You Can Heal Yourself

Government Panel Reveals the Truth About Cancer Causes

2010-06-08T12:31:45-04:00

I can’t believe they finally told the truth. Last week, the President’s Cancer Panel (PCP), composed of leading cancer researchers and practitioners issued a report titled, “Reducing Environmental Cancer Risk: What We Can Do Now,” describing the true environmental risks of cancer chemicals. LaSalle Leffall, Jr., M. D., Professor of Surgery at Howard University School of Medicine and Margaret Kripke, Ph.D. Professor Emeritus at the University of Texas Anderson Cancer Center, headed this panel. Their study of existing research literature concluded that to reduce cancer rates, cancer-causing chemicals must be eliminated in foods, water, medicines, personal care products, work and home environments.

They concluded their report by directing the President “…to use the power of your office to remove the carcinogens and other toxins from our food, water and air that needlessly increase health care costs, cripple our nation’s productivity and devastate American lives.” This information has been know for some time, but has been kept from the American people by the cancer industry.

Who the spokespersons and institutions are that lead the propaganda campaign for the cancer industry was seen in those quick to trash the report. Leading the charge was the American Cancer Society. Joining them was the American Chemistry Council, the trade group that represents the chemical industry that is poisoning our environment.

The PCP report also took a strong stand on the cancer risks from medical imaging radiation. The report states that, “People who receive multiple scans or other tests that require radiation may accumulate doses equal to or exceeding that of Hiroshima atomic bomb survivors.” The panel states, “Americans now are estimated to receive nearly half of their total radiation exposure from medical imaging and other medical sources….Computed tomography (CT) and nuclear medicine tests alone now contribute 36 percent of the total radiation exposure and 75 percent of the medical radiation exposure of the U. S. population.”

Another major concern that the panel targeted was the lack of regulation. They stated, ”Only a few hundred of the more than 80,000 chemicals in use in the United States have been tested for safety.” They also indicated that numerous environmental contaminants can cross the placental barrier and as a result babies are born “pre-polluted.” In one study, spearheaded by the Environmental Working Group (EWG) in collaboration with Commonweal, researchers found that of the 287 chemicals detected in umbilical cord blood, 180 were known to cause cancer in humans or animals, 217 were toxic to the brain and nervous system, and 208 cause birth defects or abnormal development in animal tests.

The Panel also found that in pesticides approved by the U. S. Environmental Protection Agency there are nearly 900 ingredients, many of which they considered toxic. The EPA does not test the so-called inert chemicals in these products for their potential to cause chronic diseases such as cancer. In addition, they listed agricultural fertilizers and veterinary pharmaceuticals as major contributors to water pollution.

They also cited the adverse affects on thousands of military personnel who received significant radiation doses as a result of their participation in nuclear weapons testing. Others they cited as having received significant radiation doses included those in industries producing nuclear fuel or weapons, and in uranium mining, milling and ore transport.

The Panel report concluded that, “Many known or suspected carcinogens are completely unregulated. Enforcement of most existing regulations is poor. In virtually all cases, regulations fail to take multiple exposures and exposure interactions into account.”

This information has been known for many years by researchers who operate mainly outside the mainstream medical establishment, but this is the first official government report to reveal these truths and concerns of those who have been until now only a voice in the wilderness. This report should be widely distributed and read. Hopefully, this will lead to new legislation and new Presidential orders designed to correct these abuses that may be responsible for up to 70 percent of the 562,000 cancer deaths in the U. S. in 2009. You can read the report yourself at <http//deainfo.nci.nih.gov/advisory>. Please pass this article on to others who might be interested.

Barry's False Self

2010-02-09T12:58:49-05:00

The false self can begin to develop very early in life. When you are a newborn infant and your mother or father is holding you, if they look into your eyes and see someone who is going to fulfill their unmet needs or their unrealized dreams. As a result they will not see your True Self but a False Self instead. If this happened to you, the disconnect was felt, even though you had no idea what it meant. It is easy to become identified with your False Self and think your True Self doesn’t even exit. To these people giving up their False Self means death.

In my case, the process of developing a False Self began just after I was born. I was the first-born male to young, poor working class parents. When the nurse brought me for my mother to see for the first time, my mother cried out, “This is not my baby. He is ugly and has dark hair all over his body.” The she reportedly said, “He looks like a monkey instead of my baby.”

The disconnect with my mother continued. My mother had a difficult time producing milk to breast-feed me. After a week of trying she quit and went back to work, thinking she was a failure as a mother. She turned me over to the care of a young baby-sitter who did her best to take care of me.

Actually, I believe my mother suffered from a post-partum psychosis and tried to drown me when I was about a month old. My father intervened and arranged for me to stay at my paternal grandmother and grandfather’s house during the week and my mother came to get me on the weekends when my father could be with her to protect me. I stayed there until I was ten months old.

While this arrangement was safer and more nurturing for me, clearly it was not working for me and by the time I was eight-weeks old I weighted less than I did when I was born. My parents had a baby book to record all the developmental growth markers like weight and other indicators. As an adult I looked at what was recorded for my weight at birth, which was six pounds and at eight weeks it showed my weight to be eight pounds. However, when I looked closely at the figure eight in my baby book, I could clearly see a five imbedded under it that was written over and turned into an eight. They actually faked my weight in my baby book. I suspect they had a lot of shame related to my failure to thrive, particularly my mother.

When I was about ten months I was with my parents for the weekend. They lived in an upstairs apartment with an inside long steep set of stairs leading up to it. Apparently, my mother “forgot” to close the gate at the top of the stairs and while I was wondering around in a walker, I fell down the whole flight of stairs. I was uninjured but my grandmother decided after that incident that it wasn’t safe for me to be in that apartment, so she immediately allowed my parents to move into a house she owned. My mother was still working so they hired a Mennonite girl to take care of me while my mother was working. This was another mother figure for me to learn to bond with, the fourth since I was born.

As the first-born male in a German-American family there was still the European tradition that the first-born male would be expected to be successful to improve the family’s social standing. I was always expected to go to college and they had me tested to see if I was college material when I was three years old. As a result, I was fussed over by my extended family, which by this time must have had severe judgments against my mother. While growing up, I was puzzled as to why my mother was always jealous about me getting more attention or gifts from my paternal grandmother and my aunt who lived with my grandparents. I evidentially learned to hide the joy and happiness I experienced when I was with them. I actually begged them not to give me things because I knew when I got home my mother would scold me for accepting their gifts.

I learned to perform for the whole extended family to keep their hopes alive that I would advance the family’s standing in the eyes of others. I remember that when I was about 3 or 4 years old I was asked to perform in front of the whole extended family as my uncle made a sound recording of me reciting nursery rhymes and telling them what I recalled after being taken uptown to the local farm show. I still have that recording and when I play it I realize how terrified I was and how I wanted to flee, but I couldn’t.

After that I shut down even more and began developing an inner life that I tried desperately to hide from everybody around me. It seemed to me that every time I truly opened my heart to others around me, I would get punished particularly by my mother. My False Self consisted mostly of a deflated self that was depressed, withdrawn and tried to please others. I felt very alone and only after school started did I find a few neighborhood friends to play with, but I still preferred playing by myself. When my parents went to visit my relatives I asked to stay home by myself. I felt safer and less anxious when I stayed away from my extended family, even though they were prone to fuss over me when I was with them. I knew that they wanted me to perform and be the good little boy they wanted to see, not who I really was. I felt like a stranger in a strange land most of the time.

My mother continued to attack me verbally whenever something in her life did not go as she had hoped. This seemed to happen quite often to where I was afraid to come home and practiced walking on eggs so I would not do anything to upset her. My father was often present when my mother attacked me and did nothing to stop her, but after she left the room he would say to me, “She doesn’t mean what she said to you.”

I remember my maternal grandmother saying to me when I was about 5 or 6, “Be a good boy and don’t cause your parents any trouble. They have enough trouble of their own.” I tried to live up to her request and never talked back or did anything to cause my parents any trouble. I tried to accommodate to them and fix their relationship by sacrificing myself and my needs. I also felt that somehow I must have deserved the verbal abuse.

I was teased a lot in school so that was not much fun either. I had curly blonde hair and the kids called me, “Curly-girly.” I tried to comb my curls out and put the “greasy kid-stuff” on my hair to hide my curls. This usually didn’t work. I did get elected to a leadership position in sixth grade as the Lieutenant of the School Patrol. My job was to be the first one at school every day to hang the American flag out the second floor window over the entrance to the school. I felt proud to be chosen for this task at first but later saw it as a meaningless task.

I began to be interested in girls at this time and had a “steady” girlfriend, but her family ended up moving away at the end of my freshman year. This really set me back and I retreated into my deflated false self again. I did get a part-time job bagging groceries after school and that forced me to interact with more people and it got me out of the house away from my mother.

By junior high school I began to take some small steps to break out of my depression. I tried out for the school basketball team as a freshman, but was cut because I was too short (5’2” at that time). I remember I became obsessed with growing taller and also practiced basketball every evening after school. I grew 8” in the next year and made the Junior Varsity basketball team. That was a big turning point to help me break out of my deflated false self because being a member of an athletic team ended the harassment or bullying in school. I still did not like to perform but at least it was a team sport and I wasn’t on the spot.

I dated very little in high school and college. I met my first wife on a blind date while I was in college and we married the year after I graduated. I got a job teaching social studies in an area high school and my wife worked as a medical secretary many evenings a week leaving me with lots of alone time where I felt most comfortable.

After teaching for three years I got hired in a junior high school as a guidance counselor. I loved working one-on-one with kids and this led me to think about graduate school. I applied to a number of schools and was accepted at the University of Minnesota on a full-ride fellowship to get my masters degree. I thought I was just going to get my masters degree and then return to being a guidance counselor. After some very unexpected encouragement from my advisor, I eventually decided to stay on to get my doctorate.

It was during my doctoral studies that I began to find I could not maintain my deflated false self any longer. In a group counseling class while we were in a practice group, my instructor confronted me saying, “Barry, I don’t think you are close to anyone. There is a huge wall around you that prevents people from getting to know you.” I was exposed. I felt angry at this instructor for calling me out in front of my peers, but I knew what he said was true. I decided to get psychotherapy to help me find my True Self. Because I had operated out of my False Self for 27 years, I didn’t know who I really was.

I also began a deep friendship with a female graduate student who also seemed to need a friend to come out of her shell. I remember our long talks about many things and for the first time I knew what it felt like to be in relationship with someone where I could truly be myself. It was uplifting and exciting. That relationship lasted through my doctoral program and almost caused me to end my marriage. I was still unable to be myself in my marriage and this was troubling to me. Eventually, with the help of a wonderful therapist, I began to take more risks to be myself in my marriage. I still remember some of the breakthrough moments although they were still rare.

While I was teaching at the University of Colorado, I became more and more aware that I needed to repair the bonding-breaks I had with my mother in order to recover my True Self. I joined an outpatient reparenting therapy group in Denver and my therapist became my “contract mom.” I remember how frightened I was to be close to her and bond with her. I felt she would see who I really was and expose me like the others had done. Gradually, I learned to trust her and could be close and get nurturing from her. I felt seen for who I really was and this gave me confidence that I didn’t have to live out of my False Self any longer.

My next challenge came one afternoon after class when one of my female students lingered and asked to talk to me. Barbara was a good-looking, intelligent woman slightly older than me. When I asked her about what she wanted to talk to me, she blurted out, “I would like to be your friend.” No one had ever said that to me in my whole life and I was blown away. I said, “Let’s have lunch and talk about what that means to you.”

This was the beginning of a deep and abiding ten-year friendship that culminated in us each getting divorced and marrying. While much trust had been created in our friendship, after we got married Barbra’s old unresolved incest conflicts came to the surface making intimacy very difficult to sustain. It also brought up some of my old False Self coping patterns.

I saw how was replaying some of my own family patterns with her by being the Rescuer and spending much of my time trying to fix her so I could get my needs met. In addition, I found that when I opened my heart to Barbara many times I got the same results I got with my mother. Both of them became frightened at the intimacy and pushed me away by verbally attacking me. I still thought there must be something wrong with my True Self and so I retreated to the comfort of my False Self and accommodated to their needs.

One of the biggest lessons I learned in my relationship with Barbara was to “surrender.” My challenge was to “receive without resistance,” the feminine form of surrender. Instead of trying to fix Barbara’s problems, I decided to simply listen and received what Barbara was sharing with me without resistance and without trying to fix her. The results were miraculous and Barbara seemed to shift dramatically out of her fear of intimacy. Unfortunately, within six weeks Barbara was dead, as the result of a skiing accident.

Fortunately, I was able to carry that lesson into my current relationship with Janae. Many times I was tempted to Rescue her or fix her, but instead I listened and took in what she was saying. This helped create more authentic encounters between us because I could really see her not as I wanted her to be but who she really was and then accept and love her True Self. I also learned that I could only do that if I accepted and loved my True Self.

My False Self still shows up with Janae and I can feel myself falling into the old familiar patterns. My biggest challenge has been to avoid falling back into my deflated False Self. I also can act strong and defensive when I feel threatened, so I also access my inflated False Self as well as a protective measure. What is different now is that I am more aware when I do these things and I can think differently about my options and then act on them. Most of the time I can go to Janae and tell her what happened to me and we can work through any conflicts that occurred. I have been able to let my hurt child speak directly at times and tell others how and why I am hurting and then ask for what I want or need.

This is a huge improvement over sulking and retreating into acting out the old patterns of my deflated or inflated False Self. I like myself much more now and feel I can take care of myself without having to withdraw seeking the protection of my old deflated or inflated False Self. My challenge still is to be authentic all the time and be awake to times when I am pulled off center and “triggered” by a memory of an old unhealed developmental shock, trauma or stress. My measure of progress is the amount of time it takes me to return to center after being pulled off by an old memory. Now I can return to my centered True Self much quicker and easier.

Hamer's Biological Law #5:

2010-01-11T14:52:23-05:00

Hamer’s fifth biological law merely restates his premise that every degenerative condition is part of an SBS created to assist the organism in resolving or healing a conflict/shock at the biological level. He summarizes this law as follows:

“Blinded, we brought upon ourselves this senseless, soulless and brutal medicine. Full of wonder, we can now understand for the first time that Nature is orderly (we already knew that), and every occurrence in nature is meaningful, even in the framework of the whole, and that the events we call diseases are not senseless disturbances to be repaired by sorcerer’s apprentices. We can see that nothing is meaningless, malignant or diseased.” (Markolin, 2010, p. 37)

This statement is completely aligned with the principles and philosophy of our Developmental Process Work and Developmental Systems Theory (Weinhold & Weinhold, 2010). We believe, like Hamer, that the mindbody has a tremendous capacity to heal itself if provided with the tools to do so.

We train DPW therapist to offer these tools to clients who are interested in healing previously unrecognized and unhealed developmental shocks, traumas and stresses.

References:

Markolin, C. (2010). New German Medicine. Retrieved from: http://learninggnm.com/documents/gnm_articles___introduction.html

Weinhold, J. & B. Weinhold (2010). Healing developmental trauma: A systems approach for counseling individuals, couples and families. Denver, CO: Love.

Hamer's Biological Law #4: The Role of Microbes in Healing

2010-01-11T14:47:33-05:00

Hamer’s fourth biological law describes how microbes help heal the effects of an SBS on body organs and tissues. He applies this law through each of the three germ layers.

The endoderm and old-brain mesoderm produce fungi and TB bacteria. During the healing phase, fungi such as Candida Albicans or TB bacteria help decompose the cells that served a biological purpose during the conflict active phase. During this decomposition process, the remnants of the microbial healing process are eliminated through the stool (colon-SBS), the urine (kidney-SBS, prostate-SBS), and the lungs, (lung-SBS).

They are typically accompanied with night sweats, discharge (potentially mixed with blood), swelling, inflammation, fever, and pain. These are typically misdiagnosed as infections.

Bacteria (but not TB bacteria) support organs and tissues controlled by the new brain and cerebral cortex. During the healing phase, Hamer says that these bacteria help refill and replenish the tissue lost during the conflict active phase. These bacteria include staphylococcus and streptococcus that help rebuild bone tissue and replenish cells.

Should these bacteria be absent because of overuse of antibiotics, Hamer says that the healing will still happen, but not at the biological optimum. He also insists that microbes do not cause degenerative conditions, but rather play a beneficial role in the healing phase. He states that this makes the concept of the immune system meaningless and discounts the common premise that it is the primary defense against degenerative conditions.

Hamer's Biological Law #3: The Pattern That Connects

2010-01-11T14:42:05-05:00

Hamer states that whether or not the body organ or tissue responds to the related conflict with cell proliferation or with tissue loss is predetermined by a biological pattern that correlates with the evolutionary development of the human brain. This is the core of his third biological law.

This law shows the correlation between the psychological conflict/shock, the brain and the organs or tissues within the context of the embryonic (ontogenetic) and evolutionary (phylogenetic) development of the human organism. This law also shows that the location of the HH in the brain and the cell proliferation or tissue loss following a DHS are not accidental, but are connected to three separate germ layers that follow a genetic plan of human development.

These three germ layers are the endoderm, the mesoderm, and the ectoderm. This is based on the basic biological principle that “ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny.” Hamer was able to show that some organs, such as the colon, are derived from only one germ layer. Others, such as the heart, liver, pancreas, and the bladder, are derived from multiple germ layers, which are controlled by widely separated parts of the brain. He calls these morsel conflicts.

Figuratively they translate into conflicts involving not being able to contact a person; encountering an offending remark that is difficult to digest; encountering things that are not possible to possess, things that were lost or taken away, or things that we can’t get rid of.

In addition, this part of the old brain is connected to conflict/shocks such as life-threatening conflicts; those dealing with loud, annoying noise; feeling excluded in some way; having to flee your home; having an unexpected hospitalization; and experiencing ugly conflicts with the opposite gender.

Conflict/shocks linked to endoderm tissues involve the lungs, the organs of the alimentary canal, the prostate, and the uterus. Conflict/shocks linked to the old brain mesoderm include the skin, the breast glands, the lining of the abdominal cavity and abdominal organs, and the skin that covers the heart. In the mesoderm tissues, the issue of laterality has to be taken into account because of the crossover correlation from the brain to the organ. For example, a right-handed woman with a conflict with her child would have her right hemisphere affected and her left breast would show the tissue damage in the conflict active phase.

Conflict/shocks that are derived from the new brain mesoderm involve the bones, cartilage, tendons and ligaments, connective tissue, fat tissue, the lymphatic system, blood vessels muscles, the striated heart muscle, the adrenal cortex, the kidneys, the spleen, the ovaries, and the testicles.

Hamer found that conflicts linked to the new brain mesoderm tissues relate predominately to “self-devaluation conflicts” such as the failure to perform a task, failing an exam, being put down or demeaned by somebody, the profound loss of a loved one (including a pet), a near drowning incident, making a wrong decision, an injury involving heavy bleeding, or feeling completely overwhelmed.

If something blocks the completion of the process in the healing phase, the person might develop symptoms that are mistakenly diagnosed as lymphoma, adrenal cancer, osteosarcoma, ovarian cancer, testicular cancer, or leukemia. If the healing process is interrupted by reenactments of the original conflict/shock, chronic conditions such as varicose veins, arthritis, or spleen enlargement may appear.

The ectoderm or third germ layer, controlled by the cerebral cortex, connects to the second or epithelial skin found in the mouth, the rectum, and the lining of certain organs. The kinds of conflict/shocks that correlate to this germ layer involve:

sexual rejection or frustration,
not feeling like you belong, a fright or scare within your home,
fear of losing your home or actual loss of it,
a fear of getting angry,
feeling stuck or not being able to escape something dreaded,
a fear of heading in a dangerous direction,
a fear of being threatened from behind,
and other conflict/shocks involving the sensory system.

Hamer also recognizes the importance of laterality and gender in the ectoderm or third germ layer in his paradigm. For example, a left-handed man with a separation conflict with his mother will be affected in the left hemisphere and that will manifest as a skin rash on the right side of the body during the healing phase.

During the healing phase certain so-called “cancers” may appear that involve the breast, bronchial system, larynx, cervix, and non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Chronic conditions such as skin rashes, hemorrhoids, colds, bronchitis, laryngitis, jaundice, hepatitis, cataracts, goiters, hypoglycemia, diabetes, visual and hearing impairments, and sensory-motor paralysis may occur because reenactments of the original conflict/shock disrupt the healing process.

According to Hamer, all of these conditions will eventually clear when the conflict-healing phase is complete, and any hanging conflicts due to reenactments of the original conflict are healed.

Reference

Markolin, C. (2010). New German Medicine. Retrieved from: http://learninggnm.com/documents/gnm_articles___introduction.html