I’m honored to be named one of NYC’s Artist Corps Grant winners, which means I’ll receive city funds to create an art show for women and non-binary artists who are living and working in Brooklyn. The vision and name for the show came from what I call my “50 Failures Project,” the topic for today’s show. Join me!

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/266

Dorie Clark is a true internet superstar. She helps people get their ideas heard in a crowded, noisy world, and she’s been honored with awards too numerous to count. Dorie has written the #1 leadership book, Stand Out, and her new book, The Long Game, will be available soon. She is a former presidential campaign spokesperson, frequent contributor to Harvard Business Review, consultant, speaker, graduate of Harvard Divinity School, producer of a Grammy-winning jazz album, and Broadway investor. The New York Times describes Dorie as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives.”

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/265

Solonje Burnett is a Caribbean-American who embodies the idea of universal interconnectedness among people groups. She identifies self-care as a catalyst for community care, and she’s on a mission to give the underrepresented a seat at the table. Solonje works to shatter stereotypes, structural inequities, and biases through business practices, culture curation, strategic branding, hiring advocacy, and inclusive purpose-driven community experiences. Solonje is the epitome of a multi-passionate, multi-hyphenate woman who supports small businesses and advocates for multiple causes to bring more equity and social justice into the world. 

From managing artists to creating incredible events at private venues and social clubs to producing conferences, Solonje guides healing breathwork classes and teaches radical self-care. She also sings in the Resistance Revival Chorus, which was born out of the Women’s March. She has a bachelor’s degree in psychology and Africana studies from Wellesley and a master’s from Emerson College in broadcast journalism.

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/264

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/263

Courtney Napier is a writer, journalist, and anti-racism coach from Raleigh, NC. Her work has been published in many places, including The Appeal, Scalawag Magazine, INDY Week, and Walter Magazine. Courtney is the founder of Black Oak Society, a collective for Black creatives in North Carolina. She’s the editor-in-chief of the collective’s flagship publication BOS Zine (the fourth issue has recently been published). Courtney’s anti-racism consulting practice helps organizations with the challenges of incorporating goals, equality, and inclusion into measurable policies and practices. She created a two-day workshop, Know Better, Do Better, designed to explore the suppressed narrative and the history of white disruptors throughout American history. Those of us attending will come away with a larger sense of our capacity to change our communities and a greater sense of responsibility.

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/262

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/261

Elizabeth DiAlto is known for her raw, honest, and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality. She specializes in helping women embody self-love, healing, wholeness, and liberation. Her experience covers 12+ years across the fields of fitness, self-help, spirituality, coaching, personal development, and helping women “untame” themselves through embodiment practices, energy medicine, and collective experiences. Her podcast, Embodied, has reached over 3 million downloads! Elizabeth is a friend, novice container gardener, avid Latin dancer, and has a laugh that is “a sound bath of sunshine and joy.”

You can read the full show notes at https://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/260

Rebekah “Bex” Borucki has been on the show several times before. She’s a dear friend with whom every conversation is a special treat. She’s the founder of Row House Publishing and the WPP LIttle Readers Big Change initiative. She’s a busy mom of five, meditation guide, author, and publisher of books for big and little readers. She has a penchant for collecting vintage 80s toys, and she was the Cranberry Queen of 1995.

You can read the full show notes at http://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/259

Morgan Everhart is an artist in every sense of the word. She creates incredible paintings full of beautiful florals, but she’s also busy with performance and writing. Morgan has learned and worked in many places, and her paintings have graced the walls of many notable museums. She is currently working on her first outdoor mural on NYC’s Lower East Side, commemorating how individuals, businesses, and organizations have persisted through the isolation of the pandemic. 

You can read the full show notes at http://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/258

Jacquette Timmons is a financial behaviorist committed to helping us see that we don’t manage money, but we manage our choices around money. She gives behavior-based financial coaching and lots of good advice that applies to everyone, even if they’ve been in business for a long time. Jacquette’s workshops, keynotes, panels, and work with corporations are in high demand because she brings creativity and a designer mindset to each financial situation.

You can read the full show notes at http://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/257

You can read the full show notes at http://www.alexandrajamieson.com/blog/256

Nancy Levin has written a new book, Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, and she’s busted a lot of myths around setting boundaries. We’re discussing the nitty-gritty of boundary setting, and Nancy is sharing truth bombs to revolutionize your life and your relationships.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/254.

(take out the boss, become the boss, change the system from the inside)

1. Don’t assume the gorgeous girl is a slut, no matter what the guys are saying about her
2. If you want to tell a story, you may have to write it yourself… Jane Fonda came up with the idea, then she asked Dolly to come on and Dolly wrote that iconic song for the movie - In fact, Dolly would only be IN the movie if she could write the thems song! (which was SUPER smart - she keeps the IP/Song Writing credits, she owns the songs, the profits, forever.)

#2 - Working Girl: 1988 Melanie Grifith, Harrison Ford, Sigornie Weaver, dress for the job you want, go for the job you’re not “qualified” for, creative thinking (crashes the wedding to pitch her idea to the father of the bride) - Shipping Co President/painting

1. If you want to grow, find someone to copy (a mentor)
2.  Just do you - Tess is defined by her unflinching independence throughout Working Girl. "I'm not going to spend the rest of my life working my ass off and getting nowhere just because I followed rules that I had nothing to do with setting up,” she says, marking her refusal to bend to societal gender norms. 

#3 - Baby Boom - leave corporate, follow your dream, leave everything behind, ditch the lame partner holding you back, create your own business, work on your own terms

1. Sometimes it’s about taking a leap of faith. Quitting a good job with a high salary to move to the country seems like the worst idea ever to some, but “with great risk comes great reward.” (J.C. didn’t say that. Thomas Jefferson did. But J.C. could have.)
2. You have to thrive where you’re planted, instead of whining about the garden. Sure, J.C. made a mistake in purchasing a lemon of a house. But, she makes it past the frozen well and leaky roof, and she leverages her apple orchard into a successful business to support her child.
3. Motherhood is hard. It’s no picnic. And you can lose yourself a little, but that doesn’t mean you’re lost forever. It just means you have to adapt and figure out who you are now. And if you go from “Tiger Lady” to country mama and grassroots entrepreneur, that’s more than OK. It’s freaking awesome.

#4: Dirty Dancing - stand up for what you believe in, learn to dance, fall in love with the “wrong guy not good on paper, who is actually a good guy, hard worker, moral, etc.

1. Have the confidence to be yourself - ‘Nobody puts Baby in the corner,’ is by far the most famous quote to make it out of Dirty Dancing, and for a very good reason. Dance lessons aside, Johnny has the knack of bringing the best out of Baby, whether she’s risking it all to ask her dad for help or getting up on the stage in front of hundreds.
2. Trust your instincts - Robbie, the medical student, might appear to be the best catch in Kellerman’s, but it's Johnny, Penny and Billy who turn out to be the good guys. As we all know, Robbie gets Penny pregnant and leaves Baby’s father to unknowingly come to the rescue. 'Now, you’ll hurt me if you don’t trust me, all right?' Johnny nails it.
3. Rules are made to be broken - Sometimes the rules are made to be broken, as demonstrated by Johnny at the end, who despite being fired, returns to Kellerman’s to do the final dance, including that illicit lift.

#5 - Breakfast Club: talk about the dark stuff with people, find weirdos who believe in something, listen to each other - you have more in common than you may think on the surface

1. John Hughes 1985 classic, The Breakfast Club made stars of Judd Nelson, Molly Ringwald and Emilio Estevez and has become beloved by people all over the world. The story of five kids trapped in Saturday detention is widely regarded as one of the greatest coming of age stories of all time and has taught lessons that are relevant to people of all ages.
2. To ask the important questions in life.
3. To be proud of your talents.
4. No one's home life is perfect.
5. Never underestimate the power of a dance break.
6. Growing up sucks.
7. People aren't always what they seem.
8. Sometimes breaking the rules has its rewards.
9. To step out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
10. Everyone has feelings.
11. Opposites attract.
12. Sometimes you end up exactly where you need to be...even if it's Saturday detention

#6 - Pretty In Pink: 

1. Pretty In Pink is a story of class, humor, and love.
2. Andie, played by Molly Ringwald, isn’t your typical high school girl. She’s quirky, independent and has her own unique sense of style, one not dictated by name brand clothes. She made the most of what she had.
3. It resonates with me I think because I relate to feeling like the “poor girl” too, kind of being her actually. A lot of the people I spent time around in junior high and high school were upper middle class I remember, or middle class-plus. Some weren’t, but most were. So I found a character I could relate to who didn’t wear a mask when I did.
4. like Andie, I grew up in a single parent home, too, from the age of about 11-18. Even though I saw my dad regularly, my mom like Andie’s dad had some mental health issues and was a traumatized human. I didn’t understand it until years later, but I, like Andie, funneled my energies into my job to save money for college (and vintage clothes!), and to be out of the house, which was a depressing place to be.
5. Accept you’re different and unique: Andie, when sent to the principal’s office for teasing one of the “Richie” girls in gym, says something that is so poignant to me that puts my experience into perspective. The principal tells Andie, who doesn’t quite fit with her status and quirky personal style, that if she keeps putting out signals that she doesn’t want to belong, people will make sure that she doesn’t. To which she responds, “That’s a beautiful theory.”be the weird one, own your own style, work hard, be what you want, no matter what box others put you in, be bizarre and unexpected
6. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF:  I admire Andie’s boldness in dealing with bullying and awful situations. She kept her head high and stood her ground. I try to be like this in my own life, to speak boldly and unapologetically despite social pressures. 
7. BE A CREATIVE ALCHEMIST: I always loved Andie’s personal style. She had a way of dressing that was cool and unique. She wore short hair in endless ways. Hats, stockings, pearls ...So cool. Y Andie TOOK APART, AND REWORKED the dress to her liking for a fabulous end product. Andie’s ingenuity shows me that I am enough and that I have more than I might think to my disposal in my life. Her creativity gives me tons of inspiration and courage.

#7 - Dead Poets Society:

1.  In watching the movie, I was struck by the impact one person can have on the lives of others. Through Keating’s encouragement and leadership, the boys take risks, find their passions, and come to understand the importance of independent thinking. He was able to inspire his students to attempt and accomplish things they hadn’t even dared to dream about before.
2. It’s not who you are but what you do that defines you. Keating conveys this message to his students because he doesn’t want them to be held back by preconceived ideas. It’s not about race, gender, age, or even experience. People are measured by what they accomplish. Keating encourages action on the part of his students. He wants them to relentlessly pursue their passions. Isn’t that what you want for the people on your team?
3. Change the angle. Keating tells his students that when you think you have something all figured out, it’s time to look at it from a new perspective. He encourages independent thinking. He wants his students to avoid conformity. We all work for organizations that have their own culture and where there is an established way of doing things—and maybe an established way of thinking. If you really want to break through the status quo, you need to get your people thinking in new and innovative ways. You need to get them looking at things from a new perspective. Warning: In the movie, it costs Keating his job, but it leaves an impression on a group of boys and changes their lives.
4. Carpe diem—seize the day. Keating tells his students to seize the day. It’s OK to talk and dream, but in the end, it’s action that will allow you to grab the prize. You must encourage action in your people. All of the talking, planning, and strategizing will get you nowhere unless you put them into action. I constantly talk about the employees in our company who are action-oriented. I don’t care that they tend to make more mistakes or pursue endeavors that don’t work out because they’re making something happen. You need to convince your people to seize the day. The time we waste today is gone forever.

Being an optimist is sometimes a revolutionary act, and sometimes the rebellion takes the form of pretending you’re more experienced than you are, leaving the partner who isn’t the right fit for you, starting a business, learning to dance, going for the competition even if you’re not exactly the “right” person for the gig

Find and stick with their weirdos who believe in you - and stick with and support them!

We’re flawed, but we CAN overcome those flaws

Work hard, stick with it, practice, keep showing up, get through the failures.

Get your free How To Write Your Fuck It List Guide: https://alexandrajamieson.com/fuck-it-list/

In this episode, we discuss some juicy topics for women. What if you took the energy you spend on self-improving and bashing your body in chasing impossible standards of perfectionism and channeled that energy into things that truly bring you alive? Join us!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/253

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/252

In this episode you'll learn:

• Alex's most popular and commented upon boundary (that keeps her distraction-free)
• The 2 questions to ask yourself and others to help you define powerful, compassionate boundaries

Pre-order your copy of Radical Alignment at www.RadicalAlignmentBook.com to master this and the All-In Method, and get your bonuses here! 

Imposter Syndrome? 

Yeah, me too. 

When a client experiences shame, they live in constant fear of being rejected. And they become trapped in the avoidance strategies they create to escape the pain.

However, shame left untreated grows more powerful. And it can often lead our clients into behaviors that invite even greater shame.

I’m going to show you the ONE thing that has been studied and shown to dissolve them BOTH - the ONLY studied method used by professional trauma therapists and researchers…

AND I’m going to show you how the All-In Method, the tool at the heart of our book Radical Alignment, works to dissolve BOTH.

HUGE new info coming to my attention:

Bessel Van Der Kolk, author of the body keeps the score, in a special course from The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine

The one counterintuitive technique that removes the fear of rejection from shame… it’s the same one that dissolves imposter syndrome…SHARING YOUR SHAME AND FEAR OF BEING SHAMED WITH SOMEONE SAFE, IN A NON-JUDGMENTAL SPACE.

Impostor syndrome is often comorbid with depression and anxiety and is associated with impaired job performance, job satisfaction, and burnout 

Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, fraud syndrome, perceived fraudulence, or impostor experience) describes high-achieving individuals who, despite their objective successes, fail to internalize their accomplishments and have persistent self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud or impostor.1 People with impostor syndrome struggle with accurately attributing their performance to their actual competence (i.e., they attribute successes to external factors such as luck or receiving help from others and attribute setbacks as evidence of their professional inadequacy.

People with impostor syndrome had fears that were significantly related to maintaining their social standing and not wanting to display imperfection to others

The only studied method for helping people with Imposter Syndrome is sharing your fears and concerns in a safe space.

A 1985 paper by Matthews and Clance qualitatively described their experiences in private practice caring for 41 people with impostor feelings.53 They recommended validating patients’ doubts and fears, directly addressing fears of failure, and providing group therapy since these patients often feel isolated and that they alone experience impostor feelings;

SO: HOW can you start to implement this in your life?

Use the All-In Method from our new book, Radical Alignment:

Intentions

Concerns

Boundaries

Dreams

I’ve seen it work again and again in my marriage and in parenting my son.

We now have a safe structure and habit of communicating our fears.

Order your copy of Radical Alignment and share your receipt number at RadicalAlignmentBook.com to get a bonus workshop with me and co-author/hubby Bob Gower!

Welcome back to Her Rules Radio where you come to learn how to live life by your own rules!

Today’s show is brought to you by my new book, co-authored with my incredible husband Bob Gower, Radical Alignment, how to have game-changing conversations that will change your business and your life!

SOOO excited to be back here with you, talking again - I took a little summer break and now we are basically back here in Season 6 (yes, coming up on our 6th anniversary of this show!)...

If you’re listening for the first time, or the first time in a long time, I grew up in a radio station - my mom had her own organic gardening radio show for 10 years, and every once in a while I would go on the show and do a “children’s gardening” episode with her! My older brother brendan was her sound engineer, so it was a family affair!

Even though we were a creative, often collaborative family, there’s one thing I didn’t really learn growing up with my fam:

How to have tough, emotional, or high-stakes conversations that felt safe, where everyone could be bravely vulnerable.

It’s part of why Bob and I finally wrote this book - RAdical Alignment.

You know those skills you wish you'd mastered earlier in life?

ME too.

I didn't learn how to gracefully talk about emotional topics until well into adulthood. Important conversations would veer wildly from where we started, and it felt so dangerous.

• Maybe you grew up in a family where any past mistake could be brought up again.
• Maybe you didn't have space to talk.
• Maybe one person would dominate conversations so you felt like "what's the point?"
•  

• Emotional conversations were hard for me until my late 30s because I always felt I had to argue my points and “win” - and that never felt right to me. I would show up to conversations with people I cared about, friends or family or even business colleagues, and I would feel like I was trying to be fair and generous, and maybe the other person was out for blood!
• The heart of our book Radical Alignment is The All In Method, which helps each person commit to sharing their intentions, concerns, boundaries and dreams about a topic. It’s not about arguing points, or “winning” - it’s a format to collect information so you don’t avoid talking about really valuable emotional stuff that sits underneath all important things. YES - emotions matter and they’re always present!
• • I grew up thinking emotions were bad, or invalid or even unfair to bring into conversations. But we are all human! EVERYONE has emotions. So our AIM helps you share them in a respectful, safe way where people are able to listen to each other better than ever before.
• Another thing that kept me from bringing up tough topics? Things going off the rails! Has this ever happened to you? You start talking about one tough topic, and the other person brings up something completely different that happened in the past, and now you’re arguing about something completely different. 

• In our book Radical Alignment we show you how to set up a conversation with another person or people so that you all agree in the beginning on the topic, so you can come back to it if things feel like they’re getting off course. It's such a relief! 
• • I like to think of it as a linear process for emotional topics.
  • When you have a shared map - ok, everyone we are agreeing at the start to share our intentions, then our concerns, then our boundaries, and then our dreams, and everyone gets the same amount of time, and no one will talk over each other - we are just hear to listen to each other …
  • With THAT roadmap? Totally new outcomes are possible. 

One of the tough conversations we are in as a family, and that’s me and my husband, my son, and his dad and step-mom, is what is life going to look like in September.

 My son is getting ready to go into high school here in New York City, although at the point I’m recording the show, I don’t know if he’ll be going to school or starting the year from his bedroom. This is a tough choice and many families are feeling really upended because we don’t know what to do, or what’s coming. 

So we are using our AIM to help us have conversations about the decisions that need to be made as an extended family. We use AIM to help us understand each other’s needs, worries, and to actually build empathy with each other - which in blended families with competing needs and fears isn’t always easy.

This is a way to have a shared vocabulary, a shared commitment to how we will communicate that is respectful, fair, and productive. It helps us stay grounded. And it helps us make space for our son to share his thoughts and feelings, and because we’ve been using it with him for a while, since he was 7 or so, he feels comfortable talking about tough topics with us - 

WHICH feels so huge to me.

A few weeks ago at the dinner table, he said, out of nowhere, “I’m really glad I’m being raised learning to care about other people’s feelings.”

I don’t know about you, but this feels like a huge parenting WIN!

SO: I offer you a challenge: to invite someone in your life to have a tough conversation in the next 48 hours.

Invite them with openness and kindness: don’t say “WE NEED TO TALK.”

No one likes to hear that.

How to invite someone to a tough conversation

Be specific but not rigid. 

Be inviting, and be clear about the topic.

See what happens!

Personally I’ve had a BIG breakthrough with some family members recently about topics I’ve been avoiding for decades… the conversation is ongoing but we are off to a clear, caring start.

I would love to hear from you how this goes! 

Pre-order Radical Alignment and get your bonuses here! https://radicalalignmentbook.com/

Angie Lee is someone I met in the last few months, and we bonded immediately. She’s an architect, partner, and Design Director of Interiors at FXCollaborative in NYC. Angie knows the importance of design and how it is a part of everything in our lives. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/251

Dr. Anna Cabeca is “The Girlfriend Doctor.” She works with thousands of women to help them understand and improve their health and manage their hormones. Along with her life-changing products and programs, she’s written two books, The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16. She’s done exhaustive research to find solutions to help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/250

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/249.

Lindsay Katt is a brilliant example of what it means to be unapologetically yourself, as well as a colorful illustration of an artist. As a musician, filmmaker, painter, and master of doing things, Lindsay shares what it means to use your voice unapologetically in a way that resonates with others. She discusses how to use art to improve the lives of those around you, strategies to deal with creative blocks, and how to know when we should violate social rules. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/247

Dr. Jennifer Johnston-Jones is a dear friend who is here to help us focus on what is most helpful for parents during this time. She is a licensed clinical psychologist and the founder and executive director of Roots & Wings Institute of Social and Emotional Learning for the Prevention of Childhood Trauma. Jennifer has over twenty years of experience profoundly changing families, individuals, and companies, and she’s the author of Transformational Parenting, listed as a top parenting book by USA Today. Jennifer works with teachers and parents to help change the parenting and education paradigms around childhood trauma, and she’s a sought-after keynote speaker who lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and two children. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/247

On today's bonus interview with Cristie Ritz-King, we talk about:

• How to create self-care boundaries with your kids when you're all home 24-7
• How to honor your own inner turmoil while showing up as caregiver for little ones
• What IS trauma?
• How do we manage traumatic triggers on our physical and emotional health?
• What to do when you blow up at your kids (because it will happen)
• How to help our kids when we notice them acting out or withdrawing... and more.

Get more from Cristie here:

https://cristieritzking.com/

Finding a mentor can also help us to move forward by providing clarity and connections, which are especially important right now in this time of unrest. Learn how to find a mentor and get the most out of that valuable relationship in today’s episode.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/246

Michelle Aspinwall is the creator and founder of A Skin. She’s a coach, speaker, author, and skincare creator, and like me, she has Hashimoto’s. She shares how she experienced a health crisis and became her own advocate. Michelle shares how to take care of your autoimmune issues in times of overwhelm, along with the mental and spiritual work in recovering from health issues. This is an inspiring interview about helping ourselves through transitions when the world feels upside down. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/252

Tap into your innate creative resilience.

What is resilience:

the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

Post Traumatic Growth:

When you bounce back even stronger after trauma, physical illness, etc.

The post-traumatic growth inventory

To evaluate whether and to what extent someone has achieved growth after a trauma, psychologists look for positive responses in five areas.

1: Appreciation of life

2: Relationships with others

3: New possibilities in life

4: Personal strength

5: Spiritual change

Creativity: 

Creative Resilient people face stressful times with staunchness, making meaning of hardship and looking for lessons and improvise solutions from thin air. 

Creative resilience is your most important resource during times of crisis, change & transition. Transition, which is what we’re all going through right now, is the psychological process people must go through to come to terms with new situations.

We live in a world of constant change. Nature is an example of constant birth, growth, death, and renewal. Understanding the cycles of creation will help us thrive in change, rather than fear it. While transitions can be painful, they are a source of creativity, growth and transformation.

I don’t believe we can experience a transformation without undergoing a psychological transition, and if we can cultivate resilience, we can proceed  with a sense of adventure on what Joseph Campbell described as a Hero’s Journey (illustrated at the top of the page).

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself,” according to Campbell’s definition. “A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man.”

We are all on a hero’s journey through life, and if we want to find the boon, or the gift that lies buried in the abyss, we must be willing to embrace great difficulties that are a prerequisite to transformation.

CREATIVITY: the use of the imagination or original ideas, the ability to come up with solutions, the use of tools to create something new, or fix something old, even making it better.

In Victor Frankel’s book Man’s Search for Meaning, his memoir about surviving the holocaust;

Frankl said we can discover meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed to help others;(2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.

How creativity helps us in times of stress:

Express yourself creatively (for many of us, creative expression is like oxygen for our souls)

When my coaching clients tell me about times of transition, I ask what they could do to nurture themselves to reduce stress. Creativity is always at the top of the list, along with getting enough sleep, exercise, proper nutrition and being with friends or family.

Creative expression has the power to heal emotions, and nurture the soul. When we enter the flow states of complete absorption in a creative process, we open our awareness to new perceptions, and new perspectives. Creativity is something you can control. When you take time out of time to create, you shift your field of attention into something generative and life affirming.

FINALLY, IMPROVISING: 

Improve, in any form, is creativity where we are fully present and stay flexible.

Resilient people are masters of innovation and resourcefulness. They have the capacity to improvise and to create bricolage: creative problem-solving using a variety of materials that happen to be available.

The Apollo 13 mission (launched April 13, 1970) is a dramatic example of improvisation: When the spacecraft was well on its way to the Moon, an oxygen tank exploded, scrubbing the lunar landing and putting the crew in jeopardy.

Working with Mission Control in Houston, the crew used their lunar module as a “lifeboat.” Using spare parts and spacecraft canisters, the astronauts improvised a method to reduce the carbon dioxide concentration in the spacecraft.

How might you improvise at home or at work? What resources do you have available to you, to utilize in new ways?

DISCOVER YOUR VALUES HOMEWORK:

http://alexandrajamieson.com/values

EXPRESSIVE WRITING PRACTICE: 

Imagine it’s 5 years from now and you feel really good in your life. Your work, your relationships, your health are all in a solid, satisfying place. You look back on this workshop, this moment, as a turning point in your attitude, creativity, and self-compassion. What happened for this current time of crisis to be a catalyst in you creating a beautiful life? What story do you tell people 5 years from now about what you did and who you became during this time of turmoil? Tell the story now - write for 5-10 minutes.

Krystle Robinson-Hershey is the creator of Sage & Elm Apothecary, a company dedicated to providing customers with plant-based beauty products. Krystle is dedicated to her holistic approach to creating unique products to enhance self-care. A trailblazing entrepreneur, Krystle is also a wife and mom to five children.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/244

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/243

Kristen Harness has turned her early mess into her message. From a childhood of abuse and homelessness, Kristen has made rescuing the victims, girls and young women who get caught up and forced into prostitution and sex and human trafficking, her mission through her organization, Extended Hands of Hope.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/242 

Dr. Rosenna Bakari is an author, advocate, and scholar. She’s been busy writing about breaking the silence of sexual violence and helping adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Rosenna is not just a survivor but a thriver. She’s also a psychologist who knows how to help people process their early trauma and find the strength to thrive. I’ve found that the healthiest response to childhood emotional wounds is also the rarest response, which is to feel in order to let things go. Acknowledging the feelings is the way to try out a new set of patterns and ways of being. Rosenna is a role model and voice for those who need support through the different flavors of trauma. Her book is Too Much Love is Not Enough: A Memoir of Childhood Sexual Abuse. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/241

Andrea Syrtash is a relationship expert, journalist, and the founder of Pregnantish, the first media site devoted exclusively to helping singles, couples, and LGBTQ humans navigate fertility treatments and infertility. She’s been featured on Oprah’s OWN Network, FOX, and other TV outlets, and she’s written books titled He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing), It’s OK to Sleep with Him on the First Date, and Cheat on Your Husband . . . with Your Husband. Because of Andrea’s long, tough journey, she is committed to breaking the taboo of infertility and elevating the conversation about what it takes to start a family for millions of people today. Her work is both interesting and controversial. She’s here to share her story of 18 fertility treatments for eight years, and how she finally met her baby through a surrogate. There are a lot of misconceptions and stigma around types of fertility treatments and infertility. Because this affects so many women, I wanted us to have a deep and meaningful conversation about infertility, the options, and how we can better support friends and family members. We’ll discuss how Andrea kept up her creative, on-air personality while undergoing an intense physical and emotional process behind the scenes. We’ll also discuss the judgments and unwelcome advice that people encounter as they go through infertility, along with the legal ramifications that make things even more difficult. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/240

Life doesn’t end at 30, no matter what your younger self believed.

It’s so harmful to believe the story that we have to be a big success by the time we’re 40 or we’re failures. 

We live in this cult of youth that discounts the wisdom, beauty, and experience that age brings. 

WORSE: it makes us middle-aged mamas (and papas) lose faith in ourselves, stop following our dreams, and quiet our own fierce voices.

As an antidote to the false story that once you cross a certain arbitrary age you’re “past your prime,” here are some amazing stories inspired by this viral tweet that went out a couple of weeks ago: 

Here’s just a couple of stories I loved from the thousands of comments people shared on Twitter:

AND, here are stories shared from a few womxn in my Her Rules Radio Crew Facebook group from ya’ll!

AND, here are a couple of success stories from my own beloved Creatrix Clients that are sure to inspire you!

Heather Hudak just published her first book, Nourish, Heal, Thrive at aged 50!

Michele, who came to NYC for a retreat with me, fell in love with the Embody Dance class we had and reconnected with her love of ballet. She found a private teacher, and performed a solo recital for her 60th birthday - dancing en pointe! (which is a huge accomplishment at any age!)

Ready to get inspired and shake off the “too old,” or “it’s too late” vibes?

I’m getting ready to organize 3 new retreats, and you’re invited! These retreats will be inspiring, clarifying, healing, and motivating. They’ll be filled with other womxn who believe that no matter your age (25? Great! 65? Awesome!), your time is now.

Interested in an upcoming retreat with Alex? I’m planning virtual and in-person retreats for small groups of womxn this spring!

Just share a few details with me here so I can get you the details as we make plans:

http://bit.ly/springevents2020 

Geneva Peschka is a director, creative producer, and incredible documentary filmmaker. Geneva knows the value and the healing power in telling our own stories. She co-directed Unspoken and is the director/producer of a short documentary series titled Women. We’ll talk about the importance of creating space and allowing people to tell their stories. It’s what life is all about. 

Show Highlights:

• Geneva’s work as Community Manager of The Wing and her ten years in NYC
• How Geneva realized she wanted community to pursue her creative endeavors
• How working at The Wing helped fuel Geneva’s creative work within a framework of collaboration
• Examples of how Geneva nourished and replenished herself when she found herself out of balance
• Why you need to have an honest conversation with yourself about what brings you joy
• How Geneva dove deeper into healing by becoming a Reiki practitioner, learning to set boundaries, and being dedicated to replenishing herself
• How Geneva has learned to handle the pressure by recognizing what serves her well and what doesn’t
• How Geneva is learning to be more gentle and more patient with herself
• How the documentary series, Womxn, highlights a diverse group of women who share thoughts and experiences
• Geneva’s inspiration for Womxn and her purpose of awakening people and sharing authentic experiences in celebration
• The process, form, and structure of the interviews in the Womxn series, along with the collaborative community that made it possible
• Womxn---the unique spelling that symbolizes inclusion
• Unspoken, the short documentary featuring Emma, a teen with autism
• How Geneva observed how Emma and others with disabilities were treated in public
• How the passion for storytelling was awakened in Geneva by seeing her mother be strong in speaking up and speaking out
• The therapeutic effect on Geneva in using her voice and talents to help others be seen and heard
• The rewarding impact in sharing and celebrating other people’s stories
• Geneva’s words of wisdom about sharing your story: “Just start. Have a vision. Ask people for their ideas and their help. Be gentle with yourself. Take your time, don’t burn yourself out, and dream big.”
• Upcoming projects for Geneva: expanding the Womxn series, a feature documentary, and an animated series

Resources:

https://www.genevapeschka.com/

Geneva’s Womxn series on Vimeo:

Unspoken short documentary: 

Robin Bronk is CEO of the Creative Coalition, where artists are inspired to use their voices to make the nation better. We all owe the Creative Coalition a debt of thanks. Back in 1989, actor Ron Silver brought together a group of writers, actors, producers, directors, and designers from the entertainment world and founded the Creative Coalition. They are people who want to use their skills and savvy to stand up for the arts. Federal funding for the arts, free speech, and arts education are causes that the Creative Coalition supports.

Show Highlights:

• How and why Robin became involved in the Creative Coalition
• What the Creative Coalition does to help the arts thrive and flourish in our country
• The fascinating phenomenon of an actor’s scope of influence
• Our responsibilities within our community
• How arts funding and education are beneficial to our kids
• How the Creative Coalition presents the facts and figures in advocating for the arts before Congress
• Why the arts should be important to all of us
• How the arts open up a world of possibilities to all types of students while connecting them to other subject areas
• What we can do to become better advocates for the arts
• STEM vs. STEAM

Resources:

www.thecreativecoalition.org

What’s a Creatrix? What’s Creative Leadership?

Creatrix is an old word that means "she who creates; authoress; feminine founder."

Creative Leadership means…leading in a way that embraces life-long learning; this leader is someone who handles change with creative thinking skills and a “I can figure this out” attitude; this leader is as committed to their own autonomy, free from past limiting beliefs, as well as committing to connecting to others; this leader commits to bringing their unique voice and vision to the world in the service of their own abundance and the uplifting of others.

4 things we'll cover in this episode:

1. What Creatrix Leadership IS, why it's important in this fast-changing economy, and how to grow yours in 2020
2. The remedies for Imposter Syndrome, "being seen," overwhelm, confusion, and fear of judgment (it’s all about shame)
3. Connect with your Inner Authority for self-trust and get better at making good decisions, fast.

For more, sign up for the Creatrix 2020 Training, January 8th, here: http://bit.ly/creatrixleader2020

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From clutter to clarity.

From overwhelm to spaciousness. 

From other people’s priorities running your life to life running by your rules, gracefully.

The most powerful skill driven women master is the power to clear space.

When we claim dominion over our time, we truly, truly, truly get the life we dream about.

The impact. The health. The body. The love. The abundance.

We hide the truth behind our distractions...

It’s behind our addiction to the Container Store…

Maybe if I get these matching cartons and redesign my office, I’ll be more productive.

It’s behind our over-committing to newsletters and podcasts…

If I have more information I’ll finally systematize my life and work to boss-babe level.

It’s the cause of our late-night eating and chugging a bottle of Merlot by ourselves…

The crush of work and family was massive today (and tomorrow!!) - I deserve this. 

A client story, meant to inspire: 

Andrea and I worked together for several months when the crush of mothering, running her online coaching business, and over-commitment to various events lead to a perfect storm of overwhelm:

“I’m tapped out. I am barking at my kids. My husband and I barely speak. I don’t know what next step to take in my business. I’m too distracted and frantic.”

I led her through a clarity exercise which revealed powerful truths, and swept away the stuff that was in the way of her true desires:

Andrea was hiding behind her busy life. 

She filled every moment so as to avoid seeing her truths.

Her truth was that her kids were fine, and didn’t need her constant attention. 

In fact, she saw, they began to thrive when she gave them more space.

Her truth was that her marriage needed more attention, but her overwhelm unconsciously drained her of the energy necessary to get her into couples therapy.

Her truth was that her soul wants her business to evolve into a new style of coaching, and she was afraid to start sharing her new work with clients and friends.

The truth, found in the clear spaces, is that your life is calling you to action.

Unapologetic action.

Saying “no” to the old, overwhelmed schedule requires fierce love and dedication.

Saying “this time is reserved for my soul-level work” requires trust and faith in your worth.

Saying “I’m worth this” means shedding old habits and ways of thinking.

Here’s the truth:

You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.

You can be seen as a helpful person who achieves great things and fiercely protects your soul’s need for space.

You can be a good, considerate woman who puts her priorities above all else.

You can be a reasonable, smart woman who invests in her growth and spiritual needs.

You will get more, better work accomplished when you have more space and peace.

All this requires mastering the uncommon, Creatrix skill of clearing space. 

Clear space in your daily schedule for your needs.

Clear space for your body and soul to speak to you through dance or meditation.

Clear space on your agenda for envisioning, high-level coaching that takes you to the next level of your development.

Clear space in your life for your voice and desires to air out and take action.

By getting clear, Andrea saw her life for what it was: her own.

And in that freedom from distraction, she began to take action. 

Unapologetic action.

And her life began to reflect her truest desires. 

Now that’s power.

Do this today:

Look at your schedule for today. 

Look at the obligations you feel responsible for. 

Choose 2 things to say NO to.

Plan 30 minutes in your calendar for a spacious walk, meditation, nap, or journal session.

Fight the urge to justify your change in plans. 

There is no one to justify this to, except your soul, your truth.

Look at the remaining days of December.

Choose a day to reclaim for yourself.

Envision the perfect babysitter for the kids, or that your husband willingly takes them for 6 full hours of fun.

Turn off your social media.

Put away your phone. 

What will you do with this space?

What will you gain from this blank time?

What fears or worries start to appear when you have clear time for truth to arise?

My own work as a mentor, coach, and writer have evolved by leaps and bounds in the last year, but it required a fierce dedication to creating space.

Space for truth to arise.

Clearing away lies that repeat, like “you’re not good enough.”

I invite you to clear your space today, NAME.

Write me back - just hit reply:

How will you claim your space now?

What do you suspect you will find in the space?

And finally, how will your life be better in 1 year when you dedicate yourself to protecting your space?

(I, and only I, read your replies. And yes, I read every single one :)

Xo,

Alex

P.S. Applications for the Creatrix 2020 Mentorship open soon - get on the early bird list here to be in the first group to apply: https://forms.gle/SbDsYkEXG3QFQqnCA

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Kate had a hidden, secret, second-self. Her Shadow.

Despite her success, Kate couldn’t shake the idea that women in her sales group were better than her: more sophisticated, better educated, more confident than she. 

They were members of an “in-group” that she never felt invited to.

She worked super hard to get her children accepted to groups and clubs and schools where they would “belong.”

She always felt like an outsider at work events, school gatherings, and caught other moms giving her strange looks, and obsessed that they were judging her.

“Every time I hang out with other women at company events or conferences, I freeze up. I drink too much because I’m obsessed with how I look, always comparing myself to them. 

And even though I’ve reached the Gold Circle and the top 10 people in sales at our company, I never feel like I’m good enough. I drink too much, eat too much, and can’t relax to make friends with people in a way that feels authentic. I just feel uncomfortable in myself.

It’s so weird, because I’m doing so well with my sales! People always comment on how authentic and easy-going I am in our business conversations, but when the attention turns to me in real opportunity for connection I get weird and start to feel anxious.”

Freezing up is caused by an inner insecurity where we aren’t able to express ourselves fully and honestly. 

Imagine you’re in front of a person or group of people whose opinion you care about. 

They’re all looking at you. 

Focus on how your body feels: do you feel physical signals like tightness, heart racing, sweating, or other feelings like you’re a deer in headlights?

In this moment, do you feel like you can express yourself, while feeling these feelings?

The insecurity, awkwardness, and anxiety kills our ability to connect with others, and our creative thinking shuts down. It makes us so obsessed with how others might judge us, that we can’t be authentically generous and become overly self-focused. Which makes us feel more alienated.

Through our coaching conversations, K realized she was keeping herself from these relationships. We practiced and K was able to approach a couple of the women in her company that she wanted to connect with. 

She asked if they’d be interested in forming a women’s group within the company, so they could support each other. K told them about her inner anxiety and what she was working on with her coach, and they immediately opened up: 

They had also been feeling disconnected and wanted to create stronger relationships at work, with her! In fact, they both looked up to her and hoped they could learn more from her about how she had become so successful!

K has misjudged them: she had become so self-obsessed and withholding that there wasn’t an opening for the other women to approach her. Both sides were wrong about each other. And by bravely, vulnerably opening up to them, they were able to begin a new way of being together.

Insecurity seems to have a life of its own.

Inside each of us is a hidden, secret, second-self. The Shadow.

All those feelings of inadequacy, fear, and self-doubt, are our inner shadow.

It’s the part of us we try to hide.

The part we fear we’ll be judged for, if anyone knew the truth.

It’s everything about ourselves we don’t want to be, but fear we truly are.

It’s called The Shadow, because it follows us everywhere. It’s your dark side, your ego, Bitch Brain, low-vibration self, and id. It’s the grotesque Mr. Hyde to our respectable Dr. Jekyll. 

Your shadow impacts how you see yourself. It doesn’t matter if others see you as successful, beautiful, brilliant, and wonderful: if your shadow says you’re a reject, a loser, too fat, too old, or too lame, that’s what you’re likely to believe about yourself.

The Shadow is our insecurity. 

And it’s why insecurity is impossible to get rid of.

The only way to manage The Shadow is to integrate it. 

AND, turn it into a source of strength.

This truth speaks to our most basic, shared human struggle:

We all want to feel worthy, loveable, and capable. 

But we are the only ones who see our shadow, and we feel ashamed.

We feel so disgusted by our inner truth, we turn away from The Shadow and look outside ourselves for something that makes us feel worthy, loveable, capable, and valuable.

So we look to others to validate us, approve of our work, our ideas, our selves. 

It’s why we get obsessed with celebrities and influencers, or the woman in our field who has a social media following twice the size of our own:

We think that because others focus on this person, that she has been validated and approved of. And we focus on the “vanity metrics” of follower size, 

Our need for acceptance causes us to buy things we don’t really want, follow career paths we don’t truly care about, create things that aren’t our true calling because they’ve been validated by likes. 

The shadow is an innate part of the human being, but most of us are willfully blind to its existence. We hide our negative qualities, from ourselves and everyone else. 

To hide we might criticize others in an effort to take the attention off of ourselves. We go through life with a false sense of superiority and a belief that while others act badly or destructively, we ourselves are wholly virtuous and always in the right. But we know it’s not true, because a part of us is always aware of The Shadow.

No amount of approval from others can make you feel whole or worthy. 

Because no amount of outside validation can eliminate your inner Shadow.

We can’t escape it, because it’s always there, lurking beneath the surface, hiding behind our outer appearance, making us feel a failure, embarrassed, and weak. 

When you need validation from people and metrics outside yourself, you give them your power. They become your ruler.

No matter what you do, you are always seeking this validation, which causes you to edit your ideas, your truth, your uniqueness. It makes us twist ourselves and silence our voices in order to hide The Shadow from everyone around us.

So every time you get into a group of people, or start to reveal yourself, you freeze in an effort to hide The Shadow within. You get unfocused, confused, or stop your forward momentum with expressing yourself.

What healers and psychologists since Carl Jung have known is that the way to heal our relationship to The Shadow is to embrace it, integrate it, and learn from it. 

Embrace The Shadow, and Unleash Your Creative Self-Expression (USCSE)

Think back to when you were a kid, and felt free to express yourself. Maybe it was creativity, play, movement, or imaginative self-expression. When we are small, until we experience the first traumas of life, we have a feeling of freedom in our bodies and have no Shadow to hide.

We are connected to the Universal Spirit of Creative Self-Expression. 

We are filled with it when we’re young. 

You see it in kids you know.

This Universal Spirit of Creative Self-Expression drives us to share who we are, what we think, and how we feel without filter, and uncaring of how others react, or what they might think about us. It causes us to share ourselves in a genuine, truthful way. 

When you embody this Spirit, you speak and share yourself with clarity, depth, excitement, energy, and authenticity. 

You become a channel, a conduit, for something greater, and Universally True. 

We all feel it in different ways: 

Writing, speaking, singing, dancing, painting. 

Athletes get “in the zone.”

Flow.

Intuition.

Creating.

You’re speaking or acting from your deepest, truest self, because you are connected to this spirit, this energy, that we all have the ability to connect with.

As children we all naturally express ourselves from this Universal Spirit. As we grow into adults, we get injured, judged, and punished for our unique expression, and learn to hide it.

By the time we become teenagers we are obsessed with outside approval from our peers. 

Then we have to hide anything about ourselves that might be judged as bad or weird. 

And we use our hidden place to store all the things about ourselves that might, in any way, be unlikeable, unworthy, or unlovable.

So our inner, hidden self becomes a dumping ground, and we keep using our energy to hide within ourselves. Our least-favorite qualities become inextricably tied with who we truly are, down underneath all the outside show we put on for others.

And our Inner Truth turns into something we hate, The Shadow. 

This means, dear one, that our Shadow holds the key to our true self, our inner authority and confidence, and our creative self-expression.

It takes powerful tools to unlock this gorgeous confidence.

The best tool I can share that I’ve used myself and with countless clients, is Creative Self-Expression.

Some examples:

#1 When I finally came clean and shared that I was eating meat again after being vegan for 10+ years, I had to face The Shadow that I was a fraud and a failure. The truth was, through sharing my evolution and new reality, that I was honoring my body, which I had been trying to control through food. In the social media firestorm that came next, I discovered a much bigger audience of people who wanted help in creating a healthy relationship with food and their bodies.

I felt honest and self-expressed. And my business grew.

#2 My client K applied for and won a coveted promotion that moved her family to Amsterdam. 

#3 Other clients have worked with their shadow to realize that they were still trying to appease their parents through their current career track or presentation, and decided to stop hiding their message and passion. Building platforms, writing books, speaking out more often.

When we stop caring what people think of us, or how they’ll judge us, and begin to self-express more clearly and creatively, people are drawn to us. We become a magnet for clients and important relationships. 

You are just one of the few who has bravely stepped up to integrate The Shadow.

“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” (Carl Jung)

Once we become more aware of The Shadow in ourselves, we must honor it and find a way to integrate it into our life. It’s the Uncommon Path of Creative Leaders who Thrive. If we fail to do it, or continue to hide it (and hide from it), we become weak and scattered because we’re trying to serve our authentic self and hide our shadow, which dissipates our powers and energy. The shadow must become a part of one’s conscious personality.

Tap into your Inner Authority, through Creative Self-Expression.

Embrace your hidden self, knowing every single human being, even the greats you admire, has their own shadow they’re wrestling with.

Embrace it, and speak with it, knowing you are the only Inner Authority who matters.

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Liyana Silver is a good friend, coach, and author. We’ve known each other for years. Liyana’s teaching is called “Mining for Gold in a Dark Night of the Soul.” She’s an amazing coach who helps women move through their dark night and into their bodies and souls. Her first book is called Feminine Genius: The Provocative Path to Waking Up and Turning On the Wisdom of Being a Woman.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/237

Beth Aala is a three-time Emmy Award-winning producer and Peabody Award winner for her documentary work at HBO. Her most recent documentary is Rancher, Farmer, Fisherman, which she co-directed and produced. It premiered at the Sundance Film Festival in 2017. Beth is here to discuss her new documentary that will air on PBS on October 28, so check your local listings for more information. The film is called Made In Boise, and it highlights the incredible, booming surrogacy industry that has emerged in Boise, Idaho. Beth shares her approach to the film, the relationships she witnesses, the politics of surrogacy, and the number of strong feelings and opinions brought on by this topic. I believe it’s important for women to see and hear stories about women that are made by women. Beth has built her successful career around the creation of these stories.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/235

Dr. Anna Cabeca has much to teach us about feeling safe in our bodies and sexual relationships. We’ve been friends for years, and I trust her and her products, and I use them faithfully. She understands the dropoff in energy and focus that comes with middle age, and she knows that balancing our hormones and drives in our bodies support our long-term relationships and our self-worth. If you’re struggling with any of these hormone-related issues, then this is the show for you. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/233

Meggan Watterson is a feminist theologian with a Master of Theological Studies degree from Harvard Divinity School and a Master of Divinity from Columbia University. She’s a teacher and writer who leads retreats and workshops on the Divine Feminine and The Soul-Voice Meditation. She is powerful and passionate about her love for Christianity, which wasn’t revealed to her until later in life. Meggan’s latest book is Mary Magdalene Revealed: The First Apostle, Her Feminist Gospel & the Christianity We Haven’t Tried Yet. The book explores the deep, rich history of women in early Christianity in a fascinating way.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/231

Sarah Neustadter, Ph.D., is the author of Love You Like the Sky: Surviving the Suicide of a Beloved. The book is heart-wrenching and useful, written from the perspective of a suicide survivor and psychologist. The healing process is an unfolding of growing and learning, but the important thing to know is that there IS help. Sarah wrote this book because all the books she found didn’t touch the raw emotions she felt at the death of her beloved several years ago. She was confronted with hard questions, so the book is designed as a map for navigating complicated grief and understanding grief as a way toward deeper transformation from despair to beauty.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/219

Olive Persimmon has written The Coitus Chronicles, which is described as a diary of your hilarious friend’s quest to heal her relationship with her body, sexuality, love, and her exploration of orgasm. The book is insightful, educational, and funny; I loved it from start to finish! In today’s conversation, we journey far and wide in our discussion of sexuality, STI’s, orgasm, BDSM, pick-up artists, foot fetish, and everything in between.

You can find the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/226.

Andrea Flores is the co-writer of a new book, Yes She Can: 10 Stories of Hope & Change from Young Female Staffers of the Obama White House. Andrea is a lawyer in Washington, DC, and served as the regional director for Hillary Clinton’s 2016 presidential campaign. She spent 3 years in several key positions in the Obama White House and worked on the immigration bill that failed to get passed. Before that, she worked in New Mexico on the local government level. She was the first Latinx student body president in the history of Harvard University and graduated from Columbia Law School. (Latinx is a gender-neutral term used to refer to those of Latin origin.)

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/224.

Cynthia Morris is a coach to writers, artists, and entrepreneurs to help them bring their ideas into form. For over 20 years, she’s helped thousands get beyond their excuses to create works that matter. She’s written 8 books herself, including a Paris historical novel about Sylvia Beach. You can find her books at www.originalimpulse.com. On today’s show, we’re talking about her latest book, The Busy Woman’s Guide to Writing a World-Changing Book. This is an inspirational book by a woman about our creative process. Cynthia talks about the mindset piece of writing, along with the nuts and bolts of structure, tools, and prompts. She explains how the Renaissance woman of today needs both structure and flexibility and how to write a book on schedule, no matter how busy you are.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/223

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You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/222

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Kate Northrup is an entrepreneur, activist, bestselling author, wife, and mom who supports ambitious, motivated, successful women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Her new book is Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms, and Kate’s here to share what she has discovered.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/219

Susan Hyatt has been a life coach for the past 12 years. She has written a brand new book called Bare: A 7-Week Program to Transform Your Body, Get More Energy, Feel Amazing, and Become the Bravest, Most Unstoppable Version of You. The book distills the program she’s been teaching to her clients for years. The book covers the foundation principles that you are more than your body; you are whole and complete with unlimited potential. Susan wants women to feel satisfied and well in their bodies. Susan’s work focuses on how we should treat our bodies with care, love, and respect, and shed the mindset that keeps us weighted down and too exhausted and afraid to be seen. We need to quit worrying about our weight and focus on the things that really matter!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/217.

Erin Stutland is a holistic wellness expert and cheerleader in my life. Her new book, Mantras in Motion, is the distillation of many years of work in helping people harness the physical, spiritual, and mental energy in service of what they want. Erin shares how to become more mindful and stay in the moment to cut off negative thinking. She’ll teach us some cool journaling exercises and motivational mantras to use while we move. Her book isn’t merely words on pages but can inject energy into your life!

You can find the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/215

Lisa Hendrickson-Jack is a Certified Fertility Awareness Educator, Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner, and author. Her new book is The Fifth Vital Sign: Master Your Cycles and Optimize Your Fertility. The book covers essential topics to help empower you to take control of your health, moods, energy, life, and fertility. We’re discussing how the world’s educational systems have failed to teach us about our fertility, our hormones, and the intricate symphony that is our female health. Lisa helps health-conscious women discover the connection between our menstrual cycles and our overall health so that we can do many things, including ditch our hormonal birth control forever. Lisa is a pure genius at this work, and I’m thrilled to have her on the show!

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You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/211.

Story tellers are revered members of society, and your story is totally unique to you...

Stories help us evolve, change, and envision a bigger, different life.

It's time to reexamine and tell yours.

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Xanet Pialet is a teacher, and author of the bestselling book, Living an Orgasmic Life. She’ll explain tantra and why this topic is so important. Pleasure and feeling good is an important topic for women, so we can create and have what we want. Xanet explains how she helps people get through all the rules we have about sex, sensuality, and pleasure. Through her private coaching practice, Xanet helps individuals and couples who struggle with desire, sexless marriages, and sexual abuse and trauma.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/209

Dr. Mariza Snyder joins me today as we discuss her new book, The Essential Oils Hormone Solution. She’s a return guest to the show, a good friend of mine, and she’s just a super fun and brilliant person to be around. She firmly believes that you can balance your hormones by using essential oils and self-care rituals. Her goal is to help people transform their lives and become the CEO of their own healthcare. In this episode, we discuss stress, energy fatigue, concentration, cravings, libido, anxiety, toxicity, and more. Join us for this jam-packed conversation, and get yourself a copy of her 7th book! 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/208

Marsha Jones is from the Afiya Center in Texas. Their work is centered around the experience for black women, especially in services for reproductive health. The center is a voice to advocate against harmful policies and legislation that keep these women at risk. Maternal mortality is a huge issue all around the world, and specifically in Texas, where maternal mortality has doubled in recent years! The Afiya Center provides outreach, education, and care to aid these women who have been largely ignored and passed over on the legislative front. Is it medical murder when their pain is ignored and they aren’t given appropriate care?

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/207

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/206.

Soraya Chemaly wrote Rage Becomes Her, a book that covers EVERYTHING about this topic. She covers how rage and anger are used against women, and why our disconnection from other women is one of our greatest sources of stress, sadness, and anxiety. Being “too angry” or too emotional will often get us “cut out” of the group. Rage, anger, and anxiety are powerful emotions that signal when our boundaries have been violated. Rage and anger might be the key to the unfolding of our true selves. Let’s jump right in to learn more about rage and anger with Soraya!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/205

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/203

Leanne Ely is the founder of SavingDinner.com. Their goal is to bring families closer together by enjoying healthy and easy-to-prepare meals. Leanne shares tips about handling the potential emotional land mines that come up around food and family. We’re even delving into the questions that exist about the historical significance of Thanksgiving---and whether we should even be celebrating this day. We all know that we bond with others over our feasts and celebrations, and Leanne shares with us her resources for Paleo, traditional, and healthy holiday recipes galore.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/202

From my webinars and the questions some women are asking, I know that many of us are second-guessing ourselves, are stuck in over-analysis and criticism, self-doubt, and we look for outside validation, don’t trust others, and downplay ourselves. Sound familiar? Let’s jump into some key factors and talk about how to find true healing and empowerment.

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This episode, our 200th, is dedicated to the brave women in my life: my mother and my grandmother, who just recently passed away. My grandmother was an artist, teacher, and mentor who was endlessly supportive of everyone in her family and the others whom she touched with her inspirational and creative life. Although my mother passed away several years ago, she is the one who led me into podcasting. She had her own organic gardening radio show for 10 years every Saturday morning, and this was WAY before the days of podcasts. I’m grateful for the roles these women have played in inspiring me and teaching me about being brave in an ever-changing world. Now, I get the chance to pass along what I’ve learned.

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Dr. Guy Winch is a licensed psychologist, author, and keynote speaker who is a leading advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives, workplaces, and educational systems. His viral TED talk, Why We Need To Practice Emotional First Aid, has been viewed over 6 million times. He’s written several books that have been translated into 25 languages, and he writes the popular Squeaky Wheel blog on PsychologyToday.com. In today’s show, he discusses his latest book, How To Fix A Broken Heart. 

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Bob and I passionately believe that the world needs more people who know how to build aligned and empathetic relationships – in business, communities, and families – through powerful, clear conversations. Our intention is to help you be the catalyst for positive change in your organization and in your life. Tune in to today’s show to hear a valuable conversation that will guide and inspire you follow our simple, guided methodology on how to get in alignment, and create common cause with other people.

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Nancy Levin is a Master Coach and the author of The New Relationship Blueprint: 10 Steps to Reframe the Way You Love, her fourth book. Because she has “been through it all” in regards to the relationships in her life, she has identified these 10 steps about how to create a new way of being in relationship, where you are independent and focus on taking care of yourself so you can take care of others.

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Terri Cole is a NY-based psychotherapist, counselor, and mentor to many women. She runs the big, bad, beautiful Boundary Bootcamp.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/196.

Today, I am going to share all of my best practices for filling your body up with flavorful food and inner peace. There is joy in every bite! 

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Hormones play a role in almost every system in our bodies. They help balance our blood sugar, our circadian rhythm and even have an effect on how our bodies feel stress. Magdalena is going to tell us all about the specific changes we can make to our diets to make our hormones happy. Her researched-based system is going to unlock a new level of healing that can change your entire life! 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/193

You don’t have to fear or dread the detox. It is not a lonely and desperate place! In fact, I have experienced and witness time and again how women can discover more of who they really are by detoxing all areas of life! Today, we will discuss how to detox from certain foods, behaviors, and even relationships. Above all, the best reason to embrace the detox is to find freedom. I am going to help you get there today! 

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/192

Many women feel out of control when it comes to preventing or enabling pregnancy, but not everything is up to chance. Today on the show I have two special ladies who are on a mission to empower women through education. Alexandria DeVito MS, CNS and Sarah Rahal, MD are the co-founders of Xandara. Xandara focuses on improving women’s health and lifestyle so that it improves her natural fertility. They are here to help you through the overwhelm and give you the power to control the fertility process. 

Today, we are busting myths and breaking rules about fertility. You have choices. You have control. Alexandria and Sarah are going to tell you how! 

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Today, I am going to give you some of my very best advice and solid strategies to help you be in your body. I could go on and on about the subject because I honestly believe it is the key to better health and a life full of happiness. From small mindset shifts to easy exercises to build into your daily routine, get ready to increase your body love and transform your self-image without ever lifting a weight. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/190

Today, Belinda is going to walk us through some of the most inspiring financial transformations she has seen in her years as a financial coach. In each situation, Belinda was able to help her clients gain clarity over their financial reality, and then break down the limiting beliefs that keep them in the dark. She will also teach us about the four steps she uses to evaluate personal finances: mindset and earning, tracking and spending, credit and debt, then saving and investing. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/188

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/187

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There are a lot of reasons that we develop habits. Some of them come from cravings that we give in to. Smoking is a habit that is developed and your brain wants to be soothed by it. These habits exert so much control over people that we actually build our lives around the habit. Today we’re talking about how to use your biological cravings to develop habits that help you create the life you love.

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You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/184

Selena Soo is a PR heroine, and she wants everyone to feel like they have an actual platform from which to share their message and provide their services. I know for a fact that Selena’s relationship building and network expanding powers are the real deal because she worked with me to promote my own book! Women, Food, and Desire would not be the success it is today without Selena, so of course, I wanted to have her on the show today to talk about Impact Millions. 

Impact Millions is Selena’s latest and greatest mastermind where you get all of her secrets to amazing publicity for your next project or business. In these live classes, Selena will share her secrets to building valuable relationships and how we can support one another in the process. Above all, Selena is running a heart-centered operation that helps creative women, like me and you, reach a broader audience. Today, Selena is going to share her own journey, her moments of struggle, and, ultimately, her moments of success.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/183

Cravings are powerful desires. We all have them. We want to feel whole, alive, and satisfied, so oftentimes we start craving things when our needs are not met. Today, I am going to break down some of womankind’s most sinister cravings, why we tend to fall for fatty food traps, and how we can break the cycle. When you start listening to your inner wisdom and asking your body what vital needs are going unmet, you will start to understand that cravings are not demons for you to fight off. They are messages we can hear and interpret with confidence. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/182

Next up, I will continue the conversation around our current political climate with one of you, my amazing listeners. Marnie has been listening since the show started, and she reached out to me regarding a comment I had made on the show about my feelings on our current president. Marnie actually voted for Trump, and she felt like she needed to express why she made that decision and learn more about my perspective on the election. Her email made me realize that I was in a bubble, and I didn’t know anyone personally who voted for him. Our conversation exemplifies the kinds of chats we need to have with our fellow sisters, regardless of who they voted for or what their political views might be. Even though we voted differently, Marnie and I have so much in common, and she is definitely the kind of person I would want to go to tea with. At the end, I gave Marnie a challenge that I think you’ll want to join in too. I am excited to continue these kinds of conversations with an open heart and mind. After all, that is what this community is for! 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com. 

After 17 years of coaching, I have seen woman after woman learn to trust herself completely and follow her desires wholeheartedly. The results speak for themselves: more energy, satisfying work, pleasurable relationships, and so much more. When we learn to listen to not just our desires but also our bodies, we can unlock a life of pure happiness, and you deserve that. It’s time to start thinking differently about what will bring you lasting satisfaction. Yes, your cravings, desires, and yearnings can save you. 

I am going to share how I learned to start trusting my body and my deepest desires. I’ve had many jobs and lived many lives. I’ve struggled and fought for what I knew would be best for me. On the other side of the transformation, I can see how each phase of my life was a lesson in listening to myself. Do you want to stop living by the world’s rules, and start making your own? Come and join me today. 

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Esther Perel is my guest today, and she literally wrote the book on infidelity. The State of Affairs chronicles Esther’s work with couples doing the hard work of processing an affair. Some relationships break under the weight of it, but sometimes couples find that infidelity leads to rebirth. Whether the couple chooses to recommit to the relationship or dissolve it, we have a lot to learn from Esther and her experiences. 

Times have changed, so our concept of infidelity has changed. It is more important than ever that couples are communicating about how they feel and what they need. Esther is going to give us some incredible insight into why couples have affairs, and how their relationships can go on after a relationship. One of the biggest pieces of insight Esther has to share is that affairs can happen in all relationships, good and bad. She is going to show us why people break their own rules and even their own values. So many individuals are massively conflicted, and Esther seeks to understand them. 

Now, more than ever, we need to be supporting men as they enter into a vulnerable space, and then support women as they embrace their own power. Gender identities are changing. Relationships are changing. Infidelity is changing right along with it. The more we understand, the better we can support our relationships with it! 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com

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One of Lizz’s claims to fame is that she is the co-creator of The Daily Show. When she’s not spinning comedy gold, Lizz is standing up for women everywhere by advocating for women’s reproductive health. Her nonprofit, Lady Parts Justice, stands up for women by providing access to healthcare and information about reproductive health. Very soon, Lizz is hosting an online telethon, Life Is A Living Nightmare, that is sure to be hilarious as well as informative. I would encourage everyone to give it a watch when it premieres on February 1st. 

Above all, Lady Part’s Justice is about informing and educating the public about the issue of reproductive health. Today, Lizz is bringing that huge knowledge base to wake us up to all the terrible legislation, dangerous trends, and inspiring activism that is happening across the world. Her chosen vehicle to inform the public? Comedy! Lizz uses humor to call out hypocrisy and challenge us to change. She believes that change is happening if only we would use our voices to stand up for the basic rights of our fellow human beings. Trans, Cis, Female, Male…everyone deserves the rights of reproductive health and choice. If you aren’t fired up over this issue, you will be once Lizz is done with you! Go ahead and give this episode a listen, and don’t forget to support the cause!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/176

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamison.com/175

Continuing on the theme of vulnerability and transformation, I have invited Penney Peirce onto the show today. Where can I begin with someone like Penney? She is the author of so many incredible books that have personally changed my life, but the most recent is Transparency. Penney encourages and teaches women from all walks of life about the energies and frequencies that we can tap into if we only know where to look. The world is changing, and we are entering the Age of Intuition and Insight. Penney will break that down for you in an incredibly accessible way. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/174

Although your vulva may not really be a part of your body that you've given a lot of attention to, on today's show Alex goes into a number of pretty personal details about some issues that she's been having, that a lot of ladies also tend to have, with the dryness, the incontinence and the pain. Today's episode deals with your sexual and your hormonal health and Alex and Dr. Cabeca, who's been a woman's hormonal expert for years, talk about the stuff that tends to happen as you get older- and, quite interestingly, the stuff that seems to be happening to younger and younger women today. Today, they talk about what you can do to heal it and how to avoid it and get healthy and they will also be talking about the spiritual aspects of all of this. Listen in now, to hear this really great interview, where Dr. Cabeca and Alex discuss the foundations of what it means to be a happy, healthy woman, who is satisfied in her body. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/173

Also on the show today, Alex talks to one of her favorite new authors, Stephen Cope about those relationships that have meaning. Stephen, a sweet and lovely man, is a Social Worker and a Scholar in Residence at Kripalu, an incredible Retreat Centre on the East Coast, which is also the largest yoga research institute in the western world. Stephen is a Kripalu Ambassador and he's also the author of some great best-selling books, including Yoga And The Quest For The True Self and The Wisdom Of Yoga. His latest book is called Soul Friends- The Transforming Power Of Deep Human Connection and it looks at relationships and friendships in life and helps you to understand how you become who you are, in relation to your friends. Stephen gives some great historical examples and some personal stories too. Listen in today and find out more about discovering yourself in relationship to other people.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/172

"There's always a way to draw a boundary with your heart in the right place." - Terri Cole. 

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It is impeccable timing that I have the incredible Claire Wasserman with me today. Claire is the mastermind behind Ladies Get Paid, a program that connects women in business to other women to help bridge the knowledge gap. We’ve talked about the wage gap, the glass ceiling, and how women feel unable to negotiate. Well, now you are going to be connected to the resources that tell you how to fight it. Claire knows that many of these problems are systematic, but that doesn’t stop her from joining together communities of women to fight the system. What is beautiful about Ladies Get Paid is that the focus is on women taking agency and advocating for themselves. 

It’s time for some things to change. Women should feel like they have a place in the workforce. Organizations like Ladies Get Paid are making that happen. Be a part of the change, and give this episode a listen. 

Read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/170

Are you ready for a truth bomb or two today? Andrea lays it all out there as she shares her toughest moments, her biggest heartbreaks, and then her mightiest triumphs. We get real about numbing mechanisms, the many faces of perfectionism, and what we can do about those things. It’s time for us to own our shit, and embrace the hard work of healing. Now is time to start. You’ll be ready after listening to this conversation with Andrea. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/169

Alex was really fortunate to have met Ali at Quad City's Health Conference in Iowa, at the beginning of 2017. Ali was taught to meditate, by his father at a very young age, but due to unforseen circumstances, his meditation practice fell by the wayside while he was still a child. When he was in his early twenties, he started searching for some answers and for a way to overcome his anxiety, so he started the process of mindfulness all over again. You're really going to love this interview, so listen in, to find out more about Ali and the awesome results of his Mindful Moment Program for schools. 

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On the show today, we will be sharing Alex's reading list for the past couple of months and we have some really great Q & A's that came in, on the Her Rules Radio Crew, on Facebook, about reclaiming our orgasms and about clearing toxic energy from people. We also have a very special story to share with you, about two women, one, or even both of whom you could possibly resonate with. Then, for the woman who is either ready to lead, or ready to master the uncommon skills of the deliciously happy women who do lead, there is an invitation for you! Listen in to find out more.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com.

    Today, I sit down with Michelle to talk about her upcoming book, Breaking Cover, where she shares how she became a CIA agent, used her knowledge of Arab culture and language to earn her spot in the Debriefing Room, and then go deep undercover over in the Middle East. It was always a little like walking a tightrope between knowing she was the right woman for the job, and dealing with the insecurities and self-doubt that many of us experience even in less dangerous situations. Michelle puts on display true empathy, honor, and intelligence, proving that your unique gifts are what make you invaluable, not your appearance and gender. I can’t wait for you to hear her incredible stories today as we navigate what it means to be a woman in the world. 

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Are you a micro-managing Mama who feels ashamed that your outer success feels inauthentic to you?  Are you frustrated because you can't manage your own diet when you are managing a huge multi-million dollar portfolio for your company?  Or do you feel secretly jealous of the women who really seem to have it all figured out? If so, Alex can really relate! She 'had it all' and still couldn't relax.  She used to be a control freak and she really tried to do it all herself. She copied everyone's systems and followed the rules to the letter- she was a real Type A Girl and it worked, but only for a while. Then she would either sabotage herself, or things would just stop working. Listen in to find out what Alex discovered, about getting graceful with change and about what really will happen to you, if you unshackle your innate desires and start honoring your inner wildness.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/162

Suzanne is one of the leading authorities in the world today on conscious awareness and the transformational impact that your awareness can have on your process of healing. She's been working to empower people, through Cranio-Sacral Therapy and other Body Work modalities, to experience joy in every moment and without burning out, for more than thirty years. This empowerment is based on learning how to reclaim your body, so today we will be covering some of the practical tools and skills that she teaches, all of which have been helping people across the world, to improve their lives, their well-being, their joy, their self-worth and even their creativity and the growth of their businesses. Listen in now, to learn about tapping into your body's innate wisdom.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/161

Alex has some very personal stories to share with you today. These stories are about areas that she has had to heal, within herself, in order to be able to really enjoy living in her body. She also has a couple of questions for you, because this show is about bringing to light the invisible chains that keep most of us from fully experiencing  the pleasure that we all really deserve to feel. Listen in and learn to relax and fully enjoy who you are and all that you're capable of experiencing.

Read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com

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Dr. Mariza Snyder is an educator, Amazon best-selling author, wife, and Wellness Advocate. She’s passionate about helping you to become more empowered with simple healthy habits that YOU can do TODAY!

So, last week, Alex decided to put the question out on Facebook and Instagram, to find out from all you Rulers out there, which rules, norms or social constructs you see people following, that actually make them miserable. She got a really huge response, so listen in now, as she shares some of the rules that you, as listeners, would like to erase, or rewrite.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/157

• Going from the Pressure Cooker to the Slow Cooker. 
• Learning from Linda’s Case Study
• Breaking down perfectionism, abandonment, and Good-Girl Syndrome.
• Learn how to ease into the Slow Cooker way of life. 

Are you ready to slow down and reclaim your time? I have five spots opening up for private coaching. Sign up at the link below!

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In today's interview with Mandy Len Catron, we are going to explore love on a really profound level. Mandy's written a book, which is a beautiful tale as well as a process that she managed to unearth, where you really can fall in love with anyone. Mandy has thirty-six questions in her process, that can be used to foster compassion, understanding, and connection with literally anyone. All of us can really use this powerful tool, in this day and age, to help us to connect with those we feel hatred or anger either from or towards. Alex really encourages you to listen in very carefully and with an open heart, as  Mandy talks about the book she wrote in 2015, which became a New York Times Modern Love Piece.  It's called How To Fall In Love With Anyone and it went insanely viral, being one of the most shared articles in The Times, that year.  In our current times, we really need to learn how to connect with the people who are different from us or the ones that we don't know much about. That is, ultimately, what will save us. Listen in now!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/154

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/153

What’s the solution? Can there be an end to the emotional eating cycle? This week, Tricia Nelson, author, and reformed emotional eater talks about Healing Your Hunger. Tricia knows that there is a spiritual and mental root to our emotional eating that no diet plan could ever address. At one point in her life, Tricia was ready to give up. Nothing worked for her until she found her coach and later husband Roy who led her towards spiritual healing. Now Tricia writes and shares her many years of knowledge and experience to help you heal your emotional eating habits TODAY. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/152

As you know, Alex loves to talk about current events and how politics impacts on our feminine  lives.  Well, there really seems to be too much going on right now, to keep on top of it all. The closing of so many Planned Parenthood clinics is  like a plague sweeping across America at the moment. Did you know that the only abortion clinic in Kentucky is in danger of closing? That's something that's affecting the lives of millions of women and their ability to be healthy and to choose the direction of their own lives. As there is so much going on, Alex is encouraging you to go and listen to one of her favorite podcasts, called Hellbent. Hellbent is a twice a week, feminist politics podcast,  which goes into all the details of the stuff that Alex gives you the broader strokes on. So, go and check it out- it's really awesome! 

With all of this going on, Alex has decided to talk about something good, today. It's so easy to focus on what's scary, or annoying, or exhausting, or even infuriating, but right now, we'll talk about gratitude, which is a really powerful, positive psychology tool. Alex wants our tribe to share some good things, so she starts off by reading some of them to you now, written by some of the members of Her Rules Radio Facebook Group, where there are currently over seventeen hundred women sharing about their lives! Listen in and become inspired by the really heartfelt gratitude messages that they have shared. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/151

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com

Although your vulva may not really be a part of your body that you've given a lot of attention to, on today's show Alex goes into a number of pretty personal details about some issues that she's been having, that a lot of ladies also tend to have, with the dryness, the incontinence and the pain. Today's episode deals with your sexual and your hormonal health and Alex and Dr. Cabeca, who's been a woman's hormonal expert for years, talk about the stuff that tends to happen as you get older- and, quite interestingly, the stuff that seems to be happening to younger and younger women today. Today, they talk about what you can do to heal it and how to avoid it and get healthy and they will also be talking about the spiritual aspects of all of this. Listen in now, to hear this really great interview, where Dr. Cabeca and Alex discuss the foundations of what it means to be a happy, healthy woman, who is satisfied in her body. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/149

Today, Alex shares a very heartfelt and personal story about her experience with a client, Michelle. They were talking about Michelle's body, which in her private session with Alex, Michelle described as being built like a brick sh*t house. This prompted Alex to point out to her that the words that we use really do have power. When we use phrases and words to describe ourselves, those words and phrases actually become our reality and our world and we keep ourselves stuck there. So, it's time to flip these old worlds into something else. You need to learn, when stumbling across old, limiting beliefs, to reconstruct them with love and care, so as not to scare the life out of your brain! Alex cautions you, however, that if you try to make these changes too big, or too fast, your lizard brain could rear up and start fighting you, to keep your old thoughts in place, so you really have to start small, in order to make the changes long lasting. 

The new thought that Michelle agreed to try on in her daily life, was “I am strong, capable and I deserve the self-care that I desire.” Yet, for Alex, after ending the call, something still felt off... Then she realized that it was her own lizard brain, eating into her power and her ego and it had some really nasty things to say about her body, on a very regular basis. Although Alex acknowledges the privileges that she enjoys, being a white woman, relatively thin and quite tall, she still goes through her own struggles and pain with her body, as do all of us, because we've all been raised as women, to be judged by our bodies! So, she began to work on flipping her old beliefs about her body and turning them into manageable, self-loving affirmations. This felt good, but the imperfections became meaner and more difficult to acknowledge. Alex still persevered with taking her power back and she really encourages you to do the same, because it's really necessary and it's worth it! You really do need to rewrite the story around your beliefs about your body- now, and show up in the world centered, graceful, and wise!  

Today, Alex will be interviewing Dr. Srini Pillay, a Harvard Neuroscientist and Coach, about his brand new and really inspiring book, Tinker, Dabble, Doodle, Try, which has just been nominated one of the fifty must reads by Coastal Living, for the second time. It's a beautiful exploration of creativity and what we think about being productive and how we're overworking ourselves to get more done, but it's really not working. It's about how our creativity really comes out of a space of spaciousness and doodling, in many ways. Listen in today, to get some of Dr. Pillay's really awesome tools to help you to get unstuck, keep moving forward and live by your own rules.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/148

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Today, Michelle explains how she and her dear friend, Ally, created Soul Camp, what it is and also, what inspired them to put together what is basically a three to four-day play-date for adults! Listen in now, to find out all about Soul Camp and how it came to be what it is today.

Also, don't miss Alex's important information about her recent skin cancer diagnosis. She finally found some beauty products that are safe and healthy for your skin. Listen in toe learn what she recommends.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/146

As women in the modern world, we carry around habits and thoughts attached to shame, kind of like how we carry heavy books in a backpack. What’s in your shame backpack that you are ready to put down? What are the thoughts and habits that are keeping you from a fulfilled and happy life? Are you ready to make a F-It list?

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/145

Alex points out that we have shut ourselves down, in so many ways and for such a long time, that we have become completely out of practice with connecting with what is true and good. We're so disconnected that even our ability to create what we want and feel the way we'd like to feel has become severely damaged! Our ability to stop harming ourselves with negative thinking or bad eating habits has also been affected because it's all connected! Listen in to find out more.

Today, Alex talks about Minimize Me, which she explains, is such a big show topic, that she's turned it into a whole blog series. (You can access the blog on either www.alexandrajamieson.com, or on www.herrulesradio.com) The gist of it is that we're stuffing down our strengths, covering up our quirks and ignoring our truth! Alex hears this, almost daily, from clients and friends and she's definitely experienced this for herself, throughout her life. Listen in today, as Alex gives you some ways to overcome your habit of minimizing your dreams, desires and even your truth!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/144

According to a study done by the University of Texas recently, in the six years since Planned Parenthood and other safe abortion providers and women's health clinics there have been de-funded, the death rate in maternal health has doubled. This de-funding has also resulted in the closure of more than eighty clinics, most of which were in rural areas where no alternative care facilities have been provided. This means that in the two years since the cuts were implemented, the remaining health clinics in the state of Texas are only able to serve half the women who were being taken care of before.  

Alex points out that de-funding Planned Parenthood and making safe abortions harder to obtain does not stop abortion. It only stops safe abortion. This is why Alex refers to woman's health as a revolution. It's a battle being waged every day and women's lives are at risk! This is what prompted her to give a talk at The Women's Empowerment Expo in Washington DC on the Memorial Day weekend. Listen in today, as Alex gives you a brief overview of the talk that she gave at the Expo, called The Foundations of Women's Power.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/143

Years ago in college, I investigated some women’s health clinics for a newspaper article and found several fake ones, who only provided misinformation. Then I went to a Planned Parenthood clinic. Boy, talk about a world of difference in the quality of the information, as well as in the level of respect and dignity with which I was treated! Not judgment, no pressure, just the facts!

There is a disturbing trend going on right now, where many states are trying ban abortion - a further assault on women’s health in our country! Today is a show that isn’t about politics. It’s about women and their health. It’s about being able to make choices about your health and family that are in the best interests of your family. Women of color are disproportionately affected by abortion, further keeping many families trapped in poverty.

This week’s interview is with Dr. Willie Parker, the author of Life’s Work - A Moral Argument for Choice. He grew up in a Christian home in the deep South. As a Doctor, he realized that in order to show true Biblical compassion to women, he needed to provide abortion services. His journey has been a transformative one, as he eventually left his Obstetrics practice and gave up his penthouse in Hawaii, to begin life in the deep South as an itinerant abortion provider traveling between Mississippi, Alabama, and Georgia. Listen to his amazing interview as he beautifully lays out the moral case for compassion through choice.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com.

The guest on today's show is LiYana Silver, an incredible, beautiful and smart torch bearer for the world that's coming, in which feminine leadership flourishes. She 's a coach, a teacher and a speaker who supports women to find the full expression of their feminine strengths in their work, love, and lives, through her mentorship, her blog and now also her new book, which Alex assures you is different from anything you've read before. It's about connecting you with the inner knowing of your body and Alex asks you to listen in with an open mind. Join Alex and LiYana today and find out where your true power lies.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexjamieson.com/140.

Also on the show today, Alex talks to one of her favorite new authors, Stephen Cope about those relationships that have meaning. Stephen, a sweet and lovely man, is a Social Worker and a Scholar in Residence at Kripalu, an incredible Retreat Centre on the East Coast, which is also the largest yoga research institute in the western world. Stephen is a Kripalu Ambassador and he's also the author of some great best-selling books, including Yoga And The Quest For The True Self and The Wisdom Of Yoga. His latest book is called Soul Friends- The Transforming Power Of Deep Human Connection and it looks at relationships and friendships in life and helps you to understand how you become who you are, in relation to your friends. Stephen gives some great historical examples and some personal stories too. Listen in today and find out more about discovering yourself in relationship to other people.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/139

The guest today is Jennifer Cassetta, a powerhouse with a huge heart. She's a trainer, a speaker, she does nutrition and she's also the creator of the Stilettos and Self Defense Workshops, which is the latest in self-defense for women. Jennifer's goal is to help women to develop the self-assurance, strength, and resilience to reduce the real and frightening statistics for sexual assault in the United States. She goes all around the country teaching self-defense workshops at companies, colleges, and universities. Listen in today to get some amazing insights from Jennifer and to hear her inspiring story.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/138

Today's guest is Dr. Leslie Tidwell, a board certified OB.Gyn and the creator of Savvy Lady Patient.com. Leslie realized that she could positively affect women's lives by working with them differently, rather than seeing them in her office. She's created a way for women to have a better, more educated, personalized experience when they go to the doctor. Listen in today, as she talks to Alex about how any woman can get ready for her next appointment so that she feels strong and confident and armed with the correct information.

Today, Leslie talks to Alex about:

• Her website and service, Savvy Lady Patient.com- what it is and why she created it.
• How women are often blown off by doctors (both male and female) and told that they're being overly emotional, or even hysterical.
• How the paternalistic attitude revealed it to herself to her when she went into private practice and was even directed towards her at times when conferring with male doctors.
• How being a female doctor and a woman of color influenced how people viewed her as an authority.
• The appalling behavior that she has experienced from some male surgeons.
• The reasons that women seek Leslie's help through Savvy Lady Patient.com.
• About the Appointment Prep that she offers to women and how that helps and empowers them when they go in to see the doctor.
• Some tips for you, as a woman, to be better prepared when going to see a doctor.

Remember Her Play Date on April the 29^th. Go to www.herplaydate.com to take the Play Pledge, to sign up and to download your free copy of Alex's Play Book.

Today, Alex starts out talking about how women and men cope very differently with stress. This comes up a lot for her with her coaching and on today's show she shares some of the findings of a study done by Shelley Taylor, which explain why, during stressful times, men usually demonstrate the fight or flight response, while women are inclined to tend and befriend. Listen in as Alex shares a really fun way to cope with this and find out how you can play your way to experiencing less stress.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/136

Isabel was put on her first diet at around three years of age, by her pediatrician, who clearly had no idea how it would affect her later in her life. That was the beginning of what would become a life long obsession for her. When Alex met Isabel, she was just kicking off with her program, Stop Fighting Food. Now, Isabel helps women to stop feeling crazy around food, which is how she felt for most of her life, until she began to learn many things that are not taught conventionally, about emotional and binge eating and the ways that they affect women.

Isabel explains that the sad reality of many dieters lives is that with any rigid attempt to control your body, it will only be a matter of time before you violently lose control and start eating anything that you can get your hands on. She vividly describes the cycle of determination to diet, followed by 'losing it' and falling off the wagon. 

On today's show, she talks about how it felt for her, when she fell off the wagon and the about the physical and emotional pain one experiences as a result of yo-yo dieting. She also discusses how landing up in treatment for Binge Eating Disorder was the beginning of her journey towards learning what it means to have a  health-full and balanced relationship with food and how this learning involved un-learning much of what she had been conditioned with, through being so engaged with the diet industry for so many years.  Listen in and find out more.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/135.

Dr. Rachna Patel is the Medical Marijuana doctor. Rachna, a graduate of the North Western University, works out of Walnut Creek, California and she has helped people to deal with almost everything, including anxiety, pain, Parkinson's Disease and cancer. She uses Medical Marijuana in her clinic and her research.

Matt Seashols is the president and co-founder of Hmbldt, a Medical Marijuana company, which was voted one of Time Magazine's top 25 inventions of 2016. Hmbldt makes specific formulations of Medical Marijuana for different issues, as there are different aspects of Marijuana that can really speak to either pain, anxiety, or whatever issue is needing to be addressed. 

Samantha, an incredibly accomplished and super-smart lady, is the Chief Science Officer at Hmbldt. In her early academic work, she focused on the development of cancer and AIDS drugs. She then moved into overseeing EPA Laboratories. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/133

On today's show, Alex talks about a panel discussion that she attended recently in New York City, hosted by her friend, Bryony Cole, host of The Future Of Sex Podcast. There they spoke about the need for women (and men) to be better educated about women's sexuality and also about the orgasm gap. Alex also talks about how each woman's geography and topography can can make a huge difference and that we, as women, tend not to know that, nor do we get the necessary information or encouragement, to explore our own bodies to discover what really does work for us.

The guest on today's show is Kit Maloney, founder of O'actually, which celebrates sexually stimulating content, products and knowledge, that focuses on enhancing and stimulating women's sexual pleasure. O'actually is dedicated to changing the landscape of adult entertainment, to prioritize women's arousal and pleasure by distributing new types of film, audio visual arts and literature. Listen in today, as Kit shares some of her knowledge about sexuality and explains how you can increase your sexual pleasure.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/132

Lisa, who grew up in Panama, is a coach and mentor to female entrepreneurs and she works to inspire all women to live life connected to their soul and purpose. Today, she talks to Alex about her recent experience, protesting with the Native Americans against the proposed pipeline at Standing Rock.  Lisa also talks about her own struggles with her body and food and how she was able to move through those and step into her purpose. Listen in today and discover what it takes for you to show up in the world powerfully, no matter what shape or size you're in.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com

Shelah is an actress and online personality who is deeply invested in providing high-quality inspirational videos and performances for the stage and screen for the empowerment of all women. Shelah tours independently and produces her own, original work, Flight, which she performs for Black History Month and also Women's History Month. Shelah teaches Yoga and meditation and through her open, dynamic and electric personality and her #curly&curvy movement, she engages a strong online community. She's all about putting herself out there- especially, to women of color, to show: “This is me, this is my body, this is my hair- and I love it!” 

Join Alex and Shelah on today's show and find out how you can learn to love yourself, no matter what!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/130

If Rebekah Borucki can find the time to meditate in her busy schedule so can you!

Amid her already hectic life with five children, a farm to run, and writing her new book called You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life Rebekah still found the time to meditate. Hear it from a woman who has learned her value and refuses to let a chaotic day ruin her happiness, even if that meditation happens to be 4 minutes in the bathroom. So take a breath and listen to how you can change your life in just 4 minutes.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/bonusepisode

My vitality mentorship group is starting soon - it’s a small group of 20 women and I coach you for the next 8 months. This is your opportunity to get the support you need to take the deep dive into transforming your life and everything in it! This is the time to restore your life to the way you truly want it to be. You have so much to share with the world and there’s no reason it needs to stay out of reach. This program is unlike anything you have ever tried. Apply now for a growth-filled, game-changing year! It’s time to get unstuck. You have until March 3 to submit an application. www.alexandrajamieson.com/vitalitymentorship.

This episode is brought to you by brand2expandchallenge.com. Get in on the FREE 5-day challenge to get coaching and community to increase and solidify your position in the marketplace. You’ll learn to sell and get more info on selling all of your services. Go to brand3expandchallenge.com and sign up today!

Aviva, a board certified family physician, with a specialty in Integrative Women's Health and Obstetrics, is the doctor, herbalist, and midwife behind the brand new book, The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution. She has been referred to as 'the face of natural medicine in the 21^st century' by Prevention Magazine and she's also a member of the Yale Integrative Medicine Advisory Board and a widely sought after consultant on other Medical and Scientific Advisory Boards. Aviva is a popular speaker at Women's Health, Medical and Leadership events. Join her on today's show and find out more about Survival Overload Syndrome and why you need to hit the pause button and learn to say 'yes' to yourself.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/128

Today we are talking about women’s vaginal health. We have Mal Harrison and Jessica Drummond on the show today.

Was goop.com right to suggest a jade egg to improve your vaginal health? Today we de-mystify this fad and let you know the truth about jade eggs. 

Join us over at Her Rules Radio Facebook Group, with a tribe of over 1600 women! You can discover your new rules and meet a welcoming and supportive group of likeminded women!

Mal Harrison is a sexologist passionate about freeing people from shame, stigma, and fear. She wants to live in a world where fluidity, compassion, and deep human connection collide, and where every human is cliterate. In 2011 she became resident sexologist and advice columnist, “Ms. M.” for the Museum of Sex. Her research and subsequent article on the Internal Clitoris went viral, changing the way women understand how their bodies work, and heralding her as a pioneer of clit-feminism. After over 10 years of transforming both individuals and couples through sexual and relationship development, as well as receiving thousands of Dear Ms. M. emails to her advice column, she knew more had to be done. In 2016, she founded the Center for Erotic Intelligence to broaden our collective understanding of human sexuality and human connection. She studies how the erotic mind can empower our everyday lives, and offers fresh new ways of teaching healthy relationships and healthy sexual development.

Jessica Drummond, MPT, CCN, CHC, the Founder and CEO of the Integrative Women's Health Institute is passionate about caring for and empowering women who struggle with women’s and pelvic health conditions. She is equally passionate about educating and supporting clinicians in confidently and safely using integrative tools to transform women's and pelvic healthcare.

Having over a decade of experience as a women’s and pelvic physical therapist plus owning a private women’s health clinical nutrition and coaching practice gives her a unique perspective on the integrative, conservative options for pelvic pain management.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/126

Some of you have been emailing me and pinging me on Facebook etc. You have been asking me about the manifesto that I read in the first episode of the show. Guess what? We are making it! It’s going to be free as a download so you can print it out or as a screensaver. It has incredibly inspiring, motivating sayings that are really driven from the show and what we are all about. Playful women are happy women and happy women are healthy women. 

We know it’s true because we are the women that make a difference in the world. We are rulers of our own lives! If you are here listening, you are a ruler. Very soon in the next couple of weeks, we are going to be having new supplement bundles for women who want to wake up happy, get back in track in the afternoons in our busy lives and for women who have a peaceful night time ritual. We will also be opening up vitality mentor applications soon! This is my small group, 20 women that meets in person and virtually for 9 months. My version of a mastermind. You get one on one time with me and be part of an incredible group.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/125

The medical profession draws broad conclusions, and many times their conclusions are not what everyday people experience. My passion is all about helping you test and find what works for you. We need to know so many things about our bodies and how it reacts and responds to stress and life in general. I teach The Cravings Cleanse as part of helping you understand what works with your body. Go to cravingscleanse.com and find a new way to get intuitive and personal data about yourself.

Today we are talking about a different kind of love. Terri Cole is today’s guest. She’s the Founder of The Real Love Revolution. She’s a Psychotherapist and has worked with high-profile celebrities, CEO’s and thousands of people each week through her Hello Freedom Podcast.

You can join The Real Love Revolution at Bit.ly/herrulesreallove

I took a big step in transforming The Crave Cast to Her Rules Radio and it’s a little scary. We have grown into an incredible community here and in our free Facebook group but it was time to change. I was afraid that I would lose some of my listeners by making this change and slightly the direction of the podcast. But being afraid of change is keeping so many of us stuck. Her Rules Radio is about creating the life you love, feeling great in your body, feeling great about yourself in your unique way. Here is the manifesto of Her Rules Radio, we are the playfully proud women who say yes, we love our bodies just the way we are. We are the women who know how to have fun and we don’t apologize for going after it. 

Just to give you a bit of a sneak peek, I am hosting a live open house of my brand-new website this week December 29, 2016. If you are around and want to hang out with me I can show you around the new website. Then on Saturday, December 31,2016, New Year’s Eve I am hosting a live two-hour in-person workshop for only 20 women and several of those seats are already gone! This is the best future self-workshop that I taught last year. On January, the 1^st I will be hosting that same workshop live as a webinar. More exciting news, the cravings cleanse is now open! By the way, if you subscribed to The Crave Cast you are automatically subscribed to Her Rules Radio. 

Listen to this final episode, as we talk to Jen Mazer about manifesting everything you want in life. It's a double win today because we also have psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo with us to talk about our inner critic and everything else under the sun!

We live in a patriarchy and it affects us on a bio-chemical level. If you are struggling with any body issues, examine how you may have suffered or been the victim of abuse, and get to the root of the problem. Being a woman has a tremendous effect on your relationship with your food and your body. So, go over to alexandrjamieson.com and check out all the resources I have for you there.

Today’s guest is Briana Borten. Briana and her husband, Dr. Peter Borten wrote a book called, The Well Life. It comes out this week. They have brick and mortar spa businesses and they wrote a beautiful book about how to live a peaceful life. Stay tuned all the way to the end to get all the best tips and information.

You can join us on Facebook in our private group at bit.ly/wfdgroup

Join the mailing list to learn about the live webinars that I am going to be doing. I am doing an amazing New Year’s Day Planning webinar! So sign up for my newsletter at www.alexandrajamieson.com and look out for those announcements!

I first became aware of anger snacking in my own life. To be honest, it was during the time I was going through my divorce. I noticed it when I was so mad that I was crunching my way through a family sized bowl of popcorn. I was mad and was destroying things with my teeth. I crunched my way through snack after snack after snack. I wanted to act out in so many ways, but that wasn’t appropriate so I just crunched and crunched. Yep, you get the idea. That’s what we are talking about today!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/117

Let’s start with food - we are bombarded with triggers around the holiday season. However, there are foods that can help reduce our stress and add calming support to our bodies and emotions. Here are 10 foods you should indulge in especially around the holidays. You’ll feel focused, calm and resilient!

You can read all the show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/115

Today, I’m talking to Ali Shapiro about how to have a truce with food. Ali is a life coach and co-host of the “Insatiable” podcast and a speaker. She combined her training in functional medicine at the institute of integrative medicine and her masters’ degree in organizational dynamics at UPENN to create her “Truce with Food” method while in graduate school. She is also a 24-year cancer survivor! Her “Truce with Food” method is about ending the gymnastics with food that women get exhausted from. It’s about trying to be good with food but not too strict. How do you do this? Ali and I are going to get into that. Ali has an incredible wealth of knowledge. Please enjoy this interview with Ali Shapiro.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/113

Then I will have on Dr. Anna Cabeca, a good friend and hormonal expert. Anna is a board certified OBGYN and a regenerative antiaging medicine expert. She is the creator of “Magical Menopause” as well as “Mighty Maca Greens”. We are going to talk about my new favorite product, her one of a kind Julva cream. I cannot tell you enough good things about this product for our delicate female parts. There may be some words or topics that you don’t want younger kids to hear so you may want to pause and scoot them out the door or put in your headphones.

Jonathan’s book “How to Live a Good Life” is your antidote! You can test it out with your own personal experiences. It’s drawn from the intersection of science and spirituality and Jonathan’s own years-long quest. This book offers a simple and powerful model, good life buckets. You spend thirty days filling your buckets and reclaiming your life. “How to Live a Good Life” is not just a book to be read. It’s a path to possibilities to be walked and lived!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at wwww.alexandrajamieson.com/111

 We need to reclaim our bodies! Your body is your own and you don’t have to put up with someone bigger or stronger than you doing things you don’t like. The word pussy was not what is so offensive. It’s women being abused, touched etc. and that this is looked upon as a joke. This leads to body shaming, women feeling like something is wrong with them if something is being said about them. This abusive rape culture that we live in has a real effect on women’s lives! When we don’t feel worthy in our bodies we don’t feel worthy to ask for that raise or promotion. When someone else more powerful takes advantage of us physically, we feel inferior and therefore we may not feel capable of understanding finance. So what happened last week with Trump and Billy Bush was disgusting. We need to take advantage of it and talk about this.

The interview we have today takes this one step further. We are going to talk about how this body shaming, sexual culture and how is it having a real dollars and cents effect on women’s income. I am going to be interviewing my dear friend Belinda Rosenbaum. We have known each other for years. Belinda is the CEO of a company called “OwnYourMoney.com.” There are a lot of money experts out there but Belinda is different. She doesn’t just give you money tactics she helps you with the inner game.

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/110

Contrary to cultural myth, birth control pills impact every organ and function of the body and yet most women don’t even think of it as a drug. Depression, anxiety, rage, panic attacks, are just a few of the effects of being on the pill. When the pill was first released, it was thought that women would not submit to taking a medication when they weren’t sick. Now the pill is making women sick! Holly Grigg-Spall’s book that we are going to talk about has inspired a documentary! Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein, the producers of “The Business of Being Born” are producing a new documentary, and Holly is the consulting producer and writer. This is a great book and great interview. If you are on birth control pills or any other hormonal birth control, you will definitely want to listen to this episode!

The final live Cravings Cleanse kicks off this week! There is still time to join! There are two classes a week and you can call in either one or both days on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Class number one is on Thursday September 22^nd! I have a special discount just for listeners: crave50 and get $50 off the cleanse. You can still get in January but it will be a play at home version.

I wanted to have Mama Gena on the show because I know a lot of women struggle with how to trust ourselves and how to trust our bodies. How do you do this? Mama Gena has been exploring female desire, pleasure and power for over 20 years. I believe her interview and book are going to set the world on fire! She started The School of Womanly Arts in her living room in 1998 and has since then grown it into a global movement. Regena believes that women are the greatest, untapped natural resource on the planet. She teaches us (them) to turn on our innate feminine power and create the life they love. Her approach comes from decades of research in the social, cultural and economic history of women. In addition to being the leader at The School of Womanly Arts she is an author of 4 books.

You can read the full show notes and access all the resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/107

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/106

We have our winner for the August swag bag, Stephanie Cahill! I’m so excited to send this enormous box of goodies to you! On top of all the wonderful gifts, you get the special bonus gift from guest author Nancy Lavigne, her book Worthy! You get to join her Worthy program which is worth over 700 dollars!

Up next we have our two listener questions about adulting (not adultery) and cravings. Make sure you stay tuned all the way until the end because these questions are great!

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/105

Make sure you tune into next week’s show. I will be announcing September 2016 Craving Cleanse. I’m going to offer a great deal just for crave cast listeners. This will be the last live craving cleanse! Things are changing here at craving cleanse headquarters. 

Today we are going to be talking about dairy cravings and fall energy. First we are going to have a q&a on dairy with Sarah Peck and then we are going to dive into a spiritual reading with Monica Kenton to see what’s in store for September! 

You can read the full show notes and access all the liks and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/104

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at  www.alexandrajamieson.com/103

Next big announcement, we are having our first live meetup! Come join me and other Crave Bears at our Crave Bear picnic! I'll be in my hometown, Portland, Oregon on August 14^th from 5 to 7 pm. Come join me at the Arbor Lodge park in the picnic area! 

Also, this month’s swag bag is a $1700 swag bag! Our guest today is adding something juicy this month to the swag bag. Go over to iTunes and leave a review about the show and we will tell you more about what that means in today’s episode! So make sure to listen all the way to the end of the episode.

Today we are talking about self-worth. This is one the biggest causes for food cravings and emotional eating. Just not feeling worthy. Today our guest, Nancy Levin will be talking about money, finances and the stress that women experience around these topics which then leads them to use food to calm us down. We will be specifically talking about how food and craving relate to our “money story”. We will be talking about Nancy’s new book: Worthy: Boost Your Self-Worth to Grow Your Net Worth. She is also the bestselling author of Jump…And Your Life will appear and Writing for my Life…Reclaiming the Lost Pieces of Me. She is a master integrative coach and the creator of the Jump coaching and Worthy coaching programs. She works with clients privately and in groups to design lives in alignment with their truths and desires. You can visit her online at www.nancylevin.com .

Our topic today is something that I have struggled with over the years but I have seen the positive effect it has had on my own life. When done correctly this technique can work on the body and mind. So today, my dears, we are going to talk about meditation with none other than Dan Harris! He is an award-winning journalist from Good Morning America. We are going to talk about the benefits of meditation and Dan’s story. 

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/100

This week we are starting something new on the Crave Cast. A lot of you, including me, have a spiritual bent. Many of us are curious about spirit, we pray, we meditate, we connect to the earth, we have our own version of connection with something bigger. So I decided to have my dear friend Monica Kenton on the show. I call Monica when I need a little spiritual re-tuning. I asked Monica if she would be part of an experiment and be our spiritual guide. Help us bring more spiritual energy into our lives whether its God, the Universe, Spirit or whatever you call it. Monica agreed to come on the show once a month to tell us her perspective and help guide us a little bit. She is a wonderful spiritual mentor and trained in several different modalities from ancient wisdom, modern day spiritual practices, trained as a shaman and she is very socially conscience. She really wants to help people make a life they love while making a difference to the planet. Monica is going to tell us what’s happening right now and what are the energies of August and what actions can we take from this spiritual guidance to really awesome results. Be sure to listen all the way through!

After Monica, I am going to be interviewing Jamie Martin, the head editor at Experience Life Magazine. I was so honored to be on the cover of Experience Life Magazine a couple of months ago. I’m having her on the show to talk about as an experienced publisher what inspires her and what is she looking for next in terms of trends in this healthy living world. 

You can read the full show notes and access all the links and resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/99

I will be interviewing my good friend Christine Hassler. She is a wonderful coach. She uses life coaching techniques and spirituality but she started out as a Hollywood agent at the age of 25. She went through her own healing journeys and ended up writing a couple of books. I have to say that we have only hung out only a few times in person but kept up with each other virtually. She is just a really supportive person. When I went through my concussion she called me and offered help and suggestions. Today she supports individuals all over the world discover life’s big questions. We are going to talk about imposter syndrome, how our bodies change, how we age, how it’s so unfair we feel like we need to look our best all the time, dealing with perfection and what are boundaries. I really want to hear from you and what you think about this body shaming culture we live in, how does it affect our relationship with food and ourselves. You can connect with me on twitter, Instagram, snapchat or with me and over 1600 other women on Facebook.

We are going to talk about imposter syndrome, how our bodies change, how we age, how it’s so unfair we feel like we need to look our best all the time, dealing with perfection and what are boundaries. I really want to hear from you and what you think about this body shaming culture we live in, how does it affect our relationship with food and ourselves. You can connect with me on twitter, Instagram, snapchat or with me and over 1600 other women on Facebook.

I have a free Facebook group: bit.ly/wfdgroup. Enjoy!

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Sometimes I think that’s all that we can really do to heal is really listen. That’s listening to our bodies, listening to ourselves, honoring what we see, not judging it or making it bad. Just listen! We just need to listen to each other. Sometimes that’s hard to do because we want to have the answers. Ayesha and I talk about that in this interview. We want to have it figured out and have the answers but we don’t always have that. We are not always perfect in how we say things but your intention matters! 

I hope you enjoy this interview with Ayesha Meriweather. She is one the co-founders and creators of The Girlfriend Manifesto. She has been creating safe, empowering spaces for women online and in person at retreats with Girlfriend Weekends. Ayesha is very passionate about helping women heal in their own lives and with each other. Enjoy!

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Reports show that in 2014, 85% of films had no female directors, 80% of films had no female writers, 78% had no female editors and 92% had no female cinematographer. How can this be? What this means that virtually all of our movie consumption is from the male perspective, from the male point of view, and women are not adequately represented in viewpoint, or in content in the majority the films we watch today.

We want to create a world that is more equal, and we need more women’s voices telling those stories. Women make up only 13% of screenwriters in UK films and only 8% of directors in the UK. So the situation isn’t unique to American culture. It took Pixar 15 years to create a female lead in one of their films. There is only 1 female role for every 3 roles in family films. So yo can see how prevalent the issue is and we need women to be represented in a more balanced way in our popular culture. Women only make up 5% of characters in political power. What does this tell little girls about their future?

Geena Davis is a powerful Hollywood activist on a quest to improve the representation of women on our screens. Today’s interview is with Alysia Reiner. She’s an actress and has the role of Fig in OITNB. She’s also filming Better Things right now, and she plays DA Parks in How to Get Away with Murder. She’s everywhere right now! She’s a producer for Equity, a film that is the first female Wall Street film starring Alysia Reiner. She loves the role of a change maker and she’s committed to helping women have equal representation in film, politics, business and the home. You are going to love this interview with Alysia Reiner.

You can read the full show notes and access all the resources at www.alexandrajamieson.com/96

Let’s talk about money! Money is stressful and it’s one of the most common stresses that Americans experience. I have my good friend Farnoosh Torabi that I am going to be interviewing. Farnoosh is one of America’s leading personal finance experts. She has her own great podcast called “So Money”. I actually appeared on it a while back and it was really fun. We met and had tea and had such a good time. Farnoosh is hooked on helping Americans live their richest, happiest lives! She has written for “O” the Oprah magazine and she is the host of a show that we will talk about more where she goes and interviews famous people and entrepreneurs and follows them around. It’s really cool! Her latest book is really interesting. It’s called “When She Makes More: The Truth about Navigating Love and Life for a New Generation of Women.” We are going to talk about money and our relationship with money in our relationships and how traditional gender roles can sometimes make money more complicated. Enjoy this episode and be sure to listen all the way to the end so you can learn how to enter in for next month’s swag bag!

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Our relationships with our bodies and exercise kept coming up in conversations in the group. The all or nothing thinking or perfectionism, keeps many people from even attempting to exercise. You feel like if it can’t be perfect, then why even attempt it. Lack of time and motivation were also factors in exercise. Many people mentioned that they are too tired to exercise, but feel like they wouldn’t be as tired if they had the energy to exercise. It’s a vicious cycle - a catch 22! Don’t even get me started on the Biggest Loser - please stop watching it! It is toxic. Extreme exercise and extreme dieting - it’s a shame based TV show.

It’s time to stop looking to extreme dieting and extreme behavior as a way to control our weight. We need better options. Today’s guest is Erin Studland. She is a dear friend and she is a dancer, an actor, etc and she was able to use dance as an access point for spirituality. She created a powerful style of movement called Shrink Session. It’s such a fun workout. She uses the positive psychology of language and movement and it’s really fun.

Join us for an entire week of Shrink Session workouts. You can access all the details at bit.ly/shrinkalex

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Today we have 2 former fitness models on the show today. They were competitive body builders and they have stories that will open your eyes. It’s both tragic and inspiring. 

Go to bit.ly/wfd and join out Women, Food and Desire Facebook Group. Come on and join us. We have been talking about fitness and exercise and the challenges we face to do it. We have so many pressures and obstacles to staying fit.

Today we have Maddie and Danni on the show. Maddie Moon is a coach and also a podcaster. She was a vegan, green juice cleansing yogi and thought that would make her happy. She felt pressure to have the perfect body. Her experience being a fitness expert actually destroyed her relationship with her body. You won’t believe all of the damage that was done to her body, mind and soul by her foray into the world of fitness modeling.

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In other news, I had my first bone density scan a little while ago. My results came in a little low. I have several of the risk factors for osteoporosis and osteopenia. I have low thyroid function, which is under control now, but the risk factors are still there. Use of some steroids and also gut issues that effect the absorption of minerals can also increase risk for this. I just want to be able to be active for as long as I possibly can.

Inactivity can increase your risk. Staying active can actually strengthen your bones. Diet is an important factor in bone development. Green veggies, nuts and seeds are all great sources of calcium. You need to have a high alkaline diet in order to make the best use of calcium in your diet. The Standard American Diet is highly acidic. Cutting out soda is one of the best things you can do to reduce your acidity. An acidic environment will draw out calcium from your bones to balance the acidity, thus weakening your bones.

Skip the alcohol, caffeine and sodas! When you get clear on the damage you are doing to your bones, the sacrifice is worth it. Everything we do in the Cravings Cleanse gets you towards a more alkaline environment in your body.

Today’s guest is Justin Mares. He is here to talk to us about an ancient food - bone broth (or stock). It’s full of nutrients and minerals that really give your body what it needs to improve your health. Bone broth gives your body these things in a form it can immediately use. It’s great for joint health and it may give you the same ingredients in pricey supplements. It reduces inflammation in the respiratory system and improves digestion. Chicken soup isn’t just good for the soul.

Store both broth (or stock) aren’t completely real. They have artificial ingredients, high salt and MSG. Get organic or grass fed bones, put it in a pot with water and cover and simmer for 2-3 days. Then drink it. It’s easy to digest and is so good for you! The minerals and electrolytes it provides are easily absorbed by your body. Bone broth is a great resource for collagen. It helps form and seals the tissue of your intestines, which helps repair your gut. If you have IBS, this is a great food for you!

My favorite company Kettle and Fire have produced the first grass fed, organic bone broth and why theirs is different than what is on the market. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/90

In other news, I had my first bone density scan a little while ago. My results came in a little low. I have several of the risk factors for osteoporosis and osteopenia. I have low thyroid function, which is under control now, but the risk factors are still there. Use of some steroids and also gut issues that effect the absorption of minerals can also increase risk for this. I just want to be able to be active for as long as I possibly can.

Inactivity can increase your risk. Staying active can actually strengthen your bones. Diet is an important factor in bone development. Green veggies, nuts and seeds are all great sources of calcium. You need to have a high alkaline diet in order to make the best use of calcium in your diet. The Standard American Diet is highly acidic. Cutting out soda is one of the best things you can do to reduce your acidity. An acidic environment will draw out calcium from your bones to balance the acidity, thus weakening your bones.

Skip the alcohol, caffeine and sodas! When you get clear on the damage you are doing to your bones, the sacrifice is worth it. Everything we do in the Cravings Cleanse gets you towards a more alkaline environment in your body.

Today’s guest is Justin Mares. He is here to talk to us about an ancient food - bone broth (or stock). It’s full of nutrients and minerals that really give your body what it needs to improve your health. Bone broth gives your body these things in a form it can immediately use. It’s great for joint health and it may give you the same ingredients in pricey supplements. It reduces inflammation in the respiratory system and improves digestion. Chicken soup isn’t just good for the soul.

Store both broth (or stock) aren’t completely real. They have artificial ingredients, high salt and MSG. Get organic or grass fed bones, put it in a pot with water and cover and simmer for 2-3 days. Then drink it. It’s easy to digest and is so good for you! The minerals and electrolytes it provides are easily absorbed by your body. Bone broth is a great resource for collagen. It helps form and seals the tissue of your intestines, which helps repair your gut. If you have IBS, this is a great food for you!

My favorite company Kettle and Fire have produced the first grass fed, organic bone broth and why theirs is different than what is on the market. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/90

He became interested in plastic surgery because he had an overgrowth of his chin, and he actually had plastic surgery to correct it as a young man. His experience with plastic surgery has shaped his career. I think you will enjoy this episode. I will say that he did make a comment about antibiotics in the episode and I probably wouldn’t take antibiotics. But that’s the only thing I didn’t agree with him.

I also got married last weekend! We had about 120 people there in the park to bless us for our wedding. It was such a lovely time! There are so many psychological benefits of witnessing the rites of passage, and the blessing of each other. You actually release oxytocin and this is a very healthy thing for each of us. It creates a community when you bring people together around a rite of passage event! I was in awe and cried the entire time. It was beautiful. I was thrilled to be able to introduce my friends to each other! Seeing them appreciate each other was good for my soul.

Since we are talking about skin today, I wanted to remind you that I have a special deal for you with AnnMarie Gianni Skin Care - my favorite skincare products. This offer expires June 7th. The products are luxurious and safe and simply yummy! It’s endorsed by health experts and I think you will love their products. Cruelty free, organic, non-GMO - you can’t get more safe and ethical than these products.

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Next week, we are talking about bone health and how to strengthen your marrow! Don’t miss it!

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This past weekend I went to a couple of seminars for my own benefit and wow, was it intense! I had a family constellations workshop, with really allowed me to connect with my family lineage and work through emotions and habits, and it was very nice. Then it was off to a Tantric Yoga class, which was definitely more intense, but a great way to spend a Sunday.

 I wanted to talk with you about two things today, I’ve  got a great interview with my dear friend: Dr. Anna Cabeca coming up, ah, Dr. Anna is an amazing hormone expert, I’m so thrilled to have her on the show, but she’s also kinda on my board of advisors, I meet with her and also a couple of other women, and couple times a month we do a Skype date and we talk about our businesses and how we can support each other, and I’m always learning so much from her, so be sure to stay tuned through the end, cause we’re gonna be talking about menopause and hormones and even if you’re not in menopause or pre or peri-menopause, what you can be doing now, so that your hormones are balanced, so that you feel good, so that you can get rid of your brain fog, huge, huge topic so stay through to the end with my interview with Dr. Anna Cabeca.

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We have 2 guests on today’s show. Amy Smith, author of Stand Up for Yourself Without Being a Dick! And we have LeAnne Ely to give us some tips on cooking and making wonderful, healthy food and nourishing your body and soul.

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Today we are going to be talking about Katie Dalebout’s new book, Let It Out - A Journal Through Journaling. One of the things we have talked so much about is a gratitude practice. Having a gratitude practice is a strength and it allows you to open up your mind to hope, positive thoughts, and learning.

Although I believe in a gratitude practice and I even have a gratitude jar in my kitchen, I know that there can be a downside to gratitude. Negativity bias is something we will talk about and how it can actually benefit us in some ways, but it can also rule us. A gratitude practice can counteract your negativity bias. 

Gratitude is not a panacea - it’s not a cure all. We don’t want to overdose on gratitude. Writing down 10 gratitudes a day might make you feel like you failed if you can’t come up with 10. There is no such thing as “more is better” in the gratitude department. So, set realistic goals for your gratitude.

You may not realize that you can also fail to recognize your own role in your success. Thanking everyone else, while downplaying your own contribution isn’t great for your self-esteem. So pick one day and time each week that you will journal your gratitude. Write down 3 things you are grateful for, AND write down YOUR contribution to that success. It isn’t luck, and it isn’t being in the right place at the right time. Recognize your own awesomeness!

Katie Dalebout is an author, coach and podcaster and she has a lot of insight into self-acceptance and journaling. She's here to share all the benefits of journaling!

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