STAGES SOCIAL RECOVERY

We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness.

2016-07-16T06:10:00.000-07:00

We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness. It is that unavoidable, inescapable overwhelm of suffering that we can do nothing about. Some of us learn that it’s best never to struggle, to just accept the freeze response and lie still under the danger passes. Perhaps by freezing, perhaps by submitting, it will be over with more quickly and we will be hurt less in the process. Lie still under the danger passes … But then, in our minds, the danger never passes, and so we live our lives inhibited by an eternal learned helplessness. We feel inept and incapable and stupid and weak, because when it really mattered, when our lives were at risk, we couldn't even move a muscle.

The Culture Of What's Buzzing in Social Recovery.

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The Culture Of What's Buzzing in Social Recovery. Tracking web recovery culture by tapping into the film, TV, and music Zeitgeist on the recovery internet.

STAGES Social Recovery is used to provide experience-based support for individuals and families across the stages of long-term recovery

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Stages Social Recovery is used to provide experience-based support for individuals and families across the stages of long-term recovery – spanning pre-recovery priming, recovery initiation and stabilisation, recovery maintenance, and enhanced quality of personal and family life in long-term recovery. No other existing Recovery Service role offers this type of span of support. We work from a health based solution and we are the only service offering this solution.

Stages Social Recovery is now emerging as the primary healthy contributing force, as the field revises its approach to developing functioning, stable recovery.

It has been discovered that, when learning dissociation addiction disorders (DAD) approaches are introduced to recovering people looking to build and develop change in their lives, they work. This should be no surprise. It is widely accepted and known that studying as a social technology and approach works when proficiently practised.
“experienced based support”, the main emergence of study has been in the peer-to-peer support environment and movement which has existed for some time in mutual-aid organisations, as well as in developing recovery communities.

This is not the only place where recovery studying has been developing. We who take the courses and who are in recovery ourselves recognised the potential which a taught course offers recovery. The development of recovering relationships and its differing approaches sprang from the truth, trust and consent approaches to mental health. We are the first and only social recovery study courses that come from a full health background.

STAGES SOCIAL RECOVERY OVERVIEW

Social Recovery primary focus is on studying what behaviour impacts on individuals and communities of people to develop and live meaningful, purposeful and fulfilling lives while initiating, building and developing social recovery. We enter into a collaborative and designed recovery where we uses foundational and advanced course skills, principles and contexts to facilitate the empowerment, transformation and development of the individual. Examining existing conditioning from childhood in a holistic course centred way.

As our developmental courses occur, the course does not promote or endorse a particular pathway or methodology that leads to recovery but a joint experiential realisation of what constitutes a healthy, nurturing relationship. While there exists an active recovery relationship, the recipient is a partner in the other person’s life journey, facilitating access to their own child withins human resource, as defined by ourselves. We who are receiving the taught course are in charge of and provides the agenda for recovery and we are seen as the experts in our own life.

Our progress in our lives and recovery are supported by developing awareness of our current choices, actions and responsibilities. Our recovery is always grounded in agreed actions with agreed internal accountability.

We do not work in isolation but develop and maintain relationships with others, peers and volunteers in the field and their community as referral and support resources for their course work.

KEY CONCEPTS AND APPROACHES ON STAGES SOCIAL RECOVERY

Recovery comes from the self-determined actions actual recovery. The key principle on which social recovery rest in our practice which is that recovery is something that is re-generated by the person looking for, or in recovery. This deep respect for an individual’s ability and resourcefulness in finding their own path to recovery lies at the heart of social recovery.
Social Recovery is systemic. Recovery recognises that recovery develops and takes place in a series of human interactions or a lack of interactions.
Social Recovery always is grounded in action and the accountability of our course work. All Social Recovery sessions ground in agreed action that we will attempt to take. We create mutually agreed goals based on truth, trust , consent and feedback within the sessions or singularly so that they have an external process by which to evaluate the consequences of actions taken, or not taken, on our own recovering lives.
The agenda for a social recovery session always flows from the Stager (Ten Stage Recovery).
Accessing meditational resources. Social Recovery has become an invaluable gateway to resources that may be practical – such as local meetings – web-based meetings, google hangouts and webinars. The emphasis is on the taught course to add structure to develop a relationship to and interact with these recovery resources.
Social Recovery is consciously designed between students and guides (those that have completed the course). The emphasis is on the students needs and requirements. The solid and clear design of social recovery provides a strong container which, adjusted as and when we and students agree positive solutions providing a robust and powerful place for us to be present.
Social Recovery is applicable across all models and approaches to recovery. As SR (social recovery)has no agenda other than to assist and support others to find and develop recovery, whatever that might be to the student, they work with whatever particular recovery pathway a student is developing at any given time.
SR are not experts in treatment nor are they offering it. SR is an addition to the existing environment and should be seen as new combination of tools which performs a particular role and function outside of medical or therapeutic treatments but often in alliance with them.
What is its impact? People receiving social recovery report increased feelings of confidence in their approach to and experience of recovery, a deepening of their belief in their own existing and future capabilities and positive actions. Also reported are feelings of being respected and individuated, of not being cogs in a system or recipients of a programme of treatment. There is an the increased sense of the possibility of self determination. The process and experience of being in SR and receiving the taught course also instigates a ‘self coaching’ facility which impacts as much on the personal development of the students as it does on the people they grow to support.

FACTORS ENCOURAGING GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT OF RECOVERING RELATIONSHIPS

Widening the road to recovery. Social Recovery offers a particular pathway of engagement for many people unable, unready and/or unwilling at a given time to engage with other pathways to recovery such as 12-step programmes, treatment programmes, spiritual pathways and so on. Significantly, social recovery is proving to be excellent first lines of engagement for people presenting with problems with misuse of substances or behaviours who are far away from accepting an engagement with others, it is a start to breaking social isolation
SOCIAL RECOVERY is liberating. Course work and studying ways of approaching relationships rub off on other people. The non-judgment and acceptance which recovering relationships offer and tends to be attractive to others as well.
Low barriers to entry. The ability to acquire and use recovering relationship skills requires no prior or particular educational or academic experience. Almost anyone can learn and practice them.
Immediate returns. As the skills and approaches which form foundational SR skills and principles are essentially already aligned to existing innate human behavioural tendencies, they are easily understood from almost the beginning of the courses. There is an almost immediate return on the investment made in learning them.
As many of us working to support recovery look for new and more effective ways forward, SOCIAL RECOVERY offers support for the further empowerment of people and communities at grassroots level. In addition, it can expand the skill sets being offered by service provision organisations and individual practitioners.

Consider this: what if it was true that there was nothing wrong with us? What if we are actually perfect and the only thing that prevents us from feeling that way most of the time is the story we tell ourself

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Consider this: what if it was true that there was nothing wrong with us? What if we are actually perfect and the only thing that prevents us from feeling that way most of the time is the story we tell ourself about why we're not?

We have received this story from all kinds of places – from our parents, from events that happened, from culture or society as a whole.

But, what if our core, our child within is already perfect? What would that feel like?

When we say perfect, I don't mean the achiever's definition of perfect… with the house, the cars, the money, the body, etc., etc., etc. I'm not talking about outward "perfection." I'm talking about intrinsic inward perfection.

What if we were and are a child within locked at our core, we are consciousness?

What if there is nothing wrong with us? But instead, what if how we think is "wrong" with us are just brilliant ways for us to have got our needs met? our need for love, to feel valuable, to feel worthy, to feel significant, to feel variety and connection, a redundant coping strategy from childhood.

And that we have been doing the best we can from our point of view to get these needs met?

And what if there were healthier ways to get our needs met?

What story have we been telling ourself about what's wrong with us?

You're too – what?

Or... you're not enough – what?

Are those stories actually true? Or could there be another way?

Could there be a more empowering story that we could tell ourself about who we really are? Instead of feeling like a failure or feeling wrong or feeling like we aren't enough, what if we changed the story to...

We did the absolute best that you could given our life circumstances!

And that we know that we are MORE than our present circumstances and so we can rise above them by making a new choice. That our circumstances are not our identity – our identity is the child hidden within – an Infinite Child with Infinite potential connected to an Infinite Child Within and that as we learn new skills, make new distinctions and become even MORE aware of the child withins perfection within us – we can re-create new habits and re-create our true identity.

If that is true, what would be possible for us? What in our life will change?

It is easier to try to damage our life than it is to be able to accept our child within.

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It is easier to try to damage our life than it is to be able to accept our child within.

It was such a powerful moment when we see that.

We can tend to associate SO much pain with being who we really are.

Maybe the world won’t approve.

Maybe our family won’t approve.

Maybe our significant other won’t approve.

Maybe I’m a bad person or selfish for wanting to be happy when there’s so much pain in the world.

It’s scary to change and I might die if I do.

All these limiting beliefs hold us back.

I have some important questions for you…

What price are you paying for not being yourself?

Are you giving into temporary comfort that is creating long-term pain? How much longer will we let drama be more important than our calling?

Do you find it harder to be yourself?

What are you missing out on by not giving who you really are fully to your world?

What if your love and approval was most important? What if you deserve to be happy? What if you're actually safe in the unknown?

What would you do then?

We are learning more and more to listen to our intuitive voice uncovered by our child within instead of our ego.

2015-11-12T23:07:00.000-08:00

We are learning more and more to listen to our intuitive voice uncovered by our child within instead of our ego. So when we say that our recovery comes true when we take action, even though we don’t want to, what we really mean is, we must take action based on what our child within is YEARNING for us to do, despite what the ego tells us.

The ego LOVES separation and entitlement. “Not my problem…

it’s their fault… I shouldn’t have to deal with this AGAIN, why can’t anybody do it right, why am I the only one who feels my pain, who am I to trust myself, other people know better,” etc., etc., etc.

These are not thoughts of the child within; they are thoughts of the ego. So, we want to get in TUNE with the thoughts of the child within and, choose recovery thoughts over ego thoughts one stage at a time. One moment at a time. We are addicted to our egos because we believe we need them, but the goal is to let our intuitive voice be in charge. When the ego is the servant of the child within, MAGIC happens; when the child within servants the ego, we dry up and the juice of life is gone.

The intuitive voice is in tune with service, humility, hard work, dedication, self-approval and self-trust, listening to our child within which Whispers to us, taking action even though we don’t feel like it, getting up and trying again, not blaming but taking responsibility for the outcome of our lives, empathy, and having the willingness to dig in and get our hands dirty instead of leaving our recovery up to someone else.

This is the path of our true intuition. Not blame. Not entitlement. Not separation. But REAL leadership, by example, not through entitlement or ego.

Basically, our recovery need us to get over ourselves. Our child within needs us to take responsibility. Our recovery need us to SHOW UP even when we don’t feel like it. We are fragile and need tender Loving-Kindness. Recovery can take time and is often tested by Faith in our child within. Let’s meet the test!

We live in a world where we can download an app and have the perfect food delivered to us in less than 20 minutes from the time we downloaded the app, or we can Tweet/Facebook the world in moments or we can send a text and get an immediate response.

But all this immediacy doesn’t apply to our recovery.

So, We are still working to drop the egoic entitlement and make our ego’s desires the servant of our child withins yearning. It takes time.

Can we keep the faith and do one more contact today? We are doing our best. Are you?

Living life authentically and taking stages to manifest our recovery doesn’t happen by only taking action when we WANT to.

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Living life authentically and taking stages to manifest our recovery doesn't happen by only taking action when we WANT to. We sometimes have this belief that we should only have to do something if WE WANT TO DO IT.

But when we think about it, if we only did things when we wanted to do them, we wouldn't get much done. We wouldn't be trying to tell the truth as much as possible instead of playing it cool.

You see, there’s a difference between what our egos “want us to do” and what our child within is YEARNING for us to do. And between those two places is an internal struggle.

Cherish our visions and our dreams of recovery

2015-11-12T22:42:00.001-08:00

Cherish our visions and our dreams of recovery as they are the children within, the blueprints of our ultimate recovery achievements.

Let’s be SUPER clear about something: it’s not what you DO that matters – it’s contact with the child within that matters!

2015-11-12T22:31:00.002-08:00

Let’s be SUPER clear about our recovery: it’s not what you DO or the groups you attend that matters – it’s contact with the child within that matters!

In today’s world, we can get SO caught up in DOING or GOING TO! That we focus on the outward, the job, the career, the money, being important, etc., etc.

Then we come to a time, a crisis time, a breaking point, where all that stuff doesn’t seem to matter so much and we just want to be recovered.

We could find this breaking point at a young age or at an old age.

But at SOME POINT, achievement isn’t enough; we want to be recovered.

And this is where the “child withins” path begins. When we say “spiritual” because it’s not really something to take so seriously. If we meditate perfectly, wear all the garb perfectly, chant perfectly, eat vegan, gluten-free and have our green juice, but we don’t have contact with our child within in our hearts, then we’ve missed the whole point of recovery.

I’d rather hang out with a child within-centred meat eating “not-so-spiritual person” than a passive aggressive righteous vegan who has the perfect yoga practice.

Don’t get it twisted – the ego finds its sly way into the path. And all the rites and rituals don’t mean a DARN THING if we don’t have our child within in our hearts. And if we have recovery in our hearts and we are being our recovery, then we don’t need the rites and rituals unless we want to do them because they help to remind us to BE OUR CHILD WITHIN.

It is in our BEING that we find ourselves and our purpose, not in our DOING. You can have all the material possessions in the world and still be lonely as hell, and you can be broke as a tramp and have recovery and be the richest person in the world.

Contact with our child within is the only answer for our recovery

2015-11-12T22:07:00.000-08:00

Contact with our child within is an answer for our recovery As we pursue our child withins consciousness we are empowered all the more into our complete recovery.

Our child within is free from the handcuffs of self-sufficiency

2015-11-12T21:58:00.001-08:00

Our child within is free from the handcuffs of self-sufficiency, those bracelets that feel so ennobling, but which hold us fast with anxiety and concerns, because the child within has no concept of self-sufficiency.

So if you start with the assumption that we exist as pure consciousness, then we must have existed before you were born.

2015-11-12T21:46:00.000-08:00

The point of recovery power is definitely in the present, and the present also exists everywhere and everywhen.

We believe that entanglement is a shadow of the basic reality of consciousness – that everything is connected in consciousness so we see the same phenomenon at the subatomic level, like reality is a cinematic projection of consciousness.

So if you start with the assumption that we exist as pure consciousness, then we must have existed before you were born. Really, you are everywhere and everywhen!

And given that we don’t do things randomly in our own lives, it’s highly unlikely that your birth was an accident.

Might you have had reasons for being born at a particular time, given the entire span of human history (and future), and in a particular country, into a particular set of social and economic conditions?

We choose the landscape of the lives we are born into, its environment, its conditions, and we even agree and connect with other consciousnesses who will populate it. Our choices throughout our lives help us to navigate this landscape. And many of us share some of the same landscapes so there’s a very high likelihood that we will walk in the same place at the same time, so to speak, and thus people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

We are also born with natural skills and tendencies. Of course, these are also genetic, so we must be choosing a genetic family line that will give us the genetic tendencies that we require for our particular life.

Doing the things that matter in our recovery.

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Doing the things that matter in our recovery.
In connection to unnecessary stress, we shall avoid doing whatever we consider being pointless or not in the child withins interest. If there‘s no action needed at that particular moment in relation to our goal ...recovery, just lay back and think what we could do that would have a bigger meaning, like practice of meditation of our objective or thing about our Real Life Purpose...recovery. Take some time to clean our mind, relax, go for a walk. Who knows, maybe it‘s going to be the time when we to see a sign leading toward our goal.

Einstein’s theory of relativity is still standing 100 years later

2015-11-12T10:54:00.000-08:00

Einstein’s theory of relativity is still standing 100 years later and the world is celebrating the scientist’s remarkable achievements. The theory of general relativity changed the way scientists have been looking at the universe for the last century and it is still the foundation for defining concepts such as time, space and gravity in modern science.

Stereotyping

2014-06-17T02:59:00.000-07:00

We cannot solve

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Einsteins think

One thing I have learned in a long life

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"One thing I have learned in a long life: that all our science, measured against reality, is primitive and childlike—and yet it is the most precious thing we have."

—Quoted in Albert Einstein: Creator and Rebel, by Banesh Hoffmann (New York: Viking, 1972), v; Expanded, p. 261

Why is it that nobody understands me, and everybody likes me?

2014-06-09T16:08:00.003-07:00

"Why is it that nobody understands me, and everybody likes me?"

—From an interview, The New York Times, March 12, 1944; Expanded, p. 14

The important thing is not to stop questioning.

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"The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day."

—From the memoirs of William Miller, an editor, quoted in Life magazine, May 2, 1955;Expanded, p. 281

It is important for the common good to foster individuality

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English: Albert Einstein Français : portrait d'Albert Einstein (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

"It is important for the common good to foster individuality: for only the individual can produce the new ideas which the community needs for its continuous improvement and requirements—indeed, to avoid sterility and petrification."

—From a message for a Ben Schemen dinner, March 1952; Einstein Archive 28-932;Expanded, p. 286

The state of mind which enables a man to do work of this kind ...

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"The state of mind which enables a man to do work of this kind ... is akin to that of the religious worshipper or the lover; the daily effort comes from no deliberate intention or program, but straight from the heart."

—From "Principles of Research," a speech delivered at Max Planck's 60th birthday celebration, 1918; published in Mein Weltbild, by Albert Einstein (Amsterdam: Querido Verlag, 1934); reprinted in Ideas and Opinions, by Albert Einstein (New York: Crown, 1954), pp. 224-227; Expanded, p. 235

We've all been deceived.

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We've all been deceived. Our perceptions of time and space have led us astray. Much of what we thought we knew about our universe—that the past has already happened and the future is yet to be, that space is just an empty void, that our universe is the only universe that exists—just might be wrong.

Our death is not an end if we have lived on in our children and the younger generation.

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"Our death is not an end if we have lived on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us; our bodies are only wilted leaves on the tree of life." -Albert Einstein

Bill Wilson is on record for having found a solution in 1960 for treating anxiety and depression

2013-04-10T03:39:00.001-07:00

Bill Wilson is on record for having found a solution in 1960 for treating anxiety and depression using vitamin B-3 therapy and worked tirelessly for eleven years begging for its inclusion into A.A. recovery circles. His desire was to help alcoholics stay recovered. This means he would have immediately brought this mineral replacement therapy that eliminates alcohol cravings forth without exception. Master of ceremonies, Andrew W. Saul, includes Bill Wilson as an inductee of the Orthomolecular Medicine Hall of Fame at the Hotel Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, April 29, 2006 in his induction speech, “…To this day, selective history records A.A.’s 12-Step Program, but has forgotten, or deliberately purged, what Bill wanted to be A.A.’s 13th step – orthomolecular therapy with vitamin B3.”[Lee Brack1] In February 2009, Orthomolecular Medicine’s founder, Abram Hoffer and Bill Wilson’s good friend, clarified to me over the phone, “..yes, Lee, he wanted to share this information as an added step and talked about it all the time because he felt so strongly about nutrition…” Abram Hoffer passed away a few months later in May having lived healthy and happily for ninety one and a half years.

Understand the inherently peaceful presence of Awareness the art of Living in the NOW

2013-03-31T08:13:00.001-07:00

Understand the inherently peaceful presence of Awareness the art of Living in the NOW, and see that this peace is not dependent upon the condition of the mind, body or world, just as a screen is not dependent on the quality of the words or images that appear on it.

STAGES SOCIAL RECOVERY

We believe that the very essence of trauma is powerlessness.

The Culture Of What's Buzzing in Social Recovery.

STAGES Social Recovery is used to provide experience-based support for individuals and families across the stages of long-term recovery

Consider this: what if it was true that there was nothing wrong with us? What if we are actually perfect and the only thing that prevents us from feeling that way most of the time is the story we tell ourself

It is easier to try to damage our life than it is to be able to accept our child within.

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Contact with our child within is the only answer for our recovery

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