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Erectile Dysfunction: Nothing Seems To Be Working

2013-05-24T10:04:00.001+01:00

Hello aunty Eya, thanks once again for this wonderful forum, I can’t thank you enough for giving us the opportunity to share our worries with all the wonderful people on WC.

Thank you to all the wonderful commenters, although we sometimes don’t agree Jbut I’m learning a lot. Aunty Eya, this is a very sensitive issue and I trust you to hide my identity. For the purpose of this post I’d like to be referred to as a “troubled wife”

My wonderful blog fam pls i need advice on a serious issue that had been

bothering me for almost a year now. I’m not very comfortable talking about this but i know a problem shared is a problem half solved. Perhaps some of u have gone through or are presently going through what I’m experiencing in my marriage you will be able to advise me.

My husband has erectile dysfunction and we are in our fourth year of marriage. We met in 2006 and started dating and in 2007 he started loosing weight drastically. He had to go to hospital because the weight loss was really alarming.

After series of tests, he was diagnosed with diabetes and he was placed on insulin. I know if diabetes is not properly managed it could lead to other health issues, erectile dysfunction inclusive.

I didn’t see that as an issue if he takes his insulin, does regular check-ups and stays off certain foods and i went ahead and married him in 2008....fast-forward 3 years later he started having issues with having an erection, if he does it is very limp and sustaining it was also an issue.

I am really troubled about this because we’ve been TTC and we might not even have sex in a month....i have done everything i can to ensure he has and maintains an erection but nothing seems to be working. He’s eating the right food, exercising and doing all he has to do to manage the diabetes. He’s been to the doctor’s and he was given Viagra after taking it he had severe waist pains for two days, the same thing happened a second time and still he didn’t have an erection.

Sometimes, i spend almost an hour touching and giving him a BJ to get it up all to no avail, we decided to watch porn together thinking it would help but that didn’t help either. In my quest for solution, I read somewhere that using toys with ur spouse could help and we decided to get some toys he was able to have an erection and sustained it the first time and that was it.

I am extremely worried about this issue, perhaps there’s something we haven’t tried yet and I’ll appreciate it if my fellow WC readers can advise me on what to do.

Many thanks Aunty Eya.

Troubled wife

It Is Possible To Love Two Women At The Same Time?

2013-05-24T09:47:00.002+01:00

Hello Eya,
I am a male reader of your blog who just found the blog and am so addicted. I can't leave comments, don't know if it's because I browse with a phone.

There was a topic you posted where someone wanted to know if it's possible for a man to love two women at the same time. My answer is yes It's possible! I am
a man. There was a point in my life before I got married when it became almost impossible for me to make up my mind cos I had two babes who actually didn't know and never met each other. I had suffered heartbreaks in the past and wanted to safeguard my heart. My dating two wasn't for any but to help me too. I also wanted to compare kind of before taking a final decision. You can judge me if you like.

At a point, I fell in love with both. It wasn't a case of liking one for something and wanting the other for her good cooking skills or anything. It was a matter of the heart. I fell deeply in love with both women. Had feelings for those and couldn't bear to let any go. The story sure ended with one and I'm happily married.

I want to let you women know that as humans, we try as much as possible to be disciplined, God fearing and to abide by Societal norms. That is not to say it's impossible for a man to be in love with two women.
It is very possible. Take that from me.

Is It OK To Be In Touch With Your Exes?

2013-05-24T09:26:00.000+01:00

Hi Aunty Eya, how are you?

I want your readers to answer this question.

Please, is it ever Ok to be in touch with your exes as a married woman or man? Under what

circumstance is that?

This question has been asked several times in different places but I want to know what your readers think. Can you really be friends with an ex you slept with, with no strings attached?

HOW TO AFFAIR-PROOF YOUR MARRIAGE

2013-05-24T07:56:00.000+01:00

Hello Aunty Eya, sure you are doing good! May d good Lord bless you immensely for your good works.. Just wanted to share the below points here for us all to learn and have it in our hearts always... Hoping by doing so, we will have less troubles in our homes and our society at large...

Please note that you can avoid adultery, it is within your power to do it,if you really mean it,carelessness is one of the major causes of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error. So follow the following simple rules you will never fall into adultery.

1: Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate
discussions

2: Never be with anybody of the opposite sex at the time your spouse must never know you are there.

3 Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody,they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

3: Be proud to use your wedding ring outside,let them know you are married and proud to be.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIRS thrive in secrecy.

7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to,don't dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favors from the opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don't know what their spouses are enduring at home,what you are seeing outside is just a show biz don't be deceived. The grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body,your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other,it is only faces that are different it is the same package.

To be continued.....

Much love to my blog family.
CUTE-D

Possible Cheating Husband: What should I do?

2013-05-23T19:37:00.001+01:00

Hello Aunty Eya,
I just recently started following your blog and coincidentally I need advice from you and your blog subscribers. I got married about 6months ago and I am currently pregnant with our first child. A top priority of mine in life has been to get married for one thing, Love. As I desire happiness more than material things. I applied that to my marriage. I got married to a man I love and with previous indications he would make me happy.

He is far from poor, infact he is average and
provides for me beyond needs. My problem is, recently I started noticing strange calls whenever I am with my husband. Calls from a particular girl. And then calls from several girls. He has never given me a reason to doubt him but I just suddenly had this gut feeling something was wrong.

He has started hiding to pick calls, cancelling messages and going out at odd hours. I generally do not agree with spying and checking phones but I decided to try and see what I will find. I found out he has been having ongoing conversations with a particular girl for months. He calls her about 3 times a day and they exchange msgs which he deletes. The other day she Sent him a message saying she misses him, wants him to touch her and called him 'darling'. My husband replied and then deleted the message.

I'm livid! There is obviously something going on between him and this girl or am I being unreasonable? Whenever I try to talk to him about these types of issues, he either ignores me, gives vague answers or refuses to talk completely. I have suddenly become really sad and depressed and I feel it will affect my baby, please advice me on what to do...honest and non-judgemental advice please, I'm already emotional. Please keep me anonymous Anty Enya. Don't post my email or name, thanks.
Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN

Is It Right For My Husband To Invite A Lady To The House Without My Knowledge?

2013-05-23T15:55:00.001+01:00

Hi Aunty Eya! I'd like to remain anonymous if you choose to post this. I have a question for you. Is it right for a man to invite a female friend over to his house and entertain said friend in said house without his wife's knowledge? I'm bothered because said friend is a woman I've never met before.

She supposedly came into town from Abuja on a leisure trip and my hubby invited her over. I didn't even know any such person was in Lagos. My husband and I left the house together in the morning and at no time did he mention this visit. Only later did I find out that he returned home a few hours later with this woman, had lunch and even watched a movie! Matter of fact, I didn't even know this person exists and I'm not sure I believe she does.

I believe it's someone else and he's using his friend's sister as cover. I can't imagine ANY man coming to visit in my hubby's absence and without his knowledge. It just feels wrong. Anything you have to hide from people is undoubtedly wrong.

So please dear aunty and readers, is it right for such a woman to be in my house without my knowledge and in my absence during the work day?

Advice Please: Should I be Worried?

2013-05-23T12:33:00.000+01:00

Dear Eya,
I am an avid reader of your blog, I love this family! I need your advice and the advice of pple in the house ASAP.
Before I got married, some months ago, there is this friend of my husband, a female, they are very close.

Always chatting and calling and exchanging texts. I never read anything into it until some weeks to our wedding I saw some text messages I wasn't comfortable with.... With stuffs like " missing u right now" love you" dear" sweetie" i saw it quite mistakenly wen I was searching for something else o, I do not snoop! Besides I see him like a very good guy, God fearing and all. I brought it to his notice, he said if i am nt comfortable he will stop talking to her in such deep terms, he apologized.

Again, during our honeymoon when all his attention should have been on me, he was constantly calling this same girl, in fact she complained about something and my husband was so worried all through that day, he kept on discussing her plight with me and ways he could help it bothered him so much it spoilt my whole day.

There was this time she followed him somewhere and they came to pick me up he said I didn't greet her well!

They still talk almost everyday on fone, I try not to let it bother me until two weeks ago I saw some messages again!!!! He calls her his love, she calls him her love, they talk about "their song" .

I feel they have a bond. Like She is the third person in my marriage. She is always there. Should I be worried? Please Men in the house, what is your honest opinions?

Eya dear, pls withold my email add and identity. God bless you.

Palm Oil Rice With Fried Fish By MizOsa

2013-05-23T12:21:00.002+01:00

A plate of palm oil rice with fried fish

Step 1: parboil your rice.
Step 2: put palm oil in a pot. And add sliced onion, fresh pepper, Cray fish and maggi.
Step 3: pour you wash rice in the palm oil. Add water , salt and stir.
Cover and allow to boil.
Step 4: fry your fish.
Serve when the rice is soft.

Parboiling rice

Onion and fresh pepper

Heating palm oil

Frying pepper and onion

Adding crayfish and Maggi

Washed parboiled rice

pour your washed rice into the palm oil. Add water , salt and stir.

Adding spices to washed fish

Well spiced fish waiting to be fried

Frying fish in hot oil

Cooked palm oil rice

A serving of yummy rice with fried fish.
MizOsa is a student with great cooking skills.
Enjoy!

Malt Drink For Children, Is It OK?

2013-05-23T05:26:00.000+01:00

Hello Eya, how are you and the blog fam? I have a little thing I would love to ask people in the house.
A friend saw me putting a can of Amstel Malta drink in my 8 year old's lunchbox and she condemned it that it's not healthy for children.

She suggested that I give them other packed fruit juices (which are all
loaded with sugar and/or saccharine anyway) or Fanta and sprite instead. This got me confused cos I give my children malt drinks. I was worried after that suggestion and thought the best place to bring this is on the blog where other people can put me through. Please I would like to know why it's OK or not to give malt drinks to children.
Thank you all.

Breakast Idea 8

2013-05-23T05:09:00.001+01:00

Turkey Ham with Sardine Toast

Ham toast with vegetable salad

This was actually for two different people. I arranged tham together for pics. The toast went somewhere, while the salad went to my baby that requested for tomato in her salad. I don't like ham and can't eat tomato salad without dressing.

I think this combination is healthy, except for the margarine and processed meat. But come, watching our weight doesn't mean we avoid delicious meals. No, afterall I watched a programme on TV where the Director of Ayodele slimmers advised her clients to eat everything but with moderation. She warned against trying to avoid some food cos that will make you crave the more for those.

The ham and sardine were not mixed or used on the same toast. They were put on separate slices of bread. I took the sardine onion toast. Adding onion to your sardine toast will give it a very yummy flavour and taste. The onion cooks in sardine and changes that sardine taste. Don't forget, you can add boiled eggs to sardine toast. Just cut into tiny slices and place on the bread before closing.

Ingredients:

Wheat bread
Margarine
Turkey ham
Sardine
Onion

For Salad:

Cucumber
Lettuce
Tomatoes
Italian Dressing

Rubbing margarine on wheat bread

Putting Turkey ham on bread

Ham toast with vegetable salad

Sardine toast with salad.

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What Do I Add To Cakes?

2013-05-23T04:29:00.001+01:00

Dear Aunt Eya
Thanks so much for this blog. I must confess I have learnt a lot from it. God bless you real good. Your recipe for stew and native chicken was a great hit in my house.

Please, I have a question to ask, I always feel there is something missing from
my cakes after I bake them. Even if people enjoy them, I still feel there is something missing. I use the following ingredients, flour, butter, sugar, eggs, baking powder, flavors, alcohol, raisins and milk.

Please can anyone with a recipe containing any addition to the above ingredients let me know. Thanks and God bless.

Can A Man Love Two Women At The Same Time?

2013-05-22T18:40:00.005+01:00

AnonymousMay22, 2013 at 6:26 PM

Please I have a question, can a guy love two women at the same time? I think my boyfriend has another girlfriend and he is trying to

decide who he will marry. Help!!!! I don't know what to do or how to react.
Ps: we are in a long distant relationship.

Re: I Need Help With Bed Wetting

2013-05-22T18:26:00.003+01:00

Dear Aunty Eya and fellow blog readers. I am so happy and thankful to you all for the help you rendered me when I asked. I am the mom whose six year old continued to bed wet daily.

Thank you so much everyone that advised me, the Doctor that gave
helpful tips, Shayor, Jay and everyone, sorry you are over thirty and mentioning all names will mean flooding Aunty Eya's mail box. I appreciate every single one of those comments.

That same day I had to get the multivite tablets like some one recommended. I got it too cos I knew bed wetting or not, multivite is good for kids. She started taking it and like most of you advised. I started waking her up by 11PM or midnight before retiring to bed. Most nights I woke up and took her to the bathroom.

Like magic dear family, for over one week now I haven't woken her up to pee and she has been waking by herself and using the toilet. She doesn't take any liquid after 7PM and her bed has been so dry and her room smell free. She is also serious about overcoming it and we are all so happy. May you all never see shame.

Your comments helped me and my daughter. Thank you. She has never been dry for this long. I love you all. Muah!

LOCAL POTENT REMEDY FOR CHRONIC ASTHMA

2013-05-22T18:25:00.002+01:00

Hello Aunty Eya, it's your friend.
Please help me ask our people on WC the above . I have suffered chronic asthma for 8 years. Even my issues of
overweight are partly cos of some drugs I take on a daily basis cos of this asthma.

I also have an almost permanent skin rash which is also connected to this chronic asthma so many complications e.g. I don't stay under the fan or a / c for more than 3 mins even if I am sweating. And powder is a no go area cos I'll sneeze all day long lol.

My allergy level is very high. I want to resort to herbal medication but I have no idea at all on where to start. My question is are there any POTENT..AFFORDABLE,AVAILABLE local herbs or drugs I can take for relief and if possible for cure of this asthma.? Thanks in advance for posting this

Trust Issues

2013-05-22T17:50:00.000+01:00

Good day AUNTY Éya and to you my dear blog family member,I have learnt so many things from this blog,it's turning into a habit for me to check on this blog every
day,it's like morning coffee.

Today I will like to bring up an issue,trust issues,mine is very bad,I know it but how can I stop suspecting
every single thing my partner does,I always feel he is up to something bad,even when he is not,this happened before in my last relationship,but I didn't end it based on the fact that he was cheating on me,infact my ex never did,I got an award from one of his friends unknown to me,that I was the only woman who kept her man for 4years without him cheating.

I don't know if I should just stop trying to find out if my fiance is cheating or I should keep trying,and please if u agree that I should,please write good tips for me on how to know if your man is cheating,asin...how to catch him red handed ,thank you.

P.s no bashing abeg...I have already begged so please don't bash me for any reason,AUNTY Eya thanks again and please don't post my email.

Salad Breakfast With Quail Eggs

2013-05-22T13:35:00.000+01:00

Salad with quail eggs

Everytime I eat a salad breakfast, I feel so good afterwards. Once I'm done, I feel healthier. Not the placebo effect kind of health. It just feels so right that I start feeling better with myself. Why? Because I know my body's not been injected with heavy calories and sugar. There is no sense of guilt, unlike when I enjoy beverages and bread, and then immediately start trying to check for Christian Mother hands and to see if my waistline has expanded.

Salad breakfast with cucumber, lettuce and quail eggs

Some like me are in the process of losing some pounds. Now I'm wiser and won't repeat the mistake of 2010 when I lost 10kg between the 1st and 3rd week of December, gained all back during and after Christmas.

I know how to do my portion control without completely excluding Carbs and without starving. I don't feel full yes, but I snack on carrots, cucumber and garden eggs. In 2010, like I said before on a blog post. I tried to do the Atkins diet program, and it worked like magic. If only I knew that wasn't good for long term weight loss. I guess I didn't read well

before embarking on it.

Boiled quail eggs with green vegetable salad

Now, all I need is a lifestyle change. I have already convinced myself that what works for me is portion control plus exercises. I must not eat until my stomach muscles are stretched. I think every woman has a part of her body that really makes her happy when she looks at it. To me, that part is my stomach which remained very flat after four kids and it always felt very good when other mothers ask for the secret. I tell people I never tied my stomach after any birth, I never used girdles but I made sure that after 1 month of delivery, my sit-ups begin. It works for me.

Why am I saying all these. These past weeks, I have come to realize that some things given us by God can be lost if we do not try on our own part to do

Maintenance.

No heavy calorie vegetable salad with boiled quail eggs

I became lazy with my exercises, stopped my sit-ups completely and now, I see the body trying to increase, the tummy too is following suit. If I lose my flat tummy, what else do I have? *rme* I don't have an Aishwariya Rai or a Kim Kardashian Face, so, I better maintain the flat tummy to God dashed me. If after four pregnancies I didn't lose it, it shouldn't be now.

I like that when I put my mind to something, I do it. I have started my control and the one portion carbohydrate a day but the problem with "the carbohydrate once a day" thing is that, it's very difficult here in Nigeria because almost everything we have as food is carbohydrate. You are hungry, you enter the kitchen to get something, you see carbs smiling at you from all corners. You go out to eat, it's carbs beckoning to you. No carbs is difficult.

Sorry about my long talk. I just felt like sharing with you guys to get myself more challenged about losing these extra 10 kg.

I'm planning on taking raw quail eggs tomorrow. I pray I succeed cos I hate raw eggs. If I do, will let you know to help inspire those of us still scared.

I Hope no bird flu there o.

Marriage Counselor In Lagos

2013-05-22T11:17:00.001+01:00

Good morning Eya Ayambem,

Please I need your help. I live in Lagos and I have some issues. My husband and I want to meet with a Marriage counselor. I don't want to discuss it with my pastor and don't know of any Marriage Counselor in Lagos. Please help me.

Thank you and God bless.

Re: I Need Sincere Advice

2013-05-22T11:05:00.002+01:00

Aunty Eya Good Morning. I thank you so much for all you did. May God bless you. This is Christy the lady that sought advice concerning which guy to go for? Whether the 1st or 2nd. And a big thank you to all those that left comments, most especially Jay and madam Ahdaisy. Jay you are a darling love you (Godly love) wink.

The first guy is a nice person also just that he mostly
shows it to outsiders more than me. He doesn't drink nor smoke and can't cheat that's where d confusion is coming in. But d second guy drinks and likes social life and keeps loads of friends though males so much, but he respects me.

Am also close to d first guy's family cos I stayed in his family house during my NSYC and they are nice too. Just that my fear is; if I go for d second one, ppl might begin to say it's because his family is much richer than d 1st guy's, they may say that am going for money not knowing that he loves me more than I do.

Lastly, the first one is much older than me. We are age mates with the second though he acts more matured than the first guy.

So that is it my dear aunty Eya and dear family. I feel so free sharing my story here than going to friends I know.

I Need Advice: What Would You Do?

2013-05-22T07:55:00.000+01:00

Good morning Aunty Ojay and other good people on WC. I have a serious headache, I have a big problem and couldn't think of anywhere else to go than come meet you and other people in the house. I don't know where to start.

Aunty Eya, please and please I need sincere answers because they go a long way to help me know where to start and what to do.

What would you do if one morning, your husband of 9 years wakes you up to confess that he thinks he is
gay? The type of things that happen to me in this my life are things that never happened to any other Nigerian or African. The kind of issues I have to tackle in my life are just peculiar and unique to me and me alone. How is one supposed to react when a spouse makes such a shocking confession to them?

Aunty Eya please remove my ID and post this for me. I need answers please. And dear brothers and sisters in the house, please I need you all to help me think. If a "God fearing" husband, wife or even fiance or fiancee tells you one day that they think they are gay. How are you expected to react? Are you supposed to help in any way or cry or pray for them and continue to love them or just die or what? Please I need advice.

Should I Go In Search Of My Dad?

2013-05-21T22:06:00.002+01:00

Hello Aunty Eya,
I am a reader of your blog with some family issues I know the sound minds on that blog can help me straighten. I am just getting to know that my Biological Father is not the one I call Father. I grew up all my life knowing him as my father.

Last week I eavesdropped on a conversation between my mum and a
visiting Aunty ( My mother's elder sister). Apparently mum got pregnant for me before meeting my present Father. It was her best relationship but they couldn't get married because his family wanted an Igbo girl for him. Mum being Yoruba decided to call it quits and go where she'd be accepted.

A few months after the break-up, she met my Dad and it was then she discovered the pregnancy and told my present Dad who cautioned her against letting anyone know and promised to adopt the baby (me).

After their wedding, I was born and then came my sister and brother who are the real biological children of our father. After eavesdropping, I confronted my mum who promised she'd give me the address of my biological Father if I really want to go. I think I want to meet my own flesh and blood, on the other hand, I am worried of what may happen to mum's marriage if I eventually leave after Dad has seen me to my third year in the University.

I feel I need to know my roots, another part of me is reluctant like I should stay with the Dad I've known all my life. I have prayed about it but still do not know which way to go. Aunty Eya please this is urgent for me. Help post it. I need sincere advise on whether it's proper to go look for my biological Father or to stay and forget about what I heard.
Hello all, Please I'm confused. I need your advice to help me decide.

Are We Compatible?

2013-05-21T18:34:00.001+01:00

Hi Aunty Eya, I am in a relationship, we are talking marriage but I'm not sure we are really compatible. I thought of sharing our traits with WC readers to see how others feel about us as a couple.

No one has ever told me they envy our relationship, we are just there. People don't compliment us with words like " you two look good together" when we go out.
When we visit his family, they don't give me any attention like to sit and talk with me. Everyone suddenly disappears and before you know it, it's just me and my fiance alone in the sitting room. His sisters don't make any effort to hang out with me.
He doesn't remember my special days. For the three years we have been together, he says he loves me but is not like spoiling me with gifts even when I know he can afford them. I try my best to get him something good and lovely on his birthdays but all he does for me is get flowers.
We are never interested in the same Television programme and I'm thinking, If we eventually get married, how do we cope with arguments over whose channel to watch?
He doesn't notice little details about me early enough, like the other day I came to see him with a completely new hairstyle dyed differently and he didn't see it until I drew his attention.
I think he hates to share his space cos when I visit and drop my things say shoes, later I realize they have been shifted to a different spot from where I kept them

There are other things that leave me thinking about our compatibility. Wish I can type everything here.

I will appreciate if your blog readers can help me point their bright torchlights into this relationship and say honestly whether they think my fiance and I are compatible or not. Please I need their suggestions and advice. Thank you Aunty Eya and fellow readers.

Help: Vacation Spots In Ghana

2013-05-21T18:03:00.004+01:00

Good Evening Aunty Eya, I have really come to appreciate your blog, God bless u and d entire WC family. I have a little problem and I will like the readers to help.

My family and I are planning a vacation in Ghana and we have
never been there.
Please I need to know from people who have been there interesting places that a family could go for sight seeing.

Also, any good hotel that a middle class can afford. Please note, I have gone to Google but can't really come to terms with what I saw. Thanks so much.

Why You Desperately Need Quail Eggs

2013-05-21T12:58:00.002+01:00

Boiled quail eggs cooling in cold water.

Quail eggs are a delicacy and they are very healthy. They are an enriched source of anti-oxidants. The high level of anti-oxidants in quail eggs help in preventing age-related muscular degeneration.

Quail eggs strengthen the immune system and give relief from inflammatory diseases. Eating them with other foods contribute to brain development. For those who complain of higher libidos than their spouses, feed your spouse with
quail eggs and see a boost in their libido levels.

Quail eggs are very good for losing and maintaining body weight. They are very poor in calories, but rich in proteins and essential nutrients.

Quail eggs are recommended for regular consumption because they are a valuable source of vitamins, Iron, magnesium, copper, zinc, phosphorus, minerals and amino acids.

Chinese medical practitioners have been using quail eggs as a treatment for hundreds of years with great results. Experts in natural treatment claim that quail eggs have positive effects on people with stress problems, hypertension, blood pressure, depression, panic and anxiety illnesses. They increase growth, sexual appetite and brain function.

I tried taking raw eggs and threw up but for those who can, it is recommended that quail eggs be taken raw, with orange juice or tomato juice.

Quail eggs

Nutritional Value Of Quail Eggs:

When used as facials, they improve skin colour
They promote good memory
Reinforce organs weakened by stress or physical work
Reactivate the nerves and central nervous system
Used for the treatment of anaemia, obesity and diabetes
Improve the functioning of the heart
Combat degenerative processes and rejuvenate the body
Used for the treatments of excess secretions of stomach acid.
Used for the treatment of skin allergy like asthma, eczema, skin rash and much more.

TO SEE THE QUANTITY OF EGGS NEEDED TO CURE AILMENTS, GO HERE

How To Make Puffy Akara Balls By Rubynnia

2013-05-21T10:04:00.002+01:00

Bean cakes (akara) in paper towels to drain excess oil.

I love the way beans cakes (akara) sold by the road side taste and looks. The akaras have puffy feel, look like puff puff from afar and are usually compact. I discovered that the technique used to achieve this is in actually
working on the ground beans (pureed beans).

I’m going to show you how I eventually got my akara the way I’ve always wanted. I’ll start with the pureed beans (with pepper + onion included).

STEP 1: STIRRING TIME
Using a wooden spoon, stir your pureed bean mixture. Some do use mortar and pestle but a wooden spoon is okay for me. The aim is to introduce air into the mixture so as to achieve the puffiness we desired. When yeast is added to dough, it causes the dough to raise thus trapping air needed for bread/pastry to have the puffy texture; it’s the same thing we are doing to the mixture except that this is a manual effort.

Keep doing it till you see bubbles in the mixture, which shows that air is being trapped in. Continue stirring till the mixture gets fluffy/light so to speak. At the beginning, the mixture is usually thick due to little water added but as you stir, it becomes lighter; you can do this for 20mins or longer as desired.

STEP 2: CONDIMENTS ADDITION
Get your ingredients to be included in the mixture ready. I added chopped pepper and onion (extra spicing). I didn’t include salt at the beginning because doing so would spoilt the result of what we want-the puffy texture. It is advised that salt be included just when it’s time for frying.

STEP 3: FRYING
Place the frying pan of hot on fire. With a scooping spoon or any other convenient spoon; scoop a small amount of the beans mixture into the hot oil. Please ensure the oil isn’t too hot else it will fry quicker than expected. Continue till no more space is available.

STEP 4: ADJUSTMENT & TURNING
Due to the stirring technique done at the beginning, each beans cake doesn’t stick to the surrounding cakes. Each maintains its own space and boundary. Though some might stick due to congestion but I use a fork to separate them. When I’m frying, I prefer using a fork to separate and turn whatever I’m frying because it makes frying easy and neat.

STEP 5: SCOOPING
I prefer whatever I fry to always have a crisp brown look; anything lighter hasn’t properly cooked. The beans cake is now done and ready to be removed from the pan.

STEP 6: COOLING & DRAINING
Beans cakes placed in paper towel to drain excess oil.

STEP 7: READY TO EAT!
Beans cake nicely served. Doesn’t it look like puff puff?

STEP ONE: AKARA STIRRING TIME

STEP ONE: STIRRING TIME

STEP 2: CONDIMENTS ADDITION
Get your ingredients to be included in the mixture ready. I added chopped pepper and onion (extra spicing). I didn’t include salt at the beginning because doing so would spoilt the result of what we want-the puffy texture. It is advised that salt be included just when it’s time for frying.

STEP 3: FRYING
Place the frying pan of hot on fire. With a scooping spoon or any other convenient spoon; scoop a small amount of the beans mixture into the hot oil. Please ensure the oil isn’t too hot else it will fry quicker than expected. Continue till no more space is available.

STEP 4: ADJUSTMENT & TURNING
Due to the stirring technique done at the beginning, each beans cake doesn’t stick to the surrounding cakes. Each maintains its own space and boundary. Though some might stick due to congestion but I use a fork to separate them. When I’m frying, I prefer using a fork to separate and turn whatever I’m frying because it makes frying easy and neat

Adjusting the Akara balls

Turning the Akara over

STEP 5: SCOOPING
I prefer whatever I fry to always have a crisp brown look; anything lighter hasn’t properly cooked. The beans cake is now done and ready to be removed from the pan.

STEP 6: COOLING & DRAINING
Bean cakes (Akara) placed on a paper towel to drain excess oil

STEP 7: READY TO EAT!
Beans cake nicely served. Doesn’t it look like puff puff?
Enjoy!

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Darker Face Than Body. I need Advice

2013-05-21T10:04:00.001+01:00

Hello Eya,
I am a mother of two who is worried about my facial complexion. I like my body the way it is but what gives me cause for worries is my face. It is darker. I always see
people even very dark people with brighter and lighter toned faces but my case is the reverse.

When people see my body from my chest down, they don't believe am the carrier of my dark face. It has always been this way. I have used several face creams to no avail. I use facial masks, exfoliate and try to use mild soaps. I don't want to bleach my face, I want a face with a skin tone that is same as my body. I don't know if there is anything I need do to give me a clearer face that is even with my entire body.
Kindly help me post this cus I trust WC readers for solid and sincere advice.
Guys please help me with advice.
Tolu