Relationship Power

Top Aphrodisiac: Respect

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 23:32:51 PDT

Respecting your relationship partner and understanding his or her needs has been talked about by sexuality therapists for a long time. Intimacy need not be centered on intercourse and ejaculation.

There are a variety ways to please your partner sexually -- and some of the very best, most unique ways can be discovered through direct conversation with your partner. To find out what your partner finds most pleasurable, ask him/her. That's right -- just ask!

Without exception, the most meaningful intimate relationships begin with respect. Try it with your loving partner. Find out what a great turn-on respect can be!

Natural Aphrodisiacs - Do They Work?

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 22:45:00 PDT

Researchers at the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, have done extensive review of dozens of studies investigating aphrodisiac powers. According to the results, reported in Live Science (livescience.com), substances with the most potential were Korean (red) ginseng and saffron.

Ginseng likely works in much the same way as does Viagra. Most probably, it relaxes muscles and improves blood flow to the genital region.

In addition, in animal studies, ginger, garlic, cloves, and nutmeg proved to be at least moderately effective. Aphrodisiacs are substances that increase sexual desire, or libido, and -- possibly -- enhance sexual pleasure.

Prior to trying exotic substances, a better option is to improve your health. A 2007 report in the American Journal of Medicine disclosed that erectile dysfunction is highly correlated with poor physical health and inactivity. Hence, healthy diet and exercise are advocated. The side effects of exercise and diet include better self-confidence, which just might be the best aphrodisiac around!

Valentine's Day: Romance to Intimacy!

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Sat, 12 Feb 2011 14:53:03 PST

Valentine's Day is almost here! What does that mean to you?

Saint Valentine's Day, commonly shortened to Valentine's Day, is an annual commemoration held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions. The day is named after one or more early Christian martyrs, Saint Valentine, and was established by Pope Gelasius I in 500 AD. It was deleted from the Roman calendar of saints in 1969 by Pope Paul VI, but its religious observance is still permitted. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines").

The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

Modern Valentine's Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards. So, Valentine's Day offers the PERFECT opportunity to express to a Loved One just how strongly you love him/her.

How might you do that?

Here are 14 creative ideas for you: Valentine's Day -- Special Ideas of Love to let your Loved One know how deeply you care.

Sexuality Survey Findings

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 19:32:09 PDT

In a new study, lead researchers from Indiana University's Center for Sexual Health Promotion report intriguing new findings. New data has been unveiled in what the researchers say is the largest, most comprehensive national survey of Americans' sexual behavior since 1994's "National Health and Social Life Survey". These findings come more than 60 years after the Kinsey report, "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male".

Filling 130 pages of a special issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the study offers detailed findings on how often Americans have sex, with whom, and how they respond. In all, 5,865 people, ranging in age from 14 to 94, participated in the survey. A number of researchers functioned as lead author for different facets of the survey.

The researchers said they were struck by the variety of ways in which the subjects engaged in sex — 41 different combinations of sexual acts were tallied. These encompassed vaginal and anal intercourse, oral sex, and partnered masturbation.

Men are more likely to experience orgasm when vaginal intercourse is involved, while women are more likely to reach orgasm when they engage in variety of acts, including oral sex, said researcher Debra Herbenick, lead author of the section about women's sex lives.

Looking for Help for Your Relationship?

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 19:04:15 PDT

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Get Your Relationship Back on Track!

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 18:33:05 PDT

* Do you feel as though your relationship has been stagnating?

* Are you dissatisfied with some aspect of your partnership intimacy?

* Would you like to put some sizzle into your interaction with your partner?

If you are ready to stop struggling to maintain the status quo -- ready to stop settling -- this post is for YOU! Perhaps you want to renew your relationship passion, but don't know where to start ... ?

If this describes you, TODAY is the day to sit down with your partner and 'fess up! Make time -- today -- to tell your partner your feelings. Today is the time to talk with your partner about what each of you wants in your relationship.

Go ahead -- make a list!

Writing down your relationship dreams and aspirations

will enable the two of you to get started on the most-pressing issue, without losing track of all of the other items you both want! This will insure that you have variety and satisfaction in your relationship for years to come!

So, how do you start? you ask ...

Call your partner right now and tell him/her that you want to have a relationship discussion. Plan a solid time today ... and write it down in each of your calendars. When it is that time, sit down together and begin your list. You don't have to DO the list yet! So allow yourselves to be free to "blue sky" ... and include each and every experience that you would like your relationship to include.

Get ready -- Doing this marks the beginning of a renaissance in your relationship!

Sleep ... Perchance to Dream Sexually

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 14:55:44 PDT

ScienceDaily (June 15, 2007) — In detailed research conducted at the Universite de Montreal investigation of the actual nature and content of sexual dreams was undertaken. In a large sample of dream reports from both men and women, approximately eight percent of everyday dream reports from both genders contain some form of sexual-related activity.

In this study, authored by Antonio Zadra, PhD, over 3,500 home dream reports were collected from men and women. Sexual intercourse was the most common type of sexual dream content, followed by sexual propositions, kissing, fantasies and masturbation.

The study found that both men and women reported experiencing an orgasm in about four percent of their sexual dreams. Orgasms were described as being experienced by another dream character in four percent of the women's sexual dreams, but in none of the male dream reports. Current or past partners were identified in 20 percent of women's sexual dreams, compared to 14 percent for men, and public figures were twice as likely to be the object of women's sexual dream content.

"Observed gender differences may be indicative of different waking needs, experiences, desires and attitudes with respect to sexuality," said Zadra. "This is consistent with the continuity hypothesis of dreaming which postulates that the content of everyday dreams reflects the dreamer's waking states and concerns -- that is, that dream and waking thought contents are continuous."

An abstract of this research was presented June 14 at SLEEP 2007, the 21st Annual Meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep Societies.

With Age, Better Health Means Better Sex

Marlene Shiple, Ph.D. — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 20:00:56 PST

TUESDAY, March 9 (HealthDay News) – New research looks at sexuality and sexual activity in a scientific way. In a deviation from the frequent scientific focus that often centers on illness, this new study looks at health and well-being. It looks at elements that affect quality of life – having a good sex life being critical to overall quality of life.

According to research conducted by University of Chicago’s Program in Integrative Sexual Medicine, better health equates to better sex lives. These researchers also found that healthy people were more likely to engage in sex -- and good sex at that. Those in good health were more apt to express an interest in sex.

This new research also found that this association held firm into middle-age and later life as well. This research was published in the March 10 issue of the British Medical Journal.

The study authors examined two different samples of more than 3,000 adults each – in one, the subjects were aged 25 to 74; in the second, the subjects were aged 57 to 85. Both groups contained an equal number of men and women. Subjects were interviewed and filled in questionnaires on their marital status, their health (rated on a scale from excellent to poor), the quality of their sex lives and how often they had sex.

The study’s authors created a novel measure called "sexually active life expectancy." According to this new measure, men aged 55 could expect another 15 years of sex while women of the same age could expect about 11 more active sexual years.

This research provides even-more evidence of the far-reaching benefits of good health. An active sexual relationship nourishes intimacy and satisfaction. Having good sexual interaction -- both in frequency and in level of gratification -- in turn, can function to deepen a relationship, providing stronger, more enduring partnerships.

In order to have good health in older age, it is important to attend to good health TODAY! Good health today makes for a stronger, healthier body today, tomorrow and throughout tomorrow's tomorrows. Good health is an experience that requires attention each and every day ... and the best time to start is NOW! What one thing can you do -- today -- to implement stronger, better health for the GOOD of your life? I invite you to do it ... and to do it each and every day thereafter.

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