Ani Ram's Relationship Secrets

Secret No. 46: Women lie

admin — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 04:03:22 +0000

“John,” my husband’s colleague, a 40 year old divorcee with 3 kids, was asking my husband if I had any single girlfriends for him. My husband told him that I had plenty of single girlfriends (true) who would love to go out with him (false). So last time John stopped by our place they approached [...]

Secret No. 45: It’s a Baby Threesome!

admin — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 12:56:52 +0000

Hello my dear readers and sorry about the long hiatus! The last twelve months have been a bit busy as my husband and I welcomed our first baby (girl). Unfortunately, blogging had to take a backseat to puking, heartburn, bloating, stretch marks, mood swings, back pain, shopping, nesting, and laboring, which then led to baby-shit, [...]

Secret No. 44: Just because you sleep there, that doesn’t make you his wife!

admin — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 21:53:36 +0000

A while ago, I wrote the post Just Because You Sleep There, Doesn’t Mean You Live There! Now, an even more important fact: Just because you sleep there, that doesn’t make you his wife! Women everywhere are in dead-end relationships. Meaning, they are in relationships that will never lead to the ultimate next [...]

Secret No. 43: Some first dates will be worse than others!

admin — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:01:03 +0000

When I tell you about a first date that one of my girlfriends went on, you’re not going to believe it. She had met – I’ll call him “The Stand Up Guy” – at a speed dating event, and they made plans to go on a “real” date together. The plan was to meet in [...]

Secret No. 42: First you date that guy and then you marry him!

admin — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 11:41:52 +0000

I came home and noticed there was a box outside the front door. I was pretty sure that it couldn’t have been anything for me, so I left it for my husband. My husband came home, saw the box, brought it inside and began to open it with much joy. “Hmm” I thought, “what’s [...]

Secret No. 41: Throw the dog a bone

admin — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:57:05 +0000

Speaking with a male coworker the other day gave me another male perspective on relationships. We were talking about living the married life and, with no hesitation, he made a statement that was just as obvious as it was disturbing. Like many men before him, he said that “the woman has to always be right.” [...]

Secret No. 40: When you are married, there are two points of view to everything!

admin — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:49:04 +0000

Living with my husband for almost two years now has made one thing clear: there are two points of view to everything! What a wake-up call. Growing up, you realize that your opinion differ from your parents’. Once you are a grown up, you realize that your opinions differ from your friends’. You might ask [...]

Secret No. 39: There are no perfect couples!

admin — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 00:57:45 +0000

Hi Ani Ram, I have been reading your blog for about six months now and I really enjoy it. I almost always agree with the advice you give and I think you are very rationale and see both sides (male and female) well. I’m going to be 28 in August and my boyfriend just turned [...]

Secret No. 38: If you want to be independent, then you don’t want to be in a relationship!

admin — Tue, 19 May 2009 10:58:24 +0000

The more I search for dating and relationship advice, the more I notice a recurring theme in advice articles for women. Whether it’s relationship experts or random opinion-givers, everyone is encouraging women to reclaim their independence. I am convinced that this is one of the main reasons so many women are single and are having [...]

Secret No. 37: Neediness is so uncool!

admin — Thu, 14 May 2009 10:29:22 +0000

One of the best ways to find out what men like and dislike about women is to hear that from men themselves. That’s why I often frequent the site askmen.com. It has a section called “Dating & Sex” that contains articles and advice about dealing with women, for men and by men. And getting the [...]