OBVIOUS!
Are we that obvious?
I was talking to a girlfriend the other day and the subject of this new guy came up. I thought nothing of it until I realized that about an hour of our conversation was basically about him. I couldn’t help but chuckle and then tease her mercilessly about it all. So it left me wondering are we, as girls, often that obvious about guys we are interested in?
I had a conversation with a guy friend the other day. I asked him about someone new. I wanted to know his story. Not because I was interested, I’m not! (I’m actually interested in the guy friend I was talking to) but because whenever someone new comes around inevitably someone IS interested, and I just happened to know who was. So, as any good friend would, I wanted info for her. 5 seconds into me asking, this guy friend proceeds to say something along the lines of, “are you stalking your prey?” I chuckled and followed that up with a very convincing (and honest) “NO, It’s not for me that I want the info” which lead to me getting into a little deeper problem with the “who is it for” and what have you’s.
Nonetheless, I realize, often-times we can be very obvious when it comes to the objects of our affection. Now would you say it’s because somewhere deep down we want them to find out? or is it a girl territory issue? or is it just my circle of friends that happen to be more “open” so to speak, about it all? I don’t know.
I tend to closely guard any emotions I have for someone, to me its something that I never seem to be ready to reveal (to that person, anyway). Yet, somehow, I always get found out. I guess in one way or another I do like for those close to me to have some idea of what is actually going on in the grand scheme of things. I have yet to figure out though if it’s in hopes that maybe they can find out how he feels about me or what my logic is.
The downside of it all though is that it almost makes me feel immature. I think, any real grown adult wouldn’t handle things like this. They would be upfront and honest about the whole thing and take the answer, whether good or bad, and move on. I have yet to be an adult..
I don’t know. I’m guessing it really isn’t that big of a deal. But you know, in my little world, which is filled with many questions and many ups and down. I can’t help but wonder.. am I really that obvious?
I wonder if he knows… YIKES!
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lol sometimes we are obvious in the way we act, but then again there are instances where girls just like to flirt around, and guys do as well, it’s a weird cycle of life. lol its frustrating.
im having the same problem, theres this guy and the obvious would be that he likes me, but it’s not for sure, he could just be flirting for fun ? guys are just as confusing as we are sometimes. haha
Posted by: loz | May 14th, 2008 14:01
LOL, oooh yeah, I tend to be SOOO obvious about the guy that I like! Around them AND sometimes around friends too. Well, the friends that I wouldn’t mind them knowing. LOL. But you know what I mean. I don’t know the reason either, but that’s like most girls I know. MOST. Not all. But yeah, to the guy I like, haha, I guess I tend to joke around A LOT, and just want to talk to/hang out with them a lot. Haha.
But yep, I do know EXACTLY what you mean about how adults wouldn’t handle it like that. Ahaha, I’m an adult and the guy I like is an adult, and we’re not like that. Ahaha… Like Loz, I believe the guy I like likes me, but it’s not 100% sure either.
And yep, like Loz said, it’s a never-ending cycle that I ABSOLUTELY hate! =’( Sometimes, people say I’m really flirting when I’m not, so sometimes I come off as flirty to some guys(whom I’m comfortable with), and then there are some guys who do the same, they’d come off as being flirty, but they didn’t mean a thing. So it’s hard… =/ I HATE it! I wished there was someway, someway where we know 100% sure that the other person likes you, or you like that other person. It’s hard to come straight out because you don’t want it to get awkward, nor do you want to lose that great relationship that you’ve already had with that person. LOL, I know how it’s like. It’s SOO hard! =’(
Posted by: Simply Precious | May 14th, 2008 16:11