Wakas Mir

Mum you are still with us

Wakas Mir — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 07:54:43 +0000

Dear Mum,

I tried my best to put an end to the pain that the cancer was causing you. I did try my best as a son that atleast from me you get no complaints. From the time we found out about your cancer till the last breath you took while I held your hand, God knows that I didn’t let the hope die that you will be ok. You were in pain but you were atleast here. But then I figured out that If I love you so much why would I want to see you in pain because that would be unfair and selfish when we know your final destination is heaven and you will be lot happier there. So why would we keep on wanting you to suffer every single second of the day.

As your eldest son I will make it my mission that everything I do on earth now will give you rewards in heaven. I will take care of my little baby sister and promise to be there for her through thick and thin. I promise to always guide my little brothers through every path of life and I promise to never ever say anything that hurts dad in anyway.

I tried my best not to cry when we were lowering your body in your new home. The moment your soul left your body on 26.10.2009 I saw that you had a very peaceful smile. Those that wrapped you in kafan also said we have no words to describe how radiant you looked and your skin was as fresh as if you were hmmm ok. But mum.. you are ok na. I mean I know you are, because now that you are in paradise you will have no pain, no injections to wait for. Now you can enjoy the beautiful jannat-ul-firdaus that you deserve.

I got my jannat by being there with you through each step, and being lucky enough to give you the few water drops that were the last thing that went in through the lips that always asked God for our happiness and success.

Allah ji, I got a tiny request. Can you possibly not make me neighbor of my mum up there but let me live with her instead in the same palace she is living in? hmm

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Weakness brings out strength

Wakas Mir — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 11:54:21 +0000

After a few years of struggle with cancer that my mother is going through. I have learnt one thing and that is weakness brings out strength in some people. Despite being weak in the exterior due to the medication i hav never seen someone have such strong belief in Allah. She goes through so much yet still says he will do well, he will do well.

At a point where docs give up she manages to prove them wrong by saying that its God that decides when i am
Leaving not you. I am proud of her…

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Money and its importance

Wakas Mir — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 10:01:57 +0000

When money becomes the first priority in our life we forget everything. I have seen people who spend day and night working for their kids future but at the end of the day after a few years down the line when the kid tells them to “shut up and get out of my life” then they realize that the time they spent earning money maybe they should have spent in earning their love and respect instead.

Money is important, I don’t say it isn’t. But it’s not everything. I have heard people say yes it isn’t everything but the same people tend to have the status symbol next to their face that is to show the world how rich they are . But in my view they are the poorest people, since if you don’t have the peaceful nights then no money can buy you those.

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The silent treatment

Wakas Mir — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 10:00:24 +0000

I figured out what most know already. The power of silent treatment that is. Life brings to us some amazing experiences which we just have to go through. At the same time we end up in a rut to be right sometimes which makes us go on without realizing that our words are not valued at all.

There are a few times when we have to be quiet for our own peace of mind. And that peace of mind won’t be our destiny if we keep on explaining ourself. I felt that during the past few years the only time i really became senselessly furious is when those near me are put on the humiliating spot where their character is being messed with.

I got some great advice from a few friends that those that have absolutely nothing worth saying have no need to be wasted time on. I followed it since the past few years and now am content that i am giving those real people in my daily life the time they deserve.

I am enjoying the silent treatment which in return is making me stronger.

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If life was very easy

Wakas Mir — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 21:04:12 +0000

I wonder if life was just a piece of pie we would all be happy that its so easy and there is nothing to worry about. But sadly or i must luckily thats not the case it just shouldnt be easy and why would it?

Going into a life that is too easy gives us absolutely nothing to value, fight for or aim for. An easy life no matter who is living it makes one weak and totally non social as i feel personally that hardships in life make us what we are, humanbeings. Humans that can with the strength God has given us go through his tests without complaining.

So when praying do ask God to give u a challenge because life’s spice is exactly that… A tough rollercoaster ride.

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Why be positive?

Wakas Mir — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:16:03 +0000

There are lots of reasons why one has to be positive no matter what. Here are few of them:-

People like positive people.. no one likes a sourface
People would love to be like you.. what better way to live this life than be an example
You yourself will love your innerself because positivity is what makes the world go around
Because being negative drains you of all energy that could have been used elsewhere
When you are positive then your wish to be RIGHT will be replaced by the wish to be PEACEFUL and let someone else mess their mind to be RIGHT
You will focus on some amazing things about people rather than negative things about them
And you will waste less time on silly things

Do add yours

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Few simple rules to life

Wakas Mir — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:59:27 +0000

Everyone has some rules in life, here are some of them that I am posting.. do add yours:-

I respect my elders so that those younger than me know how to treat me

I am happy with myself no matter what happens, as long as my intentions are pure

I see my mistakes as a stepping stone towards success. Since I am not a prophet, I will make mistakes.

I put 100% in any relation and thousands can vouch for that. But when I feel let down I back out into a shell.

I make sure that my siblings know that I care for them in any situation and am there when they need me.

Family comes first no matter what..

Do share your rules too so we get to learn from one another.

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Understanding children

Wakas Mir — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 14:47:02 +0000

I have always been kind of concerned as to how kids behave and how to understand them better. I myself have three younger brothers and one little sister who is 20 years younger than me. So I have somewhat a fair advantage over seeing what they do and how they do things that might results in something good or bad. But obviously that is something they wouldn’t realize since that’s how I was when I was their age.

For example if my brother who is 16 years old says something that might lead him in trouble I would say “No bro that would be wrong if you do that” but if he still goes on and does it then I might feel sad that he didn’t listen, but in reality when I think about it that’s how I might have been as well when my dad used to say stuff and I was like “Naa dad you don’t know that much about the present and so on” but the thing is that sometimes it is true that parents and other elders DO know a few more things that give them the edge over any situation than “us” when we were young that is.

Some adults obviously with age might not have gone through experiences that others might have. So I won’t post an AGE factor over anyone saying that if you are 40 you are the smartest person in the world since some youngsters can be 16 and still carry themselves so well that maturity level is very well presented to anyone they meet. On the other hand some adults might be so childish that they think about what they have said AFTER they have said it rather than thinking of it beforehand so they don’t end up in the corner.

Lots of times children come up with amazing ideas and concerns about things which we adults might not notice that much but if we really look at them and listen to their ideas we might learn things we might never be able to understand. I have young cousins who I talk to quite a lot and love listening to them. And everytime I see them I learn something new.. where one thing always is in the back of my mind.. that kids nowadays are WAY smarter than ever before.. So I tell myself “Wakas calm down and don’t be oversmart with them.. they know what you are thinking”

How well do YOU understand children and any tips as to how we can be better adults?

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When you give too much

Wakas Mir — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 17:21:12 +0000

Well ages later after putting my soul into relations online i have come to a conclusion at a point where i am seeing that its really the actions that count not words and sometimes sharing too much of your life makes people go rude when you stop sharing due to obvious reasons. At a point where my mum is ill and in hospital with cancer i am seeing people who claim to know me in the online world coming up with their own funny versions to make themselves feel right. At a time where mums health is as such don’t some dumbos realize that for me their views about me and my life especially when they are false mean nothing.

The only time i get the feeling of talking face to face with someone is when a loved one is put at a spot where their life depends on certain values and saying something just for the sake of saying can make their life come to an end. I run crazefm and the radio has lots of different characters where some i hold very near n some who i thought were near, those that have no respect for certain things that are my business have no right to associate their name with any relation connected to me.

So readers this is coming from someone who has spoken to thousands of people since his online radio career and i believe that the only person who has any right to know what you are upto and want to do is you!!!

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Being funny when someone is ill

Wakas Mir — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 22:05:28 +0000

I never knew I would come across such people but now I have. And amazingly after speaking with a friend found out that they also have “met” such people. What people? Well I am talking about those that make fun or just joke around people who have a serious illness.

Example:-

A person is deadly ill, and needs proper rest. The one trying to be funny just because they have their relative on a visit that day.. come up with very funny remarks like.. “oh come on you are ok if you want to go out we can put you on a baby cart since you are becoming smaller” or maybe making fun of the individual in a way that makes the other person who is ill feel like as if its their fault that they are ill.

This post has an intention behind it, and its very straight forward on the face. That when you see someone ill, remember that very second consider yourself on their place and then see how it feels when you are saying such.

As I read somewhere.. “Think twice before you say something..once”

God bless!

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Taking it easy with siblings

Wakas Mir — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 09:34:50 +0000

Siblings!

We all have brothers or sisters, (well ok ok not all) but those of us who do really have to go through lots to deal with them. If we are the eldest then the whole thing becomes even tougher. Since either you will be seen as the duplicate of your dad or mum which your siblings won’t like and on the other hand you might come across as being bossy.

But no matter what, I have learnt that if you are the eldest then the best thing is to be there for your brothers and sisters but don’t force them into doing anything even though if its best for them. Just tell them the reason why you saying it and then back out but be there for them so they can call you up when they need you.

How do you deal with your siblings?

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Promises that are meant to be..

Wakas Mir — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 03:31:03 +0000

I have had a few thoughts about this topic. About promises and how they affect your daily life and your entire life for that matter.

If someone you care about promises you something, a promise that’s only between you and God and them, and no one knows about it. You will get lots of people asking questions.

Tip is to : Not care about anyone at that point and just focus on the promise.

I have had this experience just a few moments ago. On one side I have a promise I made to a dear one and my mother and on the other hand I have to “keep an image” to people who can’t respect that.

So keeping in mind my mum’s promise and love, I am focusing on holding onto the promise I made to her and the loved one and moving on..

So the objective of this post is, if you are going through a time where you have to sit and explain to people about your personal promises.. just don’t, it’s not worth it unless it’s people you find valuable in life. If they still don’t get it, then just pray to God that you are doing your best to stay calm

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