Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Confessions from the Middle of Our First Year of Homeschooling


Our state has very few requirements for homeschoolers. Seriously -- very few. The major requirement is to have 180 instructional days.

I will admit -- I have a problem sometimes with how to quantify "an instructional day."

Confession #1: I think I get so caught up in what should count as an instructional day and what shouldn't that I find myself separating out school from our day to day life.

Confession #2: I wish I didn't do that. I want to work toward doing that less.

So what does that mean? That means, I suppose, that I'm not crazy about where I am headed sometimes with schooling. I feel like what I envisioned that I wanted our schooling to look like is not what it looks like right now.

Confession #3: Like many first year homeschoolers, I am struggling to figure out which programs, curricula, etc. work for us. I have changed some things a few times already.

Confession #4: Even though I don't think some of the things are working out like I would like them to, I am continuing with them because I spent good money on them (and I don't want to spend more money on something new already).

I am incredibly tempted to give the kids some time off and try to totally do some restructuring. But, because I don't want to spend more money on materials right now, I also am very tempted to solider through, changing things as needed, and then re-figure things out once this school year is finished.

Confession #5: I know that once I change things, I will still end up having things that don't work. This is probably my leading reason for wanting to just wait until the school year is over to make changes.

In all honesty, I'm not sure what changes I will make, but I know that I want to add in some more Charlotte Mason ideas, some art and music instruction, and more crafty and hands on things. The kids love it when we learn through hands on activities and playing games that they learn from. I need to work toward doing more of those things with them. I want them to think of learning (and schooling) as fun.

I also need to figure out what activities I want the kids to be involved in, and what I'm not as interested in.

Confession #6: Our new co-op has been postponed and is only just finally going to start up this week. I am teaching a class, and I am horribly unprepared as of this moment. I may regret that when I am in a class of 18 children ages 2.5 to 5. (One of my readers, who is also a writer at The Homeschool Classroom, is probably thrilled at this moment that none of her kids are going to be in said class.)

Okay, hang on. Time out.

This all sounds pretty sad, doesn't it?

Only, the thing is, it's not. It's natural for things to change during homeschooling, especially in those first few years of figuring out how your family's path is different from the path of the homeschooling family down the block.

Confession #7: All things said, and despite my desire for a little bit of quiet during the afternoon, I love having the kids at home. I can't imagine sending them back to school to be gone for eight hours a day, five days a week.

Are you a homeschooler? Do you have a confession (or two or seven) to share? Feel free to leave it in the comments or on your blog and link to it in the comments. I sure would feel better to hear some of your confessions too!


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13 comments:

Karin Katherine said...

My confessions are that:

1.) I use a stop watch to time our lessons so that I can log them into Homeschool Tracker Pro. I don't know why I do this. Obsessive compulsive I guess. I like knowing how many hours (and minutes) of instruction I spend on each subject.

2.) We are so eclectic that I think I get lost in all of the options. We use EVERYTHING and I spend twice as much time prepping and preparing for a lesson than I do teaching it.

Our kids are doing GREAT in homeschool, but I think Mom could have a few less bags under her eyes!

Anonymous said...

I've been homeschooling for seven years and I still change things during the year. Usually after 3 months or so I can tell if it is helping them or not! I wish I could know ahead of time and not waste money! It's always hard to spend more money, but it's great when things work more smoothly! Of course I could go on and on about homeschooling! :-)

Christi said...

My confessions sound much like yours. We are first year homeschoolers as well. I am convinced that the program I'm using is just not cutting it - BUT, I spent good money on it and I cannot purchase anything new right now.

At the same time, though, I know that homeschooling is the right choice for us. I just wish I had a couple of days to get my act together! ;-)

Katie said...

Hehe. Aw, well, I think you'll do fine! Really, I do!

I would say don't get too caught up in what's an "instructional day" and what's not. I can think of plenty of "free days" when I was in school where we watched movies and ate cupcakes pretty much all day, and THAT got counted as an official day! I ended up counting a lot of our lengthy Christmas break, because even though we weren't doing "regular" school, we were doing STUFF, practicing handwriting and baking and doing some math sheets.

Since I just have one to school we're usually done in a couple hours. So I suppose my confession would be that I sometimes feel like we're not doing enough! I don't do much directional crafts, either. We have lots of craft stuff and I just let Bailey do what she wants, when she wants, really.

Rhonda said...

We homeschooled our kids for a couple years and I really miss those days.

I was lucky that other homeschooling parents warned me that the first year is the hardest and will often leave you wondering of you can do it. After the first year, it gets easier, so hang in there!

Anonymous said...

Wow, I could've written this post!! (Except for the regulations part -- I'm told our state is one of the most regulated. There's still lots of room for variation, though.)

One thing I'll add: No matter how well I think I have it down, inevitably something changes and suddenly I'm back at square one -- well, a little wiser, perhaps, and a little clearer about where we're headed and why. But this much never changes: I, too, love having my children at home; and I love finding ever new ways to make homeschooling a natural part of our daily life together. That's the "home base" idea I always return to when I find myself needing to tweak -- or overhaul -- one more time.

Anonymous said...

I am not a homeschooler, but as a former elementary school teacher I can tell you that ALL teachers spend ALL year just figuring and refiguring out what works for their students, so you're not alone! What about finding someone to trade kid-watching duties with you for a day so that you can take a teacher prep day and regroup and change some things? We always had a few teacher in-service days throughout the year when we learned new techniques and could try out new ideas afterwards. Just a thought. Good luck!

Elizabeth Kathryn Gerold-Miller said...

I used the public school calendar as my attendance log. I simply put a check mark on each day to represent "present" - as my kids always showed up for school, even if they were sick!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on your homeschooling experience.

Here are a couple of confessions I have to make:

Confession #1? I confess that when I homeschooled my first 4 that I was soon disillusioned. I'd so wanted for learning to be a delight. No matter what I tried, it wasn't. We slogged thru anyway :/

Confession #2? I unschool my youngest. And wish I'd known about unschooling (www.holtgws.com)when my first 4 were still home.

My youngest has full responsibility for her education. I support her fully, whatever direction she wants to go. Or not go.

She is free. Free to sleep, play, read, whatever. No 'instruction' unless she wants it. LOTS of books but NO textbooks. No curriculum or classes unless she wants them.

(She IS required to pitch in on household chores. And to help my husband with property management.)

School-wis, there have been times it's been scary to let her just do 'nothing' for so long. But...the results are in :)

Learning is an UTTER delight for her! When she is motivated to learn something, she learns SO much, SO fast it's amazing.

Blessings!
Ann

An Ordinary Mom said...

I don't homeschool my kids, but I am always impressed with people who do!

Anonymous said...

I have been homeschooling for nine years.

1)I did Kindergarten twice with my oldest. NOT because she somehow "flunked" or wasn't brilliant, but because I was convinced that it couldn't be that easy and I had somehow failed.

2) I have boxes of curriculum in my attic that I have spent a ton of money on, but aren't using because it didn't "work" with our family.

3) We make changes every. single. year. Math, writing, reading, whatever. We always make changes.

4) My house is never completely clean and I have "school" taking over the whole house. I have finally come to the realization that my home will never be Martha Stewart worthy. I am a homeschooler and there will always be evidence of that. I refuse to feel ashamed of it anymore.

After all these years, despite periods of disillusionment, I am still in love with homeschooling and my children.

Angie @ Many Little Blessings said...

Wow!!! I love everyone's confessions! Thanks so much for sharing!

Sherry @ Lamp Unto My Feet said...

I'm a first year homeschooler as well. My confessions:
1. I can't keep on top of all the paperwork hence my desk is always cluttered.

2. I feel like a failure sometimes as a homeschooling mom.

Thanks for the great post. Great learning about others homeschooling confessions.