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Negative Influences

2008-03-13T09:16:00.003+00:00

Staying away from negative influences is also an important step to be a winner.There are many negative influences for today's teenagers. We must have the courage to say "NO" to those influences.

First and foremost influence is

1. Negative People

Whenever people succeed in life, petty people will take cracks at them and try to pull them down. When we refuse to fight petty people, we win. In order to fight petty people, you have to come down to their level. This is what they want, because you are one of them. So just ignore.

Don't let negative people drag you down. If you associate with achievers,you will become one. If you associate with thinkers, you will become one. If you associate with givers, you will become one. If you associate with complainers, you will become one.

Remember, a person's character is not only judged by the company he or she keeps but also by the company he or she avoids.

2. Smoking, Drugs and Alcohol

Drinking makes a person lose his inhibitions and give exhibitions. Drinking and smoking are glamorized today. There are host of reasons to drink such as: to celebrate; to have fun; to forget problems; to relax; to experiment; to impress; to be fashionable; to mingle; for business purposes. Drinking cost lives. That will be a valid reason to stop.

3. Negative Movies and television programs

Today's kids are learning their attitudes and values from television and movies than from anywhere else. That's how the crime rate is high today!

Let's all stay away and keep our younger generations away from negative influence.

Life Quotes

2008-03-04T21:13:00.007+00:00

The good life is inspired by love and guided by knowledge----Bertrand Russell.
Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile----Albert Einstein.
Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans-----John Lennon.
Where there is love there is life-------Mohandas k. Gandhi.
We are always getting ready to live but never living----Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Life is the flower for which love is the honey-----Victor Hugo.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you're going to live. Now------Joan Baez.
Study as if you were going to live forever; live as if you were going to die tomorrow----Maria Mitchell.

A Puppy

2008-02-07T11:17:00.000+00:00

A boy went to the pet store to buy a puppy. Four of them were sitting together, priced at $50 each. Then there was one sitting alone in a corner. The boy asked if that was from the same litter, if it was for sale, and why it was sitting alone. The store owner replied that it was from the litter, it was a deformed one, and not for sale.

The boy asked what the deformity was. The store owner replied that the puppy was born without a hip socket without a hip socket and had a leg missing. The boy asked, "What will you do with this one?" The reply was it would be a put to sleep. The boy asked if he could play with that puppy. The store owner said, "Sure". The boy picked the puppy up and the puppy licked him on the ear. Instantly the boy decided that was the puppy he wanted to buy. The store owner said "That is not for sale!" The boy insisted.
The store owner agreed. The boy pulled out $2 from his pocket and ran to get $48 from his mother. As he reached the door the store owner shouted after him, " I don't understand why you would pay full money for this one whrn you could buy a good one for the same price." The boy didn't say a word. He just lifted his left trouser leg and he was wearing a brace. The pet store owner said, "I understand. Go ahead, take this one." This is empathy.

Show Empathy

2008-02-04T22:18:00.000+00:00

Empathy is a very important characteristic of a positive personality. The wrong we do to others and what we suffer are weighed differently. But people with empathy ask themselves this question:"How would i feel if someone treated me that way?"

When we share sorrow,it divides;when we share happiness,it multiplies. Sympathy is, "I understand how you feel." Empathy is, "I feel how you feel". When we empathize with our customers, employers, employees, and families - it improves our relationships. It generates understanding, loyalty, peace of mind and higher productivity.

To be a better person resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because some time in our lives we would have been all of these ourselves.

Upbringing Tips

2007-10-30T19:18:00.000+00:00

The Greatest thing that a parent can give to his children are roots. In order for our children to turn out well, we need to spend twice the time and half the money. A strong role model or mentor could be a parent, relative or teacher who is held in high regard. Parents with high self-esteem breed confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive concepts, beliefs and values.

Good parents are not afraid of momentary dislikes by children to enforce the subject.

What Makes a child a Delinquent?

When we teach him to put a price tag on everything and he will put his integrity for sale.

When we never tell him he is wrong and he starts thinking against when he is said he is wrong.

When we laugh at him for he picks up bad language. This will make him think he is cute.

When we give a child everything he wants right from infancy and he will grow up believing that the world owes him a living and everything will be handed to him on a platter.

When we side with him against neighbors, teachers, etc., as they are prejudiced against him.

When we always pick up things that he leaves lying around - books, shoes, clothes, etc. He'll learn to push all responsibilities onto others.

These things are don'ts for parents. Children learn what they live.

Simple Tests To Judge Our Value System

2007-10-12T17:55:00.000+01:00

As human beings we all must have a value system, doing the right thing for the right reason. But at times we get confused of our own values and find it difficult to decide our own actions. But a famous writer has made it simple by two tests.

The ultimate test is called the Mama test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing, wherever and with whomever, at home or at work, alone or with someone, if values are in question, ask yourself, "If my mama were to see me doing what i am doing right now, would she be proud of me and say "Well done Boy!" or would she hang her head in shame?" Your values would be clarified rather quickly. If you passed the Mama test and failed all other tests, you have passed. If you failed the Mama test and passed all other tests, you have failed.

If the Mama test doesn't do it, there is another test called the Baba test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing, wherever and with whomever, at home or at work, alone or with someone, if values are in question, ask yourself, "If my children were to see me doing what i am doing right now, would i want them to see it, or would i be embarrassed?" Again the clouds will clear rather quickly and you will get your answers.

If these two tests don't clarify a person's values, then that person is no longer a human being and has no conscience left.

We ought to remember that values are not hereditary, they are learnt. We need to get our priorities right.

Don't Rationalize

2007-10-09T09:44:00.000+01:00

Monkey-hunters use a box with an opening at the top, big enough for the monkey to slide its hand in. Inside the box are nuts. The monkey grabs the nuts and now its hand becomes a fist. The monkey tries to gt its hand out but the opening is big enough for the hand to slide in, but too small for the fist to come out. Now the monkey has a choice, either to let go off the nuts and be free forever or hang on to the nuts and get caught. Guess what it picks every time? You guessed it. He hangs on to the nuts and gets caught.

Sometimes we are no different from monkeys. We all hang on to some nuts that keep us from going forward in life. We keep rationalizing by saying, "I cannot do this because ...." and whatever comes after "because" are the nuts that we are hanging on to which are holding us back. Successful people don't rationalize.

What Money Can't Buy

2007-10-05T22:03:00.000+01:00

In our Life system Money has a lot of value. It is good to have money and the things it can buy, but in the process of acquiring money, we don't want to lose the things that money can't buy. Some think everything can be bought and sold. Money can buy only what money can buy. And in fact, the most precious things are those that money just can't buy. Money will buy:

Amusements but not happiness.

A bed but not sleep.

Books but not wisdom.

A clock but not more time.

Companions but not friends.

Finery but not beauty.

Food but not appetite.

A house but not a home.

Medicine but not health.

A ring but not a marriage.

Money is vital to lead life but it can't be everything in life. Many people have lots of money but they are very poor. Our objective ought to be both to have money and be rich.

Motivation - Positive Or Negative?

2007-10-04T09:52:00.000+01:00

Its a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunk who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment could be so different.

The first one was asked, "How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk and beat up your family. What motivates you?" He said, "My father." They asked, " What about your father?" The reply was, "My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what i am."

They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. "How come you are doing everything right? What is your source of motivation?" and guess what he said? "My father. When i was a little boy, i used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind that that is not what i wanted to be." Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it positively and the other negatively.

We Are All Motivated - Either Positively Or Negatively.

Greatest Wealth - Health

2007-10-02T21:57:00.000+01:00

The Greatest wealth in life is health which money can't buy. He who has health has hope and so everything. So its a vital thing to maintain our health throughout our life. Let's discuss some useful Healthy Living Tips to maintain our health...

We can lead a healthy life by choosing our food. Add 3 types of vegetables and 2 variety of fruits daily in your meal.

Cut fried foods, excess oily foods.

Move more - Climb the stairs, Walk to a nearby place, play with your kids.

Exercise regularly. Spend at least 10 minutes daily in exercising.

Quit smoking.

Drink plenty of water daily - drink one ounce of water for every two pounds of your body.

Reduce stress. Have at least an hour for yourselves - listen to music, go out in fresh air, give your partner a big hug everyday before work or do something that you like.

Sleep well. Seven to eight hours of sleep is a must everyday.

Be positive and hope for the best always.

A Singing Lark

2007-09-28T20:50:00.000+01:00

Once there was a lark singing in the forest. A man came by with a box full of worms. The lark stopped him and asked, "What do you have in the box and where are you going?" The farmer replied that he had worms and that he was going to the market to trade them for some feathers. The lark said, "I have many feathers. I will pluck one and give it to you and that will save me looking for worms." The farmer gave the worms to the lark and the lark plucked a feather and gave it in return. The next day the same thing happened and the day after and on and on until a day came that the lark had no more feathers. Now it couldn't fly and hunt for worms. It started looking ugly and stopped singing and very soon it died.

The moral is quite clear - what the lark thought was an easy way to get food turned out to be the tougher way after all. Many times we look for the easier way, which really ends up being the tougher way.The Easier Way May Actually Be The Tougher Way.

Let's Stop Ozone Abuse

2007-09-26T17:09:00.000+01:00

Chlorofluorocarbons (CFCs) and halons, are also ‘ozone depleting substances’. These substances break down and thin the ozone layer. Since the ozone layer absorbs a lot of the sun’s UV radiation, thinning of the ozone layer means that more UV radiation can reach the earth, which leads to a higher incidence of skin cancer.
The greenhouse effect and ozone depletion are global issues, but there are lots of
things we can do to help solve these problems at the source.

Choose a less polluting car.

Try to avoid car for short distance, take a walk instead.

Use your home appliances wisely. Wash in cold water and wash when machine is full.

Switch off your TV , VCR when its not in use.

Refrigerators and Air conditioning systems use the ozone depleting refrigerants chlorofluorocarbons(CFCs). Don't often open the refrigerator.

Fix leaking hot water taps to save on greenhouse gases.

Natural Black Head Treatment

2007-09-25T10:41:00.000+01:00

Those who have got oily skin would of course suffer of black heads. There are some home remedies to take off the black heads. Let's see....

First simple tip is regular steaming your face once in two weeks is really helpful. But don't forget to wash in warm water after steaming.

Warm honey by keeping the container in hot water and apply it to the black heads. Wash the face after 10-15 minutes. You can very well notice the difference.

Mix yogurt and lemon juice and rub it in the black heads affected areas and leave it for 10 minutes. Wash it and feel the change.

Undiluted lemon juice is a great remedy for black heads. Apply it 2-3 times a day to remove black heads.

Apply grated potatoes directly to the black heads as a mask. Wash it with warm water after it dries out. This will help a lot to reduce black heads.

Make a paste of Fenugreek leaves( Methi leaves or Vendhaya keerai). Apply it on the face for 10-15 minutes. Leave it to dry and wash with warm water.

Don't squeeze it with hands.

Assess Yourself

2007-09-23T23:08:00.000+01:00

Some characteristics of people with:

High Self-Esteem --------------Low Self-Esteem

Talk about ideas -------------------Talk about people
Caring attitude ------------------- Critical attitude
Humility ------------------------ Arrogance
Confidence --------------------- Confusion
Concerned about character ------ Concerned about reputation
Accepts responsibility ----------- Blames the whole world
Self-interest -------------------- Selfish
Optimistic ----------------------Fatalistic
Understanding -----------------Greedy
Willing to learn ---------------- Know it all
Sensitive ----------------------Touchy
Solitude -----------------------Lonely
Discuss ----------------------- Argue
Respect others ----------------Looks down on others
Enjoys decency ----------------Enjoys vulgarity
Knows Limit ------------------ Everything goes
Giver ------------------------- Taker

The objective of this list is to provide a basis for self-evaluation rather than produce guilt.Some characteristics may be present to a greater or lesser degree. So long as we are able to recognize them, we can make an effort to correct themselves. It is better late than never.

A Pound Of Butter

2007-09-18T20:16:00.000+01:00

There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he is getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, "Your Honor, i am primitive. I don't have a proper measure, but i do have a scale." The judge asked, "Then how do you weigh the butter?" The farmer replied "Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, i have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, i put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker." This gives the moral - We get back in life what we give to others.

Tips To Manage Breast Feeding

2007-09-17T11:42:00.000+01:00

Breast feeding is preferable to feeding with infant formulas and should be encouraged. There is no better nutrition for healthy infants at term and during the early months of life. Some take to it naturally but others will not do well without guidance. Lets see...

The mother should be adequately nourished during pregnancy.

She should have watched others breast feeding and talked about it.

The baby should be put to the breast as soon as possible after delivery.

Frequent suckling stimulates prolactin secretion. Suckling more than six times a day maintains high basal prolactin.

Relaxation and privacy are needed.

After delivery the baby should be in a crib next to its mother all or most of the time and suckled whenever it seems to be hungry. Colostrum is a concentrated anti-infective fluid.

The baby should not be given other complimentary milk or juice - only water if necessary.

The baby should feed from both breasts each time and start the feed with the breast used last.

To start breast feeding the mothers should know the Advantages Of Breast Feeding.

Breast milk is micro biologically clean.

Only breast milk provides a complex range of anti-infective components.

Breast feeding reduces the risk of gastrointestinal, respiratory and other infections, SIDS, childhood lymphomas, early allergic diseases, and type 1 diabetes.

Mothers milk is always at the right temperature.

A mother can always change from breast to bottle feeding but not the other way round.

Breast feeding is natural and may confer advantages that science has not yet discovered.

Breast milk's nutrient composition is the standard against which infant formulas for bottle feeding must be judged. Many of the differences between cows' and human milk have been minimised in modern infant formulas, but by no means all and some nutrients such as iron and zinc are known to be better absorbed from human milk.

Mothers are more likely to lose the fat stores put on during pregnancy if they chose to breast feed.

How Would You Like To Be Remembered?

2007-09-11T09:21:00.000+01:00

About a hundred years ago, a man looked at the morning newspaper and to his surprise and horror, read his name in the obituary column. The newspapers had reported the death of the wrong person by mistake. His first response was shock. Am i here or there? When he regained his composure, his second thought was to find out what people had said about him. The obituary read, "Dynamite King Dies." And also "He was the merchant of death." This man was the inventor of dynamite and when he read the words "merchant of death," he asked himself a question, "Is this how i am going to be remembered?" He got in touch with his feelings and decided that this was not the way he wanted to be remembered. From that day on, he started working toward peace. His name was Alfred Nobel and he is remembered today by the great Nobel Prize.

Just as Alfred Nobel got in touch with his feelings and redefined his values, We should step back and do the same.

What is your legacy? How would you like to be remembered? Will you be spoken well of? Will you be remembered with love and respect? Will you be missed?

Nutrition Tips For Babies

2007-09-09T22:38:00.000+01:00

In the second six months

In the second six months other liquids can be given from a cup, especially citrus fruit juices.

Some fruits or vegetables should be given each day, but the most critical nutrient at this stage are protein and iron. Cereal foods and legumes can be given regularly.

Foods should become progressively more chewy and fibrous and include rusks and other finger foods like bread or cheese.

Nuts, popcorn, raw peas and similar small hard foods should be avoided; they can be breathed in accidentally.

Sweetened fruit juices should be given by cup not bottle because the latter can promote dental carries.

By tenth month start with cooked egg yolk. By twelfth month whole egg can be given.

Between feeds, water for thirst and a minimum of snacks or sweets are good general rules.

Nutrition Tips For Babies

2007-09-09T21:41:00.000+01:00

In the first six months

Young infants cannot deal properly with solid foods ( in reality semisolid foods at first) for the first four months.

Introduction of any food to the baby, other than milk, is unnecessary before the age of 4 months. Breast milk is more nutritious.

The natural time for starting solids is when the energy provided by well established breast feeding starts to become insufficient or when the infant still seems hungry after a good milk feed.

When solids are introduced, single ingredient foods should be used and started one at a time at half weekly intervals so that there is time to recognise allergy or other intolerance to each food.

Infant cereals are traditional foods to start with;rice is better before wheat. They can be thinned with baby's usual milk or water.

Then different soft foods like soft porridges, pureed fruit and vegetables can be added.

Egg should not be started before six months.

Babies should not be left alone while they are eating.

Secret To Success

2007-09-07T18:06:00.000+01:00

A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the river. When the water got up their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, "What did you want the most when you were there?" The boy replied, "Air". Socrates said, "That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it." There is no other secret. The motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment.

Tips For Parents of Fussy Toddlers

2007-09-05T22:49:00.000+01:00

Make eating fun -- for example, cut sandwiches, pieces of fruit, cheese into patterns. Let toddlers eat at a small table, etc.

Keep meal preparation for toddlers easy and quick, so you can accept it without anger if they will not eat what you have made for them.

Do not have battles over foods. Do not use bribes or force. Try to avoid tension at meal times.

When it is clear that they will not eat any more, let them leave the table. Do not insist on clean plates; serve a little less next time. Parents must understand that a "good" eater is not a big eater but a moderate eater.

Many toddlers cannot adjust to their parents' three meals but will eat nutritious foods as snacks.

If they help preparing (or even growing) vegetable foods ( for example shelling peas or making a salad) they may like to taste them.

Do not give delicious high fat and sugar foods (cake or chocolate) before a meal or if they will not eat their main meals.

Nutrition Tips For Toddlers

2007-09-04T22:31:00.000+01:00

What children eat between weaned and starting school is important (1-5 years of age). Food habits are established in this phase of life. Young children's eating is mostly controlled by their mothers. There are five simple principles to help them. They are...

A) Give them to eat from each of the following four basic groups everyday.

1) Bread, other cereals and potatoes

2) Fruits and vegetables

3) Milk and dairy foods

4) Meat, Fish and alternatives

B) Aim for variety within each food group -- for example not always the same vegetable.

C) To minimise dental caries, sweets and other sugary foods should be rationed and not eaten between meals as a rule.

D) Give meat, chicken or fish regularly to prevent iron deficiency and also food that contains vitamin D ( like milk, eggs, cheese, butter, liver) would help a lot.

E) Foods containing fat or sugar (like cakes, chocolates, crisps, ice cream, etc.) are low in nutrition should be used sparingly or enjoyed as treats.

Struggle

2007-09-01T09:48:00.001+01:00

A biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly. He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon, but no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.

The students were waiting and it happened. the butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.

When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.

The same principle is applicable to our lives. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without a struggle. As parents we tend to hurt the ones we love most because we don't allow them to struggle to gain strength.

Coping With In-Laws

2007-08-30T21:31:00.000+01:00

Marriage life brings many new relations and coping with our in-laws is a difficult task. Life becomes a nightmare for those who doesn't know to handle it. We'll make a note of some simple tips to cope up with our in-laws.

Respect your in-laws. If you Love your spouse, think and be thankful to your in-laws who gave a loving partner to you.

One simple thing we have to remember is in-laws are not our parents. We can't behave to our in-laws as we do with our parents. There are certain rules to follow.

Always maintain a smooth relationship with your in-laws - make them understand that you are not going to take away your partner from them.

Don't forget their birthdays and special occasions. Wish and get blessings from them. Some gifts may make it more special.

Never use harsh words to them, even if they do on some circumstances just give back a smile to handle the situation. Because spoken words cannot be retrieved.

Remember an important thing, in future each of us will become in-laws and be in the same state - longing for love and affection. so show them now and you'll surely get it later.

Life Is A Boomerang

2007-08-28T12:26:00.000+01:00

There is a legend about a wise man who was sitting outside his village. A traveller came up and asked him, "What kind of people live in this village, because i am looking to move from my present one?" The wise man asked, "What kind of people live where you want to move from?" The man said, "They are mean,cruel,rude." The wise man replied, "The same kind of people live in this village too." After some time another traveller came by and asked the same question and the wise man asked him, "What kind of people live where you want to move from?" And the traveler replied, "The people are very kind,courteous,polite and good." The wise man said, "You will find the same kind of people here too." We see things not the way they are but the way we are.Other people's behaviour is a reaction to our own.