Getting Past Your Past

On Transformation Redux

susangpyp — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 12:24:42 +0000

Today I am off to the g-sons bd party. Derek will be 2 on August 14th and CJ turned 4 on June 28th. So their combined bd party is approximately in the middle. It should take approximately 1000 hours for them to open their gifts. Derek is slow and methodical whereas [...]

Randy Pausch

susangpyp — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:03:47 +0000

I know a lot of blogs are talking about this today, but Randy Pausch was one of my personal heroes (and believe me, I don’t have that many) and he died today. For those of you who have not had the experience of “The Last Lecture,” check it out. [...]

Because I Love Him (Her)

susangpyp — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 12:06:29 +0000

I’m not sure if I’ve posted about this before, but “because I love him (her)” is not a reason for anything when someone has hurt you. Especially if they have hurt you badly and continue to mistreat or fail to respect you. Why do you keep wishing he will come back when he’s [...]

On Communications Redux

susangpyp — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:16:06 +0000

I had a conversation with someone today that reminded of how important it is to step out of dance when you are having difficult conversations/arguments with those who DO NOT want you to change. As I said in the original “Communications” post: when you are changing, you will have issues with people in [...]

Children and Breakups Redux

susangpyp — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 15:57:52 +0000

I wrote this post when the blog was fairly new and it did not receive many comments (I did not have any readers!). I received an email over the weekend asking a lot of questions that this post answers. Reader: if this doesn’t answer your questions, please let me know. If anyone [...]

Weekend Mail on Grief

susangpyp — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 11:37:37 +0000

The blog stats always dip on the weekends but the direct email skyrockets. This past weekend was some kind of record, I think, and it will be weeks before I get to all of them but one email struck me because although the person said she’s read most of the blog, she stated, “I [...]

7/20 Check In Thread

susangpyp — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 09:40:49 +0000

How is everyone doing? I had a fairly busy and stress filled week but I’m doing okay…will be having the grandkids this week and then their combined bd party is on Saturday. CJ will be 4 and Derek Jordan is 2. :) I’m working hard on the book (very hard! it’s really [...]

Mail. We Get Mail When They Can’t/Won’t Commit or Let Go

susangpyp — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 09:07:32 +0000

Thank you so much for your blog. My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago, and we’ve still been talking back and forth and it has just been miserable. I couldn’t let go of the hope that he would change his mind and I’m still struggling. I don’t understand why he [...]

Mail. We Get Mail on Helping Through Grief

susangpyp — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 15:25:19 +0000

Hi Susan, Thanks again for your blog, it is helping me so much. My question today does not have anything to do with relationships. A family friend’s Dad died yesterday. I was very close to the family and want to help in any way I can. They live several states away from me so I feel [...]

The (internal) House in Order

susangpyp — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 02:58:39 +0000

“A house unkempt will never be as distressing as a life unlived.” - Rose Macauley I received an email from a dear friend of mine…and when I dear, I mean as in one of the oldest and closest of my friends. The person who introduced me to John James and did my first grief group [...]