Ani Ram's Relationship Secrets

Secret No. 44: Just because you sleep there, that doesn’t make you his wife!

admin — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 21:53:36 +0000

A while ago, I wrote the post Just Because You Sleep There, Doesn’t Mean You Live There! Now, an even more important fact: Just because you sleep there, that doesn’t make you his wife! Women everywhere are in dead-end relationships. Meaning, they are in relationships that will never lead to the ultimate next [...]

Secret No. 43: Some first dates will be worse than others!

admin — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:01:03 +0000

When I tell you about a first date that one of my girlfriends went on, you’re not going to believe it. She had met – I’ll call him “The Stand Up Guy” – at a speed dating event, and they made plans to go on a “real” date together. The plan was to meet in [...]

Secret No. 42: First you date that guy and then you marry him!

admin — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 11:41:52 +0000

I came home and noticed there was a box outside the front door. I was pretty sure that it couldn’t have been anything for me, so I left it for my husband. My husband came home, saw the box, brought it inside and began to open it with much joy. “Hmm” I thought, “what’s [...]

Secret No. 41: Throw the dog a bone

admin — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 00:57:05 +0000

Speaking with a male coworker the other day gave me another male perspective on relationships. We were talking about living the married life and, with no hesitation, he made a statement that was just as obvious as it was disturbing. Like many men before him, he said that “the woman has to always be right.” [...]

Secret No. 40: When you are married, there are two points of view to everything!

admin — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 13:49:04 +0000

Living with my husband for almost two years now has made one thing clear: there are two points of view to everything! What a wake-up call. Growing up, you realize that your opinion differ from your parents’. Once you are a grown up, you realize that your opinions differ from your friends’. You might ask [...]

Secret No. 39: There are no perfect couples!

admin — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 00:57:45 +0000

Hi Ani Ram, I have been reading your blog for about six months now and I really enjoy it. I almost always agree with the advice you give and I think you are very rationale and see both sides (male and female) well. I’m going to be 28 in August and my boyfriend just turned [...]

Secret No. 38: If you want to be independent, then you don’t want to be in a relationship!

admin — Tue, 19 May 2009 10:58:24 +0000

The more I search for dating and relationship advice, the more I notice a recurring theme in advice articles for women. Whether it’s relationship experts or random opinion-givers, everyone is encouraging women to reclaim their independence. I am convinced that this is one of the main reasons so many women are single and are having [...]

Secret No. 37: Neediness is so uncool!

admin — Thu, 14 May 2009 10:29:22 +0000

One of the best ways to find out what men like and dislike about women is to hear that from men themselves. That’s why I often frequent the site askmen.com. It has a section called “Dating & Sex” that contains articles and advice about dealing with women, for men and by men. And getting the [...]

Secret No. 36: Love is just another game of sports!

admin — Sun, 03 May 2009 15:49:49 +0000

Wouldn’t you love it if every time you changed something about your appearance your man noticed? Or if he complimented you on the way you styled your hair? Or if he told you how much he missed you or how much he had been thinking about you all day? Of course you’d love that! Any [...]

Secret No. 35: Good flirting skills are all about technique!

admin — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 16:59:00 +0000

If you are someone who is really bad at flirting (a non-flirt), then this video is for you! Flirting is a highly desirable skill and you know if you have it. I remember watching girls flirt with guys and thinking “How does she do that? I could never flirt like that!” Now I realize that [...]