Today I want to share with you a practice that's enhanced my life as Golden Goddess:

Being busy, having kids, being married, then having a divorce. We can get really caught up in the stress of life. In fact, I was running on empty for years. When my life really began to fall apart, my acupuncturist told me I was running on an empty tank and all I was was a ball of anxious energy.

So, how do we turn anxious energy around?

From  being so consumed in the narrative of stress: Bills, debt, relationships, work, pressure, running a business. I forgot how to be grateful.

What is there to be grateful for? When there's so much negativity in our lives?

We live in the first world, Where we have enough to eat, we have internet, we have access to technology, we see the sunshine.

I stepped into gratitude practice.

I changed attention from being stressed all the time to seeing the actual abundance in which I live.There's no rule about having to feel bad about the negative things in life. Be grateful for the simple things in life.

I have a gratitude journal.

I write three separate things I'm grateful for every day, and I hand write. Those three things are different every day. This forces us to start looking for things that we're grateful for every day.

I noticed that before I used to have to think about things I was grateful for, remember, then write. Now I'm shifting more easily into gratitude all the time.

I'm taking 100% responsibility for my life, looking for answers.

Join me on this gratitude journey.

How has a gratitude practice helped you?

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From my home to yours,

Val

She is on a mission to share her lessons in self-love and worth that she implemented herself in order to attract this dream love and life she has today. She is a certified in best-selling author Mike Dooley’s Infinite Possibilities program. Nicole is also a graduate of Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass. Writing is Nicole’s second love and is an active contributor to the Worthy blog.

Nicole and I chat about how we can grow and heal after our separation and divorce. Why we do and act the way we do in times of angst, and the first steps in healing.

Nothing is ever happening to us. We aren't victims. It's always happening for us, we just need to see the lesson in it.

It's important to understand that our souls were put on this planet to evolve, to learn from and grow from. No matter how great the pain of our divorce, even though it sucks at times, the pain of the divorce is nothing like the pain we experienced during our marriage.

Nicole also talks about how important it is to understand the lesson that our soul came here to learn from and grow from. What makes us, us, are the beliefs that we gained from our childhood experiences. From there, as we grow older, what we perceive in our reality is a mirror image of what we have playing in our minds like a movie reel. It's what we believe to be true in our lives. What this really means, is, what we feel on the inside attracts what we see in real life and what we attract in real life.

Painful experiences are blessings.

Nicole also runs Healed & Free After Divorce is a program. It's a fun program she runs a few times per year. This is a 14 day deep dive, transformational course. It's an overhaul of understanding why we're attracting who we're attracting, understanding that we're supposed to be where we're supposed to be. And becoming free. No more blame, no more anger, no more resentment, but taking control back and taking our lives back.

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Nicole also runs Heal in 21, a digital course that can be accessed anytime and is for healing after divorce.

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Val

1. A female being of supernatural powers or attributes, believed in and worshiped by a people.
2. Often Goddess A female being believed to be the source of life and being and worshiped as the principal deity in various religions used
3. An image of a female supernatural being; an idol.
4. Someone that is worshiped or idealized.
5. A woman of great beauty or grace.

If you are a Mom, have been a wife, have been someone’s significant other. You ARE a Golden Goddess. If you have wisdom, you are a golden goddess. If you have felt pain, you are a golden goddess. If you have transformed pain, you are a golden goddess.

You are a Golden Goddess: A woman whose presence is felt whenever she enters a room. One who exudes traits of strength, understanding, intelligence, empathy to beings on earth, as well has a very strong will.

Golden Goddesses are revolutionizing our lives because we are changing our lives fundamentally and completely to fun, abundance, love, and connection. From my home to yours.

Here is what else. Us Golden Goddesses remain perfectly imperfectly human.

So, I don’t know about you, but I am kind of sick and tired of the story where the heroine has struggle, then falls down, gets their butt kicked, and then whoa, she has transformed into this beautiful, amazing, perfect, hot, sexy, slim, heroine, who has a hot guy with ginormous body parts worshiping her every move.

Fuck! What do the rest of us mere mortals do?

I don’t know about you, but I am embracing the Golden Goddess in me anyways.

Fuck this perfect shit. I get to be a Golden Goddess while I remain profoundly imperfect. So do you.

Are you, like me, still imperfect? Do you do your best, but don’t always arrive?

Do you fall down? Say the wrong thing? Get lazy? Forget to be your best self because you are tired, overwhelmed, or just plain fed up sometimes?

Maybe you, like me, are not nearly as skinny as you planned. Maybe you have not always gotten it right in terms of the way you parent your kids. Maybe you do not always get it right with the people you work with. Maybe you didn’t get it right in your marriage.

Yeah, me too.

But guess what?! We get to be Golden Goddesses anyway. Your life is a story. My life is a story. And it is still being written my dear Golden Goddess friend.

And even though many parts of our stories do not yet have the fairy tale ending, this does not mean we cannot live lives of stratospheric happiness, joy, connection, and abundance.

A Golden Goddess says, I may be imperfect still, l and my life may be imperfect still, but I am choosing to do my best. I am choosing transformation.

I already know what it is like to work hard. I already know what it is to care so very deeply about those around me. I already know how to organize the many things that life demands of me. Now, I am going to put those amazing skills, those amazing qualities to creating the best life I can. I am going to do it for me and I am going to do it for those I love.

I am a Golden Goddess and this means that I embrace strength, understanding, intelligence, empathy and that I have a strong will.

I am a woman who has wisdom and experience. I may have a sense of humour. I don’t take myself too seriously at least most of the time.

And just because I am “mature” does not mean that life is over. I have a ton more to give. I have many chapters left in my story. This life story can include whatever I want it to be.

You have many chapters left in your life too, my dear goddess friend.

We are Golden Goddesses and our quest is for life transformation. We are revolutionizing our lives to fun, abundance, love, and connection.

I, like you, want all the things in life. I want the stress of my financial life to abate. I want my loved ones to succeed, be loved, and be connected to others. I want those I love to live free of fear.

I also want to live in peace. I also want to live free of crushing stress. I also want to be loved. I also want to be connected to others.

In so many ways I, like you, have not yet arrived.

And yet, I have arrived. Totally and completely.

Despite my life not looking exactly the way I expected or wanted it to, I am choosing beauty, love, abundance, and my own inner power.

In a matter of months, doing this choosing over and over again has transformed my life and circumstances.

Like you and other Goddess heroines, I have gone through the crushing pain part, the crushing fear part, and the losing part. I have even done the profound realization part.

I am the heroine of my story, and it started some months ago. I had a life of tremendous struggle and I did not realize that I just had to change my attention to appreciate the abundance in which I live.

I invite you to do the same.

Here are the facts:

While I used to believe that life was supposed to go somewhat smoothly after a person reached adulthood, I have suffered way more than I imagined possible.

And this is what I know. Despite the above, I still get to be a Golden Goddess. Who says?! I do.

Who says you get to be a Golden Goddess?! You do. We do. We are in this together.

A Golden Goddess remains imperfect, and she is beautiful in her imperfection.

I am a Golden Goddess and despite all of the struggle, I am mostly, almost always these days, so happy.

I am so tremendously totally happy and joyful that I can’t even believe it.

I live a life of beauty, love, connection, belonging, and joy.

My experiment has worked. I changed my world by changing the way I see it. I am inviting you to do the same.

Here is how Richard Dotts, a manifestation guru says it:

“Know that the Universe always delivers to you whatever you ask for, without judgment, and there is no need to “prove” your deservingness or worthiness in any way. You can want something simply just for the sake of wanting it, because your wanting of something does not deprive another from his or her share! You are already worthy of all the good there is, and if something does not come to you, it is not because you’re not asking hard enough—but because you are unknowingly blocking it from coming to you.”

So, as a Golden Goddess, know that your good is yours for the asking. Know that you deserve happiness, love, connection, and abundance, just because you are, my dear friend a Golden Goddess.

I had spent more than a decade waiting for relief to come to me. I wanted relief from my financial stress. I have waited for my husband to love me again. I have waited for me to deal with my addiction issues. I have waited and waited for that magical bullet to appear and turn it all around. Well, no magic bullet suddenly appeared because it has been here the whole time. I just had to see what was right in front of me.

I just had to open my eyes, heart and mind to see it. And feel it. And just be.

Are you still wondering if you are a Golden Goddess? Take the Golden Goddess Quiz below:

1. Are you a woman who has experienced love, and pain:
2. Are you someone who wants to (even though you may not imagine it possible just now) who wants to transform your life

If you answered yes to any of the above, then you are, my dear friend, A Golden Goddess.

A woman whose presence is felt whenever she enters a room. One who exudes traits of strength, understanding, intelligence, empathy, as well as a very strong will.

Who gave me the authority to call me a Golden Goddess? I did.

Who can give you the authority to call yourself a Golden Goddess? You can.

Join me in my self-appointed quest of being a golden goddess and in my quest for absolute and total life transformation. We are revolutionizing our lives because we are changing them fundamentally and completely to fun, abundance, love, and connection.

Maybe you are going through a divorce.

Maybe you are through it.

NO matter what, don’t you want something more? Are you tired of life kicking your ass? I know I have been.

I also know I am now seeing the fruit of what has been a strategic plan to make my life better, more joyful, and way more financially solid. I want to share these strategies with you so you can transform your life too.

Now I am not saying I do all of these things all of the time. I am not suggesting that you do so either. The last thing we need is something else to feel guilty about that we don’t have time for. This is not about adding more jobs to your already busy plate. I am suggesting, however, that being strategic about how we spend our days can and will improve the our lives tremendously.

Personally, I do some of the items on this list, every day, and other things on this list, not as often. This list is to inspire you to your good. Do some of what is on this list consistently and I PROMISE, your life is going to shift for the better.

1. We have a gratitude practice:  

I write down three different things each day that I am profoundly grateful for. For example, today I am grateful for the feeling of relief I feel as a result of my refinance going through. I am grateful for transitioning from feeling grief to happiness as I walked in the forest today. I am also grateful, so very grateful, for the professional support and guidance I get from my therapist.

We also stay in gratitude. As an example, I was at a long meeting and very frustrating meeting the other day. By the time it ended I was feeling exhausted and irritated. I was also hungry and very much wanting to get home. When I left the meeting I could not find my car and then discovered it had been towed (the street I parked on which I parked it legally turned into a “no parking or stopping” area of the street after 4 pm. My meeting went until 6:00 pm. In my car was the entire file for my client and I had a court application the next morning. The Val Hemminger of the past would have lost her mind with frustration and stress. The current Val Hemminger was grateful that I had the money for a taxi, that there was dinner waiting for me at home along with my roommate and my wonderful daughter, and that I had the resources to pay the fine and tow charge so I could get the car out before court the next morning.

2. We watch our diet and I don’t mean food:

 Nope. I am not talking about food. Most of us would not dream of (at least we try not to) treat our bodies like garbage disposals for toxic food. We get what eating fast food, hydrogenated oils, processed garbage does for our bodies. Well, what about the shows you watch? What about the news you consume? What about the people who hang out? What about the things you read? If it is not high vibration, don’t dump it into your mind and soul.

3. We recognize the tremendous power of our spoken word:

Remember how in Harry Potter, if they shouted a spell with their wands in hand, it created a very tangible result? Like “expelliarmus” caused someone else’s wand to fly out of their hand. Well, us mere mortals don’t even need a wand in our hands. Think about it. If you say hateful things, you live in a world of hate. If you say judgmental things, you live in a world of judgment. If you say loving things, you live in a world of love. Your word is your wand.

4. We hire a well-recommended coach or therapist, one who has a reputation for working with their clients to transform their lives, not one that that allows you to stay in a victim mentality.

Remember how Woody Allen characters would be on their shrink’s couch once per week for like, forever. I don’t mean like that. I mean someone who will work with you and allow you to see new possibility and be in new possibility.

5. We have a spiritual practice:  

That practice can be any of a lot of things. My spiritual practice right now includes a forgiveness practice, a prayer of gratitude I put out to the greater universe, it sometimes includes meditation, listening to relaxing and identity-shifting hypnosis audio, and three times per day reviewing my planned list of manifestations as found in a book called It Works by RJH. It is about knowing we are not all alone on this great big universe and it is not all about us.

6. We practice tuning into the divine frequency of the universe:

We now know that the Law of Attraction is true science, not just some weird fantastical theory. Stay with me here. It is no longer woo woo to know that we can tap into the essence of what some people call God, but I prefer to call the universe or the quantum field. Some call it the Tao. You know what I mean. Have you ever have that feeling of well-being warm you up from the inside? Well that my goddess friend, is the feeling of universal love and the divine frequency of the universe.

7. When stressed the F*CK out or feeling so very very sad, we move our attention:

What I mean by this if you are upset by something, instead of perseverating about it and going around and around and around and feeling worse and worse and worse (which actually makes it worse), feel it, allow it to pass through you and then instead of going back to it over and over and over again, move your attention. For example, as I write this I have been profoundly and deeply involved in attempting to finalize a mortgage that will have life changing results for me. The process has been challenging with respect to my soon to be ex-husband. Very challenging. So, it has been easy for me to flip to my anger and frustration at him. Then I remember, move my attention. I actually use high-vibration audio books and podcasts to help me move my attention. I cannot listen to *The Complete Works of Florence Scovel Shinn and remain in a stressed out mood.

8. We take time for self-care:

It is a priority. Now, let me be clear about self-care. There is a difference between mindless self-indulgence and self-care. Self-care is not only supposed to feel good in the moment, it is about looking after your body and soul. Not that I haven’t done it, but Binge-ing on Netflix is self-indulgence, not self-care. For me, self-care is walking in the woods. Self-care is stopping in at my favorite brunch place to have a late breakfast when I am done court early. It is about getting my acupuncture treatment. Think about what self-care is for you and do that, at least some of it, all the time.

9. We create our own “Family Village.”

Loneliness in our westernized culture is an epidemic. In order for us to thrive, be happy, and healthy, we need to connect with others. Connecting online is not enough. The research shows that we actually need to spend time in the company of other human beings. When around other beings we biochemically change in a way that a Facebook connection does not. Golden Goddesses create our own family village by connecting with those we already live with and love. We also create extended families and villages based upon more tha our biological connections. We are strategic about implementing the structures (like arranging furniture, where we live etc.) and habits (bookclubs, coffee dates,  etc.) to create human relationship and connection.

10. We have a forgiveness practice:  

It reduces our resentment of others. It reduces our resentment of ourselves. My forgiveness practice is counterintuitive to many. But it works. It works well and has a profoundly amazing impact on my life. It starts with me asking for the forgiveness of others for the pain I caused them. Learn more about the forgiveness practice I have learned through the Dr. and Master Sha Love, Peace and Harmony Movement.

11. We Build Our Moat of Safety and Well-Being:  

Shawn Achor is a Harvard Professor. He is a happiness researcher. In his book, Big Potential, he talks about how it is important to build a moat around our safety and well-being. Putting it another way, to use a Harry Potter reference, he says it is important to defend against the dark arts. What does this mean for us golden goddesses? It means that if our ex is toxic, abusive, or just plain nasty, we should protect ourselves from them. If we have kids, keep our communications with them to email. The point is, if he is going to hurt you when you have a conversation with him , then don’t let him hurt you. Nobody says you have to converse with him. Same same for other relationships that do not inspire you. If you have someone in your life who consistently drains you or leaves you feeling sad, insulted, or in a funk, you may want to consider dumping (I know harsh) them out of your life.

12. We live life in service:

Humans are meant to be in service.  We are meant to be kind and to help others and to do something all the time that makes mother earth and her inhabitants a better place. This does not mean that you have to spend four hours per week volunteering in a soup kitchen if that is something that does not inspire you. Also maybe you have so much on your plate this is not in the cards. But what about grabbing the homeless guy a sandwich and a coffee and giving him eye contact and a smile when giving it to him? What about telling a friend how much you care for them, even if it makes you feel awkward to say so? What about taking the time to read a story to your niece or nephew? Or playing a game of cards with your child? How about inviting a neighbor for dinner?

13. We connect with nature:  

Seeing and being in the abundance of nature.

14. We recognize the power of our identity

and we learn to have the power to change it.

And two bonus ones for those of us not divorced yet:

1.We get legal advice.

Even if you don’t want to fight, you should know what you are entitled to. You should know what your kids are entitled to.  You should learn all about your obligations. Your legal advice should not come from the internet. It should not come from your bestie who went through a divorce last year

2. If we hire a lawyer, we get a well-recommended one who has a track record for resolving their cases rather than just going to court.

Some people like the idea of hiring a “pit bull lawyer” to go after their ex. They get a lot of satisfaction seeing their ex sweat and suffer. So, even if your ex was a complete bastard, forget it, wanting him or her to suffer is gross. It is a dumb idea. Also, ask yourself, at what cost. In my experience, judges who wh*** Judges are rarely impressed with lawyers who pound the table and cause conflict.  

She “had it all.” She had the husband, the nice car, the great job, the great house etc. and yet, she felt so terribly empty.

Everything came crashing down when she started having anxiety attacks that left her feeling deeply ashamed and embarrassed. She also could not figure out why someone who “had it all” could have such a problem. Of course, she had not realized that she obsessing over her social media following, spending her days accomplishing task after task with a to-do list as long as her arm, and how she rarely, if ever slowed down. She said she tried to control everyone and everything in her life and despite a “perfect” picture on the outside, everything in her life felt like a mess.

Now, some years later, Emilie is joyfully divorced (but has a BF she adores), has chosen to be happy, all day, all the time. She is a spiritual guide and anxiety coach that helps women heal their anxiety.

Emilie says she is profoundly grateful for her anxiety because what she saw as a terrible thing sparked and inspired a new focus for her life, her career, and her overall purpose of being on this planet.  She says she has gone from feeling angst all day to freedom.

Because of her experiences, she has created the Love Your Anxiety Podcast.

Emile sought the help of her own Family Village of people when she needed it. She shares that when she was at her lowest, she sought help. She not only sought help from a really great therapist, she also leaned into having support from family and friends.

She says that human beings are stronger when we are together.

Emilie’s life has transformed from one of feeling unsafe, potentially not good enough, potentially not loveable enough, to knowing that everything is always going to be alright. She says her crown chakra has opened and now she lives her life in an intuitive way.  She is connected to herself in a way she never imagined possible.

Her anxiety, about which she originally felt such shame, has given her huge gifts. She says in her work with clients she asks what their anxiety is telling them. She says that rather than seeing our anxiety as something that causes us pain, or struggle, but instead as a teacher. Emilie goes even further to say that you might as well love your anxiety and see it as a gift of learning because “spiritual law says it will not leave you until you love it.”

Here are the books that Emilie refers to during our interview:

The Dark side of the Light Chaser – Debbie Ford

Connect with Emilie’s Instagram @loveyouranxiety and listen to her Podcast on iTunes: Love Your Anxiety Podcast

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From my home to yours,

Val

Anna is a Certified Master Coach Practitioner specialising in Co-Parenting. She's passionate about guiding and helping divorced parents as well as bonus (step) parents discover and develop workable solutions so that the entire family thrives. Anna interrupts old beliefs, patterns of emotions and habits preventing parents from taking action to uncover and achieve the result they truly deserve in their new family lifestyle.

Anna is also a Certified ThataHealing Practitioner, Certified Facilitator and Parent Educator, Motivational Speaker and 2x International Bestselling author of Co-Parenting in Harmony series books. Recent book Co-parenting in Harmony: Creating A Ripple Effect, How Simple Acts of Kindness Transform The Future of Your Entire Family. Anna is a contributor to HuffPost and Thrive Global.

In our interview, Anna chats about her experience with divorce as a teenager. Since it wasn't as common at the time, she experienced a tough battle between her mother and father, typical of how we traditionally think of divorce with everything split in the middle. It affected her self esteem, her confidence, and she didn't know any better. But when it came her time to co-parent, she said no to the luggages back and forth and created two real homes for her son.

Anna says that the rocky parts of divorce "shakes us. It de-stabilizes us, our self confidence, that we failed" But really, it's not about failure. She says "it's a learning experience and forces us to look at our selves and ask ourselves why".

"What's the best thing that could happen if we go separate ways?"

On working with Anna, she helps divorced parents transition into their new role of co-parents. She teaches her clients how to raise children together in 2 separate homes, they still need to communicate, respect each other, respect each other's private lives, and what needs to be communicated.

The common goal is "to raise beautiful, healthy kids, so you can both go to their wedding".

Anna's Books:

Co-Parenting in Harmony: The Art of Putting Y our Child's Soul First, 2nd Edition

Co-Parenting in Harmony: Creating a Ripple Effect

You can find Anna at www.annagiannone.com. Connect with Anna on Facebook and Twitter.

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From my home to yours,

Val

Well my friends, I have the answer to finding happiness and staying there, and I want to share it with you. I am inviting you to watch me change my world. I am going to show you how you can change your crappy circumstances to happy circumstances and how to do it immediately. While I used to believe that life was supposed to go somewhat smoothly after a person reached adulthood, I have suffered way more than I imagined possible. Of course I admit that my problems are first world problems. I have enough to eat, and shelter and all the basics.

I am single in my 50s, overweight, pretty much broke, facing extreme work stress, feeling fearful thoughts at times, and wishing my divorce process was finalized. I, like you, have wanted all the things. I have desperately wanted the stress of my financial life to abate. I want my loved ones to succeed, be loved, and be connected to others. I want those I love to live free of fear. I want to live in peace. I also want to live free of crushing stress. I also want to be loved. I also want to be connected to others. I want to have financial comfort. I want to be able to stop working so damn hard all the time. So, here is how I am turning my life around, and I am inviting you to not only watch me turn my life around, but to have you, do the same. Here is what I know. The thing about success is that you don’t find success and then be happy. Happy people find success.

So, here is how you turn your life around from crappy to happy. You choose happy now. Right now. This second. And if you slip into feeling not so happy, because you are choosing to focus on your circumstances at any given moment, you go back to the happiness.

You choose to focus on what makes you happy.

Ditch watching stressful shows, news programs and the like. Start filling your mind, heart, and being with stuff you enjoy, positive images, funny shows, things that delight you. Focus on being happy. Just like that. And focus on what make you happy. So, I have chosen to be happy right now. I am choosing to be happy and to enjoy all the little things in life even though the above noted circumstances have not yet changed. Even though the above-noted circumstances have not yet changed, who I am BE-ing has changed. I am happy right now, this second.

This is what I know. Where we put our attention is where things in our life manifest. What do I do that delights me and fill my life with that take nothing in terms of work or extra effort on my part? Stuff I can do right now?

• I walk in the woods
• I watch upbeat shows, never dark ones.
• I listen to audio books that make me feel good in my being.
• I practice gratitude every.
• I look people in the eye.
• I connect with others.
• I get so excited when I hear the sound of the abundant rain falling on the trees.
• I am blown away when I see a patch of sunlight, light up some ground or part of a leaf.
• I get so happy and excited when I see an act of kindness.

But mostly I choose to direct my attention to be happy. And if I start to wallow, as I sometimes do, I change my attention back to that happy place. Here is the thing. By the very act of viewing our world, we physically change our world. Science has proven this to be true. This goes much deeper than “The Secret.” It is not only about us creating abundance by seeing it in our mind’s eye. It is about us creating abundance by expecting it. More importantly, it is about creating abundance because we are already in the flow of abundance. By seeing what is abundant around us. Abundance, happiness, joy, satisfaction is not something that we are waiting for. We are not hoping or asking for an abundant future, but instead we recognize and truly see the abundance in which we live right now. That then manifests our abundance in the now and in our future.

It is what creates our happiness.

I have the same circumstances (except I no longer live with my husband) I did months ago, only now I am happy with them. Before, I felt deeply embroiled in struggle. I am so tremendously totally happy and joyful that I can’t even believe it. I live a life of beauty, love, connection, belonging, and joy. Sure, sometimes I slip into the dark as we all do, but I realize it is up to me to again choose the light. So, instead of focusing on being fatter than I want to be, broker than I want to be, and all of those frustrating things, I focus on all the abundance in which I live:

• I live close to the forest and I can go there almost every day and I love that so much;
• I love the rain, and it is winter, and I can often here the rain pouring upon our earth giving it richness and life;
• I am so very grateful for my amazing daughter who, even though only 15, seems to carry an amazing deep wisdom;
• I am so grateful for the upbringing had which included so much unconditional love;
• I am grateful for the home in which I live;
• I am grateful for how much I love my dog

And the list goes on and on and on.

So, it is that I choose love, joy, abundance, gratitude, and I change my attention when part of my mind tells me I should be stressed.

I am choosing happy. You can too.

Why not look to our world from the place of gratitude and happiness and watch it change. We can choose our happiness in any given moment. We can feed our minds, our souls, our relationships with happiness. How do you make yourself happy? How do you tune into the frequency of happy?

I would love to hear your story.

On the Story:

Do you ever feel you were meant to be more than you are? That you are meant to be more, contribute more, do more? Yes, me too.

So, you get how in our western literature, the hero or heroine, has an arrogance problem perhaps,or some other personal flaw, or some need for learning. Then they are smacked down hard, and go through some pretty intense pain. They then have a realization, reckoning of sorts with something greater than themselves which inspires them to have this amazing growth and comeback? They then come back stronger, and more powerful than ever? Their lives are refreshed and anew, and amazing and powerful.

Well, your life is a story. My life is a story.

Every story has a beginning, a middle and an end. In the beginning (I would say our childhood) we set up our hero (or heroine) and, then unexpected things are thrown at us. Those unexpected things cause us a great deal of heart ache, pain, angst. In essence, we feel buried in all the stress and trouble life has heaped on. But what if you ask what I had been asking. What if you have gone through the crushing pain part, the crushing fear part, and the losing part. You have even gone through the realization part, but still the pain is there. Well, that is what has happened with me so far. Pain, fear, losing, realization, and a new understanding. I have even done the profound realization part. Yet, here I am still me.

Do you ask yourself? What if I am the hero in my story who has not yet arrived?

So, let’s go.

Despite my circumstances not changing much lately, I am still so happy.

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From my home to yours,

Val

Andrea Loewen felt just that way. She felt she was living life on the outside and excluded from the enjoyment everyone else felt until one day, things began to change.

In her book, to be released February 4, 2019, Feeling Better: A Field Guide to Liking Yourself, Andrea shares the concrete practices and habits she developed to teach her brain and heart that she is not, in fact, a useless and repugnant waste of space, but an awesome and wholly valuable person.

Amongst the methods she used to find ways to like herself, she found healing through a gratitude practice. The interesting thing is that her gratitude practice has a beautiful twist. Her gratitude practice not only included a list of three things to be grateful for each day, she also wrote down things that demonstrated her worth, whether that be a show of worth from other people (like people being happy to see her when running into her on the street), or also times when she was proud of how she was showing up in the world (something as small she says as showing up to work on time). She says she started small in terms of what she was able to find to value in herself and as the pages in her journal grew, her appreciation of herself grew at the same time.

She also talks about the role that making things with her hands, crafting, has inspired and fed her journey to self-like and self-love.

For more about Andrea and her products check out her website at: https://andrealoewen.com/
To pre-order Andrea’s book, visit: http://www.feelingbetterbook.com/
Andrea’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/andreatheloewen
Andrea’s Instagram: @feelingbetterguide | https://www.instagram.com/feelingbetterguide/

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From my home to yours,

Val

When I purchased my house eighteen years ago, I was pretty limited on cash. I rented out my spare room and even my dining room. That was the only way that I could make it work. It was a total struggle. Months after I bought the house, I met my husband and fell head over heel. A few more months later, he moved in while I still had other roommates living with me. A friend of my to-be-husband expressed to him that it was weird that I wasn’t getting rid of my roommates.

When we solidify a relationship or gain more success in life, we kind of move away from living cooperatively to living more privately. I thought about this many years before when I was travelling in Europe on a very tight budget: $20 per day. Because of this budget, I had to stay in accommodations with little private space. But because of this, I ended up having a vibrant experience. Sightseeing was cool, but what I really remember from Europe is the connections that I made. I know people who have travelled to Europe on much higher budgets, and because of this, they didn’t really connect with other travellers.

I’ve really tried to get my friends to move into my neighborhood, and to a certain extent, it’s worked. I had a business life coach once, and I was telling her about my neighborhood. She really wished that she had a similar living situation in her life. I am now friends with her on Facebook, and I noticed recently that she has built her family’s dream home. I see that it’s in a suburban neighborhood where there is little chance to run into each other because there is nowhere to walk to. They have a large garage whereas my family parks on the street, partly because it allows us to say hello to anyone who is around when we go to our car. What I see is that my old business coach has made it financially, and yet, her structure of what “making it” is, is about getting that suburban-type home. I wonder if that’s really what is going to make her and her family happy.

What if we spent more time focusing on what was great about being a student, or great about not having a lot of money? In my adult life, though money is less of an issue, I still really gravitate towards living with other people. My brother-in-law lives in our spare room now. We’ve recreated our extended family even though it’s not a financial piece; it’s about human connection.

If we lived more communally with people, I think there’d be less pressure on the spousal relationship and the other relationships. Just having my brother-in-law around makes our home brighter. Sometimes when we’re too tried to cook or to deal with our daughter, he picks up the slack. Everything is a little easier.

I know that my experience in Europe would not have been nearly as rich if I had waited until I had more money and could afford a private hotel. The fact that I was hanging out with other people made that experience so memorable. We can do this in our own lives, even if we’re older.

Today, I want to talk about what we as a culture can do to put divorce lawyers out of work. By the way, I’m a divorce lawyer, and have been working in this industry for more than twenty years.

When people separate, they’ve got to figure some stuff out: how to divide their assets, child support, and spousal support to name a few. I really think you need a divorce lawyer to walk you through that stuff, but this post isn’t about that. However, a huge part of what divorce lawyers fight about is kids. In my law firm, we always believe that going to court is the last place you want to go to when it comes to children. Parents hand over to a judge, who has never met them, the power to make huge decisions about their kids.

When people separate, of course, they’re critical of their ex; if they weren’t, they’d probably still be together. But most of the time, most parents are able to say, “the other parent isn’t perfect, but I know they love my kid.” In my office, we open one to three files per week, but we only do a supreme court trial once or twice a year.

What I’ve noticed is that we have a cultural problem about families separating. People get married, we join two families together, and everything is beautiful. If the parties end up separating, which happens a lot of the time, at least one of the sides usually sees the one family now being torn apart into two different pieces. It creates tension; “now we’re at war with the other side.” At the Hemminger family, where I’m from, people don’t do this. For the most part, we know that if someone was in our family as a spouse, long-term partner, or parent, and things didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean that we must completely turn on the other person.

I was at a mediation recently and what I couldn’t figure out was why one of these parents was so upset about his ex’s family. What really landed for me during this mediation was that this guy, when he became engaged to the mother of his child, was part of a family; part of something bigger. When the relationship broke down with who he thought was going to be his wife, her family completely shut the door on his face. I’m sure they have their narrative about why that happened, but here’s the thing: these parties have now gone on and spent a bunch of money on legal fees. Finally, we ended up at a mediation where they both spent a bunch more money, but they at least have an agreement.

What ended up happening was instead of him getting to say “okay, my child is part of this other family, and you know what? My son’s going to be in really good hands.” Yes, they will do a good job, and they’re still imperfect like the rest of us are. At the same time, instead of him seeing the big picture, all he could go back to was “we’re split now. They have their troops and I have mine, and we’re going to go to war with each other.”

As a culture, it would be better if we saw separation between parties as “this family is not moving forward the way we expected it to move forward, but it is still going to move forward and we’re going to do what we can to see the good parts in others.” What do you think would happen if everyone did that? If everybody was able to open their hearts regardless of how things turned out? I think a big part of what makes divorce law seem so tense would simply lessen, and that would result in people keeping more money. Just saying.

I love my iPhone just as much, if not more, than the next guy. The digital world and the progress that we have made as human beings is so good. But the thing is, our ancestors did a lot of things that provided so many benefits. If we could bring those strengths and benefits to our current world, a lot of us would be healthier, happier, and would enjoy life more.

For example, let’s talk about when people started farming. When it was time to bring in the wheat, people gathered together to bring in the harvest. When a barn needed to be built, people would gather together to do so. I was at a friend’s house the other day. She was getting a dock built and needed a gathering of people to lift it. As I saw all these people raising up this heavy structure and working together, in reminded me of what out ancestors did.

While I really crave hanging out with other people, I do find it really challenging to just sit there and sip tea; I want to be doing stuff with my hands. Recently, I’ve been going to a friend’s house and helping her go through old cupboards and drawers to organize her home. I’ve found that I’ve gotten a lot of pleasure from that.

If you already have lots going on, one of the things to remember is that even if we just do a chore with a friend, doing it together can be such a neat way of spending time together. You get the job done and, at the same time, you get that connection of hanging out with someone. I ended up going home one night after organizing the house and thinking about how I was so satisfied and happy. It was because I accomplished something, I was helping a friend out, and I got to bond with some more friends who were also helping.

It’s such a neat thing to be able to spend time with other people. In our busy world, our digital world, we’re kind of losing that ability of just hanging out and getting stuff done. But what we do know, and what science proves, is that being in the presence of other human beings makes us happier.

Who would have thought? We’re social creatures.

For many of us who are getting to be middle-aged, or older than that, our kids don’t need us like they used to. When I look at my family environment, I realize that over the years when I’ve come home from work, it’s been so easy to just binge on Netflix or get on Facebook rather than connecting with my child or spouse.

Even though we’re more digitally connected than we’ve ever been, loneliness is on the rise. I’ve looked at my life and realized how consumed I was in my work. When I come home from work a lot of times, my brain feels so fried to the point that I don’t have a lot of energy left for my family. I’ve let that narrative impact my whole life, and now I’m realizing that the most important thing is connecting with the people we love.

As human beings, we are social creatures. Our ancestors really strived by living with other people. My mom was a stay at home mom, and she was in charge of making sure that Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, etc. happened; she was the gatherer of everyone. I feel the same responsibility in my family. It’s up to me to ensure that those connections and gatherings happen.

I’ve always procrastinated and told myself “yeah, yeah, I’ll get to that.” What’s happened is that I look at my life, and my age, and realize that there’s so much that I haven’t got around to doing:I didn’t become super buff, I didn’t become as interesting as I wanted to become, and I didn’t travel as much as I wanted, and here I am. 51-years-old and wondering if my life has passed me by.

It hasn’t. I did Landmark Forum (a weekend-long life transformation event) years ago, and they have this expression: “living on the court.” The one thing that really stuck with me from Landmark is that I haven’t lived my life on the court in certain ways. Sure, on the outside I look pretty successful: I have a small law practice, I have a beautiful home, and there’s no question about those things. However, I’ve also lived on the sidelines in so many ways.

I live on the water, and although it’s cold, my family goes swimming in it almost every day in the summer. Because I have body issues, I’ve hardly gone in the water at all in the eighteen years I’ve been living in this house. What kind of tragedy is that? I’ve stood on the sidelines while I’m too shy or insecure to get into the water along with everyone else.

I have some friends who live in my neighborhood and they have three kids. This family lives on the court! The husband and wife go out to art events all the time. The kids travel with their parents. They swim every day in the water. I think about how often I think that I’m too tired to focus on having conversations and that it’s so easy to dive into Netflix. Yet, look at this family. The other night, they invited us over for supper. Next thing you know, we’re sitting around the table and telling stories. There was a vibrant energy.

While people who know me might say that I’m always in action, I think I could do better. Now, at 51-years-old, I’m really jumping into that role of matriarch for my family. I’m not going to allow the story of being tired or overwhelmed to burden me or stop me from connecting with the people who are most important in my life.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open  

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open  

Listen to today's podcast for inspiration, and a sweet story about how my step-daughter recently made my whole week. 

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

10 Easy Ways To Connect When You're Feeling Disconnected And Overwhelmed
1. Do a Puzzle
2. Play Cards
3. Grab a Cuppa
4. Make Food With Someone You Care About
5. Throw a Potluck
6. Host an Awesome Soup Saturday
7. Craft!
8. Bake
9. Go For a Picnic
10. Go For A Walk

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

In this podcast, I share my top-10 list of not-so-big-steps that we can take to stave off lonely, create relationships, and in general, grow our own happiness! These ideas are specifically for busy, tired people who want more human connections in their lives.

Links: 

Susan Pinker TED Talk: The Secret To Living Longer May Be In Your Social Life

https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_pinker_the_secret_to_living_longer_may_be_your_social_life

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Hosting a potluck is my favourite go-to when I need to reconnect and I'm too busy or overwhelmed with life to organize a formal dinner party. Listen to this week's podcast is all about where the word "potluck" came from, and shares ideas on how to throw one without adding to your busy schedule.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Part 5: Forgiveness talks about how adopting a Forgiveness Practice can help you to find the answers - and the power - within yourself to rebuild a life of happiness and fulfillment.   

Links

Antidote To Crushing Heartache ~ Part 1: Hope & Understanding

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 2: Weaving Your Social Fabric

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 3: Keeping Track Of What’s Important

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 4: Finding Fulfillment

The Journey Is Too Painful To Go Alone: Why I Recommend Counselling To My Divorce Clients

The Happiness Advantage - Shawn Achor

Ho’oponopono Forgiveness Practice

Master Sha’s Forgiveness Practice

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

Part 4: Finding Fulfillment talks about why it can be easy to fall into a well of sadness and loneliness, and the steps you can take to pull yourself back out (or to prevent it altogether!).

Links

Antidote To Crushing Heartache ~ Part 1: Hope & Understanding

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 2: Weaving Your Social Fabric

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 3: Keeping Track Of What’s Important

The Journey Is Too Painful To Go Alone: Why I Recommend Counselling To My Divorce Clients

The Happiness Advantage - Shawn Achor

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

Part 3: Keeping Track Of What’s Important shares two key tools - a Gratitude Journal and a Connections Journal. Your Gratitude Journal, if you write in it every day, can create a feedback loop of positivity in your life! Your Connections Journal is your own daily inspiration to weave the rich social fabric that I talked about in Part 2.

Links

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 1: Hope & Understanding

Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak ~ Part 2: Weaving Your Social Fabric

The Journey Is Too Painful To Go Alone: Why I Recommend Counselling To My Divorce Clients

The Happiness Advantage - Shawn Achor

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

Part 2: Weaving Your Social Fabric focuses on the importance of getting off social media, reconnecting with family and friends, and developing meaningful relationships with people who share your interests.

Links

Antidote To Crushing Heartache ~ Part 1: Hope & Understanding

The Journey Is Too Painful To Go Alone: Why I Recommend Counselling To My Divorce Clients

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

This five-part series, called The Antidote To Crushing Heartbreak, captures the wisdom of my clients and puts it into a strategic guide for anyone struggling to overcome the aching loneliness of divorce or separation.

Part 1: Hope & Understanding helps to put into perspective why the pain is so intense, and shares the inspiring story of one client who suffered incredibly - and who now leads a rewarding and fulfilling life.

Links

Susan Pinker - The Village Effect https://www.susanpinker.com/

Why We Recommend Counselling To Our Divorce Clients - https://www.hemmingerlawgroup.com/divorce-and-counselling.html

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

This is what can happen when we become overwhelmed by stress. Our reaction to stress can make it hard for us to be present with our loved ones, with our kids, our spouses and our friends.

This week’s episode is all about building a moat around our ourselves and protecting our personal space, so that we can remain present, happy, and healthy.

 “We may not have the power to control our world, but we do have the power to defend the good within it.” - Shawn Achor, author of Big Potential

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

At the time, Val felt a sense of shame or embarrassment that she would need to have help from others. We have a culture that teaches us to be independent, but this may not be the best thing for us.

Val now realizes now that it’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s what we all need. Working together and having connections in life is important for each and every one of us.

Links:

Big Potential by Shawn Achor

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Candy and her ex-partner have even been able to do things together as a family, for the sake of the child, even though each parent lives in a different home and there is no romantic relationship.

Links:

WorkLink - WorkBC Employment Services Centre

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Gezelligheid is a Dutch word that relates to the heart. It encompasses the heart of Dutch culture. Val is currently visiting Haarlem in the Netherlands and experiencing Gezelligheid first-hand. It’s the effort people make to make others feel comfy, cozy and wanting to stay. It’s a lot like Hygge, but more social.

The concept is more about a feeling, rather than words to describe it. In this episode, Val talks about her experience with Gezelligheid and how we can apply it to our lives in North America.

Links:

How to say Gezelligheid

Gezelligheid vs Hygge

Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking

Jopenkerk Pub

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Today, we explore the idea further, specifically how you can use Hygge to create community and family connections that will help you thrive. Hygge helps us provide a cultural framework, or canvas, upon which we can develop the Hygge personal experiences.

Danes don’t expect Hygge to come to them. They create it. They create it purposefully and do so consciously. Like everything that matters, there is an effort involved, and it is a priority. They do this with their relationships also. Using Hygge they purposefully create their relationships.

 Links:

Iben Sandahl The Danish Way of Parenting

Sandahl being interviewed for How To Be Married

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

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Book: The Hygge Life: Embracing the Nordic Art of Coziness

Homemade Hot Chocolate Recipe:

In this episode, Val explains why it’s worth it to make this effort, how much her life has been enriched by making connections, and examples of things you can do to make these connections with other people.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Humans are biochemically dependent on socializing, and need a village, or a community of people, in order to thrive. And this doesn't mean social media. While Facebook does help us keep in touch, it's face-to-face interactions that create the meaningful connections we crave.

Book: The Village Effect - Susan Pinker

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Listen as Val shares the story of Michael who was adopted by another family, despite being loved by the Hemminger family. Even after many years apart, the strong connection, created by love, never faded.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

In this episode, Val Hemminger discusses creating new threads and strengthening those you have already. By making an effort to grow your threads, you’ll feel the fabric of life strengthen and become richer as time goes on.

Please comment and share how you develop connections and “threads” of your own!

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Val Hemminger explains that even a simple walk around the neighborhood can lead to new friendships, connections, and quality time with loved ones.

It doesn’t have to be a huge undertaking, just a simple walk will do! Val walks with her daughter, which creates quality time and conversation together that wouldn’t have happened otherwise.

Val issues a challenge to you: get out there and make some connections!

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Please leave a comment and share some of your own!

Links from this episode:

Ho’oponopono

Mark’s Daily Apple

Master Sha Divine Healer

 
Books:

The Primal Blueprint by Mark Sisson

The Leader Who Had No Title by Robin Sharma

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma

Move Your DNA by Katy Bowman

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Tribes: We Need You To Lead Us by Seth Godin

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

For the second part of this episode, Val discusses fostering community connections. When searching for a place to live, it’s common to admire a home for its beautiful flooring and spacious kitchen, but how about a common area where people can gather? A yard, park, or even neighborhood shared space can allow families and friendships to grow. In order for community connections to develop, we must lay the groundwork.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Val shares a story explaining how she did just this and ended up making a new friend. You benefit by bringing others into your world, and by being part of theirs. Plus, being kind and authentic is enjoyable!

There are actions you can take to help form connections and create more time with loved ones, whether it’s a family game night or a camping trip. Camping seems like it may be a hassle and so far from the comforts of home, but there’s a big reason why most of us enjoy it so much.

What are your suggestions for creating more connections? Please leave a comment!

Kate Galliett - Meaningful Human Connection:
http://whole9life.com/2015/05/meaningful-human-connection/

Wildplay at Victoria:
http://wildplay.com/victoria/

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Val was delighted when part of her wardrobe transformed from dorky to cool, thanks to a friend’s mom. However, Val’s own mother was not so impressed.

In the end, neither Val or her mom won the war of the shorts, but we learn a great lesson on the importance of community and neighbors, as opposed to being limited to the nuclear family.

How do we create community now, when we have so much less opportunity? Leave a comment below with your thoughts! 

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Val also share’s an inspiring story about the “ideal” divorce when children are involved. It may be a difficult and painful situation, but each parent needs to put their differences aside for the sake of the child. Competition and fighting between parents is not ideal, but the opposite, a supportive and harmonious environment, will allow the child to flourish.

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open 

Val discusses the importance of community and friendship, whether you apply it to raising children, knowing your neighbors, or other areas of life. This is something that our ancestors thrived off of. We can learn some other valuable lessons from our ancestors, such as the paleo way of living, eating whole natural food, and moving rather than sitting for long periods.

In this episode, you'll also hear about why, during a divorce, it's not necessary for the entire family to divorce a person. Even though the marriage that may have introduced you is ending, there are many reasons for the family to remain in touch. Val explains this using a story from her own life. 

Resources:

Move your DNA by Katy Bowman

Tribes by Seth Godin

The Paleo Solution by Rob Wolf

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Val Hemminger is a mother, lawyer, and person who loves to connect with other humans. For a daily dose of Your Family Village you can follow her on valhemminger.com and on the Your Family Village Facebook page. 

Connect with those you live with and love, create and develop more meaningful friendships. Get Val Hemminger's Free eBook: The Door Is Always Open