ZeenaZone.

Happiness is an Inside Job !!

2013-07-09T15:20:00.001+05:30

The Sun rises everyday..true! So..Is it a sunny day every day?

We know that, a day to be sunny needs a clear sky..free of heavy clouds.. one with a favorable season. Also we all know that, the true nature of a sky is deep and bright!!.. rest clouds ..either shiny-white or dark-heavy... ..they are just temp.

Same is the kind- Human nature. Everyone of us is a bright being. Our inner instinct is serenity and love, and they ultimately provides inner happiness, a peace at soul. But sometimes our mood sways with emerging positive and negative emotions within us. Shiny white feelings come with the emotions like love, calmness, enthusiasm, hope, confidence, assurance, gratitude.. and those dark heavy feelings come with depression, unhappiness, resentment, annoyance, fear, insecurities, tiredness or simply stress... Sometimes these dark emotions drag us down, sap our energies and leave us astray..

Certainly, all of us experience a feeling gripped by dark emotions at times.. In time of disappointments, we stuck feeling sad and hurt.. In frustrating situations , we stuck feeling annoyed and angry.. If Upset, we stuck feeling afraid and worried.. and when time has been embarrassing, we stuck feeling ashamed and Sorry!! When drowned with such feelings, it certainly is not possible to communicate as effectively as we wish to. and it's obvio! nothings seems happening!!

But staying associated and attached with these feel-bad thingies' is actually not a good idea too. Easier said than done. Yes, it is not that easy to control self even when a wise- self says we should feel calm and loving...should feel happy and hopeful ..,.should feel assured and grateful. And sometimes it is far better to cry out of those painful feelings rather to avoid it.

Someway it feels like it's really important to know that happiness is a inside job. Every feeling good or bad comes from within.. It is a deeper understanding that barely anything external can make u feel what you've felt all because of them.. as a considerable shares of your feeling is because of you, yourself too.

So, there is nothing to take personally here. Staying Bright is a practice in itself, If u lack to shine bright today , you will slowly lose your shine and its likely that it may be bit difficult for you to be bright back again.

The point is .. it is really important to make an assessment of a doer (self).. knowing what you are doing.. listening to inner voices, understanding those unresolved feelings and finally nurturing our inner emotions!!

A substance of pleasure makes us happy but it hardly last longer... the true happiness always comes from the growth of the soul. And the soul grows in love, acceptance and validation.

Stay Happy, Stay Blessed!!

No one is to blame!

2013-02-27T10:18:00.000+05:30

It was my parents' fault, my teachers' fault, my neighbor's, my boss' fault;

it was my enemy's fault,my government's fault, a leader's fault, a religion's fault, a corporation's fault.Why does God do this to me? He must hate me. Satan surely possessed me; he must control me.

When I was obese, I blamed those in charge of my food preparation or those providing nutrition education.When I was considered learning disabled, I blamed others for my unfair labels, unethical misdiagnosis and wrongful institutionalizing. When I was homeless, I blamed the government, society, civilization.

When you see others lie, cheat, steal, deceive and conspire, do you blame them for their ignorant hurtful drama? Even if some injustice calls you to action, blaming them will not alter your situation. No one is to blame, yet only one person is in control of re-charting your life.The herd runs off the cliff blaming others for their stampede, and the crazy ones are those who accept personally responsibility, turn around against the shoving mob and walk away from the immoral demise.

It can feel very hard to accept the truth that only we can change our course, when we so desire to believe the great lies of blame, entitlement and self-righteousness. But we are not in charge of them. We are not their judge, though they will be judged, as we will be. We are only in charge of our responses to the events and actions of people in our life. When things happen, and attitudes grow sour, only we can change our own mind, and take responsibility.

Lao Tzu wrote, "If the mind is correct, all will properly fall into place." So while others may behave without scruples, do not reduce your actions, diminish your energy, or divert your attention from the positive growth and abundant service to which you have devoted your life.
While others acting with less than moral intent commiserate against their blamed, stay free from their emotional corrosion. Stay aligned to your values. Stay true to yourself. Don't underestimate your innate potential to change your mind, and all will fall into place. Just so.

-Scott Sonnon

Problems on Discovery !

2012-08-25T22:20:00.002+05:30

I wish for happy hours as everyone else.

Though I wish for it almost all the time, problems keeps popping out every now and then and it is not unusual at all.

I am way too emotional and equally an immature being. J. How silly I am to expect for life without problems while life is nothing if not a continuous overcoming of problems. I simply misunderstand the situations and sometimes even the people too. May be my understanding levels are not of enough height and hence these are ways to improve myself.

At times when I have been ignored, felt bad and I cried. When found I’ve been less cared, felt bad and I cried. When situations were not in my favor, felt bad and I cried. I have faced reasons to cry. Some reasons were personal and sometimes were of others. I cannot see a gloomy face of people I love. When I saw my dear ones in grief, felt bad and I cried. Softer the heart, the easier you’re hurt!! Tears are default. It somehow reliefs pain but.. is a sign of weak mind. It silently says I don’t love myself. So once I cried for a reason, it is done then. I am not going to cry for same reason again. All I need is a commitment to self. With calmness and confidence, I can go through every dimmish conditions of life.

Actually problems are true mirrors which reflect strength and competency of a person. Due to the fear of facing my own weakness, I kept running away from some of those. But what is point if I am going to hurt myself at the end. It is far better to face them, tackle in a best possible way and gain more confidence.

I now feel that the best way to solve the problem is to communicate. A free heart-sharing with a right person at a right time can change your attitude towards the situations. More often conditions are neither good nor bad, they seems either encouraging or depressing just because of bright or sad attitude of the mind. I now have a courage to face my every challenges and results bother me less!!

Just Through my Lens...

2012-08-09T18:28:00.000+05:30

Right now,

I see it as a “bad break” life has given me..

I feel by now, I made those days unnecessarily difficult...

i just pressurized myself ,as my efforts through the year has lost their values today..

Though there was nothing to lose.. I felt I lost it!!

But it is all me.. a mind-story of an emotional being,

feels like it is a defeat.. But deep inside I know it is not!!!

Above all, this is me who is again making a conclusion so early..

as if I know how my life should have been and what will be best for me..( punch to self )

Slowly but realizing that I am a learner in every way!

And from something that happened recently ..i’d learned a lot.

Its all about my life and the satisfaction I want from whatever I do,
….no matter where!!

A wise phrase :

There are things you can control and also the things you cannot control..

If you focus on those things you cannot control, it can lead to an overwhelming amount of frustration and anxiety.. there is always something you can do, and it always beats complaining or worrying about those things you cannot do..

Better stop hurting self for what is not happening… Just take a fresh look around

~Do what you can; when you can; where you are; with what you have !!

May be true!!

I often rely on intuitions and feeling out the situations..

this may be the reason I've never made a long-term plan or anything like that…

I believe ..If it is right, it will fall into place.. ..

and If not,,.. I understand J

May be an Expert Planner....

2012-07-02T15:17:00.000+05:30

Days ahead are completely uncertain. I may assert how my tomorrow will be..or atleast guess what may happen the next day but despite of all approximation.. what is going to happen ahead, I am less confident about it simply because anything can happen in the next moment. I don’t mean to say day tomorrow will be drastically different but being too confident is way too hard.

~Smiling~ I plan, I decide to do this and that, as if it is going to happen perfectly as I’ve wished for. Expressing my feelings, I am not trying to encourage anyone to stay a frivolous life Or discourage anyone to make their plans ahead. However I feel like deep inside everyone of us know that making a plan and moving ahead is just a way to live a life.. All that has to happen, it will definitely happen..that’s all.

One thing common in all of us. We all desire for better ‘Us. A better position, a better job, a better house, a better personality..Finally a better living!! Our plan is simply to meet our desire. And yes, effectiveness of plan is proportional to amount of mind we have. Some may plan brilliant and some may average! Plan depends on how much clever and wise the mind is.

But irrespective of size of a mind and size of a plan.. there is one thing who has been balancing almost everything around.. existing greater power than us. Knowingly or unknowingly we all believe in this in a way or other…we may call it destiny, we may call it fate or Luck.. He knows what is good for us and in a same time, aware about what one deserves genuinely. That’s why sooner or later we will get what we actually deserve. Relating to Karma, what goes around, comes around!

If something is not happening.. Chill! Your worries are not going to make it happen.

It is so simple to understand that we should do our part of job sincerely, rest leave it in the hands of One who is much more more wiser than us…..Simply accepting that comes on the way! Accepting things that we cannot change at all.. Also it means we should go for things that we can handle and change!! what say.. :)

we cannot rewind time but surely can alert our self the second time..

Much love to all..~Zeena

Incomparable'...Unconditional Love

2012-04-21T04:33:00.000+05:30

She is the most beautiful person in the world to me: She, who has been nurturing the child in me as well as influencing the women in me. She is Mother less more a friend to me. A friend who’s always guided me in the right direction, who’s wondered along when I lost track, who’s always been welcoming no-matter how many times I’ve left, who’s always been there when I needed her-even when I thought I didn’t…She who’s never enforced her rules on me, instead has allowed me to learn from my mistakes.
She,whom I’ve less expressed my affection towards as much as I’ve poured my discomforts and dislikes, don’t know why sometimes nearness makes it harder to express things we want to. Words find no voice and despite the willingness we fail; I wonder why that happens.Why end up sounding critical, when in fact wanted to show gratitude? Why so hard to utter those simple words that convey acceptance? Why withhold the positive emotion when there’s plenty amore? Why do we often miss to see what we have and nag over things that we don’t?

Luckily! When it comes to Mothering, “There’s less expectation and more an acceptance”.

When you have no one else to run to, she is not an option but the only choice you have. I’ve misunderstood her several times and there were days, when I thought she was negligent of me, but didn’t realize then-how neglectful I was of her. And now that I’ve realized, I want her to know: I do respect her for all the things that she’s given me. I express my gratitude for her unconditional love.

She has a secret unlocked as deep as that of an ocean; she has them for she wants the best for the rest. Besides being a mysterious history she is indeed-a bright future. She wants us to live the life that she couldn’t live; she wishes all our wishes to come true. In our joy she finds her happiness, in our success she cherishes her achievement, in our fulfillment she seeks her freedom. She always wants what’s best for us. She is my mother, more a friend in its truest sense. She is beautiful inside and out. She’s not perfect yet so, she is.

She is most wanted when you feel unwanted, she whose presence you feel mostly when she is absent, she whom most of us take for granted in a sense, we always expect her to understand without making an effort from our part. She’s been compromising since decades and we take her acquiesce for the things “she wants”. Have we ever asked “What she really wants”, even if we have, chances are she’ll confuse her wants with our needs, in that case, have we really made an effort to know what she really needs?

My point might not make complete sense to all but those plenty daughters like me out there, can feel my words as we’re the mere reflection of her. We’re the first to see our mother turning from mystery to a miracle; we’ve wondered how she does all the things that she does, so effortless it seems yet so much exertion it takes.

I have grown up adoring her beauty, envying her charm, aspiring her vitality, adopting her attributes, mimicking her acts, envying her collection, trying on her apparel, trying to fit myself on her shoes…But today I have grown up to the size where I’ve been standing tall on her heels and observing the world. Now I see, how “Beautiful she” has been bearing her entire life in these painful heels. Elegant as it looks torturous it feels, leaving up to other’s expectations while compromising own needs. Have grown up confused, in the society that says male’s a Macho but all strength acquired is through what others call “Fe-male”. “Beautiful She” definitely is not, Fe-for-feeble as “Fe” defines.

She is an easy inspiration, a courageous soul, a giver, a risk-taker. She who dares to wear teen even in her 40’s,she’s shrewd because she knows the best, liberal because she don’t believe in taking sides, accountable because 1she values every dime. She’s life of every party coz she believes in giving despite how she’s feeling. She who falters with the latest gadget(technologies), falls short to changing trend but she who knows all other things spiritual than these. She understands these techno has advanced but is trivial when it comes to true essence that makes life. These and others inexplicably make “Beautiful She”!

Yes, it makes a complete sense to me!! A Bug Hug to Miss Shristi Ale :)

-Shristi Ale, astitwa.com

Good Intentions are not enough

2012-04-02T02:30:00.000+05:30

She thinks he doesn't love her..

He thinks she doesn't love him..

However both just thinks and the fact is both are Wrong!!

Falling in love is always magical. It feels eternal, as if love will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempt from the problems our parents had, free from the odds that love will die, assured that it is meant to be and that we are destined to live happily ever after.

But as the magic recedes with the daily life, it emerges that men continue to expect women to think and react like him, and women expect men to feel and behave like her. Actually Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take the time to respect and understand each other. We become demanding, judgmental and resentful.

Even with the good intention, love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in. The resentments build up. Communication breaks down. Mistrust increases. Rejection and the repression result. The magic of love is lost.

Then we keep wondering how and why does it happen? It happens to almost everyone..

Each day thousands of individuals are searching somehow for a partner to get that genuine love feeling. Each year, millions of couple bind together in love and then painfully separate because they have stop to feel the love they used to. From those who are able to sustain love enough to get married, only 50% stay married. Out of those who stay together, possibly another 50% are not fulfilled. They stay together out of loyalty and obligation or from the fear of starting over again.

Very few people, indeed, are able to grow in love. Yet it does happen. When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has chance to blossom. We can see, Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed by others however ..Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished by others. Not to be needed is something like slow death for a man... Not to be worthy of love is something like slow death for a women... A man under stress need some lone hours, he prefer to stay all alone to find the solution and solve the problems in best possible way sooner.. However a woman under stress in not immediately concerned with finding solutions but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood and supported.

By understanding the existing differences it is possible to learn how to best support the people we care about.

Extract: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray

Know you are changing!!

2012-03-26T14:30:00.000+05:30

Aware and I observe ..a sec passes, a minute, an hour, a day and in same nature a week, a month, a year and years!! Point is.. Time- it keeps moving. Never waits for nothing. It never judges anyone of us . It knows no partiality as it brings equal shares of sunshine and rain to all of us. Sometimes showers us with blessings and in times hailstones of sorrows!!! and no matter what it never loses its Punctuality.. (ironic)

Moving on in its own pace, it makes us move too.. then simply it brings Change!!
I felt this truth,.. Only the Change Is Constant !!..basis of everything. Change is valid truth in every aspects of our life..Accept it or not!! and this can be either progressive or regressive.. all depends on You. Sometimes, we get too busy in moving ahead with our plans so may not notice .. but we continue to shine differently within our shades. We realize only when this shades appears to be contrast, or when we feel something unusual.
Living a life where we are bound in relations. Beside kinship, other relation starts with being a stranger,acquaintance, friend, close friend, intimate friend, and still if it works well it is the best thing that happens in life otherwise back to the stranger again..we never know..
Within family, we are pampered in our childhood, suggested in teenage, given a chance to decide on our own when we are young, tagged with responsibilities when we get matured, and expected the same care and love back again...Almost.. for all of us change is progressive..we are nurtured with our sanskar, progress academically and grow professionally and we lead our changing life..
IF change is so happening.. I wonder why we expect for moments of comfort to remain as it is forever and panic in times of discomfort as if it will never fade away!! We are already this older living our both cheers and tears..Just relax,, chill ;) ..the best thing i can share right now is ..Live your every emotions.. rejoice happy moments,, encircle as much people as you can to share your happiness and cry out loud when u feel sad,, spent some lone hours with self, love yourself and let self grow in true life meanings... or share your discomforts with trusted ones!!
IF change is so happening, why we expect a healthy relation to remain in the same way? (sounds -ve, but think about it). It is good to know that when daily life takes over, situations may undergo trails of ups and downs. We may become demanding, judgmental, intolerant and resentful with circumstances. And we find nobody to blame. Hence understanding the change and letting go grudges can be the better idea, what say? Also holding grudges is harmful to self anyway, because a contaminated heart can hardly feel a good feelings!! right!
Living Life is so easy when we accept the change, take things lightly and move on!!
God Bless..

Inspired by my lone hours...

Overboard things that are weighting you down!!!

2011-09-27T08:26:00.000+05:30

You are right where you should be at this moment. Now it is time to move on to what is next.

Whether your life up to this point has been easy or whether it has been difficult , you are here just the same. And your destiny does not care about your past.

There are plenty of reasons why you find yourself here at this time. What matter much more, though are the reasons you now have for moving forward.

As good as they have been, your triumphs of the past are now little more than pleasant memories.
As painful as they once were, your past failures are now behind you.

Do you realize how completely free you are at this very moment? Do you understand that the main thing holding you back is your belief that something is holding you back.

Today is your opportunity to fully taste the freedom and finally get beyond the limits you're imposed on yourself. Reach inside, touch your most compelling purpose, and bring possibilities to life!!!

- Ralph Marston

way to self inspiration...

2011-08-25T16:21:00.000+05:30

The moment when you just don’t have desire for anything. You sleep with no excitement for tomorrow, with no plans for tomorrow. You feel indifferent..something like all the subjects are just out for your interest. You wake-up in the morning.. ..may feel fresh for a while but after sometime you have nothing new to do in your life beside what you have in your daily schedule.

As you lack activities of your enthusiasm , u remain unmotivated. You will not find anything inspring that enhance your grace. The dullness in your activities will numb your mind and curtain your eyes. You do not see newness in anything. For you even the beautiful sunrise is just the one another daily act of the Sun. No amusements …no sympathys!!

You go for a work which was your keen interest someday but now it is just a part of your daily routine. You are doing because you have to.. you have to complete your part of responsibility. You will not put any extra effort to make your work a beautiful duty. You act sincere.. you act punctual ..So.. may seem sincere but actually you are not because you are not doing with all your heart . You feel irritation on minor mishaps. On trying to remind self when it was last time you laugh out loud ??...You stuck ..You realize it was a day _long time ago…or possibly you may not remember. Within your circle (a bunch of people around, whom u see daily) u respond, but actually stay unconcern. No worries for no one. You often refuse to hangout with friends. When you are all alone you keep thinking about something which seems very important to you. ..then in the same pace as yesterday one another day ends.

It is not your fault, its because you have make your days so.. Among the pirated desires you fail to recognize your true desires. True desires are those which were longing in you from beginning. Ask yourself am I enjoying what I m doing?? It is not compulsory that every single activity of yours must be joyful.. but atleast a day do one thing that symbolize the true “You”.Done with that , you feel content. Don’t let your desires die. Enjoy every drip of time. To practice enjoyment in the works you do..start doing the activities you truly love to do. Such activites which brings smile on your face, which lightens your heart, which makes you laugh …doing this you will inspire yourself. You will help yourself to be “You”. Then, you can discover your true nature ..uniqueness which generally everybody have.

It is true … in a whole sense of view each of days cannot be drastically different…You require to do all tasks which lies within your circle of priority.. But with self inspiration it is like living each new day with slightly new way. Making a difference in your tiny acts. The way you response other, your sense of humour, your conducts, your care and share to the loved ones , changing the taste of your food….anything!!!!! All this happens when you feel the surroundings by your heart…And to feel at heart u should live. To live doesn’t mean to breathe only. Clever mind will never let you to appreciate your innocent heart… Default function of mind is to think…and thinking means either you dive in your past or fly in the future...To live is living in the moment.

Sometimes it is also a case… you may not be able to ping your actual desires !!!!!!

inspired by OSHO

A Sheer Feeling….

2010-10-07T16:22:00.001+05:30

Have you ever noticed friendliness, arising out from you, unaddressed and without any need and greed? No, I m not talking about friendship. Actually, friendship is just a state of mind,..It is subjective. About friendliness, it’s a quality, it’s your nature that have totally different meaning. Friendliness is your love shared unconditionally with all around you. It is a joy of sharing without any condition, without expectations, with no desire that something should be returned, not even gratefulness. It’s a purest form of love.

Friendliness is not of need, not of greed, it is out of having so much that you want to share. A joy of sharing arises inside you and you feel so happy from inside. When you share there is no question of clinging? Because it doesn’t matter with whom you share and you are not judging anyone to be friendly with. It can be the same person tomorrow, same person for whole life or can be different persons. Whosoever happens to be near to you, you remain friendly.

Simply giving is such a joy…Great Pleasure.

Take an example, You give a smile and see the difference. Smiling is only the physical expression that transfers from person to person so beautifully. When my friend smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner and another friend saw my grin. When he smiled, I realized I’d passed it on to him. I thought about the smile and realized its worth. A single smile just like mine could travel around the world.

For me, friendliness is simply sharing, sharing my joys and my sorrows. I m thankful to all my friends who has accepted my love and had allowed me to shower on them.

Inspired by OSHO.

LOVE...it just happens...

2010-09-15T08:10:00.000+05:30

Love just happens

If we fall in love just because someone makes us laugh,
what happens when we find them no longer funny?
If we fall in love just because someone is beautiful,
what happens when the beauty fades?
If we fall in love just because someone can provide for us,
what happens when they lose their wealth?
because love defies all the reasons,
when you truly love someone
you just can't find a reason, u just do!!
...I read these words in facebook! and i felt 'oh yes,.. that's why we call love just happens.

Love is beautiful this way...the way when it is given freely, when it is not taken, demanded or forced. When i love truly, that love becomes enough gaurantee.. that love becomes enough security. It's really of vain, when i search love for myself in others. I wonder why should i, if i m going to get it automatically, when i'll give it...it's better i just wait to worry about that :)...but I can give it only if i have it in me..Unless not having it enough..how can i shower it on others?...and for this i should go on discovering love within me....because i believe love starts with self love. Only out of it can i love somebody else.

Just like everyone else, I m special.. i m unique in my own way. Nobody else has ever been exactly like me and nobody else will ever be.. I need no comparisions as i m the only one ME here around. This attunes my sense of belonging, that i belong to the network of common give and take......Realizing this i m happy and in this happiness i start seeing the same uniqueness in other,....the beauty of other...How simple it is to see that we all share the common aura of happiness.... Hence if i love myself, sooner or later the person will happen to me....I believe it's true because a loving heart sooner or later comes to a loving heart, it always happens..............SO love happens..it jus happens.....
'inspired_ OSHO..

it's starting and it's ending.....it's changing!!!

2010-04-16T14:56:00.000+05:30

Although unknowingly but yes certainly every single thing around is changing and we are the one who is getting affected in a very mild way. Change is the biggest truth here exist. The only thing that is constant is CHANGE. Slow, hence unnoticed but it is happening!! Every tiny matter around is changing, even something inside me. And for a moment I've stopped for a little while...oh god ...see what I've experienced. I was greatly affected by those reasons around me. Everything was in huge rush. Moving in such a speed that i felt the rush of blowing air passing by. I tried to stand firm but it was really tough. I felt this change, only when i stopped.

I realized , the only way to penetrate through this effect is to make a move by self. Never stop because of anything that happens. Neither achievements nor failures. One should get going. This is life. Because, for the moment you've stop, you'll be pulled or will be pushed. People says life is all about knowing when to hold on and when to move. Yes, for the time you've hold on, be alert enough to take a better move. take care of self and the people around you.

Its Ending

Don't you worry about how will things happen ; about it's pros and cons. live every moment, help self, love self and love others in the way you love yourself. It is so simple. Live the life you are in...and let others too.. The very first beginning is always the start from you...only you.

celebrate the happiness and realize the sadness because every situation is sure to cease, is sure to disappear and it simply because everything is changing. It's starting and it's ending.....it's CHANGING!!!!

when there comes 'why', nothing else remains..

2010-04-12T13:22:00.000+05:30

......feeling by myself, i m wondering about this 'WHY. Sometimes feels like 'WHY is a villain..because when it arrives, with it arises 'the flooded thoughts...then finally nothing else remains. I try my best not to let this 'WHY interfere me, but when i am onto my daily stuffs oodles of why arises. it appears on every single matter i move through.

Buddha has said that 'every single thing has a reason behind'. There is a reason for happiness, there is a reason for sadness and a person self is responsible for that. However here now comes 'But. Emotional me always kept wandering on matters which are beyond reasons. This something beyond reason has influenced me a lot. My sense for 'Beyond Reason is a kinda feeling that arises deep inside and it is completely out of need, out of greed. No cause is compelling me into this feeling. This feeling is so sheer..so genuine..

Now, suddenly when 'Why enters in my mind, everything else vanishes. Quest arises. Why i am onto this?, why not on that?. why only you?, why not me?. why always me?..aahh A big WHY around me.....And all my innocence begins to decay. It ruins my sweetness and my patience.

As this 'WHY enters, this part of me is a crooked girl now. She has a logic. She has countless reasons to defend self. The dramatic me!! The one i really don't want to be. I love the stupid me.. the me without WHY.....