Getting on top of “I can’t keep up,” with Pro EFT starts with you telling your story just as it is. Trying to minimize the “I can’t keep up” story will often make things worse. First list the problem, effects, goal, and obstacles in you way. Then measure the limiting beliefs, painful emotions, dysfunctional urges to react or be blocked, and the upsetting sensations you are feeling in your body. Let what ever comes to mind be the words you are going to tap on. Include all the poorly stated thoughts as well the enlightened corrections your conscious mind wants to replace them with.  Louise Hay made this point very well when she said, “if you are going to clean a house, you have to see the dirt.”

A classic mistake is to try to ignore and overpower your upsetting thoughts and urges. When you make this mistake, your protective imprinting will often bring up a whole host of additional limiting beliefs such as “I should be able to do this,” or “I am lazy,” or “I don’t deserve it.”

Acknowledge the reality that we expect ourselves to do more than is humanly possible

Another step in getting on top of “I can’t keep up,” with Pro EFT is to list the number of things a person is expecting themselves to do. When repeating the list back, clients often break out laughing as they realize that they are expecting the impossible from themselves.

Humans are terrible estimators

Humans are terrible estimators, yet we expect ourselves and others to meet those expectations. This creates huge amounts of stress. At the beginning of a project we know less about the project than any other time, yet that is the time we create our expectations of how it should go. The bigger the project, the bigger the errors are. Really loving and accepting that part of us that still expects us to meet those estimates, goes a long way to allowing us to let the estimates go.

Love and accept that ancient part of us 

Two Hadzabe men in Tanzania walking, carrying bows and today’s catch. Two dogs follow them. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Our ancient hunter gatherer ancestors would not have understood the concept of not enough time. Even in the harshest of natural conditions, subsistence took far less time then the hours we are expected to work today. Hunting and gathering is something people enjoy doing. The indigenous people played and rested a lot more than modern humans do.

They never had to file paperwork, balance ledgers, pay taxes, get all the kids to the after school activities, and report to a higher authority. Existence was a cooperative effort with plenty of time to rest and recreate.

The one thing that would have been terrifying to our ancestors was the phrase “I can’t keep up.”  Not being able to keep up with your group could well be a death sentence. Fast forward a few millennia into our modern world and the thought I can’t keep up still produces incredible levels of stress.

We have an ancient epigenetic memory inside of us, not keeping up is terrifying. Not keeping up is not actually a matter of survival in our modern world. I remember chuckling at a line a presenter said when asked what his lifetime goal was, it was “to finish unpacking!” When getting on top of “I can’t keep up,” with Pro EFT, we acknowledge our epigenetic memories from our hunter gatherer past. We also let the unconscious mind know that much of what is on our never ending to do lists, are not a matter of survival.

Explore the reasons why we want to do so much

The most common reason we do things is to be happy. Let the unconscious see that making ourselves unhappy stressing about keeping up, so we can be happy, is not the best plan. In other words, we are making ourselves unhappy in order to be happy. Often just repeating the steps of your personal pattern a few times in a row will take the charge out.

Tap in directly what you really want

When the charges are low enough, then we can tap in what we really want. If you want to feel happy, tap in “I want to feel happy.” You can use Dr. Patricia Carrington’s “Choices Method” or Lindsay Kenny’s “Golden Gate Technique.” Here at the Pro EFT Center, my clients and I tap using a version of the Golden Gate technique. We also include Dr Carol Look’s “I love it when tapping,” as well as Dr Patricia Carrington’s “Resource Tapping.” This makes a very powerful and positive tapping sequence to take home with you.   Getting on top of “I can’t keep up,” with Pro EFT is so much easier now because of the contributions of these EFT Masters.

Get help when you need it

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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EFT is wonderful at tapping away your painful past. Because Pro EFT is so effective you may be tempted to push yourself or your client into the painful memories. This very bad idea is based on the belief that your current problems are because of your first trauma. We reason that A led to B which led to C which must be causing our problem D. The logical and linear solution is to go back to the trauma and fix the original cause. As practitioners we run the risk of causing the client to suffer yet another trauma.   Neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT  requires being receptive and gentle. This is true whether we are tapping on ourselves or with a client in a session.

Human biology is much more complex than our theories

A classic mistake in science is to make believe we know the whole picture. When people get caught up in categorical thinking they often end up causing great harm. It is very important to keep in mind that what we think we know is always a portion of what really exists. The 100 billion or so neurons in our brain may have up to 200,000 connections for each neuron. The possible ways they may be connecting is beyond human comprehension. In truth we don’t know. Tapping is journey of discovery that is quite unique to every person.

Allow the story to unfold on its own

I have helped clients tap down being traumatized by some expert more times than I can count. The expert had them re experience their trauma which was supposed to help them move on. It is way better to let the story unfold on its own. Gently neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT is the best option for tapping down through the layers. The unconscious mind will tell you what you need to tap on and when you need to tap on it.

Start by tapping down what the client wanted to work on

When a client wants to eliminate a dysfunctional reaction, I don’t ask where it came from. We tap on the thoughts, emotions, reactions, and body sensations they are experiencing now. Searching for the oldest painful experience runs the risk of becoming a new painful event. Our goal is to relieve and eliminate feeling awful, not conquering our past experiences.  Tapping away the metaphorical layers of the onion will reveal what ever it is that needs be tapped on.

The unconscious mind links things together in multiple ways

Linear time lines are great for the conscious mind to intellectually explain things. In the unconscious mind, the time lines don’t necessarily connect in chronological order. The connections are not always logical. For example, I had a client tapping on her own personal income glass ceiling. Spontaneously she mentioned her fear of snakes during the process. We put the fear of snakes reaction into the tapping dialogue about the glass ceiling problem. Several years later she mentioned that she had nearly stepped on a snake and felt no fear at all. The snake was slithering away as fast as it could. In her unconscious mind, the fear of snakes was linked to her fear of success. Now both fears are gone. We didn’t have to relive some now forgotten trauma around snakes.

Empower the client to choose to work on something later

As your issues come up the well trained practitioner may want to finish them off now. The urge comes up to follow those steps just like in the training. When the person tapping doesn’t want to go there, gently back out. Promise the part that is hurting that we will return, when we are ready. Teach yourself and your clients that you can go as far as you want, for as long as you want. We are empowering ourselves to be in charge of the one person we can be in charge of, ourselves! Neutralizing your painful past with Pro EFT is a gentle with high effectiveness practice.

Get help when you need it

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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English: A metaphorical visualization of the word Anger. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Discover the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger

Anger is a special case in Pro EFT Center tapping. Anger brings out the worst behaviors in human beings. Because of this, there is no emotion that is more vilified than anger. There isn’t a psych diagnosis for anger per se. Instead we have a whole host of disorders that are all about the behaviors that angry aggressive people do to us. In order to effectively tap away your anger with Pro EFT it is extremely helpful to know what anger looks like in empathetic, caring people.

Healthy anger makes something change

The whole anger continuum from the mildest annoyance to rage is about making your external environment change. When somebody mistreats us, it is natural to feel hurt and then angry. But those of us with a conscience feel bad when we get angry at someone.

Being with an understanding person vs a person who means to hurt you

We may decide to try to pursue understanding with the person who hurt us. We attempt to politely tell them how we are feeling hurt. This is a great plan with someone who truly cares for you.

When the person who hurt you enjoys being aggressive, they will likely attack you again, espcially for having hurt feelings. You get the message that feeling hurt is not allowed. You might decide to go the other route and get angry at them. Then they attack you for being angry. You are then accused of being too sensitive. You shouldn’t take it personally. They were just joking. Where is your sense of humor? I am always walking on eggshells around you. I guess I can never say what I am really thinking around you. etc. You end up being imprinted with a no win scenario that continues the battle inside of you. The person who hurt you no longer needs to be in the room to make you stressed out.

Eliminate arguing with yourself

The solution is to love and accept the parts of us that are arguing back and forth. The part that wants to be angry and the part that feels bad when we get angry. Sometimes it really helps to keep tapping, “I should have said something,” and then, “I shouldn’t have let them get to me,” over and over again. When we are learning to tap away feeling angry with Pro EFT, we often do this until we start giggling. When that happens we reach true acceptance of both points of view. At that wonderful point of true self acceptance, the person who is being abusive loses much of their ability to take control of your emotions.

Tap in feeling in control directly

Another aspect of anger is feeling in control. This is especially true when someone is making you feel bad. Aggressive and uncaring people often belittle people to feel in control. This is emotional abuse. Some even are physically and sexually assaultive, which destroys the victimized person’s ability to feel in control. Anger would seem like the perfect emotion to give us back that sense of control.

The problem with anger happens when your anger doesn’t change anything. Then your anger eats you alive. Chronic anger, whether expressed or repressed, is the principle emotional cause of physical illness. It disrupts every healing function in the body. We very effectively tap away your anger with Pro EFT by tapping in feeling in control, without having to be angry.

Reverse that bad effects of anger in your body

Tapping has been found to turn on 72 genes  that cause:  “suppression of cancer tumors, protection against the sun’s ultraviolet radiation, type 2 diabetes insulin resistance, immunity from opportunistic infections, antiviral activity, synaptic connectivity between neurons, creation of both red and white blood cells, enhancement of male fertility, building white matter in the brain, metabolic regulation, neural plasticity, strengthening cell membranes, and reducing oxidative stress.” This is a partial list. Use your Pro EFT Center tapping to take your body back physically and emotionally at the same time.

Venting your anger to get rid of it doesn’t work

I would also like to include the ever present belief that venting your anger is a healthy activity. Far from it. Venting your anger outwardly programs you to be ever more angry. It steals your self control away from you. This absurd belief was championed by Nobel Laureate Konrad Lorenz. He called it the Psychohydraulic Model of human behavior. He was eventually found out as the monster he really was, but his thinking still strongly influenced psychology in the 20th Century. As Robert Sapolsky points out in his Behavioral Biology lectures at Stanford, Lorenz was  a Nazi Propagandist. In Pro EFT Center sessions we dissipate the energy charging up your anger, while validating that you have every right to feel that way. Then your anger stops harming you.

Recognize anger early and take effective action 

Instead of repressing your anger, we tap in having the beginnings of anger stimulate effective action instead. That way your mild annoyances and irritations do not build up until you explode. This is a perfect way to prove to you, that you value yourself. Programming in effective action instead of getting more angry, is a very effective way to tap away your anger with Pro EFT.

Get help when you need it

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced, Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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When you can’t seem to get over a big loss in your life, it can be very discouraging. There are even psychotherapists who believe you never get over a loss. Getting over the loss you can’t get over with Pro EFT requires really feeling listened to and understood. Quite often it also requires some knowledge of how to grieve effectively.

Recognize when you are grieving

Sometimes we have a moment when the tears form in our eyes. This is your body grieving. We often run right past the thought that is so painful.  This blocks the grieving part of us from truly feeling heard. In order to grieve the sadness effectively, we need to ask ourselves what thought brought us to tears. When we know the thought we can acknowledge, love, and accept that thought and tap that painful loss out of our body.

Grieving is about feeling understood

It is important to realize that the grieving thought is not about providing information. It is about feeling understood on a gut level. We tap on the same thought until we feel resolved, bored, or clear. When you feel understood on a gut level, getting over the loss you can’t get over with Pro EFT becomes so much easier.

Don’t force yourself

I never try to stimulate grief in a client. I strongly advise you don’t do this in yourself either. The body will let you know if and when it is ready to grieve. It will do this by bringing tears to your eyes.

Feel really listened to first

Not allowing effective grieving is not the only reason we can’t let go of a loss. Sometimes we need to tell the story until we really feel listened to. A classic EFT mistake is to recognize something that could be tapped on and stop the client from talking. Then we start tapping on that aspect before a person really feels understood. Sometimes I do sessions without ever having time to measure the symptoms 1 to 10. We skip using the Karate Chop point, Sore Spot, or setting up a reversal. We tap while the client says what they need to say. Only then do we move onto the standard Pro EFT techniques.

When tapping on yourself, treat yourself like a client. If you need to keep talking and tapping, do that first. Your results will improve exponentially. Getting over the loss you can’t get over with Pro EFT can only happen when you feel really listened to and understood.

Get help when you need it

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced, Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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You have at your fingertips, the power to tap away feeling depressed with Pro EFT. As with anxiety, calling many different things depression can make tapping it away seem impossible. The 8 psychiatric disorders associated with the emotion depression are often just called depression. This leads to a lot of confusion. In orthodox 20th century psychiatry labeling people with a diagnosis is important. It provides a vehicle to determine what pharmaceutical drug to give. Averaging symptoms to create a label creates  all sorts of problems in real people. We are all different from each other in many ways. Pro EFT Center tapping scripts do the opposite of labeling. Keep it simple. Tap on what you are experiencing. That is what really matters.

Address your specific problems

The EFT concept of being specific makes your tapping much more effective. Write out exactly how you are feeling, thinking, and reacting. Rate the symptoms from 1 to 10. Emphasize the symptoms that are most severe first in your setup/reversal statements.

Love and accept all aspects of you

One of the very basics of all Meridian Tapping is to love and accept ourselves anyway. At the Pro EFT Center we think that includes loving and accepting the part that makes you feel depressed. The more you love and accept all of you, the more completely you will heal.

Have all the parts of you feel truly understood

We feel understood when another person cares enough to really get our point of view. Feeling understood is the most important factor in any kind of treatment. It is really helpful to understand what the depressed part of you is trying to do. When all the aspects of you feel understood, those parts will become a much more willing partner.

Recognize the advantages of feeling depressed

Depression makes us keep our head down instead of lashing out angrily. If you grew up in a household with an angry parent, your getting angry would have been severely punished. You had every right to feel angry, but you paid a price for expressing it out loud. Your body learned to use your anger to shut you down. With this insight you can be grateful that shutting yourself down protected you. This insight empowers you to gently tap away feeling depressed with Pro EFT techniques.

Another advantage of depression is making you hold still. When you are sick, your immune system will force you to rest. It does this to give yourself an opportunity to heal. Acknowledging the need to slow down and take care of yourself is very healing. It empowers you to tap in taking care of yourself without having to feel depressed.

Feeling depressed can lead to increased introspection and problem solving. Love and accept your body’s attempt to get you to solve the problem. That will really help that part of you let go of the dysfunctional pattern of feeling depressed in order to solve problems. Then you can tap in the instructions to solve the problem without having to feel depressed.

Tap away feeling depressed with Pro EFT then tap in how you want to react

When you are creating your set up and reversal statements, see if you can find the specific advantage that feeling depressed is attempting to do for you. Also acknowledge what feeling depressed is doing that you don’t like. When you do both of these in your set up statements you will be much more successful. As you tap away feeling depressed with Pro EFT you can tap in going straight to the positive results.

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced, Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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tap away feeling overwhelmed with Pro EFT

At the Pro EFT Center we have a simple solution. If you are feeling overwhelmed we tap on feeling overwhelmed. If you are feeling anxious we tap on feeling anxious. The only important perspective when tapping a painful emotion down is your perspective. Tapping while calling what you are feeling by your name for it is infinitely more effective than trying to pigeon hole yourself into something you have read somewhere.

The basic set up and reversal tapping statements all include loving and accepting ourselves as we are. Really loving and accepting yourself means loving and accepting the parts of you that make you feel overwhelmed.

But who can accept feeling overwhelmed? As Carl Jung said so many years ago, what we resist persists. The more we don’t accept that part of us, the more that part of us feels even more overwhelmed. In all Meridian Tapping we love and accept ourselves anyway. At the Pro EFT Center we specifically are loving and accepting those parts of us that feel overwhelmed.

If you would really like to supercharge your setup/reversal statements, recognize what the feeling overwhelmed is trying to do for you. Then we can really zero in on the dysfunctional reaction we are trying to change. When we really understand what the dysfunctional reaction is trying to do, it is so much easier to specifically love and accept that part of us.

Feeling overwhelmed tends to paralyze us from taking effective action. If we want to truly love and accept that part that makes us feel overwhelmed, we need to accept that there are times that taking no action is the best decision.

Feeling overwhelmed helps us to realize that we are taking on too much. People pleasing people are wonderful people except when they stop pleasing themselves. Loving and accepting that part of us that is trying to signal, however awkwardly that we have taken on too much, is wonderful. Then we can honor that part of us that is trying to get us to put ourselves back on the list of people we take care of. After all, taking care of people is something we are really good at.

Feeling overwhelmed keeps us from consciously feeling emotions that are too painful to deal with. This is a great buffer until we can tap down the intensities of those painful emotions as well. Tapping in your appreciation for the part that doesn’t want you to feel all of these awful emotions helps you toward real self acceptance.

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with a certified, advanced, Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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If you don’t see anxiety as an emotion, there are several competing explanations of what anxiety actually is. If you have various body sensations like elevated pulse rate then that is anxiety. Others identify anxiety as a group of negative limiting beliefs. All of this differing information is enough to give you anxiety. It has become more and more difficult for the layman and healthcare practitioner alike to have a straightforward way to target the dysfunctional anxiety we want to get rid of.

Despite what many of us have been told, anxiety is not genetic. It is a learned response that helps us avoid bad things like being abandoned by our tribe. We can learn it from inside the womb onward.  When your anxiety emotions are intense enough, the unconscious mind will record that response and put it into your automatic reactions. After a response is recorded, the unconscious mind resists with all of its might to have you record over it. It would be awful if you accidentally recorded over the ability to walk, drive a car, or being warned to stay away from things that might hurt you.

When we tap on the Pro EFT Center tapping points, we increase the intensity of our comforting emotions. When these comforting emotions get intense enough, the unconscious mind turns on the record button just like when it imprints from intense negative emotions. When you verbalize your anxiety pattern while in this super comforting state, you start erasing the dysfunctional anxiety response.

You can develop the skills to tap away your anxiety with Pro EFT very effectively. The different forms of EFT are wonderful at reducing anxiety. The problem is that complex dysfunctional anxiety can be quite difficult to eliminate. In order to really get rid of anxiety you need to learn how anxiety works biologically.

Most of us know anxiety is there to protect us. We just don’t know how it protects us. You may have noticed the more anxious you feel, the less you accomplish. That is precisely what the emotion anxiety is for. It strongly motivates you to avoid things. Unfortunately, the unconscious mind can’t evaluate the overall results of making you anxious. It just waits for a cue to start your personal anxiety protocol.

Once your body has developed that habit of feeling anxiety for certain triggers, it will keep doing that until you change the recording to get anxious when exposed to this trigger. It is really helpful to acknowledge what the anxiety is trying to do for you. The more you send the signal to the unconscious mind that you get the message, the less that part of your mind will feel the need to make you feel anxious. That is a huge part of the reason why we say I love and accept myself anyway in our tapping setup. We don’t say I want to completely avoid the anxious part of me which I do not like or accept at all. We need to keep in mind that the body makes us feel anxious when we want to avoid something. When we attempt to avoid anxiety, our body creates more anxiety to help us avoid the anxiety. This is not a good plan:-)

The next time you are attempting to tap away your anxiety with Pro EFT, remember anxiety is attempting to help you. The more you can acknowledge this with a calm love and acceptance, the more completely the dysfunctional anxiety pattern will leave your body.

If the emotions are too intense, or the aspects you are suffering from are too complex, we always recommend doing some private sessions with an certified, advanced, Pro EFT practitioner.

Wishing you the best tapping success ever,

Bill

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In this wonderful podcast with Betsy Pake of Start Small, Live Big. You can listen to how we relieve your emotional pain and limiting beliefs with Pro EFT. Here is the link.

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Dysfunctional reactions are often a much more complex problem than a simple issue. Being very specific with your simple issue works wonderfully. This classic concept of being specific is very important in complex issues as well. But how do you know what to tap on with a complex issue?

We have complex biological reactions built into our fight or flight stress reponse. These responses are naturally programmed into us when we are young and when our experiences create enough emotional intensity. These responses include thoughts, emotions, urges to react, and upsetting body sensations. Identifying these components helps give us the material to tap on. The following presentation will help you become much more skilled. Learning to reprogram your dysfunctional reactions with Pro EFT will make your path so much easier. Please enjoy!

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Far more success in life is achieved by tinkering and measuring the results. This is much better than always assuming that you already know the best way to begin with. The willingness to make improvements as you find them has always impressed me. That was why I have trained so extensively with Lindsay Kenny, the creator of Pro EFT.

The following video, “How to Tap the Pro EFT Center Tapping Points,” will cover each of our standard points with more detail. Every once in a while, it is a great idea to go through the points and check yourself. Meridian Tapping will work even if you are not all that precise. As long as we are tapping the areas that humans use to comfort themselves, the tapping consistently shows some real benefit. There is some good evidence that the exact points work better than sham points.  Please enjoy tapping along with the video and help keep yourself from wandering too far off the mark.

Bill

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