Marriage Defenders Unite!
Joshua Foust on Jun 28 2008 at 4:02 am | Filed under: Around the Web
It is telling that some of the most outspoken anti-gay Republicans out there, who attach their name to anti-gay marriage amendments no less, are tranny bottoms, cruisy sluts, and whore-mongers. Not that there is anything fundamental to Republican Christian conservatism that encourages deviant anonymous sex, but there is a disturbing correlation building. They think people like me, who would really just like the right to get married some day, pose the biggest threat to the family.
I wonder what it is about the relationship with my boyfriend they find so threatening—an appreciation of John Waters and Russ Meyers movies, or repeated viewings of Strangers With Candy? Oh yeah, I don’t really wonder. What despicable men.
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I think the skank factor has more to do with the sort of personality that is attracted to “tell me you love me” public office than anything else (which includes a lot of “tell me you love me” pastors!) If someone wants to argue that it’s okay to be a skank so long as you’re not a hypocrite… no sorry… a skank is a skank. If we start to tally up skanks between conservatives and liberals I think it will come up pretty darn even.
My own feeling, as I’ve said before, is that you should be able to get married and that supporting marriage in any form will “defend” marriage since what threatens it is all the people *not* getting married. (Also, related to social-welfare, the more domestic obligations that are formalized, the better.)
I think it’s rather too bad that the issue isn’t presented that way, as a case of people who *want* what a traditional marriage offers and are interested in preserving that good thing, rather than some sort of political statement against what is traditional and intentions to force the issue on the basis of equal rights (which, frankly, is bogus) and opponents as motivated by hate (which is also bogus as a whole) instead of emphasizing a commonality of an appreciation of the virtue of marriage itself and the foundational role of life-long, even generation-long, family groupings.
Who even believes that old fashioned stuff anymore?
A fellow I work with expressed it well. Why should he want to get married? Why should he want a wife to tell him how to spend his money or interfere with his hobbies? He can have sex without public censure as well as any and all of the other “good” things a marriage brings… without any of the bad. Good for *him*… at least for now. THAT is why marriage is falling apart as an institution. (And it’s just *mean* to talk about how stable families are important… you might make a single mother feel bad!) I sometimes think that gay people will gain the right to marry only because and when “tolerant” liberal sorts have decided that marriage isn’t worth bothering with any more. The only people who care about marriage AT ALL are fundamentalist christians and gays… even all the other christians can’t be particularly bothered with marriage in their own lives any more… not the sort of “to death do us part” partnership based on committment rather than who I feel like loving this morning.
Though maybe I’m deluding myself and gay people only want the “hey isn’t it fun to have a big party and a dress and if life gets hard, screw it” version of marriage that is so popular with everyone else these days.
Identfying with progressive attitudes about marriage isn’t putting one’s self on the pro-marriage side of *anything*.