I’m am NOT against personal accountability at all but…Hmmm, I think some thought needs to be given to what family structure in the US is (the whole nuclear family thing), where the concept comes from, how Black people came to make an attempt to adapt to it or adopt it, what forces were, and still are, in place to thwart that assimilation and where the destruction of the previously existing ideas of family went (the village, communal, family model) and what went into destoying them. We are sometimes too quick “fire shots” at ourselves without realizing we are a different, I mean fundamentally different, type of folks and what’s good for the goose ain’t always good for the gander. I feel the same way about education and how it’s administered, but that’s a whole different can of worms. There are too many pervasive issues in the Black community at large for me to get on board with strictly “bad judgement” argument and I certainly ain’t about to compare bothas (or sistas) to white folk in this way.

So, to me, when the question is “are absentee fathers to blame” or “should women take some of the blame”, my first answer is we do take plenty of it. No nobody’s demonized in America like the “African American” woman (I say African American and not black because we get a harder rap than non-american black women, IMO). My second answer is no because we aslo suffer the affects of black men’s absence from our homes and communities. Women aren’t always the victims but we’re victims too.

Also, I’m aware that this isn’t always the case and many Black women raise wonderful sistas without a man and many women with a daddy choose poorly.

yup, yup and yup…

I am now fulfilled as a human being because I thought it was just me! I cried for a good long time and can’t watch the movie because of this danged scene!