Stop the Abuse

RIHANNA AND CHRIS BROWN BATTERING

2009-03-11T23:10:51-07:00

We've all read the story now -- the rented Lamborghini, the text message from Chris Brown's manager (supposedly asking to meet up with him later in the evening), Rihanna's anger and Brown's physically hitting and biting her, ultimately strangling her...

100 WAYS TO LEAVE AN ABUSER (SAFELY)

2008-07-17T01:45:55-07:00

After we've come out of our denial that we're being abused ("It's really not so bad.") -- when we're ready to walk away from family pressure ("You must keep the family together.") -- when religious beliefs no longer hold us...

100 WAYS TO SPOT AN ABUSER

2008-07-15T22:23:10-07:00

People who abuse us don't usually show that behavior in the beginning of our relationship with them. They're on their good behavior when we first meet them -- and on through the infatuation phase. It's when things begin to settle...

MAY VOTED Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month

2008-04-24T01:20:15-07:00

Hurray !! Borderline Personality Disorder is finally getting some governmental attention. On April 1, 2008, the U. S. House of Representatives voted 414-0 to adopt H. Res. 1005, a resolution supporting the goals and ideals of Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness...

BEHAVIORS INDICATING Borderline Personality Disorder

2008-04-09T23:45:42-07:00

Does your partner act like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? On my web site, I have a section titled Red Flags (http://www.boomeranglove.com/asp/redflags-20.asp. Here you can study over 80 behaviors that indicate the possible presence of Borderline Personality Disorder. Dr. J....

MOST DANGEROUS TIME TO LEAVE: 1st Two Weeks

2008-04-09T02:57:11-07:00

The April 2, 2006, issue of the Louisiana Shreveport Times points up once more the danger of those first two weeks when we either leave our abusive relationship -- or simply 'announce' that we're leaving. The above news piece reports...

BORDERLINE SEX/PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION

2008-04-06T12:37:01-07:00

SUCCESSFUL TREATMENT FOR BORDERLINES

2008-03-26T02:04:15-07:00

Dr. Marsha Linehan of the University of Washington in Seattle created a program that has been effective in treating Borderline Personality Disorder -- Dialectical Behavior Therapy. However, it's not an easy program for Borderlines to grasp and takes years to...

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & BORDERLINE BEHAVIOR COMPARED

2008-03-18T19:11:22-07:00

Statistically, it's estimated that 30 to 60 percent of domestic violence abusers are suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder . So why doesn't the domestic violence industry (administrators, organizations, shelters, counselors, legislators) tell DV victims about that? I believe that if...

PROTECTION FROM ABUSE: Lifeline Calls the Cops

2008-03-15T21:28:18-07:00

I'm again horrified to read of two murder-suicides this last week -- two domestic violence abusers, one killing his fiance and the other murdering his girlfriend, before killing themselves. Kathy Acompanado was stabbed to death in Milwaukee, WI, and Tina...

RELIGIOUS LEADERS LEARN: "Safety First" for Abuse Victims

2007-05-24T01:59:30-07:00

Ever gone to a religious leader/counselor for help with your abusive relationship and been told to forgive, try harder to be a good spouse, reminded of your marriage vows of "til death do we part" -- wanting to scream that...

TEEN DATING VIOLENCE is as Serious as Adult Domestic Violence

2007-02-13T02:05:55-08:00

I was astonished to read in the Princeton, Illinois, Bureau County Republican newspaper that one in five teens in a serious relationship report they have been hit, slapped or pushed by a partner. Puppy love seems so cute, doesn't it?...

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE vs Blind Acceptance of Abuse

2007-02-12T01:46:00-08:00

One of my joys is relationship coaching people as they crawl their way out of their abusive relationship -- whether it be someone who's been physically abused or just emotionally abused (as if one was only Abuse Lite). All of...

COURT: Previous Physical Abuse Will Be Revealed

2007-02-11T03:47:00-08:00

Hello, faithful readers. I'm back, after a much-needed break. Being a book author and a public speaker and a relationship coach -- not to mention taking care of my long term care insurance clients (see my website for bio details...

ONLINE SANCTUARY FOR THE ABUSED

2006-09-04T12:32:45-07:00

Put this site in your Favorites on your computer -- www.abusesanctuary.blogspot.com -- you'll love it. The author of this wonderful blog has compiled the most incredible array of information, compassion, education and support for people caught in the web of...

SIGNS YOUR ABUSER MAY KILL YOU

2006-05-24T13:43:49-07:00

Television station W T R F (covering the areas of Wheeling, West Virginia, and Steubenville, Ohio), reported on May 23, 2006, that there are definite signs that an abuser -- whether past behavior has been just emotional abuse or actual...

HIGH FIVES: Police Donate Computers to Aid DV Victims

2006-05-17T15:04:01-07:00

The April 19, 2006, issue of the Richmond Times-Dispatch in Richmond, Virginia, reports that the Police Department has donated three new Dell computers to the YMCA for use in its safe houses for victims of domestic abuse. The purpose is...

HOW TO GET A DIVORCE WHEN YOU'RE BROKE

2006-05-16T11:07:28-07:00

One of the biggest hurdles for people freeing themselves from abusive relationships is lack of money -- cash for first and last month's apartment deposit, our car . . . sometimes our very food. What happens, then, when we have...

HIGH FIVES: Boston Wants to Create a Statewide Notification System for Victims

2006-05-16T00:19:00-07:00

Good news in Boston this week. The May 12, 2006, issue of the Boston Globe reports that the state legislature's Public Safety Committee is recommending that a statewide notification system be created to notify victims when their previous abuser is...

HIGH FIVES: Wausau Volunteers Provide Shelter to Pets of Victims Fleeing Abuse

2006-05-15T00:37:00-07:00

More good news for domestic violence victims and their pets. The May 14, 2006, issue of the Wausau Daily Herald in Wausau, Wisconsin, features the generous partnership between the Humane Society of Marathon County and the Women's Community (an agency...