Watching celebrities self-destruct is an awful fascination. Everything they do is splashed across the tabloids, dissected on talk radio, highlighted on quasi-news and entertainment shows. It's tough to watch but impossible to ignore. Maybe I'll feel better about celebrity-watching if I can take a lesson from the recent misfortunes of Paris Hilton.
Lesson No. 1: Self-control. If I could have given Paris one piece of advice, that's what I would have told her. Take a step back and think. Spend less time trying to manipulate your environment, and more time controlling yourself.
Most people mistakenly believe that the key to success is based on their ability to affect others, to get everyone else to act or think differently in relation to themselves. All their time and energy is directed towards controlling everyone and everything around them.
Let's face it, if the Hiltons of this world are unable to control their environment, then the rest of us certainly have no chance of accomplishing this either.
Concentrate on what you CAN control. Put your efforts into doing the very best job you can do under the circumstances. Take responsibility for yourself and the outcomes you're supposed to deliver.
Lesson No. 2: Wait. Control the impulse to act in the moment without thinking through the impact your need to express yourself now, to be "in the mix." will have on your career. Some people seem to have their engines always idling, just waiting for the flag to drop so they can put their foot down and do what feels best. Now, this instant, no waiting, no self-editing.
Wait. Think things through. Look at the big picture. Rein in your ego. Be a grown-up! It's not all about you and your self-expression. Instant gratification lasts a short while; your career lasts a long time, and the image you establish lasts forever.
Lesson No 3: Self-management. Adapt yourself to stay current and be relevant. Paris-it's not good to be a has-been at the age of 26.
The key is to be self-aware and have the ability to adapt to whatever changes are being thrust upon us. Our environment is unpredictable. I don't want to quote the chaos theory or suggest that the world is out of control, but everything is changing all the time and our ability to adapt is critical. This is especially true the higher we climb in a company. Most successful executives realize that what separates them from the wannabe's is their ability to adapt to situations. They do not expect the world around them to change to meet their needs. Sometimes this type of "adaptive" behavior is construed by others as being a chameleon or of being a "political animal." But really it's simply smart to know what's going on in the bigger world.
Lots of lessons. Hopefully Paris will take the call.