Nicole Schwarz, LMFT

Encouraging kids to listen: A Guide for Parents

nicoleschwarz — Fri, 27 Jan 2023 11:49:15 +0000

Kids won’t listen? Feeling ignored? This guide will help you understand why your kids aren’t listening and what you can do to encourage them to listen well. In my parent coaching sessions, getting kids to listen is the #1 concern. Parents share these complaints: My kids ignore me. My kids won’t do what I ask unless I threaten to take something away or give them

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When Kids Get Aggressive: A Guide For Parents

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 11:38:28 +0000

Parenting a child who hits, kicks, bites, or hurts others can feel overwhelming and confusing. This guide will give you an overview of how to support your child when they are aggressive, and help them learn how to manage their big feelings without aggression. “How can we get our 5-year-old to stop hitting?” “My three-year-old kicks me, sometimes without warning!” “I can’t leave my twins

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Helping Your Child Manage Anxiety: A Guide for Parents

nicoleschwarz — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 18:38:46 +0000

If you are unsure how to help your anxious child, this guide will give you an overview of how the brain impacts your child’s anxiety and tips to help them manage anxious feelings with your support! Sometimes anxiety is a tiny nagging voice in the back of your mind asking, “did you turn off the oven before you left the house this morning?” Sometimes, anxiety

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How to respectfully respond to your child’s disrespect and defiance

nicoleschwarz — Tue, 01 Feb 2022 11:54:48 +0000

Use this list of tips to address your child’s defiance and disrespect in a way that keeps the relationship strong. “You can’t make me.” He stands defiantly, arms crossed. In the past, you may have yelled, “How dare you talk to me like that young man, get to your room!” And when he refused, you would have added, “And no more video games this week!”

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Tricky Social Situations: 5 ways to empower kids

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 17 Jan 2022 12:51:33 +0000

Don’t assume your child knows what to do or say at the next family gathering, friend’s birthday party, or other social situation. Prepare them in advance using these tips. A few weeks before Christmas, I asked my kids, “What would you say if someone gave you a gift you didn’t really like?” They looked at me wide-eyed and confused. Can we say something? Is that

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7 Tips to raise independent kids

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 20 Dec 2021 10:58:36 +0000

7 tips that encourage your child to become more independent doing chores, completeing homework, practicing critical thinking, and making good choices. “I’m wearing dirty pants today because I need to do laundry,” my daughter announces as she comes into the kitchen for breakfast. I wait a beat. “I’ll do it after school,” she adds, pouring a bowl of cereal. My kids start doing their own

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13 Ways to Stay Calm When Your Child is Upset

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 06 Dec 2021 10:31:09 +0000

It can be hard to stay calm when your child is upset, anxious, angry, or sad. Read through this list to find 13 ways to practice calm, confident parenting. I did not start out being an especially calm, patient parent. It took years of practice, therapy, and lots of deep breaths. And guess what? There are still times when I lose my cool, yell, or

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Reduce Shame: 21 Things Your Child Needs To Hear

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 22 Nov 2021 10:39:05 +0000

Is your child stuck in the “I’m a bad kid” cycle? Caregivers can reduce the effects of shame, using these phrases to remind your child that they are seen, known, and loved. Shame is a powerful force. It sends the message that you are not worthy of love. It tells us we should hide our true selves because people would reject us if we were

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10 things I love about having older kids (Tweens and Teenagers)

nicoleschwarz — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 10:45:07 +0000

Raising tweens and teenagers can be challenging, but there are a lot of amazing things about this stage too! Read this list and then create your own. If there’s one phrase I would like to eliminate from our vocabulary, it is “just wait until they’re older.” Being a mom of three girls, I hear this phrase often. But as my kids grow, I struggle to

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25 Alternatives to Timeouts, Grounding, and Taking Things Away

nicoleschwarz — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 16:19:33 +0000

Change the way you think about discipline! These 25 parenting tips focus on positive, respectful, age-appropriate alternatives. When it comes to discipline, it’s easy to feel stuck. We’re told to use timeouts, grounding, bribes, taking things away, and even spanking, but nothing seems to make a difference. Maybe we’ve been thinking about discipline all wrong. Rather than trying to find ways to “control” our kids

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