Show notes, free downloads and more at: https://scotandemily.com/podcast | No AI-generated content, ever. | I'm Scot and she's Emily. We're the dating coaches you know and love over at X & Y Communications. Join us for the most heartfelt and action-packed dating podcast on planet Earth. We hit the ground running every show with solid dating and relationship tips from the unique (and often hilarious) perspective of BOTH genders. Less fluff = good stuff. And get this...we never resort to getting trashy. Squeaky clean and a class act all the way. How's that for unique? Grab a listen! And be sure to get in on our newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. If you like the podcasts you'll love our newsletter. You can also find us on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. We both also welcome your feedback and program ideas at scotandemily@scotandemily.com or via voicemail at +1 (210) 362-4400. Call or write to us! We appreciate your ratings and reviews. Thank you to everyone for your terrific support of this show for the past ten years! hourly 1 I'm Scot and she's Emily. We're the dating coaches you know and love over at X & Y Communications. Join us for the most heartfelt and action-packed dating podcast on planet Earth. We hit the ground running every show with solid dating and relationship tips from the unique (and often hilarious) perspective of BOTH genders. Less fluff = good stuff. And get this...we never resort to getting trashy. Squeaky clean and a class act all the way. How's that for unique? Grab a listen! And be sure to get in on our newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. If you like the podcasts you'll love our newsletter. You can also find us on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. We both also welcome your feedback and program ideas at scotandemily@scotandemily.com or via voicemail at +1 (210) 362-4400. Call or write to us! We appreciate ratings and reviews on Apple Podcasts and elsewhere. Thank you to everyone for your terrific support of this show for the past nineteen years! Deserve What You Want And Never, Ever Settle Scot and Emily McKay http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast dating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage no Wed, 28 June 2006 10:03:00 -0500 en-us (c) 2006-2025 X & Y Communications Worldwide Mediacasting Network xyonthflyhttp://feedburner.google.com scotandemily@scotandemily.comScot and Emily McKay Since our last episode, Emily and I celebrated 20 years together. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really. Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a season? As for us, we went through "travel season" and "youth sports season". What's next? We were still having kids at 40 and 45 years old, so we aren't "empty nesters" yet. What might that season look like? What about growing old together? What are some surprises that season might bring? Get show notes and more at: https://www.scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Since our last episode, Emily and I celebrated 20 years together. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really. Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a season? As for us, we went through "travel season" and "youth sports season". What's next? We were still having kids at 40 and 45 years old, so we aren't "empty nesters" yet. What might that season look like? What about growing old together? What are some surprises that season might bring? Get show notes and more at: https://www.scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Since our last episode, Emily and I celebrated 20 years together. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really. Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a season? As for us, we went through "travel season" and "youth sports season". What's next? We were still having kids at 40 and 45 years old, so we aren't "empty nesters" yet. What might that season look like? What about growing old together? What are some surprises that season might bring? Get show notes and more at: https://www.scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode88_the_seasons_of_marriage.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 06 Mar 2026 12:00:00 -0400 4c7df5a0-ac38-4781-a607-aca13d544bd4 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Dating and relationship advice has gone through significant changes over the last 20 years. Some of it has been good and necessary evolution, some of it downright detrimental and counter-productive. As X & Y Communications marks its 20th anniversary, we look back on the good, the bad and the ugly out there over the years since we opened our doors. First of all, what was up with men having an entire network for getting better with women back in 2005, while women pretty much only had Cosmo articles? And what happened to that "underground society of pickup artists"? What did it quietly turn into...without men even realizing it? As for women, what weird development really established a whole new world of dating advice for them? And what marketing tactic in particular revolutionized all dating advice online...before eventually setting us all back big-time? Whatever happened to all that new-agey dating advice, and the "gurus" who promoted it? Why is so much of the current "dating advice" nothing more that pure clickbait? How did text messaging, social media, dating apps, "toxic masculinity", and the #MeToo movement all play a role in the dating and relationship advice we've been given? And how have Covid and AI affected the whole mix? How have Emily and I ourselves flexed and adapted to change over the years? Most of all, how have mindsets and attitudes evolved (or de-volved?)...on the part of both men and women? Get the free book Dealing With Breakups and more at: https://scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Dating and relationship advice has gone through significant changes over the last 20 years. Some of it has been good and necessary evolution, some of it downright detrimental and counter-productive. As X & Y Communications marks its 20th anniversary, we look back on the good, the bad and the ugly out there over the years since we opened our doors. First of all, what was up with men having an entire network for getting better with women back in 2005, while women pretty much only had Cosmo articles? And what happened to that "underground society of pickup artists"? What did it quietly turn into...without men even realizing it? As for women, what weird development really established a whole new world of dating advice for them? And what marketing tactic in particular revolutionized all dating advice online...before eventually setting us all back big-time? Whatever happened to all that new-agey dating advice, and the "gurus" who promoted it? Why is so much of the current "dating advice" nothing more that pure clickbait? How did text messaging, social media, dating apps, "toxic masculinity", and the #MeToo movement all play a role in the dating and relationship advice we've been given? And how have Covid and AI affected the whole mix? How have Emily and I ourselves flexed and adapted to change over the years? Most of all, how have mindsets and attitudes evolved (or de-volved?)...on the part of both men and women? Get the free book Dealing With Breakups and more at: https://scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Dating and relationship advice has gone through significant changes over the last 20 years. Some of it has been good and necessary evolution, some of it downright detrimental and counter-productive. As X & Y Communications marks its 20th anniversary, we look back on the good, the bad and the ugly out there over the years since we opened our doors. First of all, what was up with men having an entire network for getting better with women back in 2005, while women pretty much only had Cosmo articles? And what happened to that "underground society of pickup artists"? What did it quietly turn into...without men even realizing it? As for women, what weird development really established a whole new world of dating advice for them? And what marketing tactic in particular revolutionized all dating advice online...before eventually setting us all back big-time? Whatever happened to all that new-agey dating advice, and the "gurus" who promoted it? Why is so much of the current "dating advice" nothing more that pure clickbait? How did text messaging, social media, dating apps, "toxic masculinity", and the #MeToo movement all play a role in the dating and relationship advice we've been given? And how have Covid and AI affected the whole mix? How have Emily and I ourselves flexed and adapted to change over the years? Most of all, how have mindsets and attitudes evolved (or de-volved?)...on the part of both men and women? Get the free book Dealing With Breakups and more at: https://scotandemily.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode87_evolution_of_dating_advice.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 26 Dec 2026 12:00:00 -0400 a01f064a-8a86-44d0-885e-b217a0ce1513 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it? Why does being "nice" disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement? Finally, what if you're actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a "one hit wonder"? Check out https://scotandemily.com and download your free copy of Dealing With Breakups. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it? Why does being "nice" disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement? Finally, what if you're actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a "one hit wonder"? Check out https://scotandemily.com and download your free copy of Dealing With Breakups. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it? Why does being "nice" disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement? Finally, what if you're actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a "one hit wonder"? Check out https://scotandemily.com and download your free copy of Dealing With Breakups. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode86_what_if_youre_disappointed.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 17 Oct 2025 12:00:00 -0400 d739808f-fc6a-4929-b127-7032f231a534 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Here comes a long-overdue conversation on how pets affect relationships between men and women. As you might have already imagined, this went in probably every direction you could think of and then some...starting with Emily's thoughts on how men who have cats are p*ssies. Yeah, well...is that always the case? Isn't there such thing as a masculine pet cat? Should men be 'dog people' instead if they want to attract women? If so, what breeds should men think about getting as opposed to other ones? Which are the chick magnets at the local dog park? And women are certainly not off the hook. What breeds of dog should women avoid getting if they expect to get a boyfriend? And more importantly, how many cats are too much for a woman to have...turning her into 'single cat-lady'? Are chickens only for farmers? What if he has reptiles as pets? What's more, what if SHE does? Is a chick with a snake a dealbreaker, let alone 'lizard lady'? What if the two of you like each other, but his Rottweiler would probably consider her new kitten a tasty snack? What if you're a single parent and the kid tugs at your heartstrings to pick a certain person to date...all because they'd score a new puppy in the deal? What if your new wife starts coddling a duck, bunny rabbit or a baby goat instead of you? And should couples get a pet or two as a trial run before making babies? Do pets make blending families even more tricky? Most of all, discover why guinea pigs are not okay under any circumstances and should be banned from the country. Get the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Here comes a long-overdue conversation on how pets affect relationships between men and women. As you might have already imagined, this went in probably every direction you could think of and then some...starting with Emily's thoughts on how men who have cats are p*ssies. Yeah, well...is that always the case? Isn't there such thing as a masculine pet cat? Should men be 'dog people' instead if they want to attract women? If so, what breeds should men think about getting as opposed to other ones? Which are the chick magnets at the local dog park? And women are certainly not off the hook. What breeds of dog should women avoid getting if they expect to get a boyfriend? And more importantly, how many cats are too much for a woman to have...turning her into 'single cat-lady'? Are chickens only for farmers? What if he has reptiles as pets? What's more, what if SHE does? Is a chick with a snake a dealbreaker, let alone 'lizard lady'? What if the two of you like each other, but his Rottweiler would probably consider her new kitten a tasty snack? What if you're a single parent and the kid tugs at your heartstrings to pick a certain person to date...all because they'd score a new puppy in the deal? What if your new wife starts coddling a duck, bunny rabbit or a baby goat instead of you? And should couples get a pet or two as a trial run before making babies? Do pets make blending families even more tricky? Most of all, discover why guinea pigs are not okay under any circumstances and should be banned from the country. Get the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Here comes a long-overdue conversation on how pets affect relationships between men and women. As you might have already imagined, this went in probably every direction you could think of and then some...starting with Emily's thoughts on how men who have cats are p*ssies. Yeah, well...is that always the case? Isn't there such thing as a masculine pet cat? Should men be 'dog people' instead if they want to attract women? If so, what breeds should men think about getting as opposed to other ones? Which are the chick magnets at the local dog park? And women are certainly not off the hook. What breeds of dog should women avoid getting if they expect to get a boyfriend? And more importantly, how many cats are too much for a woman to have...turning her into 'single cat-lady'? Are chickens only for farmers? What if he has reptiles as pets? What's more, what if SHE does? Is a chick with a snake a dealbreaker, let alone 'lizard lady'? What if the two of you like each other, but his Rottweiler would probably consider her new kitten a tasty snack? What if you're a single parent and the kid tugs at your heartstrings to pick a certain person to date...all because they'd score a new puppy in the deal? What if your new wife starts coddling a duck, bunny rabbit or a baby goat instead of you? And should couples get a pet or two as a trial run before making babies? Do pets make blending families even more tricky? Most of all, discover why guinea pigs are not okay under any circumstances and should be banned from the country. Get the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode85_dating_relating_and_pets.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 08 Aug 2025 12:00:00 -0400 93d13ec1-c1eb-4e7f-8ff6-aad909caf216 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Maybe Emily and I waited almost 20 years to cover this subject because it's a touchy one that hits just a little too close to home for both of us. But hey, it's an important one. How do you deal with your ex...especially if you're now in a new relationship? Check it out, there are at least three categories of ex that could still theoretically be haunting your life after a breakup or divorce. And you'd better believe we'll be covering how to handle the necessarily interactions with each type. But what if your new relationship is being negatively impacted by pesky exes? Or what if your new flame is weirdly jealous of your old one? How do you handle the infamous 'child exchanges' mandated by custody agreements? What if an ex (predictably) tries to drive a wedge between you and your new partner? What if your ex is desperately trying to get you back? Or what if one of you isn't quite over the last relationship? On the other hand, what if you've made a significant upgrade over your ex and they're super upset and catty about your new 'trophy'? And in that case, isn't it weird how we start sort of rooting for our ex to find someone new--and who they like even better--themselves? And on that note, can we actually be friends with our ex, even when we're in a new relationship? Should you delete their numbers from your phone, or not? What if you're in a 'rebound relationship', and it's looking like your new partner might end up back with their old one? Hey...it happens a lot. On the other hand, what if they're toxic and just won't leave well enough alone? And wait a minute, was that a 'Rubberband Man' reference, out of the blue? Get the book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Maybe Emily and I waited almost 20 years to cover this subject because it's a touchy one that hits just a little too close to home for both of us. But hey, it's an important one. How do you deal with your ex...especially if you're now in a new relationship? Check it out, there are at least three categories of ex that could still theoretically be haunting your life after a breakup or divorce. And you'd better believe we'll be covering how to handle the necessarily interactions with each type. But what if your new relationship is being negatively impacted by pesky exes? Or what if your new flame is weirdly jealous of your old one? How do you handle the infamous 'child exchanges' mandated by custody agreements? What if an ex (predictably) tries to drive a wedge between you and your new partner? What if your ex is desperately trying to get you back? Or what if one of you isn't quite over the last relationship? On the other hand, what if you've made a significant upgrade over your ex and they're super upset and catty about your new 'trophy'? And in that case, isn't it weird how we start sort of rooting for our ex to find someone new--and who they like even better--themselves? And on that note, can we actually be friends with our ex, even when we're in a new relationship? Should you delete their numbers from your phone, or not? What if you're in a 'rebound relationship', and it's looking like your new partner might end up back with their old one? Hey...it happens a lot. On the other hand, what if they're toxic and just won't leave well enough alone? And wait a minute, was that a 'Rubberband Man' reference, out of the blue? Get the book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Maybe Emily and I waited almost 20 years to cover this subject because it's a touchy one that hits just a little too close to home for both of us. But hey, it's an important one. How do you deal with your ex...especially if you're now in a new relationship? Check it out, there are at least three categories of ex that could still theoretically be haunting your life after a breakup or divorce. And you'd better believe we'll be covering how to handle the necessarily interactions with each type. But what if your new relationship is being negatively impacted by pesky exes? Or what if your new flame is weirdly jealous of your old one? How do you handle the infamous 'child exchanges' mandated by custody agreements? What if an ex (predictably) tries to drive a wedge between you and your new partner? What if your ex is desperately trying to get you back? Or what if one of you isn't quite over the last relationship? On the other hand, what if you've made a significant upgrade over your ex and they're super upset and catty about your new 'trophy'? And in that case, isn't it weird how we start sort of rooting for our ex to find someone new--and who they like even better--themselves? And on that note, can we actually be friends with our ex, even when we're in a new relationship? Should you delete their numbers from your phone, or not? What if you're in a 'rebound relationship', and it's looking like your new partner might end up back with their old one? Hey...it happens a lot. On the other hand, what if they're toxic and just won't leave well enough alone? And wait a minute, was that a 'Rubberband Man' reference, out of the blue? Get the book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode84_dealing_with_exes.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 30 May 2025 12:00:00 -0400 61e73a1a-e594-420c-85bd-5dce1536e8c3 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are asking if there's really any reason to hold off from having sex extremely early in the relationship...even on the same day they meet. I mean, if that's what both of you want, why not? But as we all know, life has a way of throwing complications at you...even if you're all about nothing more than a sexually transactional relationship. Whatever happened to connection? What even IS 'connection' anyway, and does it have to take very long to happen? If the two of you are horny and just want to have a fling, to what extent do you even HAVE to connect...at all? Isn't sexual chemistry enough in that case? And what if you're a person of faith and don't believe in sex before marriage? Does that mean you're basically supposed to remain platonic friends until your wedding night? Well, we all know the truth about 'technical virginity' and how fragile even that is vis-a-vis natural human urges and impulses. Does having sex too soon in a relationship negatively affect the prospects for a long-term relationship? I mean, can you trust each other away from home when you couldn't even resist temptation together? But on the other hand, can your sexual relationship suffer if you waited too LONG? Why is what most men's dating advice used to teach really a disservice to both women AND men? But wait a minute...does one partner really HAVE to lie or cheat the other in order to make sex happen fast? That aside, what--if anything--do we miss out on as humanoids by rushing into a sexual relationship immediately? What is 'the talk' every couple should have before having sex? (Well, except for ONE key exception!) Get show notes, the free e-book Dealing With Breakups and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are asking if there's really any reason to hold off from having sex extremely early in the relationship...even on the same day they meet. I mean, if that's what both of you want, why not? But as we all know, life has a way of throwing complications at you...even if you're all about nothing more than a sexually transactional relationship. Whatever happened to connection? What even IS 'connection' anyway, and does it have to take very long to happen? If the two of you are horny and just want to have a fling, to what extent do you even HAVE to connect...at all? Isn't sexual chemistry enough in that case? And what if you're a person of faith and don't believe in sex before marriage? Does that mean you're basically supposed to remain platonic friends until your wedding night? Well, we all know the truth about 'technical virginity' and how fragile even that is vis-a-vis natural human urges and impulses. Does having sex too soon in a relationship negatively affect the prospects for a long-term relationship? I mean, can you trust each other away from home when you couldn't even resist temptation together? But on the other hand, can your sexual relationship suffer if you waited too LONG? Why is what most men's dating advice used to teach really a disservice to both women AND men? But wait a minute...does one partner really HAVE to lie or cheat the other in order to make sex happen fast? That aside, what--if anything--do we miss out on as humanoids by rushing into a sexual relationship immediately? What is 'the talk' every couple should have before having sex? (Well, except for ONE key exception!) Get show notes, the free e-book Dealing With Breakups and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Nowadays we live in a culture that extols selfhood and immediate gratification. As marriage becomes less revered as an institution, lots of people are asking if there's really any reason to hold off from having sex extremely early in the relationship...even on the same day they meet. I mean, if that's what both of you want, why not? But as we all know, life has a way of throwing complications at you...even if you're all about nothing more than a sexually transactional relationship. Whatever happened to connection? What even IS 'connection' anyway, and does it have to take very long to happen? If the two of you are horny and just want to have a fling, to what extent do you even HAVE to connect...at all? Isn't sexual chemistry enough in that case? And what if you're a person of faith and don't believe in sex before marriage? Does that mean you're basically supposed to remain platonic friends until your wedding night? Well, we all know the truth about 'technical virginity' and how fragile even that is vis-a-vis natural human urges and impulses. Does having sex too soon in a relationship negatively affect the prospects for a long-term relationship? I mean, can you trust each other away from home when you couldn't even resist temptation together? But on the other hand, can your sexual relationship suffer if you waited too LONG? Why is what most men's dating advice used to teach really a disservice to both women AND men? But wait a minute...does one partner really HAVE to lie or cheat the other in order to make sex happen fast? That aside, what--if anything--do we miss out on as humanoids by rushing into a sexual relationship immediately? What is 'the talk' every couple should have before having sex? (Well, except for ONE key exception!) Get show notes, the free e-book Dealing With Breakups and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode83.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 21 Mar 2025 12:00:00 -0400 ecbb6b72-b411-4ec6-89dc-034771bc84ff scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Last week we covered how dating and relating between men and women has evolved over the past quarter century. But what about the next 25 years...and indeed the rest of this century coming up? What's going on with gender politics? Are people finally sick of it? Will we be able to define "man" and "woman" again? Is Masculinity back? Will women start prioritizing motherhood over Hofstedian societal gender roles again? Will people continue being social IRL, or will social media make things even worse? Will we return to valuing the life of our own species? Will we halt the aging process? Then what? Will translators minimize the impact of language barriers? Is AI going to continue to make online dating/apps difficult? Have AI girlfriends already failed forever? What will ultimately replace dating? What about cyber partners? (robots) Will the porn be so good in the future that it really is better than the real thing? (e.g. Virtual physical presence) What will the impact of extreme selfhood be? More narcissism leading to more robotics due to less social resistance? And...the question we all REALLY wonder about: Are we seeing things, or is speed dating making a comeback? The first step to getting ready for whatever is coming in your dating life is to visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Last week we covered how dating and relating between men and women has evolved over the past quarter century. But what about the next 25 years...and indeed the rest of this century coming up? What's going on with gender politics? Are people finally sick of it? Will we be able to define "man" and "woman" again? Is Masculinity back? Will women start prioritizing motherhood over Hofstedian societal gender roles again? Will people continue being social IRL, or will social media make things even worse? Will we return to valuing the life of our own species? Will we halt the aging process? Then what? Will translators minimize the impact of language barriers? Is AI going to continue to make online dating/apps difficult? Have AI girlfriends already failed forever? What will ultimately replace dating? What about cyber partners? (robots) Will the porn be so good in the future that it really is better than the real thing? (e.g. Virtual physical presence) What will the impact of extreme selfhood be? More narcissism leading to more robotics due to less social resistance? And...the question we all REALLY wonder about: Are we seeing things, or is speed dating making a comeback? The first step to getting ready for whatever is coming in your dating life is to visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Last week we covered how dating and relating between men and women has evolved over the past quarter century. But what about the next 25 years...and indeed the rest of this century coming up? What's going on with gender politics? Are people finally sick of it? Will we be able to define "man" and "woman" again? Is Masculinity back? Will women start prioritizing motherhood over Hofstedian societal gender roles again? Will people continue being social IRL, or will social media make things even worse? Will we return to valuing the life of our own species? Will we halt the aging process? Then what? Will translators minimize the impact of language barriers? Is AI going to continue to make online dating/apps difficult? Have AI girlfriends already failed forever? What will ultimately replace dating? What about cyber partners? (robots) Will the porn be so good in the future that it really is better than the real thing? (e.g. Virtual physical presence) What will the impact of extreme selfhood be? More narcissism leading to more robotics due to less social resistance? And...the question we all REALLY wonder about: Are we seeing things, or is speed dating making a comeback? The first step to getting ready for whatever is coming in your dating life is to visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode82.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 10 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -0400 5baa1546-8d13-417b-8007-2b16ce6d6216 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Exactly 25 years and one week ago, everyone's attention was on whether or not the dreaded Y2K bug was going to crash the world's computer systems and make planes fall out of the sky. And even as we partied like it was 1999, nobody's nose was buried in their smartphone because those hadn't come out yet. People weren't even texting each other. After all, if on the off chance you had texting on your phone, every message cost like sixty cents. Online dating was in its infancy, but already stigmatized as if any users were desperate losers who 'liked pina coladas'. Indeed, if a guy wanted to ask a woman out the best way to do that was in person (go figure), because picking up the phone and being confronted with an answering machine was just too stressful. But at least actual dating was still a thing rather than simply 'hooking up' or 'hanging out'. Nevertheless, getting quality dating advice from, well...anywhere? Forgettaboutit. Self-help of any kind on the still narrowband Internet was practically unheard of. Even what would become the PUA movement was still limited to 'underground' keyboard jockeys in chat rooms (!) trying to figure out tricks to 'game' women with. Social media was years away, and with it the rise of 'echo chambers' that would shape public opinion (and outrage) on all manner of ways men and women relate to each other. And yes, people were terrified of getting herpes and dying of AIDS, so sexual activity was approached very differently than it is today. Yes, a LOT has changed over the first quarter of the 21st century, and we cover the good, the bad and the ugly in this fast-paced and (actually) fun episode! Download the free e-book How To Deal With Breakups and score other free goodies when you visit: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Exactly 25 years and one week ago, everyone's attention was on whether or not the dreaded Y2K bug was going to crash the world's computer systems and make planes fall out of the sky. And even as we partied like it was 1999, nobody's nose was buried in their smartphone because those hadn't come out yet. People weren't even texting each other. After all, if on the off chance you had texting on your phone, every message cost like sixty cents. Online dating was in its infancy, but already stigmatized as if any users were desperate losers who 'liked pina coladas'. Indeed, if a guy wanted to ask a woman out the best way to do that was in person (go figure), because picking up the phone and being confronted with an answering machine was just too stressful. But at least actual dating was still a thing rather than simply 'hooking up' or 'hanging out'. Nevertheless, getting quality dating advice from, well...anywhere? Forgettaboutit. Self-help of any kind on the still narrowband Internet was practically unheard of. Even what would become the PUA movement was still limited to 'underground' keyboard jockeys in chat rooms (!) trying to figure out tricks to 'game' women with. Social media was years away, and with it the rise of 'echo chambers' that would shape public opinion (and outrage) on all manner of ways men and women relate to each other. And yes, people were terrified of getting herpes and dying of AIDS, so sexual activity was approached very differently than it is today. Yes, a LOT has changed over the first quarter of the 21st century, and we cover the good, the bad and the ugly in this fast-paced and (actually) fun episode! Download the free e-book How To Deal With Breakups and score other free goodies when you visit: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Exactly 25 years and one week ago, everyone's attention was on whether or not the dreaded Y2K bug was going to crash the world's computer systems and make planes fall out of the sky. And even as we partied like it was 1999, nobody's nose was buried in their smartphone because those hadn't come out yet. People weren't even texting each other. After all, if on the off chance you had texting on your phone, every message cost like sixty cents. Online dating was in its infancy, but already stigmatized as if any users were desperate losers who 'liked pina coladas'. Indeed, if a guy wanted to ask a woman out the best way to do that was in person (go figure), because picking up the phone and being confronted with an answering machine was just too stressful. But at least actual dating was still a thing rather than simply 'hooking up' or 'hanging out'. Nevertheless, getting quality dating advice from, well...anywhere? Forgettaboutit. Self-help of any kind on the still narrowband Internet was practically unheard of. Even what would become the PUA movement was still limited to 'underground' keyboard jockeys in chat rooms (!) trying to figure out tricks to 'game' women with. Social media was years away, and with it the rise of 'echo chambers' that would shape public opinion (and outrage) on all manner of ways men and women relate to each other. And yes, people were terrified of getting herpes and dying of AIDS, so sexual activity was approached very differently than it is today. Yes, a LOT has changed over the first quarter of the 21st century, and we cover the good, the bad and the ugly in this fast-paced and (actually) fun episode! Download the free e-book How To Deal With Breakups and score other free goodies when you visit: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode81.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 03 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -0400 bdf077cb-df79-40c7-b3f7-271e0fc3d10c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Okay, I'm going to admit right up front that Emily and I obviously believe relationships are worth getting into, since we've shared a great one together for almost 19 years. But we also completely get that YOU might not be like US. In this episode we acknowledge all the legit reasons why perfectly good, decent and sane people might just swear off getting into any kind of relationship at all with MOTOS, let alone long-term ones. For starters, we talk about how this isn't our grandparents' world anymore and how that affects people's perspectives on relationships. How can either a man OR a woman have a valid point in this context? Even though it may seem sad to think that people are out there completely giving up on finding the relationship they actually want, what if there are folks who really do NOT want that in their lives...and they're simply saying 'no' to societal pressure to conform? Does that societal pressure even exist anymore, by the way? Even if you ARE relationship minded, is it okay to think these thoughts? And well, what are the good reasons to get into a relationship? And why stay in one if it's going poorly? On a related note, is arguing and bickering a sign the relationship's in trouble...or could it be the exact opposite? Well, the easy answer (demanding more elaboration, which we offer) is 'it depends'. Stay tuned as we make the case for getting everything off your chest as perhaps the healthiest sign of all that the relationship is a healthy one. It's just a shame that too many couples never even realize that level of intimacy is open to them. Get on our calendar and talk to us for FREE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, I'm going to admit right up front that Emily and I obviously believe relationships are worth getting into, since we've shared a great one together for almost 19 years. But we also completely get that YOU might not be like US. In this episode we acknowledge all the legit reasons why perfectly good, decent and sane people might just swear off getting into any kind of relationship at all with MOTOS, let alone long-term ones. For starters, we talk about how this isn't our grandparents' world anymore and how that affects people's perspectives on relationships. How can either a man OR a woman have a valid point in this context? Even though it may seem sad to think that people are out there completely giving up on finding the relationship they actually want, what if there are folks who really do NOT want that in their lives...and they're simply saying 'no' to societal pressure to conform? Does that societal pressure even exist anymore, by the way? Even if you ARE relationship minded, is it okay to think these thoughts? And well, what are the good reasons to get into a relationship? And why stay in one if it's going poorly? On a related note, is arguing and bickering a sign the relationship's in trouble...or could it be the exact opposite? Well, the easy answer (demanding more elaboration, which we offer) is 'it depends'. Stay tuned as we make the case for getting everything off your chest as perhaps the healthiest sign of all that the relationship is a healthy one. It's just a shame that too many couples never even realize that level of intimacy is open to them. Get on our calendar and talk to us for FREE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, I'm going to admit right up front that Emily and I obviously believe relationships are worth getting into, since we've shared a great one together for almost 19 years. But we also completely get that YOU might not be like US. In this episode we acknowledge all the legit reasons why perfectly good, decent and sane people might just swear off getting into any kind of relationship at all with MOTOS, let alone long-term ones. For starters, we talk about how this isn't our grandparents' world anymore and how that affects people's perspectives on relationships. How can either a man OR a woman have a valid point in this context? Even though it may seem sad to think that people are out there completely giving up on finding the relationship they actually want, what if there are folks who really do NOT want that in their lives...and they're simply saying 'no' to societal pressure to conform? Does that societal pressure even exist anymore, by the way? Even if you ARE relationship minded, is it okay to think these thoughts? And well, what are the good reasons to get into a relationship? And why stay in one if it's going poorly? On a related note, is arguing and bickering a sign the relationship's in trouble...or could it be the exact opposite? Well, the easy answer (demanding more elaboration, which we offer) is 'it depends'. Stay tuned as we make the case for getting everything off your chest as perhaps the healthiest sign of all that the relationship is a healthy one. It's just a shame that too many couples never even realize that level of intimacy is open to them. Get on our calendar and talk to us for FREE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode80.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 25 Oct 2024 12:00:00 -0400 575fa65a-17ee-4baa-a44e-a5fb7c2c92ca scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers--or focusing on them--a dealbreaker in and of itself? You know, the 'don't bother' chick, for example? Is being 'high maintenance' a dealbreaker? And if so, what does that even mean? On the other hand, should not having any dealbreakers be a dealbreaker? Next, we list a full litany of good, solid dealbreakers that just about everyone can agree on. Does a couple have to be truly compatible, even if they're only down for a short-term fling? What if you and your partner differ on what terms like 'fidelity' and 'cheating' actually mean...specifically? How about if a behavioral 'dealbreaker' happens without it ever having been discussed as such previously? Should third-parties have any say in what your dealbreakers are as a couple? And hey, what are some specific example of unreasonable dealbreakers? Can there even be such a thing given the reality of personal preference relative to attraction? What's the case for and against building a list of checkboxes prospective mates must tick? But on the other hand, if we don't bother to even think of what we're looking for, how are we supposed to get it? What's the balance? And with that in mind, why do so many people pretty much run away from ever having to evaluate the potential of the relationship they're entering? And what if one of your dealbreakers automatically eliminates a massive percentage of your potential dating pool? As you can see, there's plenty to talk about surrounding this topic...and we pretty much cover it all. Download the free book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers--or focusing on them--a dealbreaker in and of itself? You know, the 'don't bother' chick, for example? Is being 'high maintenance' a dealbreaker? And if so, what does that even mean? On the other hand, should not having any dealbreakers be a dealbreaker? Next, we list a full litany of good, solid dealbreakers that just about everyone can agree on. Does a couple have to be truly compatible, even if they're only down for a short-term fling? What if you and your partner differ on what terms like 'fidelity' and 'cheating' actually mean...specifically? How about if a behavioral 'dealbreaker' happens without it ever having been discussed as such previously? Should third-parties have any say in what your dealbreakers are as a couple? And hey, what are some specific example of unreasonable dealbreakers? Can there even be such a thing given the reality of personal preference relative to attraction? What's the case for and against building a list of checkboxes prospective mates must tick? But on the other hand, if we don't bother to even think of what we're looking for, how are we supposed to get it? What's the balance? And with that in mind, why do so many people pretty much run away from ever having to evaluate the potential of the relationship they're entering? And what if one of your dealbreakers automatically eliminates a massive percentage of your potential dating pool? As you can see, there's plenty to talk about surrounding this topic...and we pretty much cover it all. Download the free book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In this episode Emily and I address the sticky topic of dealbreakers in a relationship. Is having too many dealbreakers--or focusing on them--a dealbreaker in and of itself? You know, the 'don't bother' chick, for example? Is being 'high maintenance' a dealbreaker? And if so, what does that even mean? On the other hand, should not having any dealbreakers be a dealbreaker? Next, we list a full litany of good, solid dealbreakers that just about everyone can agree on. Does a couple have to be truly compatible, even if they're only down for a short-term fling? What if you and your partner differ on what terms like 'fidelity' and 'cheating' actually mean...specifically? How about if a behavioral 'dealbreaker' happens without it ever having been discussed as such previously? Should third-parties have any say in what your dealbreakers are as a couple? And hey, what are some specific example of unreasonable dealbreakers? Can there even be such a thing given the reality of personal preference relative to attraction? What's the case for and against building a list of checkboxes prospective mates must tick? But on the other hand, if we don't bother to even think of what we're looking for, how are we supposed to get it? What's the balance? And with that in mind, why do so many people pretty much run away from ever having to evaluate the potential of the relationship they're entering? And what if one of your dealbreakers automatically eliminates a massive percentage of your potential dating pool? As you can see, there's plenty to talk about surrounding this topic...and we pretty much cover it all. Download the free book Dealing With Breakups and more when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode79.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 15 Aug 2024 12:00:00 -0400 99682b27-1bbc-4517-ae84-43ddee6acd1a scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage First and foremost, if you think even for a second that this episode is going to be about two dinosaurs reminiscing about the past, you're in for a surprise. Given that we've been totally immersed in dating and relationship stuff for nearly 20 years, we've had our fingers on the pulse of how men and women relate for a LONG time. On top of that, with a milestone high school reunion coming up this year, I've found myself thinking about how dating and relating has evolved...and surprised myself with a few key revelations. With all of that in mind, we have an honest, eye-opening conversation featuring straight talk about what we're GLAD isn't going on anymore. And yes, we also find a few examples of really good stuff that used to happen that just doesn't anymore. For instance, what good has the Internet done...but at what cost? How did 'hookup culture' change the game? How about pharmaceutical technology, of all things? At what time in history were women the most attractive? Were some of the styles and behaviors of the past that we cringe at when we see old pictures really BETTER, not WORSE? Was dating really drudgery, and whatever it has evolved (or devolved?) into really better? Have men forgotten how to be attractive? (Expect surprising answers on that one.) Is the post-modern version of seduction and courtship really different? What about texting vs. the now lost art of the phone call? Let's just say those questions were merely the warmup. Look forward to an entertaining yet brutally honest take on what should be brought back vs. what should be left in the past. Talk to us for 25 minutes FREE, download our FREE book on how to handle breakups and MORE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! First and foremost, if you think even for a second that this episode is going to be about two dinosaurs reminiscing about the past, you're in for a surprise. Given that we've been totally immersed in dating and relationship stuff for nearly 20 years, we've had our fingers on the pulse of how men and women relate for a LONG time. On top of that, with a milestone high school reunion coming up this year, I've found myself thinking about how dating and relating has evolved...and surprised myself with a few key revelations. With all of that in mind, we have an honest, eye-opening conversation featuring straight talk about what we're GLAD isn't going on anymore. And yes, we also find a few examples of really good stuff that used to happen that just doesn't anymore. For instance, what good has the Internet done...but at what cost? How did 'hookup culture' change the game? How about pharmaceutical technology, of all things? At what time in history were women the most attractive? Were some of the styles and behaviors of the past that we cringe at when we see old pictures really BETTER, not WORSE? Was dating really drudgery, and whatever it has evolved (or devolved?) into really better? Have men forgotten how to be attractive? (Expect surprising answers on that one.) Is the post-modern version of seduction and courtship really different? What about texting vs. the now lost art of the phone call? Let's just say those questions were merely the warmup. Look forward to an entertaining yet brutally honest take on what should be brought back vs. what should be left in the past. Talk to us for 25 minutes FREE, download our FREE book on how to handle breakups and MORE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! First and foremost, if you think even for a second that this episode is going to be about two dinosaurs reminiscing about the past, you're in for a surprise. Given that we've been totally immersed in dating and relationship stuff for nearly 20 years, we've had our fingers on the pulse of how men and women relate for a LONG time. On top of that, with a milestone high school reunion coming up this year, I've found myself thinking about how dating and relating has evolved...and surprised myself with a few key revelations. With all of that in mind, we have an honest, eye-opening conversation featuring straight talk about what we're GLAD isn't going on anymore. And yes, we also find a few examples of really good stuff that used to happen that just doesn't anymore. For instance, what good has the Internet done...but at what cost? How did 'hookup culture' change the game? How about pharmaceutical technology, of all things? At what time in history were women the most attractive? Were some of the styles and behaviors of the past that we cringe at when we see old pictures really BETTER, not WORSE? Was dating really drudgery, and whatever it has evolved (or devolved?) into really better? Have men forgotten how to be attractive? (Expect surprising answers on that one.) Is the post-modern version of seduction and courtship really different? What about texting vs. the now lost art of the phone call? Let's just say those questions were merely the warmup. Look forward to an entertaining yet brutally honest take on what should be brought back vs. what should be left in the past. Talk to us for 25 minutes FREE, download our FREE book on how to handle breakups and MORE at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode78.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 07 Jun 2024 12:00:00 -0400 dacbc216-5de2-481e-ac43-8a5b8e62209b scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Lots of dating and relationship advice talks about how to know when you've finally met the right partner to build a long-term relationship with. And yes, by now we know the basics about attraction, 'chemistry', sexual compatibility, shared values, shared life goals, avoiding 'red flags' and every other success factor we've heard a thousand times. Nevertheless, the divorce rate remains through the roof...even as more and more people in the Western world are giving up on relationships in general. But as you know, around here we believe statistics are most often weaponized by victimhood. Couples who last couldn't care less why others fail because they're built differently. You see, most long-term relationships--especially marriages--should never happen to begin with. The ones that last tend to go above and beyond the mere basics of attraction and compatibility. Couples who are built to last have discovered certain "hidden", or at least underestimated truths about what makes them right for each other. We're talking about a man and a woman here who don't feel like they have to 'work' to stay together; rather they GET to share life together taking on life's inevitable challenges as a team. In this episode we lift the veil on these very specific keys to knowing you've found 'The One' that almost nobody ever talks about. Some may sound optimistic, others downright cynical. And there are few you might not even believe ever really appear in real life. But after eighteen years of genuinely adoring each other, the one thing that's undeniable is at the very least you're hearing first-hand from a couple who still adore each other after all this time for far more reasons other than the mere basics. Have you been listening to the show for ages, and have always been meaning to get on out calendar and talk to us? Finally make it happen--for free, of course--at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Lots of dating and relationship advice talks about how to know when you've finally met the right partner to build a long-term relationship with. And yes, by now we know the basics about attraction, 'chemistry', sexual compatibility, shared values, shared life goals, avoiding 'red flags' and every other success factor we've heard a thousand times. Nevertheless, the divorce rate remains through the roof...even as more and more people in the Western world are giving up on relationships in general. But as you know, around here we believe statistics are most often weaponized by victimhood. Couples who last couldn't care less why others fail because they're built differently. You see, most long-term relationships--especially marriages--should never happen to begin with. The ones that last tend to go above and beyond the mere basics of attraction and compatibility. Couples who are built to last have discovered certain "hidden", or at least underestimated truths about what makes them right for each other. We're talking about a man and a woman here who don't feel like they have to 'work' to stay together; rather they GET to share life together taking on life's inevitable challenges as a team. In this episode we lift the veil on these very specific keys to knowing you've found 'The One' that almost nobody ever talks about. Some may sound optimistic, others downright cynical. And there are few you might not even believe ever really appear in real life. But after eighteen years of genuinely adoring each other, the one thing that's undeniable is at the very least you're hearing first-hand from a couple who still adore each other after all this time for far more reasons other than the mere basics. Have you been listening to the show for ages, and have always been meaning to get on out calendar and talk to us? Finally make it happen--for free, of course--at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Lots of dating and relationship advice talks about how to know when you've finally met the right partner to build a long-term relationship with. And yes, by now we know the basics about attraction, 'chemistry', sexual compatibility, shared values, shared life goals, avoiding 'red flags' and every other success factor we've heard a thousand times. Nevertheless, the divorce rate remains through the roof...even as more and more people in the Western world are giving up on relationships in general. But as you know, around here we believe statistics are most often weaponized by victimhood. Couples who last couldn't care less why others fail because they're built differently. You see, most long-term relationships--especially marriages--should never happen to begin with. The ones that last tend to go above and beyond the mere basics of attraction and compatibility. Couples who are built to last have discovered certain "hidden", or at least underestimated truths about what makes them right for each other. We're talking about a man and a woman here who don't feel like they have to 'work' to stay together; rather they GET to share life together taking on life's inevitable challenges as a team. In this episode we lift the veil on these very specific keys to knowing you've found 'The One' that almost nobody ever talks about. Some may sound optimistic, others downright cynical. And there are few you might not even believe ever really appear in real life. But after eighteen years of genuinely adoring each other, the one thing that's undeniable is at the very least you're hearing first-hand from a couple who still adore each other after all this time for far more reasons other than the mere basics. Have you been listening to the show for ages, and have always been meaning to get on out calendar and talk to us? Finally make it happen--for free, of course--at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode77.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 29 Mar 2024 12:00:00 -0400 2f99352f-583b-4dc4-b016-abba8909e585 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Finally, here's the full episode on a topic that everyone wonders about. It's no secret that men often want to date younger women. But what is it about those guys who are actually successful at doing so? And is it really true that many amazing young women actually prefer older men? First off, what actually counts as an 'older man' to a younger woman? Does the 'half your age plus seven' rule make any sense? What if our mental images and/or stereotypes about what an older man and younger woman look like as a couple are challenged? Above and beyond all of that, what are some legit factors to consider when there's an age gap? I mean, is age really 'just a number'? What's up with dating sites only for people over fifty...is that what the market is really looking for? And speaking of online dating, how about those sites that specialize in 'sugar daddy' arrangements? Is there something to be said for being an 'old soul', looking for someone who's a better fit at an older age? Or is it that younger women like older men because 'little boys don't grow up'? Wait a minute...on that note, is it that men who prefer younger women really only want a tighter, sexually fit body to have sex with? Or is there more to both what younger women and older men tend to be looking for? And what about the 'skeletons in the closet' as we get older, and the effect it has on dating someone younger? What if older guy's new young wife wants to have kids? And is younger wife still gonna be 'all in' when her husband is old and in need of care while she's still young and active? And wait a minute...what about the newest trend of older women basically demanding a younger man to go out with? What's driving that? Pick your time to talk to us 1-on-1, download the free book and more when you go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Finally, here's the full episode on a topic that everyone wonders about. It's no secret that men often want to date younger women. But what is it about those guys who are actually successful at doing so? And is it really true that many amazing young women actually prefer older men? First off, what actually counts as an 'older man' to a younger woman? Does the 'half your age plus seven' rule make any sense? What if our mental images and/or stereotypes about what an older man and younger woman look like as a couple are challenged? Above and beyond all of that, what are some legit factors to consider when there's an age gap? I mean, is age really 'just a number'? What's up with dating sites only for people over fifty...is that what the market is really looking for? And speaking of online dating, how about those sites that specialize in 'sugar daddy' arrangements? Is there something to be said for being an 'old soul', looking for someone who's a better fit at an older age? Or is it that younger women like older men because 'little boys don't grow up'? Wait a minute...on that note, is it that men who prefer younger women really only want a tighter, sexually fit body to have sex with? Or is there more to both what younger women and older men tend to be looking for? And what about the 'skeletons in the closet' as we get older, and the effect it has on dating someone younger? What if older guy's new young wife wants to have kids? And is younger wife still gonna be 'all in' when her husband is old and in need of care while she's still young and active? And wait a minute...what about the newest trend of older women basically demanding a younger man to go out with? What's driving that? Pick your time to talk to us 1-on-1, download the free book and more when you go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Finally, here's the full episode on a topic that everyone wonders about. It's no secret that men often want to date younger women. But what is it about those guys who are actually successful at doing so? And is it really true that many amazing young women actually prefer older men? First off, what actually counts as an 'older man' to a younger woman? Does the 'half your age plus seven' rule make any sense? What if our mental images and/or stereotypes about what an older man and younger woman look like as a couple are challenged? Above and beyond all of that, what are some legit factors to consider when there's an age gap? I mean, is age really 'just a number'? What's up with dating sites only for people over fifty...is that what the market is really looking for? And speaking of online dating, how about those sites that specialize in 'sugar daddy' arrangements? Is there something to be said for being an 'old soul', looking for someone who's a better fit at an older age? Or is it that younger women like older men because 'little boys don't grow up'? Wait a minute...on that note, is it that men who prefer younger women really only want a tighter, sexually fit body to have sex with? Or is there more to both what younger women and older men tend to be looking for? And what about the 'skeletons in the closet' as we get older, and the effect it has on dating someone younger? What if older guy's new young wife wants to have kids? And is younger wife still gonna be 'all in' when her husband is old and in need of care while she's still young and active? And wait a minute...what about the newest trend of older women basically demanding a younger man to go out with? What's driving that? Pick your time to talk to us 1-on-1, download the free book and more when you go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode76.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 19 Jan 2024 12:00:00 -0400 7d8800a3-5570-45a2-9512-d44b089cca35 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage If you've been out there dating for any time at all, you've likely compiled your fair share of weird dating stories. It's easy to think that those situations could only happen to you, and you've GOT to be the only one. But guess what? PLENTY of apparent weirdness on first dates is tons more common than you probably guess. This time around Emily and I recount not only a few of our own most bizzaro stories, but those of others we've heard from over the years. You can likely guess we started off with tales of gross misrepresentation and false advertising online. That topic is closely followed by talk about those awkward instances when only one of you thinks the date went well. Backlash when it didn't go well? We've got you covered. What about when they won't go away quietly? And don't forget those completely inappropriate demonstrations of or impatience about sexuality up front...or the opposite, taking FOREVER to make a move. What if your date (or you) are too flirty with everyone else? What if they become drunk and stupid...is that their "real self"? How is a date supposed to go well if the guy talks about his Mommy all the time (or worse)? Have you ever had a date bring unexpected "guests"...either literally or figuratively? What are the signs they're not even in the same reality as you? Maybe you're better off if they do, in fact, leave with someone else (as we finally get around to talking about as well). Get on our calendar and let's make a plan for YOU to get your dating life solved in 2024. https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! If you've been out there dating for any time at all, you've likely compiled your fair share of weird dating stories. It's easy to think that those situations could only happen to you, and you've GOT to be the only one. But guess what? PLENTY of apparent weirdness on first dates is tons more common than you probably guess. This time around Emily and I recount not only a few of our own most bizzaro stories, but those of others we've heard from over the years. You can likely guess we started off with tales of gross misrepresentation and false advertising online. That topic is closely followed by talk about those awkward instances when only one of you thinks the date went well. Backlash when it didn't go well? We've got you covered. What about when they won't go away quietly? And don't forget those completely inappropriate demonstrations of or impatience about sexuality up front...or the opposite, taking FOREVER to make a move. What if your date (or you) are too flirty with everyone else? What if they become drunk and stupid...is that their "real self"? How is a date supposed to go well if the guy talks about his Mommy all the time (or worse)? Have you ever had a date bring unexpected "guests"...either literally or figuratively? What are the signs they're not even in the same reality as you? Maybe you're better off if they do, in fact, leave with someone else (as we finally get around to talking about as well). Get on our calendar and let's make a plan for YOU to get your dating life solved in 2024. https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! If you've been out there dating for any time at all, you've likely compiled your fair share of weird dating stories. It's easy to think that those situations could only happen to you, and you've GOT to be the only one. But guess what? PLENTY of apparent weirdness on first dates is tons more common than you probably guess. This time around Emily and I recount not only a few of our own most bizzaro stories, but those of others we've heard from over the years. You can likely guess we started off with tales of gross misrepresentation and false advertising online. That topic is closely followed by talk about those awkward instances when only one of you thinks the date went well. Backlash when it didn't go well? We've got you covered. What about when they won't go away quietly? And don't forget those completely inappropriate demonstrations of or impatience about sexuality up front...or the opposite, taking FOREVER to make a move. What if your date (or you) are too flirty with everyone else? What if they become drunk and stupid...is that their "real self"? How is a date supposed to go well if the guy talks about his Mommy all the time (or worse)? Have you ever had a date bring unexpected "guests"...either literally or figuratively? What are the signs they're not even in the same reality as you? Maybe you're better off if they do, in fact, leave with someone else (as we finally get around to talking about as well). Get on our calendar and let's make a plan for YOU to get your dating life solved in 2024. https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode75.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 10 Nov 2023 12:00:00 -0400 b8e44387-e25c-4332-a7a4-51bf47de9ef5 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage We've all found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And no...it's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is it often so hard to define? Well, in this episode we break down exactly what constitutes such infamous creepy behavior...and how it tends to impact men and women differently. Is it possible some people don't even realize they're being creepy? Do others know for sure they are in fact creeps, but like it that way? What's more, why is it perfectly normal guys are often so concerned they're going to come across as creepy? How do we relax and avoid that worry...lest it weirdly become a self-fulfilling prophecy? What is the difference between male creepy behavior and the female version? How many women out there have somehow convinced themselves it's impossible for them to be creepy? Stay tuned for the one shining example of how the absolute best of intentions can actually backfire spectacularly and seem insanely creepy. What are the warning signs that the person you're with is starting to get creeped out? Next, Emily creeps me out in real time by randomly shifting the discussion to disgusting bodily functions...and in doing so makes a really good point. What kind of behavior might be creepy when you barely know someone, but completely normal and okay once you've been around each other for a while? And why is that? Under what rare circumstances could a certain person get away with something socially that would be creepy if nearly anyone else did it? If a first date is going in a creepy direction, is there any way to salvage it? Is 'Mr. Nice Guy' creepy to women? How can a man who by all appearances should be the most attractive to women easily end up being the creepy guy instead...for the same reasons? And why is is that whether we move too quickly or too slowly sexually, we're creepy? Get on our calendar and talk to us. The first 25 minutes is free: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! We've all found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And no...it's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is it often so hard to define? Well, in this episode we break down exactly what constitutes such infamous creepy behavior...and how it tends to impact men and women differently. Is it possible some people don't even realize they're being creepy? Do others know for sure they are in fact creeps, but like it that way? What's more, why is it perfectly normal guys are often so concerned they're going to come across as creepy? How do we relax and avoid that worry...lest it weirdly become a self-fulfilling prophecy? What is the difference between male creepy behavior and the female version? How many women out there have somehow convinced themselves it's impossible for them to be creepy? Stay tuned for the one shining example of how the absolute best of intentions can actually backfire spectacularly and seem insanely creepy. What are the warning signs that the person you're with is starting to get creeped out? Next, Emily creeps me out in real time by randomly shifting the discussion to disgusting bodily functions...and in doing so makes a really good point. What kind of behavior might be creepy when you barely know someone, but completely normal and okay once you've been around each other for a while? And why is that? Under what rare circumstances could a certain person get away with something socially that would be creepy if nearly anyone else did it? If a first date is going in a creepy direction, is there any way to salvage it? Is 'Mr. Nice Guy' creepy to women? How can a man who by all appearances should be the most attractive to women easily end up being the creepy guy instead...for the same reasons? And why is is that whether we move too quickly or too slowly sexually, we're creepy? Get on our calendar and talk to us. The first 25 minutes is free: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! We've all found ourselves out on a date with someone who creeped us out. And no...it's not gender-specific. But what does 'creepy' even mean? Why is it often so hard to define? Well, in this episode we break down exactly what constitutes such infamous creepy behavior...and how it tends to impact men and women differently. Is it possible some people don't even realize they're being creepy? Do others know for sure they are in fact creeps, but like it that way? What's more, why is it perfectly normal guys are often so concerned they're going to come across as creepy? How do we relax and avoid that worry...lest it weirdly become a self-fulfilling prophecy? What is the difference between male creepy behavior and the female version? How many women out there have somehow convinced themselves it's impossible for them to be creepy? Stay tuned for the one shining example of how the absolute best of intentions can actually backfire spectacularly and seem insanely creepy. What are the warning signs that the person you're with is starting to get creeped out? Next, Emily creeps me out in real time by randomly shifting the discussion to disgusting bodily functions...and in doing so makes a really good point. What kind of behavior might be creepy when you barely know someone, but completely normal and okay once you've been around each other for a while? And why is that? Under what rare circumstances could a certain person get away with something socially that would be creepy if nearly anyone else did it? If a first date is going in a creepy direction, is there any way to salvage it? Is 'Mr. Nice Guy' creepy to women? How can a man who by all appearances should be the most attractive to women easily end up being the creepy guy instead...for the same reasons? And why is is that whether we move too quickly or too slowly sexually, we're creepy? Get on our calendar and talk to us. The first 25 minutes is free: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode74.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 01 Sep 2023 12:00:00 -0400 842684f4-7dc6-4f1f-8bba-d5ac8da80c8c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on who your significant other was at a particular time in history. But for sure there are, well...'standards' that tend to rule any polite, public conversation about how men and women typically are when they're a couple, and what's 'normal'. So then, what IS 'normal'? Is there really such a thing? And if so, is that really what's BEST in a particular relationship...especially for YOU and your partner? After all, sometimes 'normalcy' is unhappy. What kind of feelings should a couple have for each other? Can initial attraction and 'chemistry' possibly be a bad or dangerous thing, as some so-called experts say? On the other hand, is there any merit to the idea of 'learning to love each other'? And how do 'normal' couples behave? Is it healthy to 'fight', as some dating coaches have suggested? Or should you always be 'shiny and happy' instead? Surely, there has to be some middle ground, right? And what about jealousy...how much of that is 'normal'? Is total equality between men and women the new norm for most couples? And what about sex? Does any idea of what's 'normal' go completely out the window behind closed doors...or are most of us actually a lot more normal than we think we are? Get all the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on who your significant other was at a particular time in history. But for sure there are, well...'standards' that tend to rule any polite, public conversation about how men and women typically are when they're a couple, and what's 'normal'. So then, what IS 'normal'? Is there really such a thing? And if so, is that really what's BEST in a particular relationship...especially for YOU and your partner? After all, sometimes 'normalcy' is unhappy. What kind of feelings should a couple have for each other? Can initial attraction and 'chemistry' possibly be a bad or dangerous thing, as some so-called experts say? On the other hand, is there any merit to the idea of 'learning to love each other'? And how do 'normal' couples behave? Is it healthy to 'fight', as some dating coaches have suggested? Or should you always be 'shiny and happy' instead? Surely, there has to be some middle ground, right? And what about jealousy...how much of that is 'normal'? Is total equality between men and women the new norm for most couples? And what about sex? Does any idea of what's 'normal' go completely out the window behind closed doors...or are most of us actually a lot more normal than we think we are? Get all the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Every couple thinks and behaves differently. You've probably thought and behaved differently depending on who your significant other was at a particular time in history. But for sure there are, well...'standards' that tend to rule any polite, public conversation about how men and women typically are when they're a couple, and what's 'normal'. So then, what IS 'normal'? Is there really such a thing? And if so, is that really what's BEST in a particular relationship...especially for YOU and your partner? After all, sometimes 'normalcy' is unhappy. What kind of feelings should a couple have for each other? Can initial attraction and 'chemistry' possibly be a bad or dangerous thing, as some so-called experts say? On the other hand, is there any merit to the idea of 'learning to love each other'? And how do 'normal' couples behave? Is it healthy to 'fight', as some dating coaches have suggested? Or should you always be 'shiny and happy' instead? Surely, there has to be some middle ground, right? And what about jealousy...how much of that is 'normal'? Is total equality between men and women the new norm for most couples? And what about sex? Does any idea of what's 'normal' go completely out the window behind closed doors...or are most of us actually a lot more normal than we think we are? Get all the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode73.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 23 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0400 5ea987b7-ba22-47fa-a420-1393ab5bd81f scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage You hear the term 'power couple' quite a bit, but what exactly does it mean? We know one when we see one, for sure. But is it necessarily a good thing? Would we want to team up with our significant other to BE one? If so, how do we BECOME one? Well, let's first get this out in the open: I'm not sure whether we are indeed a 'power couple' or not, especialy after this conversation...as entertaining and informative as it was. So then, how about it? What kind of 'power' are we talking about here, anyway? What does it take for a couple to add up to more than the sum of their individual parts? What are the actual, real-world traits of a 'power couple'? Can a couple be a 'power couple' simply by acting like one, or does that distinction have to be earned...if not bestowed upon them by others? What are the different ways can a couple indeed be powerful? Doesn't the expectation to be a 'power couple' put a lot of pressure on spouses, especially if one wants it more than the other? Is this something we should aspire to--in one way or another--or does it all only relegate the relationship to feeling more like 'work' again? Is it true in this case that the bigger they are, the harder they fall? And hey, is there such thing as 'power parents'? That sounds flat-out cringeworthy. One thing's for sure about this episode, we didn't leave anything on the table, all the while taking ourselves far less seriously than any 'power couple' typically should. Catch show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! You hear the term 'power couple' quite a bit, but what exactly does it mean? We know one when we see one, for sure. But is it necessarily a good thing? Would we want to team up with our significant other to BE one? If so, how do we BECOME one? Well, let's first get this out in the open: I'm not sure whether we are indeed a 'power couple' or not, especialy after this conversation...as entertaining and informative as it was. So then, how about it? What kind of 'power' are we talking about here, anyway? What does it take for a couple to add up to more than the sum of their individual parts? What are the actual, real-world traits of a 'power couple'? Can a couple be a 'power couple' simply by acting like one, or does that distinction have to be earned...if not bestowed upon them by others? What are the different ways can a couple indeed be powerful? Doesn't the expectation to be a 'power couple' put a lot of pressure on spouses, especially if one wants it more than the other? Is this something we should aspire to--in one way or another--or does it all only relegate the relationship to feeling more like 'work' again? Is it true in this case that the bigger they are, the harder they fall? And hey, is there such thing as 'power parents'? That sounds flat-out cringeworthy. One thing's for sure about this episode, we didn't leave anything on the table, all the while taking ourselves far less seriously than any 'power couple' typically should. Catch show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! You hear the term 'power couple' quite a bit, but what exactly does it mean? We know one when we see one, for sure. But is it necessarily a good thing? Would we want to team up with our significant other to BE one? If so, how do we BECOME one? Well, let's first get this out in the open: I'm not sure whether we are indeed a 'power couple' or not, especialy after this conversation...as entertaining and informative as it was. So then, how about it? What kind of 'power' are we talking about here, anyway? What does it take for a couple to add up to more than the sum of their individual parts? What are the actual, real-world traits of a 'power couple'? Can a couple be a 'power couple' simply by acting like one, or does that distinction have to be earned...if not bestowed upon them by others? What are the different ways can a couple indeed be powerful? Doesn't the expectation to be a 'power couple' put a lot of pressure on spouses, especially if one wants it more than the other? Is this something we should aspire to--in one way or another--or does it all only relegate the relationship to feeling more like 'work' again? Is it true in this case that the bigger they are, the harder they fall? And hey, is there such thing as 'power parents'? That sounds flat-out cringeworthy. One thing's for sure about this episode, we didn't leave anything on the table, all the while taking ourselves far less seriously than any 'power couple' typically should. Catch show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode72.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 14 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0400 6d892738-6d0c-4e9d-991b-4ad4b3e10a21 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage It seems to everyone paying attention that beautiful women enjoy a massive 'halo effect'. It's like they're treated like celebrities--or even royalty--everywhere they go. But what else is going on there? What's it REALLY like to be a sexy, attractive woman out there in the dating world? Well, in my decidedly un-biased opinion, Emily is exactly the right female human being to offer first-hand perspective on all of this. First, off, we talk about how there are two kinds of women...those who rely on their looks, and those who see the bigger picture. What's life like for each? Do women look for reasons to 'reject' men? And what's it like to have to put almost everyone in the JBF Zone? What do truly attractive women really think when a man compliments them? Could it really be true that the hotter a woman is, the LESS she gets asked out (even if she's 'hit on' more)? Do women really enjoy their ability to 'get laid' by almost anyone, anytime...or is that only how men think? What is the BIGGEST problem beautiful women face when dating? What's the real-world social difference between childhood beauty queens and late bloomers? Are there women who don't realize they're beautiful? Why do some women burn through a cycle of commitment phobic men, while others get proposed to early and often? What about women who weaponize their looks...how does that work? And what's the deal with 'self-made sexy women'? What does that even mean? So sure, attractive women may have the power in dating...but do they WANT it? What happens when they meet a chooser instead of another chaser? Get all the free stuff you can handle, and talk to me for FREE when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It seems to everyone paying attention that beautiful women enjoy a massive 'halo effect'. It's like they're treated like celebrities--or even royalty--everywhere they go. But what else is going on there? What's it REALLY like to be a sexy, attractive woman out there in the dating world? Well, in my decidedly un-biased opinion, Emily is exactly the right female human being to offer first-hand perspective on all of this. First, off, we talk about how there are two kinds of women...those who rely on their looks, and those who see the bigger picture. What's life like for each? Do women look for reasons to 'reject' men? And what's it like to have to put almost everyone in the JBF Zone? What do truly attractive women really think when a man compliments them? Could it really be true that the hotter a woman is, the LESS she gets asked out (even if she's 'hit on' more)? Do women really enjoy their ability to 'get laid' by almost anyone, anytime...or is that only how men think? What is the BIGGEST problem beautiful women face when dating? What's the real-world social difference between childhood beauty queens and late bloomers? Are there women who don't realize they're beautiful? Why do some women burn through a cycle of commitment phobic men, while others get proposed to early and often? What about women who weaponize their looks...how does that work? And what's the deal with 'self-made sexy women'? What does that even mean? So sure, attractive women may have the power in dating...but do they WANT it? What happens when they meet a chooser instead of another chaser? Get all the free stuff you can handle, and talk to me for FREE when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It seems to everyone paying attention that beautiful women enjoy a massive 'halo effect'. It's like they're treated like celebrities--or even royalty--everywhere they go. But what else is going on there? What's it REALLY like to be a sexy, attractive woman out there in the dating world? Well, in my decidedly un-biased opinion, Emily is exactly the right female human being to offer first-hand perspective on all of this. First, off, we talk about how there are two kinds of women...those who rely on their looks, and those who see the bigger picture. What's life like for each? Do women look for reasons to 'reject' men? And what's it like to have to put almost everyone in the JBF Zone? What do truly attractive women really think when a man compliments them? Could it really be true that the hotter a woman is, the LESS she gets asked out (even if she's 'hit on' more)? Do women really enjoy their ability to 'get laid' by almost anyone, anytime...or is that only how men think? What is the BIGGEST problem beautiful women face when dating? What's the real-world social difference between childhood beauty queens and late bloomers? Are there women who don't realize they're beautiful? Why do some women burn through a cycle of commitment phobic men, while others get proposed to early and often? What about women who weaponize their looks...how does that work? And what's the deal with 'self-made sexy women'? What does that even mean? So sure, attractive women may have the power in dating...but do they WANT it? What happens when they meet a chooser instead of another chaser? Get all the free stuff you can handle, and talk to me for FREE when you visit https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode71.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 03 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0400 f945a678-6bdd-4867-ac8f-11476b52f110 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Emily and I both are survivors of first marriages affected by profound illness. And yes...we both strongly agree you would be better off avoiding psychotic people in general, especially as romantic partners. But when you get right down to it, that's only one kind of person who you should definitely write out of your romantic story. So why is it, then, that too many people end up with the wrong person? Is it that they ignore red flags? Is it failure to even recognize red flags at all? Or does low self-esteem compel people to settle, which is at least better than being lonely? Is it about being 'clouded by beauty vision'? For sure, some people are manipulated or even threatened by black-hearted partners into sticking around. Or what if it's something else entirely? Well, here at X & Y Communications we believe in deserving what you want. That means rolling up the sleeves and doing what it takes to make the right relationships happen. Well, after this ironically funny and entertaining episode, we pledge you'll be much better equipped to pick up on warning signs, make better decisions and most of all...ultimately weed out crazy, selfish, mean, addicted, needy and/or fundamentally incompatible people. Visit the web site for free downloads, show notes and to talk to us FREE for 25 minutes: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Emily and I both are survivors of first marriages affected by profound illness. And yes...we both strongly agree you would be better off avoiding psychotic people in general, especially as romantic partners. But when you get right down to it, that's only one kind of person who you should definitely write out of your romantic story. So why is it, then, that too many people end up with the wrong person? Is it that they ignore red flags? Is it failure to even recognize red flags at all? Or does low self-esteem compel people to settle, which is at least better than being lonely? Is it about being 'clouded by beauty vision'? For sure, some people are manipulated or even threatened by black-hearted partners into sticking around. Or what if it's something else entirely? Well, here at X & Y Communications we believe in deserving what you want. That means rolling up the sleeves and doing what it takes to make the right relationships happen. Well, after this ironically funny and entertaining episode, we pledge you'll be much better equipped to pick up on warning signs, make better decisions and most of all...ultimately weed out crazy, selfish, mean, addicted, needy and/or fundamentally incompatible people. Visit the web site for free downloads, show notes and to talk to us FREE for 25 minutes: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Who knows why this topic hadn't been covered yet around here? My edumckayted guess is it probably had something to do with repressed memories. Yes, Emily and I both are survivors of first marriages affected by profound illness. And yes...we both strongly agree you would be better off avoiding psychotic people in general, especially as romantic partners. But when you get right down to it, that's only one kind of person who you should definitely write out of your romantic story. So why is it, then, that too many people end up with the wrong person? Is it that they ignore red flags? Is it failure to even recognize red flags at all? Or does low self-esteem compel people to settle, which is at least better than being lonely? Is it about being 'clouded by beauty vision'? For sure, some people are manipulated or even threatened by black-hearted partners into sticking around. Or what if it's something else entirely? Well, here at X & Y Communications we believe in deserving what you want. That means rolling up the sleeves and doing what it takes to make the right relationships happen. Well, after this ironically funny and entertaining episode, we pledge you'll be much better equipped to pick up on warning signs, make better decisions and most of all...ultimately weed out crazy, selfish, mean, addicted, needy and/or fundamentally incompatible people. Visit the web site for free downloads, show notes and to talk to us FREE for 25 minutes: https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg https://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode70.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 25 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0400 a7685a08-5132-4a05-8dc9-3e0f080d450c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunch. The reality of blended families is much different. Emily and I have been there ourselves, and have first-hand experience. We know full well it can seem more like being put through a Vita-Mix than a mere blender. But does it have to be such an ordeal? Well, there's no doubt that bringing everyone involved under one roof is a challenge, but yes...there is plenty of 20/20 foresight that can minimize both the drama and the pain. And what if you're already all together and facing profound issues as a blended family? No worries, Emily and I have real, actionable answers for you as well. So, why is blending a family uniquely different when it comes to baseline compatibility measures? What should we think about BEFORE dating a single parent? How does selfishness creep in to the picture...often with devastating results? What if you straight-up don't like each other's kids? What's the first thing that ought to happen as soon as you get engaged to a single parent? And what is the best way to give each of your kids a measure of ownership over their own destiny as step-kids, without conceding parental control? This is a big topic for sure, but prepared to be amazed by how much ground gets covered in one episode. Nevertheless, if this show raised more questions, please write us at scotandemily@scotandemily.com and/or visit us at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunch. The reality of blended families is much different. Emily and I have been there ourselves, and have first-hand experience. We know full well it can seem more like being put through a Vita-Mix than a mere blender. But does it have to be such an ordeal? Well, there's no doubt that bringing everyone involved under one roof is a challenge, but yes...there is plenty of 20/20 foresight that can minimize both the drama and the pain. And what if you're already all together and facing profound issues as a blended family? No worries, Emily and I have real, actionable answers for you as well. So, why is blending a family uniquely different when it comes to baseline compatibility measures? What should we think about BEFORE dating a single parent? How does selfishness creep in to the picture...often with devastating results? What if you straight-up don't like each other's kids? What's the first thing that ought to happen as soon as you get engaged to a single parent? And what is the best way to give each of your kids a measure of ownership over their own destiny as step-kids, without conceding parental control? This is a big topic for sure, but prepared to be amazed by how much ground gets covered in one episode. Nevertheless, if this show raised more questions, please write us at scotandemily@scotandemily.com and/or visit us at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Let's face it, when single moms and single dads get together, it's pure naive idealism that would cause us to expect we're creating our own Brady Bunch. The reality of blended families is much different. Emily and I have been there ourselves, and have first-hand experience. We know full well it can seem more like being put through a Vita-Mix than a mere blender. But does it have to be such an ordeal? Well, there's no doubt that bringing everyone involved under one roof is a challenge, but yes...there is plenty of 20/20 foresight that can minimize both the drama and the pain. And what if you're already all together and facing profound issues as a blended family? No worries, Emily and I have real, actionable answers for you as well. So, why is blending a family uniquely different when it comes to baseline compatibility measures? What should we think about BEFORE dating a single parent? How does selfishness creep in to the picture...often with devastating results? What if you straight-up don't like each other's kids? What's the first thing that ought to happen as soon as you get engaged to a single parent? And what is the best way to give each of your kids a measure of ownership over their own destiny as step-kids, without conceding parental control? This is a big topic for sure, but prepared to be amazed by how much ground gets covered in one episode. Nevertheless, if this show raised more questions, please write us at scotandemily@scotandemily.com and/or visit us at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode69.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 02 Sep 2022 12:00:00 -0400 4686f3f4-c84c-4fbc-872a-617d14235eb9 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. We get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blurting out extremely painful barbs at each other...and how can we guard against saying that which can never be unsaid? In what ways can be arm ourselves with wisdom so as to prevent harmful insults, angry threats and heated 'confessions' from ever being uttered to begin with? What subjects should couples absolutely avoid if they want to avoid bitterness and resentment? Finally, listen in for some practical, actionable habits that Emily and I have adopted within the framework of our marriage to ensure our conversations remain productive...even when we're cranky? Find the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. We get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blurting out extremely painful barbs at each other...and how can we guard against saying that which can never be unsaid? In what ways can be arm ourselves with wisdom so as to prevent harmful insults, angry threats and heated 'confessions' from ever being uttered to begin with? What subjects should couples absolutely avoid if they want to avoid bitterness and resentment? Finally, listen in for some practical, actionable habits that Emily and I have adopted within the framework of our marriage to ensure our conversations remain productive...even when we're cranky? Find the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! As the lyrics of one of Tyler Childers' songs say, 'There is hurt you can cause that time alone cannot heal'. When it comes to our interactions with women, a breathtaking amount of that pain is caused by what we say...or what SHE says. And when we get into a relationship, the stakes get even higher. We get straight to the point in this episode, first addressing the weird childhood refrain that 'sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me'. So then, what about childhood? How does what our parents--and maybe even teachers--tell us form our views of and expectations toward future romantic relationship? What's the truth about how early-stage communication between men and women can deeply impact BOTH participants, both in the short-term and the longer-term? What are the differences between how men and women tend to process conversational conflict...and the surprising similarities? What are the patterns that lead to couples blurting out extremely painful barbs at each other...and how can we guard against saying that which can never be unsaid? In what ways can be arm ourselves with wisdom so as to prevent harmful insults, angry threats and heated 'confessions' from ever being uttered to begin with? What subjects should couples absolutely avoid if they want to avoid bitterness and resentment? Finally, listen in for some practical, actionable habits that Emily and I have adopted within the framework of our marriage to ensure our conversations remain productive...even when we're cranky? Find the show notes, free downloads and more at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode68.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 17 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0400 4e3dbf04-bd35-4653-9671-c74d2cf2fa3f scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhere. It can start with the best man's TMI speech during the wedding reception. But what about unsolicited advice from miserable people who can't even manage their own relationships? Jealous BFFs and sneaky exes? Baby mamas and baby daddies? How about other toxic people in your life you just can't cut out, for whatever reason? Sometimes it's his kids, her kids and even your kids together. How about when there's a member of the other gender who is 'just a friend'? Sometimes you don't even have to be on The Newlywed Game in order to be humiliated in front of way too many people...a simple party game of 'Would You Rather?' can do the trick. What about job-related pressures, or bosses, or when coworkers start interfering with your relationship? Is there ever a time when these people should be allowed to exert influence, or is that a loaded question? What about a job change, especially if that involves a major schedule disruption or even relocation? Is it possible that fictional characters can negatively affect how couples relate to each other? How does that work? What about social media and text disasters? Can media headlines and political opinions seep into a relationship and affect a couple's perception of compatibility? Is there any way to anticipate potential outside influences prior to getting into a relationship, and develop a 'contingency plan' of sorts...or does life simply tend to throw too many unexpected curveballs, despite our best-laid plans? By the way, no...there REALLY isn't a Jen, already. Get all the free stuff at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhere. It can start with the best man's TMI speech during the wedding reception. But what about unsolicited advice from miserable people who can't even manage their own relationships? Jealous BFFs and sneaky exes? Baby mamas and baby daddies? How about other toxic people in your life you just can't cut out, for whatever reason? Sometimes it's his kids, her kids and even your kids together. How about when there's a member of the other gender who is 'just a friend'? Sometimes you don't even have to be on The Newlywed Game in order to be humiliated in front of way too many people...a simple party game of 'Would You Rather?' can do the trick. What about job-related pressures, or bosses, or when coworkers start interfering with your relationship? Is there ever a time when these people should be allowed to exert influence, or is that a loaded question? What about a job change, especially if that involves a major schedule disruption or even relocation? Is it possible that fictional characters can negatively affect how couples relate to each other? How does that work? What about social media and text disasters? Can media headlines and political opinions seep into a relationship and affect a couple's perception of compatibility? Is there any way to anticipate potential outside influences prior to getting into a relationship, and develop a 'contingency plan' of sorts...or does life simply tend to throw too many unexpected curveballs, despite our best-laid plans? By the way, no...there REALLY isn't a Jen, already. Get all the free stuff at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! No matter how well a couple gets along and navigates their relationship, there always seems to be a challenge to your relationship coming from somewhere. It can start with the best man's TMI speech during the wedding reception. But what about unsolicited advice from miserable people who can't even manage their own relationships? Jealous BFFs and sneaky exes? Baby mamas and baby daddies? How about other toxic people in your life you just can't cut out, for whatever reason? Sometimes it's his kids, her kids and even your kids together. How about when there's a member of the other gender who is 'just a friend'? Sometimes you don't even have to be on The Newlywed Game in order to be humiliated in front of way too many people...a simple party game of 'Would You Rather?' can do the trick. What about job-related pressures, or bosses, or when coworkers start interfering with your relationship? Is there ever a time when these people should be allowed to exert influence, or is that a loaded question? What about a job change, especially if that involves a major schedule disruption or even relocation? Is it possible that fictional characters can negatively affect how couples relate to each other? How does that work? What about social media and text disasters? Can media headlines and political opinions seep into a relationship and affect a couple's perception of compatibility? Is there any way to anticipate potential outside influences prior to getting into a relationship, and develop a 'contingency plan' of sorts...or does life simply tend to throw too many unexpected curveballs, despite our best-laid plans? By the way, no...there REALLY isn't a Jen, already. Get all the free stuff at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode67.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 01 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400 336ec618-7b2f-462d-acaa-5a7862fcee47 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship suck. To kick things off, we talk about the scene in the movie The Good, The Bad And The Ugly itself that's the best metaphor for how men and women ruin their relationships together. Next, we talk about the importance of realizing that some allegedly 'small' annoyances in a relationship are actually HUGE to the other partner. And YES...you want examples, and we've got 'em. What's the difference between being snarky and being a smart-ass...and is either okay? What are some dangerous ways that bad parenting can actually negatively affect your relationship? What should always be off the table in any disagreement and NEVER fair game? And how about those habits we fall into that seem innocuous at first, but prove to be toxic over time? What kinds of expectations are too idealistic for real life...and which are perfectly reasonable? How do external stresses seep into a relationship to make it worse? What negative effects can pregnancy have if we're not vigilant? How about blended families? What happens when men and women confuse being equal with being the same? And no discussion of the little things that can wreck a relationship would be complete without discussion of your sex life together, right? Get ready for a no-holds-barred experience, as no stone gets left unturned. And after listening, get all the free goodies and more by checking out https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship suck. To kick things off, we talk about the scene in the movie The Good, The Bad And The Ugly itself that's the best metaphor for how men and women ruin their relationships together. Next, we talk about the importance of realizing that some allegedly 'small' annoyances in a relationship are actually HUGE to the other partner. And YES...you want examples, and we've got 'em. What's the difference between being snarky and being a smart-ass...and is either okay? What are some dangerous ways that bad parenting can actually negatively affect your relationship? What should always be off the table in any disagreement and NEVER fair game? And how about those habits we fall into that seem innocuous at first, but prove to be toxic over time? What kinds of expectations are too idealistic for real life...and which are perfectly reasonable? How do external stresses seep into a relationship to make it worse? What negative effects can pregnancy have if we're not vigilant? How about blended families? What happens when men and women confuse being equal with being the same? And no discussion of the little things that can wreck a relationship would be complete without discussion of your sex life together, right? Get ready for a no-holds-barred experience, as no stone gets left unturned. And after listening, get all the free goodies and more by checking out https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In the second installment of our two-part episode, Emily and I break down the little things couples do (often to each other) that make a relationship suck. To kick things off, we talk about the scene in the movie The Good, The Bad And The Ugly itself that's the best metaphor for how men and women ruin their relationships together. Next, we talk about the importance of realizing that some allegedly 'small' annoyances in a relationship are actually HUGE to the other partner. And YES...you want examples, and we've got 'em. What's the difference between being snarky and being a smart-ass...and is either okay? What are some dangerous ways that bad parenting can actually negatively affect your relationship? What should always be off the table in any disagreement and NEVER fair game? And how about those habits we fall into that seem innocuous at first, but prove to be toxic over time? What kinds of expectations are too idealistic for real life...and which are perfectly reasonable? How do external stresses seep into a relationship to make it worse? What negative effects can pregnancy have if we're not vigilant? How about blended families? What happens when men and women confuse being equal with being the same? And no discussion of the little things that can wreck a relationship would be complete without discussion of your sex life together, right? Get ready for a no-holds-barred experience, as no stone gets left unturned. And after listening, get all the free goodies and more by checking out https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode66.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 31 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0400 bd446f7b-52a7-4427-804c-b0438a39cc00 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage This is the first of a two-part episode on the little things that either make a relationship great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pillars like trust, communication, attraction, etc., but this is a deeper dive into the subtle effects certain mindsets and/or actions have. The first order of business is to describe how big mountains are often (maybe even usually) composed of small pebbles. How important is being playful instead of taking oneself so seriously? What does that even mean? Should you put THEIR needs and OUR needs ahead of YOUR needs? If so, what if your needs never get met? Next we talk about various kinds of 'micro-bursts' that can really supercharge your relationship. What does it mean when we say, 'Freedom from obligation is literally nothing'? How can certain little secret messages and spontaneous flirts change the dynamic between partners for the better? What 'three little words' are every bit as important as 'I love you'? Is talking everything out overrated? Discover the meta level truth behind small things mattering in a relationship. Next, we reveal the insidious ways we trick ourselves into focusing only on the big picture, with predictably disastrous relationship results. What is the important conversation that must take place between a couple before getting married? (Well, there are lots of them, for sure...but this is one that rarely gets mentioned.) How about the little gestures that matter during pregnancy and the early days of parenthood? Yes...we cover those too. Talk to us for FREE for 25 minutes when you get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! This is the first of a two-part episode on the little things that either make a relationship great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pillars like trust, communication, attraction, etc., but this is a deeper dive into the subtle effects certain mindsets and/or actions have. The first order of business is to describe how big mountains are often (maybe even usually) composed of small pebbles. How important is being playful instead of taking oneself so seriously? What does that even mean? Should you put THEIR needs and OUR needs ahead of YOUR needs? If so, what if your needs never get met? Next we talk about various kinds of 'micro-bursts' that can really supercharge your relationship. What does it mean when we say, 'Freedom from obligation is literally nothing'? How can certain little secret messages and spontaneous flirts change the dynamic between partners for the better? What 'three little words' are every bit as important as 'I love you'? Is talking everything out overrated? Discover the meta level truth behind small things mattering in a relationship. Next, we reveal the insidious ways we trick ourselves into focusing only on the big picture, with predictably disastrous relationship results. What is the important conversation that must take place between a couple before getting married? (Well, there are lots of them, for sure...but this is one that rarely gets mentioned.) How about the little gestures that matter during pregnancy and the early days of parenthood? Yes...we cover those too. Talk to us for FREE for 25 minutes when you get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! This is the first of a two-part episode on the little things that either make a relationship great, or make it suck. Sure, you hear about the major pillars like trust, communication, attraction, etc., but this is a deeper dive into the subtle effects certain mindsets and/or actions have. The first order of business is to describe how big mountains are often (maybe even usually) composed of small pebbles. How important is being playful instead of taking oneself so seriously? What does that even mean? Should you put THEIR needs and OUR needs ahead of YOUR needs? If so, what if your needs never get met? Next we talk about various kinds of 'micro-bursts' that can really supercharge your relationship. What does it mean when we say, 'Freedom from obligation is literally nothing'? How can certain little secret messages and spontaneous flirts change the dynamic between partners for the better? What 'three little words' are every bit as important as 'I love you'? Is talking everything out overrated? Discover the meta level truth behind small things mattering in a relationship. Next, we reveal the insidious ways we trick ourselves into focusing only on the big picture, with predictably disastrous relationship results. What is the important conversation that must take place between a couple before getting married? (Well, there are lots of them, for sure...but this is one that rarely gets mentioned.) How about the little gestures that matter during pregnancy and the early days of parenthood? Yes...we cover those too. Talk to us for FREE for 25 minutes when you get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode65.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 24 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0400 4e053d14-9066-4490-94cb-ac9633c081fd scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that trust looks like. What causes men and women to lack (or lose) trust for each other? How do established mindsets wreak destruction on a nascent relationship before it even has a chance? Should two people trust each other at the beginning blindly, or is that earned over time? What is a reasonable amount of suspicion versus simply being paranoid? What do you do when lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? And how can we shake that nagging feeling of unwillingness to trust again after getting hurt over and over...isn't that kind of like not trusting oneself to begin with? And what about the strain that long-distance relationships put on trust? Do pre-nuptial agreements automatically betray lack of trust right from the beginning? How much does communication really have to do with all of this? Why does Emily enthusiastically support my in-field outings with you guys to practice meeting women? And for the big finale, we cover the three cornerstones of a good, solid trusting relationship that's built to last. So what about you? Are you in a relationship where trust is lacking, and want to either build it up or get it back? Would you like to get into a healthy relationship but find it hard to trust again? Let's get on the phone together and talk about it. Get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that trust looks like. What causes men and women to lack (or lose) trust for each other? How do established mindsets wreak destruction on a nascent relationship before it even has a chance? Should two people trust each other at the beginning blindly, or is that earned over time? What is a reasonable amount of suspicion versus simply being paranoid? What do you do when lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? And how can we shake that nagging feeling of unwillingness to trust again after getting hurt over and over...isn't that kind of like not trusting oneself to begin with? And what about the strain that long-distance relationships put on trust? Do pre-nuptial agreements automatically betray lack of trust right from the beginning? How much does communication really have to do with all of this? Why does Emily enthusiastically support my in-field outings with you guys to practice meeting women? And for the big finale, we cover the three cornerstones of a good, solid trusting relationship that's built to last. So what about you? Are you in a relationship where trust is lacking, and want to either build it up or get it back? Would you like to get into a healthy relationship but find it hard to trust again? Let's get on the phone together and talk about it. Get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that trust looks like. What causes men and women to lack (or lose) trust for each other? How do established mindsets wreak destruction on a nascent relationship before it even has a chance? Should two people trust each other at the beginning blindly, or is that earned over time? What is a reasonable amount of suspicion versus simply being paranoid? What do you do when lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? And how can we shake that nagging feeling of unwillingness to trust again after getting hurt over and over...isn't that kind of like not trusting oneself to begin with? And what about the strain that long-distance relationships put on trust? Do pre-nuptial agreements automatically betray lack of trust right from the beginning? How much does communication really have to do with all of this? Why does Emily enthusiastically support my in-field outings with you guys to practice meeting women? And for the big finale, we cover the three cornerstones of a good, solid trusting relationship that's built to last. So what about you? Are you in a relationship where trust is lacking, and want to either build it up or get it back? Would you like to get into a healthy relationship but find it hard to trust again? Let's get on the phone together and talk about it. Get on our calendar at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode64.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 08 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0400 f409bc93-f36f-49f0-841f-413b190ab14c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do mess up our chances in dating and relationships? I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But what are the ways that women tend to try too hard? Why do people think this works to attract people, when the weird psychological effect is the exact opposite? Instead of pushing people away, how can we PULL them in magnetically? And what's the difference between needy approval seeking as opposed to simply being too damn perky, upbeat, enthusiastic or optimistic? Why do people persist in trying too hard, even when they already realize they're 'pushing it uphill' and their efforts are doomed to failure? And what's up with men's tendency to try logicking women into liking us? Women often say they 'want a man to pursue them', but how is that different than chasing in desperation? Of course, no discussion such as this would be complete without straight talk on when to actually give up. Catch show notes, free downloads and a chance to talk to us free for 25-minutes about turning your life around for the better...all when you visit https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do mess up our chances in dating and relationships? I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But what are the ways that women tend to try too hard? Why do people think this works to attract people, when the weird psychological effect is the exact opposite? Instead of pushing people away, how can we PULL them in magnetically? And what's the difference between needy approval seeking as opposed to simply being too damn perky, upbeat, enthusiastic or optimistic? Why do people persist in trying too hard, even when they already realize they're 'pushing it uphill' and their efforts are doomed to failure? And what's up with men's tendency to try logicking women into liking us? Women often say they 'want a man to pursue them', but how is that different than chasing in desperation? Of course, no discussion such as this would be complete without straight talk on when to actually give up. Catch show notes, free downloads and a chance to talk to us free for 25-minutes about turning your life around for the better...all when you visit https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Who knew a funny video featuring two cockatoos would lead to a full-on discussion of one of the most devastating--and common--ways we do mess up our chances in dating and relationships? I'm talking, of course, about trying too hard. Do men, especially so-called 'nice guys', do this more than women? If so, why is that? Can it really be as simple as because men do EVERYTHING to impress chicks? But what are the ways that women tend to try too hard? Why do people think this works to attract people, when the weird psychological effect is the exact opposite? Instead of pushing people away, how can we PULL them in magnetically? And what's the difference between needy approval seeking as opposed to simply being too damn perky, upbeat, enthusiastic or optimistic? Why do people persist in trying too hard, even when they already realize they're 'pushing it uphill' and their efforts are doomed to failure? And what's up with men's tendency to try logicking women into liking us? Women often say they 'want a man to pursue them', but how is that different than chasing in desperation? Of course, no discussion such as this would be complete without straight talk on when to actually give up. Catch show notes, free downloads and a chance to talk to us free for 25-minutes about turning your life around for the better...all when you visit https://scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode63.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 09 Jul 2021 00:00:00 -0400 47a24c3d-f1e1-43cd-aa47-e7b930a9a301 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by saying 'stand by your man' simply meant accepting one's husband despite his faults. But still, by today's standards the song might evoke even more vitriolic outrage. Yet, a recent Facebook post brought up how men are always taught how to treat a woman, but teaching women how to treat a man would be anachronistic at best, sexist or even patriarchal oppression at worst. So what's up with that? Are women just teaching their daughters how to stay away from men? Do the so-called 'red pill' guys and #MGTOW have a point when they decry the double standard? Well, Emily and I throw all of this on the table, along with the sandwich she just made me (kidding). But there's a lot to talk about here. I mean, obviously both women AND men should stand by each other in a relationship, right? But not everyone deserves what they want here. When does loyalty turn into being a doormat? And what happens when men don't WANT to be 'treated', and just want to be left alone to do stuff themselves? Can't people in relationships just do right by each other, and like it? I mean, if we don't stand together we'll inevitably grow apart...right? Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast, where you can schedule a free 25-minute call with us to talk about your future, and getting you into the right relationship. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by saying 'stand by your man' simply meant accepting one's husband despite his faults. But still, by today's standards the song might evoke even more vitriolic outrage. Yet, a recent Facebook post brought up how men are always taught how to treat a woman, but teaching women how to treat a man would be anachronistic at best, sexist or even patriarchal oppression at worst. So what's up with that? Are women just teaching their daughters how to stay away from men? Do the so-called 'red pill' guys and #MGTOW have a point when they decry the double standard? Well, Emily and I throw all of this on the table, along with the sandwich she just made me (kidding). But there's a lot to talk about here. I mean, obviously both women AND men should stand by each other in a relationship, right? But not everyone deserves what they want here. When does loyalty turn into being a doormat? And what happens when men don't WANT to be 'treated', and just want to be left alone to do stuff themselves? Can't people in relationships just do right by each other, and like it? I mean, if we don't stand together we'll inevitably grow apart...right? Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast, where you can schedule a free 25-minute call with us to talk about your future, and getting you into the right relationship. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! In 1968, Tammy Wynette released probably her most famous single, which caused immediate outrage from the Women's Movement. But Wynette countered by saying 'stand by your man' simply meant accepting one's husband despite his faults. But still, by today's standards the song might evoke even more vitriolic outrage. Yet, a recent Facebook post brought up how men are always taught how to treat a woman, but teaching women how to treat a man would be anachronistic at best, sexist or even patriarchal oppression at worst. So what's up with that? Are women just teaching their daughters how to stay away from men? Do the so-called 'red pill' guys and #MGTOW have a point when they decry the double standard? Well, Emily and I throw all of this on the table, along with the sandwich she just made me (kidding). But there's a lot to talk about here. I mean, obviously both women AND men should stand by each other in a relationship, right? But not everyone deserves what they want here. When does loyalty turn into being a doormat? And what happens when men don't WANT to be 'treated', and just want to be left alone to do stuff themselves? Can't people in relationships just do right by each other, and like it? I mean, if we don't stand together we'll inevitably grow apart...right? Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast, where you can schedule a free 25-minute call with us to talk about your future, and getting you into the right relationship. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode62.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 23 Apr 2021 00:00:00 -0400 24e60a24-f229-44dd-8bf8-463ecf993f32 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage 2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon until we can actually get there? What unexpected surprises might be in store for all of us, whether we're currently in a relationship or looking forward to getting into one? What can be observed from past pandemics and applied to the current dating situation? What are the perhaps untold truths about how men and women have been relating together all along for the last nine months? And what about some real-world strategies for making damn skippy sure 2021 is far better than 2020? How much of that is really within our control, anyway? Are we really going to be doomed to endless suggestions for 'Zoom dating'? Where can our source of optimism come from in a world where many believe it's as bad as it gets and won't get better anytime soon? Well, if you're going to favor an optimistic viewpoint, you're going to need a plan to bounce back. You don't have to go it alone. Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast and start the year off right by scheduling a free 25-minute call with us to set that plan in motion. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! 2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon until we can actually get there? What unexpected surprises might be in store for all of us, whether we're currently in a relationship or looking forward to getting into one? What can be observed from past pandemics and applied to the current dating situation? What are the perhaps untold truths about how men and women have been relating together all along for the last nine months? And what about some real-world strategies for making damn skippy sure 2021 is far better than 2020? How much of that is really within our control, anyway? Are we really going to be doomed to endless suggestions for 'Zoom dating'? Where can our source of optimism come from in a world where many believe it's as bad as it gets and won't get better anytime soon? Well, if you're going to favor an optimistic viewpoint, you're going to need a plan to bounce back. You don't have to go it alone. Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast and start the year off right by scheduling a free 25-minute call with us to set that plan in motion. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! 2020 has finally drawn to a close and it's time to address 2021. What will the 'new normal' look like insofar as dating and relationships go? How soon until we can actually get there? What unexpected surprises might be in store for all of us, whether we're currently in a relationship or looking forward to getting into one? What can be observed from past pandemics and applied to the current dating situation? What are the perhaps untold truths about how men and women have been relating together all along for the last nine months? And what about some real-world strategies for making damn skippy sure 2021 is far better than 2020? How much of that is really within our control, anyway? Are we really going to be doomed to endless suggestions for 'Zoom dating'? Where can our source of optimism come from in a world where many believe it's as bad as it gets and won't get better anytime soon? Well, if you're going to favor an optimistic viewpoint, you're going to need a plan to bounce back. You don't have to go it alone. Go to https://scotandemily.com/podcast and start the year off right by scheduling a free 25-minute call with us to set that plan in motion. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode61.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 01 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0400 07c36d54-6564-46df-afe0-578243249ef7 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Last week on The Mountain Top podcast I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a deeper discussion, and who better to have it with than the very woman I'm in a happy relationship with? Now obviously, one can be perfectly happy without being in any relationship at all, for sure. But right out of the gate, Emily floats several more complicated scenarios; asking if someone can be happy despite a miserable relationship, if miserable people necessarily get into equally miserable relationships, or if two people miserable in the same way can somehow contort themselves into their mutually-agreeable form of bliss together. But first things first. We define 'misery' in clear terms, then call out the 'elephant in the room' with regard to whether COVID lockdowns have wrought more relationship misery even among typically happy couples. What about couples who argue constantly, aren't they inherently miserable...or not necessarily? What happens when people who love drama get into relationships...does misery always ensue? Does relationship misery have to be a permanent state, or does it ebb and flow? Can it be cured completely? Can two miserable people alleviate each other's misery by finding love together? What are some practical ways people unwittingly doom their relationships to misery? And the biggest question of all...what twisted mindsets in today's post-modern world are contributing to record rates of relationship misery? Meanwhile, does dorkiness stave off misery? Well, after the dust clears from this crazy episode, the one certainty is that YOU don't want to end up in a miserable relationship yourself. Get a plan to fight back against the miserable statistics by talking to me for free. Just click the red button in the upper right hand corner at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Last week on The Mountain Top podcast I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a deeper discussion, and who better to have it with than the very woman I'm in a happy relationship with? Now obviously, one can be perfectly happy without being in any relationship at all, for sure. But right out of the gate, Emily floats several more complicated scenarios; asking if someone can be happy despite a miserable relationship, if miserable people necessarily get into equally miserable relationships, or if two people miserable in the same way can somehow contort themselves into their mutually-agreeable form of bliss together. But first things first. We define 'misery' in clear terms, then call out the 'elephant in the room' with regard to whether COVID lockdowns have wrought more relationship misery even among typically happy couples. What about couples who argue constantly, aren't they inherently miserable...or not necessarily? What happens when people who love drama get into relationships...does misery always ensue? Does relationship misery have to be a permanent state, or does it ebb and flow? Can it be cured completely? Can two miserable people alleviate each other's misery by finding love together? What are some practical ways people unwittingly doom their relationships to misery? And the biggest question of all...what twisted mindsets in today's post-modern world are contributing to record rates of relationship misery? Meanwhile, does dorkiness stave off misery? Well, after the dust clears from this crazy episode, the one certainty is that YOU don't want to end up in a miserable relationship yourself. Get a plan to fight back against the miserable statistics by talking to me for free. Just click the red button in the upper right hand corner at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Last week on The Mountain Top podcast I said out loud that I had never met anyone in a happy relationship who was miserable. That concept is worth a deeper discussion, and who better to have it with than the very woman I'm in a happy relationship with? Now obviously, one can be perfectly happy without being in any relationship at all, for sure. But right out of the gate, Emily floats several more complicated scenarios; asking if someone can be happy despite a miserable relationship, if miserable people necessarily get into equally miserable relationships, or if two people miserable in the same way can somehow contort themselves into their mutually-agreeable form of bliss together. But first things first. We define 'misery' in clear terms, then call out the 'elephant in the room' with regard to whether COVID lockdowns have wrought more relationship misery even among typically happy couples. What about couples who argue constantly, aren't they inherently miserable...or not necessarily? What happens when people who love drama get into relationships...does misery always ensue? Does relationship misery have to be a permanent state, or does it ebb and flow? Can it be cured completely? Can two miserable people alleviate each other's misery by finding love together? What are some practical ways people unwittingly doom their relationships to misery? And the biggest question of all...what twisted mindsets in today's post-modern world are contributing to record rates of relationship misery? Meanwhile, does dorkiness stave off misery? Well, after the dust clears from this crazy episode, the one certainty is that YOU don't want to end up in a miserable relationship yourself. Get a plan to fight back against the miserable statistics by talking to me for free. Just click the red button in the upper right hand corner at https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode60.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 25 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0400 131eb1cc-6da0-4d58-a611-8778c892b694 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply human? What if all of this is just a social construct to begin with? But what if it isn't? Then what? Does that change the whole perspective? I mean, if masculinity is 'toxic' as we're led to believe nowadays, why are so many women trying to act like men? What if we all migrated toward the feminine instead? But can't there be such a thing as 'toxic femininity' in that case? After all, is femininity always 'soft' and inherently innocuous? And what of the idea that masculine dominance is sexy to women...how can that be? How come there are tomboys but no such thing as a tomgirl? What do single moms have to do with all of this? Stay tuned for the trait we've never really considered feminine before, but just might be...and we make a solid case for it. But all the while we're the same couple of dorks you know and love, who may or may not have knocked back a couple before hitting 'record' on this episode. Find the right relationship or dramatically improve the one you're already in. It all starts with a phone visit with us, free for 25 minutes. https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply human? What if all of this is just a social construct to begin with? But what if it isn't? Then what? Does that change the whole perspective? I mean, if masculinity is 'toxic' as we're led to believe nowadays, why are so many women trying to act like men? What if we all migrated toward the feminine instead? But can't there be such a thing as 'toxic femininity' in that case? After all, is femininity always 'soft' and inherently innocuous? And what of the idea that masculine dominance is sexy to women...how can that be? How come there are tomboys but no such thing as a tomgirl? What do single moms have to do with all of this? Stay tuned for the trait we've never really considered feminine before, but just might be...and we make a solid case for it. But all the while we're the same couple of dorks you know and love, who may or may not have knocked back a couple before hitting 'record' on this episode. Find the right relationship or dramatically improve the one you're already in. It all starts with a phone visit with us, free for 25 minutes. https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Everyone has heard about how men have a feminine side and women a masculine one. How true is that? And if it's the case, how does the concept typically manifest itself? Is it a good thing, or is it something we would be better off minimizing the effects of? And wait a minute...are the traits and behaviors that we somewhat automatically consider masculine or feminine really such, or are they simply human? What if all of this is just a social construct to begin with? But what if it isn't? Then what? Does that change the whole perspective? I mean, if masculinity is 'toxic' as we're led to believe nowadays, why are so many women trying to act like men? What if we all migrated toward the feminine instead? But can't there be such a thing as 'toxic femininity' in that case? After all, is femininity always 'soft' and inherently innocuous? And what of the idea that masculine dominance is sexy to women...how can that be? How come there are tomboys but no such thing as a tomgirl? What do single moms have to do with all of this? Stay tuned for the trait we've never really considered feminine before, but just might be...and we make a solid case for it. But all the while we're the same couple of dorks you know and love, who may or may not have knocked back a couple before hitting 'record' on this episode. Find the right relationship or dramatically improve the one you're already in. It all starts with a phone visit with us, free for 25 minutes. https://www.scotandemily.com/podcast === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode59.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 02 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0400 0e1bbcbe-32d8-4d69-b0ad-b16aa0a51806 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn guys on? Is how men act and carry themselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn guys on? Is how men act and carry themselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Parenthood is hot, and we can prove it! Curiously enough, however, the first direction we went in was debating the 'dad bod' and 'mom bod' factor. Do men really desire that rail-thin supermodel body, or do many prefer a woman shaped more like she's had a baby or two? In addition to what they look like, how do hot moms really turn guys on? Is how men act and carry themselves as dads even more profound an issue when it comes to turning those hot moms on? And how about 'boy moms'...what's the deal with them, and why are they so cool? How does life experience and parental obligation contribute to a particular affinity between single moms and single dads? When the idealistic 'halo' of childless singlehood fades, is that actually a good thing for a budding relationship? Why do so many dating coaches for men warn against dating single moms? Does that advice apply equally to single dads? Are there actually men and women out there who prefer single parents, even if they don't have any kids themselves? And God help us...what's the deal with 'dad jokes' and the certain women who love them? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode58.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 10 July 2020 00:00:00 -0400 10b4b1ed-5fa5-4cfd-a411-8aaa9f7017e8 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And Does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And Does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode57.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 27 March 2020 00:57:00 -0400 63398c2e-47a5-4b3f-938d-96864703f4bd scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! This episode may come off as a bit weird up front, as it's the first show we've ever published to BOTH The Mountain Top and X & Y On The Fly feeds. But hey...we figured this is a timely conversation everyone can and should have, and also (more obviously) we're co-hosting this one together. So on with it... In this fast-paced show we talk candidly--and at times controversially--about how dating, relating and even socializing itself have changed in the last decade, and how we ourselves control what the next decade holds. What about online dating, apps and social media? Shouldn't it be easier than ever for men and women to meet, attract each other and build relationships? But instead, men and women appear to have lost touch with how to relate to each other. It's as if we as a human race have gotten better than ever at mere social manipulation, and place a higher value on that than real connection. As a result, are people justified in questioning the value of even pursuing a relationship nowadays? Have people in general become more pessimistic toward the other gender? And wait until you get Emily's take on how the #MeToo movement has influenced dating and relating. But the ultimate question is with regard to what happens going forward. What do we as a society really want from our relationships with each other? Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode56.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 03 January 2020 00:10:00 -0400 14a01105-6764-4250-9297-1f5a5ba203c8 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it have anything to do with the fact there can be chemistry between two people who don't even LIKE each other? Or is it mostly people who don't have chemistry in their own relationships who say it doesn't matter? But what IS chemistry, anyway? Is it something literal, perhaps generated by pheromones? Or is there an actual chemical bond between couples? Whatever it is, it results in an intangible 'it' factor between two people that makes a relationship, well...more relatable. So what does chemistry LOOK like? How do you know when it's happening? Do only certain types of people experience it? Is someone you experience chemistry with likely your 'soulmate'? What happens when couples with chemistry change over time? What are the traits of people who find chemistry with MOTOS often? How can you find the balance between the fireworks of chemistry and other necessary components of a healthy relationship? Can chemistry come in different forms? Finally, stay tuned until the very end because we throw a big-time wrench into the works. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it have anything to do with the fact there can be chemistry between two people who don't even LIKE each other? Or is it mostly people who don't have chemistry in their own relationships who say it doesn't matter? But what IS chemistry, anyway? Is it something literal, perhaps generated by pheromones? Or is there an actual chemical bond between couples? Whatever it is, it results in an intangible 'it' factor between two people that makes a relationship, well...more relatable. So what does chemistry LOOK like? How do you know when it's happening? Do only certain types of people experience it? Is someone you experience chemistry with likely your 'soulmate'? What happens when couples with chemistry change over time? What are the traits of people who find chemistry with MOTOS often? How can you find the balance between the fireworks of chemistry and other necessary components of a healthy relationship? Can chemistry come in different forms? Finally, stay tuned until the very end because we throw a big-time wrench into the works. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! There are certain so-called experts out there who would say two people sharing 'chemistry' between them is a BAD thing. What's up with that? Does it have anything to do with the fact there can be chemistry between two people who don't even LIKE each other? Or is it mostly people who don't have chemistry in their own relationships who say it doesn't matter? But what IS chemistry, anyway? Is it something literal, perhaps generated by pheromones? Or is there an actual chemical bond between couples? Whatever it is, it results in an intangible 'it' factor between two people that makes a relationship, well...more relatable. So what does chemistry LOOK like? How do you know when it's happening? Do only certain types of people experience it? Is someone you experience chemistry with likely your 'soulmate'? What happens when couples with chemistry change over time? What are the traits of people who find chemistry with MOTOS often? How can you find the balance between the fireworks of chemistry and other necessary components of a healthy relationship? Can chemistry come in different forms? Finally, stay tuned until the very end because we throw a big-time wrench into the works. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode55.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 04 October 2019 13:04:00 -0400 14c2bf66-3d0a-47e6-ba3e-f54d278b48b4 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top Podcast. It's a barnburner just like this one. In THIS episode, however, we talk about drunk confessions, what goes on during men-only excursions, how men treat their 'henpecked' or 'p-whipped' friends, and how they talk about their own girlfriends as opposed to each other's girlfriends. We also cover how men's demeanor in general changes outside of 'mixed company', the surprising and brutally-honest differences between how boys and mature men talk about women, and how men handle the problem of women who are easily offended. You're also in for a breakdown of how accurate cinematic portrayals of men-only conversations are, and how Clint Eastwood got it right in Gran Torino. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The brand new program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top Podcast. It's a barnburner just like this one. In THIS episode, however, we talk about drunk confessions, what goes on during men-only excursions, how men treat their 'henpecked' or 'p-whipped' friends, and how they talk about their own girlfriends as opposed to each other's girlfriends. We also cover how men's demeanor in general changes outside of 'mixed company', the surprising and brutally-honest differences between how boys and mature men talk about women, and how men handle the problem of women who are easily offended. You're also in for a breakdown of how accurate cinematic portrayals of men-only conversations are, and how Clint Eastwood got it right in Gran Torino. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The brand new program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! First and foremost, you can find the OPPOSITE conversation on how women talk about men when they're not around over on episode 134 of The Mountain Top Podcast. It's a barnburner just like this one. In THIS episode, however, we talk about drunk confessions, what goes on during men-only excursions, how men treat their 'henpecked' or 'p-whipped' friends, and how they talk about their own girlfriends as opposed to each other's girlfriends. We also cover how men's demeanor in general changes outside of 'mixed company', the surprising and brutally-honest differences between how boys and mature men talk about women, and how men handle the problem of women who are easily offended. You're also in for a breakdown of how accurate cinematic portrayals of men-only conversations are, and how Clint Eastwood got it right in Gran Torino. Find the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. The brand new program on how to have a great long-term relationship is finally available. Find the men's version at http://www.gettogetherstaytogether.com and the women's version at http://www.scotandemily.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode54.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 19 November 2018 16:10:00 -0400 288c5be2-60f3-4865-8096-2375aa81ca07 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, right? With us to explore what makes it all so difficult is none other than fellow dating coach Mike Goldstein from New York City. What has happened in our post-modern world that keeps men and women apart? Was it really easier int he 'good old days'? Why is it that everyone seems so shy, and have the social protocols we've put in place done more harm than good to the whole process? Oh...and what in the world are we to do if we don't meet our 'forever' someone in high school or college? Is there really never again that kind of boy/girl bonanza in our adult lives? Look forward to thought-provoking answers to all of these questions along with a bunch of other humorous and interesting surprises in this fun-filled episode. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, right? With us to explore what makes it all so difficult is none other than fellow dating coach Mike Goldstein from New York City. What has happened in our post-modern world that keeps men and women apart? Was it really easier int he 'good old days'? Why is it that everyone seems so shy, and have the social protocols we've put in place done more harm than good to the whole process? Oh...and what in the world are we to do if we don't meet our 'forever' someone in high school or college? Is there really never again that kind of boy/girl bonanza in our adult lives? Look forward to thought-provoking answers to all of these questions along with a bunch of other humorous and interesting surprises in this fun-filled episode. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Given how complicated men and women make it to meet and attract each other, it's a miracle there are seven-and-a-half billion of us on this planet, right? With us to explore what makes it all so difficult is none other than fellow dating coach Mike Goldstein from New York City. What has happened in our post-modern world that keeps men and women apart? Was it really easier int he 'good old days'? Why is it that everyone seems so shy, and have the social protocols we've put in place done more harm than good to the whole process? Oh...and what in the world are we to do if we don't meet our 'forever' someone in high school or college? Is there really never again that kind of boy/girl bonanza in our adult lives? Look forward to thought-provoking answers to all of these questions along with a bunch of other humorous and interesting surprises in this fun-filled episode. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode53.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Fri, 03 November 2017 20:18:00 -0400 774a1708-81f6-4296-a0b5-808a41b040d0 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to oppress women, or are the very building blocks of sexual attraction at stake here? Relationship coaches Brody and Antia Boyd sit in with us to hit this issue with a big, heavy hammer once and for all. Is masculinity all about 'penetration'...and is that what angry women find so offensive? Meanwhile, why is it that a woman might pronounce masculinity as 'toxic', only to claim it for herself? Is it that femininity represents 'the weaker sex', or could it be that femininity is actually the higher calling? How do men reconcile political correctness with the wild popularity 50 Shades Of Grey? What is the 'JBBA Zone'? Is the new, evolved masculine role for men to 'hold the container'...and what does that mean, exactly? And most importantly...what really goes on at those sex toy parties for women? Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to oppress women, or are the very building blocks of sexual attraction at stake here? Relationship coaches Brody and Antia Boyd sit in with us to hit this issue with a big, heavy hammer once and for all. Is masculinity all about 'penetration'...and is that what angry women find so offensive? Meanwhile, why is it that a woman might pronounce masculinity as 'toxic', only to claim it for herself? Is it that femininity represents 'the weaker sex', or could it be that femininity is actually the higher calling? How do men reconcile political correctness with the wild popularity 50 Shades Of Grey? What is the 'JBBA Zone'? Is the new, evolved masculine role for men to 'hold the container'...and what does that mean, exactly? And most importantly...what really goes on at those sex toy parties for women? Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! After millennia of assumptive coexistence, the idea of masculine/feminine polarity is under fire. Is it all really a societal construct designed to oppress women, or are the very building blocks of sexual attraction at stake here? Relationship coaches Brody and Antia Boyd sit in with us to hit this issue with a big, heavy hammer once and for all. Is masculinity all about 'penetration'...and is that what angry women find so offensive? Meanwhile, why is it that a woman might pronounce masculinity as 'toxic', only to claim it for herself? Is it that femininity represents 'the weaker sex', or could it be that femininity is actually the higher calling? How do men reconcile political correctness with the wild popularity 50 Shades Of Grey? What is the 'JBBA Zone'? Is the new, evolved masculine role for men to 'hold the container'...and what does that mean, exactly? And most importantly...what really goes on at those sex toy parties for women? Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode52.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sun, 30 April 2017 09:41:00 -0400 bcaa63c5-317a-4a82-bf79-3e82a0d1b95e scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and Theresa from Ownstream, who do a lot of thinking about this important subject. What's the difference between supporting someone to grow vs. trying to get them to change? If you know something's good for your partner, how do you get them to come along without forcing the issue? Is there a right way to frame a conversation with your partner that motivates both of you to grow more...together? We also discuss the importance of breaking away from the same-old patterns,and how to do that in the most productive way possible instead of disrupting a great relationship. Also, why predictability in a relationship might or might not be good for your relationship. As an added bonus, you get the world's most amazingly effective but counter-intuitive strategy for getting infants to fall asleep in the car. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and Theresa from Ownstream, who do a lot of thinking about this important subject. What's the difference between supporting someone to grow vs. trying to get them to change? If you know something's good for your partner, how do you get them to come along without forcing the issue? Is there a right way to frame a conversation with your partner that motivates both of you to grow more...together? We also discuss the importance of breaking away from the same-old patterns,and how to do that in the most productive way possible instead of disrupting a great relationship. Also, why predictability in a relationship might or might not be good for your relationship. As an added bonus, you get the world's most amazingly effective but counter-intuitive strategy for getting infants to fall asleep in the car. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Just because you and your significant other are now a couple doesn't mean you stop being two individual humans. Joining us this time are Stephen and Theresa from Ownstream, who do a lot of thinking about this important subject. What's the difference between supporting someone to grow vs. trying to get them to change? If you know something's good for your partner, how do you get them to come along without forcing the issue? Is there a right way to frame a conversation with your partner that motivates both of you to grow more...together? We also discuss the importance of breaking away from the same-old patterns,and how to do that in the most productive way possible instead of disrupting a great relationship. Also, why predictability in a relationship might or might not be good for your relationship. As an added bonus, you get the world's most amazingly effective but counter-intuitive strategy for getting infants to fall asleep in the car. Find pictures and links at the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for Scot's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com and Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode51.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sat, 11 March 2017 13:39:00 -0400 231749d1-01e7-45eb-8854-e876cb154a0c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit in with us for a fast-paced (and hilarious, as usual) rant on 36-hour anniversaries, non-awkward silences, and seeing each other at our worst. Is being 'cordial' with each other a sign of trouble? Does throwing plates like in The Godfather count as 'communication'? More importantly...can you really 'go screw yourself' in a marriage? Discover the profound connection between communication and trust, plus find out how to keep your communication skills finely tuned so that you don't lose them. As always, check out the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit in with us for a fast-paced (and hilarious, as usual) rant on 36-hour anniversaries, non-awkward silences, and seeing each other at our worst. Is being 'cordial' with each other a sign of trouble? Does throwing plates like in The Godfather count as 'communication'? More importantly...can you really 'go screw yourself' in a marriage? Discover the profound connection between communication and trust, plus find out how to keep your communication skills finely tuned so that you don't lose them. As always, check out the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! How do we go this many episodes without covering this insanely important factor in a healthy relationship? Derek and Heidi from Uncharted Family sit in with us for a fast-paced (and hilarious, as usual) rant on 36-hour anniversaries, non-awkward silences, and seeing each other at our worst. Is being 'cordial' with each other a sign of trouble? Does throwing plates like in The Godfather count as 'communication'? More importantly...can you really 'go screw yourself' in a marriage? Discover the profound connection between communication and trust, plus find out how to keep your communication skills finely tuned so that you don't lose them. As always, check out the show notes page at http://www.scotandemily.com/podcast. Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode50.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Thu, 16 February 2017 23:35:00 -0400 0c40468a-49be-47a3-8be0-5a5d94ae1b26 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sarah Rudin from The Elite Man to join us for an epic breakdown of the infamous Honeymoon Phase? What is it anyway? And does it have to end? Is there really a stage BEFORE the Honeymoon Phase, and another (or several) after it? What happens if a couple forces a honeymoon to happen when they really should have broken up? Is getting cranky when you're hungry or tired a sign the Honeymoon Phase is fading away, or do you actually just need your morning coffee? Well, the novelty may wear off, but if you're fortunate (and built to last as a couple) you'll trade that for something even better...and yes, it's more than just love. All told, you can look forward to an unusually entertaining show full of laughs. And wait until you hear who gets to do the dishes from now on... Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sarah Rudin from The Elite Man to join us for an epic breakdown of the infamous Honeymoon Phase? What is it anyway? And does it have to end? Is there really a stage BEFORE the Honeymoon Phase, and another (or several) after it? What happens if a couple forces a honeymoon to happen when they really should have broken up? Is getting cranky when you're hungry or tired a sign the Honeymoon Phase is fading away, or do you actually just need your morning coffee? Well, the novelty may wear off, but if you're fortunate (and built to last as a couple) you'll trade that for something even better...and yes, it's more than just love. All told, you can look forward to an unusually entertaining show full of laughs. And wait until you hear who gets to do the dishes from now on... Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! After over two years of radio silence, it's time to fire up the XYOTF engine again. What better way than to invite our friends Justin Stenstrom and Sarah Rudin from The Elite Man to join us for an epic breakdown of the infamous Honeymoon Phase? What is it anyway? And does it have to end? Is there really a stage BEFORE the Honeymoon Phase, and another (or several) after it? What happens if a couple forces a honeymoon to happen when they really should have broken up? Is getting cranky when you're hungry or tired a sign the Honeymoon Phase is fading away, or do you actually just need your morning coffee? Well, the novelty may wear off, but if you're fortunate (and built to last as a couple) you'll trade that for something even better...and yes, it's more than just love. All told, you can look forward to an unusually entertaining show full of laughs. And wait until you hear who gets to do the dishes from now on... Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode49.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 26 December 2016 00:15:00 -0400 5a6b626c-3f51-4c0d-a3eb-cb433cdeb838 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationship? In fact, how do you keep your friends in general? And what if the friend we're talking about here is your roommate? What are some solid strategies for couples who want to make friends with other couples? There are definitely some surprise pitfalls that you may have never considered before...all thrown out on the table in this triumphant return of the X & Y On The Fly Dating Podcast. By the way...throw any good parties lately? Welcome to yet ANOTHER way friendship dynamics change once you're in a relationship. Did we mention what happens when kids come along? Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationship? In fact, how do you keep your friends in general? And what if the friend we're talking about here is your roommate? What are some solid strategies for couples who want to make friends with other couples? There are definitely some surprise pitfalls that you may have never considered before...all thrown out on the table in this triumphant return of the X & Y On The Fly Dating Podcast. By the way...throw any good parties lately? Welcome to yet ANOTHER way friendship dynamics change once you're in a relationship. Did we mention what happens when kids come along? Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! So you've got a new 'significant other'? Great...now what about your friends? How do you keep your friends from jealously sabotaging your relationship? In fact, how do you keep your friends in general? And what if the friend we're talking about here is your roommate? What are some solid strategies for couples who want to make friends with other couples? There are definitely some surprise pitfalls that you may have never considered before...all thrown out on the table in this triumphant return of the X & Y On The Fly Dating Podcast. By the way...throw any good parties lately? Welcome to yet ANOTHER way friendship dynamics change once you're in a relationship. Did we mention what happens when kids come along? Sign up for the men's newsletter at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Ladies, you can subscribe to Emily's newsletter at http://www.clickwithhim.com. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode48.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 08 September 2014 15:17:00 -0400 311f7cdd-114c-456a-9294-1ae24bbf9a78 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After all, having children changes the dynamics of an allegedly romantic relationship between a man and a woman, so this is important stuff. And don't 'kid yourself' (pun intended), what's talked about in this episode matters A LOT whether you're a parent just yet or not. Be sure to 'like' our newly-updated Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Grab a free special report on reconnecting with 'old flames' on Facebook when you do. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After all, having children changes the dynamics of an allegedly romantic relationship between a man and a woman, so this is important stuff. And don't 'kid yourself' (pun intended), what's talked about in this episode matters A LOT whether you're a parent just yet or not. Be sure to 'like' our newly-updated Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Grab a free special report on reconnecting with 'old flames' on Facebook when you do. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, it's been almost four years since the subject of 'kids' has been brought up on this show, and there's plenty more to discuss nowadays. After all, having children changes the dynamics of an allegedly romantic relationship between a man and a woman, so this is important stuff. And don't 'kid yourself' (pun intended), what's talked about in this episode matters A LOT whether you're a parent just yet or not. Be sure to 'like' our newly-updated Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Grab a free special report on reconnecting with 'old flames' on Facebook when you do. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode47.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Wed, 22 May 2012 17:31:00 -0400 4b6c4711-59b4-49e1-a842-2e7bb4cf1245 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ON IT every single day.' But do we take that at face value without ever stopping to consider what that really means? And is it even TRUE to begin with? Listen in as Scot and Emily get down to the heart of the matter, dispelling old stereotypes while at the same time opening up entirely new 'cans of worms' in the process. Be sure to 'like' our new Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Join the community and enjoy tons of free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ON IT every single day.' But do we take that at face value without ever stopping to consider what that really means? And is it even TRUE to begin with? Listen in as Scot and Emily get down to the heart of the matter, dispelling old stereotypes while at the same time opening up entirely new 'cans of worms' in the process. Be sure to 'like' our new Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Join the community and enjoy tons of free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! We've all heard the old, worn-out cliche time and again...'If you want a great relationship with your significant other, you're going to have to WORK ON IT every single day.' But do we take that at face value without ever stopping to consider what that really means? And is it even TRUE to begin with? Listen in as Scot and Emily get down to the heart of the matter, dispelling old stereotypes while at the same time opening up entirely new 'cans of worms' in the process. Be sure to 'like' our new Facebook Page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily. Join the community and enjoy tons of free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode46.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 16 May 2011 22:48:00 -0400 61ff4417-f023-4691-99a1-8294ddd318a4 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' policy of the rich and famous? Bisexual trysts? The creative possibilities appear to be endless. So is it true that couples who have an 'open relationship' are enjoying better sex lives? Are they happier overall? And do they actually trust each other more...or less? Scot and Emily swap opinions about all of that and more...but we'll let you figure out whether it's 'full swapping' or just 'soft swapping'. Guys, The Man's Approach is finally here. Check it out at: http://www.themansapproach.com. Ladies, discover the new, true you with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' policy of the rich and famous? Bisexual trysts? The creative possibilities appear to be endless. So is it true that couples who have an 'open relationship' are enjoying better sex lives? Are they happier overall? And do they actually trust each other more...or less? Scot and Emily swap opinions about all of that and more...but we'll let you figure out whether it's 'full swapping' or just 'soft swapping'. Guys, The Man's Approach is finally here. Check it out at: http://www.themansapproach.com. Ladies, discover the new, true you with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Get ready for a no-holds-barred discussion on all sorts of non-monogamous relationships. Swingers and 'The Lifestyle'? The 'don't ask / don't tell' policy of the rich and famous? Bisexual trysts? The creative possibilities appear to be endless. So is it true that couples who have an 'open relationship' are enjoying better sex lives? Are they happier overall? And do they actually trust each other more...or less? Scot and Emily swap opinions about all of that and more...but we'll let you figure out whether it's 'full swapping' or just 'soft swapping'. Guys, The Man's Approach is finally here. Check it out at: http://www.themansapproach.com. Ladies, discover the new, true you with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode45.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sat, 12 February 2011 17:34:00 -0500 e4dde6f3-122c-494c-adea-8f30abe60b60 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Where are you? Who were you with? What's more annoying, having to ask questions like that or being on the receiving end of them? Well, in this episode, besides proving that the show is still in production after all, Scot and Emily give you the lowdown on jealousy. What is it anyway? And how can you tell for sure if those jealous feelings you've been having are reasonable? Every angle is explored, including what causes 'habitual jealousy' (along with what cures it), and what to do if you find yourself with an overly jealous partner. Guys, if you're ready to confidently approach high quality women, but don't necessarily want to be a pickup artist, be on the lookout for The Man's Approach...coming soon: http://www.themansapproach.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Where are you? Who were you with? What's more annoying, having to ask questions like that or being on the receiving end of them? Well, in this episode, besides proving that the show is still in production after all, Scot and Emily give you the lowdown on jealousy. What is it anyway? And how can you tell for sure if those jealous feelings you've been having are reasonable? Every angle is explored, including what causes 'habitual jealousy' (along with what cures it), and what to do if you find yourself with an overly jealous partner. Guys, if you're ready to confidently approach high quality women, but don't necessarily want to be a pickup artist, be on the lookout for The Man's Approach...coming soon: http://www.themansapproach.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Where are you? Who were you with? What's more annoying, having to ask questions like that or being on the receiving end of them? Well, in this episode, besides proving that the show is still in production after all, Scot and Emily give you the lowdown on jealousy. What is it anyway? And how can you tell for sure if those jealous feelings you've been having are reasonable? Every angle is explored, including what causes 'habitual jealousy' (along with what cures it), and what to do if you find yourself with an overly jealous partner. Guys, if you're ready to confidently approach high quality women, but don't necessarily want to be a pickup artist, be on the lookout for The Man's Approach...coming soon: http://www.themansapproach.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode44.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 03 August 2010 14:46:00 -0500 51152700-82cf-4769-96b0-910d8b3f6a7e scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Let's face it, whether you're a man or a woman there are things about the opposite gender that tend to drive you nuts. Why do they do all that annoying stuff? Well, in this episode you'll get straight answers once and for all from both Scot and Emily...even though they may not be the answers you want to hear. Yet the fact remains that we somehow still love MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) anyway, don't we? All of this nonsense can only make for a particularly spirited and humorous episode this time around. Guys, the new program on how to understand women better is Chick Whispering, which you can find at http://www.chickwhispering.com. Ladies, unravel the mysteries of men with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Let's face it, whether you're a man or a woman there are things about the opposite gender that tend to drive you nuts. Why do they do all that annoying stuff? Well, in this episode you'll get straight answers once and for all from both Scot and Emily...even though they may not be the answers you want to hear. Yet the fact remains that we somehow still love MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) anyway, don't we? All of this nonsense can only make for a particularly spirited and humorous episode this time around. Guys, the new program on how to understand women better is Chick Whispering, which you can find at http://www.chickwhispering.com. Ladies, unravel the mysteries of men with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Let's face it, whether you're a man or a woman there are things about the opposite gender that tend to drive you nuts. Why do they do all that annoying stuff? Well, in this episode you'll get straight answers once and for all from both Scot and Emily...even though they may not be the answers you want to hear. Yet the fact remains that we somehow still love MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) anyway, don't we? All of this nonsense can only make for a particularly spirited and humorous episode this time around. Guys, the new program on how to understand women better is Chick Whispering, which you can find at http://www.chickwhispering.com. Ladies, unravel the mysteries of men with Emily's Attraction Makeover program: http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode43.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sun, 25 October 2009 14:32:00 -0500 8d187fdf-be7b-467c-a9a9-d799333139f5 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for someone of either gender. But it doesn't have to be. Listen in as Scot and Emily talk about simple ways to prepare for first dates, make sure conversation flows easily, ignite the sparks of attraction and--of course--get the second date. Sure, we all know that hitting someone with 'interview questions' is a bad idea already, so plan on discovering some innovative GOOD ideas instead that are sure-fire winners. And guys, be sure to check out Scot's new program for men who are ready to start naturally attracting the women they want the most. It's called The Master Plan and you can watch free videos and check it out here: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/masterplan === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for someone of either gender. But it doesn't have to be. Listen in as Scot and Emily talk about simple ways to prepare for first dates, make sure conversation flows easily, ignite the sparks of attraction and--of course--get the second date. Sure, we all know that hitting someone with 'interview questions' is a bad idea already, so plan on discovering some innovative GOOD ideas instead that are sure-fire winners. And guys, be sure to check out Scot's new program for men who are ready to start naturally attracting the women they want the most. It's called The Master Plan and you can watch free videos and check it out here: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/masterplan === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for someone of either gender. But it doesn't have to be. Listen in as Scot and Emily talk about simple ways to prepare for first dates, make sure conversation flows easily, ignite the sparks of attraction and--of course--get the second date. Sure, we all know that hitting someone with 'interview questions' is a bad idea already, so plan on discovering some innovative GOOD ideas instead that are sure-fire winners. And guys, be sure to check out Scot's new program for men who are ready to start naturally attracting the women they want the most. It's called The Master Plan and you can watch free videos and check it out here: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/masterplan === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode42.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 02 June 2009 11:04:00 -0500 e1fcc523-0915-4783-b7c2-36e1c0290cad scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage What is is about romantic "movie moments" that drive women wild? Better yet, what can guys learn from Hollywood about how to ignite femininity and become exactly the kind of man women desire? Scot and Emily look to uncover all the secrets the motion picture industry has to share, from the early classics all the way through to the present. You'll also find out what NOT to do, courtesy of some case studies in truly bad game brought to you on the silver screen over the years. Be sure to snag Scot's FREE new e-book on how to meet someone on Twitter by visiting http://www.twiduction.com. Also, Emily's brand new Attraction Makeover program has arrived--see the free video at http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! What is is about romantic "movie moments" that drive women wild? Better yet, what can guys learn from Hollywood about how to ignite femininity and become exactly the kind of man women desire? Scot and Emily look to uncover all the secrets the motion picture industry has to share, from the early classics all the way through to the present. You'll also find out what NOT to do, courtesy of some case studies in truly bad game brought to you on the silver screen over the years. Be sure to snag Scot's FREE new e-book on how to meet someone on Twitter by visiting http://www.twiduction.com. Also, Emily's brand new Attraction Makeover program has arrived--see the free video at http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! What is is about romantic "movie moments" that drive women wild? Better yet, what can guys learn from Hollywood about how to ignite femininity and become exactly the kind of man women desire? Scot and Emily look to uncover all the secrets the motion picture industry has to share, from the early classics all the way through to the present. You'll also find out what NOT to do, courtesy of some case studies in truly bad game brought to you on the silver screen over the years. Be sure to snag Scot's FREE new e-book on how to meet someone on Twitter by visiting http://www.twiduction.com. Also, Emily's brand new Attraction Makeover program has arrived--see the free video at http://www.attraction-makeover.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode41.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Wed, 28 January 2009 12:35:00 -0500 0aa2bfcb-6c48-4a6e-b13f-0eba20cafc5e scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Are you a single parent? Or are you dating someone who is? If so, this episode is dedicated to you. With their son just about to celebrate his first birthday, Emily and Scot reveal their strategies for having a real, actual love life even when you've got rugrats in the house...or even teenagers, which presents its own set of challenges. They also share every blasted secret they have from their single parent days, along with some new ones they wish they'd thought of before. Get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Plus, join the X & Communications Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily and get free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Are you a single parent? Or are you dating someone who is? If so, this episode is dedicated to you. With their son just about to celebrate his first birthday, Emily and Scot reveal their strategies for having a real, actual love life even when you've got rugrats in the house...or even teenagers, which presents its own set of challenges. They also share every blasted secret they have from their single parent days, along with some new ones they wish they'd thought of before. Get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Plus, join the X & Communications Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily and get free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Are you a single parent? Or are you dating someone who is? If so, this episode is dedicated to you. With their son just about to celebrate his first birthday, Emily and Scot reveal their strategies for having a real, actual love life even when you've got rugrats in the house...or even teenagers, which presents its own set of challenges. They also share every blasted secret they have from their single parent days, along with some new ones they wish they'd thought of before. Get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. Plus, join the X & Communications Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily and get free stuff. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode40.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 11 November 2008 03:58:00 -0500 0208f87f-eb64-40b2-97fe-b694a70a088c scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Should you really try to get your ex back after a breakup? The answer: It depends. You're about to find out what it depends on exactly. Emily and Scot also talk about some great ways to defend against ever having to worry about the entire issue to begin with. And what about exes who create drama? Discover how to handle that, regardless of whether it's your ex or that of someone you're dating now. Don't forget to grab your FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. PLUS...be sure to check out Scot's all-new relationship management system for guys at http://www.the-leading-man.com, where you'll find FREE videos. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Should you really try to get your ex back after a breakup? The answer: It depends. You're about to find out what it depends on exactly. Emily and Scot also talk about some great ways to defend against ever having to worry about the entire issue to begin with. And what about exes who create drama? Discover how to handle that, regardless of whether it's your ex or that of someone you're dating now. Don't forget to grab your FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. PLUS...be sure to check out Scot's all-new relationship management system for guys at http://www.the-leading-man.com, where you'll find FREE videos. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Should you really try to get your ex back after a breakup? The answer: It depends. You're about to find out what it depends on exactly. Emily and Scot also talk about some great ways to defend against ever having to worry about the entire issue to begin with. And what about exes who create drama? Discover how to handle that, regardless of whether it's your ex or that of someone you're dating now. Don't forget to grab your FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com. PLUS...be sure to check out Scot's all-new relationship management system for guys at http://www.the-leading-man.com, where you'll find FREE videos. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode39.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 01 September 2008 19:59:00 -0400 a331acfe-8641-49e4-904b-8d7d8f4e14a4 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Okay, who really should be calling the shots when it comes to relationship management? The man? How about the woman? Emily and Scot define what 'wearing the pants' really means, offer some real-world ideas on how to take male/female power struggles off the table forever, and even hear opinions from a couple women on the street. Will you agree, disagree or somewhere in between? Either way, get ready for some surprising stuff... Now you can get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, who really should be calling the shots when it comes to relationship management? The man? How about the woman? Emily and Scot define what 'wearing the pants' really means, offer some real-world ideas on how to take male/female power struggles off the table forever, and even hear opinions from a couple women on the street. Will you agree, disagree or somewhere in between? Either way, get ready for some surprising stuff... Now you can get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Okay, who really should be calling the shots when it comes to relationship management? The man? How about the woman? Emily and Scot define what 'wearing the pants' really means, offer some real-world ideas on how to take male/female power struggles off the table forever, and even hear opinions from a couple women on the street. Will you agree, disagree or somewhere in between? Either way, get ready for some surprising stuff... Now you can get a FREE special report on how to ace first dates when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode38.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Wed, 02 July 2008 19:29:00 -0400 10e98c1e-0d92-4e8b-ab8d-529eb7979aae scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage It has been said that this podcast has something for everyone, and this episode pretty much proves it. What are the disadvantages of dating when you are younger compared to when you are older? And how about the distinct dating advantages of being older? And while on the subject, what can younger people learn from the experiences of older daters, and how can people who find themselves single into their thirties, forties and way beyond do to recapture the advantages typically reserved for the younguns? Have Emily and Scot got some surprises in store for you... Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It has been said that this podcast has something for everyone, and this episode pretty much proves it. What are the disadvantages of dating when you are younger compared to when you are older? And how about the distinct dating advantages of being older? And while on the subject, what can younger people learn from the experiences of older daters, and how can people who find themselves single into their thirties, forties and way beyond do to recapture the advantages typically reserved for the younguns? Have Emily and Scot got some surprises in store for you... Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! It has been said that this podcast has something for everyone, and this episode pretty much proves it. What are the disadvantages of dating when you are younger compared to when you are older? And how about the distinct dating advantages of being older? And while on the subject, what can younger people learn from the experiences of older daters, and how can people who find themselves single into their thirties, forties and way beyond do to recapture the advantages typically reserved for the younguns? Have Emily and Scot got some surprises in store for you... Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode37.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sat, 26 April 2008 11:27:00 -0400 5d70f7e8-79c9-4064-95ff-d0025957e2be scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage OK, get your "decoder rings" on. Emily and Scot are feelin' decidedly frisky after almost two months without an XYotF show, and ready to help you figure out what on Earth MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) mean by what they say, and what to say to them in return. Seriously, do you find yourself at a total loss for words when it comes to relating to the other gender? Your tongue-tied troubles are about to cease forever through the magic of podcasting. From now on, handle meetings, makeups, breakups and everything in between with the right words and a solid level of understanding. Plus, discover how best to find love after moving 6000 miles away to a new home...thanks to a listener's e-mail. Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! OK, get your "decoder rings" on. Emily and Scot are feelin' decidedly frisky after almost two months without an XYotF show, and ready to help you figure out what on Earth MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) mean by what they say, and what to say to them in return. Seriously, do you find yourself at a total loss for words when it comes to relating to the other gender? Your tongue-tied troubles are about to cease forever through the magic of podcasting. From now on, handle meetings, makeups, breakups and everything in between with the right words and a solid level of understanding. Plus, discover how best to find love after moving 6000 miles away to a new home...thanks to a listener's e-mail. Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! OK, get your "decoder rings" on. Emily and Scot are feelin' decidedly frisky after almost two months without an XYotF show, and ready to help you figure out what on Earth MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) mean by what they say, and what to say to them in return. Seriously, do you find yourself at a total loss for words when it comes to relating to the other gender? Your tongue-tied troubles are about to cease forever through the magic of podcasting. From now on, handle meetings, makeups, breakups and everything in between with the right words and a solid level of understanding. Plus, discover how best to find love after moving 6000 miles away to a new home...thanks to a listener's e-mail. Be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode36.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 25 March 2008 01:29:00 -0400 0afef82f-0a52-4987-932f-465721d21377 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Special guest Renee Piane (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/renee). It happens to the best of us. You meet someone (or not even?) and you fall for him or her...hard. Usually, however, unless the person we're talking about here is 'The One', the relationship is going to end. What if your feelings were extraordinary powerful for this person and you were hoping it would last forever? How can you fall OUT of love? Find out how, courtesy of some reasoning from at least one decidedly unexpected source. REMEMBER...be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special guest Renee Piane (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/renee). It happens to the best of us. You meet someone (or not even?) and you fall for him or her...hard. Usually, however, unless the person we're talking about here is 'The One', the relationship is going to end. What if your feelings were extraordinary powerful for this person and you were hoping it would last forever? How can you fall OUT of love? Find out how, courtesy of some reasoning from at least one decidedly unexpected source. REMEMBER...be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special guest Renee Piane (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/renee). It happens to the best of us. You meet someone (or not even?) and you fall for him or her...hard. Usually, however, unless the person we're talking about here is 'The One', the relationship is going to end. What if your feelings were extraordinary powerful for this person and you were hoping it would last forever? How can you fall OUT of love? Find out how, courtesy of some reasoning from at least one decidedly unexpected source. REMEMBER...be sure to get in on a BONUS episode of XYotF when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode35.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 29 January 2008 22:05:00 -0400 4d57f1fa-e7c2-4daa-9a40-005605495feb scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Are you kidding me? Do Emily and Scot really think they can solve 'world peace' in a single podcast? Actually, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) might not be as enigmatic as we make it out to be, let alone 'impossible'. Listen in to this episode for all the secrets--it's a show that you just don't want to miss. AND...be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Are you kidding me? Do Emily and Scot really think they can solve 'world peace' in a single podcast? Actually, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) might not be as enigmatic as we make it out to be, let alone 'impossible'. Listen in to this episode for all the secrets--it's a show that you just don't want to miss. AND...be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Are you kidding me? Do Emily and Scot really think they can solve 'world peace' in a single podcast? Actually, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) might not be as enigmatic as we make it out to be, let alone 'impossible'. Listen in to this episode for all the secrets--it's a show that you just don't want to miss. AND...be sure to get in on the newsletter when you log-in at: http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode34.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 03 December 2007 15:47:00 -0400 e7b8a2ad-c66f-4698-b914-7ea492cca5db scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Emily and Scot are back with another mano-a-mano discussion on a truly controversial topic. So which gender has the more difficult time when it comes to dating? Listen in as Scot gets some outside opinions on the matter to start out with. From there, prepare to be surprised and challenged by what you hear, because as usual nothing is left on the table and no stone is left unturned. Do we finally get a good, bitter argument outta these two this time? Well, of course not...but at least you can predict there'll be an Episode 34 that way. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Emily and Scot are back with another mano-a-mano discussion on a truly controversial topic. So which gender has the more difficult time when it comes to dating? Listen in as Scot gets some outside opinions on the matter to start out with. From there, prepare to be surprised and challenged by what you hear, because as usual nothing is left on the table and no stone is left unturned. Do we finally get a good, bitter argument outta these two this time? Well, of course not...but at least you can predict there'll be an Episode 34 that way. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Emily and Scot are back with another mano-a-mano discussion on a truly controversial topic. So which gender has the more difficult time when it comes to dating? Listen in as Scot gets some outside opinions on the matter to start out with. From there, prepare to be surprised and challenged by what you hear, because as usual nothing is left on the table and no stone is left unturned. Do we finally get a good, bitter argument outta these two this time? Well, of course not...but at least you can predict there'll be an Episode 34 that way. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode33.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Sun, 22 October 2007 23:32:00 -0400 14d74191-84eb-4090-842f-5daa85608a19 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Special Guest Sean Stephenson (www.timetostand.com). You look around you and see couples who can't seem to get along. Then you wonder how they ever got together, let alone stay together. In this episode Scot and Emily define what settling is all about and provide real solutions for helping you stay out of that trap...forever. Never, ever settle...ever again! === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest Sean Stephenson (www.timetostand.com). You look around you and see couples who can't seem to get along. Then you wonder how they ever got together, let alone stay together. In this episode Scot and Emily define what settling is all about and provide real solutions for helping you stay out of that trap...forever. Never, ever settle...ever again! === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest Sean Stephenson (www.timetostand.com). You look around you and see couples who can't seem to get along. Then you wonder how they ever got together, let alone stay together. In this episode Scot and Emily define what settling is all about and provide real solutions for helping you stay out of that trap...forever. Never, ever settle...ever again! === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode32.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Wed, 12 September 2007 05:18:00 -0400 205ce3fe-8266-4317-ac80-dcbbd3c599f0 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Special Guest David Wygant (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/wygant). Why is it so many people can't stay attracted to someone who used to seem so hot to them? And how can you prevent this from happening? Scot and Emily have heard one too many stories from listeners who have managed to somehow extinguish the flame after a relationship starts. Worse...it's often the case that they can't exactly pinpoint what went awry. True secrets unveiled, along with a few other surprises. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest David Wygant (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/wygant). Why is it so many people can't stay attracted to someone who used to seem so hot to them? And how can you prevent this from happening? Scot and Emily have heard one too many stories from listeners who have managed to somehow extinguish the flame after a relationship starts. Worse...it's often the case that they can't exactly pinpoint what went awry. True secrets unveiled, along with a few other surprises. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest David Wygant (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/wygant). Why is it so many people can't stay attracted to someone who used to seem so hot to them? And how can you prevent this from happening? Scot and Emily have heard one too many stories from listeners who have managed to somehow extinguish the flame after a relationship starts. Worse...it's often the case that they can't exactly pinpoint what went awry. True secrets unveiled, along with a few other surprises. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode31.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 07 August 2007 13:40:00 -0400 e7b4ec41-6dee-4d54-8914-2922f5d17cfc scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Special Guests Jon and Laurie Weiss (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/happy). We all know that men and women are supposed to be 'happy' together. But what does that mean? Emily and Scot look at the big picture, welcoming some gold-plated advice from a pair of guests who happen to have nearly fifty years' worth of experience at both relationship coaching AND relationship happiness. Don't miss this chance to hear the voice of real experience (and a very bad Regis Philbin impersonation). === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guests Jon and Laurie Weiss (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/happy). We all know that men and women are supposed to be 'happy' together. But what does that mean? Emily and Scot look at the big picture, welcoming some gold-plated advice from a pair of guests who happen to have nearly fifty years' worth of experience at both relationship coaching AND relationship happiness. Don't miss this chance to hear the voice of real experience (and a very bad Regis Philbin impersonation). === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guests Jon and Laurie Weiss (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/happy). We all know that men and women are supposed to be 'happy' together. But what does that mean? Emily and Scot look at the big picture, welcoming some gold-plated advice from a pair of guests who happen to have nearly fifty years' worth of experience at both relationship coaching AND relationship happiness. Don't miss this chance to hear the voice of real experience (and a very bad Regis Philbin impersonation). === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode30.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Tue, 10 July 2007 16:43:00 -0400 903d29cd-9e02-4477-96bb-63968fc52533 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Special Guest Marie Forleo (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/marie). There's a lot of talk about how to create attraction. But what is there to remember about maintaining that attraction once you actually HAVE someone in your life? Discover the hidden mistakes that all too many people make and find out what it takes to keep the fire burning for a LONG time to come. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest Marie Forleo (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/marie). There's a lot of talk about how to create attraction. But what is there to remember about maintaining that attraction once you actually HAVE someone in your life? Discover the hidden mistakes that all too many people make and find out what it takes to keep the fire burning for a LONG time to come. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Special Guest Marie Forleo (www.deservewhatyouwant.com/marie). There's a lot of talk about how to create attraction. But what is there to remember about maintaining that attraction once you actually HAVE someone in your life? Discover the hidden mistakes that all too many people make and find out what it takes to keep the fire burning for a LONG time to come. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode29.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Mon, 18 June 2007 23:54:00 -0400 134d58f5-9f6c-4f82-aa6c-72c4e4ae3506 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage Finally...something the 'perfectly imperfect' co-hosts don't exactly agree on. Emily thinks that men should give women LOTS of flowers, early and often in a relationship. Scot, while not exactly against giving women flowers altogether, has a completely different outlook on the subject. No guests or 'man-on-the-street' interviews in this episode, just the two hosts mano-a-mano. Tune in for something completely different and get ready to be fully polarized...whether these two 'kiss and make up' at the end or not. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Finally...something the 'perfectly imperfect' co-hosts don't exactly agree on. Emily thinks that men should give women LOTS of flowers, early and often in a relationship. Scot, while not exactly against giving women flowers altogether, has a completely different outlook on the subject. No guests or 'man-on-the-street' interviews in this episode, just the two hosts mano-a-mano. Tune in for something completely different and get ready to be fully polarized...whether these two 'kiss and make up' at the end or not. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! Finally...something the 'perfectly imperfect' co-hosts don't exactly agree on. Emily thinks that men should give women LOTS of flowers, early and often in a relationship. Scot, while not exactly against giving women flowers altogether, has a completely different outlook on the subject. No guests or 'man-on-the-street' interviews in this episode, just the two hosts mano-a-mano. Tune in for something completely different and get ready to be fully polarized...whether these two 'kiss and make up' at the end or not. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode28.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay | Dating and Relationship Coaches Mon, 28 May 2007 04:37:00 -0400 c93603d9-bb7e-4ad6-957a-1681ecf9dc9d scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage At long last--and after a considerable number of requests from listeners--this is the 'introcast' episode. Recorded nearly a year after Episode 1 was first published in June of 2006, Emily and Scot introduce themselves, share some of their background, recount how they met, describe what makes their relationship great and--of course--tell all about X & Y Communications. If you are a new listener, this is a great place to start. If you are a longtime listener, we realize this is long overdue. Enjoy.My Odeo Channel (odeo/f76b938e07bba4a8) My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-c69da4177b4e354f29ef8140a3ec458c} === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! At long last--and after a considerable number of requests from listeners--this is the 'introcast' episode. Recorded nearly a year after Episode 1 was first published in June of 2006, Emily and Scot introduce themselves, share some of their background, recount how they met, describe what makes their relationship great and--of course--tell all about X & Y Communications. If you are a new listener, this is a great place to start. If you are a longtime listener, we realize this is long overdue. Enjoy.My Odeo Channel (odeo/f76b938e07bba4a8) My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-c69da4177b4e354f29ef8140a3ec458c} === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! At long last--and after a considerable number of requests from listeners--this is the 'introcast' episode. Recorded nearly a year after Episode 1 was first published in June of 2006, Emily and Scot introduce themselves, share some of their background, recount how they met, describe what makes their relationship great and--of course--tell all about X & Y Communications. If you are a new listener, this is a great place to start. If you are a longtime listener, we realize this is long overdue. Enjoy.My Odeo Channel (odeo/f76b938e07bba4a8) My Podcast Alley feed! {pca-c69da4177b4e354f29ef8140a3ec458c} === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. We discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, we'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you! http://www.datetoorder.com/images/flypodlg.jpg http://www.deservewhatyouwant.net/podcasts/episode0.mp3 X & Y On The Fly 1400 1400 Scot and Emily McKay Wed, 28 June 2006 04:29:00 -0400 97f1858f-fe4e-4a4e-b1d0-7b313cd35937 scotandemily@scotandemily.com (Scot and Emily McKay)nodating,relationships,advice,couples,counseling,marriage