluid, while and my younger brother is eleven.

My family have a good stable life financially, but recently it got better and we’re finally able to do things we want now.

My dad (40, male) has just gone self-employed because the company he used to work for didn’t pay him a good salary for what he actually does.

For context, my dad is a floor layer and does little handyman jobs here and there for friends and family.

Let’s see how things were before he left his old job.

His old boss, we’ll call him A, always loved my dad because they started their floor business together. A became the manager and my dad was always the top employee.

He did so much for this company that he was going to inherit it when A stepped down. But thing is, every customer who called up usually got my dad because he was happy to go above and beyond to make sure these folks are happy with how the final floor looked.

He brought in so much money to this company that he definitely deserved more than he was being paid (practically minimum wage).

The injuries he’s had while working have ranged from miniscule things like cutting himself, to things like cutting his thumb off and electrocuting himself. So you can imagine he’s entitled to the raise he eventually asked for.

Let’s see what happened when he asked for the raise.

A agreed to give him the raise. But he never did. My dad asked again, same thing. My dad then put up with this until their friendship was basically falling apart because A was always starting arguments over paying my dad.

A claimed he didn’t have the money to give him a raise, and yet has a gorgeous house, two nice cars as well as the work vans for loading carpets and stuff and his entire family knows very well he does not need to spend all this money on things that don’t matter much.

They can live in a normal house, sell one of the cars and be peaceful. But no, A wants to refuse giving a raise to his best employee.

So my dad recently put in his two week notice.

Read on to find out how A reacted to this.

A then started begging my dad not to leave them, to no avail. He offered a pay rise like my dad asked for. My dad declined. He’d been setting this up for a while.

My mum and I helped him build his own business from the ground. I work with him on my days off school and I’m going to be doing it for work experience too. I plan to work with him after I’m out of school too.

My dad now gets the pay he deserves and still makes people happy with their floors or anything else he’s hired for handyman wise. I post on a TikTok account to help with advertising so he’s never short of jobs.

Right now he’s got three weeks of work booked ahead.

And things for A? They couldn’t be worse.

A then had to hire three new people and pay them all what he paid my dad. Each.

So he’s paying more than what he would’ve paid my dad had he just given him the raise.

And my dad’s doing well for himself. When my dad told me about the new hires, I swear I facepalmed so hard there’s probably a dent in my skull.

What a fool.

The old saying ‘you don’t know what you had until it’s gone’ could not be more appropriate here.

A was so reluctant to give his best worker a raise, and now lo and behold he has to pay even more across the new workforce.

And that goes to show that he could have afforded the raise after all.

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Let’s see what the Reddit community made of this.

This person explained that sadly, stories like this are more common than you’d think.

And plenty of Redditors backed this up by telling similar stories of their own.

Meanwhile, this Redditor thought that this sounded like a lovely family.

It’s great that the father had the confidence and the ability to start his own business. It’s important to know your own worth, and the amount that A was paying him, especially considering his status as the company’s best employee, was way undervaluing him. But this only truly became clear to A once the guy had handed in his notice, after which point he surely had some major regrets. But nothing will have measured up to the regret he felt when he realised that he’d have to replace one underpaid employee with three others just to fulfil the one guy’s workload.

In doing this and following through on his plan, this father is setting a great example for his kids. He’s not letting himself be taken advantage of any longer, and now he’s his own boss and can manage his own money instead of doing a great job and the rewards of that going straight into A’s pocket. No doubt he will have a very successful future and leave his kids a legacy to be proud of. And all the time, A will be sat there regretting his decisions.

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Every family has that one joke they refuse to let die, no matter how many times someone asks them to stop.

It starts as a little tease, gets a laugh the first time, and then becomes permanent material that gets recycled at every dinner, every gathering, every quiet moment where someone feels like poking the bear.

For one college student, that joke was at his expense. The teasing centered around a girl he’s known since high school who takes the same classes, shares the same friends, and who, most importantly, drives him absolutely insane.

Somehow his family has decided they’re soulmates, but the reality couldn’t be further from the truth.

So one night, after his family’s poking and prodding, he finally lost his cool and went off on everyone. It wasn’t long before he faced the consequences.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for yelling at my family to stop joking about my “friend”

I (19M) have this girl I’ll call Lindsey (19F) that’s been with me from high school to college. We both want to be zoologists so we take a lot of the same classes.

In no uncertain terms, he shares his dislike for Lindsey.

I hate this girl so much. I know she hates me too. We’re always bickering and she’s always getting on my nerves.

We share friends so we’re always at the same parties, constantly arguing.

She’s so irritating and annoying. I just need her to go away.

But his family likes to egg him on about it.

My family thinks it’s so funny. “Ah she loves you.” “You should date.” “Soulmates!”

And it drives me up a wall.

His reality is much different — and he doesn’t think it’s fair they’re making light of it.

This isn’t a dang movie. I legitimately hate this girl and she’s got to hate me just as well.

She constantly puts her hands on my shoulders and elbows, along with poking my sides because she knows I hate it.

So one day, he lost his cool.

Eventually my father (45M) was getting into me about it again and I just lost my mind.

I went off on everyone about how sty they are. It was so aggravating. I was yelling at my brothers, my mom, everyone.

Consequences soon followed.

Now I’m in trouble from both parents, and it’s all the girl’s fault.

I get families tease, but I feel like at a certain point it’s annoying as heck.

AITA?

Sounds like his family pushed him way too far this time.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a stepmom who says stepson isn’t doing enough, despite the fact that he’s working 12-hour shifts to pay for his own college.

Redditors are sure to get a kick out of this one.

This commenter doesn’t think this student is assigning blame to the right people.

This commenter doesn’t buy the whole “she teases you, so she likes you” theory.

It’s time to tell Lindsey how he truly feels.

Boundaries really need to be set before he loses his cool again.

Blaming the girl for a fight she wasn’t even present for is the detail that undercuts his argument the most, because it shows that the frustration has ballooned past the actual issue and is now coloring everything around it.

It’s also worth considering this student has told his family multiple times how he feels but they refused to listen. His anger is 100% justified on that front.

Ultimately, this story made it clear that this student needs to start enforcing some real boundaries with Lindsey. And if he doesn’t, the resentment will continue to grow.

And as for his family, they need to start respecting his feelings before he blows up all over again.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man whose celebratory post-grad school vacation is being ruined by his family’s insistence he’s being lazy.

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Neighbor disputes can turn stressful when boundaries aren’t respected.

In this story, a woman has been dealing with a difficult neighbor for years.

The neighbor kept crossing the line and acting aggressively over her property.

From damaging plants and fences to making unsettling gestures, the situation has slowly escalated.

Now, she feels uneasy and unsure how to handle the tension moving forward.

Read the full story below to find out more.

Elderly neighbour’s sudden hatred for us, how to deal with her?

As the title suggests, we have lived alongside one another for 10 years.

She has been very anti-social over the years. She has been tolerable.

We are based in a very rural village in the UK.

There is no public transport. There are no shops.

This woman had seen her neighbor doing annoying stuff on her property.

We live on a small crescent with 10 houses. All are semi-detached.

She is my only direct neighbour. Over the years, she has put weed killer over my side of the fence.

She has left rat poison under the hedgerow. She insists on another neighbour down the road cutting a hedge I planted.

It is very clearly within my boundary. It is cut down both sides so it has a gap to be nosy into my window.

The neighbor complained they didn’t contribute in the fence replacement.

She recently removed a 6-foot fence and replaced it with a 3-foot one in the rear garden. It was her fence.

She has lost feet alongside her boundary, so I never complained. I swiftly planted some additional hedging.

A few weeks later, she was complaining we did not contribute half the cost of the fence.

We had no idea it was getting replaced. We would have happily paid the full amount to replace it with 6-foot fencing.

She decided to remain polite to keep the peace.

We have remained polite over the years. We have kept a safe distance.

The prior owner of this home did warn us about her.

So we decided it was safe to stay polite but at a distance.

She is overly reliant on other people in the neighbourhood.

One gardens. One cleans. One puts her bin out.

The neighbor deliberately tried to run her over with a car.

She gossips about everyone. Everyone tolerates her from what I can see.

Lately, she has been aggressively driving in the middle of the country roads.

I swear she drove deliberately at me. Think country roads full of potholes, mud, and farm traffic.

I saw her out this morning. She was glaring at me. The hatred was spilling out of her. It was unnerving.

Now, she’s wondering how to deal with her moving forward.

My husband is very non-confrontational. I am the opposite.

Just to add, she lives alone. Her children never seem to visit. Her dog passed away last year.

There are lots of other passive-aggressive things that have been said and done.

I have let them go. How should I manage this going forward?

Difficult neighbors can really make any situation tense and uncomfortable.

When things escalate like that, it stops being just annoying and starts feeling unsafe.

It might be time to set firm boundaries and get some outside help if needed.

Sometimes distance is the best kind of neighborly relationship. Don’t you think so?

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

Let’s read the responses of other people to this story.

This person makes a valid point.

Here’s a positive remark.

Sounds like the onset of dementia, says this one.

This user offers some advice.

Finally, another helpful idea.

Good fences don’t just make good neighbors. They make peaceful mornings, too.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.

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A good manager should make the job easier, not harder.

But, for one golf course maintenance employee, that definitely wasn’t the case.

He spent months trying to understand why a former manager kept pushing him away from the job he was supposed to be doing.

Then someone finally explained what had been going on behind the scenes.

Apparently, the former manager was tired of listening to the mower run.

Read on to see exactly what happened.

I have just learned the real reason why my previous boss was so bent on keeping me off my machine

I’m in a weird spot right now where my previous Jerk boss, who says he’s resigning but I heard he was fired from being the boss, is essentially helping the new boss figure out how things work.

I work on a golf course in maintenance, and my main job is mowing around greens and tee boxes, as well as areas no other mower can get to for various reasons.

I heard from a golfer that my previous Jerk boss was ******** at my current New boss because I was constantly using my mower and how I should’ve been doing blah blah blah. Which makes no sense to me because it’s spring.

The manager doesn’t like the sound of the mower.

The grass is basically sprouting up overnight and looking like I haven’t mowed it at all, which means I have to mow it again. Especially since it would be INCREDIBLY stupid if the rough around the fairway was lower than the rough right next to the green.

I then heard from my old Nice boss, who quit because of said former Jerk boss (yes, it’s complicated), that he had also been hearing **** from Jerk boss because… he was sick of hearing my mower.

Jerk was sick of hearing me run this loud-*** piece-of-junk mower that MULTIPLE PEOPLE told him NOT to buy. Instead, he wants to push more work off onto the sole worker cutting the rough of the entire golf course by themselves.

Unfortunately, that department is barely keeping up with their own work.

They are barely keeping up as is, and his bright idea is to cut back on me mowing my areas and instead give them to the rough mower. So, instead of me mowing an area like 2 Green, the rough mower does that too on top of all of their current tasks.

Meanwhile, just last week, my coworker was asking me to help them cut sections of the rough so they could actually get it all done on time. Yes, give them MORE things to do when they are barely keeping up with what they already do. Great idea!

I’m honestly still dwelling on the part where Jerk vouched for this brand-new machine that I ran for 5 minutes, could tell was a piece of crap, told him that it was ****, and he told me I was just exaggerating because I was just used to using the other brand of machine.

Now, he’s just waiting for the guy to calm down.

And now he’s apparently mad that we DARE keep using the machine that HE alone wanted. Nobody ever liked it except him… up until he finally ran it after months of me complaining about issues and literal years of it breaking down all the time, even when it was brand new.

But no, time to get mad and try to make one coworker take on way more work than they can handle and take it out on others.

I can’t wait till he stops being a hovering presence, constantly taking out his anger on other people for no reason.

Yikes! The boss sounds like a bad leader.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

Let’s check out what the readers over at Reddit think about the manager’s attitude.

Yes, basically.

Here’s someone happy the story is real and not for karma farming.

For this person, it’s about finding a good course to work at.

A lot of good questions here.

Being in charge doesn’t mean every decision is the right one.

Good managers listen to the people doing the work instead of assuming they always know best.

Hopefully the new boss takes a different approach because it sounds like this crew has dealt with enough unnecessary drama already.

Sometimes all employees really want is someone who listens and gets out of their way.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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Imagine matching with someone on an online dating app that you think is out of your league. Everything about them seems too perfect, and you can hardly believe they’re even interested in you by comparison. If they claimed to make a lot of money in the stock market and offered to teach you how to do the same thing, would you jump at the chance or be hesitant?

In this story, one man is in this exact situation. He wasn’t interested in learning how to trade cryptocurrency until the woman he was chatting with showed him how much money she made in one day. Then he was suddenly very interested until she started teaching him how he could do it too.

Now, he’s wondering if he was wrong for leading her on. Honestly, I think she sounds like a scam artist. Keep reading to see if you agree.

AITAH for making a woman feel uncomfortable by being cautious with my money?

Backstory for context: I (32M) met Amy (fake name) (35F) on Tinder. We have been speaking for a grand total of 3 days.

Amy likes to travel. She has photos of herself visiting places all over the world.

After initial conversation on Tinder, Amy proposed we move the conversation to WhatsApp. I agreed, and we began talking there.

The conversation remained flirty, but a lot of it centered around Amy’s extravagant lifestyle and her travels.

He really likes Amy.

I think it’s important to interrupt the story here and mention that Amy is very easily a solid 10/10.

This woman is stunning, she’s smart, and she’s interesting.

And I, well, am less so.

That is to say, this match seemed too good to be true from the beginning.

He found out how Amy can afford to travel.

Amy claims that she is a Quant Analyst. I had to google what that is. She analyzes the stock market.

In addition to traveling, she said that one of her hobbies was short term investments in cryptocurrency, which affords her extravagant lifestyle. She asked if I was interested in learning to do the same.

I said initially that I was not.

The conversations continued and we even planned a day in the very near future to meet each other for a first date.

They finally video chatted.

On day 3, we video chatted briefly. She was sitting at a large desk with a large, full bookcase behind her.

The conversation felt more like a business meeting than 2 potential romantic partners seeing each other for the first time.

I chocked that up to nerves on both ends.

They chatted again later…

Here’s where I may be the jerk: Later in the night on Day 3, I asked Amy what she was up to.

She said she had just finished her trades for that night, and sent me a screenshot of a large sum of money earned in a single trade.

I was, for lack of a better word, flabbergasted at the amount earned in a single night. I made that known to her.

She, again, offered to teach me.

She wanted to teach him right away.

I told her that I was interested in learning, but that I would like to learn with her in person.

She was insistent that I do not wait so that I can begin earning right away.

I tried to change the subject, but she continued. She suggested I only download the apps necessary for the trading and register an account.

I didn’t see the harm in this, so I agreed. When that was complete, I told her that I was excited to learn from her and to celebrate the small victories with her.

He started to feel uncomfortable.

She said that I could celebrate tomorrow, and instructed me to send her screenshots of an app used for buying and trading Bitcoin so that she could mark the correct steps for me to follow to add funds to the account I created.

She marked a wire transfer option, at which point, I told her that I was uncomfortable doing these steps over the phone.

She began sending messages rapidly, saying that I was overthinking, that she isn’t asking for my money, and that if I don’t want to learn from her that’s my decision. She said that it made her uncomfortable for me to accuse her of trying to take my money.

He lays out why he thinks he messed up.

Why I think I may be the jerk: I agreed to learn from her when I saw her success. I suppose greed took over.

I followed her instructions and made it seem like I was excited to be learning from her.

It could appear that I was leading her on.

So, AITA for making a woman feel uncomfortable by being cautious with my money?

Is this some sort of scam? She seems more interested in supposedly teaching him how to make money than meeting him in person. I’d be very cautious.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who is irate after she gave a group leader money for her daughter’s lunch, only to have him pocket the cash and ask all of the kids to pay their own way.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

Scam alert!

This person thinks he’s not even chatting with a woman.

Big red flags here!

Everyone knows it’s a scam.

Here’s some advice.

He’s lucky he trusted his gut and felt hesitant to do what she told him to do. The fact that she was more interested in “teaching him” than meeting him was a big red flag right there.

It’s a good thing he didn’t follow her directions.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a person who abandoned their own D&D campaign when their friends stopped paying attention.

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Imagine living in an apartment building where there isn’t quite enough parking for everyone who lives there because some people own multiple cars. If parking were first come first served and you worked from home, would you park in your favorite parking spot when it’s available, or would you park on the street18 so it would be easier for someone else to park in the parking lot?

In this story, one renter is in this situation, and he always parks in his favorite parking spot. He didn’t think this was a problem since parking is first come first serve. But then a neighbor left a note on his car that has him wondering if he really should park somewhere else at least once in awhile.

I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong, but I can understand why the neighbor is annoyed. Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for always parking in the same parking spot?

Someone left a note on my car saying “please move your car (it’s been like a week dude).”

For context, I live in an apartment complex where each unit is allowed one (covered) parking space that is paid for monthly, all other non-covered spaces are free for all/first come first serve parking spaces.

The free parking spaces are somewhat limited, and after about 6 when everyone is getting off work, they do fill up fast and you usually have to park farther away and walk which is inconvenient but it’s just the reality when every apartment unit has 2-3 cars.

OP doesn’t need to drive a lot.

I’ve lived here for two years and always parked in the same spot or the other two spots directly next to it.

I work from home so there are times when the car is sitting there for a couple days, however I do usually take my car out in the morning several times a week, to get coffee or to run errands and when I come back, “my spot” is still open so I park in the same spot again.

He is wondering if it really is wrong to always park in the same spot.

While I understand someone getting annoyed if they have to park farther and they always see my car parked in the same spot- considering it’s first come first serve parking- It honestly baffles me that someone had the audacity to write a note as if I need to inconvenience myself just because they are inconvenienced??

Like, if you have to walk farther that’s not really my issue, I’m entitled to park here as much or as little as I please.

So AITA for always parking in the same spot, even when I know I may not use my car again for a couple days? Am I wrong for thinking the person who wrote the note has some serious audacity?

The other person is wrong. The neighbor thinks OP never moves his car, which is not true. They’re just jealous that they never get a chance to park there.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

Let’s see if Reddit agrees.

I completely agree with this comment.

This person is on OP’s side.

Here’s a good idea! Then the person who left the note would know that OP does move his car.

Everyone agrees that OP isn’t doing anything wrong.

I can understand why the neighbor is annoyed, but really, it’s a misunderstanding. He does move his car. He just doesn’t move it long enough that someone else takes his spot. I’m sure if roles were reversed, the person who left the note would do the same thing.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a townhome owner who is at his wit’s end with the noise from next door.

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Most people expect hotel employees to follow the same rules as everyone else.

That’s why this customer was surprised when she spotted an SUV taking up two handicap parking spaces outside the hotel.

At first, she assumed the driver simply forgot to display a placard or tag.

But instead, she learned the vehicle belonged to a front desk employee who openly admitted she parked there because she wanted to protect her new car.

When a disabled guest pointed out the problem, the employee didn’t seem particularly concerned about how her decision affected other people who actually needed those spaces.

Read on to see what happened next.

A Front Desk question from a customer

I’m staying at a hotel, and I’m on night 4 of 6, leaving tomorrow (Friday). It’s about 9 PM, and I noticed an SUV parked in 2 handicap spots. No tags or placards.

I took some photos and went into the hotel to the desk, where a handicapped guest was talking to the front desk person. Come to find out, the older handicapped lady had also taken photos, and it was the front desk girl’s car!

The front desk girl flat out told the handicapped woman she parked there because there were no closer spots. And she took two spots because the last time she didn’t, she got her new car scratched.

Now, she’s confused what can be done.

The older handicapped lady said that she should really park in one spot to leave openings for other people and that she needs to be careful. The front desk girl said, “I am careful,” and she turned away.

The older handicapped woman went to the elevator to go upstairs with her husband and another young lady, so I don’t know what else was said.

What I wanna know is, if I call the police and report her, what’s the likelihood she’s going to believe the handicapped older lady did this? And is there anything that the front desk lady can do to retaliate against the older handicapped woman? Or should I just tell the manager in the morning before I leave and show him the photos I took?

Yikes! It sounds like management needs to have a talk with her.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

Let’s check out how the readers over at Reddit feel about it.

According to this comment, there’s not much she can do.

This night auditor parks there to save the spot.

This might be an unpopular opinion…

That fine would teach most people.

Parking in one handicap space without a permit is bad enough. But taking up two of them because you’re worried about door dings is on a whole different level.

If someone gets caught doing that, they should just apologize and move the car. It’s not that hard.

Instead, this employee chose to argue about it after a disabled guest pointed out the obvious problem.

That’s a level of entitlement that deserves correction. And if this wasn’t the first complaint, it may have been the one that finally cost her the job.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

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