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Sometimes technology doesn’t always work the way we’d like even when it works as intended. For example, have you ever had an important email filtered out and end up in your spam folder? It can happen for various reasons which is why it can be important to look through your spam mail from time to time to make sure there’s nothing important that should’ve gone to your inbox.

In this story, the CIO of a company is furious when he finds an email that was rejected by the company’s spam filter. He demands answers but doesn’t like the answers he’s given. His requests get more and more extreme to the frustration of he tech support worker who’s trying to help him.

Keep reading to see if you think the CIO overreacted or if you can relate by being this frustrated by spam filters.

I DONT CARE, CALL THEIR SUPERVISOR, CALL THE CEO, GET THEM TO CHANGE THEIR GEEEF!!!

CIO complains that an email (with an embedded gif) has been rejected by our spam filter.

We whitelist said email upon request of CIO and explain that it was rejected by our spam filter (3rd party, very large org) due to the email signature of the company containing an embedded gif.

CIO says that the explanation was not good enough and directs me to call the 3rd party (based across the other side of the world) and get a definitive explanation from them as to why their spam filter is not allowing this specific email to come through.

The supervisor didn’t care about OP’s explanation.

Tried to tell him that it would do no good as they arent going to tell us the rules associated to their filters as that defeats the purpose of the filter.

“CALL THE SUPERVISOR, CALL THE CEO, GET ME AN ANSWER!!!!”

Again, the company isnt going to tell us……the reason it was rejected is because of the GIF embedded in the signature.

“Well REMOVE THE FREAKING GIF THEN”

That wouldn’t be all that easy to do.

Ahh, this is from an exchange server that is not part of our company network, it doesn’t belong to us…..

” WELL YOU FIGURE OUT A WAY TO REMOVE THAT GEEF (GIF)”

Ok, let me call up the IT Manager of this other company and let them know that just to suit us, we need them to overhaul their company signature standard and remove their embedded gifs…..again just to suit us.

Another manager saved the day.

DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW MUCH OF A WINDOW LICKER A STATEMENT LIKE THAT MAKES YOU LOOK?

Thank god the Infrastructure manager stepped in to say the guy is a knob jockey, shouldn’t be in the job and that he would “sort him out”

Sometimes people with a little bit of IT knowledge, in an kissing up position are FREAKING DANGEROUS.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops speaking up in his Zoom meetings after getting constantly interrupted.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person thinks the situation was handled well in the end.

I agree.

This is a good point.

Another person has a question.

I can understand how it would be frustrating to have a business email filtered out due to spam filters. In an ideal world, you could change the settings yourself for that specific email address. If that’s not the case, then maybe they do need to talk to the 3rd party vendor about making it possible for email users to modify the spam filter settings.

It sounds stressful for everyone involved.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who works fast and helps her coworkers, but is met with disapproval from her supervisor because of this practice

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Going on a trip you were openly invited to shouldn’t require a post-trip apology, but that’s exactly where the teen in this story ended up after her friend couldn’t make it and decided to take it personally.

The initial invitation for the trip came through a group chat and everyone was included. But when one friend couldn’t make it, the rest of the group decided to go without her.

So the trip happened, the teen posted about it, and her friend responded by ignoring her post entirely.

But when the teen noticed her friend acting coldly to her, she started wondering if she crossed some invisible line.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for hanging out with my friend’s friend?

I’m 18 and my friend (Jane) is 19. I’m from Northern California.

Here’s the situation. My friend (Jane) lives in Elk Grove but would always come back to the Bay Area during school and work with her grandparents. We have a mutual friend group.

Lately, some familiar faces came back into their lives.

Recently, she rekindled her friendship with her old situationship (John). They had an ugly falling out but now they grew and became good friends again.

Basically, his friends and our friends and I started becoming friends. We started playing video games together on FaceTime or Discord.

It started off well enough, and the group made plans to hang out.

A week ago, in our group chat (which had 7 people in it) he invited both of my friends (Jane and Anna) and I to a hiking trip and city walk in San Francisco with another group of friends.

I wanted to join so I asked if I could go and they were okay with it.

At the time, me, Jane, and my other friend (Anna) all were hanging out in my car. We were all on FaceTime with him and his friends (Carl, Scott, and John).

They all wanted Jane to join, but she had some scheduling conflicts, so the trip went on without her.

Jane gave me this look of wanting to come with us, and me and our friends on FaceTime were begging for her to go, but she couldn’t go because of work.

On the day of the trip, I hung out with them. I posted pictures on my Instagram of our hangout.

And specifically, I posted myself and she didn’t like it or comment.

But Jane was treating her other friend quite differently.

So I was pretty surprised, and when I came back home from the trip, I see Jane like, comment, and repost Anna’s post on Instagram.

Then I asked our mutual friend, John, if she was mad at me for going on the trip.

She decides to try and make peace with Jane.

So I sent her a paragraph, if I was doing anything to give her FOMO and making her feel left out because these were her friends, and that I was sorry for making her feel that sort of way, and if she had a bad day, I am sorry for that too.

She didn’t reply to my text.

So she did some digging — and she didn’t like what she found.

Until I found out they were all on Discord playing games together. I was going to join but something inside of me felt I was unwelcome to do so.

So I just went to sleep and to see if she replied to my text in the morning.

Now she’s starting to feel ignored by everyone in the group.

Well, today is the morning and I have no texts from any of my friends or his friends.

So, am I the AH for hanging out with my friend’s friends?

Jane doesn’t exactly sound like the best communicator.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who stirred up family drama by finally choosing her own mom over her in-laws.

What did Reddit have to say?

This user calls out just how immature this whole drama is.

Feeling FOMO is normal, but Jane shouldn’t be taking it out on everyone else.

Her past relationship with John could have something to do with the simmering tension.

This commenter thinks maybe this person is putting too much stock in social media likes.

Feeling left out when your friends hang out without you is normal, especially when you’re 18.

It stings to see photos from a day you wanted to be part of, and it’s natural to feel a little territorial when your friend group starts merging with someone else’s.

But there’s a massive difference between feeling something and acting on it by selectively ignoring someone’s posts, leaving their apology on read, and hanging out with the group on Discord that same night without acknowledging their existence.

This teen was openly invited to this trip, and she more than did her best to cajole Jane into coming along.

Instead of Jane saying “I’m bummed I missed it,” she went silent in a way that’s completely manipulative.

It’s high time Jane start learning some proper communication skills.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a middle schooler who was totally frazzled after being left to babysit alone for 3-plus hours, and swears she’s never doing it again.

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I can imagine that it could be difficult to live in a 2-unit condo building as an owner but the other unit is rented out. Renters probably aren’t as likely to live in one place as long as owners, so there would be quite a bit of turnover with new neighbors every year or every few years.

In this story, we see the point-of-view of the renters in a 2-unit condo building. Their neighbor owns her condo, and she doesn’t seem to like them at all. She criticizes them, even to her young child, and she even seems to refuse to talk to them directly, sending them messages via their landlord instead.

It’s kind of weird and very annoying, but I’m sure it’s frustrating for her too.

Keep reading for the full story.

Entitled NFH weaponizes HOA rules, gets mad when it backfires, then badmouths us to everyone

We rent the lower unit of a two-condo building in a big city. Our upstairs NFH is the only other HOA member besides our landlord, and she acts like she owns not just her unit, but ours too.

When we first moved in, we put a storage unit in the garage to secure some of our belongings (we live in a big city, theft happens). We placed it as far back in our parking area as possible, trying to be thoughtful.

The idea was that keeping the storage unit further back in the garage would allow us to park our car further forward into the garage and give NFH more room to back in, get her kid in and out, and move things around easily.

They tried to be neighborly about the problems at first.

We didn’t have the HOA zoning maps at the time (our landlord hadn’t given them to us) so we didn’t realize that a portion of the back of the garage was technically part of a zoned common area.

NFH was out of town for over a month after we moved in, so we had no reason to think it would be an issue… until she returned, saw the storage unit, and immediately brought it up during a totally unrelated conversation about her dog using our patio as a toilet (which, trust me, is its own saga).

She sent us the HOA zoning maps to prove (1) she (and her dog) had “easement and walkthrough access” through the patio to the garage, and (2) our storage unit was placed in a common area.

She was right about the storage unit, so we moved the storage unit fully into our assigned parking space. We thought: let’s follow the rules, avoid further drama, and move on.

Well, boy were we wrong. That didn’t end the conflict. Instead, it created a new one.

The new problem involves parking.

With our storage unit sitting fully in our zoned space in the garage, we have to park our car further back (closer to the garage door, still 100% within our designated zone, clearly marked with tape on the ground).

And now NFH constantly complains that our car is parked too far back and making it hard for her to back her vehicle in.

This is comical, given we’ve been told that past tenants tandem-parked two cars in our zone, meaning a car was consistently parked to the back line of the zone, plus NFH told us when we met her that she’s “used to parking in tight spaces.” Clearly… not?

This is weird.

She refuses to talk to us directly. Instead, she sends photos of our car to our landlord and texts him, asking him to ask us that we pull our car forward.

We complied to this request almost a year ago, but in recent weeks, she started checking how far forward our car is parked every time she walks into the garage. She even left a note on our windshield saying “thanks in advance” for pulling our car further forward… even though we’ve been parking in the same spot for months.

Meanwhile, she trashes us to anyone she can (neighbors, friends, the HOA handyman) while she’s in the garage:

Here are some examples of things she says about them.

• “They built this thing that decreases the parking. It’s a whole point of contention.” (ummmm… let’s think back – it became a point of contention when SHE complained about it being in the common area?)
• “They’re awful.” (how charming.)
• “They’re renters, they’re not very nice.” (funny how we became ‘not nice’ after setting boundaries she didn’t like.)
• “I hope they move out soon.” (girl, same. and I hope the next tenant tandem parks two massive vehicles in that garage!)
• (telling her sub-5 year old child) “They’re naughty. We love it when they’re gone.” And proceeding to teach her child to refer to us as “the naughty neighbors” and our car as “the naughty car.” (wow, what great parenting!!!)

Here’s a quick recap of the situation…

To be clear: she flagged the storage unit as a violation, we moved it to comply and now she’s mad that her life isn’t easier because of it.

NFH blames us for having less space for her to maneuver her car while backing into the garage.

And she regularly comes within inches of hitting our car (or worse, actually grazes it, which she’s done twice) then takes zero responsibility and acts like we’re the villains for not making her life easier.

We’re just trying to exist without stepping out of bounds. Has anyone else dealt with a neighbor who constantly shifts the goalposts like this? Are we completely losing it?

It sounds like these neighbors aren’t destined to be friends, but can they at least reach a compromise and agree to stop bad mouthing each other?

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who got creative with his parking after his neighbors started using his extra spot without asking.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

I’m not sure if this advice would help because it sounds like the neighbor is an owner not a renter.

Here’s another suggestion.

This person is mainly annoyed by the little kids being part of it.

Another person explains why it’s not really weird that the neighbor communicates through the landlord.

This whole parking situation does sound stressful. I can see why they’re both annoyed. It’s too bad the neighbor is bad mouthing them, especially in front of her child, but it sounds like her parking situation is more stressful than it used to be. I’m not sure what they could do to make everyone happy.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about some renters who moved out and left their apartment in the same state of disarray they’d found it in when they moved in.

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Imagine working at a large corporation. I’ve been in that world before, and I can’t say I miss anything about it.

In this story, we hear about a corporation’s overtime policy and how there’s a glitch in the system. The employees quickly figured out the glitch and how to avoid it, but management is clueless about what’s going on.

You’d think the obvious answer would be for management to ask the employees what’s going on, but in a corporation there’s often a huge gap between what’s obvious and what actually happens.

Keep reading for all the details.

Corporate overtime policy leads to less coverage

My department is technically “on call” while not being paid a shift premium for it, although we do get other perks instead so it isn’t a huge deal.

The company make a small effort to try and call the people with the least amount of overtime first, and this is relevant.

This is an interesting system.

Well, we eventually found out that if we answer the call and are unable or refuse to come in, that time gets added to our overtime chart as if we’d actually worked it, and thus we’d be less likely to get overtime in the future, which really annoyed the money-hungry vultures.

Whereas, if we don’t answer and let it go to voicemail, our spot in the overtime chart is unchanged.

I’m sure you can see where this is going.

OP guesses at the ordeal it will take for management to understand what is happening.

For some reason, half the department is no longer answering emergency calls, and nobody seems to know why.

And being a corporate environment, asking the employees directly affected is only going to happen after multiple rounds of consultants are tasked with finding out why hell froze over twice and several conflicting committees are formed to investigate the issue while sabotaging each other competing for limited resources.

Communication is key, but corporate culture doesn’t always seem to understand that.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who rejects a low contract offer and leaves the company instead.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person is confused.

Another person clarifies.

This person thinks the policy is silly.

Another person suggests a potentially better way to handle overtime.

This really doesn’t sound like the best overtime system. There has to be a better way. I’m not sure that a group text and a free for all is the answer, but it might be better than the system they have now.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

The post Corporation’s On-Call Overtime System Is Broken, but Management Never Figures Out Why Employees Stopped Answering the Phone appeared first on TwistedSifter.

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Sometimes, the people who deserve your gratitude the least are the ones who expect it the most.

That’s where this PhD student found themselves after spending years overcoming one obstacle after another to earn a doctorate.

Unfortunately, the university didn’t make the journey any easier, and the problems kept piling up along the way.

Even so, there was just one thing left to do before the thesis could finally be submitted.

That’s when the university required every student to include an acknowledgment section thanking the people who helped make the project possible.

Instead of writing the kind of message everyone expected, though, this student decided to take a very different approach.

Let’s see how it turned out.

The university made me write an acknowledgement in my thesis, so I did

A weary me was sitting in front of my laptop, staring at the requirements for submitting the PhD thesis to the university.

I had finished the main text to the satisfaction of my two supervisors, and I just needed to check the nitty-gritty formatting requirements from the university.

Among the items missing was the acknowledgment section. The university even made a big fuss out of it, stating that it was mandatory to thank everyone who has contributed to the success of the thesis.

Unfortunately, the journey wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows for him.

I couldn’t help thinking about how bitter the journey was.

It started well — I got a scholarship, performed well and had a great reputation in teaching — but it was a fallout after my supervisor retired due to unforeseen circumstances. Research funds dried out.

The school scammed me of 10 grands from equipment purchase because of the errors of the administrative staff. They took away the only space I could use for research (which was just a desk) and left me figuring it out myself.

In the end I could only finish the whole research on my own from the cash I earned from escorting (it was a successful career but that’s another story). And then I needed to thank them to not make myself look like an ungrateful brat.

Then, he came up with an idea.

And I came up with an idea. Instead of writing a short note, I dialed my gratefulness to 11.

Most other PhD students wrote 1-2 pages, and I made mine 3 pages long.

I thanked almost everyone extensively — my supervisors, my family, my patrons, the student counselor and even the flight school I attended — and mentioned the details of the support they gave me and what I learned from them.

He saved the best for last.

At the very end of the 3-page essay, I dropped a very dry paragraph acknowledging the university, thanking them for the wake-up call for my development into another career and giving me an experience to foster autonomy by doing my own maintenance works and sourcing own fundings.

Now this PhD thesis has passed the final validation and by university policy, this thesis will be forever publicly available in their library and online repository.

And I am pretty sure a few of the juniors are going to have a look as a reference of how to write their acknowledgements even though they have zero interest in the body text.

Too funny! Hey, you can’t say the university didn’t ask for it.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who volunteered to help promote a church event for free, then was surprised to find she had to still pay admission to get in.

Let’s see if any of the readers over at Reddit relate with his story.

This person did something similar with their acknowledgement.

Wonder how many people caught it.

It’s probably still frowned upon.

For this person, their acknowledgement was their Oscars.

It’s one thing to thank people who genuinely helped you along the way.

However, it’s another to feel obligated to praise an organization that created so many of the obstacles in the first place.

So, rather than writing something that wasn’t true, this student found a creative way to be honest while still following the university’s rules.

His logic is hard to argue with.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman whose HR department advised her to quit if she was that unhappy, so she did and found herself in a role reversal years later.

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Imagine working at a company in a job you like, but when there’s an urgent need in another department, you’re transferred to that department. What would you do if you hated your new job at the company? Would you ask for your old job back, stick it out, or start sending out resumes to apply for a new job?

In this story, one woman is in this exact situation, and she finds a job at another company. Her boss took the news well, and she thought it would be an easy two weeks while she helped look for and train her replacement.

Unfortunately, her supervisor wasn’t as cool with her news as the owner. She took it as a personal attack and started doing some pretty crazy things to try to sabotage the employee’s career.

Keep reading for all the drama and to see how the story plays out.

Put in my two weeks notice, covert narcissistic supervisor reveals herself.

I (30f) have been working at a super small construction company for the past 2 years. I’ve put my best foot forward every day, and never had any issues with anyone in the company.

As of 3 months ago, they moved me from an in-field coordinator, to an accounting position. It was an emergency move as one of the employees stole 80k from the company and they needed an immediate replacement.

My new supervisor, we’ll call her Mary (34f) was always super kind to me and we’ve became pretty good in-work friends.

Well these past couple months have been hell, I hate the new position, and to be fair, I’m not very good at it. So I found a new position and I’ve been keeping it a secret for a while. I let the owner know first and he was very kind and receptive to it.

Her supervisor had the complete opposite reaction.

The issue started when Mary got word of it.

She immediately cornered me and started going on this rant saying things like; “Why didn’t you tell me? You’re being incredibly unfair and selfish. I can’t believe you would do this to us, this is unacceptable. Don’t ask me for a referral because you are not getting one from me” etc.

I politely told her that the opportunity was something I simply couldn’t pass up.

She then went to the owner and asked for any details I might’ve given to him about the new company and new position (I believe to try to sabotage me leaving), and thankfully I hadn’t discussed any details about it with anyone.

It was awkward after that, but I didn’t think anything of it.

Mary sound crazy!

The next day when things took a turn for the worst. Mary decided to be petty and removed all of my authorizations to any accounts I had so I couldn’t perform any of my daily tasks.

I didn’t want to leave on a sour note, so I brought it up to the owner as Mary was OOO (out of office) that day.

He re-authorized my accounts and I continued to work.

Mary was back the following day and was completely livid that I had went around her and talked directly to the owner.

Her actions towards me would only get worse from here on out.

She decided to let Mary have her way.

The next day, I came in to notice that my desk was moved and my computer access was taken away yet again.

Cue the malicious compliance.

Since I couldn’t do any of my daily tasks, and really didn’t feel like dealing with a screaming Mary- I was on Reddit for basically the whole day.

At the end of the day, Mary came into my new back storage “office” and said “Busy day today? I know mine was.”

She knew just how to respond!

I just smiled and said “Yep! Exhausting”.

She did not like that response and went to the owner to say that I was purposefully not doing my job, and my last two weeks would be pointless so we should just let her (me) go now.

The owner disagrees- calls me into his office, and after I explained what she had done, he gave me access again, and told Mary to work from home.

She decided not to let Mary get to her.

Another day goes by, it’s extremely peaceful now that Mary is working remote, but unfortunately this does not mean my day was getting any easier.

Instead of taking my access away- she had IT start forwarding all my emails to other employees in other departments that had nothing to do with my specific position.

At this point I only had three days left and so I just took it as “OK, this sucks for them, but it’s on Mary’s head if anyone has any questions.

I looked at my PTO and I had way more than I had thought! So why not use those for my last days? And that’s exactly what I did.

The owner really sounds awesome.

I was originally supposed to let all vendors know and start forwarding them off to the appropriate people, and interview second round candidates for my position, but not any more.

The owner was completely okay with it, and understood that Mary was being toxic and that he would have a talk with her about her attitude and position if this continues.

Now with my last two days, and me being on PTO, I finally thought I was safe from Mary. But low and behold she was still holding a massive grudge, as if me leaving my position was a personal attack on her.

I’m almost picturing Mary like a cackling Disney villain at this point, like an Evil Queen crazy lady.

She called me at 4:30 in the morning, and left me a voice mail saying our company was having an “Accounting Emergency” and I need to come in IMMEDIATELY.

I called her back about 4 hours later, which she was fuming about, and went on a massive rant about how I’m extremely entitled, I will never get any where with my attitude, she’s embarrassed for our company to say that I ever worked here, that if she ever finds out where I will be working she will make sure that I’m fired and will never get a job in this town again.

I laughed at her, and she went ballistic- like when you take a 4 year old’s toy away. Screaming so loud her voice was shaking, saying silly things like I have no respect for her or the company and that I will rot in hell.

I hung up on her once she started bringing my family into things.

Finally, the owner did what he should’ve done a long time ago.

I called the owner and explained to him what happened- which he wasn’t shocked about and had told me that when she came in that morning she was going on a rampage like the Tasmanian Devil. After finding out why she was freaking out, he promptly fired her.

I was shocked- since this was such a small company and he definitely needed her.

I had heard from another coworker that she ended up destroying a bunch of company property on her way out and now she’s facing a lawsuit due to the damages.

So thankful she revealed her true self to everyone & that I’m far far away from that company and her.

I think Mary needs therapy or medication or something. She sounds legitimately crazy.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops speaking up in his Zoom meetings after getting constantly interrupted.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

It was basically self-sabotage.

It was a crazy story!

I feel bad for the owner too. He sounds like a good guy.

This would be interesting!

I think the supervisor needs mental help. Why would she act so crazy just because an employee is quitting? Why would she take that so personally? It doesn’t even make sense.

I’m glad OP is out of there, and I’m glad the owner fired Mary. I do feel bad for the owner though. I hope he can find some stellar employees quickly to fill the open spots.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who works fast and helps her coworkers, but is met with disapproval from her supervisor because of this practice

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Planning a wedding can be very stressful on the couple, which sometimes causes people to behave very oddly.

What would you do if you were best friends with your soon-to-be sister-in-law, but in the months leading up to her wedding, she started ignoring you and even being mean to your kids?

That is what happened to the woman in this story, and even though she has tried to talk to her about it, her friend won’t say anything is wrong. For this reason, she is thinking about not having her daughter be the flower girl and even skipping the wedding entirely. Of course, this could cause some drama that would last for years, so she isn’t sure what to do.

Personally, I think the risk of further causing problems is high, but it might be worth it. Only this couple can decide if it is the right move. Read through the full story below and see what you think they should do.

AITA for telling them to find a new flower girl two weeks before the wedding?

Okay, so my soon to be sister-in-law and I have been very close, I looked at her like a sister, but now she won’t talk to me.

What changed to make her act this way?

Soon to be sister-in-law called off the wedding previously planned for April 2026, but then decided at the very end of May/beginning of June that they would get married July 4, 2026.

Since this decision has been made she’s hardly talking to me. She is being rude to my mom, she’s very short with my husband and I when we talk in person or she ignores me.

This would be confusing and upsetting.

I have absolutely no idea what I have done, I have asked and she won’t tell me. My husband is supposed to be a groomsman and my daughter is supposed to be the flower girl.

She used to be someone I trusted with my child, but lately she’s not been very nice to her and does things to purposefully upset her (she’s 3).

Wow, they are even being mean to a little child?

She has tried giving her a nickname to which my daughter says that’s not my name don’t call me that. My mom has said something and I have now told her to stop doing it.

My husband spoke to his brother and asked him what both of their issue is because at a Father’s Day BBQ, his brother would hardly talk to him.

None of this makes sense. Surely something must have happened.

My husband said they way they were being is crappy if they’re supposed to be in the wedding and he’s to the point he doesn’t even want to go.

Leads us to today, I again messaged her and tried to have a conversation and ask her why she wouldn’t talk to me, to which she read my message and didn’t respond.

It could burn a bridge, but it might be necessary.

Am I wrong for not wanting my daughter in their wedding if they can’t be nice?

WIBTA?

No, if they won’t explain what is going on, they aren’t obligated to show up. That being said, it would likely cause a lot of future problems with the relationship (if there is one). Whether that is worth it or not would be up to this couple.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who stirred up family drama by finally choosing her own mom over her in-laws.

Read on to see what the people in the comments suggest.

Their behavior is really weird.

Wow, this person thinks they know exactly what is happening.

What kind of person is mean to a child?

It is wrong to take out your stress on other people.

The way she treated her daughter is unacceptable.

Wedding planning can turn some people into real monsters, but that is no excuse. It would be one thing to put up with a little coldness, but to treat a child badly is inexcusable.

Skipping the wedding is a big decision, however, and it could ruin the relationship for the rest of their lives. Personally, I would still go, but keep my distance.

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Imagine living in a condo building, and you have a baby, which means you also have a stroller. Where would you park your stroller when you’re not using it? Would you keep it inside your condo, or would you keep it in shared space within the building?

In this story, one parent vents about her son and her son’s scooter. Her son has parked his scooter in the same spot by the stairs in their condo building for many years. It has never been a problem.

But new neighbors moved in, and now it’s a problem. They keep knocking the scooter over when they park their stroller in the same area near the stairs, and they don’t even bother to pick it up. They just leave it knocked over.

Keep reading for all the details.

Annoying neighbors keep knocking down my child’s scooter to park their baby stroller.

A new couple has recently moved into our condo building.

They have decided that the small space next to the stairwell where my son has been parking his scooter/skateboard is where they will park their stroller.

They just push my son’s scooter with their stroller deep into the space under the stairs. And let it fall however.

They should be careful with other peoples things and park it neatly but no.

This would be annoying.

They both were together with their child and still knocked down the scooter when they removed the stroller and I parked it upright again and then they knocked it down again when they came back from their walk.

That felt deliberate.

Again both mother and father were together.

They are short term renters. One of many, who are bothersome in some way.

There is another place where they could park their stroller.

They don’t want to push their stroller deep under the stairs, but my child has to go there to retrieve his scooter?? .

How to deal with these people.

There’s lots of space in the walk from main door to the stairs and it even branches off and extends to a back area.

Most people park their strollers here and take it into their home later.

It sounds like the stroller is really in the way.

Yes my son has been storing his skate/scooter in the triangle under the stairs for years. Without any problems or complaints.

Everyone stores there temporarily.

The stroller actually blocks the mailboxes.

I’m sure they will get a note from the condo manager.

She continues venting.

I’m just in disbelief that they are so inconsiderate.

I have seen many strollers and personal shopping carts etc parked in the entrance area. But never for long.

I assume they don’t want to leave their things out. But all have been respectful of others things.

What kind of person moves in and is like “ my stroller has to be parked just so.let me just push this annoying skating out of my way. Ah much better “ on the first day. I don’t even want to talk to such a person. I don’t think there is any use.

That sounds really frustrating. I understand that the neighbors need somewhere to park the stroller, but they are pretty rude to knock down someone else’s belongings in the process.

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The comments section on Reddit didn’t exactly go how OP had expected.

This person calls her out.

Another person has a similar thought.

This is a good point.

It really could be a big problem.

A scooter doesn’t take up that much room. Surely, they can store it somewhere else. It’s hard to complain about a neighbor storing something in shared space when you’re doing the same thing. It is rude that the neighbors knock the scooter over with their stroller though.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a homeowner who responded to an HOA violation letter by investigating the bylaws and having the whole board removed.

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Nothing makes an employee regret helping out faster than being publicly shamed for it by a boss who barely knows the team.

One worker got asked to start early to help cover a previous shift.

She agreed, cleared it with the manager on her shift, and rearranged her entire childcare schedule to make it happen.

That evening, a covering manager mentioned that a colleague was upset about not being asked to come in early instead, but he was laughing about it and calling the coworker the baby of the shift, so she didn’t take it that seriously.

So when she showed up the next morning ready to work, the same manager who joked about it the night before ambushed her in front of colleagues and told her she wasn’t a team player.

You’ll want to keep reading for the full drama.

AITA for not agreeing to changing my start time at work

After work I got asked to start earlier in the morning to help out previous shift. I agreed.

The next day the manager from that shift asked could I do the same tomorrow morning, he’d say it to the manager coming onto the shift.

So this employee rearranged her entire schedule for it.

I asked the manager on my shift is it okay if I come in early again the following morning. He agreed.

I then changed my childcare.

But then plans changed once again.

That evening as I was about to leave, the manager said that a colleague wasn’t happy that I was asked and he wanted to come in early. He said it was up to me to talk to him.

I took it as a joke as he was laughing about the baby of the shift sulking.

The employee decided she had already made enough sacrifices.

I was about to leave, had a little think and decided that no, I changed my childcare. Manager not about so I said it to the next in line manager and he said he’d pass on the message.

The boss wasn’t happy with this decision.

So fast forward to this morning and the manager railroads me, in front of some colleagues, tells me I’m not a team player, I shouldn’t have come in early.

Sulky colleague not talking to me, although he turned up early and will leave early.

But this employee wasn’t just going to sit back and accept this.

I stood up for myself and told the manager that he communicated it so poorly to me, that I thought he was joking. I told him if I can rearrange my childcare I’ll stay.

He said it was too little too late. I should have spoke to my colleague first. I told him I didn’t think that was my place.

This whole thing could have been entirely prevented.

What makes it worse is there was enough staff to cover both of us leaving early.

I’m just annoyed because this manager was only covering this shift and doesn’t work often with us.

Another colleague was in our company for both conversations and couldn’t believe the manager would shaft me because of one disgruntled coworker.

AITA?

What a mess.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a person who spent nearly 3 decades climbing the ladder at work only to be fired in a meeting that lasted less than a minute.

What did Reddit have to say?

If it were this user, they’d say something like this.

Why doesn’t this boss just step up to do the job he was hired to do?

This boss needs to understand what actually happened.

Telling an employee she should’ve spoken to her colleague first about a shift that was assigned to her by management is a stunning abdication of the manager’s own job.

This is literally what managers exist for. They assign shifts, resolve scheduling conflicts, and communicate expectations clearly.

This employee did everything right. She stepped up to the plate, got the change approved, and even moved around her childcare to accommodate.

If anyone in this workplace is a team player, it’s her.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who volunteered to help promote a church event for free, then was surprised to find she had to still pay admission to get in.

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Imagine working for a company where you have an annual all hands meeting at a location outside of your actual office building. Imagine being in this meeting, and you’re told that the overtime policy has changed. Would you listen and nod along making a mental note for the future, or would you check your watch to see how many hours you had already spent at that meeting that day?

In this story, an employee shares a story where this exact scenario happens, and it also happens that the company expects the employees to help clean up the venue where the meeting was held.

Guess what? That would involve working overtime, which they were just told they could only work under certain circumstances.

Keep reading to see how the story plays out. It’s pretty satisfying.

No payed overtime without a project

Happened about 5 years ago.

In my company we have to write up our houres and write up wich project they are for.

Of cause there allways is some stuff to do, that is not part of a customers project. We also have nothing like an union (we “could” create one, but similar companies with one mostly have worse conditions than we have, so no need to unionize for us)

The rule about overtime changed.

At that time once a year we had a gathering of the whole company to do the necessary QM courses to get a neccessary certficate and to get importand informations (mostly on administrativ stuff).

That year at the end of the gathering we got imformed, that overtime without a customer project to pay for it, will no longer be allowed or payed.

This made most of us unhappy, cause most of the stuff outside of projects was stuff the company forced us to do for qm reasons or to make the jobs of the billing department (that worked totally without projects) easier.

We had some discussions, but management was clear: NO OVERTIME OUTSIDE OF PROJECTS (that can be billed to a customer). They then ended the official part.

It seems this company really tries to pinch pennies.

The gathering was in a rented location since our HQ was too small to fit all employees in (lot of guys working outside).

Part of the cheap price for renting was a deal to clean up the place in the end or pay a strangely high price for the cleaning.

So in the end a manager (let’s call him Mike) asked everyone to carry chairs and tables back into the storrage and help sweeping the floor. (Would have been very fast if everyone took his own chair)

That is where the malicious compliance kicked in.

One employee spoke up.

This gathering was a non-project activity and our daily worktime was over.

One of the engineers (let’s call him Def) asked loud, so everyone could hear it: “On what project will this go?”

Mike:”This is no project.”

Def:”Well, we have been here from [start time] till now, so our daily worktime is full and you just made clear, we are not allowed to do overtime outside of a project or did I get you wrong?”

The rules were clear, so they did what they had to do.

Mike:”We made that clear no overtime outside of projects.”

Def: “Than I cannot help you cleaning, that would be overtime outside of a project and you do not allow that, sorry.”

Mike: …

Def stood up and went out. Next half of the other enginees stood up and started to go, followed by the rest, the technicians and most other employees and in the end everyone of the employees who work on projects went out.

The rules changed again.

Only managers and the people from billing/accounting were left and had to clean up everything alone (rumors are it took them 1-2 houres).

Fallout/Aftermath:

Next week all employees got an e-mail informing them: when you only work off project one day the non-project overtime should be clocked in on the next day and the project work of that day will be the (payed) overtime.

Management did not punish Def or anyone else and it was again a good place to work (most of the time).

That was almost too quick and easy! Complying with the overtime change was the perfect way to get the policy to change again.

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Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

It worked out well! They learned from their mistake.

Exactly!

The timing is hilarious!

One person argues the case for unionizing.

The timing couldn’t have been better! It’s so hilarious that they made a rule and then immediately asked the employees to break the rule. I’m sure they thought the employees would just put the chairs away and help clean up without actually claiming overtime, but that wouldn’t be fair. I’m so glad that employee spoke up and that the rule changed back almost immediately.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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If you thought you’ve had to deal with bad neighbors before, hang on tight, friends…

Because this story sounds like something straight out of a movie!

And it ain’t pretty, amigos.

The woman who wrote it didn’t hold back as she explained how the neighborhood psycho tormented everyone for years…

Until she decided to strike back!

Read on and see what you think.

I won. I finally played his game, and I won in less than ten seconds.

“This guy has been terrorizing the neighborhood for 15 years. He likes to get wasted and harass people and provoke them. This is his little game.

We moved here 6 years ago, and he did like to roam around intoxicated as hell, but he never was focused on anyone. It was sort of an aimless, collective harassment of the neighborhood; until it wasn’t.

This sounds really scary.

He set his sights on me the week before Halloween. I found an unattended child in my backyard. A child so young he was still wearing diapers.

It was puzzling, and I tried to figure out where this child came from, who was responsible for said child, etc. when I went outside, there was a woman in scrubs and I made the connection that this child is definitely her responsibility.

I tried to communicate with her. She completely ignored me. And then a war broke out.

This was about to get UGLY.

One of her adult sons decided that because I tried to talk to his mother, and that because I’m a race which he decides he doesn’t like, that he can harass me.

And he has. At least once a week, every week, but sometimes 3 times a week. Since October.

I’ve called the cops so many times and they do nothing, which is surprising since I’ve come to find out he had 7 warrants out for his arrest for being intoxicated in public, a previous conviction for battery, a pending charge for another battery and a petty theft… the list is long.

But they would never arrest him when they got called out. Super weird.

Holy cow!

A few weeks ago, he started to harass me again. My husband went outside and this creep pulled out a Bowie knife with a 10” blade and chased my husband with it. We called the cops again- they said he’s allowed to have a knife.

I’ve called the cops on this maniac at least ten times. He’s threatened me, stalked me, tried to rob my Walmart delivery driver… he’s going too far. But the cops do nothing.

So the last time I called when he pulled out the knife, I said, “So he’s allowed to sit out front of my house and scream and yell, so that means I can do the same to him?” And the officer was like, yeah…. BUT I really don’t want you to do that. And I said, well… you guys won’t arrest him, so…

**And then it happened**

He came yelling and screaming. I recorded him with my phone. We tried to ignore but he wouldn’t go away. I finally said forget it. I’m gonna go scream and yell at him. My husband said no, but I did it anyway.

I went outside front of his house and gave him the exact same treatment he’d been giving me for 6-7 months.

This whole situation is insane.

It took all of 10 seconds for him to respond with violence. He came after me with a 2×4. My husband was still at our house watching from across the street. He saw this, and he rushed over.

He physically brought him to the grass area (not the concrete driveway) and the guy bopped him on the head with that 2×4. So my husband wrestled him to the ground. I picked up the 2×4.

When my husband had him pinned down, he looked at him, told him to “stop messing with my wife” and went home. I followed him, with the weapon in my hand.

A neighbor called the cops. Long story short- the jerk was arrested (finally).

Apparently, he had a TON of pending charges. All of which he never went to court for. He only spent 6 days in jail, but those were all previous charges.

He hit my husband over the head and that was an “assault with a deadly weapon.”
It turns out he had a ton of pending charges way before this incident.

He had to deal with those. He now has ANOTHER battery charge and petty theft that he pled not guilty to from a few years ago.

He has to go to AA, and he’s on probation for a year, and he hasn’t even been charged yet for the assault with a deadly weapon.

Why is it so quiet around here…?

Life’s been peaceful and quiet. He sees us, and he turns and walks away. Something he should have been doing all along.

And I know he’s on probation so it’s only a matter of time before he gets wasted again. And if he’s intoxicated? I’m gonna get him arrested for violating his probation.

He’s been on his best behavior.

All it took is me giving him his own treatment back to him for TEN seconds and he couldn’t handle it. I’ve been dealing with it for SEVEN MONTHS.

And it’s not over yet.

They finally held him accountable for everything before, and there’s more to come.

It’s been nice and quiet around here.”

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Readers shared their thoughts.

This person spoke up.

Another reader shared their thoughts.

This individual had a lot to say.

Another person weighed in.

And this individual was impressed.

Let’s all tip our hats to this woman for finally standing up to this creep.

This fella was an absolute menace!

What a jerk!

This guy deserves to be behind bars!

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who reported some missionaries after frustration over lack of parking boils over.

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Splitting vacation costs with a large friend group is one of those things that works well in theory but almost never in practice. This is especially true when one person in the group has a reputation for needing to be chased down for every payment.

A man who ended up as the de facto trip organizer for a holiday tried to get ahead of the problem by setting up a direct debit with his most financially unreliable friend, with that friend’s full agreement.

But the real drama started when the rest of his social circle somehow decided that his fair agreement was really a manipulative strong-arming tactic.

You’ll want to keep reading until the end on this one.

AITA for having my friend set up a Direct Debit with me

I’m going on holiday with my mates in September and I somehow got roped into being the one to make the booking — fine, whatever, I can handle that responsibility.

Due to me making that booking, I am also the one responsible for making the payments.

This would soon prove to be a taxing job.

Me and my mates are all paying in installments and we’re all paying separately.

All 4 of us are paying around £153 each.

Now, 2 of my mates are generally okay with paying as long as I tell them — I will usually get it when I ask.

The thing is, he doesn’t trust some of his friends when it comes to money.

One of my other friends is notorious when it comes to making payments, as it can usually be late, or you would have to chase him on multiple occasions.

Yeah, no thanks — that’s why I thought it would be a good idea to set up a direct debit with him and only him.

This seems the logical choice for several reasons.

I’d hope for something as expensive as a holiday he would pay as and when I ask, but forgive me for not wanting to take any chances.

With a direct debit, I know I’ll get the money, it saves me having to chase him, and it saves him from having me hound him — because he knows I will.

He knows he can come off tough, but that’s what it takes sometimes.

I do have a habit of going full debt collector on people, but if they want me to do the booking, well then they are well aware of how I am — don’t say I didn’t warn them.

Anyway, all of this to say I’m now getting grief for “strong-arming” him into paying.

Personally, I don’t think I am — I’m not forcing him to set up a direct debit, I told him it may be a good idea and I’d like him to, and left it at that.

He decided to set one up — at no point have I forced him, and he can cancel it at any time.

That’s the beauty of a direct debit.

Now, some others in his social circle are making him feel bad about it.

I’m being told by other friends and some family that I may have made him feel like he had no choice, because he knows I’ll be on his case if he isn’t on time — but that is specifically what I’m trying to avoid here.

It’s not like it’s hard for him to pay — yes, he has got bills to pay and all, but he is never, ever hard for cash.

He has the most disposable income out of us all.

AITA?

When you put yourself on the line financially, you have to make sure you’re not going to be left out to dry.

What did Reddit make of all this?

If his friend really is embarrassed, then there’s a pretty simple solution for that.

If it were this commenter, they would say something like this.

Maybe this whole thing could have been kept a little more hush-hush.

This user concludes this friend deserves the treatment he’s getting.

Strong-arming is a strong word choice for a voluntary, cancellable payment setup with the one person in the group who has a documented history of going quiet when money is due.

Maybe his other friends don’t understand because they’ve never been burdened with the responsibility of handling everyone else’s money.

Being in charge of planning a trip isn’t an easy job, but none of his other friends were offering to step up to the plate. They only felt like criticizing him from a distance.

The rest of his friends can either take the lead next time or shut their mouths.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about parents who want their young adult son to pay more toward household expenses.

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Imagine working in a call center, and you have a system that has worked well for a long time. What would you do if a new supervisor got promoted and decided that she needed to change this system? Would you comply or try to convince her that her idea is a bad idea?

Sometimes the best way to convince someone that their idea is a bad idea is by complying, and that’s exactly what happened in this story. The new supervisor seems to have micromanager tendencies and wanted to know where everyone was going if they needed to leave their desk for a minute.

Let’s just say that oversharing in the workplace can be pretty awkward and pretty funny.

Keep reading for the whole story.

Supervisor said ‘don’t just type BRB.’ So I told the whole team I had to use the restroom.

So this recently happened in my call center type job.

My brand-new supervisor, promoted for all the wrong reasons, wasn’t exactly qualified. I could write a whole post on that but the gist is she only got promoted because she was friends with the boss and is always giving him advice on the women he dates.

Anyway, we had a Teams chat where we kept each other updated and asked for help with things.

Normal procedure was simple: if you stepped away, we would typically just type “brb” so everyone knew you weren’t available for calls. Did this for years with no issues.

Is this really necessary?

Well, new supervisor decides that’s not good enough. She needs to assert control and dominance. She announced to us in, one-on-one convos, that we all had to start giving specific reasons for why we were stepping away.

I told her I wasn’t really comfortable announcing to the entire team every time I had to use the bathroom.

She basically shrugged and said, “It’s the rule. We need transparency so I know what everyone’s doing.”

Ok? We’ve had no issues for years, but whatever she says goes I guess.

She wants specific, she’ll get specific.

The very next time nature called, instead of a boring “brb,” I typed: “BRB. Going to go number 2 in the bathroom.”

Immediately she pmed me in Teams saying that was “not professional.”

I reminded her she told us to be specific, and I was just following directions.

This is funny!

After that, others started joining in. Some favorites were:

• “BRB. Gonna stand in front of the urinal and do an impression of a water fountain”
• “BRB. Going to blow my nose to try to dislodge this giant booger.”

Within a week, the supervisor started telling us we didn’t need to be so specific when stepping away from our desks. Like, yeah, we know.

Sometimes complying is the best way for a manager to realize how ridiculous the rules are.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who stops speaking up in his Zoom meetings after getting constantly interrupted.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this story.

This person wants to know more.

Another person did something similar.

This is a good point.

That’s the best part!

She should’ve seen this coming. Don’t ask for people to be too specific about why they need to leave their desk for a minute. You may not like the answer.

The best part of this story really was the coworkers joining in and getting creative with their explanations about where they were going.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about an employee who just let clients complain after her boss refused to approve overtime.

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