https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/domestic-violence-help-blog.html The Domestic Violence Help Blog feed keeps you up-to-date with additions, and changes to the GetDomesticViolenceHelp.com Web site including tips, stories, and news. en-us domestic violence help Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:43:12 -0500 Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:43:12 -0500 getdomesticviolencehelp.com https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/mental-injury-from-domestic-violence.html5e93363ef827fb12e0b27b883034ad1bMaplewood There are cracks in an ordinary day that seem a gateway to safety, but they are not always what they seem when passing through. I saw one open Fri, 3 Jan 2020 21:52:36 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/loving-my-abuser.html8b8c2538824fe3d229de2fcb4fbf281eI was 16 when I started dating my husband. It's been 28 years, and nothing has changed so far except for the fact that every time he has different excuses Fri, 3 Jan 2020 21:13:59 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/disaraes.html793ec1bdc29a37aa00676e3fc3c7dbe5Dis-A-Rae is what happens when your two choices in life are to either stay in a toxic abusive relationship or be a single parent. If you decide to leave, Fri, 3 Jan 2020 20:58:41 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/the-teenage-girl-in-me.html9394007fab9159e20aacffe896e5a4bcThere is a girl inside of me ☺ I feel her so strong so young but she has never been free 😢 And all these years later I'm 39 years grown she is still here Fri, 3 Jan 2020 20:54:15 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/domestic-violence-once-in-denial-now-set-free.html081b2940050a1aea714a81fee102fc9bI hope this will help others to gain the strength to face the truth. Domestic violence is so hard to admit you are a victim of. I hope and pray as I listen Fri, 3 Jan 2020 20:47:37 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/a-wife-on-paper.htmldaaeb7a11185a872fd0ca2bbfdf4c7a9A Wife on Paper Because you hate her Respect is lost, At no cost Trust has vanished, Talk has been banished. Three whiskies and three smokes, Will no conversation Fri, 1 Nov 2019 22:31:17 -0400 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/but-i-thought-he-loved-me.html38a0ffe6fc8dc743b48e05e0fdf31a99Often a victim of domestic violence is unaware of how persuasive an abuser can be. The victim is taken by surprise when the person that they loved suddenly Fri, 23 Aug 2019 13:30:27 -0400 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/wrongfully-abused.html4e1e4204c89b9687d8df0bf1355da3e2I was attacked by my boyfriend he pushed me shoved me and hit me because I was yelling at him. I feared for my safety when he choked me to the point of Thu, 15 Aug 2019 12:26:16 -0400 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/7-steps-of-healing-from-domestic-violence.html3730c81d56ea31b249f2c7509a2b9b4dDomestic violence is a heinous crime that leaves life-long effects on its victims. A crime that has its impact on both the physical and mental state of Sun, 4 Aug 2019 13:12:31 -0400 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/i-am-exposing-my-abuser-her-sons-abuser.htmlcc0b60c7198ff2e6f00174fcef55bb04My (former) close friend, who is a current child care worker, canceled mine and my child's reservation because her son molested my daughter. She wanted Mon, 31 Dec 2018 22:27:40 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/breathing-living-moment-by-moment-day-by-day.html6a5f831d04f31df1f53b95a28f0d8170My insides are shaking. My hands are shaking. They don’t want to push the buttons or go in the right direction. I miss hitting the right key and have to Mon, 31 Dec 2018 22:10:25 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/addict-in-a-garden1.html0f0ef8e83ea19033ea512122bd17e65cNothing was ever against my will, but the pain made the pain go away. This is a poem about my addiction to a narcissist... I beg for the abuse. Without Mon, 31 Dec 2018 01:52:48 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/an-open-letter-to-my-abuser.html6bb3eeb98fb2be42726320a8c7f69808Dear B, I loved you with everything I had. I'm just starting off with that. Despite it all, I loved you. But unfortunately, that is often not enough. Mon, 31 Dec 2018 01:44:03 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/from-time-to-time-stories-of-ongoing-domestic-violence.html66f8e75a81cc62bb960bbdc5fc8d9fe0Stories of ongoing domestic violence, problems with continued love, and the difficulty with finding safety, refuge, and separation Sat, 29 Dec 2018 18:32:41 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/short-stories-of-the-domestic-violence-cylce.html77e145897c91e41e58d5ca220d1d0fa0Short Stories of Ongoing Domestic Violence illustrating the domestic violence cycle and how difficult it can be to leave an abusive partner Sat, 29 Dec 2018 18:30:09 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/addict-in-a-garden.html06853caceed5c273b74565f8595445fbNothing was ever against my will, but the pain made the pain go away. This is a poem about my addiction to a narcissist... I beg for the abuse. Without Sat, 29 Dec 2018 18:18:53 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/red-flags.htmle2e5de4a315614f2c8ea551b67c9f0b2I don't know where to start. I guess I have always had a pattern of falling to relationships with emotionally abusive people. We met in college our first Fri, 28 Dec 2018 00:12:34 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/surviving-was-worse-than-the-domestic-abuse.html9e95f07e5e6551acec51a93c72bbaed1I was 13 when I began dating my boyfriend. The violence started about one year later and continued for seven years. I became so used to being mistreated Thu, 27 Dec 2018 23:43:28 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/domestic-abuse-in-wales-my-story.html35450556692dfb821c617c10c8d84063I'm new on here but have read lots of boards, and I'm looking for some advice. It's going to be a long thread as so much has happened, but I hope someone Thu, 27 Dec 2018 00:19:03 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/i-have-a-purpose-and-want-to-live-aftermath-of-depression-and-domestic-violence.html5b0b56b6f8850a891dc54359d3ddf45dConcerning the aftermath of depression and domestic violence, I know how powerful words can be and I hope that my words touch the lives of others. “When Tue, 25 Dec 2018 10:56:12 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/surviving-from-northeast-england.html7be6c03d506be5b7b8b74f05f386b0d8At the age of 16, I was in a relationship with a boy who was funny, caring, confident and attractive. I remained with him until I began talking to another Tue, 25 Dec 2018 01:21:49 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/the-broken-peace-in-me-summer-of-2013.html21fa6ba966c07df473dec2e2be9e8627Who's to blame, have to carry the shame? Not he nor she, nor all who could see? Guess that leaves no one... no one here but Me. She knows the where She Tue, 25 Dec 2018 01:19:14 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/my-husband-my-biggest-enemy-part-1.html3e928df60c86cdd1eafce49045592710I'm a 34-year-old Indian girl from South Africa. I thought if I loved my husband enough he would change his abusive ways. It all started when we began Sun, 23 Dec 2018 12:13:21 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/my-mum.htmlf89c82948d2a15cc3e6e4b85f0941d70My mum died in 2015 peacefully in her sleep, she was 40 years old and died of heart failure. For 14 years she suffered from domestic violence, and I want Sun, 23 Dec 2018 11:47:58 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/abuse-in-its-highest-form.html6e96d0eccaa1d492aa119fde3bb88864I have been abused from the age of 2 by a cold, manipulative, narcissistic woman who gave birth to me. I feel you have to earn the title to be a mother. Sun, 23 Dec 2018 11:17:24 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/first-love.html771d42bd6a329e1a245962a616cd1c98I call him my first love because I grew up having a crush on him. Our families were very close. After years of searching for love and his failed marriage, Sun, 23 Dec 2018 10:42:38 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/escaping-the-abuse.html4211a7369a865b797b1add732e0c06b1When I was 15, I was a victim of date rape. I never told anyone and suffered for many years in silence. When I began dating, I didn't date guys that were Wed, 19 Dec 2018 22:13:06 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/an-abusive-gay-man.html038a19854bf9629a87555579e14d81b4I had a relationship with a wrestler who was undercover. He did not want people to know he was gay. We would always meet my house, and when I would go Wed, 19 Dec 2018 20:41:17 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/intimidated-out-of-my-home-at-50.htmlcedca66f81c773ff3b079c2b2272ff9cI’m in deep despair. I lived with a man who’s belittled me, my kids, thrown me out of their bedroom, threatened to break a door down to a room I was sleeping Wed, 19 Dec 2018 00:29:38 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/getting-back-up.html41bf09f0cdd3e16255e85aa19f712766 She sat and watched the clock tick, it ticked right past the hour he was supposed to be home, and then eventually it ticked past right through the three-hour Fri, 14 Dec 2018 00:05:55 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/where-do-you-get-trust-from-now.html3741c4ca098f0455a916d01ef6a45fd7We went to Amsterdam for his birthday. We went to this restaurant on a Friday and were drinking with the food, and he starts acting strangely. I stopped Wed, 12 Dec 2018 23:08:25 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/why-i-never-told.html7c3f821a045dba2f0acd6ddcf91067faI never told because the first time he put his hands around my neck, I was in shock and afraid. Sure he had gotten in my face and screamed at me, but he Fri, 7 Dec 2018 18:07:06 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/lashae-losing-battle-still-at-war.html4f022a6990c8bb08aca663617a8707aaIt's been 15 years. We were teenagers. The first time was three months into our relationship. I was only 17 years old and did not know how to react to Wed, 5 Dec 2018 21:13:23 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/constant-abuse.htmlc313d0bfeedd74e1b5b3131ea2efcbcdI'm 39yrs old. My abuse started when I was about five years old by my mom and dad. They would get into terrible arguments, and I would run and hide. I Wed, 5 Dec 2018 20:43:15 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/emotional-abuse-poem.htmlaab380bbc6bec05810e7b857a77b1b1aGo ahead and hit me for not listening to what you said Go ahead and cut me down until I am dead I will never be your perfect child As you put it so mild Wed, 5 Dec 2018 20:00:32 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/domestic-violence-story2.html56d21ee0fef1c225b874adedb90f3273I never in my wildest dreams imagined I'd find myself in an abusive relationship. I came from a loving home, with models of a loving relationship. Abuse Wed, 5 Dec 2018 19:51:11 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/the-daughter-of-a-psychopath.htmlf30f2c53f87a36039d85743d2069e6e2Unlike most of you visiting this website, I’m not a direct survivor of domestic violence. The aggressor directed the abuse mostly toward my mother, but Wed, 5 Dec 2018 14:57:20 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/beautiful-light-shine-bright.html50f6238608ab9ef4392a45d19dd0d1ceI have seen so many new things thru searching for explanations of what was needed by our Higher Self. I can't explain it because everybody looks at me Wed, 5 Dec 2018 14:38:29 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/four-decades-on-the-horrible-truth-about-childhood-abuse-victims-and-its-affect.html2cd79bdcd18bca93c97bcde2a2c9203fFour Decades on, I'm still on the journey to try and heal myself from child abuse and domestic violence throughout adult relationships. Even after seven Tue, 4 Dec 2018 13:59:01 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/32-years-of-pain.htmlad42626415ed0fdbe0eeb1c4db800462My domestic violence history started in 1985. I had just married a counterintelligence agent for the Army, and we were living in Maryland by Fort Meade. Sun, 2 Dec 2018 14:55:21 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/just-left-my-domestic-partner.html7de1a5446b63cfcb58da7de6c29d035aSaw a post from a girl that wrote her story about her domestic violence relationship and I thought I'd share mine to help these girls that are trying to Wed, 28 Nov 2018 18:46:25 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/my-story-by-christine.html5e87303e8ccfd167fb90c7a435811cdcMy story is too long to write in a few paragraphs, too long to write in a book. Although I still carry so much hate and anger to the man that hurt my boys Sat, 24 Nov 2018 22:02:03 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/my-story-of-emotional-domestic-violence-with-the-love-of-my-lifeby-chloe.html30e7642e24a6271097cea37d350f5041It's only a very recent thing that I've learned I was in an abusive domestic relationship. If I'm entirely honest, I'm not sure, yet I fully accept that. Sat, 24 Nov 2018 21:21:50 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/defeat.htmle1e8f69cc361bb2caf3945177c68c7a0My story is sort of hard to explain. Some things happened that I for one should have never accepted and excused. We were perfect until I started having Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:59:04 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/timeline-of-pain-an-ongoing-issue.htmlf8f89b3c6a874c8e569678ea79e66b14It started a decade ago; I was 16 going onto 17. That’s when everything changed. I said goodbye to the happy person I used to be. My mother described Sat, 24 Nov 2018 04:14:57 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/abusive-marriage-adjustment.html3dab90aed759c1acc563b2fbcb5109f1So I met this man through the family. We were family friends, and we knew only good things about each other's background. So we got married. It was more Sat, 24 Nov 2018 01:00:47 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/love-is-not-a-game-of-russian-roulette.htmlef4532abc8be8f2f9430b52894d67470Hi, I'm 30 years of age. I've been in and out of homelessness since 14-years of age. While growing up, I was not only verbally thrashed by my narc mother, Thu, 22 Nov 2018 18:06:02 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/his-eyes-hate-me.htmlf78384ba5ea3c69e8aef8fe476599c33His eyes hate me I can feel them in my soul When he's mad he needs to hurt me Make me cry I tremble and plead, say anything It doesn't help He yells louder, Thu, 22 Nov 2018 17:29:36 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/when-he-didnt-hit-me-i-thought-he-stopped-loving-me.html5cce93d1c9956f24867ab12a1ba10411So, as usual, I met a man, we were with each other for a little over two years, of course, we were not boyfriend and girlfriend, and of course, he was Thu, 22 Nov 2018 16:56:27 -0500 https://www.getdomesticviolencehelp.com/the-lesser-of-two-evils.htmlf63f633809ec2132036cebdde02360f9Monsters are real. Find your breaking point. Well, I just don't think there is anyone in this whole wide world that loves their babies as much as I love Thu, 22 Nov 2018 15:58:50 -0500