Celebrating Small Moments That Matter

One of the central themes of this episode is the importance of everyday intentionality. Bernard Drew recalls a cherished memory—taking his young daughter to a midnight premiere of her favorite movie, Hannah Montana. It wasn’t a grand gesture but a simple act of presence and togetherness that, years later, still stands out for both father and daughter. Through stories like this, Bernard Drew emphasizes how small, thoughtful rituals, like watching movies or sharing inside jokes, lay the foundation for meaningful connections.

Balancing Guidance with Independence

A challenge many fathers face is balancing the instinct to protect with the need to allow daughters the freedom to grow. Bernard Drew shares openly about this ongoing journey. From having those tough conversations (“the sex talks, the hard things with society”) to trusting the “seeds previously planted,” he reflects on moments when he had to learn to step back and let his daughter own her choices. This powerful message reminds dads everywhere that guidance is important, but space and trust are essential for daughters to flourish as independent thinkers.

The Value of Authenticity and Listening

Another profound takeaway is the transformation that comes when fathers truly listen. Bernard Drew candidly admits that, growing up, he’d been raised in a “kids are seen and not heard” environment, but realized the importance of letting his daughter have a voice—especially through teenage transitions and life changes. Authentic, open dialogue not only makes daughters feel valued but also strengthens their self-worth.

Encouragement for Dads Everywhere

Throughout their conversation, both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Bernard Drew stress that being present, engaged, and authentic is more valuable than striving for perfection as a parent. The episode encourages listeners to invest in quality time, foster open communication, and continually learn—not just about their daughters, but about themselves as fathers.

Whether you’re seeking practical advice or inspiration, this episode offers a candid, uplifting look at what it means to be “the dad she needs.” Tune in to strengthen your own connection and join a community devoted to raising confident, empowered daughters.

Ready to dive in? Listen to the full conversation and start making your moments count!

TRANSCRIPT

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]:
Welcome to the Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.

Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]:
If you’re looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you’re in the right place. I’m Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we’ll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let’s get started, because being a great dad isn’t just about being there. It’s about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week, you. You and I have an opportunity, an opportunity to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our daughters.

Christopher Lewis [00:01:02]:
You know, I’ve got two daughters, and every week, I love being able to have you here with me as we’re talking about these relationships and we’re talking about what we can do to be able to build those stronger relationships, because each of us have a responsibility to be able to be there for our kids, not just our daughters, but our kids. But the relationship that you have with your daughter is a truly unique one and a very special one, and one that you do have to invest in and you have to work on. And that’s why this podcast exists. It exists so that every week you have an opportunity to be able to learn, to grow, and to try to work on something. Might be small, it might be large that you can do to be able to either work on, repair, or continue to build that relationship with your daughter. That’s why every week, I love bringing you different guests with different experiences that can help you do just that. And today, we’ve got another great guest, Bernard Drew is with us, and Bernard is a father of two, but today we’re going to be talking about his relationship and his experiences with his own daughter. So I’m really excited to have him here.

Christopher Lewis [00:02:07]:
Bernard, thanks so much for being here today.

Bernard Drew [00:02:08]:
Dr. Chris, it’s a pleasure to be here, and as you know, I’ve been so enamored. You do so many things from an extraordinary perspective academically, but I am most intrigued that you have this great passion, this relentless desire to support dads and their journeys with daughters. So it’s actually an honor to be here and part of this community that you’ve been able to nurture.

Christopher Lewis [00:02:29]:
I appreciate you saying that, because it is a passion. It’s been something that I’ve been working on for many, many years. And I love being able to talk to dads like you that have been right in it. And even today, I know today is your daughter’s birthday, so happy birthday to your daughter. And while this will come out after your daughter’s birthday, you we were just talking about the fact that before you came to be on the show today that you were over giving her a birthday present and dropping that off before we were talking. And it’s those special moments, those little moments that so much. And I know your daughter is an adult now, and I. And I guess first and foremost, as we talk about that relationship with your daughter, talk to me about for you what is one of the most meaningful moments that you’ve shared with your daughter and what made it so special as

Bernard Drew [00:03:16]:
it’s her birthday today. And I’ll be grateful. We have a lot of great memories, one that always stands out. I think she had to been maybe 6 years old. And we’re going back. She turned 24 today. So we’re talking about, wow, that’s crazy. Almost 18 years ago, maybe she was 6 or 7.

Bernard Drew [00:03:32]:
She had maybe about 7. And she was just absolutely enamored with Hannah Montana on the television on Disney Channel. And man, that was her show. And I would sit and spend time and just watch it with her and just hanging out. And long story short, they ended up having a movie came out and I ended up buying tickets so that she could go at midnight when it first opened that night to go see it. And we have a picture. And to this day, that is one of the most precious memories for her. Like my dad took me to see Hannah Montana at midnight.

Bernard Drew [00:04:04]:
To her, the thought of going to a movie at midnight was absur. Who does that? But then to be able to take her little Hannah Montana guitar and sit in the show and it’s just a lot of those little moments compound them over time. And I’m so grateful. Almost regardless of any other accomplishments or accolades in life, man, I have enjoyed my journey with my daughter.

Christopher Lewis [00:04:23]:
All of us, as we go through this journey with our daughters and with our kids, we have to balance the expectations that we have. We have to balance the drive that we have to be able to guide them, to help them. Men in general, 10 to be helpers. They tend to be solvers. And sometimes that can be to the detriment of being a father to a daughter. So I guess the question that I have is either now that your daughter is an adult, or as she’s grown up into the adult that she is today. How did you balance or how do you balance guiding your daughter while also giving her the independence to be the person that she was becoming as she was getting older or that she continues to become as she gets older?

Bernard Drew [00:05:08]:
Well, you went straight to one of the most profound, reflective questions we could go into here. And I’ll say it’s definitely an evolving spectrum, even today, and how to be the dad that she needs for this stage and season in life, and even how my role has evolved in years past. And sometimes I got it great. Sometimes it was like, oh, I missed the exit ramp when I was supposed to be a little less overbearing and give her a little more room to explore and discover. But I think it’s somewhere in between that line of being a dad who wants to protect and prevent harm as well as the dad who wants to, hey, I need you to be prepared for this. So in our household, I was the one to have the hard conversations. I had the sex talks. I had the conversations about hard things with society and everything else.

Bernard Drew [00:05:53]:
That was a dad daughter thing. My wife was like, I’m so glad you’re handling that. And I was glad to. I want my daughter to be prepared. But I think it was her sophomore year in high school, and she was volunteering, I do believe, to support the National Honor Society induction. And it dawned on me that she’s going to be participating in this next year, two years from now. It finally hit me in the late spring of her sophomore year. I’ve got two more years with her, and she could be gone forever when she graduates high school.

Bernard Drew [00:06:19]:
I have no more, for lack of better words, control where she goes to college. I want her to have a confident choice where she goes. She could go to the other side of the country, and she could then plant roots somewhere else, and this might be it. And I started being almost, not quite overwhelmed, but my mind being inundated with, oh, my God, I got two years to prepare her for what life has in store. Store. And I started to come up with this master list of things that I’m like, oh, she’s got to know this and do that, do this and do that, and I got to prepare for this. And I’ll just say, I think I was being prayerful and just in conversation with God. The Holy Spirit was like, whoa, son, slow down.

Bernard Drew [00:06:53]:
You’re doing too much. Do you trust the seeds that have already been planted? Do you trust the demonstrated leadership, love, kindness, and principles you’ve already expressed to her? If you trust that the seeds that were planted were helpful, they were healthy, they were appropriate, they were going in the right direction, then now is not the time to get hasty and start stirring, covering things up unjustly. Trust the seeds that have been planted. And at this stage, you have to make sure you’re trusting me to be inside of her, to give her the guidance, the insight, the resilience she’s going to need. And if nothing else, who is the village that’s around her that you can be intentional to cultivate and nurture that at a stage where it’s probably easy for her to be like, oh, there’s my dad talking again. There’s my dad with another lecture. Who are the other people that are in our social circles that she can be entrusted to spend time with? And they may also sprinkle some principles in her life to water the seeds that have already been planted. And I’ll say that was one of the single greatest pivots and perspectives that ever happened, because then she was able to begin discovering the principles that were inside of her, that she owned and she believed for herself, because she chose to.

Bernard Drew [00:08:00]:
As opposed to feeling like, oh, there’s my dad telling me what to do again, she was able list a little bit more, able to determine like, no, this is who I am, because I chose to decide that this is who I am. And I would say that’s a perpetual journey I’m still on of keeping an eye on where that balance is.

Christopher Lewis [00:08:16]:
It’s never easy, and it’s definitely something you have to work on because inevitably we step over the line and then they smack us and they say, you’ve stepped over the line. And they tell us that especially as they get older. And they will definitely do that. I’ve had that happen to me numerous times now. It sounds from everything that you’re saying that you have done some very intentional things to be able to build the relationship that you have with your daughter. Talk to me about what some of those intentional ways were that you did to work to strengthen that bond with your daughter, especially, let’s say, during challenging times.

Bernard Drew [00:08:55]:
I would like to think that I have a ironclad answer, but I just have to speak towards. It’s a journey. We’re all always evolving and all always learning. I do believe early on, and I’ll just be candid, I think one of the strongest things that she saw was that her dad loved her and loves her mom, and that regardless of what, there’s no other priority that goes above them next to God. And so I think for her to see that and know that over the years. And does that mean perfection? No. But I think there’s an unequivocal understanding that dad prioritizes you. You matter.

Bernard Drew [00:09:28]:
You are important. It is a joy to spend time with you, and time with you is valuable to me. And I think that that has paid major, major dividends because it’s not a foreign thought. So whether things are going exceptionally well in her life and dad is hanging out with her, that’s a normal thing. Or if things are really tough and unclear and some strain, she knows dad is there. And so I think a lot of that stemmed from just the early years of her knowing, hey, my dad loves spending time with me, and this is important to him. And I think that has paid incredible dividends over the years.

Christopher Lewis [00:10:03]:
So none of us are infallible. None of us. All of us as fathers, have made mistakes along the way. What’s a mistake that you’ve made as a father, and what did you learn from it about fostering positive communication or other things in relation to yourself as a father?

Bernard Drew [00:10:22]:
Great question. I can think of a number of areas, if it comes down to it. Whereup, Mr. Mark there. Mr. Mark there. I think one that stands out the most to me, kind of that same vein of that earlier revelation about, hey, stop doing too much, give her space to flourish with what’s already been planted. I would say in a similar capacity, I had the hard conversations with her all the time, and included in that with boys.

Bernard Drew [00:10:44]:
And so I don’t have excessive regret here, but enough to be like, oh, yeah, I was probably over the top. I kind of had a zero tolerance policy. I don’t want to hear a boy calling you. I don’t want to have any boys showing up at the house. I just, whatever, just stay focused on your studies, and I don’t want to hear anything about it. And as much as that was well intended and I think it’s done as well and she’s still doing well today, in hindsight, I’m like, you know what, Bernard? Your parents were fairly rigid, but they weren’t that rigid. And there’s some virtue to allowing kids while they’re under my roof. If I’d have done it all over again, I probably would have created a safer space for her to explore and navigate relationships while under our roof.

Bernard Drew [00:11:27]:
In a space where if and when, because we all make goofy decisions as we’re navigating relationships, I probably would have been in a better position to kind of observe from a closer distance. And coach and help course correct and then give insight because we’re sitting here, right here, observing it. And I’m grateful that she didn’t go off the deep end or anything too extreme, at least that I know of. But it’s something that I wish I could have coached her on that a little bit more while she was close to home. I think our. I don’t know if I’ll call it Saving grace was in her case. She left for school, had one year of undergrad, and then Covid hit and she came back home again for a year and a half. And so I kind of got a second chance in that space.

Bernard Drew [00:12:07]:
But if I were to have given myself some different advice, it would have been to give her more opportunity to make a few mistakes and learn from them while she was in the house and nurtured more of that coaching dad dynamic with her earlier versus later. Yet I’m grateful that it has worked out well.

Christopher Lewis [00:12:25]:
So today, or as she was growing up, what did or do you do intentionally to make your daughter feel valued and heard?

Bernard Drew [00:12:34]:
It’s a journey and a spectrum. I think the valued piece I enjoy spending time with her. The things that she enjoyed, I learned to enjoy. Some of her favorite shows became some of my favorite shows. The volume of inside jokes she and I have today as a result of all of those shared experiences between you and I. And I guess whoever sees this, my wife, I think, is almost jealous sometimes because we have just a volume of things that we delved into that she knows she was valued. And I spent that time with her in terms of her voice. You know, it’s interesting.

Bernard Drew [00:13:02]:
I think I kind of grew up in an era that it was like, hey, I hate to say it, kids are seen and not heard. I think I had a certain dynamic of that through much of her elementary years, middle school years, like, hey, just do what we told you to do, and that’s it. And I think as high school evolved, she had a tough pivot transitioning into her high school. And I think that was the time frame where she and I began discovering that I needed to leave more room for her voice because this is her school experience. And though we kind of made the decision where she would go, she needed to take ownership and find joy in it. And so I think that was the season where we sit at the kitchen table and we’d have long conversations and I would listen to her talk to me about the challenges she was having at the school and how she was navigating certain challenges and allowing her voice to actually be heard and not just quiet it, because I’m dad and your daughter. And I think that was a turning point for us that allowed her voice to be valued as much as I thought that I valued her.

Christopher Lewis [00:14:02]:
And how do you support your daughter now, or as she was growing up, getting into college, et cetera, in pursuing the dreams and the passions that she has?

Bernard Drew [00:14:13]:
Man, I’ll definitely say this. I think that is one of the greatest roles as a father, is affirming for her that she has value. I mean, candidly, the card I gave her today, it had two words in there, power and purpose. She knows I’m the corny dad. And yep, I will have a lecture ready any given minute and it’s going to be corny and it’s that and the other. But it is what it is. And so even today, the card I gave her for her birthday talked about purpose and power and affirming for her that inside of her you have power. There is a limitless power inside of you to be able to curate the life that you desire.

Bernard Drew [00:14:44]:
And while doing that, to make the impact that you’ve been called to do, you have purpose. And so that has been a heavy dynamic. When she was approaching her 13 birthday, I was kind of inspired. I grew up in a community that had a strong Jewish population. And so I had a lot of friends that were in Hebrew school. And by the time they got to 13, having their bar mitzvahs and bat mitzvahs and being able to demonstrate a level of maturity and adulthood and command of their faith. Her 13th birthday, we kept it fun and light. That’s the joy my wife brings to the table.

Bernard Drew [00:15:14]:
She keeps things real light and fun most of the time. But I did have my daughter actually read several books, books and write me reports on purpose leading up to her 13th birthday. And I had her assemble those thoughts in her own phrasing, her own lens of life at 12 going on 13 on what purpose means and how important is purpose in your life and how do you express purpose and why is purpose important to other people around you? And so she put together a, I don’t know how long it was, maybe a five to seven minute talk presentation at her 13th birthday party with family, friends and folks assembled. And as much as he have fun cake and did all kind of fun stuff and games with her friends, there was a segment where she got to express this understanding of purpose and what it means to her. And I think those are the kind of things that in their totality, that is one of the Things I think helped continue to affirm for her. I see purpose inside of you and you as you discover for yourself, a confidence in who you are. There’s no limit to what you can do in your life. And so if I fast forward, I’m inspired that she harnessed that and I think, think that type of journey she’s had is what fuels her.

Bernard Drew [00:16:23]:
Having pursued an undergraduate degree in elementary education, she wants to impact the lives of kids and she’s doing that even now.

Christopher Lewis [00:16:31]:
What’s a tradition or a routine that you and your daughter have created together that strengthen your bond?

Bernard Drew [00:16:36]:
Again, it evolves over time, but most of it, can I tell you, it involves quality time. And I don’t know if I’ve done a deep analysis of the five love languages in her life. Maybe I should. But I’ll say this, this, that quality time with her, whether it was the watching the Disney shows with her when she was at her youngest, I will say I think she had been in the first grade and we had a routine every morning and we did this for several years that before going to school she would come into my office and we would read together. I was introducing her to the Bible and so she was spending some time just getting familiar and telling me her thoughts about what she had read. And it gave us opportunity just to connect. And we did that for several years. That was first thing in the morning before going to school.

Bernard Drew [00:17:17]:
And so I think those kind of moments, moments definitely over time set the tone that hey, dad wants to spend time with me. And so in terms of routine, those were routine at that time. But as she’s grown older, I’ll just say the engagement isn’t nearly as routine. But I think the routine early on set the tone that man, I value that quality time with you and you can communicate your genuine authentic thoughts. And it’s evolved into the kind of relationship where my wife is definitely one who goes to bed early because she wakes up extra early. My daughter and I tend to be more night owl and it’s not uncommon whether it was in high school while she was navigating undergrad and was living with us. It’s not uncommon for us to cross paths in the kitchen at 8:30 at night and just sit at the kitchen table and talk for two, three, four hours and just talk. And that I believe is one of the greatest gifts in life, that she enjoys hanging out with her dad.

Bernard Drew [00:18:11]:
So I’m thankful. Quality time.

Christopher Lewis [00:18:12]:
Now we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our dad connection six, which are six questions that are gonna delve a little bit more into you as a dad. Are you ready?

Bernard Drew [00:18:21]:
I don’t think I have another choice. Go for.

Christopher Lewis [00:18:23]:
What’s one word that describes your relationship with your daughter?

Bernard Drew [00:18:26]:
I would say fun.

Christopher Lewis [00:18:27]:
What’s the best piece of dad advice that you’ve ever received?

Bernard Drew [00:18:32]:
Again, I have to go with just train them up in the direction they’re supposed to go in. Just train them early. They have their own path to take. Train them early, and then you have confidence that they’ll flourish in the assignment and into the character that they’re supposed to walk in.

Christopher Lewis [00:18:45]:
You already talked about this a little bit, but what’s one activity that you and your daughter love doing together today?

Bernard Drew [00:18:51]:
Watching movies. So now that she’s got her own home, it’s kind of fun that it’s not uncommon. I’ll go over to her house, and we’ll sit up and watch a movie or two and just hang out and talk and so movies. I think we’ve done three Broadway shows together now. Also, my wife’s not the greatest fan of theater, but my daughter and I will go, and those are some of the greatest things that we enjoy doing.

Christopher Lewis [00:19:11]:
If you could give your daughter one life lesson in a single sentence, what would it be?

Bernard Drew [00:19:16]:
Your life is always resilient. With the love of God. You can always bounce back from anything. Just keep your trust in him.

Christopher Lewis [00:19:22]:
And what’s one one thing that you’ve learned about yourself since becoming a dad?

Bernard Drew [00:19:27]:
I would say there’s probably been no sacrifice that’s been made for the wellness of my kids. It wasn’t worth it.

Christopher Lewis [00:19:32]:
And finally, what advice would you give to other dads who want to build a lasting and meaningful relationship with their daughters?

Bernard Drew [00:19:40]:
I think authenticity, the level of authenticity that loves and meets them where they are and loves them, nurtures and encourages them from where they are. The other side of that coin is the level of authenticity to learn to love and forgive yourself. I think sometimes as men and as dads, I’m not gonna overgeneralize here, but sometimes we can be bound to the ignorance we may have had in the past and think that that has to dictate whatever pathways to the future. And the reality is, just like, there’s an endless opportunity for our kids to evolve. There’s an endless opportunity for us to evolve. And so I would extend to dads, you’re worth the time to reinvest in you. If it’s reading certain books, if it is is therapy, if it’s counseling, if it is just finding a safe space and environment where you can talk freely and get certain things off your chest. And maybe here’s some other perspectives.

Bernard Drew [00:20:30]:
You’re worth that opportunity, too. And as much as you may fight so hard to to create safe spaces for other people, give yourself the same grace to find some space for you to evolve into the best version of yourself, too.

Christopher Lewis [00:20:43]:
Well, Bernard, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for being here today, for sharing the unique journey of you and your daughter. As you said, it’s always evolving. It’s changing, but it is so exciting to hear about the strong bond that you and your daughter have. And I just want to say thank you. Thank you for being here and I wish you the best.

Bernard Drew [00:21:01]:
Thank you very much. And again, I just appreciate you doing this. I think one of the greatest relationships on the planet is the relationship with a dad and his daughter. And for dads to be encouraged and coached and inspired. Probably one of the single greatest investments that can be made in anybody’s lifetime. So thank you for making this commitment. Greatly appreciate it.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:18]:
That’s a wrap for this episode of the dad and Daughter Connection. Thanks for joining us on this journey to build strong, stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Remember, being an engaged dad isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and share it with a fellow dad. And don’t forget, you can find all our episodes@dadanddaughterconnection.com until next time, keep showing up, keep connecting, and keep being the dad she needs.

Speaker D [00:21:49]:
We’re all in the same boat

Christopher Lewis [00:21:56]:
is

Speaker D [00:21:56]:
full of tiny screaming passengers we spend the time, we give the lessons we make the meals we buy them presents and bring your A game Cause those kids are growing fast the time goes by just like a dynamite blast Calling astronauts and firemen Carpenter and muscle men get out and be the world to them Be the best dad you can

Bernard Drew [00:22:39]:
be

Speaker D [00:22:42]:
Be the best dad you can be.

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Helping your daughter transition to adulthood with confidence.

Whether she’s graduating high school, heading to college, starting a job, or moving out on her own, this is a major milestone—for her and for you. And as much as you may want to hold on, your role is shifting from protector to guide.

So how do you support her independence while still staying close? Let’s talk about how to do that with presence, patience, and purpose.

Why This Transition Is a Big Deal

Becoming an adult doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a slow, sometimes messy process. Your daughter may bounce between independence and insecurity. One moment she wants advice, the next she’s sure she knows everything.

And that’s normal. What she really needs during this season is:

• Your trust in her ability to grow
• Your availability when she needs guidance
• And your reminders that she’s not doing this alone

When you show up in these ways, you’re not just parenting—you’re empowering.

3 Ways to Support Her Transition with Confidence

1. Shift from Solving to Coaching

Your daughter is going to face adult-level problems—budgeting, job interviews, tough decisions. It’s tempting to swoop in and solve them for her. But the real gift is helping her think through them herself.

Try asking:

• “What options are you considering?”
• “What do you think your next step should be?
• “Want to talk it through together?”

This teaches her that she has the tools—and that you trust her to use them. You’re still there, but you’re no longer holding the steering wheel.

2. Normalize Struggle and Growth

Transitioning into adulthood comes with failure, doubt, and second-guessing. One of the most powerful things you can do? Let her know that’s okay.

Say things like:

• “Adulting is hard sometimes, and it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed.”
• “You don’t have to have it all figured out—none of us do.”
• “Trying and failing doesn’t make you weak. It makes you brave.”

When she feels safe to stumble, she’ll be more willing to try. That’s confidence rooted in reality—not perfection.

3. Stay Connected Without Hovering

Your daughter still needs you, just in a different way. A simple check-in text, a shared lunch, or a weekend visit means more than you might think.

• Send a “thinking of you” message
• Ask, “What’s something new you’ve learned this week?”
• Offer help without insisting on it

This shows her: “I’m still here. Just differently now.”

Quick Takeaway: Try This Today

Here’s your challenge:
Reach out to your daughter in a way that supports her independence and reminds her of your presence.

It could be:

• A note that says, “I’m proud of the woman you’re becoming.”
• A text that says, “I’m here if you ever want to talk through life stuff.”
• An invitation to grab coffee and celebrate how far she’s come

Let her know:
? “I trust you to take on the world—and I’ll be cheering you on every step of the way.”

That’s it for today’s Dad Connections in 5. The road from girlhood to womanhood isn’t always smooth—but when your daughter knows her dad believes in her, it makes the bumps feel a little smaller.

Until next time—keep guiding, keep encouraging, and keep reminding her that growing up doesn’t mean growing apart.

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How to stay connected with your daughter even when travel or work takes you away.

Whether you’re on a business trip, a deployment, or just headed out of town, being apart can be tough on both of you. But distance doesn’t have to mean disconnection. Let’s turn travel into an opportunity to build trust, anticipation, and closeness—no matter how many miles lie between you.

Why It Matters

Absence can create worries: “Is Dad thinking of me?” “Does he miss me?” When you’re intentional, you answer those questions before they’re asked. You show her that wherever you are, she’s always in your heart—and on your mind.

3 Practical Ways to Stay Connected While Traveling

1. Establish a “Virtual Ritual”

Pick a small, repeatable habit that you do together—no matter where you are.

• Morning Text Check-In: Send a photo of your coffee or sunrise and ask her how she slept.
• Evening Voice Note: Record a 30-second “goodnight” message sharing one thing you’re proud of her for.
• Daily Question Exchange: Each day, ask the same two questions—“What made you smile today?” and “What’s one thing you’re curious about?”

These micro-moments turn ordinary routines into emotional lifelines.

2. Share a Digital “Adventure Journal”

Use a shared photo album, note app, or group chat to create a joint travel journal.

• Upload photos of local sights—ice cream stands, cool street art, your hotel view.
• Jot down quick voice memos describing a funny language mix-up or a delicious snack you tried.
• Encourage her to reply with her own mini journal entries—school highlights, a new friend, or a homework win.

This isn’t just you reporting in—it’s a two-way story you write together, weaving your worlds even when you’re apart.

3. Plan a Countdown Surprise

Turn your return into a celebration she can help stage in advance.

• Countdown Calendar: Share a digital calendar marking off days until you get back.
• Surprise Reveal: Have her choose or create something you’ll do together—bake cookies, hike, or movie night.
• Welcome-Home Note: Ask her to leave sticky notes around the house—“Can’t wait to hug you!”—and send her a similar message to find when she wakes up.

Anticipation is a powerful connector—both for her and for you.

Quick Takeaway: Start Today!

Here’s your challenge:
Pick one of these ideas and launch it before your next trip—even if it’s just across town.

• Set up a virtual ritual (morning text or nightly voice note).
• Create your shared digital journal right now—take one photo or voice note today.
• Sketch a simple countdown calendar and share it with her.

These small, consistent actions tell your daughter:
? “I’m here for you—no matter where I am.”

And that message? It crosses every time zone.

That’s it for today’s Dad Connections in 5. If you found this helpful, share it with another dad who’s often on the move. Until next time—keep showing up, even when you’re away, and keep growing that unbreakable connection.

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Sam Raimi describes Send Help as a darkly comedic reversal of power: “What if a woman was cheated by the boys’ club at work, held down by corporate management and a terrible, mean boss who treats her unfairly? And what if they crash-landed on an island and the roles were reversed?” That premise erupts onscreen through the explosive performances of Rachel McAdams (“Linda Liddle”) and Dylan O’Brien (“Bradley Preston”), whose ferocious clash for survival delivers both brutal tension and bursts of unexpected humor.  In “Send Help,” two colleagues become stranded on a deserted island, the only survivors of a plane crash. On the island, they must overcome past grievances and work together to survive, but ultimately, it’s an unsettling, darkly humorous battle of wills and wits to make it out alive.

My Take on the Movie

Sam Raimi’s Send Help thrives on tension, discomfort, and a wicked sense of humor, delivering a survival story that feels both chaotic and oddly satisfying. The film drops two mismatched coworkers onto a deserted island and lets their unresolved workplace dynamics explode in increasingly unpredictable ways. What begins as a story of survival quickly morphs into a psychological tug-of-war, where shifting power and buried resentment take center stage.

Rachel McAdams commands attention with a performance that balances vulnerability and intensity, crafting a character whose transformation is both unsettling and compelling. Dylan O’Brien plays off her energy well, creating a dynamic that keeps viewers guessing where loyalties should lie. Their interactions fuel the film’s uneasy tone, blending sharp humor with moments of genuine unease.

Raimi’s signature style is evident throughout, mixing absurdity with darker undertones in a way that keeps the pacing brisk and engaging. While some plot turns feel slightly telegraphed and certain visual effects fall short, the film’s bold premise and committed performances carry it forward. Send Help isn’t flawless, but it’s an entertaining, offbeat ride that embraces its strangeness and leaves a lasting impression.

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Key Takeaways

• Simple, low-cost changes to storage, lighting, and daily routines reduce exhaustion during recovery.
• Sleep safety, nighttime navigation, and hazard removal should be addressed before the due date.
• Some home layouts need more than quick fixes, and planning those changes early matters.
• Homeowners with equity have financing options worth exploring for larger postpartum upgrades.

The Prep Work That Costs Almost Nothing

Before spending money on anything, look at how your home actually functions day-to-day. Is the laundry situation going to work when you can’t carry a full basket up the stairs? Are your most-used supplies buried behind things you haven’t touched in months? A few hours of reorganization—staging supplies at arm’s reach, adding a basket to each floor, clearing countertop clutter—can make your home feel like it was designed for this season of life.

The freezer is worth thinking about too. Cooking in the weeks after birth is the first thing to disappear. Filling it now with meals that heat in 20 minutes means one less decision on the hard days.

Walk Your Home Like It’s Already Postpartum

There’s a useful exercise here: Walk through your house at night with the lights off and imagine you’re holding an infant. Where do you trip? Where do you squint? Where do you need a free hand you don’t have?

That mental walkthrough usually surfaces the same issues in most homes: unlit hallways, cords across pathways, no easy way to get from one room to another without waking everyone up. Address those before the due date with this process in mind:

Use this walkthrough during your third trimester so there’s time to act on what you find.

1. Map every route you’ll take at night and identify where lighting is missing.
2. Check smoke and CO detectors throughout the home and replace batteries.
3. Remove anything from the floor that doesn’t need to be there.
4. Trace every cord and cable in main living areas and secure anything that crosses a walkway.
5. Decide now where the pets will and won’t have access, and start enforcing it.
6. Choose warm, dim lighting for the nursery rather than anything that signals daytime.

A Practical Look at Every Room

Different rooms carry different weight during postpartum recovery. Here’s how the priorities tend to shake out.

Bigger Changes That Are Worth the Planning

Not every home is naturally suited to what postpartum life asks of it. A layout that worked fine before may feel genuinely limiting when recovery, feeding schedules, and disrupted sleep are all happening at once. Converting a room, improving ventilation in a poorly circulated space, or creating a recovery area on the main floor are all changes that take time to execute, which is why thinking about them early matters.

For families bringing in extended support or planning for multigenerational care, the scope of changes can grow considerably. When the cost outpaces what’s available in savings, homeowners can borrow against home equity to fund the work using the value already built into the property. Approval generally depends on how much equity exists, the borrower’s credit profile, income, and overall debt load. For upgrades directly tied to safety and daily function, it’s a path worth understanding before the due date arrives.

Frequently Asked Questions

How far out should home prep actually begin?

Somewhere between weeks 28 and 32 is a reasonable target for most families. Starting earlier than that often means finishing projects and then waiting; starting later risks running out of time or energy. The third trimester moves faster than it looks from the outside.

Do we need a finished nursery before the birth?

Not necessarily. Health organizations recommend that newborns sleep in the same room as a caregiver for the first six months, which means a bassinet in the bedroom is both appropriate and practical. A separate nursery can come together over time without affecting the baby’s safety or comfort in the early weeks.

What do most parents wish they had handled sooner?

The consistent answer is the caregiver’s own environment, not the nursery. Easy access to food and water in the middle of the night, a clear path to the bathroom, and clean clothes that don’t require a trip downstairs all reduce the kind of low-grade friction that wears people down faster than expected.

Is it worth financing home improvements before the baby arrives?

When a renovation addresses a genuine gap, like not enough bathroom access, poor lighting on main routes, no realistic recovery space, and the cost isn’t manageable with cash, financing can be a sound decision. Home equity options tend to carry more favorable terms than unsecured loans. Applying early gives more flexibility on timing.

How should pet boundaries be handled before the birth?

The earlier the better. Pets that have had unrestricted access to a bedroom or nursery should have those boundaries introduced gradually, well before the due date. When changes arrive at the same time as the baby, they’re harder to reinforce, and harder on the pet too.

The Work You Do Now Is the Rest You Get Later

Postpartum life will surprise you regardless of how prepared you are. But a home that was thought through in advance, one where the basics are handled, the hazards are gone, and the layout actually supports recovery, gives you more room to focus on what matters. Start early, work through it in stages, and let the preparation carry some of the weight so you don’t have to.

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How do you stay close to your daughter as she grows more independent?

It’s a bittersweet transition. The little girl who once ran into your arms now closes her bedroom door. She’s making her own choices, forming opinions, building a life that isn’t centered on you—and that’s a good thing. That means you’ve done your job well. But it doesn’t mean your relationship has to fade.

Let’s talk about how to keep that bond strong, even as she steps confidently into her own independence.

Why This Season Matters

As your daughter becomes more independent—whether she’s 12, 18, or 25—what she really needs is to know that:

• You still see her
• You still support her
• And your love is unconditional, even if she needs you in different ways now

She might not ask for your help like she used to, but she still values your presence, your approval, and your interest in who she’s becoming.

3 Ways to Stay Connected as She Grows Up

1. Stay Curious, Not Controlling

Instead of trying to stay close by holding on tight, stay close by letting go with intention.

Ask her questions that invite conversation without judgment:

• “What’s something you’ve been thinking about a lot lately?”
• “What’s something new you’re proud of?”
• “Want to bounce any ideas off me?”

Let her know you’re interested in her as a person, not just as your daughter. Curiosity says, “I care about who you are today.”

2. Respect Her Space, But Be Consistently Present

Your daughter may not need you to solve problems anymore—but she still needs to know you’re there.

• Send a short text that says, “Thinking of you. Hope today’s going well.”
• Leave a sticky note or send a meme that’ll make her smile.
• Invite her for lunch, a coffee, or a walk—but don’t push if she says no.

You’re showing her that connection is always available, without pressure. That presence builds safety—and trust.

3. Celebrate Her Growth—Out Loud

As she becomes more independent, she needs to hear that you’re proud of who she’s becoming—not just what she’s doing.

Say things like:

• “I love seeing how confident you’ve become.”
• “You’re handling that like a total adult—I’m seriously impressed.”
• “Even though we don’t talk as often, I think about you every day.”

These words are powerful. They reinforce your bond and remind her: “Dad still sees me, believes in me, and supports me—just in a new way.”

Quick Takeaway: Try This Today

Here’s your challenge:
Send your daughter a short message today that recognizes her independence and reminds her of your love.

Try:

• “I see how much you’ve grown lately—and I’m proud of who you’re becoming.”

Or:

• “You may be more independent now, but I’ll always be here if you need me.”

She may not say it out loud, but that message might be exactly what she needs to hear today.

That’s it for today’s Dad Connections in 5. Remember—staying close isn’t about holding on tight. It’s about showing up with respect, love, and quiet consistency. Your daughter’s growing independence isn’t the end of your bond—it’s just a new chapter.

Until next time—keep cheering her on, keep being steady, and keep reminding her that no matter how far she goes, she’ll always have a place in your heart.

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Understanding Through Story and Experience

Cheryl Rosenberg opens the conversation by reflecting on her own close relationship with her father, emphasizing how his steady love, honesty, and encouragement shaped her life. She shares that the simple act of her father being present—whether teaching her to paint or expressing pride in her achievements—made an enduring difference in her confidence and sense of being valued. Her story is a reminder that it’s the consistent, every-day practices—not grand gestures—that lay a foundation for trust and communication.

Reconnecting When Emotions Run High

One of the central themes of the episode is how fathers can best respond during the turbulent teenage years, when daughters might seem withdrawn or overwhelmed by big emotions. Cheryl Rosenberg notes that, for many dads, the instinct is to “fix” things or resort to logic and discipline. But often, what daughters need most is simply their dad’s calm presence and willingness to listen. As Dr. Christopher Lewis puts it, “connection doesn’t come from fixing, it comes from presence.”

Tools for Emotional Connection

The episode delves into creative solutions for building rapport, especially when words fall short. Cheryl Rosenberg’s Healing Artfully program encourages both daughters and parents to use artistic expression and journaling to process feelings and spark honest discussions. These activities don’t require artistic talent—just the willingness to explore and share emotions together. Dads are encouraged to participate, using art and even weekly “check-ins” to open new avenues of dialogue and trust.

Practical Takeaways for Every Dad

Listeners will come away with actionable advice: set aside regular time to check in, engage in shared activities (even a simple card game), and respond with compassion rather than quick solutions. And most of all, dads are reminded that their steady presence and acceptance are the anchors their daughters need to thrive.

Ready to build a closer relationship with your daughter? Tune in to this episode and start the conversation today.

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TRANSCRIPT

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]:
Welcome to the Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]:
If you’re looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you’re in the right place. I’m Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we’ll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let’s get started, because being a great dad isn’t just about being there, it’s about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our own daughters to make them be as strong as they can be and to help us build those strong lasting relationships that’ll help us to be amazing dads, but also having amazing relationships with our kids. And every week I love being able to have you here to be able to work on this together. And I love being able to introduce you to people that have resources that can help you to be able to do just that.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:25]:
And today’s guest is someone that I know you’re going to appreciate. Cheryl Rosenberg is a coach, and she’s the creator of the Healing Artfully program, where she helps students ages 12 to 20 who are struggling with big emotions, disruptive behaviors, or stress at home or school. But you know what I love about Cheryl’s work is that she doesn’t just focus on the child. She works closely with All of Us as Overwhelmed Parents: Helping Families Rebuild Connections, Emotional Regulation, and Peaceful Communication. If you’re a dad who’s ever felt unsure how to respond to your daughter’s big feelings or wondered how to reconnect when things may feel tense, this conversation is definitely going to be for you. Cheryl, thanks so much for being here today.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:02:14]:
Thank you for having me, Chris.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:16]:
Well, I’m really excited to have you here today, and As always, I love being able to start the conversation reflecting back on your own relationship with your father. I guess first and foremost, before we even get into the relationship, tell me a little bit about your dad.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:02:31]:
I would love to. My father, he was raised in a very poor environment. Grandfather was out of work, and they had very little food, which made my father very self-sufficient and very driven to be crosshu— provide for his family. And he was a wonderful man. He was honest and sincere and very loving. And he had a brother who was not quite as capable as he, and he would take him to different job sites and get him work that he could do, stuff that he was able to complete and, um, contribute. He had wonderful hand skills. He could make anything.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:03:17]:
But my father was 17 when he went into the Army in— during World War II. He was all over the European theater, and he would tell me stories about being there and what they would do, and about going into farmhouses that had been vacated, and they’d find potatoes and cook those. That’s the only thing they had to eat. And about different battles and, and how they survived and the different things that they did. He was very fair. He was hands-on, and he was just so loving. And I used to love to sit next to him on the couch on a Sunday afternoon and watch a movie with him. And if he had seen the movie, he would tell me a little bit about it.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:04:04]:
And I, I just loved to listen to him, listen to him talk. And he had his old ways and his old patterns of speech, but he was a self-made man and he did very well for himself. He was a telegrapher on the railroad, which means that he would take the messages that were sent and he could more or less tap Morse code and, and then get down to the tracks and change the— change the direction of the tracks. And that was up in the tower, his tower too, where he worked. But Couldn’t have asked for a better father. He was there for me all the time. And I didn’t have a great mother, but I did have a great father and he made up for it.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:51]:
So tell me one thing that your dad did that made you truly feel seen, heard, or valued as a daughter.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:04:59]:
Well, he always taught me— I always felt like he wanted me to be my best, do my best, and he would speak to me in those terms and tell me how I could do that and what I needed to do. And then he’d say, “Try it. Just be— just be diligent in your efforts.” And he would tell me about working in school and how he was so proud of that, of me and my schoolwork. And he would say, you know, “You, you’ve done a marvelous job with—” I always— cleaning the house or doing the laundry or, like I said, schoolwork or being a good sister to my sister, helping my mother and helping him. I used to love to help him paint. I took on his ability to paint and I used to hand paint furniture artistically. So he taught me that and that was ingrained in me and he just always made me feel loved and cared for. And I would go to him with anything because he was so understanding.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:05]:
Now, looking back, was there a moment where your dad’s support or guidance had a significant impact on your growth? Or confidence?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:06:14]:
I don’t remember any one specific time. I just— it was constant. There was a constant feeling of support and love, and I can’t think of a one particular incident at this moment, but he was always there.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:30]:
Now, no father is perfect. We all have our flaws. What are some things you wish your dad had done differently when it came to building your relationship?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:06:39]:
Well, this may surprise you, but my sister and I have talked about this at length. And my sister and I both wish that our father had left our mother. But he wouldn’t do that. He was from that era where you didn’t divorce. When he was home, he would take care of a situation that she had created. But when he wasn’t, we were at her mercy. And, uh, so that was the one thing we wish that he would have left and taken us. With him because it could be bad when he wasn’t there.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:13]:
So we felt like it would have been better to— for him to step in and, and help us all the time, when some of the time he would just let her take charge and we would be— we never knew what was coming.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:27]:
What do you feel is one thing that your dad taught you that has made a huge impact on your life?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:34]:
To be and do my best at everything that I tried.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:38]:
And if you had the opportunity to spend a day with your dad now doing anything, what would it look like?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:07:45]:
It would look like going to an, an old park where he would take my sister and I when we were children, going there and sitting on a blanket because we did that, uh, we did that often with him and sitting around and talking and, or possibly a movie. He was a big movie buff and knew all the actors and would tell us everything that he knew about them. It was a lot of fun to be with him, and he would play games with us. And today I would so love to be able to chase around with him and just enjoy his company.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:16]:
Now, I mentioned at the beginning that you have a program called Healing Artfully, and for dads who may not be familiar with your work, tell me more about Healing Artfully and what kind of challenges are families usually facing when they come to you.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:08:31]:
Healing Artfully is designed for children and teens who cannot express themselves in words. They, they don’t know where to begin. They really don’t know about their feelings. They’re kind of lost. And part of healing artfully is also journaling. And I teach them to spend, even if it’s 5 minutes, journal. Journal what happened that day. Journal how you feel.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:08:59]:
Their feelings are so important, and that’s the biggest part of the program. And I don’t just do— we don’t just do the mind, we do whole body. So you can’t just work on one part, you need to do the entire sweep of the body, okay, and the mind. So I teach them good habits, and if you establish good morning routines, that’ll keep you alive longer. It’s been proven. So I teach them to have good hygiene, to have a good exercise habit, whether it’s in the morning— even if it’s just waking up in the morning and getting out of the bed and marching for 4 minutes just to get your body started. And then later on in the day, do some exercises. We do the health, we do the, the food.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:09:55]:
We talk about a healthy diet. A healthy diet supports a healthy mind. And it just teaches them a good way to live their life. And then we work on solving the emotional part through the artwork. And there is no talent involved. It is strictly what you see in your mind, what you’re feeling. And we talk a bit about color and strokes and how those things can be— translated into your emotions. What this— what you’ve done and what you see on the paper talks about your feelings.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:10:35]:
And so we, we sit and discuss that, and that gives them an outlet to start talking. And eventually they open up and they start talking about their emotions. And that is not the only program. I have 4 other programs that we do, and it— I have a toolkit for parents where I give them dialogue and I give them worksheets and It’s bringing the parent and the team together. It’s family-oriented. You can’t have one person in the family working on their issues and no one else understands what’s going on. So we work as a unit.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:14]:
I know that in a number of your programs you talk about expression and being able to use some creativity. And I guess, how can creative expression help daughters relate regulate emotions and how can dads participate in that process even if they don’t consider themselves— I’m gonna say artistic per se?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:11:36]:
Uh, well, the good thing about it is it doesn’t require any artistic skills at all as far as the healing artfully goes. They are, uh, the parents come in after sessions and we discuss the work together and a father and a daughter can really open up because I think fathers sometimes are they just feel awkward and really don’t know how to get their daughters to open up or to comfort them or— so if they’re brought in and we explain and talk about the work that their child has done, then it starts creating a little path for them to walk down to get to where they’re more comfortable approaching their daughters they’re more open and they’re ready to listen and it brings the families into— sometimes into a great discussion and they will talk about incidents that had happened throughout the week, how it was handled, what could we do now to handle that in a better way. I have had some great success with just using the art and giving the parents the know-how to handle many different situations with that child.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:12:55]:
A lot of dads tell me that as they have gone through those teenage years, they sometimes feel shut out, especially when emotions run high. I guess from your experience, what’s really happening underneath those big emotions or disruptive behaviors, and how can dads be able to be helpful in those periods? But also, how can they come back in per se and not be as shut out in that whole process?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:13:22]:
Well, you’re right. Chris, that is definitely a time when fathers just kind of throw their hands in the air, and they do feel left out because a lot of times girls and their mothers don’t think that dad is really all that interested in this girly stuff. But in reality, they are, and it doesn’t have to be every little detail. But say if your daughter is preparing to go to a dance, then she can, uh, involve dad by putting on her dress and saying, “Dance with me! Let’s have a dance together before I—” have to dance at the prom, putting the dress on and asking dad what he thinks. Does he like it? Does he like the color? Just bringing him into what’s going on with his daughter. And moms can be a great service in that area too, to get dad going, get him interested, and get him to feeling comfortable about relating to his daughter in the feminine areas. I think men Um, and boys are— feel very awkward, and so they just kind of don’t respond at all when their response is so important. So it’s just an easy— it doesn’t have to be a big deal.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:14:36]:
Things are much easier than people imagine. Just doing us that simple thing like, hey Dad, I’m gonna go try on my dress, I want you to tell me what you think. Hey, let’s take a few dance steps together. Just something that gets him smiling and comfortable and they’re engaging with one another.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:55]:
So what I’m hearing you say is the reaction of a father is definitely very important. And I guess when I think about that, I know that when a dad reacts to his daughter’s stress with logic, fixing, or discipline, that can have kind of the negative impact. And I guess as you have seen that and worked with families, what impact does that make when a dad does come to that situation and try to provide logic, fixing, or discipline, which is kind of an MO for a lot of men or a lot of fathers. And I guess, what is a more emotionally attuned response that a dad can do?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:15:31]:
I would suggest that the father and the daughter set aside some time each week for a short talk. Doesn’t have to be a long drawn-out affair. Just, hey, let’s check in. Let’s put this on the calendar. Let’s check in on this day, and I want to hear what you’ve done this week, and I might have some suggestions for you, and then make suggestions for the next week and what you can do. I would like to see you accomplish this. How do you feel about that? Do you feel comfortable? Do you think you can get moving on that? Do you need some suggestions? Do you need some help? It’s so important that, that they are connecting and that there’s compassion and there’s thought and compassion and that everybody feels that. Everybody can sense that we’re working on a problem, but we’re having a good time doing it.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:16:23]:
So it sounds like a lot of daily work. And I guess, are there specific small daily practices that dads can do to either work on the relationship, rebuild trust, and provide that emotional safety to a daughter, especially if their daughter is pulling back or maybe they seem withdrawn or reactive or overwhelmed?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:16:44]:
Well, the best thing that they can do is to not react themselves, to, to calm the situation down. To have the teen or the child— sit them down and have a conversation on— or you can definitely sit at a table and drag out a game that you play all the time, a deck of cards or something, and sit down and talk while you’re doing something that you both enjoy, um, and getting— sometimes that brings out the emotion and the problem, and then the father can deal with it in a more relaxed atmosphere. And they don’t have to get so down to the nitty-gritty. Just gradually work on completing the answer to the problems, the, the solution, and scheduling— like I said, scheduling a once-a-week check-in is a great way to do it. And if they’re, if they’re having— they’re highly emotional, calming them down with just something that they enjoy and something that you enjoy, then you can get them off of the intense emotion and sit down and start doing something that you both enjoy, and you’re just Talk about it and discuss it. And you might not get anything right away, but you just keep trying and you let them tell you when they are ready. They’re not going to sit down and be able to open up right away with every emotion and every problem, but after a while you’ll see them opening up and you’ll see that the parent, the father, is much more comfortable being in the situation that is so highly emotional. And it’s a daily or a weekly practice.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:18:24]:
I mean, Daily is the things that they’re supposed to be doing, and the parent can always be checking in. In the morning when you see each other for the first time, hey, how, how was yesterday? What are you going to do today? And that shows love and respect and concern, and, and the kids feel it. They know it. So it is a very hands-on, a very eye-opening and rewarding experience.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:49]:
Well, Cheryl, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing everything you’ve shared today. If people want to find out more about your programs, where should They should

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:18:58]:
go to Cheryl, Cheryl, at D-R-O-S-E-N-B-E-R-G-I-O.com. And I have a website there and they can ask for consultation. It’s a free consultation. And so I do that in order to start talking to them about where they need to start and what we need to start working with their child. And then I give them the supplies, the toolkit. Kit, and then I check in with them and we talk about that. I give them worksheets that they can use with their, their team. Um, it’s really a nurturing experience to go through this and have everyone be able to feel comfortable and feel cared for, and it does everybody a lot of good.

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:19:49]:
And they’d be surprised, they’ll be very surprised at the results that they get. And it usually— if it’s not a, a real deep problem, then they’ll see a turnaround in as little as 2 weeks. So it’s a great way to try to get the family back together, talking, communication, hands-on. It brings everybody to that point and we’re all working to get the resolution. And so no one feels left out and everyone will benefit.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:21]:
Now, I always finish my interviews with what I like to call the Dad Connection 6, and usually I ask dads these questions, but when I have daughters on, I ask them some similar questions. So, quick questions for you. What’s one word that describes your relationship with your own father?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:37]:
Loving.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:38]:
What’s the best piece of dad advice you’ve ever received?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:42]:
Um, before my father passed away, he said to me, “What did I teach you?” And I said, “You taught me to do the best at anything that I tried.” And that’s my best from my dad.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:53]:
Now, you mentioned what your day would look like before, but what’s one activity you and your dad loved doing together?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:20:59]:
Painting. I mean, he was painting walls. That’s entirely different. From what I did, but he taught me techniques and just care of the equipment. I was so much further ahead than a lot of other people because I spent those hours with him just painting walls and cleaning brushes and preventing any paint splashes or paint on the floor, paint on the woodwork, just everything, because he was so meticulous. And I learned that too.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:26]:
And as we finish up today, what advice would you give to other dads who want to build a lasting and meaningful relationship with their daughters?

Cheryl Rosenberg [00:21:34]:
I would say that being there, loving them, guiding them with your knowledge, giving them their space and allowing them to speak to the work that you’re all accomplishing, trying to accomplish, working on, and just be open and be honest. And the two of you will always be in sync if you start when they’re an early age.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:00]:
Cheryl, thank you so much for being here and for the incredible work that you’re doing with families. And dads, if there’s one thing I hope that you take away from this conversation, it’s this: it’s that your daughter’s big emotions aren’t a rejection of you. They’re often an invitation, an invitation to slow down, to listen, to regulate yourself first, to create safety. Connection doesn’t come from fixing, it comes from presence. And sometimes the strongest thing that you can do as a father is simply stay steady when— stay steady when the waves get big. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I encourage you to learn more about Cheryl’s Healing Artfully program and the tools that she shares with families. And I’ll make sure that there’s links in the notes today. Until next time, keep showing up, keep listening, and keep building that intentional connection with your daughter.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:51]:
It matters more than you know.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:53]:
That’s a wrap for this episode of the Dad and Daughter Connection. Thanks for joining us on this journey to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Remember, Being an engaged dad isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and share it with a fellow dad. And don’t forget, you can find all our episodes at dadanddaughterconnection.com. Until next time, keep showing up, keep connecting, and keep being the dad she needs.

Musical Outro Performer [00:23:23]:
We’re all in the same boat. And it’s full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time, we give the lessons, we make the meals, we buy them presents. Bring your A-game, ’cause those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast, calling astronauts and firemen. Carpenters and muscle men, get out and be the world to them. Be the best dad you can be. Be the best dad you can be.

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Teaching your daughter that vulnerability is strength.

In a world that often tells our girls to “be tough,” “don’t cry,” or “keep it together,” it’s crucial that she hears a different message from you—the man she looks to for emotional guidance. She needs to know that it’s okay to feel, to struggle, to ask for help. And that doing so isn’t weakness—it’s courage.

Let’s explore how to model that kind of emotional strength in everyday life.

Why Vulnerability Matters

Vulnerability is the foundation of emotional intelligence, resilience, and healthy relationships. When your daughter understands that expressing her emotions is safe and strong, she learns:

• That she doesn’t have to hide who she is
• That connection is built through honesty, not perfection
• That her emotions are valid—not something to be ashamed of

And here’s the key: she’ll believe it when she sees it in you.

3 Ways to Model and Teach Vulnerability

1. Show Her What Vulnerability Looks Like in You

One of the most powerful lessons you can give your daughter is letting her see that you have emotions too.

That doesn’t mean breaking down in every moment—but it does mean saying:

• “I’ve had a really hard day, and I’m feeling overwhelmed.”
• “I messed up earlier, and I feel disappointed in myself.”
• “I don’t have all the answers, but I’m here and willing to listen.”

This shows her that strength isn’t about having it all together. It’s about being real—and still showing up.

2. Create a Safe Space for Her Emotions

If your daughter opens up to you—whether it’s about a rough day, anxiety, heartbreak, or self-doubt—resist the urge to fix it right away. First, validate her.

Try this:

• “That sounds really hard. I’m glad you told me.”
• “It’s okay to feel that way. I’ve felt that too.”
• “You don’t have to go through this alone.”

She’ll remember not just what you said, but how you made her feel—safe, seen, and loved.

3. Celebrate Emotional Courage

If your daughter opens up about something vulnerable—affirm that bravery.

• “I know that wasn’t easy to talk about, but it means a lot that you did.”
• “You were really strong for speaking up.”
• “Being honest about how you feel takes guts—and I’m proud of you.”

This rewires her thinking: Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s powerful. And it reinforces that being emotionally open is something to be proud of, not something to hide.

Quick Takeaway: Try This Today

Here’s your challenge:
Open up about something small but real today—something that lets your daughter see your heart.

It could be:

• “I’m nervous about this big meeting at work tomorrow.”
• “I’ve been feeling a little off today, and I’m not sure why.”
• “I’m really proud of how you handled that earlier. It reminded me how I wish I’d done the same at your age.”

Even one vulnerable moment builds trust. And it opens the door for her to be vulnerable too.

That’s it for today’s Dad Connections in 5. Remember—when you show your daughter that vulnerability is strength, you’re giving her permission to live honestly, love fully, and connect deeply. And that’s one of the greatest gifts a father can give.

Until next time—keep showing up, keep opening up, and keep building that foundation of trust that lasts a lifetime.

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Nintendo is celebrating the 40^th anniversary of the first Super Mario Bros. game with a slew of announcements today, including sales on games featuring Mario and friends through Saturday, and a SUPER NINTENDO WORLD sweepstakes. Check out Mario.Nintendo.com for all the details! Feel free to share the news below. or interact/share any of the posts from @NintendoAmerica!

Highlights include new trailers for two upcoming games:

• Super Mario Bros. Wonder – Nintendo Switch 2 Edition + Meetup in Bellabel Park releasing March 26 (and don’t forget about the Talking Flower releasing this Thursday!!)
• Yoshi and the Mysterious Book releasing on May 21

Nintendo and Illumination also released a brand-new trailer for The Super Mario Galaxy Movie, hitting theaters on April 1, and announced that tickets are available for preorder today! Download the free Nintendo Today! app to unlock a digital Collectible Card (40 in total) based on the movie every day from today through June 10.

Finally, the LEGO Group revealed the newest set in its LEGO Mario Kart line for adults: Mario Kart – Luigi & Mach 8, a 2,234-piece set, with pre-orders now open.

There are even more MAR10 Day festivities on Mario.Nintendo.com, including in-game events for Mario Kart World, a fun digital frame featuring Mario and friends, a new video inspired by Super Mario Galaxy + Super Mario Galaxy 2 on Go Noodle– and more.

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